Ask Better Questions to Build Better Connections | Amber L. Wright | TEDxCSULB

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  • Опубликовано: 2 фев 2025

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  • @januarsalonga2170
    @januarsalonga2170 3 года назад +162

    "I'm not doing my best today but I'm trying my best." Powerful. Thank you Amber,

    • @wordswellsaid
      @wordswellsaid 3 года назад +2

      Thank you for watching, Januar!

    • @EngrushOfficial
      @EngrushOfficial 2 года назад

      @@wordswellsaid Thank you for enlightening us through your valuable words. Love you from India.

  • @roolshool
    @roolshool 3 года назад +115

    Criminally underrated talk

    • @wordswellsaid
      @wordswellsaid 3 года назад +9

      Wow, thank you so much, Ruhul!

    • @50tenspro
      @50tenspro 2 года назад +9

      Agreed Ruhul! So glad this came across my feed. Dr. Wright gets to the crux of what constitutes meaningful communication. Thank you Mrs. Wright. 😊

    • @tomherald
      @tomherald Год назад +2

      I agree!

  • @MrValod818
    @MrValod818 2 года назад +21

    So much compassion in her voice.

  • @andreab04
    @andreab04 3 месяца назад +5

    1:09 find ways to connect (1:16 school example) (1:31way to do it by asking "What was the best part of your day today?")
    8:28 relationship question to ask
    9:07 be more curious (networking scenario)
    10:38 answer authenticly and honestly (10:46 example), 12:24 so answer the "how are you?" with honesty and thought (12:30 example, end it with "thank you for asking", think about how you are feeling "today")

  • @silondilejali5473
    @silondilejali5473 Год назад +24

    I did yesterday, I wasn't having the greatest day and when asked how I am - my response was "I'm not having the best day but I'm doing my best". And let me tell you how goooood that felt, to be honest and vulnerable yet still able to maintain my privacy. Thank you Amber

  • @MelissaKing-o4z
    @MelissaKing-o4z Месяц назад +111

    Exciting video, A year ago i took the no contact route, well i wouldn't say it didnt go well, but i missed her and sometimes you have to leave your comfort zone and go for what you want, Without knowing and having a huge ego, we might actually miss out on our soul mate all in the name of not settling for less, I know who i am fand at the same time i know what i want for me, so i did all i could to get her back, and I must say, it was the best decision i have ever made, we have been together again for over 7 months, yes marriage isnt always rosey, but i am lucky to have her, just as she is to have me, we compliment each other

    • @barbaraandrews5
      @barbaraandrews5 Месяц назад

      its difficult to let go of someone you love, i am in a similar situation, and i do not know what else do to have him back, i have been dying inside, people actually think i am happy, i am not. I feel your pain sister, after trying out the no contact experiment that failed miserably, i had to find other means, i had to reach out to a spiritual adviser, it was brilliant idea which i never thout it was, but it worked wonders for me.c

    • @MelissaKing-o4z
      @MelissaKing-o4z Месяц назад

      Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach him/ her?

    • @barbaraandrews5
      @barbaraandrews5 Месяц назад

      His name is Fatherabulu, and he is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.

    • @MelissaKing-o4z
      @MelissaKing-o4z Месяц назад

      Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive

  • @spyram31
    @spyram31 4 года назад +30

    Wow, “Communicating with intention”, I love it.

  • @MissHuergo
    @MissHuergo 3 года назад +32

    Thank you Amber, what an amazing speech.
    I had the same situation a week ago with my very close friends or (Big Sister) Pamela. I always smile even when I cry but this time I was sinking from the inside. We gather up at her house and we’re talking about life. For the past weeks and months I wasn’t fine and she took the momentum to not ask me but to tell me; I know you are not okay. WOW! that was powerful I literally couldn’t hold my tears., It was a very emotional time. My best friend committed suicide two months ago and after that day I been so aware of these feelings, so harsh.
    If you are reading this and consider yourself a good friend pay attention and good luck 🍀

  • @91choudhariazam
    @91choudhariazam Год назад +4

    Love you Professor. You are the best one.

  • @yassirislam5223
    @yassirislam5223 2 года назад +13

    An excellent talk..warm, engaging ,and full of insight..thank you!

  • @tashajackson6751
    @tashajackson6751 4 года назад +30

    I saw this talk live several months ago (pre-covid). It has stayed with me. Truly inflicted the way I talk to my youngest. Thank you for this gift. Your talk has had impact! 🙏

  • @mrterrygivens
    @mrterrygivens 3 года назад +15

    What a wonderful explanation of this skill. Thank you Amber.

  • @inyango9055
    @inyango9055 2 года назад +6

    Just love her energy and her voice

  • @JOwens
    @JOwens 3 года назад +7

    Love this, Amber Authentic Communication bonds, builds and helps us grow positive relationships . Thanks - it’s the best mentoring.

  • @angelawillisrealestateserv1801
    @angelawillisrealestateserv1801 3 месяца назад +4

    So glad I watched this.

  • @MohdShahilKhan-cw5dl
    @MohdShahilKhan-cw5dl 2 месяца назад +1

    Summary :
    Q1 : What is best part of your day today .
    Q2 What about your work inspire you instead of asking what you do ?
    Q3 How can I support you in this moment instead of How you hanging in this hard time?
    Q4 What does success look like for you when all of this is said and done?
    Q5 How can we work together to meet this goal instead of How can I help?
    Q6 Are you okay instead of How are you ?

  • @pranayraycha9974
    @pranayraycha9974 3 года назад +3

    I had been wondering for a long time how to connect things in order to remember them and how to remember to connect things. And suddenly I see this video in my recommendation and yeah I found one answer. Thank you.

  • @ajordan1847
    @ajordan1847 4 года назад +10

    Amber you are such an inspiring communicator!!! Grateful to be able to witness your, "genius zone" in action. I plan to implement what you shared with others, the intentionality in questioning and showing empathy, resonated. Awesomeness all around.😊 (by the way this is Alethea J from class).

  • @bonnieshepperd907
    @bonnieshepperd907 Месяц назад +1

    This was so eye opening. As I look back over my life this knowledge would have been sooo helpful.

  • @donyellmcgilbert1737
    @donyellmcgilbert1737 3 месяца назад +2

    This was amazing. Thank you. I try to listen to this often because I take away so much from it.

    • @wordswellsaid
      @wordswellsaid 16 дней назад +1

      Thank you, Donyell! I have more content on my channel you might enjoy.

  • @raeg5257
    @raeg5257 Год назад +4

    This was incredible!! I have been feeling like my relationships have been superficial the last while. And it made me feel like for some reason I was at fault. But I’m going to try to ask more insightful questions. Thank you for sharing your knowledge and experiences!!

  • @reginabass4515
    @reginabass4515 2 года назад +2

    Thank you for helping me through your speech recognize it is okay not to be okay.

  • @Beyondtheidentity
    @Beyondtheidentity 10 месяцев назад +2

    Meaningful speech, thank you Amber ❤

  • @roopakurup3931
    @roopakurup3931 Год назад +3

    Such a powerful and amazing talk. Loved it.
    Thank you Dr Wright for such an inspiring talk .

  • @aqmeriamen-wint6313
    @aqmeriamen-wint6313 Год назад +2

    This is really amazing! Thank you Amber!

  • @frany7493
    @frany7493 2 года назад +1

    Brilliant, sweet, caring, powerfully humble and effective.
    Thank you 💕💕💕

  • @trameldavis7763
    @trameldavis7763 Год назад +1

    Well said Ms. Amber.

  • @flossa1960
    @flossa1960 Год назад +1

    this talk is amazing, it’s really changed my outlook! thank you amber

  • @yordanostemesgen1417
    @yordanostemesgen1417 Год назад +3

    This is such an interesting topic to talk about !!

  • @adrielmolk
    @adrielmolk 4 месяца назад +2

    Wow, thank you so much!

  • @Sky_11029
    @Sky_11029 4 года назад +7

    One of the best ted talks I've seen I wonder why so little visibility

    • @wordswellsaid
      @wordswellsaid 3 года назад +4

      I appreciate that, Diane. Thank you!

  • @JanetJagnaan
    @JanetJagnaan 11 месяцев назад +2

    I love her.

  • @dorothyedwards7225
    @dorothyedwards7225 Год назад +2

    Thank you, that was uplifting and connecting.

  • @CEOLife
    @CEOLife 8 месяцев назад +1

    Thank you so much! These are great, community is everything!

  • @hillarym2563
    @hillarym2563 3 месяца назад +1

    Beautiful Is an understatement

  • @06.phamvomybinh44
    @06.phamvomybinh44 Год назад +1

    love your talk. really inspired. thanks a lot amber

  • @VernettaRFreeney
    @VernettaRFreeney 4 года назад +12

    Great talk Amber. Definitely need to do better asking better questions myself.

  • @darchabennett7917
    @darchabennett7917 Год назад +1

    That was awesome and much needed, thanks for the transparency 😊

  • @AmeliaFeng-rd4nc
    @AmeliaFeng-rd4nc Год назад +1

    Thank you so much for this talk!!! Just what I was looking for. Very well presented.

  • @ajinkyadeshmukh6324
    @ajinkyadeshmukh6324 Год назад +1

    Thank you so so much for this info! It changed my perspective and made me think deeply about relationship building!

  • @tomato3347
    @tomato3347 Год назад +1

    Amazing talk, learned Hundred things

  • @rosedevereux2391
    @rosedevereux2391 2 года назад +3

    4:18-7:30 💝💖💞
    "You young AND you old at the same _toime_ " Sooo Cali!!

  • @michelleb4035
    @michelleb4035 11 месяцев назад +1

    Wonderful advice.

  • @justinaez4029
    @justinaez4029 2 года назад +1

    Đã là fan thì mãi mãi là fan😉💗

  • @priscaisimoya
    @priscaisimoya 2 года назад +1

    I really enjoyed this speech!

  • @jordantoronto863
    @jordantoronto863 2 года назад +1

    I love this talk so much!!!!

  • @strainwashed
    @strainwashed 9 месяцев назад +1

    Thank you amber

  • @kristinedreimane1454
    @kristinedreimane1454 3 года назад +3

    Absolutely love this speach! Thank you ❤

  • @dclark6357
    @dclark6357 4 месяца назад +1

    Great Talk❤

  • @caneysherfield
    @caneysherfield 2 года назад +2

    Very insightful thank you for sharing!

  • @tamannaarora8892
    @tamannaarora8892 10 месяцев назад +1

    You are phenomenal

  • @tebogoikaneng727
    @tebogoikaneng727 Год назад +1

    Love the talk, and I learnt a lot...

  • @kaimurphy7953
    @kaimurphy7953 2 года назад +1

    GREAT TED TALK!!!

  • @tushararan9222
    @tushararan9222 Год назад +1

    Beautiful!

  • @maureenclement2553
    @maureenclement2553 Год назад +1

    Wonderful!

  • @prenapoetry
    @prenapoetry Год назад +1

    Thank you

  • @carmensumlin4294
    @carmensumlin4294 Год назад +1

    AWESOME!

  • @wildfireol
    @wildfireol 2 года назад +1

    Brilliant talk 💜

  • @carololiveira6889
    @carololiveira6889 2 года назад +1

    Just beautiful !!

  • @Hervebutoyi
    @Hervebutoyi 3 года назад +2

    Way too few views! thanks for the talk Amber. All the way from Denmark.

    • @wordswellsaid
      @wordswellsaid 3 года назад +1

      Thank you for watching, all the way in Denmark!

  • @NaturalieOne
    @NaturalieOne 4 года назад +1

    Ambert is amazing.

  • @ambermack7243
    @ambermack7243 2 года назад +1

    I loved this

  • @joshaquino8189
    @joshaquino8189 2 года назад +2

    thoughtfully curious

  • @danaa.leblanc2543
    @danaa.leblanc2543 Год назад +1

    Excellent. Clear and concise. Thank you.

  • @BobF510
    @BobF510 Год назад +1

    This is an amazing reservoir of knowledge. A book I read with similar wisdom was a paradigm shift for me. "The Art of Meaningful Relationships in the 21st Century" by Leo Flint

  • @mosytube
    @mosytube Год назад +1

    Solid. Very.

  • @Ms76Cocoa
    @Ms76Cocoa 4 года назад

    This was so good Amber! Thank you!

  • @bizhustle3741
    @bizhustle3741 2 года назад +4

    Perception shattered, Connection made... Nice!

  • @Abahale11
    @Abahale11 2 года назад

    Its amazing how deep we are in this "education narrative", besides accepting the fact that we all are learning and all we can do is try to communicate this learning to others. There's no such thing as "teaching".

  • @jameskovach1210
    @jameskovach1210 3 года назад +2

    Much appreciation Amber, for sharing, and for enduring and/or moving through whatever obstacles “could have” stopped your work from getting to the rest of us. Is the phenomenon of -the entire universe being made up of nothing but answers (the only action necessary is to ask Questions [quality questions] to receive them) a common observation?
    Is this observation incorrect?
    If individual people are an aggregate that make up a more complex being, then you are a healthy cell and I’m grateful.
    Being Human is weird huh? Hope you enjoy these questions and many thanks.
    Is a “rhetorical question” just a phrase for a statement? Why are there so many important definitions for the word “just,” such a commonly used word? Sorry for yammering, I JUST have so many questions. 😂
    Your speech has brought about an action in me, to make an effort to be aware of questions asked-and to react in a pleasant way to the curious and information seekers encountered throughout the day. To be aware when I am making statements rather than connections and so much more.

  • @jasonhewitt2150
    @jasonhewitt2150 Год назад +1

    You are good

  • @TheStreetsurfer06
    @TheStreetsurfer06 3 года назад +1

    Amazing

  • @nobody123-b5r
    @nobody123-b5r 8 месяцев назад +2

    Kendrick Lamar is even talked about in Ted talks 🔥🔥🔥🔥 drake stood no chance

  • @damanybrown5036
    @damanybrown5036 Месяц назад +1

    What is YOUR glory???

    • @wordswellsaid
      @wordswellsaid 16 дней назад

      My glory lies is my brilliance, beauty, and a being a bright light. 💫

  • @antjr54
    @antjr54 Год назад +1

    Interesting

  • @christinadone774
    @christinadone774 10 месяцев назад +1

    Today is all I have

  • @HilalIbnKhalifat
    @HilalIbnKhalifat 2 года назад +4

    "Relationships are life's greatest currency" can a metaphor be more American than that 😭😭😭😭😭😭

    • @wordswellsaid
      @wordswellsaid 16 дней назад

      Well, I am an American, so, there's that. But the intention behind that statement is framed by what I said next, about true wealth being our relationships. It's not about money at all. 🙂

    • @HilalIbnKhalifat
      @HilalIbnKhalifat 16 дней назад

      @wordswellsaid fair enough. And I'm not denying the fact the analogy works ;)

  • @TellSamyra
    @TellSamyra 3 года назад

    Helpful

    • @wordswellsaid
      @wordswellsaid 3 года назад +1

      Thank you, Samyra! I'm glad you found it helpful.

  • @Floberlee
    @Floberlee 2 года назад

    7:40

  • @Floberlee
    @Floberlee 2 года назад

    3:30

  • @MekonenMeteor123
    @MekonenMeteor123 Год назад +1

    I lose sleep by that opener of this talk I have the worst icebreaking questions

  • @robrobusa
    @robrobusa Год назад +3

    I wonder - how does one stop oneself from oversharing, then? :D

  • @pazzodi3
    @pazzodi3 8 месяцев назад +2

    This is corporate nonsense. True meaningful questions are the most difficult ones to ask.. how about asking, what's the most difficult thing about being you, what's the hardest thing about being a child/sibling/young, what's the easiest thing about being you? Etc.... Superficial questions will lead to superficial relationships.

  • @Arachne-qw1vr
    @Arachne-qw1vr 2 года назад +1

    Nah. I used to be like that. It's only good in micro doses.

  • @parisrealick
    @parisrealick 2 года назад +2

    "Go deep, not wild" @tykwondoe

  • @kwamechristianesq.4558
    @kwamechristianesq.4558 8 месяцев назад +1

    Incredible talk!

  • @thinkpink472
    @thinkpink472 3 месяца назад +1

    Amazing

  • @eclips3354
    @eclips3354 2 года назад +1

    Amazing talk!!!

  • @Floberlee
    @Floberlee 2 года назад

    10:05