Since this January, I have been doing online school instead of going to high school, and it's been hard to self-discipline and experience grades lowering more frequently than ever before. I spoke to my mom about how as great as online school is in being "your own boss" in a sense, it's hard to do it all alone. I noticed that I simply studied to earn an A and it was all to avoid getting a lower grade. A great lesson my mom taught me is to forget what grade I may get at the end of June, and simply enjoy learning. Focus my energy towards learning the subject, rather than dwelling on preventing something that doesn't exist. I really needed to hear this Kalyn! I have been a HUGE fan since I was 11 years old, when my mom first introduced me to you. Love your yoga flows and all the creative content you publish! -Alia
When you asked if you would work better or harder if your boss treated you like that, I had to pull over on the side of the road because it had never quite clicked for me before that. I quit my last job because my boss was a certified ass who would yell at the drop of a hat, insult you in front of others, etc., and I could never put up with it! I would argue back and intentionally do the least I could and do the whole “malicious compliance” thing until I finally left and started working for myself. So how on Earth have I been expecting myself to put up with the same exact thing with my new boss-myself?? Thank you, Kalyn ❤️ Not sure why it didn’t click for me until you put it that way, but I’m really grateful for it! You’ve been my best friend for the past few weeks and are helping me crawl off rock bottom bit by bit and it’s meant the world to me to have you here! Watching you grow and learn and thrive is unbelievably motivational and your candidness makes me feel like I’m capable of the same.
PLEASEEEE keep making coffee talks with journal prompts, i absolutely adore them, it really makes me feel like im there interacting with you, and it forces me to think so much more. Keep up the fantastic content, as always kalyn - i adore you!!!
I REALLY enjoyed this episode and all the deep journal prompts! I relate to this so so much and it really helped me reflect and take time to sit with this to help me redefine perfectionism in my life. Thank you Kalyn! Hope all is well with your pregnancy and sending lots of love
That is crazy! I find myself putting on a podcast, a RUclips video, listening in on a Clubhouse room on Marketing or whatever, and then I find myself not doing anything. I’ve been doing it for so long, that it feels normal, but I know it’s not🤣🤣🤣 I absolutely have to change this because before, I was working a 9 to 5. Now, I’m working in my own business and I don’t want it to get in the way. I am so glad I was called to watch this video because I thought it was just me.
One example where I expect perfection is working out. I was in cross country in high school for years and then last year I failed, my body was so exhausted and ruined from not eating enough and pushing myself too hard that I lost my period for 2 years, broke both my arms and instead of getting faster from all the running I got slower. I ended up quitting and spent 9 months mad and confused at myself for not being stronger and not being perfect. Up until this moment I realize that I didn’t quit bc I wasn’t strong, I quit bc I wasn’t perfect and I couldn’t tolerate that. I’m an all or nothing person. Very interesting to think about. Thank you for this prompt!
You just blew my mind with one sentence. I never thought of procrastination as an intelligent move that helps you actually DO THE THING. I heard of the "procrastination helps your brain think about what you need to do and come up with a plan of attack subconsciously" but it doesn't account for the times when you procrastinate on basic things where you already have the plan of attack and you just need to do it. In a sense, by bringing the habbit into this new light, you helped me be ok with the times where I procrastinate, to have peace with it somehow. So thank you! Truly. You just opened a new way to think about the problem and be kind to myself about it
Perhaps a bit off topic but I just wanted to say thank you for being such an inspiration to me the past 2 years. I started following you when you got back from Bali. Seeing you grow and building a family is so inspiring. I admit a few times I have compared myself to you, wondering if it's going to happen for me. I admire you and deserve the same things. Keep on shining and much love to you and your family!
So some more food for thought.... the things you're talking about in this coffee talk is a lot of what neurodivergents (mostly ADHDers and autistics) deal with. upon hearing these things, I heavily connect with because I have ADHD and autism. I do appreciate all of these prompts! it can be very helpful for uncovering all those neurodivergent traits :)
In my mind I will create this perfect outcome. I will have an awesome idea. I will get so excited to share. Or get excited for things to work out the way I perfectly want it to. Then I’ll do it for some time. If something doesn’t go right or I don’t start when I said I was I would procrastinate. I will believe that I can’t do it. I’ll get frustrated emotional and irritated. Then like you said time will go by and I will do it if something I really want last minute. Or I will regret never trying something. Then If the next time come around and I want to do it again I most likely won’t because I have my personal view that it will never work out so why even try.
this came perfectly bc yesterday i was talking with my psichologist about that. Im not a super perfectionist in general but studying i wanna do it sooooo good and sometimes you cant and its frustrating but day by day you can do it and not focus on having super great marks. Anyways it help me so much cause im llike that in my life in general and i should be doing things slowly even if it isnt your best moment.
This was perfect for me while journaling and looking back at how this month went thus far and even how much I've changed in this year alone I used to beat myself up for procrastinating but i think I'm at a point in life where i understood that war is never a solution and i want the constant war in my mind to just end n i want to feel at peace again Thank you for this coffee talk and journaling prompts Istg i can't put into words how much i can relate to you no matter what topic you talk about And i guess that's the magic of the universe We all are same in some way Sending lots of love 💙💙💙😊
Great channel content, great video topic and you covered it so well , i really enjoyed watching and listening to this talk . What would happen if we are not perfect? That sticked to my mind 🙏
I really relate to building things up in my mind and then freaking out when it’s time to actually do them 😬 Creating things is hard, but oh so worth it in the ends i really love the idea to think about what am older version of myself would say. It put things in perspective. Thanks for another great coffee talk Kalyn ☺️
These are good questions and I definitely will explore. Was thinking while you spoke. I don't agree though that social media effects the same when compared to watching a movie. I think social media has its pros but it's effected/distracted many. I liked the procrastination cycle you had put. Great video.
So I did a tarot reading for fun at a festival. It says I need to work on self love. And that is why the universe is throwing so many bumps at me right now. It is trying to get me to refocus. Which is true. I do. Can you do a video on that, or link one if you already have? Thanks
Hey kayln, Can you make a video on exam fear and anxiety? I feel like i fear exam 1 month before it even starts but don't know why because i did prepared for it.
It´s actually just referring to the First Song 🤔 no bad critic, it´s amazing. Wow. This Video is about perfectionism. I AM SUCH A GOOD EXAMPLE rn it´s ridiculous. Leave the music. Oh man. 😂😂😂😂😂
Just mind-blown Right now noticing this about myself commenting on my comment again but hey, you Go deeper and deeper on you mental Health journey, right??😂😂
Being a virgo I have always done everything as good as I can but I am one of those people who didn't think about perfection. I did procrastinate some but I mostly was action getting things done.
Perfectionism is such a trap, Im literally missing out on living my best life because I think it could be better, I could be "better", I could be "perfect", I study fashion design because is my passion, I moved abroad to my favorite city and im going to my dream college but im failing miserably on my assignments because I just procrastinate everything, I don't make a design unless I think its going to be perfect, and its a ridiculous thought because in the fashion industry, in art and in life generally perfection is so subjective that's its literally imposible to reach it in all its meanings, the best I can do is enjoy what I do, be grateful and learn from my mistakes, FROM MAKING THEM AND TAKE ACTION. Hope someone can relate, let's be imperfect, happy, willing to learn humans, we can do it
Thank you so much for making this, Kalyn The past year I've come to realize how much I truly struggle with being a perfectionist. Just wanted to pause the video in the middle here to say that not only do I feel every last bit of thing you're saying, but the talk of why we need to be perfect hit me hard like a brick. I will bring those tears and this whole video w/prompts to my next journaling session that needs to happen today For now I'm just gonna watch the rest of this while I fold my laundry while I nod in tearful agreement
Since this January, I have been doing online school instead of going to high school, and it's been hard to self-discipline and experience grades lowering more frequently than ever before. I spoke to my mom about how as great as online school is in being "your own boss" in a sense, it's hard to do it all alone. I noticed that I simply studied to earn an A and it was all to avoid getting a lower grade. A great lesson my mom taught me is to forget what grade I may get at the end of June, and simply enjoy learning. Focus my energy towards learning the subject, rather than dwelling on preventing something that doesn't exist.
I really needed to hear this Kalyn! I have been a HUGE fan since I was 11 years old, when my mom first introduced me to you.
Love your yoga flows and all the creative content you publish!
-Alia
When you asked if you would work better or harder if your boss treated you like that, I had to pull over on the side of the road because it had never quite clicked for me before that. I quit my last job because my boss was a certified ass who would yell at the drop of a hat, insult you in front of others, etc., and I could never put up with it! I would argue back and intentionally do the least I could and do the whole “malicious compliance” thing until I finally left and started working for myself. So how on Earth have I been expecting myself to put up with the same exact thing with my new boss-myself??
Thank you, Kalyn ❤️
Not sure why it didn’t click for me until you put it that way, but I’m really grateful for it! You’ve been my best friend for the past few weeks and are helping me crawl off rock bottom bit by bit and it’s meant the world to me to have you here! Watching you grow and learn and thrive is unbelievably motivational and your candidness makes me feel like I’m capable of the same.
PLEASEEEE keep making coffee talks with journal prompts, i absolutely adore them, it really makes me feel like im there interacting with you, and it forces me to think so much more. Keep up the fantastic content, as always kalyn - i adore you!!!
one of my favorite chats!
Oh and I love this Recording Space sooooo much 🥰🥰🥰
I REALLY enjoyed this episode and all the deep journal prompts! I relate to this so so much and it really helped me reflect and take time to sit with this to help me redefine perfectionism in my life. Thank you Kalyn! Hope all is well with your pregnancy and sending lots of love
I loved this talk so much! Thank you for sharing your thoughts and ideas. It always leaves me inspired ❤
That is crazy! I find myself putting on a podcast, a RUclips video, listening in on a Clubhouse room on Marketing or whatever, and then I find myself not doing anything. I’ve been doing it for so long, that it feels normal, but I know it’s not🤣🤣🤣 I absolutely have to change this because before, I was working a 9 to 5. Now, I’m working in my own business and I don’t want it to get in the way. I am so glad I was called to watch this video because I thought it was just me.
One example where I expect perfection is working out. I was in cross country in high school for years and then last year I failed, my body was so exhausted and ruined from not eating enough and pushing myself too hard that I lost my period for 2 years, broke both my arms and instead of getting faster from all the running I got slower. I ended up quitting and spent 9 months mad and confused at myself for not being stronger and not being perfect. Up until this moment I realize that I didn’t quit bc I wasn’t strong, I quit bc I wasn’t perfect and I couldn’t tolerate that. I’m an all or nothing person. Very interesting to think about. Thank you for this prompt!
You are such a wise soul, Kalyn. Thank you for sharing this raw, honest, wisdom that you hold; you help more people than you’ll ever even know! ❤️
Going to take these prompts and write about them at a later date, thank you for bringing a topic I neglect to pay attention to to me. :)
I’m listening to you while doing my clients hair. You make me soo calm🌈
You just blew my mind with one sentence. I never thought of procrastination as an intelligent move that helps you actually DO THE THING. I heard of the "procrastination helps your brain think about what you need to do and come up with a plan of attack subconsciously" but it doesn't account for the times when you procrastinate on basic things where you already have the plan of attack and you just need to do it.
In a sense, by bringing the habbit into this new light, you helped me be ok with the times where I procrastinate, to have peace with it somehow. So thank you! Truly. You just opened a new way to think about the problem and be kind to myself about it
My wise one 🤗 thank you for guiding me through life all this time.
This Coffee Talk found me at the perfect time! You are such a light. :)
Perhaps a bit off topic but I just wanted to say thank you for being such an inspiration to me the past 2 years. I started following you when you got back from Bali. Seeing you grow and building a family is so inspiring. I admit a few times I have compared myself to you, wondering if it's going to happen for me. I admire you and deserve the same things. Keep on shining and much love to you and your family!
I don't watch a lot of girls on youtube but you sound so damn genuine I love it. Keep it up 💛👊
So some more food for thought.... the things you're talking about in this coffee talk is a lot of what neurodivergents (mostly ADHDers and autistics) deal with. upon hearing these things, I heavily connect with because I have ADHD and autism. I do appreciate all of these prompts! it can be very helpful for uncovering all those neurodivergent traits :)
You are such a light Kalyn. I am particularly touched by this video, I can relate a lot to everything you said. Thank you
In my mind I will create this perfect outcome. I will have an awesome idea. I will get so excited to share. Or get excited for things to work out the way I perfectly want it to. Then I’ll do it for some time. If something doesn’t go right or I don’t start when I said I was I would procrastinate. I will believe that I can’t do it. I’ll get frustrated emotional and irritated. Then like you said time will go by and I will do it if something I really want last minute. Or I will regret never trying something. Then If the next time come around and I want to do it again I most likely won’t because I have my personal view that it will never work out so why even try.
this was so therapeutic, thank you for the encouragement! feeling so distracted lately
this came perfectly bc yesterday i was talking with my psichologist about that. Im not a super perfectionist in general but studying i wanna do it sooooo good and sometimes you cant and its frustrating but day by day you can do it and not focus on having super great marks.
Anyways it help me so much cause im llike that in my life in general and i should be doing things slowly even if it isnt your best moment.
This was perfect for me while journaling and looking back at how this month went thus far and even how much I've changed in this year alone
I used to beat myself up for procrastinating but i think I'm at a point in life where i understood that war is never a solution and i want the constant war in my mind to just end n i want to feel at peace again
Thank you for this coffee talk and journaling prompts
Istg i can't put into words how much i can relate to you no matter what topic you talk about
And i guess that's the magic of the universe
We all are same in some way
Sending lots of love 💙💙💙😊
Great channel content, great video topic and you covered it so well , i really enjoyed watching and listening to this talk . What would happen if we are not perfect? That sticked to my mind 🙏
currently working on this, really excited for this 🥺
I so needed to hear this! I want to listen to it again already, thank you so much, lots of love
I really relate to building things up in my mind and then freaking out when it’s time to actually do them 😬 Creating things is hard, but oh so worth it in the ends i really love the idea to think about what am older version of myself would say. It put things in perspective. Thanks for another great coffee talk Kalyn ☺️
These are good questions and I definitely will explore. Was thinking while you spoke. I don't agree though that social media effects the same when compared to watching a movie. I think social media has its pros but it's effected/distracted many. I liked the procrastination cycle you had put. Great video.
This video couldn't come in a better time Thank you! I struggle with perfectionism and high expectations a lot...
So I did a tarot reading for fun at a festival. It says I need to work on self love. And that is why the universe is throwing so many bumps at me right now. It is trying to get me to refocus. Which is true. I do. Can you do a video on that, or link one if you already have? Thanks
My anxiety is driving me crazy I need this video so much thanks 😊
Be proud, you survived the days you thought you couldn’t.
Hey kayln,
Can you make a video on exam fear and anxiety?
I feel like i fear exam 1 month before it even starts but don't know why because i did prepared for it.
Hey Kalyn, Love this Episode! 😍 just a little request.. could you turn down the music a little bit next time? 🧡 Thanks for your work!✨
It´s actually just referring to the First Song 🤔 no bad critic, it´s amazing. Wow. This Video is about perfectionism. I AM SUCH A GOOD EXAMPLE rn it´s ridiculous. Leave the music. Oh man. 😂😂😂😂😂
Just mind-blown Right now noticing this about myself commenting on my comment again but hey, you Go deeper and deeper on you mental Health journey, right??😂😂
Being a virgo I have always done everything as good as I can but I am one of those people who didn't think about perfection. I did procrastinate some but I mostly was action getting things done.
I'd love a video about the podcast you enjoy listening to!
Couldn't be a better time for this video!!!! Thanks a lot Kalyn
Perfectionism is such a trap, Im literally missing out on living my best life because I think it could be better, I could be "better", I could be "perfect", I study fashion design because is my passion, I moved abroad to my favorite city and im going to my dream college but im failing miserably on my assignments because I just procrastinate everything, I don't make a design unless I think its going to be perfect, and its a ridiculous thought because in the fashion industry, in art and in life generally perfection is so subjective that's its literally imposible to reach it in all its meanings, the best I can do is enjoy what I do, be grateful and learn from my mistakes, FROM MAKING THEM AND TAKE ACTION. Hope someone can relate, let's be imperfect, happy, willing to learn humans, we can do it
I grow up on Nickelodeon and Disney channel’s good old movies and tv show and KDWB channel. And Gaia online and MySpace
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OMG I was a weheartit girlie as well :')
And what if I did not enjoy the time my expectations were not met? What if I suffer every day because my expectations were not met?
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Thank you so much for making this, Kalyn
The past year I've come to realize how much I truly struggle with being a perfectionist. Just wanted to pause the video in the middle here to say that not only do I feel every last bit of thing you're saying, but the talk of why we need to be perfect hit me hard like a brick.
I will bring those tears and this whole video w/prompts to my next journaling session that needs to happen today
For now I'm just gonna watch the rest of this while I fold my laundry while I nod in tearful agreement