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I had a therapist that wanted me to do art therapy and then touch therapy because words are my coping mechanism. My tongue is my sword. What has worked for me ultimately is changing my story. So, creative writing.
I’ve had a lifetime phobia of writing due to my mother using it against me. It’s amazing to me how strong it is. 73 years and I just blank at a blank page. I will try it again because I know you are speaking the truth.
That is so sad. As a poor student, I thought I might have a tiny creative streak when it comes to writing. I wrote an original composition and when it was my turn to read in front of the class, the teacher humiliated me by making comments about the fantasy. I hope you will give writing another chance. I write to God every morning to thank Him and to ask Him for what we need and this has helped me to write more freely (plus the gratitude part really lifts me up).
I started reading “Opening Up by Writing It Down” many years ago. Then life got in the way and it’s been on my bookshelf ever since. Time to get back to that!
I started the daily practice two days ago, having no expectations for it. It's barely been 48h, and I already feel the urge to do it more than twice a day. Not because I'm freaked out or stressed but because tearing that paper to bits brings me immense joy and relief. Thanks a lot for the practice. It's simple, easy, clean, and it already brightens my day. I can't wait to see the long-term effects, and if there are none other than the joy of releasing fears and resentments, that's already a huge win!
Anna, you mentioned about your ride with family on Hwy 5, when you came upon a road blockage and accident. You mentioned how you revisit processing that event from time to time. Hearing of your experience reminded me of a traumatic experience for me. I was driving on Hwy 1 coming from Fremont, California, and headed to Solvang. While going through King City at perhaps 3am, I saw a boy on a Big Wheel toy start across the highway. He had come out from in front of a roadside parked semi truck . Of course , me traveling at highway speed, and not expecting something to cross the highway, was a shock anyway, but then there was very little time to react. Within an extremely short time a man came from the direction of the truck, ran to where the boy was, picked up both the boy and the big wheel he was on and ran back toward the truck while looking at me barreling down the road. It was so close to me and the boy colliding that I saw the man's face clearly. I bounded on my way beyond the scene, and was dumbstruck for a long time afterward. Occasionally I relive that experience.
I started writing about my childhood and how it affected my whole life through the years to try and better understand my complex childhood. I didn't know it at the time but I talked to a friend about it and she said "Stream of Consciousness" is a form of writing. That opened my mind that I am not alone and my therapist at the time said your feelings are justified and you are doing pretty well knowing you need to take care of your mental health. Another one was creating a timeline of my life and what was happening to my parents, siblings and big family or world events. And what my parents childhood was like.
I journaled for years. I held onto the old entries and, every once in a while, I do review them. Even years ago, I can see the patterns of issues that were going on around me. I feel that when we are going through things we might not see them right off the bat because we are caught up in the emotion of it. Rereading my entries helped me to see patterns within myself and the issues going on. I realized that, because I am a caring person, I'm the one that was carrying a lot of the emotional issues in our family, almost as though, I was the emotional healer of the family. So, rereading my experiences, how I saw them, what I felt about them and how I mismanaged it or, in many cases, began managing it was helpful. Thank you so much for this topic of writing.
When I quiet my mind, I tell myself a few times: "Life is loving and kind" ,and for me that changes the atmosphere immediately into a golden "glow" and makes me feel good and peaceful. Makes it feel like there is some higher purpose to our sufferings.
my favorite CCF episode I'm a big writer even before I found the CCF - the CCF makes me focus on the specifics but writing has been a bit of a blanket for me. Thank you Anna!!!! and DR. Pennebaker. !!!
What a delightful conversatin full of many many sparkly bits. I am so glad you're in the world, Anna, and sharing your wisdom and the connections you have and are making. May your teachings flourish.
You nailed it. Now. The secrecy of the trauma fuels the shame and aloneness. This is WHY the urge to “share” entices me (with friends I care about) - to feel seen and loved in totality of true self, wound and all. Then I feel cringe for oversharing. This has baffled and stunted my ultimate breakthrough for too long. Recently I sense I’ve lost one of my favorite friends ever. I made this friend because of auditioning the “healed” and “confident” self it’s so frustrating at times to find that balance. Why is this urge to go emotionally streaking so persuasive at times, even though my higher self knows not to? ,
36:52 Man, tell that critic to pound sand. The reality is traditional therapy like CBT and talk therapy are becoming less available to people because of the expense and lack of insurance coverage. Even EMDR and EFF tapping are very expensive and not available to so many people who need it. Anna offers something that seems to help a majority of the time and is free and accessible almost everywhere. After 30 years of therapy (most of which was useless) and thousands of dollars later, I have a lot of hope in expressive writing and also the 12 Step programs are amazing. This writing is helping me and others immensely so I don’t care which “professional” has a problem with it!!!
I just started trauma therapy with a psychologist who knows EMDR and grounding techniques. I live in Australia so we have Medicare here so it makes therapy for my complex trauma possible.
Thank you. One of the most inspiring exchanges I've witnessed in a very long time. You are both contributing with something powerful - even potentially peacefully revolutionary.
Greetings from Mr Axel Vasa the west coast wizard himself, I got the something essential to share with you, You only live once, but if you do it right, once is enough. Love you very much. ❤️
Good explanation for why writing helps- to process the trauma more quickly. I still am working on rewriting my story- changing the horror into survival, then growth.
Thank you for this interview, I enjoyed learning about the science and research by Dr Pennebaker, and deepening my understanding of the Daily Practice technique.
We might not need the time to reflect after these types of experiences but we sure do need the time to process it. Some of us horse people call it the “soaking in time”.
From one weirdo to another, thank you so much for being you and for sharing yourself with us. I only discovered your channel perhaps a year ago, and one of the best things about that is that I could so easily see your progress from when you first began to where you are now, because I could see the “snapshot” of it. And I watched you become more comfortable in yourself, so it was clear that what you were doing worked for you. I’ve also walked the 12-step path (Alanon and open AA and NA meetings), done different therapy modalities (some of which worked better for me than others) and have used writing techniques (including yours) to help me process my trauma. Again, thank you so much for being you. And I loved this interview!! I am definitely my own scientist (and truly grateful for collaborators!!).
I've started Internal Family Systems therapy. My therapist encouraged me to journal. I wrote from the perspective of 14 year old me as if I was describing to someone who doesn't know me what my life is like and how I feel. I have found it transformative! I've gone on to write from the perspective of different ages. You know what's been the most lovely thing? Alongside looking at and acknowledging the bad and disappointing experiences - the lovely things come through too. The memories of the joy, the friends, and my own strength. I had allowed the negative stories to cloud all that stuff. Writing it down helped to recalibrate my perception. Wishing everyone healing X
Great insights in trauma recovery as always. I find this safe writing a form of self therapy where I wouldn't otherwise share vulnerabilities, feelings and wants. Opening up, exploring and externalising these emotions in this way without fear is a huge relief. Many thanks
This was very interesting. I am a South African who has been dealing with an opiate use disorder over the last few years. I had exposure to 12 step philosophy, being the most accessible peer support group across the world and I really struggle with that antiquated system of belief that I feel disregards the role of trauma and refuses to adjust its views to accommodate almost 100 years of knowledge. I have been working the daily practice for a few months. I have found a way to really combine it with my yoga practice which has been really effective for me. Yoga is my primary source of dopamine and general healing and adding the writing and extending the time I spend meditating in shivasna has already made huge differences to how I perceive myself in relation to my environment, both in the past and in the present. I really believe that this should be the direction that addiction treatment moves into. The broad clinical paradigms around addiction yield such low levels of success, it is in desperate need of a revamp and trauma is a vital part of that. Thanks for your great work and I very much look forward to reading your book and engaging more with your community 😊
What a wonderful man/expert and a great interview. Really seminal for the work Anna is doing as well, along with the book, as far as getting the CCF understanding and practice out into the world and getting recognized by the "professionals." Thank you for everything, always.
Greetings from Mr Axel Vasa the west coast wizard himself, I got the something essential to share with you, You only live once, but if you do it right, once is enough. Love you very much. ❤️
I’ve written books full on the adult trauma I experienced 3 years ago. I am still struggling with ptsd and depression. Writing has not cured anything for me. If I could write to the offender and have a voice and some acknowledgement, that would be way more useful than writing to myself over and over and over, with no relief
Greetings from Mr Axel Vasa the west coast wizard himself, I got the something essential to share with you, When life gets tough, remember that diamonds are made under pressure. Love you very much. ❤️
I love hearing about some of the negative feedback you hear from certain therapists and professionals; it just means you’re doing something right! Oh, and I think you both listen to advice. Just, like me, you don’t always take it (for better, for worse, or simply for different).
"Be your own scientist." Amen. Find out what works for you. I once posted somewhere optimistically about how I had found healing techniques that worked for me (thank you, Fairy). My critic referred to it as "bumper sticker healing." I laughed because I flashed back to my husband's AA group that was full of old, crusty, chain'-smoking, coffee-swilling members who drove old beaters with "One Day at a Time" bumper stickers.. Is AA "bumper sticker healing"? If so, sign me up for more. There are so many amazing modalities of healing. Nobody just has to suffer. Taking responsibility for one's own healing is the only solution. Try everything.
Greetings from Mr Axel Vasa the west coast wizard himself, I got the something essential to share with you, You only live once, but if you do it right, once is enough. Love you very much. ❤️
Great interview Anna! I think you will be getting more interviews like this as your work and book become more known! Thank you for everything you do to help others!!!
Thank you for this! I'm write 😊 there with you on writing. My personal feeling on this is writing things down makes it real. Making it Real allows me to deal with it. Dealing with it allows me to talk about it. Talking about it allows me to move forward. Rinse and repeat.
You also get to see the independent side of therapy a lot more I think by sharing information, that is an incredible thing and I would love to see someone interview you about that to be very honest. ❤ I now have a set time for dysregulation because I know it's going to happen (we all do ❤) and it is working ❤❤❤ thanks to you're help in my toolbox ❤
I’ve been writing ever since I was a kid or even making backward loops to relax … my Q is does the method of how we write matter as long as we get the words on paper/recorded? For me, the physical act of writing (cursive) is most cathartic. Does the process work as well with keyboarding? Ty, Anna, for doing this interview!
Greetings from Mr Axel Vasa the west coast wizard himself, I got the something essential to share with you, You only live once, but if you do it right, once is enough. Love you very much. ❤️
Trauma responses have been pathologized, but not only the responses, the person themselves. They define this as stigma, but it is never addressed from the perspective of those who pathologize, stigmatize, dismiss and ostracize. We can never know as much as the priesthood, but they can only understand as much as we can communicate. Rather than giving us the resources to effectively communicate so that our difficulties can be effectively addressed, they give us a proclamation without teaching the skills, the sacred knowledge, necessary to fix ourselves.
This older man just said "it might hurt them" in reference of telling your story. Fck that. That is what has kept us quiet for years. Other than that, express write always. You are listening to you. ❤
I connected with this topic. I feel more comfy in my skin . As if it was waiting come outside for a breath. I also write to learn about my self . I'm retired now and trying to change my evil ways and understand me. Takes restlessness away for me. My go to coping skills. This was good thank you❤
I seem to get one illness after another. After my husband died I got rheumatoid arthritis shortly after. Just woke up one morning and couldn’t get off the bed. I had watched him seizure to death after fully caring for him many years. Also lost brother and father prior year. 10 years later and I get rid of one health problem and another pops up.
I hear you and you're not alone.Have you tried the free course Anna shared the link to at the end of the video? It can be a good first step to healing. Give it a try if you're interested: bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice Nika@TeamFairy
Thank you for this conversation 💞💙👊👊. I’ve been hushed all my life. It is very hard to write for me and or feel. Once started a few years ago. Kinda felt a freedom and acceptance and it then got shut down. It’s been very hard since. Any recommendations ?? No money for therapy right now. Should I just keep at it and try and see how it goes ???
If you haven't already, you may want to try Anna's free course ‘The Daily Practice’. It includes writing but it doesn't have to be long. It is a simple technique (yet effective for many!) that led to Anna’s own healing, and she uses it to this day. Here’s a link if you’re interested: bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice Nika@TeamFairy
You could start by writing just one word or sentence a day. Even free writing(just writing whatever comes to your mind, etc.) Keep it small and see how it builds as a habit.
Sorry to hear that but when you do the Daily Practice you write on a piece of paper and then tear it up so no one ever can read it. It's a safe method. Nika@TeamFairy
Writing things on paper is magic. If you don't believe me, then write a list on paper and put it in a drawer or something. Don't even think about it. When you finally remember it and come back to it all or almost all the things will be done. Without even thinking about it. I believe it's a way for the conscious mind to communicate with the subconscious.
What if you had a parent who would break into your Barbie diary & use what you wrote against you? It’s leaves one with a severe avoidance to writing anything on paper. Boundaries were crossed all the time by my mother, sibling, an uncle & his friend. Many years later, I was caring for my mother who was ill. While I was out at the grocery store, my brother came to see my mother & he searched the room I was staying in. In other words, my room!! My only private space in the house!! My mother later told me about it. Of course, she never stopped him. Way too late I realized that she was a narcissist & so was that brother. I left. So angry at myself that I did not see it long ago. The amount of time I lost was devastating. I was so angry at myself for not seeing it long ago. Needless to say I am still working through it.
My sister also read my diary to humilliate me. You can write your thoughts and feelings to get them out of your head and break it into little pieces so no one can read them.
I'm sorry you experienced this. The good thing about writing in Daily Practice is that you tear up the paper as soon as you finish writing, so no one will ever be able to read it. In this way, your privacy is protected. Nika@TeamFairy
It's not a silly question, and there is a difference between the way one writes. It's neurologically proved that the handwriting is more beneficial. Nika@TeamFairy
Great interview. Anna, it seems like you aren’t actually healing your triggers in whatever way that works best for you. While your writing techniques are extremely helpful, the actual looking at our triggers and sitting with those feelings, over time, is that only path to true healing. Am I wrong? Did I misunderstand your comments about how your trauma comes up for you randomly? I feel like I’m missing some info somewhere. Thx for doing what you do!
Or EMDR…there is another way, and that’s with EMDR. You still have to sit with those feelings, it’s just very condensed and compressed so it’s a much faster method to real healing. Thank God!
thank you for all you do! Purchased your new book!! I just wanted to let you know I signed up for the Hay House webinar but have not received info/confirmation to join in on the webinar. I signed up twice just incase something went wrong. Please tell me what I did wrong?
Im so dysregulated that it affects my handwriting. And the longer I write, the worse it gets. Im not sure what to do about it. Its like my fine motor skills are crap.
I'm sorry to hear that, but when you do the Daily Practice, you tear up the paper as soon as you finish writing so that no one can read it. Nika@TeamFairy
Speaking only for myself, no disrespect to Anna or anyone here for whom writing has helped.. but.. it only makes me worse. I've tried so many times I've lost count. Oh well.
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I had a therapist that wanted me to do art therapy and then touch therapy because words are my coping mechanism. My tongue is my sword. What has worked for me ultimately is changing my story. So, creative writing.
Changing my story... great advice.
I’ve had a lifetime phobia of writing due to my mother using it against me. It’s amazing to me how strong it is. 73 years and I just blank at a blank page. I will try it again because I know you are speaking the truth.
We're all rooting for you :) -Calista@TeamFairy
That is so sad. As a poor student, I thought I might have a tiny creative streak when it comes to writing. I wrote an original composition and when it was my turn to read in front of the class, the teacher humiliated me by making comments about the fantasy. I hope you will give writing another chance. I write to God every morning to thank Him and to ask Him for what we need and this has helped me to write more freely (plus the gratitude part really lifts me up).
Perhaps you could create a voice recording for yourself on your phone instead?
I started reading “Opening Up by Writing It Down” many years ago. Then life got in the way and it’s been on my bookshelf ever since. Time to get back to that!
I started the daily practice two days ago, having no expectations for it. It's barely been 48h, and I already feel the urge to do it more than twice a day. Not because I'm freaked out or stressed but because tearing that paper to bits brings me immense joy and relief. Thanks a lot for the practice. It's simple, easy, clean, and it already brightens my day. I can't wait to see the long-term effects, and if there are none other than the joy of releasing fears and resentments, that's already a huge win!
Anna, you mentioned about your ride with family on Hwy 5, when you came upon a road blockage and accident. You mentioned how you revisit processing that event from time to time. Hearing of your experience reminded me of a traumatic experience for me. I was driving on Hwy 1 coming from Fremont, California, and headed to Solvang. While going through King City at perhaps 3am, I saw a boy on a Big Wheel toy start across the highway. He had come out from in front of a roadside parked semi truck . Of course , me traveling at highway speed, and not expecting something to cross the highway, was a shock anyway, but then there was very little time to react.
Within an extremely short time a man came from the direction of the truck, ran to where the boy was, picked up both the boy and the big wheel he was on and ran back toward the truck while looking at me barreling down the road. It was so close to me and the boy colliding that I saw the man's face clearly. I bounded on my way beyond the scene, and was dumbstruck for a long time afterward. Occasionally I relive that experience.
I started writing about my childhood and how it affected my whole life through the years to try and better understand my complex childhood. I didn't know it at the time but I talked to a friend about it and she said "Stream of Consciousness" is a form of writing. That opened my mind that I am not alone and my therapist at the time said your feelings are justified and you are doing pretty well knowing you need to take care of your mental health. Another one was creating a timeline of my life and what was happening to my parents, siblings and big family or world events. And what my parents childhood was like.
I journaled for years. I held onto the old entries and, every once in a while, I do review them. Even years ago, I can see the patterns of issues that were going on around me. I feel that when we are going through things we might not see them right off the bat because we are caught up in the emotion of it. Rereading my entries helped me to see patterns within myself and the issues going on. I realized that, because I am a caring person, I'm the one that was carrying a lot of the emotional issues in our family, almost as though, I was the emotional healer of the family. So, rereading my experiences, how I saw them, what I felt about them and how I mismanaged it or, in many cases, began managing it was helpful. Thank you so much for this topic of writing.
When I quiet my mind, I tell myself a few times: "Life is loving and kind" ,and for me that changes the atmosphere immediately into a golden "glow" and makes me feel good and peaceful. Makes it feel like there is some higher purpose to our sufferings.
my favorite CCF episode I'm a big writer even before I found the CCF - the CCF makes me focus on the specifics but writing has been a bit of a blanket for me. Thank you Anna!!!! and DR. Pennebaker. !!!
What a delightful conversatin full of many many sparkly bits. I am so glad you're in the world, Anna, and sharing your wisdom and the connections you have and are making. May your teachings flourish.
You nailed it. Now. The secrecy of the trauma fuels the shame and aloneness. This is WHY the urge to “share” entices me (with friends I care about) - to feel seen and loved in totality of true self, wound and all. Then I feel cringe for oversharing. This has baffled and stunted my ultimate breakthrough for too long. Recently I sense I’ve lost one of my favorite friends ever. I made this friend because of auditioning the “healed” and “confident” self it’s so frustrating at times to find that balance. Why is this urge to go emotionally streaking so persuasive at times, even though my higher self knows not to?
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Not everyone can be trusted with your personal information. The older is get, the more I'm realizing this.
36:52 Man, tell that critic to pound sand. The reality is traditional therapy like CBT and talk therapy are becoming less available to people because of the expense and lack of insurance coverage. Even EMDR and EFF tapping are very expensive and not available to so many people who need it.
Anna offers something that seems to help a majority of the time and is free and accessible almost everywhere.
After 30 years of therapy (most of which was useless) and thousands of dollars later, I have a lot of hope in expressive writing and also the 12 Step programs are amazing. This writing is helping me and others immensely so I don’t care which “professional” has a problem with it!!!
Thank you for taking the time to comment. So glad to hear Anna's method is helping you!
Nika@TeamFairy
I just started trauma therapy with a psychologist who knows EMDR and grounding techniques.
I live in Australia so we have Medicare here so it makes therapy for my complex trauma possible.
Aaah I met him once. He was a very humble and down-to-earth man. I refered to him a lot in my dissertation. Nice to hear him again!
Thank you. One of the most inspiring exchanges I've witnessed in a very long time. You are both contributing with something powerful - even potentially peacefully revolutionary.
Thank you!
Greetings from Mr Axel Vasa the west coast wizard himself, I got the something essential to share with you, You only live once, but if you do it right, once is enough. Love you very much. ❤️
Good explanation for why writing helps- to process the trauma more quickly. I still am working on rewriting my story- changing the horror into survival, then growth.
For the year+ that I've been doing the CCF method of Daily Practice 2X's a day, has improved my health and well-being So much. Thank you, Anna Runkle.
Yay! So glad it's been helpful for you! Thank you for sharing :)
Nika@TeamFairy
True. I've been journaling since my trauma and nightmares and it really helps me process everything better. Im slowly starting to sleep better
LOVE YOUR HAIR TODAY! You always look so nice. I realize this is non related, although it's always nice to share compliments.
Thank you for this interview, I enjoyed learning about the science and research by Dr Pennebaker, and deepening my understanding of the Daily Practice technique.
We might not need the time to reflect after these types of experiences but we sure do need the time to process it. Some of us horse people call it the “soaking in time”.
Anna so glad you got to connect with him!
From one weirdo to another, thank you so much for being you and for sharing yourself with us. I only discovered your channel perhaps a year ago, and one of the best things about that is that I could so easily see your progress from when you first began to where you are now, because I could see the “snapshot” of it. And I watched you become more comfortable in yourself, so it was clear that what you were doing worked for you.
I’ve also walked the 12-step path (Alanon and open AA and NA meetings), done different therapy modalities (some of which worked better for me than others) and have used writing techniques (including yours) to help me process my trauma.
Again, thank you so much for being you. And I loved this interview!! I am definitely my own scientist (and truly grateful for collaborators!!).
I've started Internal Family Systems therapy. My therapist encouraged me to journal. I wrote from the perspective of 14 year old me as if I was describing to someone who doesn't know me what my life is like and how I feel. I have found it transformative! I've gone on to write from the perspective of different ages. You know what's been the most lovely thing? Alongside looking at and acknowledging the bad and disappointing experiences - the lovely things come through too. The memories of the joy, the friends, and my own strength. I had allowed the negative stories to cloud all that stuff. Writing it down helped to recalibrate my perception. Wishing everyone healing X
I LOVE your advice! I've been binge watching your videos for about a week. So much great information.
Great insights in trauma recovery as always. I find this safe writing a form of self therapy where I wouldn't otherwise share vulnerabilities, feelings and wants. Opening up, exploring and externalising these emotions in this way without fear is a huge relief. Many thanks
This was very interesting. I am a South African who has been dealing with an opiate use disorder over the last few years. I had exposure to 12 step philosophy, being the most accessible peer support group across the world and I really struggle with that antiquated system of belief that I feel disregards the role of trauma and refuses to adjust its views to accommodate almost 100 years of knowledge.
I have been working the daily practice for a few months. I have found a way to really combine it with my yoga practice which has been really effective for me. Yoga is my primary source of dopamine and general healing and adding the writing and extending the time I spend meditating in shivasna has already made huge differences to how I perceive myself in relation to my environment, both in the past and in the present. I really believe that this should be the direction that addiction treatment moves into. The broad clinical paradigms around addiction yield such low levels of success, it is in desperate need of a revamp and trauma is a vital part of that.
Thanks for your great work and I very much look forward to reading your book and engaging more with your community 😊
Thank you. I think everything is changing as well!
What a wonderful man/expert and a great interview. Really seminal for the work Anna is doing as well, along with the book, as far as getting the CCF understanding and practice out into the world and getting recognized by the "professionals." Thank you for everything, always.
Greetings from Mr Axel Vasa the west coast wizard himself, I got the something essential to share with you, You only live once, but if you do it right, once is enough. Love you very much. ❤️
I’ve written books full on the adult trauma I experienced 3 years ago. I am still struggling with ptsd and depression. Writing has not cured anything for me. If I could write to the offender and have a voice and some acknowledgement, that would be way more useful than writing to myself over and over and over, with no relief
Also, thank you so much for everything that you do. I'm a fan
Glad you are here!
Nika@TeamFairy
Greetings from Mr Axel Vasa the west coast wizard himself, I got the something essential to share with you, When life gets tough, remember that diamonds are made under pressure. Love you very much. ❤️
I love hearing about some of the negative feedback you hear from certain therapists and professionals; it just means you’re doing something right!
Oh, and I think you both listen to advice. Just, like me, you don’t always take it (for better, for worse, or simply for different).
"Be your own scientist." Amen. Find out what works for you. I once posted somewhere optimistically about how I had found healing techniques that worked for me (thank you, Fairy). My critic referred to it as "bumper sticker healing." I laughed because I flashed back to my husband's AA group that was full of old, crusty, chain'-smoking, coffee-swilling members who drove old beaters with "One Day at a Time" bumper stickers.. Is AA "bumper sticker healing"? If so, sign me up for more. There are so many amazing modalities of healing. Nobody just has to suffer. Taking responsibility for one's own healing is the only solution. Try everything.
"bumper stickers" are distillations of helpful ideas. Complicated ideas are not always the right widget!
Greetings from Mr Axel Vasa the west coast wizard himself, I got the something essential to share with you, You only live once, but if you do it right, once is enough. Love you very much. ❤️
What a great interview. Thank you!! 💕
Great interview Anna! I think you will be getting more interviews like this as your work and book become more known! Thank you for everything you do to help others!!!
Thank you for your kind words :) -Calista@TeamFairy
Thank you for this! I'm write 😊 there with you on writing. My personal feeling on this is writing things down makes it real. Making it Real allows me to deal with it. Dealing with it allows me to talk about it. Talking about it allows me to move forward. Rinse and repeat.
Wonderful interview. Very uplifting and hopeful for the future of mental health treatment.
Thank you for this very self empowering and accessible advice.
Turns out I bought one of his books in 2020! Sweet! ❤
Beautiful conversation
Thank you, I love your work, … Add breath-work to this process it is also very powerful and easy to do anywhere.
You also get to see the independent side of therapy a lot more I think by sharing information, that is an incredible thing and I would love to see someone interview you about that to be very honest. ❤ I now have a set time for dysregulation because I know it's going to happen (we all do ❤) and it is working ❤❤❤ thanks to you're help in my toolbox ❤
Thank you for this insightful share on reflective writing and its therapeutic benefits
I’ve been writing ever since I was a kid or even making backward loops to relax … my Q is does the method of how we write matter as long as we get the words on paper/recorded? For me, the physical act of writing (cursive) is most cathartic. Does the process work as well with keyboarding? Ty, Anna, for doing this interview!
Greetings from Mr Axel Vasa the west coast wizard himself, I got the something essential to share with you, You only live once, but if you do it right, once is enough. Love you very much. ❤️
Wow, this guy must be a legend
Trauma responses have been pathologized, but not only the responses, the person themselves. They define this as stigma, but it is never addressed from the perspective of those who pathologize, stigmatize, dismiss and ostracize.
We can never know as much as the priesthood, but they can only understand as much as we can communicate. Rather than giving us the resources to effectively communicate so that our difficulties can be effectively addressed, they give us a proclamation without teaching the skills, the sacred knowledge, necessary to fix ourselves.
This older man just said "it might hurt them" in reference of telling your story. Fck that. That is what has kept us quiet for years. Other than that, express write always. You are listening to you. ❤
FEAR = Feel Everything And Recover
How wonderful! U are sure on ur way Fairy! A watershed moment interviewing Dr. Pennebaker. Grateful. 🙏💕🪷
I connected with this topic. I feel more comfy in my skin . As if it was waiting come outside for a breath. I also write to learn about my self . I'm retired now and trying to change my evil ways and understand me. Takes restlessness away for me. My go to coping skills. This was good thank you❤
I seem to get one illness after another. After my husband died I got rheumatoid arthritis shortly after. Just woke up one morning and couldn’t get off the bed. I had watched him seizure to death after fully caring for him many years. Also lost brother and father prior year. 10 years later and I get rid of one health problem and another pops up.
I hear you and you're not alone.Have you tried the free course Anna shared the link to at the end of the video? It can be a good first step to healing. Give it a try if you're interested: bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice
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Thank you for this conversation 💞💙👊👊. I’ve been hushed all my life. It is very hard to write for me and or feel. Once started a few years ago. Kinda felt a freedom and acceptance and it then got shut down. It’s been very hard since. Any recommendations ?? No money for therapy right now. Should I just keep at it and try and see how it goes ???
Anna has a free course to learn the Daily Practice in the Description, it has really helped me get my feelings out on paper.
If you haven't already, you may want to try Anna's free course ‘The Daily Practice’. It includes writing but it doesn't have to be long. It is a simple technique (yet effective for many!) that led to Anna’s own healing, and she uses it to this day. Here’s a link if you’re interested: bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice
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You could start by writing just one word or sentence a day. Even free writing(just writing whatever comes to your mind, etc.) Keep it small and see how it builds as a habit.
I write what you did as faculty member since I was eight years old ..
I used to write until family members searched out my notebook and used what they read against me. Daren't set pen to paper again!
Sorry to hear that but when you do the Daily Practice you write on a piece of paper and then tear it up so no one ever can read it. It's a safe method.
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Writing things on paper is magic. If you don't believe me, then write a list on paper and put it in a drawer or something. Don't even think about it. When you finally remember it and come back to it all or almost all the things will be done. Without even thinking about it.
I believe it's a way for the conscious mind to communicate with the subconscious.
I think it should be the same way to keep a journal.
I write music. While most of my songs are fictional, there’s a little bit of truth in everything I write. And yes, it helps.
I do daily gratitude n Ofer’s law of att.
What if you had a parent who would break into your Barbie diary & use what you wrote against you? It’s leaves one with a severe avoidance to writing anything on paper. Boundaries were crossed all the time by my mother, sibling, an uncle & his friend. Many years later, I was caring for my mother who was ill. While I was out at the grocery store, my brother came to see my mother & he searched the room I was staying in. In other words, my room!! My only private space in the house!! My mother later told me about it. Of course, she never stopped him. Way too late I realized that she was a narcissist & so was that brother. I left. So angry at myself that I did not see it long ago. The amount of time I lost was devastating. I was so angry at myself for not seeing it long ago. Needless to say I am still working through it.
My sister also read my diary to humilliate me. You can write your thoughts and feelings to get them out of your head and break it into little pieces so no one can read them.
I'm sorry you experienced this. The good thing about writing in Daily Practice is that you tear up the paper as soon as you finish writing, so no one will ever be able to read it. In this way, your privacy is protected.
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Keep up the good work ❤
Sooooo cooool.Thank you so much💛💛💛
Maybe it will sound like a silly question, but...: does typing have the same effect as handwriting in the process of healing?
It's not a silly question, and there is a difference between the way one writes. It's neurologically proved that the handwriting is more beneficial.
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Amazing ❤
Great interview. Anna, it seems like you aren’t actually healing your triggers in whatever way that works best for you.
While your writing techniques are extremely helpful, the actual looking at our triggers and sitting with those feelings, over time, is that only path to true healing.
Am I wrong? Did I misunderstand your comments about how your trauma comes up for you randomly?
I feel like I’m missing some info somewhere.
Thx for doing what you do!
Or EMDR…there is another way, and that’s with EMDR. You still have to sit with those feelings, it’s just very condensed and compressed so it’s a much faster method to real healing. Thank God!
Yaay!!🎉
I use voice recording and I let it all out.
thank you for all you do! Purchased your new book!! I just wanted to let you know I signed up for the Hay House webinar but have not received info/confirmation to join in on the webinar. I signed up twice just incase something went wrong. Please tell me what I did wrong?
You need to contact Hay House support. Hope to see you there later today!
@@CrappyChildhoodFairy thank you
Im so dysregulated that it affects my handwriting. And the longer I write, the worse it gets. Im not sure what to do about it. Its like my fine motor skills are crap.
Wish u cld if jet him speak more have him babk . He’s good
i cant write freely. i had family members use it against me.
I'm sorry to hear that, but when you do the Daily Practice, you tear up the paper as soon as you finish writing so that no one can read it.
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5:59 Was this writing, with a pen, or typing? Would it matter to the experiment?
With a pen.
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Is it ok to use a computer to "write" or does it need to be written?
It's better when it is handwritten.
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Speaking only for myself, no disrespect to Anna or anyone here for whom writing has helped.. but.. it only makes me worse. I've tried so many times I've lost count. Oh well.
Whyvdors she Call everything a trauma - grow up
You triggered to a trauma?
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I've always felt that I expressed myself with when writing instead of speaking - probably why I loved English at school 🥹❤️
How many times I've said, " if only I could write my way through life..."
Prefer it to speaking.😊