I’m dealing with Someone like this now in the workplace. This guy is absolutely disgusting, I really want to give up. I believe he’s trying to set me up to be fired! Individuals who try to sabotage another worker is just evil and pathetic to me. It’s very demoralizing to deal with such a person.
@@fotter9567Well I just wanted to say that if this is any type of discrimination due to your ASD, please do report it. This isn’t supposed to happen. Since the pandemic some places have gotten sloppy…but others have clamped down. You’re allowed to have boundaries. You’re allowed to be accommodated if you need that. Why does it feel like we are going backwards? Ugh! I wish you lots of luck. Keep your foot down and if this toxic workplace environment continues, you need to leave for your own good! Do they have an EAP? (Employee Assistance Program). Those are great I highly recommend you access any resources and therapy you can.
I have the same thing going on right now, and he’s manipulating everyone else to kind of turn against me, but listen my friend, he hasn’t been there in 2 days and in those 2 days I found out everyone else dislikes him as much as I do! So hang in there. Things will get better and if they don’t tell someone, tell HR, tell whoever you need to to get support and speak to your supervisor about it, and where you stand on your work with them, and not this individual, if it’s your supervisor being the bully, go to the next person you feel comfortable with. I really really pray it gets better for both of us. Be true to you tho first. You are worth it, you are important, and you are accepted! ❤
@Ashbash-kf5xd You just gave away one of the bully's biggest secrets. They will work tirelessly and relentlessly to convince everyone else around them that they are so well-liked by the others around them that you dare not ever say anything bad about them. IT'S A TRICK. It's usually never true. Usually, just like you said, everyone else actually dislikes the bully and thinks THEY are a loser. They never want you to know this secret, because they believe most of their power lies in fooling people into thinking they are something they are not (a decent and respectable person).
I always attract workplace bullying out of being a high performer. HR and bosses have never helped so I changed my behaviour and stopped being such a high performer. It’s a private company not a worker-owned cooperative the relationship is entirely transactional. Only work hard enough not to get fired. If they wanted more out of you then they would treat you better.
I really don't get why the high performer gets bullied. Isn't that what management wants? A workhorse? You'd think it makes their lives easier, they don't have to lift a finger to keep their useless jobs.
@@rockhaze because the managers are insecure and on the spectrum of one or more mental disorders where social status is extremely important to them and the workhorse is seen as a threat to their social status. Take one thousand people representing the entire variety of the human population’s personalities. Now line them up in order of how important social status is to them. All of the managers are going to be on the high end.
My supervisor is totally toxic gossiping with my co workers all day she micromanaged me every day such an ugly environment thank God I found a better job 🙏🏼
I have this happening to me now. Guys in his 50s who's a service manager by the way... you'd think he's old enough to have gained some maturity. Nope. The guy is an overgrown frat boy, talks an insane amount of shit about employees, enough that would get him fired in any other workplace, but won't since he's best buds with the boss outside of work.
Dont go into it, just run if its serious. Do not deal with evil, dont escalate, no HR, no manager involved. They know! Find something, do not show or talk that you want to leave, dont give them time and just leave. Dont tell them the reason you quit and dont tell where you go. They can try to harm you even when you change company.
I’d add to block anyone from that company on LinkedIn and other social media, in case you want to update your job status but are concerned they will find out where you went and try to contact your current employers. I have overheard managers speak of contacting ex-employees’ new jobs.
Stay strong.. I'm going thru the same shit, i ignored them and took the high road but now they just make up a whole ass life, when i do respond and confront; it's always "oh I was talking to so and so" and "oh no I didn't mean you" or just speaking in another language.. it's to the point where I started to second guess myself and think I was just being paranoid. I've worked there for almost 3 years in September and it's just been this year with the theatrics. Won't say it to my face or when I'm around them it's always behind my back. Now I would never resort to such tactics but I can totally see how a workplace 🔫 can occur or how someone could be driven to it.
People at work are not your friends. Knowing that is the biggest step toward not being a target of bullying or manipulation. The next step is learning to speak up when you start to resent something.
I feel like speaking up only makes you a target, because then they are aware that YOU are aware, and then they feel the need to double-down to silence/squelch you.
Yes this bullying has been happening since high school, it’s always that one person that lacks confidence in themselves, and the bully tends to manipulate others to make me look bad! People bully me because I am confident nice polite down to earth, going above and beyond at my job and lazy people hate that. I’m always thinking positive even though my personal life is broken specially since I lost one of my kids. I’m afraid to complain because people tend to believe the bully lies over the truth
I'm so sorry for your loss. You're blessed in spirit and kindness and have taught anyone who has read your message, how to add value to life in the face of great loss. You're still setting an example on how to live with purpose for your children and those around you. I'm not sure of your beliefs on death, but I feel that your child will be so proud of you when you're reunited after this life. You're walking a divine and high path - it's often a solo journey that is meant to elevate your life purpose and soul consciousness and also is to teach others that they can choose different paths and can attempt to reach the heights you walk at or maybe go higher in time. And lastly, you're totally right abt how bullies are often protected and the victim is further harmed. I wish I had advice for you. Tmrw I'm going no communication with my work place bully. In the sense that I won't be available for his toxic language and energy. I will keep or dialogue to a strict minimum - he should be ok with it bc it's obvs he hates me and hates engaging with me. I've chosen to see him as solidly as a foe and I won't allow myself to engage with trying to fix the situation bw us. He chose his path. I'll try my new path out and keep a robotic business only dialogue with him. I won't respond if he asks me anything that is beyond his job title.
I recently got fired from making a formal complaint to my bullying and despicable line manager. Remember guys, leave the place. No place deserves our value for dehumanizing us.
@@jeannemarie3704 so if you quit what happens to your pension also what about health insurance I hope I framed the question right. When I say YOUR pension I’m just asking in general.
2.26.24. Quick update. I QUIT one month ago I worked in that place over 20 years and I left (with notice) quietly. Mobbing at work and they were so “shocked” when I resigned Word spreads fast. They have to guess about my where about and where I’m going next. Moved in silence. I politely ignored the exit interview that they emailed to me.
@@skinnypopcorn22-md2dp You're smart for not revealing where you are going. Only to have them start making random phone calls or emails to your new office talking trash about you. Some employers are like that, they bully you, and then when you leave, they get upset that you left and are no longer their target of harassment, so they get back at you by, unfortunately, stalking you and trying any which way to derail you.
@@milenamehari2256 I've been there too. Fortunately/unfortunately I left in the middle of the "investigation" they started. The bullies I had knew how to play HR and then were falsely stating things about my behavior. I was told to escalate the issue within HR, therefore ask that whomever is the HR person handling your complaint get removed from your case and ask for someone higher in authority to take over. Before doing so, I would try to see the person higher up would be sympathetic to your case. I had someone else working at a different company do that, and the results were in her favor as the first person handling her complaint would dismiss every matter that was brought up. I also find, that HR may tell you that something isn't legitimately an issue when in reality it truly is a legal issue- HR will try to bluff/gaslight you. In the end, its really important to have a plan B and C and D... which is to leave.
I developed PTSD from a toxic work environment. Bullying is dangerous when companies continue to turn a blind eye. Companies should be held liable for turning a blind eye. Note, I was in a high level HR position and bullied by the boss. I was being forced to do things to employees that were not right. I fought for the employees but in return I was psychologically tormented by upper management and still suffer today.
I went to HR they effectively relocated me. (I blew the whistle for Sexual harassment) about 5 months later when another woman was hired (this was an all male team other than me) he was fired. I wonder why 🤔
im a nurse and Im being bullied by doctors and nurses in a clinic - if ur a nurse manager and nurses keep quiting you have a bullying problem. And there is almost nowhere to report it.
Number 4 . Stand up for your self ! The question why we atracting this behaviour ....? They target the people who are not like them ,people who have integrity that is someting bullies do not have . I'm a target who fire back at them ,so what ever they throw at me will come back to them . People do not let assholes to destroy who you are . Called them out in the meeting front of other coworkers ,they are cowards allways operating in the group ,you need strong personality to deal with them .
@jessicaj9743 My biss is manipulated by my evil managers against me. If he believes their lies, I can lose my job and die. When a Christian is slandered, they must expose the lies. You hurt only their egoes, not their bodies.
This is easier said than done. Some bullies use the system against you under the guise of “productive management”. It can also happen over time with the pressure gradually getting worse.
Yes. I just got a promotion as well as numerous new clients who insist that I work with them. I have a very nasty coworker who is basically impossible and always creates major drama at work. But usually when managers aren’t present. Her jealousy went through the roof. And since I have already experienced this persons crazy behavior in the past, I knew it wouldn’t be long before she acted out again. The day before her huge blowup, the manger actually pulled me aside and asked me if I’d ever had issues with her because other coworkers are complaining. I told him of a few very unpleasant incidents. He told me that he has been taking note. Then, today. She didn’t get something she wanted at work and she literally called me a retard. She also said that I don’t take accountability and that I’m very irresponsible in life. This was entirely crazy talk. (An attempt to undermine me and my position at work). Funny but I have my position due to my high level of responsible behavior as well as my professionalism at work. I did not apply for my position or ask for it. The manager confronted me and told me that they considered me to be the perfect person for the position beneath them and also for my general attitude at work. Anyway. I stood up to the crazy, nasty, super negative, name calling co-worker. Nobody likes her and everyone secretly wishes she’d quit but I hope she gets fired for how terribly she abuses others. If I called somebody a “retard” at work, I’m 100% certain that I’d be fired straight away. So hopefully the same will apply to her. I’m trying to build a tough shell so that I don’t get rattled by workplace assholes. I think I’m doing well but admittedly I hate shitheads. I’m absolutely unwilling to play games.
You’re calling out people that don’t care and do not have a conscience. It’s like dealing with reprobates. Dealing with robots. Sometimes it’s not worth the “fight”. Each person’s case is different. Call them out in front of other coworkers? Suppose it’s mobbing by BOTH coworkers and bosses. What then?
I have a colleague that the others co-workers doesn't talk to her, they are doing the silent treatment, and because I treat her well, sometimes one of those colleagues mistreats me with bad comments, thankfully I go to the office only once a week, because If I had to go every day I wouldn't make it.
If you live in a one party consent state purchase a small recording device and keep it in your pocket at work. Then it'll document the rude comments for you.
I was a victim of workplace bullying about a year and a half ago. And I got to be honest I think that the people in charge didn't take it seriously because I'm male and the person who is doing the bullying was female but that shouldn't matter. Eventually the person was talk to they were disciplined but ultimately they left the company of their own accord. I wasn't the only one sometimes it was very indiscriminate who she would go after I saw her bring one young lady to tears over nothing. she would always blame her outburst on having bipolar disorder which I can sympathize for anybody who has that but the people around you don't want to be yelled at and berated every day regardless of what the reason is. Anyway your video was great thank you so much😊
It matters. Gender dynamics are changing in the world and part of that could mean females targeting males. Just as unacceptable as vice versa! From a female anti-bullying friend!
This happened to me so many times and I was fired so many times due to bullies in the work place. Today, I have mastered thus since 2016 when God told me to study Narcissim. Then it explained covert, overt, and Gaslighting. I learned this like I was getting a degree in it. Now, I minister and help people about it. I just ministered to a lady about it while at a dental visit. EVERYTHING YOU SAID HERE MS. CLARKE (Dr. Clarke I prefer to call you) is just what I said to her. It is traumatic, awful social, emotional and mental abuse. It even happened to me before in church by a pastor. No one should ever go through this. You are a blessing. Now, I boldly confront and call you out and you to stay away from me, or I'll put that pen in your life called harassment. I'm subscribed and now your biggest fan.
My boss is bully who bullied an autistic girl so bad that she took her own life. Even worse the company covered it over and that woman is still there. She is now doing the same thing to others.
I've learned that a huge majority of people who are work place bullies have ( a lot of personal issues ) inside of their household due to adult children / and they're bringing it to work and i hear it All the time@@iligalvan
They fire the victim- the other workers side with the bully to avoid being bullied (triangulation) so all the supervisor sees is you- the problem. Talk and you get fired.
@@mariecampbell3373Consider carefully, if this ends with you being fired, keep in mind, for every job interview thereafter, you must offer an explanation as to why you were fired. Also, ideally, one must try not to disparage one's former boss or workplace.
I was bullied at my old job. I couldn't take it anymore. I tired with HR and manager. Sadly, the managers didn't help and thought I'm the problem. I'm hard worker, kind to everyone and the customers. I left and found a better job. It's weird when started a new job and everyone is so kind and they all talk to me.
Thanks some much for this. I went through something like this about a year ago with a former manager. Needless to say I took action and after she realized that they were on to her, she resigned.
I am a victim of a workplace bullying, I have given up just working for money but I don’t have inner peace. I doubt I will have motivation to work there
To summarise: ‘see the signs’, ‘talk to HR’, ‘get support’ and ‘look at yourself’. With the aim of helping others: I’ll post a better link below if I find anything helpful.
I was watching a short video of what a lawyer said and one of the first things he said was, "DO NOT QUIT YOUR JOB" and he gave his reasons why. I'm being harrased/bullied at my job and that was the first thing I thought about is to quit. 😕😕
HR will protect the bully, and railroad you,and if it’s a right to work state there’s nothing you can do. The best thing you can do is find somewhere else
Usually supervisors and HR are complicit with the worst of them. There’s only one cure to this sort of problem. It’s not in the employee handbook if you catch my drift
My supervisor gave me orders in the form of a single syllable shouted grunt. I'm British, he's Indian of a high Hindu caste, I am deaf in one ear but can cope if you speak clearly and don't shout. The grunt would yield no data, based on the context I would run through the menu of possible options while he lost his temper. I'd eventually find out what he wanted. Training to operate a printer consisted of being shouted at for 10 minutes and having to sign a piece of paper. I identified a few words, but no phrases or sentences, I learned nothing. In the eyes of this high caste Hindu I was sub human and was treated as such, I eventually just gave up and retired.
I made a mistake at work which I have since rectified. I owned up to it. A coworker humiliated me in front of everyone by calling me an underminer. I am so mad now. I want to quit not just the job, but my field.
You should be proud of yourself for admitting your mistake. Very few people do that. You are rare. I admire your actions. The person who undermined you is weak. You need to follow your intuition and your future is up to you. ❤
It is so refreshing to hear this. When I told my brother I was getting bullied he told me "I don't care" and assumed I was exaggerating. My mother was the same. Needless to say years later I treat them with open disrespect and dissent and I'm still awaiting the day they admit they were wrong. Family plays a massive role with bullying too. Doing nothing is just as bad as doing it yourself. I had no support from anyone in the world when it happened and basically received the message of go f*** yourself and "man up" from society as a collective. Message received. Now I am the cold hearted psychopath they always wanted but I'm not sure they're happy about it.
They will never admit they are wrong or apologize to you. It's ok to want that but at the same time it may serve you to accept the fact that it may never happen. I definitely understand your frustration.
Thank you. I had a screamer who was also a schemer. She was horrible. It became physical and derogatory words were used. Corporate did nothing and I filed an EEOC complaint and they fired me. Now we are in court waiting for the judge to decide if we can go to trial. Bullying causes trauma and I'm still dealing with the aftermath. You are correct that high performers and I wasn't the only one that suffered. Thank you for shedding light on this. I'm trying to share my story with others so it won't happen to them.
I'm watching this now because I feel uncomfortable and worried what's going to happen with coworkers who have been bullying/disrespect another coworker who was transferred to another workplace,because of this feeling I had to speak with union representative my job HR and their attorney when they ask me about the person being bully,I feel like a snitch by saying yes these people did bully him but I didn't mention how they disrespect me because I usually ignore people like that...yeah right what I'm going through is a bit stressful.
Hello i have no one who will currently understand me hence im writing here. I always tried to put all my efforts in work and also was doing great but i was never acknowledged, now im being targeted by two powerfull people. One who has grudge on me and the other one is friend of the first. They team up to prove me wrong even if im right. My friends chicken out instead of helping me and my boss is blamming me for overthinking and asking me to shut up. The job is important for me because I have family responsibilities. I dont know what to do please someone suggest atleast be someone to understand me.
#metoo and I leave the German Company in Germany of course, its not only in America but I think all over the world. I'm glad I managed to leave the toxic workplace which composed of european colleagues at work who are low vibes energy vampires poor souls. Thanks for sharing your knowledge and experienced . Sending love and lights 💚💥🌹🌻
You have to up your game, perfect your interview skills, and work for a company that has a good reputation. A job that is too easy to get means that employer does not conduct thorough personality assessments. Especially if they have a high turnover rate, that’s a red flag 🚩 You will find the most bullies in retail, fast food, and in security guarding. You also find them frequently in receptionist positions, RN positions, and ironically enough, in HR divisions. Call centers and cashier positions are the worst because you get bullied by hundreds of customers a day. It’s better to take into consideration what your company values are, bigger corporations seem to have better work environments. Ensure the company does not have a history of employee lawsuits against it. Lastly, make sure you understand the kind of customers you will be dealing with. Fast-pace consumers are the worst kinds of customers.
I’m currently dealing with bullying and harassment by a female co worker. It’s gotten to the point where she’s threatening to kill me and has tried to run me over with her car. I’ve gone to my management twice about her behavior but all the did was write her up.
Yes, report to the police and make a plan to leave ASAP. Unless you have signed up to be put in harm's way, no civilian job is worth that kind of threat. The company and management are responsible for keeping thier employees safe at work, rather than kicking a very dangerous can down the road. There is no excuse whatsoever for them to tolerate an employee that makes serious threats.
I've been cyberbullied in my workplace and I feel my looks attracted the bully in the first place, I did leave the place for good but how can I alter my face that attracted that bully I understand I can't wait for the bully to change Being a man of power, that person still gets people paid to cyberbully me How can I even get through this
"Shouldering the burden of proof, while having to keep up the work productivity." Great way to describe it. I have a senior developer who is bullying a group of us new hires. Corporate won't do anything because this guy has been here since forever and is a key person in most of the projects. I don't know what to do. My stomach hurts when i have to get up for work.
Zero respect for HR. They turned their heads & never investigated. They did, however, tell the abuser everytime an employee used the confidential hotline. Record them & only take your grievance to an outside agency. I was held hostage, threatened in a 4am mtg. to sign a release form to take me to a mental facility w/my GM telling me he's a doctor & my mgr. grabbing my arm to get me to sign. This was part of his smear campaign of telling the employees that I was suicidal & to stay away.
Thanks. that was helpful. Need an advice: my colleagues complained to the boss and portrayed me in a bad light. How do I behave now? I currently have a stomach ache and would prefer not to go to work at all. However, the boss said that if I don't work on myself and implement the demands of my colleagues, I can change my direction! They haven't even been honest about their own paleness and aren't helping me even though they should!
One of the managers at my job picks on me often. It’s wild, but not surprising because I’m a down to earth person who’s there to work! The other day just for example, she was being messy & said, “Melissa I’m sad you won’t miss me! I heard you text everyone that it was good to work with them & I want that text too.” Which I didn’t; My coworkers got quiet, but their faces said it all. They knew this wasn’t true!! Joke’s on her because I’m not the only one who isn’t fond of her 🤷🏽♀️
35 years ago my Manager was a screamer, at James Avery Craftsman. I discovered that James Avery himself was also a screamer. I Reported my Manager, on a questionnaire about my job performance. Reporting her only got me in trouble with my Manager. The Company did not care.
Bullying in HMRC My daughter had a campaign of nearly 18 months of bullying. When she spoke out was moved but she was not in the click. Eventually on Tuesday they got her to the point she wanted to commit suicide. One person in a high position was able to get her to breaking point. Worst thing you can do is believe you will be protected if you speak out. But life is sweet, 6 years isn't 7, I will wait because I still work there, I think I will be the next but I am not a young person I have come across these people before
Hi. I am still on my first month probationary period and I felt that I am being bullied by my direct supervisor. On my first day she told me that I am not the first choice for the position and keep on reminding me to master everything to show them I deserve to be offered the job. I tried my best. But every time I made mistakes she will close the door and bombarded me with harsh words like ‘you’re too slow’ I don’t know why the hr pick you or if I ask again she will say ‘ I already told you this. ‘ I am not allowed to ask a colleague. If she heard me asking, she will email Me saying do not ask them. In a month I developed anxiety fear and self doubt. I am not sure if I will survive 3 months.
@jessicaj9743 thank you so much for this. I will be turning 2 months in 2 weeks. And that is totally what I did. I offered everything to Him. I offered all my fears, anxiety and self doubt in my prayers. I still hear harsh words but I gain support from my colleagues. Still a long way to go but I am just staying away from any workplace dramas but trying to do good in my task hoping she will change. 💗🙏
Can't use HR, but do people find union to be more effective? Ive had comments about my body, smell, notes about my food (that I dont buy lunch like others) and drink choice (because I have a routine smoothy). Management actually shared inappropriate comments about me because "I should know". But its against my personhood, not attitude, behavior or work... my body. I think I can pursue this legally if it persists. Suggesting im gross, smell, or anything is very subjective and has no objective purpose except shame. But further more Im in an office alone. What even is this? Seems a possible dog whistle too.
When that boss is the head of your family while growing up while everybody else in the neighborhood thinks he is great no matter how often he turns on his screen to watch porn starting at 8:00 pm rain or shine then that is a problem. (Thankfully that was not my father at the time. Imagine how much the children of the head of that family was as result of gossip about that too was often getting bullied at school too as if they too were to blame.) That often went on during the 1950's and the 1960's while so called censorship was being allegedly enforced at the time.
Got something like this going on. A colleague who is like a cancer, spreading its venom... New people appear and after few weeks already show bizarre behaviour, after starting to spend time with that person. Feel good because that person makes them feel welcome in the gang and makes them feel important. After some few days already think they are more important than the ones who were there before them.
My current “ retirement part time job” makes me happy, fun, not to physically hard, extra cash. The boss who is going no where career wise made the mistake a screaming at me in front of the customers. Believe me this will only happen once. I tore him up. Now he instigated trouble through other employees. When they come to me with his demands I tell them he has to speak with me himself so I am clear with “what” he wants done. The dear boy has really opened a can of worms. Been there, done that, seen it all and have firm “respect” boundaries.
I deal with this at my apartment. Working from home and neighbors on power dynamic struggles has severely hampered my productivity and personal safety. Good advice. It takes time and really sucks.
I was top sales in my last 2 jobs and was bullied out of both. One was a unionized environment and they did nothing to help me. I got another job that is not directly in sales, but of course my performance is still measured. Because I am close to retirement age and want this job to supplement my pension, I am coasting. I turned down advancement. I am not going to. threaten the insecure people. If I were younger, I obviously would want to be more competitive but at this stage it's in my own best interest to not be a top performer.
Thank you so much for that message i will take your advice and yes i am also dealing with a workplace Bully and He is Very Mean!,Curses,and talks very mean and nasty and hollers very Loud! out of Angry and i have been ignoring him and that has not helped he needs to be Gone! and to Never be allowed back ever again.
One i know is a narcissist! Do the work he tells you to, in the way he says and in the same order. I finish the jobs but he says its wasting time. NOT!
I got an entire company harassing and bullying me. Its a small town and the owner is a powerful politician. I believe she is giving orders. But they always trying to say things are missing. They act like im a puece of crap. I think they broke my car so i would break down. Its getting bad they follow me. They got my neighbors spying on me. I don't know what to do.
I’m dealing with Someone like this now in the workplace. This guy is absolutely disgusting, I really want to give up. I believe he’s trying to set me up to be fired! Individuals who try to sabotage another worker is just evil and pathetic to me. It’s very demoralizing to deal with such a person.
Same! And agree. Hang in there and get support. You're worth it
exactly!! specially with the ones using religion to attack with the Bible on hand and teaming up!!!
@@fotter9567Well I just wanted to say that if this is any type of discrimination due to your ASD, please do report it. This isn’t supposed to happen. Since the pandemic some places have gotten sloppy…but others have clamped down. You’re allowed to have boundaries. You’re allowed to be accommodated if you need that. Why does it feel like we are going backwards? Ugh! I wish you lots of luck. Keep your foot down and if this toxic workplace environment continues, you need to leave for your own good! Do they have an EAP? (Employee Assistance Program). Those are great I highly recommend you access any resources and therapy you can.
I have the same thing going on right now, and he’s manipulating everyone else to kind of turn against me, but listen my friend, he hasn’t been there in 2 days and in those 2 days I found out everyone else dislikes him as much as I do! So hang in there. Things will get better and if they don’t tell someone, tell HR, tell whoever you need to to get support and speak to your supervisor about it, and where you stand on your work with them, and not this individual, if it’s your supervisor being the bully, go to the next person you feel comfortable with. I really really pray it gets better for both of us. Be true to you tho first. You are worth it, you are important, and you are accepted! ❤
@Ashbash-kf5xd You just gave away one of the bully's biggest secrets. They will work tirelessly and relentlessly to convince everyone else around them that they are so well-liked by the others around them that you dare not ever say anything bad about them. IT'S A TRICK. It's usually never true. Usually, just like you said, everyone else actually dislikes the bully and thinks THEY are a loser. They never want you to know this secret, because they believe most of their power lies in fooling people into thinking they are something they are not (a decent and respectable person).
I always attract workplace bullying out of being a high performer. HR and bosses have never helped so I changed my behaviour and stopped being such a high performer. It’s a private company not a worker-owned cooperative the relationship is entirely transactional. Only work hard enough not to get fired. If they wanted more out of you then they would treat you better.
I really don't get why the high performer gets bullied. Isn't that what management wants? A workhorse? You'd think it makes their lives easier, they don't have to lift a finger to keep their useless jobs.
@@rockhaze because the managers are insecure and on the spectrum of one or more mental disorders where social status is extremely important to them and the workhorse is seen as a threat to their social status.
Take one thousand people representing the entire variety of the human population’s personalities. Now line them up in order of how important social status is to them. All of the managers are going to be on the high end.
This always happens to me do because I’m a high performer. It’s a shame. Bullies peg you as a threat and start trouble and trauma.
My supervisor is totally toxic gossiping with my co workers all day she micromanaged me every day such an ugly environment thank God I found a better job 🙏🏼
I have this happening to me now. Guys in his 50s who's a service manager by the way... you'd think he's old enough to have gained some maturity. Nope. The guy is an overgrown frat boy, talks an insane amount of shit about employees, enough that would get him fired in any other workplace, but won't since he's best buds with the boss outside of work.
Dont go into it, just run if its serious. Do not deal with evil, dont escalate, no HR, no manager involved. They know! Find something, do not show or talk that you want to leave, dont give them time and just leave. Dont tell them the reason you quit and dont tell where you go. They can try to harm you even when you change company.
I’d add to block anyone from that company on LinkedIn and other social media, in case you want to update your job status but are concerned they will find out where you went and try to contact your current employers. I have overheard managers speak of contacting ex-employees’ new jobs.
@@xdproductions3087 They can get sued for that if you can prove it. If you can, I wouldn't hold back, suck them for every penny like they sucked you.
Unfortunately, my supervisor is part of the problem
Stay strong.. I'm going thru the same shit, i ignored them and took the high road but now they just make up a whole ass life, when i do respond and confront; it's always "oh I was talking to so and so" and "oh no I didn't mean you" or just speaking in another language.. it's to the point where I started to second guess myself and think I was just being paranoid. I've worked there for almost 3 years in September and it's just been this year with the theatrics. Won't say it to my face or when I'm around them it's always behind my back. Now I would never resort to such tactics but I can totally see how a workplace 🔫 can occur or how someone could be driven to it.
mine too. you are definitely not alone.
Dark Triads gravitate towards management.🤨
They usually are.
@@sethritchie4032 I'm sorry you're going through this too and I hope things have gotten better for you.
People at work are not your friends. Knowing that is the biggest step toward not being a target of bullying or manipulation. The next step is learning to speak up when you start to resent something.
I feel like speaking up only makes you a target, because then they are aware that YOU are aware, and then they feel the need to double-down to silence/squelch you.
The bullies at my job are the ones that wouldn't no one else will hire!!
Yes this bullying has been happening since high school, it’s always that one person that lacks confidence in themselves, and the bully tends to manipulate others to make me look bad! People bully me because I am confident nice polite down to earth, going above and beyond at my job and lazy people hate that. I’m always thinking positive even though my personal life is broken specially since I lost one of my kids. I’m afraid to complain because people tend to believe the bully lies over the truth
I'm so sorry for your loss. You're blessed in spirit and kindness and have taught anyone who has read your message, how to add value to life in the face of great loss. You're still setting an example on how to live with purpose for your children and those around you. I'm not sure of your beliefs on death, but I feel that your child will be so proud of you when you're reunited after this life. You're walking a divine and high path - it's often a solo journey that is meant to elevate your life purpose and soul consciousness and also is to teach others that they can choose different paths and can attempt to reach the heights you walk at or maybe go higher in time. And lastly, you're totally right abt how bullies are often protected and the victim is further harmed. I wish I had advice for you. Tmrw I'm going no communication with my work place bully. In the sense that I won't be available for his toxic language and energy. I will keep or dialogue to a strict minimum - he should be ok with it bc it's obvs he hates me and hates engaging with me. I've chosen to see him as solidly as a foe and I won't allow myself to engage with trying to fix the situation bw us. He chose his path. I'll try my new path out and keep a robotic business only dialogue with him. I won't respond if he asks me anything that is beyond his job title.
I recently got fired from making a formal complaint to my bullying and despicable line manager. Remember guys, leave the place. No place deserves our value for dehumanizing us.
Amen. I’m glad that you left. Forgive doesn’t mean continuing to expose yourself to wicked behavior or acting like it didn’t happen.
@@jeannemarie3704 so if you quit what happens to your pension also what about health insurance I hope I framed the question right. When I say YOUR pension I’m just asking in general.
Currently going through something similar how did you handle the workplace gossip?
2.26.24. Quick update. I QUIT one month ago I worked in that place over 20 years and I left (with notice) quietly. Mobbing at work and they were so “shocked” when I resigned Word spreads fast. They have to guess about my where about and where I’m going next. Moved in silence. I politely ignored the exit interview that they emailed to me.
@@skinnypopcorn22-md2dp You're smart for not revealing where you are going. Only to have them start making random phone calls or emails to your new office talking trash about you. Some employers are like that, they bully you, and then when you leave, they get upset that you left and are no longer their target of harassment, so they get back at you by, unfortunately, stalking you and trying any which way to derail you.
HR can be the victims’ enemy
Correct when the bully is a favorite and plays them.
Of course, HR is for management only it seems
I am going through it for 2 years 😢😭😭😭 now HR is part of a bullying
@@milenamehari2256 I've been there too. Fortunately/unfortunately I left in the middle of the "investigation" they started. The bullies I had knew how to play HR and then were falsely stating things about my behavior. I was told to escalate the issue within HR, therefore ask that whomever is the HR person handling your complaint get removed from your case and ask for someone higher in authority to take over. Before doing so, I would try to see the person higher up would be sympathetic to your case. I had someone else working at a different company do that, and the results were in her favor as the first person handling her complaint would dismiss every matter that was brought up. I also find, that HR may tell you that something isn't legitimately an issue when in reality it truly is a legal issue- HR will try to bluff/gaslight you. In the end, its really important to have a plan B and C and D... which is to leave.
They hate to have their nail polishing time disrupted.
So glad you mentioned bullying at the workplace is trauma
I developed PTSD from a toxic work environment. Bullying is dangerous when companies continue to turn a blind eye. Companies should be held liable for turning a blind eye. Note, I was in a high level HR position and bullied by the boss. I was being forced to do things to employees that were not right. I fought for the employees but in return I was psychologically tormented by upper management and still suffer today.
I had a coworker try to gaslight me and I pulled up receipts. I’m on guard going forward.
HR is looking out for the company NOT you. If you go to HR, you will probably get fired next.
This is absolutely true! HR is not your friend and they will not represent an employee under duress. Best to make an escape plan and leave.
I went to HR they effectively relocated me. (I blew the whistle for Sexual harassment) about 5 months later when another woman was hired (this was an all male team other than me) he was fired. I wonder why 🤔
im a nurse and Im being bullied by doctors and nurses in a clinic - if ur a nurse manager and nurses keep quiting you have a bullying problem. And there is almost nowhere to report it.
And they blame you for being the troublemaker if you decide to speak out and ask for help. I’ll just shut my mouth and not interact at all.
Sadly
Number 4 .
Stand up for your self !
The question why we atracting this behaviour ....? They target the people who are not like them ,people who have integrity that is someting bullies do not have . I'm a target who fire back at them ,so what ever they throw at me will come back to them .
People do not let assholes to destroy who you are . Called them out in the meeting front of other coworkers ,they are cowards allways operating in the group ,you need strong personality to deal with them .
@jessicaj9743 My biss is manipulated by my evil managers against me. If he believes their lies, I can lose my job and die. When a Christian is slandered, they must expose the lies. You hurt only their egoes, not their bodies.
This is easier said than done. Some bullies use the system against you under the guise of “productive management”. It can also happen over time with the pressure gradually getting worse.
Agree it just worst until you break
Yes. I just got a promotion as well as numerous new clients who insist that I work with them. I have a very nasty coworker who is basically impossible and always creates major drama at work. But usually when managers aren’t present. Her jealousy went through the roof. And since I have already experienced this persons crazy behavior in the past, I knew it wouldn’t be long before she acted out again.
The day before her huge blowup, the manger actually pulled me aside and asked me if I’d ever had issues with her because other coworkers are complaining.
I told him of a few very unpleasant incidents. He told me that he has been taking note.
Then, today. She didn’t get something she wanted at work and she literally called me a retard. She also said that I don’t take accountability and that I’m very irresponsible in life.
This was entirely crazy talk. (An attempt to undermine me and my position at work).
Funny but I have my position due to my high level of responsible behavior as well as my professionalism at work.
I did not apply for my position or ask for it. The manager confronted me and told me that they considered me to be the perfect person for the position beneath them and also for my general attitude at work.
Anyway. I stood up to the crazy, nasty, super negative, name calling co-worker.
Nobody likes her and everyone secretly wishes she’d quit but I hope she gets fired for how terribly she abuses others.
If I called somebody a “retard” at work, I’m 100% certain that I’d be fired straight away. So hopefully the same will apply to her.
I’m trying to build a tough shell so that I don’t get rattled by workplace assholes. I think I’m doing well but admittedly I hate shitheads. I’m absolutely unwilling to play games.
You’re calling out people that don’t care and do not have a conscience. It’s like dealing with reprobates. Dealing with robots. Sometimes it’s not worth the “fight”. Each person’s case is different. Call them out in front of other coworkers? Suppose it’s mobbing by BOTH coworkers and bosses. What then?
I have a colleague that the others co-workers doesn't talk to her, they are doing the silent treatment, and because I treat her well, sometimes one of those colleagues mistreats me with bad comments, thankfully I go to the office only once a week, because If I had to go every day I wouldn't make it.
If you live in a one party consent state purchase a small recording device and keep it in your pocket at work. Then it'll document the rude comments for you.
Don't like #5. Like you said, high performers are more likely to attract bullies.
Facts
I was a victim of workplace bullying about a year and a half ago. And I got to be honest I think that the people in charge didn't take it seriously because I'm male and the person who is doing the bullying was female but that shouldn't matter. Eventually the person was talk to they were disciplined but ultimately they left the company of their own accord. I wasn't the only one sometimes it was very indiscriminate who she would go after I saw her bring one young lady to tears over nothing. she would always blame her outburst on having bipolar disorder which I can sympathize for anybody who has that but the people around you don't want to be yelled at and berated every day regardless of what the reason is. Anyway your video was great thank you so much😊
@jessicaj9743 hey thanks for your words of encouragement and thanks for replying
I could have even wrote this, identical situation and feelings
It matters. Gender dynamics are changing in the world and part of that could mean females targeting males. Just as unacceptable as vice versa! From a female anti-bullying friend!
This happened to me so many times and I was fired so many times due to bullies in the work place. Today, I have mastered thus since 2016 when God told me to study Narcissim. Then it explained covert, overt, and Gaslighting. I learned this like I was getting a degree in it. Now, I minister and help people about it. I just ministered to a lady about it while at a dental visit. EVERYTHING YOU SAID HERE MS. CLARKE (Dr. Clarke I prefer to call you) is just what I said to her. It is traumatic, awful social, emotional and mental abuse. It even happened to me before in church by a pastor. No one should ever go through this.
You are a blessing. Now, I boldly confront and call you out and you to stay away from me, or I'll put that pen in your life called harassment. I'm subscribed and now your biggest fan.
I am engaged in suing the supervisor for this type of behavior.
Go Shannon !!
I'm not suing but I have reported to 3 different organizations. This is the most empowering thing I've done in my entire life.
Yes, these bulliies are really evil and manipulative.
My boss is bully who bullied an autistic girl so bad that she took her own life. Even worse the company covered it over and that woman is still there. She is now doing the same thing to others.
Woooow thats terrible ):
My guess is that bullies like that are if they can overdiagnosing children with autism too if they have the credentials to do so.
I've learned that a huge majority of people who are work place bullies have ( a lot of personal issues ) inside of their household due to adult children / and they're bringing it to work and i hear it All the time@@iligalvan
HR is there to protect the management.
yep
dang, even remote work doesn't protect against bullying.
They fire the victim- the other workers side with the bully to avoid being bullied (triangulation) so all the supervisor sees is you- the problem. Talk and you get fired.
Yep. Best to leave
You aren't wrong.
If one confronts one's boss, who is the bully, they can fire you.
And if you’re wrongfully let go and can prove it. You have a case. Find resources to see if you have a case so you can SUE!
Document everything
I'm waiting for this b$_&h to fire me. I look forward to it.
I will collect unemployment like a champ 🏆
@@mariecampbell3373Consider carefully, if this ends with you being fired, keep in mind, for every job interview thereafter, you must offer an explanation as to why you were fired.
Also, ideally, one must try not to disparage one's former boss or workplace.
You also can sue them.
I was bullied at my old job. I couldn't take it anymore. I tired with HR and manager. Sadly, the managers didn't help and thought I'm the problem. I'm hard worker, kind to everyone and the customers. I left and found a better job. It's weird when started a new job and everyone is so kind and they all talk to me.
Thanks some much for this. I went through something like this about a year ago with a former manager. Needless to say I took action and after she realized that they were on to her, she resigned.
Wow, it sounds like we had the same manager .
What do you mean by took action?
Know thyself... Stand up for your good contributions... Results will always silence the Bully💼
Actually my bully used my contributions to attack me with them.
Record every interaction with said bully on your smart phone. Play it for HR and tell them it must stop or there will be legal action.
I am a victim of a workplace bullying, I have given up just working for money but I don’t have inner peace. I doubt I will have motivation to work there
To summarise: ‘see the signs’, ‘talk to HR’, ‘get support’ and ‘look at yourself’. With the aim of helping others: I’ll post a better link below if I find anything helpful.
I work in a hostile environment. It was already hostile before I took the position.
Besides resigning. What do I do?
Your mental well being is far more important than fighting something that’s not worth fighting for, find another job quietly
Its not always that easy get another job.
Been in 5 toxic bully jobs
I've started researching employment lawyers.
I was watching a short video of what a lawyer said and one of the first things he said was, "DO NOT QUIT YOUR JOB" and he gave his reasons why. I'm being harrased/bullied at my job and that was the first thing I thought about is to quit. 😕😕
@@Theowlhawk. Most of those jobs have a 100% tolerance for bullying. “They” LOVE it.
HR will protect the bully, and railroad you,and if it’s a right to work state there’s nothing you can do. The best thing you can do is find somewhere else
Usually supervisors and HR are complicit with the worst of them. There’s only one cure to this sort of problem. It’s not in the employee handbook if you catch my drift
Thanks Ginny. I’m going to look at the resources you recommended.
My supervisor gave me orders in the form of a single syllable shouted grunt. I'm British, he's Indian of a high Hindu caste, I am deaf in one ear but can cope if you speak clearly and don't shout. The grunt would yield no data, based on the context I would run through the menu of possible options while he lost his temper. I'd eventually find out what he wanted.
Training to operate a printer consisted of being shouted at for 10 minutes and having to sign a piece of paper. I identified a few words, but no phrases or sentences, I learned nothing.
In the eyes of this high caste Hindu I was sub human and was treated as such, I eventually just gave up and retired.
I have a manager like this. I am performing very well. This is toxic behavior.
Just saying that for kids suffering from playground/school bullies, it's just as real 😢
@EYRM9 I have a different believe system, thanks for sharing though. My child is doing better these days.
Lady you are the 1st one to stay stand your ground. Most consultants in your business are basically telliing people to be punch bags.
I made a mistake at work which I have since rectified. I owned up to it. A coworker humiliated me in front of everyone by calling me an underminer. I am so mad now. I want to quit not just the job, but my field.
You should be proud of yourself for admitting your mistake. Very few people do that. You are rare. I admire your actions. The person who undermined you is weak. You need to follow your intuition and your future is up to you. ❤
It is so refreshing to hear this. When I told my brother I was getting bullied he told me "I don't care" and assumed I was exaggerating. My mother was the same. Needless to say years later I treat them with open disrespect and dissent and I'm still awaiting the day they admit they were wrong. Family plays a massive role with bullying too. Doing nothing is just as bad as doing it yourself. I had no support from anyone in the world when it happened and basically received the message of go f*** yourself and "man up" from society as a collective. Message received. Now I am the cold hearted psychopath they always wanted but I'm not sure they're happy about it.
I am experiencing the exact same scenario. Thanks for sharing. I don't feel so alone now.
They will never admit they are wrong or apologize to you. It's ok to want that but at the same time it may serve you to accept the fact that it may never happen. I definitely understand your frustration.
Very eloquent lady. Excellent advice.
What if HR is the bully?
theres nothing u can do about that
after years of staying in the company, slap the resignation letter and leave that's it
Leave the org. They’ll get sued eventually. Also sometimes karma kicks in visibly and bullies kick the bucket. I’ve seen this happen twice.
Bullying in all forms. At work and school need to be illegal.
Thank you. I had a screamer who was also a schemer. She was horrible. It became physical and derogatory words were used. Corporate did nothing and I filed an EEOC complaint and they fired me. Now we are in court waiting for the judge to decide if we can go to trial. Bullying causes trauma and I'm still dealing with the aftermath. You are correct that high performers and I wasn't the only one that suffered. Thank you for shedding light on this. I'm trying to share my story with others so it won't happen to them.
I'm watching this now because I feel uncomfortable and worried what's going to happen with coworkers who have been bullying/disrespect another coworker who was transferred to another workplace,because of this feeling I had to speak with union representative my job HR and their attorney when they ask me about the person being bully,I feel like a snitch by saying yes these people did bully him but I didn't mention how they disrespect me because I usually ignore people like that...yeah right what I'm going through is a bit stressful.
Hello i have no one who will currently understand me hence im writing here. I always tried to put all my efforts in work and also was doing great but i was never acknowledged, now im being targeted by two powerfull people. One who has grudge on me and the other one is friend of the first. They team up to prove me wrong even if im right. My friends chicken out instead of helping me and my boss is blamming me for overthinking and asking me to shut up. The job is important for me because I have family responsibilities. I dont know what to do please someone suggest atleast be someone to understand me.
HR is not what it used to be. They support the big salaried players and are instrumental in getting rid if shakers and movers. Meh.
#metoo and I leave the German Company in Germany of course, its not only in America but I think all over the world. I'm glad I managed to leave the toxic workplace which composed of european colleagues at work who are low vibes energy vampires poor souls. Thanks for sharing your knowledge and experienced . Sending love and lights 💚💥🌹🌻
You have to up your game, perfect your interview skills, and work for a company that has a good reputation.
A job that is too easy to get means that employer does not conduct thorough personality assessments. Especially if they have a high turnover rate, that’s a red flag 🚩
You will find the most bullies in retail, fast food, and in security guarding. You also find them frequently in receptionist positions, RN positions, and ironically enough, in HR divisions.
Call centers and cashier positions are the worst because you get bullied by hundreds of customers a day.
It’s better to take into consideration what your company values are, bigger corporations seem to have better work environments. Ensure the company does not have a history of employee lawsuits against it.
Lastly, make sure you understand the kind of customers you will be dealing with. Fast-pace consumers are the worst kinds of customers.
I’ve heard about bullying in nursing. You said easy jobs tend to have bullies. How is obtaining an RN license easy?
I’m currently dealing with bullying and harassment by a female co worker. It’s gotten to the point where she’s threatening to kill me and has tried to run me over with her car. I’ve gone to my management twice about her behavior but all the did was write her up.
You need to report that to police then.
Yes, report to the police and make a plan to leave ASAP. Unless you have signed up to be put in harm's way, no civilian job is worth that kind of threat. The company and management are responsible for keeping thier employees safe at work, rather than kicking a very dangerous can down the road. There is no excuse whatsoever for them to tolerate an employee that makes serious threats.
I've been cyberbullied in my workplace and I feel my looks attracted the bully in the first place, I did leave the place for good but how can I alter my face that attracted that bully
I understand I can't wait for the bully to change
Being a man of power, that person still gets people paid to cyberbully me
How can I even get through this
Main reason why I quit without notice. I was smallest employee in warehouse both physically and weight wise and was harassed all day long for it
"Shouldering the burden of proof, while having to keep up the work productivity." Great way to describe it. I have a senior developer who is bullying a group of us new hires. Corporate won't do anything because this guy has been here since forever and is a key person in most of the projects. I don't know what to do. My stomach hurts when i have to get up for work.
Zero respect for HR. They turned their heads & never investigated. They did, however, tell the abuser everytime an employee used the confidential hotline.
Record them & only take your grievance to an outside agency. I was held hostage, threatened in a 4am mtg. to sign a release form to take me to a mental facility w/my GM telling me he's a doctor & my mgr. grabbing my arm to get me to sign. This was part of his smear campaign of telling the employees that I was suicidal & to stay away.
Omg!!! 😮😮 what?? Oh I hope you just ran out and quit. That is so terrible..
Beautiful clear voice. Sounds like a podcast!
Thanks. that was helpful. Need an advice: my colleagues complained to the boss and portrayed me in a bad light. How do I behave now? I currently have a stomach ache and would prefer not to go to work at all. However, the boss said that if I don't work on myself and implement the demands of my colleagues, I can change my direction! They haven't even been honest about their own paleness and aren't helping me even though they should!
One of the managers at my job picks on me often. It’s wild, but not surprising because I’m a down to earth person who’s there to work! The other day just for example, she was being messy & said, “Melissa I’m sad you won’t miss me! I heard you text everyone that it was good to work with them & I want that text too.” Which I didn’t; My coworkers got quiet, but their faces said it all. They knew this wasn’t true!! Joke’s on her because I’m not the only one who isn’t fond of her 🤷🏽♀️
35 years ago my Manager was a screamer, at James Avery Craftsman. I discovered that James Avery himself was also a screamer. I Reported my Manager, on a questionnaire about my job performance. Reporting her only got me in trouble with my Manager. The Company did not care.
My lead gets upset with me and my coworker yet yells all night long how he needs our help. But is BFF with other co workers from other departments
Bullying in HMRC
My daughter had a campaign of nearly 18 months of bullying. When she spoke out was moved but she was not in the click.
Eventually on Tuesday they got her to the point she wanted to commit suicide.
One person in a high position was able to get her to breaking point.
Worst thing you can do is believe you will be protected if you speak out.
But life is sweet, 6 years isn't 7, I will wait because I still work there, I think I will be the next but I am not a young person I have come across these people before
Well this was a complete waste of time........
THANK YOU for acknowleding the metaphysical realm!
HR SUCKS. always. Never for the employee ALWAYS supports Management and the Organization at large
Hi. I am still on my first month probationary period and I felt that I am being bullied by my direct supervisor. On my first day she told me that I am not the first choice for the position and keep on reminding me to master everything to show them I deserve to be offered the job. I tried my best. But every time I made mistakes she will close the door and bombarded me with harsh words like ‘you’re too slow’ I don’t know why the hr pick you or if I ask again she will say ‘ I already told you this. ‘ I am not allowed to ask a colleague. If she heard me asking, she will email
Me saying do not ask them. In a month I developed anxiety fear and self doubt. I am not sure if I will survive 3 months.
@jessicaj9743 thank you so much for this. I will be turning 2 months in 2 weeks. And that is totally what I did. I offered everything to Him. I offered all my fears, anxiety and self doubt in my prayers. I still hear harsh words but I gain support from my colleagues. Still a long way to go but I am just staying away from any workplace dramas but trying to do good in my task hoping she will change. 💗🙏
“… performance rating and compensation didn’t seem to align with my achievements and contributions…”
Can't use HR, but do people find union to be more effective?
Ive had comments about my body, smell, notes about my food (that I dont buy lunch like others) and drink choice (because I have a routine smoothy).
Management actually shared inappropriate comments about me because "I should know". But its against my personhood, not attitude, behavior or work... my body.
I think I can pursue this legally if it persists. Suggesting im gross, smell, or anything is very subjective and has no objective purpose except shame. But further more Im in an office alone.
What even is this? Seems a possible dog whistle too.
When that boss is the head of your family while growing up while everybody else in the neighborhood thinks he is great no matter how often he turns on his screen to watch porn starting at 8:00 pm rain or shine then that is a problem. (Thankfully that was not my father at the time. Imagine how much the children of the head of that family was as result of gossip about that too was often getting bullied at school too as if they too were to blame.) That often went on during the 1950's and the 1960's while so called censorship was being allegedly enforced at the time.
I’m currently being bullyied by a coworker and the hr manager
HR is protection for the organization. Going to them doesn’t help. It’s better to confront the bully yourself.
Got something like this going on.
A colleague who is like a cancer, spreading its venom...
New people appear and after few weeks already show bizarre behaviour, after starting to spend time with that person.
Feel good because that person makes them feel welcome in the gang and makes them feel important.
After some few days already think they are more important than the ones who were there before them.
My current “ retirement part time job” makes me happy, fun, not to physically hard, extra cash. The boss who is going no where career wise made the mistake a screaming at me in front of the customers. Believe me this will only happen once. I tore him up. Now he instigated trouble through other employees. When they come to me with his demands I tell them he has to speak with me himself so I am clear with “what” he wants done. The dear boy has really opened a can of worms. Been there, done that, seen it all and have firm “respect” boundaries.
That last point she made was priceless. All my jobs, I have had women f--k with me.
And I feel as if I am cursed.
I’m afraid to escalate as it’d be backfiring me - is it possible to escalate over the direct report? I don’t see the way
Whn u hve a supervisor who always with the ppl bullying. So they don’t get any discipline so they keep on doing
If workplace bully is very influential what can we do?
Underrated channel , Im so happy I found you
I deal with this at my apartment. Working from home and neighbors on power dynamic struggles has severely hampered my productivity and personal safety. Good advice. It takes time and really sucks.
Can we talk narcissist at work please
There are so many people at my job that are trying to hurt me and I don’t know why.
I was top sales in my last 2 jobs and was bullied out of both. One was a unionized environment and they did nothing to help me.
I got another job that is not directly in sales, but of course my performance is still measured. Because I am close to retirement age and want this job to supplement my pension, I am coasting. I turned down advancement. I am not going to. threaten the insecure people. If I were younger, I obviously would want to be more competitive but at this stage it's in my own best interest to not be a top performer.
Great video. 🙏🏿💪🏿🏁
Doesn’t help that her and the big manager are best friends
Where can I get the article? Currently going through this and I have to leave my career behind because of it
Facts
Thank you so much for that message i will take your advice and yes i am also dealing with a workplace Bully and He is Very Mean!,Curses,and talks very mean and nasty and hollers very Loud! out of Angry and i have been ignoring him and that has not helped he needs to be Gone! and to Never be allowed back ever again.
One i know is a narcissist! Do the work he tells you to, in the way he says and in the same order. I finish the jobs but he says its wasting time. NOT!
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I got an entire company harassing
and bullying me. Its a small town and the owner is a powerful politician. I believe she is giving orders. But they always trying to say things are missing. They act like im a puece of crap. I think they broke my car so i would break down. Its getting bad they follow me. They got my neighbors spying on me. I don't know what to do.
Thank you so much for the helpful video and pointing out tips on how to stand up for yourself at work.
you are awesome
Love the video
Great advice. Thank you!
Wow thank you so much. This was really great 👍
powerful. Thank you.
This is terrible advice, even to to say your attracting this bullying. Put the blame on the bully!!
Jobs 😒 what a toxic, thank for me I got lucky.