At the end of the day, the only person we will have to see every time we look in the mirror is ourselves so I think it's best to make sure we are proud of what we see when we look in that mirror
@@verbose9062 Don’t care what people think, if they don’t want to be near you, so be it. But what I was saying is don’t live to please people, don’t let them tell you what to do or say.
@@theghost783that isn’t at all what you said. “It’s easier to piss people off, fun as heck too”. Yea don’t do this. Pissing people off is STILL caring what they think enough to piss them off. The whole point is to not do anything because of others. Exist in your own world, interacting with them is a personal gain when you want it to be. Don’t be an asshole because why not
Thanks for sharing with us, i personally think you are attractive as heck so don’t listen to the people that says otherwise, have a nice day Abe. Peace✌🏻
I knew from a very young age, that I wouldn't fit in with the others, so I got comfortable living life on my own. I just can't fake a personality. Living inauthentically isn't my style.
TL;DR I can really relate to this, for me VRChat helped a lot in fixing the issue. i used to be just like how you were, being easily afraid of social situations. probably a different root of the problem, however, being the fear of being perceived as a pervert, or creepy, or weird due to many societal factors. I play VRChat, learn to not have to be so embarrassed, my reddened face isn't even seen. That's how I learned to just talk to people, and it's helped me a lot more. Honestly, VRchat is such a great game in my opinion, and it helps you also learn to socialize... as long as you don't let it consume you. All things in moderation, especially anything on the Internet. stay safe, y'all
hi! :) i like how you say "live authentically", it demonstrates you understand that people like to be around trustworthy people(people who don't lie to themselves or others) however, i would like to point out it could potentially mislabel what you were doing in regards to the video(OPENING UP about your problems) what you were really doing, is that you were talking to others about yourself, not in a selfish and narcissitic way, but in a wholesome and genuine way you talk about yourself in a way that makes you seem human not to demean the importance of ASKING QUESTIONS and SHOWING INTEREST in others, but talking about yourself, in a real and genuine way(whether it be funny or emotional) and then showing interest in others(also in a genuine way) is a tried and true way to become great with anyone and everyone
Hey man, great video. I felt like I really connected and related to this video because I find myself always comparing myself to other dudes that I’m trying so hard to look like and you’ve helped me realize that I haven’t been living like who I really am and that I’ve lost sight of my true self. I now understand what I need to change in order to live authentically and to stop people pleasing. Thank you 🙏
I never thought I'd find someone so relatable to my own experiences. I'm really insecure because I've been bullied all my life because my hair is straight (1A type) and EVERYONE has fluffy hair and I tried everything to get it and nothing works. But hey man, you're amazing bro, I wish we could be friends. You deserve the best❤
This is the only real video for this problem, big respect from here, I wanted to attract EVERYONE to, but I realized, il focus on my self, make my self feel good and happy, and then focus on others,❤
@@sprucegum7118go ahead and delete that troll comment. MMA is a fighting style, anyone can learn and train MMA. You don’t “fight on MMA” maybe you are trying to refer to UFC? One Championship?
Yeah I’ve been doing it for years, living my authentic life, just who I am, but if your environment doesn’t contain any individuals who accept your authentic self then it doesn’t matter, you still have nobody
Honestly I did what you told in the video unknowingly for a while now and it was exactly how you'd described it. During my grade 12th right my classmates are the ones trying to converse to me and bear in mind im just an introvert whos just happens to have a easy time talking to people but i just prefer not too. All I did was be kind to everyone and focus on what I enjoy and study and yeah some of my classmates just do not like me and thats okay, not everyone will like you no matter how good you are too them and sorry if it too long xd
Sorry for the delayed upload, the software I used for editing was banned for a little but we pushed through and managed to still get the vid out. I hope you enjoy it and stay strong out there ❤
Ironically, anyone who tries to be magnetic purposefully will fail. Here's why: they want people's attention. It violates rules 1,2, and 4 that I outlined below. --> How to be magnetic (In my opinion): 1.) Don't take anything seriously ~displaying a lack of attachment shows you are grounded 2.) Never try to impress someone ~treat everything like play 3.) Hide nothing about yourself and express yourself ~people who hide things about themselves are insecure 4.) Never need anything from anyone ~Displaying a need for attention, money, status, food, sleep, literally anything will make you repulsive 5.) Never apologize for anything you do, especially when pressed ~People who apologize will appear to lack either foresight, confidence, or both 6.) Be an interested and curious person ~Being interested in things shows you have vitality and a love for life To be magnetic, it means you must captivate people. You draw their attention and admiration simply by existing. It's not necessarily about being respected, or liked, as much as it is being interesting and desirable. What you are aiming for is for people to look at you and think *"How is that person so comfortable in every situation? I need to pay attention to them to learn how I can do that"*
It's important to lose some respect for others. Yes many are below you, you do them a favor by addressing them, not the other way around. Many also are just actually intimidated, jealous, or making a bunch of assumptions about you. thus the cold shoulder.
Problem is if you are in America, people will find a reason for you to be unhappy. I have experienced nicer people everywhere else in the world. The terms “nerd”, “push-over”, “friend-zone” sums up American culture with less than 300 years of history and a horrible cuisine
Yes other than the problem is most women or atleast the ones ive been with and talked to dont care as much about looks its all height which is something noone can control
Damn, you probably capping man, low self esteem hits like a truck. I got low self esteem sometimes but I ain’t ugly. I know that im.p just average, you prob are too
From what I've learned, if you just keep working on yourself then your confidence will naturally increase because you will have more to be confident about. Stay strong man
From what I've learned, a lot of it comes down to putting yourself out there as much as possible while staying authentic and your chances of finding someone who is attracted to who you are will increase. Keep up the good work bro
If you're NOT a murderer, rapist, terrorist or anything bad then you just talk to people. People are normal and want friends too. As someone who used to be shy it gets easier. Beer helps too but hopefully you don't need that.
I used to be ugly because i didn't take care of myself and had long hair. Now i think I'm more attractive than before, but... People didn't care like, it was so weird for me. I thought now talking to girls would be easier, but I'm so fucking nervous, when i interact with them my lips just shiver and i feel like a total idiot. I also have a problem that because i don't get much attention from girls and when one girl out of nowhere starts talking with me etc i just fall for her immediately even though I don't know her. I am fckin ready to live the rest of my life with her etc just because she gave me some attention. I don't know how to escape this kind of thinking and also I don't have noone to talk to about that, so I'm glad i can at least write it here
I really appreciate you sharing that bro. What I've learned is that sometimes it just takes practice talking to girl despite the struggle and eventually you will improve. And with the chasing, I think it's best to focus on improving yourself and you will naturally stop chasing as much the more and longer you become obsessed with improving and living your life the way you want to
Dude, you look exactly the same as the picture from the first few seconds. The only thing that changed is your hairstyle, the fact that you went out of puberty, the lightning and the camera lens 😂😂 How tf can people cope so hard???
That phrase "you are atractive... but not for everyone" is strong. I needed to hear this. Thanks and good luck on your journey
Try to make everyone happy, you'll never make anyone happy. Least of all yourself.
So true
Yes, and that's all that matters.
Attractive people live after their own principles instead of seeking validation from everyone
This is entirely it.
This video is so much more wholesome than expected.
I hope you got value bro, stay strong out there
@@AbeOtt24 Thank you! Wish you the best aswell.
I never thought I was handsome until some lady tolɗ me around this time last year "do you know that you're a fyn boy???", I was like this in my mind☺️
Your so lucky bro I am jealous of you😅
😆
what does fyn boy mean
@@desmomddoe7978 It's a funny way to spell "fine", which means hot or attractive.
@@armannstraughter3296 oh, appreciate it
This was amazing thank you for sharing, I honestly heavily relate with your journey too, this defo hit home
I’m glad to hear you found the video valuable bro, stay strong out there
Remember, it's easyier to piss people off than to make them happy, fun as heck too. Live to please nobody but yourself
At the end of the day, the only person we will have to see every time we look in the mirror is ourselves so I think it's best to make sure we are proud of what we see when we look in that mirror
Having no friends, no partner, nobody wanting to be near you or spend time with you doesn’t sound “fun as heck”.
@@verbose9062 Don’t care what people think, if they don’t want to be near you, so be it. But what I was saying is don’t live to please people, don’t let them tell you what to do or say.
@@theghost783that isn’t at all what you said. “It’s easier to piss people off, fun as heck too”. Yea don’t do this. Pissing people off is STILL caring what they think enough to piss them off. The whole point is to not do anything because of others. Exist in your own world, interacting with them is a personal gain when you want it to be. Don’t be an asshole because why not
@@pohorex6834Eh, still fun
Thanks for sharing with us, i personally think you are attractive as heck so don’t listen to the people that says otherwise, have a nice day Abe. Peace✌🏻
I appreciate you bro and you too. Stay strong out there
I knew from a very young age, that I wouldn't fit in with the others, so I got comfortable living life on my own. I just can't fake a personality. Living inauthentically isn't my style.
Great video. I am glad that I am not the only one who experienced this.
I had so much social anxiety in my high school days that I felt dread waiting for my turn to say "here" during roll call.
TL;DR I can really relate to this, for me VRChat helped a lot in fixing the issue.
i used to be just like how you were, being easily afraid of social situations. probably a different root of the problem, however, being the fear of being perceived as a pervert, or creepy, or weird due to many societal factors. I play VRChat, learn to not have to be so embarrassed, my reddened face isn't even seen. That's how I learned to just talk to people, and it's helped me a lot more. Honestly, VRchat is such a great game in my opinion, and it helps you also learn to socialize... as long as you don't let it consume you.
All things in moderation, especially anything on the Internet.
stay safe, y'all
hi! :)
i like how you say "live authentically", it demonstrates you understand that people like to be around trustworthy people(people who don't lie to themselves or others)
however, i would like to point out it could potentially mislabel what you were doing in regards to the video(OPENING UP about your problems)
what you were really doing, is that you were talking to others about yourself, not in a selfish and narcissitic way, but in a wholesome and genuine way
you talk about yourself in a way that makes you seem human
not to demean the importance of ASKING QUESTIONS and SHOWING INTEREST in others, but talking about yourself, in a real and genuine way(whether it be funny or emotional) and then showing interest in others(also in a genuine way) is a tried and true way to become great with anyone and everyone
Hey man, great video. I felt like I really connected and related to this video because I find myself always comparing myself to other dudes that I’m trying so hard to look like and you’ve helped me realize that I haven’t been living like who I really am and that I’ve lost sight of my true self. I now understand what I need to change in order to live authentically and to stop people pleasing. Thank you 🙏
what ?! this video is so underrated man
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I appreciate you bro, I wasn't too proud of it at first but decided I'd post it anyway in hopes it would give value
I never thought I'd find someone so relatable to my own experiences. I'm really insecure because I've been bullied all my life because my hair is straight (1A type) and EVERYONE has fluffy hair and I tried everything to get it and nothing works. But hey man, you're amazing bro, I wish we could be friends. You deserve the best❤
I really appreciate the comment and I’m sorry to hear you’ve experienced those things. Stay strong out there man ❤️
you cant be the best but i have watched ur videos and u haved earned my sub and ur videos are helpful😊
This is the only real video for this problem, big respect from here, I wanted to attract EVERYONE to, but I realized, il focus on my self, make my self feel good and happy, and then focus on others,❤
I really appreciate the comment bro and keep up the good work
I think you just changed my life
I hope it was for the better man, stay strong out there ❤️
Abe man you’re a pretty good looking young fella. Have a good day Abe
I appreciate that bro. I’m a little beat up from MMA but I try my best to at least look fresh. And you have a good day too man
@@AbeOtt24 You been fighting on MMA? 🤣
@@sprucegum7118go ahead and delete that troll comment. MMA is a fighting style, anyone can learn and train MMA. You don’t “fight on MMA” maybe you are trying to refer to UFC? One Championship?
And you're handsome asf
I appreciate that bro, I've gotten a little beaten up from martial arts but I try to still at least look fresh
Cap
@@w1ld322what's cap is you being handsome
@@w1ld3220/10 ragebait
@@carterfulghum5245 wdym I'm just saying he isn't good looking he is just the average guy
This video really helped me with my self esteem i really appreciate your videos. Keep posting bro
I'm genuinely glad to hear that bro, stay strong out there and will do
Yeah I’ve been doing it for years, living my authentic life, just who I am, but if your environment doesn’t contain any individuals who accept your authentic self then it doesn’t matter, you still have nobody
Same for me.
I appreciate this🙏
I’m glad to hear that bro, stay strong out there
finally youtube recommended something from u
talking to flesh and bones instead of the person is such a good way to explain how it feels
the more social you are the less anxiety ou will have, which creates more attraction.
100%
Honestly I did what you told in the video unknowingly for a while now and it was exactly how you'd described it. During my grade 12th right my classmates are the ones trying to converse to me and bear in mind im just an introvert whos just happens to have a easy time talking to people but i just prefer not too. All I did was be kind to everyone and focus on what I enjoy and study and yeah some of my classmates just do not like me and thats okay, not everyone will like you no matter how good you are too them and sorry if it too long xd
Sorry for the delayed upload, the software I used for editing was banned for a little but we pushed through and managed to still get the vid out.
I hope you enjoy it and stay strong out there ❤
I mean I’m not in the US but does that mean you were using CapCut?
You did look cool af with a buzzcut tho
I appreciate that bro
i like this guy
I appreciate you bro, stay strong out there
Me too
Ironically, anyone who tries to be magnetic purposefully will fail. Here's why: they want people's attention. It violates rules 1,2, and 4 that I outlined below. -->
How to be magnetic (In my opinion):
1.) Don't take anything seriously
~displaying a lack of attachment shows you are grounded
2.) Never try to impress someone
~treat everything like play
3.) Hide nothing about yourself and express yourself
~people who hide things about themselves are insecure
4.) Never need anything from anyone
~Displaying a need for attention, money, status, food, sleep, literally anything will make you repulsive
5.) Never apologize for anything you do, especially when pressed
~People who apologize will appear to lack either foresight, confidence, or both
6.) Be an interested and curious person
~Being interested in things shows you have vitality and a love for life
To be magnetic, it means you must captivate people. You draw their attention and admiration simply by existing. It's not necessarily about being respected, or liked, as much as it is being interesting and desirable. What you are aiming for is for people to look at you and think *"How is that person so comfortable in every situation? I need to pay attention to them to learn how I can do that"*
It's important to lose some respect for others. Yes many are below you, you do them a favor by addressing them, not the other way around.
Many also are just actually intimidated, jealous, or making a bunch of assumptions about you. thus the cold shoulder.
Great
Problem is if you are in America, people will find a reason for you to be unhappy. I have experienced nicer people everywhere else in the world. The terms “nerd”, “push-over”, “friend-zone” sums up American culture with less than 300 years of history and a horrible cuisine
Thanks bro
Of course man
This was nice.
Stay strong out there man
Showed up in my feed and noticed that channel pic. Had you had this channel since you were a child?! 🤯
Thanks Abe.
Of course bro
Yes other than the problem is most women or atleast the ones ive been with and talked to dont care as much about looks its all height which is something noone can control
The glowup is real ‼
I appreciate you bro, stay strong out there
i love you bro, thank you so much
Love you too man and of course. Keep up the good work out there
I am not attractive, it is what it is.
Same 😔
Everyone has their own definition of attractive
Fair point, I appreciate the comment man
Thanks, you too bro.
I appreciate that man, stay strong out there
You seem so sweet! Subscribed =]
> I don't know if you know what it is
> American Psycho
lol)
1:37 me to man thanks for this video helps a lot
Of course bro I'm really glad to hear that
How did u fix ur erythrophobia? Im struggling with the same thing currently
A lot of it was due to talking to as many people as possible until it went away more as I got more comfortable, but also taking deep breaths helped
Im like really unatractive like just naturally. You maybe were ugly but now your beautiful I never was and never will.
Damn, you probably capping man, low self esteem hits like a truck. I got low self esteem sometimes but I ain’t ugly. I know that im.p just average, you prob are too
From what I've learned, if you just keep working on yourself then your confidence will naturally increase because you will have more to be confident about. Stay strong man
@ItsaNoah Im actually not average at all. Im also very confident, its just a topic I gave up with cuz I cant change it.
@@AbeOtt24 Thx. But I am confident as hell.
Okay i have had the same realization for 2 years now and now i have friends, but now how to attract girls?
From what I've learned, a lot of it comes down to putting yourself out there as much as possible while staying authentic and your chances of finding someone who is attracted to who you are will increase. Keep up the good work bro
The nose ring was so sick
nah am ugly asf and many hated me how i look honestly idc now how i look but it just sometimes i ended up getting depressed
I'm really sorry to hear that bro, forget about those people and just keep working on yourself. Stay strong out there ❤️
If you're NOT a murderer, rapist, terrorist or anything bad then you just talk to people. People are normal and want friends too. As someone who used to be shy it gets easier. Beer helps too but hopefully you don't need that.
This better isnt clickbate
So many attractive people in the comments lmao
I’m actually unattractive, otherwise I would have already had a girlfriend by now
always these videos that want to tell me that im living wrong when its everyone else that doesnt treat me like i want them to
I used to be ugly because i didn't take care of myself and had long hair. Now i think I'm more attractive than before, but... People didn't care like, it was so weird for me. I thought now talking to girls would be easier, but I'm so fucking nervous, when i interact with them my lips just shiver and i feel like a total idiot. I also have a problem that because i don't get much attention from girls and when one girl out of nowhere starts talking with me etc i just fall for her immediately even though I don't know her. I am fckin ready to live the rest of my life with her etc just because she gave me some attention. I don't know how to escape this kind of thinking and also I don't have noone to talk to about that, so I'm glad i can at least write it here
I really appreciate you sharing that bro. What I've learned is that sometimes it just takes practice talking to girl despite the struggle and eventually you will improve. And with the chasing, I think it's best to focus on improving yourself and you will naturally stop chasing as much the more and longer you become obsessed with improving and living your life the way you want to
Ur better off with the buzz Ngl it doesn’t look bad unless u perm for curls but just get some acne cleanser u be set
No offense, but seeing videos like this in my recommended recently make me think I'm cooked asf.
if you can get a tabel at Dorsia, pretty much every girl is yours, simple
1:58 a fitting shirt. Cousin Carl was definitely an awesome guy/racecar but could just never win the big one.
Yessir!
Dude, you look exactly the same as the picture from the first few seconds. The only thing that changed is your hairstyle, the fact that you went out of puberty, the lightning and the camera lens 😂😂
How tf can people cope so hard???
Build your gardens with patience guys, your butterflies will arrive in the right time
Yes I am hahahah :)
Hello wazzup
What’s up bro
@@AbeOtt24 nothing much you?
A little tip : Try read Bible , there are answers for everything
Religion is for room temperature iq people who need sky daddy to tell them what to do
bro your just acoustic
Nuh uh
video starts at 7:04
You should find God, bro. He will save you
Amen
Jesus loves you. Repent of your sins and turn to Jesus before its too late
I don't care
No worries man, the message won't effect everyone the same
bro is copemaxxing
☠️☠️😂😂
andrew tate type of bullshit
maybe start looksmaxxing
😭naw that ain’t right tho he was suicidal and went through a lot
People being "ugly" is something I hear thrown around a lot...especially in clicks at school. The majority of people arent ugly at all tbh
Bro looks like One Giant Onion
Let the guy do what he is doing.
Made me laugh thanks
@warmsubset7281 No problem Mr Proper
This just made me remember how I changed to my new personality and mindset on a better way, thanks for the vid 🥹
Of course man, stay strong out there
I know thanks for asking