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Reconnection Club
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What do you do if your adult child won't talk to you? The Reconnection Club is an online school dedicated to helping parents create healthy, mutually satisfying relationships with their adult children -- even if they're currently estranged.
Even if you have no contact at all with your child right now, as a parent you may have more power than you think to gradually change this painful picture. Knowledge is power.
If you've tried everything and nothing has worked, you'll find real help inside Reconnection Club. We have the resources, the community, and the success stories to prove it.
For an ad-free experience, listen to all episodes of the podcast at reconnectionclub.com/podcast. And be sure to read "Reconnecting With Your Estranged Adult Child" by Tina Gilbertson, LPC -- host of the Reconnection Club and Podcast.
Even if you have no contact at all with your child right now, as a parent you may have more power than you think to gradually change this painful picture. Knowledge is power.
If you've tried everything and nothing has worked, you'll find real help inside Reconnection Club. We have the resources, the community, and the success stories to prove it.
For an ad-free experience, listen to all episodes of the podcast at reconnectionclub.com/podcast. And be sure to read "Reconnecting With Your Estranged Adult Child" by Tina Gilbertson, LPC -- host of the Reconnection Club and Podcast.
179. What Color Is Your Estrangement?
"We see the world not as it is, but as we are."
In this episode, Tina invites parents unwillingly estranged from their adult children to take a step back and consider their beliefs about themselves, others, and the world.
She compares our individual worldview to a pair of glasses, with lenses of a particular color. We can't help but perceive the world in a limiting way as long as it reaches us through a fixed filter.
The central idea in this episode is that even if your adult child's estrangement is an objective fact, the meaning of it, and your response to it, will mirror your habitual feelings, beliefs and expectations.
This is a contemplative episode. Listen when you have time and ener...
In this episode, Tina invites parents unwillingly estranged from their adult children to take a step back and consider their beliefs about themselves, others, and the world.
She compares our individual worldview to a pair of glasses, with lenses of a particular color. We can't help but perceive the world in a limiting way as long as it reaches us through a fixed filter.
The central idea in this episode is that even if your adult child's estrangement is an objective fact, the meaning of it, and your response to it, will mirror your habitual feelings, beliefs and expectations.
This is a contemplative episode. Listen when you have time and ener...
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178. How to Process a Letter From Your Estranged Adult Child
Просмотров 48821 день назад
If you’ve received a letter from your estranged adult child, this week’s episode of the Reconnection Club Podcast, along with the one preceding it (Episode 177), is a must-listen. Because however hopeless, hurt or angry you might feel when you read it, it could actually contain the blueprint for future reconciliation and peace. Many parents fail to decode the message that’s usually there betwee...
177. How to Process a Letter From Your Estranged Adult Child
Просмотров 704Месяц назад
If you’ve received a letter from your estranged adult child, this week’s episode of the Reconnection Club Podcast is a must-listen. Because however hopeless, hurt or angry you might feel when you read it, it could actually contain the blueprint for future reconciliation and peace. Many parents fail to decode the message that’s usually there between the lines - the one about what went wrong in t...
Important announcement regarding episode expiration
Просмотров 597Месяц назад
TRANSCRIPT: These are uncertain times for those of us who create and freely share content via the Internet. I mentioned on the podcast earlier this year that I needed some time to assess the impact of all the changes happening in the world of digital information, including the widespread, unregulated use of AI. At that time, I removed the show from a couple of the larger platforms, and stopped ...
176. Regarding Apologies
Просмотров 864Месяц назад
Should parents apologize to adult children for mistakes they made in the past? What if those adult children aren't talking to them? What if the adult child hasn't asked for an apology? What if the parent doesn't know what to apologize for? It turns out that apologies from parents to adult children are a rather complicated affair. Somehow, parents have to figure this out for themselves. But don'...
175. Don't Skip This Step!
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“Reversing an unwanted estrangement is, in a very particular way, exactly like swimming the English Channel.” So begins this perspective-shifting episode in which Tina urges parents to prepare for reconnection the way swimmers prepare for a long-distance swim. Reaching out to your child, whether with an apology, a request for a talk, or an offer to go to therapy together, is like jumping into t...
174. "How to set boundaries without making them mad?"
Просмотров 8462 месяца назад
How do you set boundaries with estranged adult children, without making them mad? That was the question Tina addressed on a group Q&A call back in 2019. And it’s no less relevant today than it was at the time. In this episode, you’ll hear the original recording in which Tina offers her thoughts on setting boundaries with an adult child who's using their parents' home when they're away. On the o...
173. What to Do in Therapy
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An unwanted estrangement from an adult child is a reason many parents seek some kind of counseling. Some go to therapy for the first time when their relationship with their adult child(ren) breaks down. Good therapy provides emotional support and often leads to insight. But truly successful therapy leads to profound and permanent changes through the process of healing. It’s this healing that ad...
172. When to Respect a No-Contact Request
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Should you always obey a no-contact request from your estranged adult child(ren)? The short answer is yes. But short answers aren’t always right for every situation. Each estrangement is unique. On the face of it, the question of whether to obey a no-contact request is a tactical one. But tactics rely on strategy. And when it comes to an unwanted estrangement, strategy usually means genuine psy...
171. Understanding Ambivalence
Просмотров 1,1 тыс.4 месяца назад
Why did your estranged adult child tell someone you were toxic, yet send a nice card for your birthday? Why do they keeping saying they need space, yet respond to everything you send with a heart emoji? Or, Why don’t they ever respond, when they said it was okay for you to contact them? Questions like those leave unwillingly estranged parents feeling confused, hurt and frustrated. Why can’t est...
170. "Why can't we expect our adult children to care about us?"
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Is it wrong for parents to hope their adult children might show a little care, interest or concern for them? Is it really asking too much of adult children to simply ask, “How are you, Dad (or Mom)?” That was the question Tina addressed on a group Q&A call back in 2019. And it’s no less relevant today than it was at the time. In this episode, you’ll hear the original recording in which Tina rea...
169. Normal "Narcissim"
Просмотров 1,3 тыс.4 месяца назад
Is your estranged adult child a narcissist? Probably not. But they might still exhibit some narcissistic traits - just like the rest of us. In the interest of bringing compassion and understanding to the highly emotional topic of estrangement, Tina outlines the difference in this episode between “normal” narcissism and the clinical version, Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). Other explana...
168. Emotional Pain: A Field Guide
Просмотров 1,4 тыс.5 месяцев назад
Emotional pain is part of the human condition. And it's almost a guarantee for parents whose adult children aren't speaking to them. Unwanted estrangement is one of the most painful things that can happen to a parent. How do you manage your emotions when your own child won't talk to you? It might seem like you have to wait for them to come around before you can find some relief from the anguish...
167. What to Do When You Don't Know What to Do
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There are many times during an estrangement from your adult child(ren) when you just don’t know what to do. Sometimes there’s a situation that seems to call for a decision - such as when a family member falls ill or passes away. Other times it’s a growing sense of frustration or despair that pushes for action. But because there’s no generic blueprint for parent-adult child estrangement, the que...
166. Paradoxes of Estrangement (Part 2)
Просмотров 1,2 тыс.6 месяцев назад
Life is full of paradoxes. For example... The busier we are, the more easily we can handle an extra task. The more we demand respect, the less respect we seem to get. The more love we give, the more we have left in our hearts. And while everyone has to deal with paradoxes in life, parents of estranged adult children live with specific contradictory truths that often frustrate their attempts to ...
165. Paradoxes of Estrangement (Part 1)
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165. Paradoxes of Estrangement (Part 1)
Important Announcement Regarding Access to This Podcast
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Important Announcement Regarding Access to This Podcast
163. Personal Growth vs. Parenting?
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163. Personal Growth vs. Parenting?
162. Overgeneralizing and Catastrophizing
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162. Overgeneralizing and Catastrophizing
159. The Impact of the Internet On Estrangement
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159. The Impact of the Internet On Estrangement
158. Your Flaws Didn't Cause This
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158. Your Flaws Didn't Cause This
153. Are You Estranged From Yourself?
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153. Are You Estranged From Yourself?
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Sorry for this! Best wishes
Dammit!!
Our thoughts exactly. :( Remember you can always listen ad-free on our website, reconnectionclub.com/podcast.
I would like you return to the topic where the daughter leaves home because she needs her own space. I swear I didn't want to hurt my parents. I loved them very much. I just wanted to have a place where my narc brother wouldn't abuse me. Help me to get rid of this guilt. They died thinking I didn't love them.
Thank you !
Happy new year Tina! 🎉
Thank you for your podcasts. They have helped me see the wood for the trees. I wish you a pleasant year for 2022.
Happy New Year Tina. Your videos have been if great value to me too. Thank you
2022 Happy New Beginning to all💝
Thank you, your podcast is valued & appreciated.