An Update on the Harassment.
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- Опубликовано: 16 окт 2024
- Hi everyone. I wanted to talk about the harassment I've been receiving online & the new updates surrounding it in hopes of keeping my community members safe. There is an individual that is faking Tourette's and harassing me quite intensely and I wanted to make this video as an update on the harassment bc I'm really struggling. If anyone has ANY more information on this case please DM me. Thank you.
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As a girl with Tourette's, I would love to spread awareness and education about my disorder, as I feel it is quite misunderstood in today's society. The media has made it out to be a swearing disorder only, which is far from true. I hope this video will educate you on Tourette Syndrome and tic disorders! Life with Tourettes can be difficult, but just know that we're the same as everyone else...except for the fact we tic like clocks! (:
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⚠ Attention to all members of the Ticcing Together RUclips community ⚠
As we most likely all know by now, I have been harassed by Joshua (@damp90) for quite some time, and I have recently made it public knowledge both in my RUclips channel & my discord server. While I appreciate all of the love and concern, I do want to state some things for how we should move forward with this situation as it continues to progress & unfold. Firstly, please DO NOT bully or harass Joshua (@damp90) with hateful messages. By bullying the bully, we just end up becoming the bullies which is unacceptable. I understand a lot of you are upset by what he’s done to me & my community (as well as other communities) but this does not condone us being rude to him back. We need to stand up for what’s right & be the bigger people. That being said, if you do end up getting reached out to by Joshua (@damp90) or if you choose to interact with him, do so appropriately and without malice. Please be cautious & do not become the bullies as I mentioned. I would recommend ignoring him completely if he does reach out to you. Again, I understand that this is an awful situation, but please remember to proceed with kindness. If you have any further questions or concerns, please dm me on discord or Instragram @ ticcingclock. Thank you.
yeah no kidding im being harassed online too it sucks I'm trying to figure out where everyone's intergurty is I been not sleeping or eating and I'm sorry your going through it too
This statement just shows what a kind and caring person you are. I am so sorry to hear that you are experiencing this bullying and harassment. I have learnt so much from your videos, and I am so glad to see you are standing up for yourself and others. I really hope that this dreadful behaviour stops ASAP, he needs to be held accountable for his behaviour. You may be able to take legal action against him, pretty sure what he is doing is criminal.
Definitely respectfully disagree with you Carly. Bullies must not be treated kindly and bullying bullies is ok. If he cries, whatever, nobody cares, it's a "he" problem then, not a "you" problem. Hope his parents whoop his a$$ hard lol when they find out their weirdo son harassed people. But.....sure you do you Carly. Either way subscribed and support.
One of his usernames he used for me was gamerj.
@@dukelorange748 please don't give this person such control over your life. You are worth so much more than not eating and sleeping over some nasty person who kicks on making people feel small. It's about control for them and by not giving him this control over your life, YOU win and YOU show he can't get to you.
Stay strong ✌️
He's going to sue you when he still lives with his parents and has to hide from them during video calls? Yeah, that's not happening even if he did have a case. Keep being great. Your community is with you!
he'd be way smarter to not sue, given all of the evidence and receipts that can be easily uncovered to show that he's an online predator!
You should use his IP and report him to the police. If he's hiding his activities from his parents, they're probably the type to step in. Maybe he's done this before and they punished him for it.
@@plursocks he did say that he used to be a troll and is in "troll recovery" so perhaps he has already done this crap to the point where his parents/police got involved. It would make sense why he would be so worried about them finding out what he's doing.
@@Oliviaandtrina if he's that worried then he would stop fucking continuing to do it.
@@ferninthehouse if he does he might we get called out for it and ppl wouldn't stop talking about aswell and he will seem like a pussy
As a diagnosed autistic woman this honestly just makes me feel sick. im so sorry this happened to you carly. I went and checked out his instagram and the fact that he now gets to spread misinformation about autism that i've had to live with my whole life dealing with makes my blood boil
He's realizing he wasn't getting away with faking tourrettes, so he went to the next best one. To neurotypicals we're literally just the autism stereotype, they think it's easy to fake AND if people fall for it they know they can spread the misinformation.
Ugh, what a terrible person to do such a thing! I really hope he faces some serious consequences for the way he's stigmatized numerous neurodivergent online communities, guy really needs a taste of reality outside of his anonymous trolling bubble
What is his instagram? I wanna see, as i'm autistic as well
i am also an autistic woman who was diagnosed at 10
this guy seriously has nothing better to do than run around making a fool of himself
@@DamselMinnieMandy jbeans23
I'm so, so sorry about this, Carly. Be sure to keep screenshots of every comment and conversation, and encourage others in your community to do the same, especially threats. Let me know if there's anything I can do. Love you, C! ❤
I don't have tourettes, but I am neurodivergent, and it's so weird to me that so many people pretend to have conditions, when people with those conditions have struggled with it, usually their whole lives. I've always been the weird kid, and now being neurodivergent is cool. It's not even helpful to the community because the majority of people I've seen fake conditions, actually just spread misinformation and simplify symptoms to the point where everyone experiences it. It just sucks, it's amazing that there's so much more info out there and people have communities to help them, but it just sucks when people fake conditions for attention, it just hurts people.
I agree.
Because this person is continually changing names, etc, tells me this BULLY isnt going to stop until everyone IGNORES them.
As someone who's been bullied and harrassed almost my whole life, Ive learned the only defense I have is apathy. IE: showing them no reaction.
Bullys feel better by making you feel worse. When that is gone, they leave.
Edit: I have BPD and PTSD. No Tourette's. Diagnosed in my late 20's by both a counselor and a psychologist.
PS: Back during the days of Yahoo Chat! I once was a popular figure in one of the rooms and had a cyber stalking bully. To the point he made an account similar enough to mine people thought it was me. Except their profile made me out to be a loose woman. They didnt stop until we all, as a group, decided to give them zero attention. And even that took time.
this is honestly so sick. I can't believe somebody can harrass so many communities for NO reason except to hurt others. I hope things will calm down after a while
The trick, my dear, to handle people like that is to appear and try to be completely unbothered. Don't be afraid and not necessarily nice. Just unbothered. Don't sink to his level, nor raise him higher than he deserves to be. When he pops up, delete him, ban him and move on. Don't acknowledge him, or anything. People like that thrive on seeing you afraid, or pissed, and upset. When they put out lies about you, just state the truth. Never reply to them directly nor address them directly. Don't entertain a thought of them at all. Make a plan and band together with others in your community to follow that plan. I can ignore someone sitting right beside me. As long as they keep their hands to themselves and don't become a physical threat, they don't exist to me. Now, if he becomes a threat in any way that's punishable legally, then let the law handle him. Otherwise, don't let a fool steal your joy and your mission. Always watch your back. But don't let him see you flinch, or sweat. He is not worth your peace of mind. Oh. The one trick they have is tricking YOU into thinking they have power that they don't. Don't buy into it. When he pops up, swat him down quickly and quietly. Don't even bat an eye when you do it and then keep it moving. As always, stay the sweet, smart, beautiful soul you are and try to get some rest. I hope tomorrow is better than today!
Amazing advice, the best way to deal with bullies in general. They’re all just sad, trying to offload their internal pain onto undeserving kind people who unfortunately make easy targets. Hopefully this pathetic kid will appreciate just how dumb he looks & change his behavior before he does something stupid(er) & winds up in trouble with the law
I'm disabled too I have Asperger's Syndrome. I'm subscribed to you to learn more about Tourettes. I hate it when people like us get harassed. This pisses me off. I've been picked on and bullied for having Asperger's. I've seen people use Autism as an insult. The guy harassing you needs to be stopped. You and I aren't faking our disability.
I'm sorry you deal with the insults and the jokes. I have tourrettes and adhd and I've had people hit their chest fakely and go like "haha I have tourrettes" or using adhd to just say they are forgetful when thats not just what it is. My older brother as Aspergers and he is doing great and living his life despite the bullies, I beleive in you too
I’m so sorry you’re dealing with that.
May i suggest something?
Asperger’s is a very very problematic term, you just have “high functioning” autism I can provide you with articles/people on why it’s a problematic term, again I’m so sorry you’ve been bullied.
@@Sunflwr People like me that have Asperger's still use the term. And especially those who have been diagnosed before Asperger's was dropped as a diagnoses. It shouldn't have been dropped as a disnoses.
He's an incel
Just finished watching the video and omggg Carly I'm so sorry this has escalated!! This is so messed and I HOPE that he gets shut down very very soon because it's not okay!
some practical advice as someone who has helped run several communities - stop engaging with him. people like this are fuelled entirely by attention. they won’t be won over by kindness or sympathy for the victims of their actions; it thrills them to see the impact they’ve made. Block, ban, ignore, block, ban, ignore. Yes, it’s frustrating that there isn’t a more holistic solution, and you may still get upset at the harassment, but allowing yourself to take a step back and say “hey, this person sucks and they have no right to impact my life or my community” and then defaulting to just blocking, banning, and ignoring every time they pop up, is by far the best thing you can do not only for your own mental health, but also to stop feeding the troll.
As for the VC issue - there’s a solution. I’m sure you know most of your community pretty well by now. Make a VC channel that is only accessible with a particular role. Now give that role only to trusted members you’ve known for a long time, people you’ve previously spoken to on VC and can verify they’re not trolls, etc. New members can earn this role/access after spending a fair enough of time interacting appropriately in the server text channels until you feel comfortable letting them join VC - then just ban if some troll somehow is committed enough to put up appearances for along enough to gain the role and so slips through the cracks (unlikely to happen)
Other than blocking and reporting when and where you can, I think you and the community should stop engaging with him full stop. Not even to ask him to leave or reprimand him for violating boundaries. Maybe make the discord server temporarily private, protect yourself by taking a break from going live, focus on the support and positive response you and the community are receiving. You absolutely owe this person nothing, not a response, not kindness, not even an ounce of your attention. People troll for any number of reasons, but attention is why they continue. If you feel you need to take some time to yourself, please do it. In no way would that be conceding or letting him win, it would just be you performing some self care so you can come back relaxed and ready to jump back into being a source of education and light in your community.
Yes!!! 100% block him! Report him! Ignore him! As much as he needs therapy and consequences, the more attention he receives, the more clicks any of his videos get, the more he is going to troll!!! I won't search for him unless we all come together to block and report. Very good suggestion about making the discord channel private as well
theyre genuinely not that smart. a tongue lashing is exactly what they need, especially from their family. I've told them directly they are not welcome and I legally threatened them, and they haven't shown their face since then. they've deleted their videos off RUclips as well. so it's working.
I have children who have ASD and ASHD, one of them with quite severe tics. I myself also have ADHD…so I can completely understand the need for a safe space. I just want to say you have done nothing wrong, it’s all on them. I agree with a previous commenter, he needs to be completely ignored at this point. Block everything, document everything, and pretend he doesn’t exist. He will eventually get bored, even if it does take a long time. It’s clear from his own actions that he’s lying about having tics, and has become one of these people who are so “normal” that they have to fake conditions to get attention. If anyone questions you about him, direct them to this video and move on. Joshua obviously has issues; just not the issues he claims to have… I’m sorry you’ve had to bear the brunt of that.
@@gabymorton1801 that's generally not an advisable way to deal with trolls, they seek any reaction and often enjoy people yelling and threatening them. It's not about intelligence or anything like that, it is about attention. It was specifically asked that you not bully or threaten them, I think you should respect her wishes. Also, multiple reports and flags probably had the content removed, not a change of heart.
@Hitchcock00Starlet carly literally asked me to help her draft a cease and desist should it get that bad but ok. she did the right thing by making this video. if it weren't for that, she wouldn't have had proof that this guy was 100% faking tourettes, nor would she have received comfort that other people were being harassed by him too. please stop spreading the message to keep your head down and stay quiet. this guy isn't just a troll, he harassed carly and multiple others.
God, it's gross that anybody would even fake Tourette's, let alone go out of their way to harass actual people with Tourette's! I'm so sorry this is happening Carly, sending hugs and support
I’m pretty sure all of us here have your back we’re here to support you Carly💗
I honestly think you SHOULD take some legal action.....I'm so sorry you're going through this....as a person with Autism spectrum disorder, and as a human, this really upsets me. Harassment is scary....and it worries me....
Agreed.
I don’t know who would harass you. You’re the sweetest most wholesome youtuber on thr platform.
Tbh that's also a big reason why people think it's ok to target you
@@fiona0u057 those people are really jealous
Little weenies like him are evil and hide behind the computer in their grandma's basement. Don't let anyone make you feel threatened when you have helped so many! 🌹🙏 I have a 6 year old little boy that just started having tics. I came across your channel and you have educated me and made me feel more at ease with it as you have with thousands of others. You keep doing you my friend. You are amazing!! ❤️🙏
Speaking as a person who has ADHD and Social Anxiety, I have been a victim of bullying like this before and it made my anxiety worse. I’d never want anyone to go through the bullying I went through and I’m so sorry that this is happening to you Carly.
I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this Carly :( he seems like an immature kid who has no idea how the world works & gets off on picking on people he sees as vulnerable. He will look back & cringe one day. We have your back 💜
Stalkers usually don't look back some day and cringe.
They usually land in prison after taking their actions over the top by physically harming or killing someone.
I have autism and hearing about this person harassing you and others saddens me. I’m so sorry that you and many others are dealing with this. We support you.
It's so disgusting how this person is actively attempting to hurt as many vulnerable people as possible. He must have a miserable existence. Hopefully he gets help and grows as a person. Stay strong
I like your guy's profile picture
He’s a loser alright, but I do hope he changes his behavior, otherwise he’s in for a very sad & lonely existence…
Hope you don’t mind me mentioning DID - it must suck for you too to see all these people on TikTok faking your condition 🙁👎
As someone with ADHD and the daughter of an attorney, keep multiple copies of everything you can! It can only help you. If you can’t emotionally do it yourself, ask a friend or family member to keep an archive for you. The more evidence from the source against him, the less he can hurt you on a legal level.
What does ADHD have to do with your statement
Just commenting to say that you are a wonderful person. You have taught me a lot and I thank you for that.
I feel like the key to this creep stopping this behavior is his MOMMY finding out!!
He seemed terrified for Mommy to find out he’s pulling this crap… 🤔
I have been harassed so much online for various reasons I am numb to this. It is probably extremely annoying because blocking doesn't work-- they just make alt accounts. Social media is notorious for having poor moderation, which is understandable to a degree as moderating millions of people is practically impossible.
I, myself do not have tourette's but I enjoy watching your videos and learn more about tourette's syndrome. I'm so sorry you are going through this. You are such a kind person and it seems this kid will do ANYTHING for your attention. It seems he may be a little bit on the stalkerish side of things at this point. I would definently report him to police as well. If he will do these things, there is no telling what else he is capable of. Please be safe. ❤
Thanks for your bravery love! We are here for you and this person isn't going to win! Power to our community!
I am so so so sorry about this! You are an incredible human being ❤️ I hope this person learn his lesson and stop. Lots of love from Turkey 🇹🇷
I'm so sorry that you and your community have to go through this. I hope you stay strong. I can't imagine how badly this has to affect your mental health and life.
I've come across your content a few times, and I instantly loved how kind, compassionate, well-informed, and lovely you are- your kindness and passion for representing an overlooked and heavily misconstrued illness and doing so with care and the vulnerability associated with putting yourself out there has always been so admirable to me. You deserve nothing but love and kindness back, I'm so sorry you've had to face all this. Just know that the rest of us, love you and appreciate you and are here for you- sending you all my love and if you need anything at all, this space is yours. If you need to take a break or make more videos to really let out all your fears and frustrations- this is your space to do so (I and so many others) have your back, stay strong! You're gonna get through this 💕
As someone with tics I can’t believe someone would do this online bullying to this extent is crazy I know people who will make fun of tics but this is just a whole different level I’m so sorry you have to deal with this ❤️
I'm so sorry this is happening to you. I totally feel you on this, I had someone (and actually a couple) end up stalking me online to the point I had to change my whole social media. I was so afraid of coming online anymore, I had to hide away. It completely messed with my trust, and found it extremely hard to trust anyone I spoke to online. I got instant bad vibes from that guy pretending to have Tourette's. What an awful human being he is, he should not be on the internet, it's despicable. Obviously changing your whole internet persona is not an option, and it's so sad that police cannot really do anything. I really hope this person gets bored soon, I really really do x
I'm so sorry Carly, I had no idea that his harassment was so severe. I hope that it ends soon.
But thank you Carly for making this content. This channel has helped me so much with accepting myself and my Tourette's. So thank you for staying strong and continuing to make content
I just want to say, your ability to remain calm when you're this stressed by Joshua really shows your strength of character. It's *obvious* your ticcing's gone up, but it's also obvious that you want to get this message out anyway. Thank you for that.
I'm so sorry this is happening to you and other neuro-divergent creators. You came from a place of logic and compassion. People like "joshua" need serious help and you've made it clear that you feel that he needs to figure himself out. You are truly the bigger person here and your community loves and supports you for that.
We are here for you girl! I will ask around to see what can be done. My partner is an attorney. I'll consult with him too. Stay strong 💪🏾
im so sorry for what youre going through. Bullies are horrible. I've been through similar things myself. Am dealing with a less-harassing but still uncomfortable situation in a game ive played for years. I completely sympathize and wish i could do more. But i am not normally a part of this community. I simply saw your video in my scroll and started following you in this story from your last video. hopefully my little view and like helps get the news out there. I know this may not help, but from what I could tell, he seems to be from England or somewhere in UK? I dont think he can reach you, physically. And words are just words. I know it doesnt help the mental damage to the community but thank goodness hes not getting physical.
I'm only a few minutes in, but please don't apologize for ticcing a lot, more than usual, or at all. This is your safe space... even tho it doesn't feel like it right now you have created a community of your own and I truly hope and believe that it can become your safe space again ❤
It's awful that this guy can't be stopped, I really hope you get away from this evil! 😞 keep everything, I don't know if the police can do anything, but they should at least be aware of what he's doing! .. . Your an amazing woman and so strong, keep your head up xxx
I'm so sorry you're going through this. I don't have tourettes, but I am neurodivergent. I've also been an asshole in my life before. Unfortunately I think that he's thriving on this reaction he's getting. It may be best to not even acknowledge him beyond blocking him when he shows up. If he stops getting a reaction, as hard as it is, he'll probably get bored and move on. Of course that doesn't protect people who will give him the reaction he wants, but it might get him to leave you alone eventually. Harassment on the internet is still really weird legal ground so there aren't a lot of worldwide regulations that might help you make him stop. I don't think he will stop until he (hopefully) matures and figures out what he's doing is wrong. Whatever happens, I hope everything works out in the end for you and your community.
Its sad to see someone do this to you. your an amazing person Carly., you've helped SO MANY people and Joshua is more than a bully, he's a vile person and shouldn't be online tbh. I wish you the best for the future.
Man, haven't watched your videos in ages, to come back to see you're being harassed by this weirdo is heartbreaking :( I hope everything gets sorted soon!
I've had a similar experience to this but not as extreme, I totally understand your fear and I'm sorry you're going through this. This person is clearly very unwell to be harassing people to this extent. I hope they get the help they need and I hope they get the picture and leave you alone.
I find it DISGUSTING to see people be like this! I don’t have tourettes but it’s so sad to see people with it struggling, and then getting harassed and made fun of. It makes me sick to my stomach and I hope you are doing ok and are justified
Oh Carly, I am so sorry! Thank you for pushing you and staying so kind and so strong. I hope this kid can one day learn from you and be able to look back on the respect and kindness that you’ve given them despite how much they’ve hurt you and others. I hope you get some rest!
Don’t forget u always have us!
Supporter here.
I don't have Tourette's but, I do have Cerebral Palsy and I totally understand the annoyance of people faking/making fun of us who suffer. I've been compared to the "I love you, and I miss you" crying meme when I talk (just one example I can remember.) Yes, it does hurt in belief that people can be that horrible, but I know I can be BETTER than them and I just go on with life. We as humans can be better than people like that.
As for that person, BLOCK, BLOCK, BLOCK! Don't give in to his trap.
Please don’t stop posting, that way he wins and that is not right in the slightest. Report, report, report is the only advice I can suggest and I hope RUclips, discord, insta etc pay attention.
Girl I said this on your last post and i'm going to say it again, stay strong 💕. If you can find away, get authorities involved! You need protection at this point, you've so obviously not done anything wrong.
I saw the previous vid and I remember wanting to leave a comment then, and now - I just want to extend all the support a comment can send. This situation and the perpetrator’s actions are f*ked, and it’s gross that they’ll go out of their way to hurt people and make them feel unsafe. I just hope you’re safe and that this finishes as soon as possible
Im so sorry you're going through this! Sending love!
I knew he was going to escalate things (whether or not you did a video on it, we know stalking and harassment only worsens) but I’m so sorry he did. I hope he gets the message and moves on to get help. If he stops now, his face might not be known everywhere and he might have a future of a normal life still, maybe he will think of that and stop.
I have multiple of disability and I am standing behind you, love your videos.
You are so pretty, perfect and adorable! Do not let these people win. They can't be allowed to believe they're invincible because they hide behind a screen. If multiple platformers have experienced the same harassment from the same perps (especially if there ARE multiple "trolls"), there may be grounds for an investigation. Legit consider inquiring with police.
im really sorry to hear about all of this, carly. you seem like such a kind and caring person, you of all people should not have to deal with this, and neither should the community youve worked so hard to foster as safe space. im wishing you all the best in this awful situation.. love you!
I am so sorry this is happening to you! I 100% support you and it sounds like he needs help because he has issues and that is why he spends his time bullying other people please keep spreading awareness about TS!
*says frick once* "sorr i'm getting heated"
YOU ARE SO WHOLESOME ilu.
you stay strong! BE FIERCE! You know you have folks who have your back! KEEP ROCKING!
Always sending love sweet heart!
You’re taking your power back and it’ll pay off stay strong
ALSO I don’t have enough time to explain but they have no grounds for a lawsuit and I doubt the money is there to back that up.. it’s an empty threat I’m 99.9% sure.
Absolutely & completely ignore that kid. Every single time he tries to say anything, do not respond and immediately report & BLOCK. Leave no wiggle room at all. I hope you all can squeeze him out & heal your communities. Sending love ❤️
Also definitely try putting your platforms on private for a while. Better chance for all the admins & mods to weed him out. Good luck!
I feel like based off thier own actions if thier parents were told about this they'd be mad/ try to control them.
I hope the best for you, and we all are behind you
I know it seems sometimes like challenges like these may never stop, but they do. They either get off the internet, get banned, etc. Either way it does end. That doesn't excuse what they have done. I'm so sorry that this is happening. I hope that you feel safe again very very soon. You're a great person, no one deserves this harassment, especially not you. Please please please never be afraid to be you. Hope things get better soon.
-Aether.
Also I found this channel not too long ago and it makes me feel really happy and included because this community has so many neurodivergent people like me.
This is horrendous!! Seriously disgusting!! Carly you are an AMAZING human being it's definitely easy for me to say but probably hard for you to believe after all this horrible harassment (I really hope this isn't the case but is a possibility) but you have brought me some amazing awareness about tourettes I LOVE your channel as does my husband I hope this idiot gets their karma and that you can move on from this horrific incident x
I'm so sorry this is happening to you and everyone that he is affecting. Times like this I wish I was an attorney or someone who could offer legal advice and help. I would love to advocate to protect you and others!
Same. I don’t even know how court works.
I am so, so sorry you are going through this Carly. Just try to remember that the threats he makes, while they seem scary, are completely out of line and not feasible. He may have a lot of accounts and a couple minions, but you have 34.3k followers who all support you and will defend and protect you. I know calming your anxieties are easier said than done, but you have done nothing wrong in this situation, and we can just hope there will come a time where he either gets help, or gets what he deserves. We love you, take care of yourself ❤❤
Thankyou for always bieng here I’m so sorry this has happens it’s horrible and so stupid I have motor tics and autism I would post thing about it but I’m terrified because of ppl like this I’m only 14😢 I’m so sorry this is giong on ❤
Commenting to add to engagement - but also to say I see the pain in your eyes. I hope this gets sorted out very soon.
Sending you so much love. Try to make larger commentary creators aware of this. People like inabber and ready to glare
I am so incredibly sorry that some people are just this evil. You do not deserve any of this, nor do any of the other creators/peoples who’ve had to deal with their behavior.
You have to many great people behind you willing to support you in every way. I wouldn’t worry about it.
I’m so sorry. You have created such a wonderful community. I can’t fathom why anyone would do this to you. He seemed pretty young. Someone needs to make his parents aware of what he is doing.
And the police.
Ugh... I'm so freaking sorry you and your friends/family have had to go through this Carly. You are literally the sweetest RUclipsr out there, and the community you've fostered has been nothing but positive. You've educated so many of us on Tourette's and how to be better allies to those with tic disorders, and I hope you feel the HUGE impact you have already made in the mental health & neurodivergence space in such a relatively short period of time. Just know that we ALL have your back, and we are not going anywhere just because of an annoying cyberbully who clearly is struggling with a lot and needs some serious help. Love you!! ❤
I’m relatively new to your channel, but I’ve also lived with Tourette’s for my entire life (and diagnosed from age 12), and the fact that this kind of harassment & toxicity is still happening in a community I care so much about from an outside source who just thinks it’s fun or funny to dehumanize us is sick and disgusting. This info does need to be known by more people in more communities because I guarantee the ones I’ve been in have all had some connection to neurodiversity to some degree (something something birds of a feather), and the only way this can be stopped in this instance is to really stay informed & take protective measures against such stuff and people who support such harassment and dehumanization. I’m so tired of being treated like an alien just because I twitch/tic & because my brain works differently overall (autistic and ADHD as well over here, all of which became more obvious the older I got). And after the shit I’ve had to do to advocate in the small spaces I’ve called safe over my entire life about Tourette’s, only to see this same bs hazing happening STILL? After ALL this time? No. I’m not having that. Please take care of yourself as best you can, Carly. I’m so sorry this is affecting you the way it is. 🫂
I'm so sorry
It's incredible how low people will stoop. This kid must have a serious problem with just, STOPPING. He's going to make his own reputation and life worse as well as many, many other people that he's hurting. I am so sorry that you are dealing with this. You deserve so much better. You've created such a safe and wonderful community that shouldn't be violated!! I hope things get better Carly💜
I hope things get better. It seems all they want is attention of some kind, whether bad or good, so stopping all engagement with them would be for the best. This would be one of those problems that is best snuffed out by no contact. It might take time, but I’m sure it will get better.
Somebody needs to figure out who he is but not to dox him but to find his parents and let them know what he is doing and how bad it is not only for others but for him as well. That’s the only way to make him stop.
Hi Carly its K.F, you are such a fighter in everything you go through and what happens. It's a good thing you spoke up and were brave about it, even since you gave them a second chance since you are so generous and believe that.❤
This is so awful noone deserved it, i hope you guys get better and this situation stops and this 'dude' needs to stop and do something better with his life than harasses people who don't deserve it. Who just want to help their own communities not hurting anyone, i hope it blows over soon.
You all are amazing and also this RUclipsr ❤️ im here for you all
Ugh -- this makes me angry. So sorry you have to deal with this crap.
This just breaks my heart..I'm so so sorry.. sending all of my love.
Hello lovely! I have recently found your channel and I feel compelled to tell you how wonderful I think you are. I am so sorry for what has been/is happening with this person and I hope that he stops and gets the help that he so clearly needs as soon as possible. As someone who is neurotypical but has many dearly loved ones in my life who are neurodivergent, I am always looking for new creators to follow to help educate me. I have already learned so much from you, despite only watching for a brief time, as well as being old enough to be your mom!! I hope that this horrible situation does not cause you or your community any more harm, and I hope that the harm that has been caused is able to be healed as swiftly as possible. And Joshua, if you happen to see this: please stop. It is clear that you are suffering and that you are searching for some relief. That does not make causing harm to others acceptable. As you have seen, there are supportive and loving communities online who would be happy to support and love you, as long as you are respectful and treat others the way that you would like to be treated. If you have anyone in real life who you feel like you can talk to, please reach out and ask for help. Otherwise, there are many resources available for mental health assistance, and I am sure that you will be able to find them if you search online. I hope that you are able to heal and to make amends for what you have done. This is not the kind of person you want to be, is it? Please know that change is possible and that you can turn this around if you choose to do so. You are young and your future is what you will make of it. Please do the right thing.
Although I do not have Tourette’s, I am neurodivergent, as I have Generalized Anxiety Disorder, OCD, and ADHD, although I think the ADHD has been misdiagnosed and I am somewhere on the spectrum, so I am seeing a psychiatrist to give me the testing, but seeing you go through this and everyone who has been a victim of Joshua’s bullying just really makes me mad and upset that we have to endure this type of treatment sometimes when we have a community to help people.
Your look on this vid is gorgeous!!! Your eyes are beautiful!! Love the sparkles! ✨ ❤
I have missed some of your vids- I hate that you have to deal with this!!
You are a wonderful person!! I hope you know that the people love you is stronger than some a-…I know how hard it is to open yourself up only to have a jerk try & come for you.
I have BPD & PTSD This is the reason I stay away from TikTok- the fakes are horrific!
I have always found your channel as a safe space. Stay strong.
You KNOW you are not a fake. You are AMAZING! You ARE a safe place for many people that are not able to speak up or go public.
The best thing to do is to block & report him.
You are a wonderful, caring person who has opened yourself up just to help others. I am very sorry you have to deal with this. Try and ignore the p.o.s. they are not worth your energy. . ❤
You're very wise Carly. I'm proud of you for using wisdom and experience to explain things, and to raise awareness of this situation. I hope this harassment stops soon, be it the Lord's will. I pray that Joshua soon learns that what he's doing is wrong and apologises for the damage he's done. My unending support and love goes out to you. I've been keeping track of this Joshua situation as Potato Pie, my previous yt account, and I really do not like what you're going through. Joshua needs to learn to stop ASAP. as a group, we can get him to cut his behaviour out
I’m really sorry this is happening to you. This is why I haven’t posted any videos on my channel, or on my TikTok.
I know it's easier said than done, but bullies want to get a reaction. If you don't react they get less out of it. If he shows up, kick him out. Get moderators to help out. Don't let him hang around long enough to get a reaction.
I don't know, all I can think to suggest. Stay strong :).
Carly please be careful and stay safe irl. Get a security system if you don't already have one. The escalation is really worrisome and who knows what people like this are capable of. I don't watch your channel as much as i used to but I'll keep you in my thoughts until this is resolved.
I've been mistreated and misdiagnosed for a long time and I would never fake Tourette's at all. Clearly he needs therapy and he needs to stop and I'm glad Evie and Zara reached out to you and said to you that he makes them cringe I just watched his videos like you can basically tell he's faking Even my tics don't even act like that! I'm sorry he's harassing you. I hope he stops
The ultimate irony, for me, is the vast difference between the fakes and the real people. The fakes seem to want everyone to know what they have, and feel sorry for them, whereas nearly everyone I've interacted with online who was divergent, and being neurodivergent/having divergent friends, the real people try to apologize for what we've been born with, or struggle to mask it so as not to 'bother' other people? I just don't get what clout is worth pretending, but it makes me wonder what else they're lying about to other people...
I’m so sorry this is happening to you.
I will say on the threats of self harm he's making... if he was going to do it, he's going to do it REGARDLESS of if he's given the attention he so badly craves or not, so no one should feel guilty if he makes the claim or shows receipts of self harm because his actions are HIS OWN.
I have a daughter that is now 16 years old that has tics when she gets really, really anxious or nervous. It makes me mad and sad when I hear of people who fake this for attention and clout. My advice would be to find a way to get into contact with his parents. And if he is over 18, then you might have to go to the police. I know it's not a path you wanna take, but it might be the only way to get him to stop.
I'm sorry this guy has ruined so much. All you can do right now is ignore them. Don't give them credit, don't post stuff about them, just ignore their existence entirely and eventually they might have a tantrum and leave or just go silent now that they aren't getting attention. But definitely document if he makes threats towards you or any other community. That stuff is important but from someone who knows narcissism don't put your feelings into this.
So sorry your going through this.
I have anxiety disorders and major depression. I’ve been harassed before over text and stuff and you eventually get used to it. It’s amazing that you’re staying strong and I hope we can kick this guy into the dust. We love you Carly and you inspire us greatly. I hope everything gets better 💕
You are a beautiful soul with great makeup. I work in mental health and many moons ago I worked with someone starting to show signs of tics. So down my ADHD rabbit hole I went and your videos were among the ones that helped me better understand tic disorders and gave me ideas of what kinds of research I needed to look up. Keep doing the good work.
As for the other issue, I share similar thoughts with others. If you can figure out his IP address, that can help you to a) block him, and b) give it to the police if you decide to.
I know not everyone is comfortable with the police, which is understandable. And some police stations are better than others. If you feel safe to, even if you don't plan on pressing charges, talk to an officer about your options and at least have it documented to start a paper trail. That way if 6 months down the road you decide you need the law, they won't go "well why didn't you say something earlier." If there is existing documentation, they can see that this is an ongoing issue.
If you do go to the police, as horrible as this sounds, bring someone with you who doesn't have Tourettes. The last thing you need is to have an officer who isn't understanding and gets upset if you tic and give them the finger. And since talking to the police is stressful, go in prepared for your tics to increase. Have someone who can advocate, support and explain what your tics are and help you report all the information you need to be documented. It's a horrible thing that a lot of people with disabilities need to do, but many police officers are not trained enough in health conditions and that has led to terrifying situations. Or, maybe your local police are amazing and are trained and understanding.
Use your best discretion and be safe from all angles.
Much love from Canada
You deserve all the support and care in the world and this person is nothing but a bully. You are infinitely stronger than what he is and you deserve all the love and support in the world