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how to know if you're trans/nonbinary
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- Опубликовано: 14 авг 2024
- if you are wondering whether or not you might be trans, either binary or nonbinary, this video might help you out! or it might not idk
0:00 Intro
1:43 How to know if you’re trans
4:44 Figuring out your gender
7:06 Trans questions from viewers
19:22 Outro
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as a nonbinary agender person this is sooo real, i've been trying to explain to my cis friends whats nonbinary means and they just don't get it so i just go by telling ppl im a trans guy
btw English isnt my first lenguaje so sorry if i made any grammar mistake
I don't know what I am, I know I'm not my birth gender but my gender usually changes a little, most of the time I feel Demiboy but here lately I've been going back and forth between Agender.. AHHHHHHHH my gf said I'm probably either trigender or genderfluid but I don't like those terms
@@Mazyb0i_lol if u don't feel comfortable with those terms, don't use them, labeling is not always necessary:)
@@hache422 it's just hard to explain to others who I am :(
@@Mazyb0i_lol, it feels difficult for you because you think you need to create some unique "reality" to use when presenting yourself to the world as an individual, instead of simply accepting REALITY.
Like Jamie said ones, "If your body disappears and you are just a floating head, are you still a woman?"
My answer just wasn't "yes"
Recently I found my old sona made in 2018, and I was pretty surprised to find out that it is indeed a dude, just like I realized I do feel right this year.
For some ungodly cis reasons not only I made a dude sona to represent me, but I also knew nothing gender at the time, I just felt comfortable that way.
My parents are transphobic, not in a hate trans people, but afraid of trans stuff kind of people... I tried to talk them preparing them for the findings but I think I only got myself further in trouble
Seing a dude with distorted wrong looking body, while realising this body is well, pretty, is scary.
I remember when I said that I might be bi mom gave me such a reaction as if I am terminally ill
Well good news mom, I actually might be straight...
Haha... Just not in the way you wanted...
but body doesnt mean woman. why do people see breasts as a girl thing. Nothing is gendered
Me: *gasps* Omg im trans!
Also me, already knowing i was trans:
As a trans guy named Elliot, I take offense to this video.
In all seriousness tho, this is probably the best video I’ve ever seen. This is the most comforted I’ve ever felt in my identity and my transness.
I’ve spent the past few days questioning if I’m actually trans or if I’m just faking it and this is literally the only this that has helped me to tell my brain to shut up so thank you.
Actually maybe the brain is trying to tell you to stop being insane, stop believing in the Trans sickness cult, obviously you are faking the trans bcz your brain is disturbed.
A person are what they are born as which is either male or female and since you will always be that then it is much better to just accept it, nobody can change from what they are since birth.
So bye.
I'm Sawyer (he/they) and I recently started exploring my gender identity by switching up pronouns and such. I'm genderfluid, and gosh golly I've gotta say this channel is SUCH a treat. You're pretty straight to the point, and your personality has such a familiar energy to it that's just so inviting and humorous. I just want to thank you for your hard work! Here's some bat facts for you because you're cool :)
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OMG thanks for the bat facts glad you like my channel ✨✨
Dude your voice sounds so masculine. Not even in the sense that it’s deep (though it is quite deep), it just has this masculine vibe to it. Even before I saw your face and didn’t know you were trans, I immediately read you as a guy based on your voice.
this really helped with my gender identity and what i am, thanks dude
What you are is what you are born as, male or female, also this retard behind this channel.
Nobody can be the opposite to what they are born as, if you think otherwise then answer this, can people return back into the womb that they came out from? Only if you returned to the mother's womb and came out the opposite would you be one. So, no, impossible.
just quick reminder:
being cis is NOT the same as being transphobic!
yes alot of people who are cis are transphobic but i do know a few people who are cis but do support lgbtq , one of my friends actually does feel a bit of dysphoria but not enough to make her ctually question her gender! although i am transmasc myself i can imagine that some cis people would be pressured to go through gender questioning/dysphoria
next, i'm pretty sure that being nb is not the same as being trans but it is under the trans umbrella!
but still, this channel has helped me alot so thank you so much!!
Thank you for pointing this out! I'm a cis woman and I recently met a trans man I'm interested in. I am here to educate myself in an attempt to understand him and his experience better and broaden my horizon.
Hey.
I never comment on videos but I just wanted to say your videos have been rather encouraging. I have been on testosterone for one month now and seeing your videos has been exceedingly helpful. I’ve been trying to avoid or run from being transgender by continuously attempting to live as female and failing. I namely attempt to hide the fact that I do not identify as female from others. It’s oddly comforting not to feel alone.
glad that my videos could be of help to you 🏳️⚧️🤍
How about you stop being insecure and understand there is nothing wrong with the gender that someone was born as, like male or female, so you are wasting your time trying to be the opposite bcz it will literally never change regardless of what you do!
I was out as a trans boy for almost five years, but lots of questioning myself again, I realized i am non-binary, and I feel lot more comfortable with the term. I came out to my closest friends last week and they were all so cool about it, they asked what pronouns I would like to use, if I was gonna change my name (again!), and was just overall happy about it.
Anyway, I still have to came out to my family again, which is not that big of a thing since I won't change anything. Evan is already a somewhat unissex name, and I've been using it since 2018, and I like being called he/him
so THIS is the video i’ve needed for months. Thanks for being so straightforward and not complicating things, i have ADHD and do that enough in my head already. This gave me such a confidence boost in that i’m nonbinary.
LMFAO that sounds just like me
Gender is hard 🧍
You said it 😔🤚
As a person questioning their gender real hard, I couldn’t agree more
as someone who selected Kat as my main name and Void as an alternative name, i am very proud that i am primarily named after a candy bar
It’s so weird looking back at ‘old’ videos (and they’re not even that old) and seeing you excited at almost reaching 800 subscribers. Congrats on 5k man, excited to see what you do going forward!
If the person behind this channel is female, born female, that means you can not say ''congrats man'' lol.
Say male if someone is born male or female if they are born female otherwise they are not.
i am not okay 😅 BUT THANK YOU FOR ANSWERING MY QUESTIONS
hey, I love ur videos and I know I missed the due date but heres some questions if u consider a part 2/have the answers. context: im a trans guy, ive been out for about 2(ish) years and im trying to go stealth in a new school (I dont even know if there are any good answers to these but whatever)
- I have this deep fear of detransitioning that made it very hard to come out and still kinda haunts me today (my parents always used detransitioning against me) does this mean anything? / is there anything you know of that could help?
- what are some good ways of trying to get parents to say yes to medical transition?
- any tips about dealing with internalised transphobia?
sorry for dumping this here, dont feel obliged to reply :)
-fearing detransition is totally normal, but it's important to know that there shouldn't be any shame in detransitioning and you shouldn't let people hold it against you
-let them get used to you being socially transitioned first and maybe provide them with resources letting them know its safe, because they might just be consuming cis media's misinformation about medical transition with minors
-try to engage with more positive trans media, steer clear of truscum/transmeds because all they really do is perpetuate their internalized transphobia and look to others who have found joy in their transness (i think mars wright is my favorite advocate of trans joy)
your hair looks really good dude!
throwing this out there for ari but i had top surgery at 15 in oklehoma after being on t for a year so its not imposible but if you are turning 18 soon it might not matter anyway @_@
hey i like ur ritsu pfp
@@pecopeco2815 thx lawl
Great video!! This is a great resource for people who aren't sure about their identity 😊
I will definitely be recommending this to my friends if they ever start questioning, thanks for the vid 👍
How about you recommend psychiatric treatment instead?
Am I imagining it because you mentioned starting T, or is your voice already a teeny bit deeper?
No I think it iis
this is totally true, the thing is i´m so scared i just manipulated myself to think I dont feel like my assigned gender at birthnasdfjpa
I’m an anxious person and question myself a lot so vids like that are always nice :)
I didn’t see this until after it was posted so sorry that it’s late and you don’t have to answer, but is it weird that I don’t think I would be happy if I was born male? I’m transmasc (he/they) but I don’t think I would be happy with myself if I was born a dude. It’s been something I’ve been struggling with for a while and it makes me feel “less trans” or like I’m faking it. Thanks!
That's totally valid to not want to have been AMAB, plenty of trans people don't have any desire to be cis and it doesn't mean you are any less trans
Saaaame, I thougt I just misoginic or smth. But I don't wan't to choose, don't wan't transition. Just want to be myself and feel great in my body(with totaly masc features, cuz I love em)
i liked the colour blue
validest transgender moment
hey Just found your channel today and just wanted to say thanks! ^^ this video was extremely helpful and I'll definitely continue to watch your videos!
I'm always scared that I'm not actually trans and one day i'll realize it was just a phase, even though I know it isn't one. as a kid I was super feminine and loved being girly, which I know doesn't mean anything but it still makes me question it sometimes.
i remember the first time I felt like I might be trans was when I was 12 and I was playing around with my friend and putting my hair up to pretend to be a guy. i looked in the mirror and started crying even though I wasn't sure why. I immediately decided I wanted to cut my hair. after cutting it I looked into the mirror and cried. it was the first time in my 12 years of living that I saw ME. the first time I felt pretty. it was just correct.
now I'm 14 and identify as transmasculine. my family isn't supportive but I have people in my life who are and I'm super grateful for it.
in case anyone else who feels the same way as me is reading this, YOU ARE VALID. feeling this way is normal. it's okay to have doubts and be scared. you don't need to know who you are right now. just live in the moment and figure things out as you go. :)
also one question that messed with me a bit (in a good way I think) was "if you were born the gender opposite to your assigned gender at birth, would you identify with that gender" or alternatively "if you were born the gender opposite to your assigned gender at birth, would you still be trans/non-binary"
Stop being delusional, how about that? Regardless of what you do you can never be the opposite to what you were born as, that is just a basic fact of life.
Sooo.
I'm afab and since I discovered what non binary is (a couple years ago) I've identified with it, but when i took the courage to tell two of my friends (both are cis) it was awful bc they barely understood anything so I've continued to tell ppl I'm a woman and idk if I'll ever tell anyone else in real life honestly, I just feel comfortable telling ppl I use any pronouns. It's really nice to find other ppl who comprehend how I feel
(Sorry if grammar is bad or repetitive, English is not my first language and I'm not the best at describing my feelings)
Afab is your name? Also, they are not ''cis'' smh, they are just male or female like stop using the Trans infected cult words when people are just male or female. Nobody is ''cis'' so just use male and female, that is my suggestion, also stop being infected by the trans cult.
Sick.
im lucky to have been born with a gender neutral name (bailey) but it has such a feminine connotation to me now. i've been tossing around the name "oliver" and it's kinda growing on me,, i be a chaotic enby babeyyyyy (currently looking into a getting a hysterectomy :] )
edit: callin me out as a future "oliver" i see
!hey, i have a question regarding name changing, might go on a little rant here sorry. My dead name holds a very special place in my heart both bc it's considered unique where I live and bc it's roots are from my mom's culture so.. needless to say i am quite attached to it even though it makes me uncomfortable, I've thought about changing it to the "masculine" version of it but my insecurities tell me that is not what a "real" trans person would do, and i feel like people close to me won't take me seriously if i do + i don't want them assuming all trans people are like me. Any tips in how to deal w this? lmao, great video tho!
all good if you don't have an answer btw !! just typing it out eased my mind a little so :) thanks
(english isn't my first language so grammar might be all over the place, apologies)
I actually know a few trans people who didn't change their dead name at all despite it not quite fitting their new gender presentation, so if you want to keep it, keep it!
i was kinda in a similar situation and my name now is a more masculine version of my old one! idk how good your friends are with trans stuff, mine didn’t know much about it at first, but were very quick to use my new name and it made it almost easier? for teachers to use it too? most people i meet still take it seriously tho, and not just as a nickname, so yeah. idk, just my take, good luck dude
Pretty late but your name is whatever you want it to be (as obvious as that is), which means that, yeah, ofc you can keep your birthname. It's your choice and there isnt a "right" or "more valid" way of being trans. I know someone who kept their name even though we speak a very gendered language, with very gendered names.
You could consider it making it your middle name (that's what I'm going to do if I ever change my first name)
I REALLY love this video, seeing it a long time after you posted, but I really appreciate the humor in your attitude and very straight forward approach. This video was very helpful, and affirming, as I am identifying as gender fluid, and sometimes feel like a trans man. The part about being
Trans masc and still wearing femme clothes sometimes reallllllly helped ❤
I’m an old cis woman. I’m here trying to UNDERSTAND how non-binary and trans fit for one person. I haven’t finished your video yet; but, I did get my first 💡 moment. I need to go back & watch again. I think the problem is we tend to still think with the binary model. We can stick a trans person back into the binary. Maybe we can stretch to accept folks floating in the middle. It’s difficult to see them added to trans because they’ve been tossed back into the binary.
Huge 💡 my grandson & I LOVE Jules Hoffman (one of Ms Rachel’s friends). I was frustrated & confused because I couldn’t fit them in the binary. Oh, ok, they’re non-binary… then I read they’re trans. More intense confusion & frustration because now I couldn’t figure out which end of the binary they belonged in as a trans person.
Initially my feathers were ruffled a bit when you were telling non-binary trans people not to try to combine the two with cis people. Then I realized it’s more important to protect the sanity & avoid mental abuse from ignorant cis folks. Thank you for opening yourself to the abuse. You helped at least one old cis woman get it. Off to try to help an even older cis woman understand this.
i’m so confused with everything.
I feel like the "dysphoric vs. insecure" thing could be solved by thinking "if I had this type of gendered body but it looked different, would I still feel this way?" If you would feel bad even as the most attractive person of that sex, then you're probably feeling dysphoria, right?
hi um I've been questioning my gender for a long time now but I'm still confused tbh,, i experience dysphoria but its "level" depends on periods of time?? like I sometimes feel dysphoric for days or weeks or even months and then I spend some days where I barely feel dysphoric at all so I don't mind people perceiving me as female (or at least until I stop to think about it) so I'm not sure if that means I'm probably gender fluid or if I'm just a guy. okay that sounds unclear lmao what I'm asking is if trans men's amount of dysphoria varies or if that's a gender fluid thing, bc according to most gender fluid ppl I've seen their gender changes some times on a same day but that doesn't really seem like my case yk
also sorry for ranting and thank you for this video it helps a lot :]
what if i identify as a agender transmasc and want go on t because of my voice but also want to keep the more " feminine" parts of my body, am i still valid or is it wrong? also your channel has helped me a lot along my journey while coming out and i just want to say thank you.
if you go on t long enough to have your voice drop, when you go back off of it all of the "feminine" aspects of your body should come back (not an endocrinologist though so just talk through with one what changes you do and don't want)
Ur vids are great, bro! As a person questioning their gender the affirmations from you made me feel more valid in how i feel :)
I would totally send u a pic of me to be named! Will be monitoring community tab for it :b
I also have a question about names: how easy it is to get used to a new name? I have pretty shaky memory and i think if i called myself something far from my deadname phonetically i could just not end up responding to it ':v
Also, i live in a place where people are not so open to the idea of being trans (im not even in europe dude) so im terribly afraid of telling my close friends to use he/they 4 me (also they sounds weird in my native language, we use he and she pronouns even for inanimate objects so its hard to be they here). I've told my partner but he is also forgetful and im too scared of making him uncomfortable. Are there ways to subtly nudge them into using he for me? Like, i'm already using he for myself constantly but they mostly brush it off or, in case of my female friends (who know so so little about trans issues, mostly from my explainations), they just think of it as a quirk and use he for themselves in a jokey way sometimes (cis ppl are weird). Ig i don't have any other way apart from bluntly asking, have i?
People can never call you a ''he'' bcz you are not a he and regardless of what you do you will Never be a ''he'' sooo.
Better to just accept that people can not return to the womb they came out from, bcz that is the only possibility to be the opposite if you came out from the womb as the opposite, but that means you would have to return back in and that is impossible!
Also, they are not called ''cis people'' they are Just male or female, same as you are a female, bye.
It's been a while since I realised im nb, but its still so hard to consider myself trans. It makes sense, since i dont identify with the gender i was assigned at birth but being "trans" carries so much weight that it almost feels... intimidating? Or maybe it's just scary to come out completely
Hi I have a question can you be trans and non-binary at the same time? Sometimes I feel like I'm the opposite gender and sometimes I feel like I'm not any gender
nonbinary is under the trans umbrella so yes, transgender is not a term exclusively for trans men and trans women, it is for anyone who doesn't identify with their assigned gender at birth
@Theo's Ghost
Thank you so much!
Ngl I low-key cried. Bc I'm about to go out in a skirt and people are going to assume I'm a girl but I'm not I just want to wear a skirt today. (I go by they/he pronouns) and my friends think it's fine to call me a girl when I'm a dressed more fem.
That’s unfortunate pal…
i’m questioning my gender and while i love skirts and makeup, i also think “oh now there’s no way people are gonna look at me and be confused about my gender” and it’s not fun :/
Unironically going inside my "Authentic" trans shirt to get warmth, like an egg. I believe I'm nonbinary, I don't really agree with feminine beauty standards, they are just unrealistic. However, I still like to dabble with makeup a little bit, as an AFAB, and who is horrible at keeping my hand steady due to being heavily medicated. It's all good though. By the way, great video! I hope to see more!
As a (still rather confused) transmasc enby, my cis-people gender is male lol
Something that helped me! How do you relate with people who are the same gender as your agab? I have noticed a certain feeling, or maybe an “essence” that is different between men and women. If you feel something like that, is your “essence” the same? (there’s also some nonbinary ones but they differ a bit more)
… im wheezing rn bc in that list of “names to avoid as a transmasc (/lh)” is the name of the first trans character i ever made…. his name used to be alex and he was nonbinary, but he eventually turned into a trans man……. named _Oliver._
I tried to come out to my mother as trans masc (not sure if am trans man) but she said something along the lines ”oh but you were girly when you were a little child, so i dont think you are trans” (im still a child, 13, so i think you could say that i was trans from very young age, dont know?) But my mother saying that kinda hurt, and now i am really scared to try and come out to anyone help. (But my friend who is also trans, i think (or demiboy))
Sorry for my bad english.
is there a time where it is too late to use hormone blockers/go on T? i‘m 18 and i am still very confused about my gender. also my Family is homophobic/transphobic so i couldnt even start anytime soon.
its never too late to medically transition don't worry!
it’s like when i use other pronouns i feel like im pretending to be someone else, but i wish i looked like pretty girls, but also attractive guys, it’s like BRUH i’m so confusedddd
I constantly get people asking what I was born as is and I alway hesitated when i had to tell them I was a women, it never felt right
''u cant be nonbinary at birth'' *intersex people existing*- ''am i a joke to u?'' XDDDD
I’m genderfluid and when I switch to my assigned gender at birth I sometimes doubt that I am non-binary but even when I am feeling fem I still prefer my chosen name.
For me: NB doesn't feel like it's specific enough, and TM feels too much? And I'd say Transmasc but that only applies to my physical body, presentation (clothes, etc) is more femme (bc F society, I'm still gonna wear skirts), and I still use she/her bc it doesnt bother me. I really like genderqueer, but not sure how to explain that. 🤔
LMAO when you said having convos abt gender w/ cis ppl is way too true, ive tried explaining to my dad (a 50 yr old cishet man) that im transmasc nonbinary (demiboy to be specific) & i can practically see his head explode every time i have convos w/ him abt that or that there are many other gender identities 😭
I don't know you, but I love your hoodie. You're now officially my favorite person in the universe.
Omg thank you so very much for this video! I have been gender dysphoria since last year in late October figuring out if I'm Nonbinary or a Trans guy, and about a month ago I identify myself as Trans-Nonbinary then after watching your video this really helped alot and I'm comfortable with Any Pronouns. I am so happy and proud to identify myself as Trans-Nonbinary💜
17:23 Not my new name being semi-inspired by Lucius Malfoy 🤣 Literally no one has questioned it.
in relation to explaining gender to cis people-- the other day my friend was asking about genders (we had been descussing it in health) and how you "know" if you're trans... and i have like no idea how to answer that- like it's basically not feeling comfortable with your body or prounouns or how people see you. (i use they/she or they/them -- im not sure yet -- but im not out) and i dont know how to explain this without her being like "hmmmmmmmmm- that's a bit sus". anyway this isn't a problem this is just my experience and i thought it was kinda funny :D
If you can't explain it without it being sus, then you should take a look at that. Because it is sus. The whole pronoun and trans thing has just become a game to kids now
@@doubleboy2388 I'm not sure if I get what you mean
Omg i love this person! validating ppl who dont medically transition! Making it clear that dysphoria & euphoria are irrelevant! ;]
i personally have dysphoria & might transition medicaly but even if i didnt **I'd still not be cis because i dont identify as my AGAB**
I feel like ppl forget that so thank u :]
thanks for this video... it was nothing new for me but it was still helpful and just comfy... I'm very confused about my gender currently and it's a bit scary, but yeah... Just nice to hear people talk about this topics...
Actually Theybies are kind of assigned non binary at birth so does that mean if they later identify as non binary or specifically agender, they are actually cisgender? 🤔 just a funny thought ahah
thank you so much for making this video, i've been so damn confused for 6 years now and this is the most informational and clarifying content that is actually helpful that i have ever received, so thank you so much for being so clear and concise and helping me realise who i am
16:42 Called out. My name is Kai 🤣
First, I want to mention how cool your hoodie is! I love emo music abd I used to have a shirt that said "Make America Emo Again".
Secondly, I just subscribed.
Thirdly, I want to mention some common childhood signs (NOT REQUIREMENTS) for being transmasc. When doing pretend play (something I did a lot) I would almost always be a man. I hated my assigned name at birth and never felt like I connected with it. I would only wear boys clothes (even down to the underwear) for a long time. I felt so upset and fought when my parents started making me wear feminine bathing suits and not just swim trunks. I tended to like boys toys and games, and I couldn't stand dolls. I didn't mind TV shows that might have been borderline/somewhat girly, but I couldn't stand overly girly ones like Hannah Montana. Now if course, someone could be transmasc and not relate to these things, but many transmasc people do.
my dad says im not trans because i used to love dresses and girly stuff as a kid???? what he doesnt know is i also liked boy stuff but he wouldnt let me lmaoaoaoaoa
bro i LOVED girly stuff as a kid and im still violently transgender
EXACTLY LMAO
I've always hated dresses and my parents say I liked it even though I cried everytime they would force me to wear girly stuff lol
I am afab and was oddly given one of the names you listed at birth. I’m personally not complaining as I currently identify as transgender ( questioning ).
I honestly adore your videos
Admittedly, this is my first yet, a wonderful experience nonetheless. You are just so helpful and kind, I cannot thank you enough for the help you have offered to each and every one of your viewers. I understand that I am quite late to this situation though, if you happen to still be checking the comments, I do have a few questions. Even if you do stumble upon this comment, it is quite alright if you do not wish to respond as I am familiar with the burnt-out feeling that often comes with online and physical engagement with others.
1. I remember first questioning, clicking through videos during what I believe to be pride month. It was when I first came to terms with my asexuality and wished to laugh a bit, I watched some pride videos filled with memes and tips for those in the community. That was when the video had cut to some text which read “ a good way to know if you are trans is if you were offered a button to be the opposite sex. Everyone would recognize you as this gender and would remember you as though you had always been this gender. You would only get this opportunity once and not be able to reverse it, would you press it? “ I know it sounds foolish and perhaps even childish, however, it has caused a lot of thought to spur. I had instantly though that I would then, caught myself, realizing what had just taken place in my mind. As time went on, I began to think about physically transitioning. I would like to be seen and addressed as male, to have a deep voice and flat chest but, I don’t think I would actually be able to do it. I am quite honestly horrible when it comes to change and, even if it’s good for me, something I want, I don’t handle it well. Even HRT sounds a bit frightening in my opinion. I know I have to be mature and face these troubling situations though, I can’t help but fear the possibility of side effects, the knowing that things will change. I’ve been wishing to start binding for some time know but, I happen to be in not the best situation to do as such. I simply wish to know if you have any tips to assist me with this. Weather it be on how to confront this properly or any alternatives that may get me to some temporary solution that I may use for the time being.
2. You see, I am not necessarily dysphoric. I know how I wish to be perceived and do get euphoria. The levels of euphoria I receive varies from time to time, regardless of the encounter. I sort of feel invalidated by it. I mean- I know what I want, I just can’t help but second guess myself. I have considered voice training though, have had very little time to commit to it as I am quite busy and have little time alone. My desire to know and understand everything about myself and the human mind is quite contradictory as what I do not know for certain causes me more troubles. This has lead to me genuinely fearing being incorrect about my pronouns and gender. I will often panic when asked my pronouns. I know what they are and am confident however, when needing to be public about it, everything goes south. I don’t necessarily know how to cope with this as I worry that people may begin to believe that I am in fact transphobic by my lacking response to people wishing to know my pronouns.
Forgive me for ending it so abruptly, i am exceptionally tired and am unable to write much more. Thank you for taking the time to read this, I wish you all the best and the fondest of valedictions
@@egoiustusnuntius3682 Nobody even asked you to write anything, smfh, retard.
Hello, I hope for your answer. I classify myself as a trans woman and this was based on my internal feeling, but sometimes I get a strange feeling (noting this feeling, I added an explanation of my own, perhaps because the people around me were bullying me and saying, “You will never become a woman because you are a man”), when I hear someone... He says, “Man.” I feel a strange intuition and it always bothers me by emphasizing it inside me. “And I always get annoyed by it,” and when I hear someone say “woman,” I get a feeling of mismatch, but in reality, I get annoyed with my body because it is a man and I want it to become a woman. + I feel disturbed by this feeling, I want to be a woman, but I have this strange, annoying feeling. Please answer , I don’t want to be a man or non binary because I ‘am a woman😢 , it’s hard to explain
I'm just kinda confused. Im not sure waht my gender is. I've always been masculine and many times as a kid I said stuff like 'I wanan be an anime boy' and 'its fine i can be a boy in my next life' and I hanged out with boys and I acted a lot like a typical boy. But there were other moments where I flexed about being a masculine girl and I was als overy shy and feminine around boys when I got a bit older, like giggly haha I love everyone nice to me, but mainly guys. Im not sure if i was jealous of boys and wanted to be them or if I loved them. Around girls, I felt extremely masc. I never really gendered clothes at all, and I took 'gender equality' so litterally that i didn't gender anytihng I didn't gender names or pronouns and I didn't get it. I didn't get the difference between a girl and a boy. So when people called me 'he/him' when I wore the boy uniform for school and for being masculine, I got annoyed because why are you only calling me a boy and he/him pronouns just because im being masculine, why are you being sexist and not seieng girls that way. Why do I have to be a boy to have my personality, why cant a girl have my personality?
Its like its not that being called he/him bothered me. But it was annoying that people are so sexist that they thought a girl couldn't wear a boy uniform. If someone called me he/him and I was being feminine. I'd love that cuz then that would prove the person doesn't seperate gender in this sexist way where they percieve anyone wearing a boys uniform as a boy. There was another time when my enby friend saw me as a girl not wearing makeup at all and I never wear that stuff, I have sensory issues and im not used to it. They basically snapped at me claiming I caused them dysphoria because how dare a girl not wear makeup. Somehow a girl not wearing it triggered their dysphoria. I didn't get it. I want to prove that girls can still be girls but be gnc and have my personality. I want society to stop seperating gender so much and making all this shit a big deal. Everyitme I feel like a guy. I start wondering 'oh but whats stopping me from having my personality as a girl. Has society pushed me into thinking im a boy. Or am i really a boy. Define boy? what does boy mean. what does girl mean'. See as a kid, I also thought the only thing that made me different to boys was my body. But that menat that I just saw girls as boys except with different body parts, so basicalyl socially I saw it as identical. But then when I discovered trans people, I realised that body parts shouldn't be gendered. Like transwoman I know dont want breasts and I know transmen that see their breasts as a man thing to have. I see my body as not woman like at all, I see curves and my breasts and i dont think girl or boy because now I do not gender my body and I do not gender anything. I even see my name as masculine even though society sees it as feminine. But I do not gender names. This is why I dont have much dysphoria. I can't have body dysphoria cuz I see my body as not a womans one at all. I also don't mind being called she/her because 1. It makes me happy to be seen as being allowed to have my personality and still be seen as a girl. Its not that I am a girl. Its more that I am happy that people arent misogynistic. I will sacrifice my sense of identity if it means people arnet being misogynistic. If im dressing really masc, and talking masc and someone refers to me as she/her or a girl (cuz she/her doesnt always mean girl, it can mean boy too) then, I dont mind it. It feels weird. Im not used to being called she/her. Im ftm yet, I have had rare experiences of being referred to as a girl and she/her pronouns, most people at my school referred to me as my name and they/them pronouns or it/is because they saw me as the weird kid. So im very much used to being called by that. She/her makes me feel kinda happy cuz I feel included with woman hood for once, something I've been excluded from for years and its nice having that validation that you know woman can still be woman but do what I do, look how I look and have my personality. But at the same time, it can be uncomfortable as well as I realise now that maybe there is some criteria to be a woman and if im not fitting it, and im not fitting the roles of it (even tho i think those roles are just stereotypes..idk maybe there is some merit there , maybe there is something that makes someone a woman? that im not seeing) But I dont fit it, so when im called she/her I can feel uncomfortable at times. I also get confused, like damn you see me a woman? cool I guess. Im glad to fit in with women for once. When people call me she/her when im being masc, its nice. When people call me he/him when im being feminine its nice. I just avoid gender stereotypes. But at the same time I just fluctuate, I think i may be bigender, or a demi boy.
My main thing is I don't just wanna be a boy because then I feel like im proving my whole quote wrong about how I believe girls and boys are very similar and I can still be a girl while being me. But maybe my personality just doesnt match being a girl?. I also often forget my body even exists and I forget that im biologically female. Like I constantly forget that and when Im reminded im like 'ohhh yeah. thats right.' I don't know it feels so weird. I think im transguy but just everytime I wanna commit to that, i second guess myself and start thinking im sexist. Sometimes I just see a man with beard and think 'cant a woman do that' but then i guess society seperates gender for a reason. I just hate that I don't get this. I wish I could see gender. Also sometimes I see my face and im like 'omg i look so soft and big eyes and i cant just take that away' but I litterally look like a little boy. And its like...am i just a feminine androgynous boy... or am i androgynous girl.. or enby .. Its so weird to me. Like I think im stuck between demigirl or demiboy. But since I don't understnad the differences between gender at all, It pretty much makes it impossible to figure out which one I am. Cant even identify what feminine or masculine behaviour is or gender clothes. Why people see hips as a girl thing.. I just don't get it. Not to mention, I was always called autistic a lot as a kid, my autism was basically my main identity, so thats affected a lot. That said your video very much helped me so thank you. Unfortunately I can't tell what even makes me happy.
thank you because I feel like I’m not trans because my dysphoria isn’t bad
16:38 Yeah lol those are common. I also know a Tom and Keith and another guy who has a pretty nice unique name
i'd just like to mention that transneutral is a term that exists so anyone who is agender can use it!!
What if I'm nonbinary but use all pronouns but I was originally a girl?
if you're nonbinary you have every right to claim trans as a label ✌️
OK...but what if you maybe just want to identify with a gender different than what you were assigned? Is wanting to identify the same as identify?
Thank you for this video it's so amazing to know I fit for sure
I always thought non Binary and transgender were so different.
I didn't get surgery but am socially trans at times you have really helped me and I can talk to my partner.
I realized I was non binary and it really helped me made me relax the more I could dress feminine and masculine I was feeling so relaxed and weight off shoulders
Loved your video
Hey quick question ik this video is a year old and no one will probably see this but I was wondering if you can be both trans FTM and Non-binary? Im aware other labels exist but im not educated enough on them D: none seem to fit how I feel and I feel like my identity isn't valid :/ I want to be a boy I've always leaned more towards "boy-ish" things and trying things like trying axe body spay and wearing mens clothing and being mistaken for a boy when I was younger. (Still wearing mens clothing and using he/him and prefer being called a boy) I identity as a boy but the problem is on the inside I feel nor male or female the lables Trans Non-binary make me happy and they feel right but I don't like the term transmasc used for me.
Is it possible to both identity as trans FTM and Non-binary at the exact time or am I just crazy?
you can combine whatever labels you want everything is possible im ftm and nonbinary
@@TheosGhost TY this helped me a lot
@@VirusDice, you feel confused because you're trying to live outside of reality. Try simply living within the comfort of shared, objective reality.
@@Free_Notions bro what 💀
woah the voice change-
just wait until you hear what it sounds like now ;)
So like I'm a transmasc and know that many trans people experience dysphoria (top bottom any) but I like don't really feel dysphorick?? (I can't spell) I don't like my chest and I want to bind. I just want to know if it's normal
that's normal! i'm also a transmasc lad, and for me i just dislike having a chest, and to alleviate that i bind it.
non-dysphoric trans people exist and are totally valid and normal
you know, my answer to the first question (do you identify with agab) is always no, and then I follow up with, well you know, I don't like it but how do I know that that means anything? I'm dumb as rocks.
4:59 brobrobrobrobrobrobro! but what if I don't though...?
can't even make my own
Hii, if anyone could help me it'd be very appreciated! Every few months I have a freakout over my gender. I was born female but I have very high testosterone levels, I like the way my body looks, curves and breast but I genuinely believe that I would truly love myself if I had a deep masculine voice, and I always think about have facial hair! Always! But I wouldn't want to have surgeries. Having a hairy chest and deep voice whilst keeping my body feels like a dream. I always convince myself that I'm lying to myself and going crazy which ends in me crying and breaking down as I can't talk to ANYONE about this, my mom won't understand! If anyone can help me figure out what I'm feeling or anything please help!
i have like 50 names and a 1/4 i snatched from charas and half from looking at named from Behind The Name :) and the rest idk even lmao. anyway y top names are. way too revealing abt my personality i think and those r. daniel, lestat, and marvin. daniel and lestat speak for themselves i think lmao. marvin like falsettos. help me this is hell (50 names hell)
Does anyone else want to be a guy until you see a women you want to look like, you want to marry your crush but you are just fwb, you realize that some might see you as superior
This video help me so much im fukin cying I am a 15 yr trans boy and this valadaded me so much
Ok, so you are aware about the fact that hormones are somehow important in some way.
I'm wanting to ask you the following thing:
Don't you realize that, the way you are feeling and thinking is deeply influenced by your biology and body?
So why would you want to change the nature of that body that has a deep influence on your way of being? Taking testosterone seems screwing up your way of being because you will not be the same, right? Taking T. Is just an ideological choice but this has real transformation on your character, no doubt.
ok well now I'm more sure thank you really for that Video :3
I am out to some of my friends and even though some of them don’t understand that I am agender, at least we are all able to talk in good faith.
God I really needed that “it doesn’t matter as much as you think it does”
This helped me a lot to find out who I am
Thank you so much Theo!
17:07 I named myself after Simon from cry of fear :3
I have never felt so seen. Thank you
So im 19 and I’ve been dealing with gender confusion for years and at this point, I feel like I’m just (not meaning to be offensive here) a cripple. I hate my chest and my feminine looking arms. Every time I look in the mirror, I see my face as a man and even my long hair as masculine, I just don’t know how to pass without cutting it. Maybe it’s my curves that make people call me ma’am or maybe im just in denial about my face being masculine enough idk. Im just waiting for some type of dysphoria to go away, thinking maybe itll brush over some day and i can just be a confident cis woman
this is quite a weird question but if you’re intersex and you identify as genderfluid are you still technically transgender? this doesn’t apply to me but i’m just curious.
i don't see why not, if someone who's genderfluid wants to identify with the trans label they can regardless of AGAB or anything like that
I'm sure your content is geared toward people around your age/younger than you, but I just wanted to say... I'm 33 years old and this video really helped me a lot. Thank you!
Me from the "future" says congrats on 2k!
I randomly found this video and I just wanted to say that this really enlightened me. Thank you
I have this conflicting thing that I am probably non binary and that obviously makes me trans but I don’t identify as trans, because I still identify as a part of who I am or was.
I don’t know if this makes sense but I feel that I don’t want to change who I was at birth but also I don’t want to stay the complete same, it’s like I’m half trans
a lot of nonbinary people don't actually claim trans as a label, totally normal thing 👍
I think the term you're looking for is demi-boy/girl
love the hoodie 🖤
Iam transgender because..
1. I dont like my male body
2. I sit down and walk like a female plus when i sit down my back gets heavy. And when i get up my legs feel weird plus i cant get up and stand completely like a male..
3. I did wish to one day to wake up as a female.
4.i breath fast and my heart beats fast instead of being normal..
5. My body hurts aswell..
So yeah..iam transgender..and iam trying to change my gender..because of these that has happening to me..also cool video
Also i want to name myself (rose) once i changed my gender because iam a transgender. (Thanks for reading the comment tho)
I absolutely love your vids, really helpful and informative
thank you !!!
So I’m very late (such is the way of hot people 😪) but I was wondering if you were still going to make that video where you get people to dm you pictures of their faces and assign them names? It seems like a fun video concept and I would 100/10 watch but if not that’s okay too! Thank you and thank you for this video :D
I'm commenting kinda late but I've got a super weird chosen name, Mess. Got it from my favorite vocalist's name, Jon Mess. And I'm shocked at how many people are just.. cool with it?? I've barely gotten any weird comments about it
regarding the names: I've got pretty attached to Rainbow, since people on discord were using it as nickname. So now I'll try to get the name Rainbow in a Country that's not English speaking lol
Hey, I have a little question for you...
I am 20, my assigned gender is female and recently I startet gender questioning myself after I settled down on my sexuality. I feel like I could be non-binary but would still be presenting in a more feminine way. So the question is: can I also be trans-feminine, if I am a female at birth?
I know this video is already a year old, but it would be so great if someone could answer this for me!
Also great video, but I think it is not as easy as you say figuring out, if you really assign to your birth gender. Also am I cis if I am making that statement?
Greetings,
Lena❤
I feel like the way you put it in the beginning finally made it click for me that I don't think I am trans. Fully explaining that all it means is that you either check a box or you don't really put it in perspective for me in a way that nothing else ever has. I feel like I'm comfortable not checking that box while still presenting somewhat masculine or androgynous sometimes. So anyways you lied, some silly youtube video can tell me my gender woah thanks
One way to approach the question of whether or not you're trans, you could word it as "Can I see myself as my AGAB?" basically pretend that you never heard anything about gender, or queerness, and can you see yourself now in your AGAB position. If the answer is no, CONGRATURLATIONS, ITS A TRANS PERSON! YAYYYY
sorry i was like half asleep when i was doing this ive woken up now i meant is you could ask yourself whether or not you can see yourself now as your AGAB. sorry for any confusion
So I have a question. So im trans but I still sometimes like to wear makeup and the occasional skirt, does this mean I'm not really trans? Bc my parents say it does and idk. I've been questioning myself like maybe I'm not really trans? But like I feel most comfortable when people refer to me as a boy and like I have terrible chest dysphoria. Idk I'm so confused at this point. If u have any advice or something id love to hear it. Also love ur videos!
i wear makeup and skirts and im trans
guys can wear skirts and dresses. still trans.
Clothes, makeup, etc. does not define your gender identity. It doesn't make you any less trans.