How Do I Know if I Have a Favorite Person? - The BPD Bunch

Xannie, Alex, Georgette, Madhurima, Jay, and Katja continue their conversation about the favorite person (FP) phenomenon, this time covering warning signs and how they know they're starting to form an FP attachment to someone.
On Sunday, Xannie and Alex will be back for a special FP brunch episode, where Alex will share her knowledge on the FP from her research and clinical experience.
Next week we’ll be back to discuss what a “BPD Episode” is. Can't wait? Join our BPD besties or BPD buddies tiers on Patreon and watch our Patreon exclusive extended version of the episode today!
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About Us:
The BPD bunch is a RUclips talk show, featuring a panel of people who are in functional recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder. Each week we discuss BPD-related topics to help give you insights into the different ways BPD can be expressed in someone’s life. We also cover the different paths we followed on our recovery journeys to give you hope and direction for your own ❤️ Thank you for being on this journey of healing with us!
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Disclaimer:
Although several of our panelists work in the mental health field, we are all coming to you as people in functional recovery from BPD, and are not here to provide professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.
Instead, we hope that by sharing our stories and what was helpful for us, you can gain some insight and direction into your own recovery ❤️‍🩹

[@user-no2mz9hl4f]

Really great insights here. It’s useful to hear everyone’s description of signs to look out for and such.

[@Gwen0921]

I've been putting off watching this one but I'm glad I finally did, this dynamic has always made relationships difficult for me to manage . Never being able to talk to other people who relate made it so hard to put it into words, it's so grounding to hear other people's experiences and ways they've dealt with their FP relationships. Thank you

[@kimrose80]

Another great episode..I’ve listened on Spotify..
You probably have tons of helpful ideas and topics to talk about relating to BPD but I do have a suggestion because it might have happened to some of us; how to cope and heal from being cut off abruptly or ghosted by the FP because of repetitive extremely needy behaviour or suicide talk and desperate for them to care etc..
How does one heal from that when you know its because of your own behaviour even if you felt led on a bit and it didn’t end well..
Just an idea is all..
It popped in my head because you are doing the series on favourite person relationships..I figured maybe some other people in the BPD community have been through similar..
The pain felt devastating..

[@thebpdbunch]

Alex will cover some of this in our Sunday episode!

[@kimrose80]

@@thebpdbunch Thankyou 🥹💜

[@thebpdbunch]

You’re welcome!!

[@user-no2mz9hl4f]

Hope you’ve been able to come through that…I can imagine how painful and challenging that situation must’ve been.

[@kimrose80]

@@user-no2mz9hl4f Thankyou hun 🙂
It took me a long time but I did come to an honest conclusion about what happened in my own head..Watching videos about BPD and DBT and others who have this condition and how they cope helped me..
I was in a good headspace and had come to terms with everything and the pain drastically reduced until about a week ago when i unexpectedly came across the person who had cut me off and wants nothing to do with me on a game site 😖
He didn’t even know it was me but if he had he would still want nothing to do with me and would probably think I was stalking him or something so I feel I’m back at square one and going over everything in mind again about how he’s good and it’s all my fault and it’s normal to have cut off someone the way I acted and how he thought I was worthless etc 😰
I have to work my way out of this again..

[@justinrobinson7954]

I have a confession. My wife is my favorite person and I know that I have raged on her and I have had splitting episodes on her. I have also gotten suicidal on her. All of my actions have really worn her down and she can no longer deal with me anymore. I do not want to feel this way anymore, no do I want to be like this with the woman I vowed to love, cherish, protect, have and hold. My actions have damage the relationship with her and the relationship with our children. I found this channel and group thru God’s will. I am open for suggestions and yes even criticism. Please advise

[@alicia10387]

Please seek a therapist or mental health professional.💜💜

[@SeeYouEndTea]

can y’all make a video for when 2 bpd’s FP each other?

[@thebpdbunch]

Thank you for your suggestion!

[@surfreadjumpsleep]

Is it true that a pwbpd may prefer a relationship with an insensitive and rude partner rather than a partner who is loving and kind?