How to Get Out of the Freeze Response When Healing Developmental Trauma!
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- Опубликовано: 30 сен 2024
- If you have experienced the freeze response from emotional trauma, whether periodically through your life or as a perpetual adult experience (one possible manifestation = chronic fatigue), you know all too well the misery that is the experience of being in freeze. And you also know that getting out of the freeze response is very difficult and can be impossible if we don't understand what's happening or what our bodies need to get out of it. In this video, I explain what I have found to be the most effective way to get out of the freeze state: get to the ACTUAL EMOTION that's underneath - the emotion that our bodies are dissociating from. Because the freeze response is a dissociated state. We're dissociating from our emotion(s) because we've been conditioned from our childhood to believe they're not safe to feel, let alone express. So the answer to getting out of freeze is to get to the REAL emotion... but that's easier said than done!! In order to do that, we need to create fierce safety in the body (visceral safety) and the mind (non-judgement, acceptance, compassion). This takes practice and working to wire these things in BEFORE trying to get to the emotion because the emotion needs a safe place to go and be met by loving connection to self in order to process and heal. For this, we need a practice of Havening Techniques (a somatic practice sending messages of love, safety, and connection through touch) and education on emotions, attachment, etc. to do the work of de-shaming our emotions and learning how to disarm shame and judgement in the body in order for the emotions to start to flow through us. Once you get to the actual emotion, you will start to feel the body start to unfreeze!!
Getting to the actual emotion may not happen every time, however, and especially not in the beginning. But you can start to get out of the freeze response simply by the repeated acknowledgement of what is ACTUALLY happening - that we are inside a wound right now...this state is a wounded/triggered state. It's not US. It's a wounded part of us that's taking over right now. Just that acknowledgement will start to unfreeze us if we keep reminding ourselves of that truth because we're are actually seeing our inner child's emotions, even if we can't feel them yet, and that's exactly what our body/inner child needs. ❤️❤️
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⚠️DISCLAIMER: The content of these videos are created for informational and entertainment purposes only. Please do not substitute this content for medical or professional advice and consult a qualified health care provider or other professional with any questions regarding your medical condition. The aim of these videos is to give support, encouragement, and inspiration to those who are on the journey of healing their own chronic health condition, in part by sharing my own journey of recovery and the lessons I have learned through the process.
You talk about a side of mental health that I’m dealing with that you have such great clear explanations and I don’t hear many people discuss. You helped me during a big freeze a couple months ago and I am going thru it again but I have more clarity this time. It still happened but listening to you I can start to SEE it. Thank you again.
Thank you. I have been in freeze state my entire adult life. I do not have anything going for me like everyone else….especially in my family.
Everyday I wake up exhausted and hopeless. No kids. No husband. No close friends.
This is the only video I have come across where you have described everything to its finest detail.
I hope your channel reaches millions of people…you are truly gifted at what you do. Deep medicine ✨🌹✨
You're the best Lauren! I love your realistic and heartfelt approach to these things.
I’m so happy I found you. I’ve been in this freeze state many times and lately the last 4 months this one has been the worst of my life. 68 yo and learning. It’s never too late
This couldn’t have come at a better time. Hit by another huge freeze state last night, feeling like I was crazy. Was it from food, emotions, what is causing this odd feeling in my body????
Knowing I did not want to go to a normal doctor for a prescription, but not knowing who to turn to to discuss this. Thank you thank you thank you 🙏🙏🙏. You are amazing.
I love the knowledge you share. So easy to relate to, and take in 💝💝
YOU ROCK!... ❤️❤️❤️
Thank you ❤. Your videos are pure gold. So much wisdom and practical help here. I'm so grateful for the help you've given me.
Thankyou very much for this info. You are very calming & I can feel your empathy & understanding 💗
Thank you Lauren, I'm soooo very glad you are doing your channel. Your explanations are fantastic and your empathy is beautiful. Yay for havening:)). It's such a great tool. I tell people it about it every chance I get. Blessings!!!!
Hi, just wanted to say I think everything you say is absolutely correct about the root cause of these chronic illnesses to be emotional at the root. You're doing an incredible job with this channel. I've also suffered a lot of emotional wounds, especially shame, which have left me in states of freeze, shut down, collapse etc... and feeling hopeless so your videos have helped me find validation of these experiences and solutions. If you haven't already, there's a segment from Teal Swan's workshop about chronic fatigue on RUclips which you may find interesting. She talks a lot about emotional root causes of ailments in her teachings. You may also like Evette Rose who teaches metaphysical anatomy. Just thought I'd let you know of other teachers who corroborate with your perspectives that you may enjoy. Keep up the amazing work!
amazing
Thank you so much !
I felt so validated listening to your explanations about this d**n freeze state. And less alone to deal with it.
I'm grateful I've just discovered this precious corner of the internet.
You are amazing ❤ thank you for all you’re sharing 🙏🏻💓🌞
Thank you Lauren. I find this to be an *incredibly* helpful video, it’s from the heart, and brilliantly and concisely explained. Sending you sincere gratitude 🙏
Love this video ❤️ So helpful! ❤️
Your explanation is crystal clear and very accurate. You talk from a real experience, and this is reflected in all that you say. I think I have been trapped in the suffering of the pre-wound arrival state all my life. The real pain, the core wound will generally never show itself, it will keep creating misery, suffering, tears and failures but it will not reveal itself except in rare cases. I am not sure why this happens. We suffer in our childhood, then we suffer in our adulthood because our subconscious mind is locking the door leading us to the pain which gladly offers itself for healing. What is sadly hilarious and very paradoxical is that once you reach the pain you feel free and happy!!! Real pain does not cause misery once you reach it, it just reveals itself as a very deep core pain for a short time, perhaps few minutes then you feel really really free.
Just found this...soooooo good & absolutely spot on!!
Yes…I really needed this ❤❤❤
This is so helpful. Thank you ❤
From the bottom of my heart - thank you ❤
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Glad I've finally come across someone who gets it. I'll be working up to that first call.
Thank you so much for this. Do you offer appointments?
So sorry for the delayed response. And I'm so happy you found this video helpful! Yes I do offer appointments - a first 30-minute appointment for free to see if we're a good fit for coaching and then 60-minute or 90-minute paid sessions after that! Here is my website where you can book an appointment: www.laurenvorhees.com/. Just click "Book a session," then pick 30-minute session, and then pick a time from the calendar. I hope to be speaking with you sometime soon! 💖💖
Hi ❤ This has been so useful to me. In a previous YT video of yours you explained Havening and working with the emotion e.g Fear.
Here you have used the Havenig Technique but used loving statements and comforting our inner child.
Can you explain when we use the Fear and Haven and when to use loving words and Havening.
I hope this makes sense? Thank you so much. ❤xx
Hello! 💖That's an excellent question!! (I'm sorry for the very slow reply). So, the wonderful thing about Havening is that it is so universally helpful. It can help us bring love and connection and compassion to ourselves when we're feeling a difficult emotion, or in times when we're feeling a difficult emotion and we don't know what it is and need to help it move, or in times we want to embed a positive affirmation of some kind (eg we are loved, safe, etc.). But to answer your question about when to Haven to a difficult emotion vs Haven to affirm love and safety, the answer is it's really whatever you feel more called to do at any given moment. However, I personally believe where most of us need more support and conscious focus is on allowing the difficult emotions to come up. So I tend to use Havening much more for the release side than the affirmation side because I have found the release side of things to be the most beneficial in my healing journey and see it as frequently the side of healing that we're missing and needing the most. But I use both! Because both Havening for release of difficult emotions and Havening for self-affirmation are really doing the same thing - creating love and safety somatically. 💕 I hope that answers your wonderful question!! ✨ Let me know if I can clarify anything else! Wishing you so much love, success, movement, light, etc. on your healing journey! 💖🌈
@emotional-answers thank you for your reply! Yes it makes perfect sense and agree it's the difficult emotions we fi d challenging to release. Thank you. I hope your doing very well. 🥰xx
Groundhogs day. Again. But not today. Today is now. Feel it.
super hard -
Thank you so much!! I hope you know how valuable your work is 🩵✨Thank you as one human to another.
Your video just make my Cptsd journey a little easier
Oh wow, thank you so much for sharing that with me! 💖 I'm so glad to hear they've been helpful for you on your journey. I so hope your recovery journey is going well, and you're noticing improvement in your vitality and sense of wholeness! 🙏 It's a difficult journey, but your body, mind, and spirit is thanking you every step of the way. My heart is with you. 💕✨