179. What Color Is Your Estrangement?

"We see the world not as it is, but as we are."
In this episode, Tina invites parents unwillingly estranged from their adult children to take a step back and consider their beliefs about themselves, others, and the world.
She compares our individual worldview to a pair of glasses, with lenses of a particular color. We can't help but perceive the world in a limiting way as long as it reaches us through a fixed filter.
The central idea in this episode is that even if your adult child's estrangement is an objective fact, the meaning of it, and your response to it, will mirror your habitual feelings, beliefs and expectations.
This is a contemplative episode. Listen when you have time and energy for reflection.
For information on why adult children become estranged and what parents can do about it, read Tina's book, Reconnecting With Your Estranged Adult Child.
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EPISODE LINKS:
RCP Ep. 160: Emotional Reasoning