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Reconnection Club
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Добавлен 12 июл 2019
What do you do if your adult child won't talk to you? The Reconnection Club is an online school dedicated to helping parents create healthy, mutually satisfying relationships with their adult children -- even if they're currently estranged.
Even if you have no contact at all with your child right now, as a parent you may have more power than you think to gradually change this painful picture. Knowledge is power.
If you've tried everything and nothing has worked, you'll find real help inside Reconnection Club. We have the resources, the community, and the success stories to prove it.
For an ad-free experience, listen to all episodes of the podcast at reconnectionclub.com/podcast. And be sure to read "Reconnecting With Your Estranged Adult Child" by Tina Gilbertson, LPC -- host of the Reconnection Club and Podcast.
Even if you have no contact at all with your child right now, as a parent you may have more power than you think to gradually change this painful picture. Knowledge is power.
If you've tried everything and nothing has worked, you'll find real help inside Reconnection Club. We have the resources, the community, and the success stories to prove it.
For an ad-free experience, listen to all episodes of the podcast at reconnectionclub.com/podcast. And be sure to read "Reconnecting With Your Estranged Adult Child" by Tina Gilbertson, LPC -- host of the Reconnection Club and Podcast.
190. You Can Do Hard Things
When your adult child goes no contact, you search for solutions. You hunt for ideas, inspiration, support and above all, answers. And the whole time, you feel awful.
Estrangement, in other words, is hard.
It's natural to gravitate towards quick and relatively easy solutions: Writing an apology letter. Sending gifts. Showing up unannounced. Sending one text after another, despite receiving no reply.
For parents, the real work of healing estrangement often has nothing to do with contact. It's long, slow, difficult and solitary work. But parents who take the harder path can earn greater rewards, sooner, as host Tina Gilbertson explains in this essential episode.
For more on how to repair you...
Estrangement, in other words, is hard.
It's natural to gravitate towards quick and relatively easy solutions: Writing an apology letter. Sending gifts. Showing up unannounced. Sending one text after another, despite receiving no reply.
For parents, the real work of healing estrangement often has nothing to do with contact. It's long, slow, difficult and solitary work. But parents who take the harder path can earn greater rewards, sooner, as host Tina Gilbertson explains in this essential episode.
For more on how to repair you...
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189. The Elephant in the Room, Part 2
Просмотров 45314 дней назад
This is Part 2 of a 2-part episode. Click here for Part 1. More often than not, when no-contact adult children end their estrangements and return to the relationship, there's an elephant in the room at least from the parent's point of view. Parents feel like they're walking on eggshells, trying to avoid whatever it was that created the problem in the first place. If only their adult children wo...
188. Reconciliation and The Elephant in the Room, Part 1
Просмотров 69728 дней назад
More often than not, when no-contact adult children end their estrangements and return to the relationship, there's an elephant in the room at least from the parent's point of view. Parents feel like they're walking on eggshells, trying to avoid whatever it was that created the problem in the first place. If only their adult children would tell them what went wrong, so they could keep it from h...
RCP187 Special Holiday Episode: "You Are Not Alone"
Просмотров 524Месяц назад
Hear the voices of parent who are facing the holidays without their estranged adult children this year... If you’re unwillingly estranged from your adult child or children during the holiday season, host Tina Gilbertson and members of the Reconnection Club community want you to know you’re not alone. Listen to this very special episode in your podcast player app before it expires on December 30...
186. It's Not Black and White
Просмотров 693Месяц назад
Following on from episodes 160 and 162 (see episode links below), host Tina Gilbertson addresses another one of those cognitive distortions (or common thinking errors) that create extra suffering in an experience that’s already painful: Estrangement from your adult child(ren). In this episode, Tina runs through a total of six examples (keep listening after she reviews the first three!) of black...
185. How Not to Come Across As Critical
Просмотров 8822 месяца назад
Some estranged adult children go no contact because they say their parents are too critical. Has your adult child made this complaint? Are you frustrated because you just don't see what they're seeing? Does it seem like your adult child is too sensitive, and you're walking on eggshells because you never know what's going to make them feel criticized? Or do you recognize what they're talking abo...
184. Why Your Child's Partner Doesn't Like You
Просмотров 9212 месяца назад
Getting along with in-laws is an age-old tradition, but also a challenge for many. When your adult child appears to be estranged because their partner doesn’t like you, it can feel like a hurtful and impossible situation. The partner may seem like a cruel and powerful gatekeeper, standing between you and your child and grandchild(ren). Resentment soon follows. And things go downhill from there....
183. Overcoming Shame
Просмотров 7683 месяца назад
Not every parent whose adult child goes no contact feels like hiding it from friends and acquaintances. But many parents do. If you feel uncomfortable sharing the fact of your adult child(ren)'s estrangement, you might identify with the Reconnection Club member whose words Tina shares in this forum-inspired episode. If you fear the judgement of others, could it be that you've been judging yours...
182. Handling Political Differences with Bill Eddy
Просмотров 4163 месяца назад
For clickable links, view the show notes at reconnectionclub.com/182. Political differences can play a role in family estrangement. But simply having differences is not the whole problem. How we communicate with family members who don't share our views affects our ability to connect with them in spite of those differences. In this helpful episode, Tina shares an excerpt from her conversation wi...
181. Small Change
Просмотров 8134 месяца назад
When you have an estranged adult child who's gone no-contact, it's impossible not to think about change. Something needs to change if your adult child's estrangement is to end. But making changes isn't easy. Especially if you're not sure what to change, or how, or why. In this episode, Tina shares her personal experience of an unexpected change that happened in her life. She talks about how cha...
180. Reconciliation Blues
Просмотров 1 тыс.4 месяца назад
Reconciliation between parents and no-contact adult children can be thought of as a phase of estrangement. That means that for many parents, reconciliation will be disappointing - at least for a while. Things aren’t back to normal. Conversation doesn’t flow. You might still feel estranged, even though there’s contact. What’s going on? In this episode, Tina normalizes some of the disappointing a...
179. What Color Is Your Estrangement?
Просмотров 1 тыс.5 месяцев назад
"We see the world not as it is, but as we are." In this episode, Tina invites parents unwillingly estranged from their adult children to take a step back and consider their beliefs about themselves, others, and the world. She compares our individual worldview to a pair of glasses, with lenses of a particular color. We can't help but perceive the world in a limiting way as long as it reaches us ...
178. How to Process a Letter From Your Estranged Adult Child
Просмотров 8945 месяцев назад
If you’ve received a letter from your estranged adult child, this week’s episode of the Reconnection Club Podcast, along with the one preceding it (Episode 177), is a must-listen. Because however hopeless, hurt or angry you might feel when you read it, it could actually contain the blueprint for future reconciliation and peace. Many parents fail to decode the message that’s usually there betwee...
177. How to Process a Letter From Your Estranged Adult Child
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If you’ve received a letter from your estranged adult child, this week’s episode of the Reconnection Club Podcast is a must-listen. Because however hopeless, hurt or angry you might feel when you read it, it could actually contain the blueprint for future reconciliation and peace. Many parents fail to decode the message that’s usually there between the lines - the one about what went wrong in t...
Important announcement regarding episode expiration
Просмотров 7646 месяцев назад
TRANSCRIPT: These are uncertain times for those of us who create and freely share content via the Internet. I mentioned on the podcast earlier this year that I needed some time to assess the impact of all the changes happening in the world of digital information, including the widespread, unregulated use of AI. At that time, I removed the show from a couple of the larger platforms, and stopped ...
174. "How to set boundaries without making them mad?"
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174. "How to set boundaries without making them mad?"
172. When to Respect a No-Contact Request
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172. When to Respect a No-Contact Request
170. "Why can't we expect our adult children to care about us?"
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170. "Why can't we expect our adult children to care about us?"
168. Emotional Pain: A Field Guide
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168. Emotional Pain: A Field Guide
167. What to Do When You Don't Know What to Do
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167. What to Do When You Don't Know What to Do
166. Paradoxes of Estrangement (Part 2)
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166. Paradoxes of Estrangement (Part 2)
165. Paradoxes of Estrangement (Part 1)
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165. Paradoxes of Estrangement (Part 1)
Important Announcement Regarding Access to This Podcast
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Dammit!!
Our thoughts exactly. :( Remember you can always listen ad-free on our website, reconnectionclub.com/podcast.
I would like you return to the topic where the daughter leaves home because she needs her own space. I swear I didn't want to hurt my parents. I loved them very much. I just wanted to have a place where my narc brother wouldn't abuse me. Help me to get rid of this guilt. They died thinking I didn't love them.
Thank you !
Happy new year Tina! 🎉
Thank you for your podcasts. They have helped me see the wood for the trees. I wish you a pleasant year for 2022.
Happy New Year Tina. Your videos have been if great value to me too. Thank you
2022 Happy New Beginning to all💝
Thank you, your podcast is valued & appreciated.