More women turning to IVF amid trend of becoming single moms by choice

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  • Опубликовано: 10 ноя 2024

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  • @balance7350
    @balance7350 Год назад +37

    I'm so happy for this movement. Some men often expect us to settle for them in order to have kids but there's another way lol. Women have and always will find a way to get what they want. That's what I love about us, that's what makes us so amazing.

  • @Chinathomas_
    @Chinathomas_ 3 года назад +102

    As long as the kid is taken care of and loved properly you can’t wait for the dad. Cause not all dads are HEALTHY dads. That why I’ll probably adopt.

    • @ameliawaite9419
      @ameliawaite9419 2 года назад +3

      ...and not all moms are healthy

    • @serenasimms1400
      @serenasimms1400 2 года назад +26

      @@ameliawaite9419 ? Its pretty safe to say that these financially and emotionally stable women who dishesd out tens of thousands of dollars to have a baby are healthy.

    • @shelbysycamore637
      @shelbysycamore637 2 года назад +1

      @@serenasimms1400 I hope this was sarcasm

    • @Cub__
      @Cub__ 2 года назад +2

      @@shelbysycamore637 sadly it's not these chicks are lost.

  • @mrs.clemons1085
    @mrs.clemons1085 Год назад +15

    I lost my husband before we could get pregnant, and I’m 31. He and I both wanted a baby desperately. Due to my age, and the lack of guys my age wanting kids. I’m considering IVF. I did everything right, and it just didn’t end the way I expected. It’s my dream to be a mom, and wife. My husband may be dead, but I can still be a mom

  • @iamasia_perez
    @iamasia_perez 2 года назад +17

    I don’t need IVF but I’m definitely done waiting around for a man 😂 I’ll be doing ICI in February 2023 🤰🏽🥰🥰

    • @lalina1304
      @lalina1304 Год назад +1

      How did it go?

    • @iamasia_perez
      @iamasia_perez Год назад +1

      @@lalina1304 I pushed it back because I changed my mind about using the sperm donor .. currently searching for a new one n hoping to start the process in November 2023

    • @lalina1304
      @lalina1304 Год назад +1

      @@iamasia_perez All the best, I'm hoping to have joined you 🤞🏽😅

    • @iamasia_perez
      @iamasia_perez Год назад

      @@lalina1304 thank you same to you 🙏🏽

  • @aa.s2444
    @aa.s2444 Год назад +20

    I’m 17 weeks pregnant with my IVF miracle! Single mom by choice this time! Two adult children and the hardest thing about parenting was CO PARENTING! I wanted another baby before 40 and wasn’t considering being trapped in a relationship if things didn’t work out! I love my decision and I’m excited to raise my baby! My IVF process was amazing! 1 cycle and no complications! It’s your life choose HAPPINESS!! 🎉❤❤❤

    • @jasonstewart3748
      @jasonstewart3748 Год назад +2

      Why does it sound like you're still trying to convince yourself that you made the right choice?

    • @ramanandy9531
      @ramanandy9531 8 месяцев назад +4

      ​@@jasonstewart3748Why does it sound like your ego just got hurt just down there...

  • @elliebell842
    @elliebell842 3 года назад +60

    Yessss no man is needed to have a happy family😊

    • @jadenphilander8799
      @jadenphilander8799 2 года назад +10

      Well...thousands of studies say otherwise.

    • @Cub__
      @Cub__ 2 года назад +5

      @@jadenphilander8799 these people are pure delusional and why society is in the state that it's in and continuing.

    • @jadenphilander8799
      @jadenphilander8799 2 года назад

      @@Cub__ facts. African American comunity is F*cked becaise if this.

    • @arimdu1408
      @arimdu1408 2 года назад +3

      Really you clearly haven't seen the stats for single parent homes. 🤣🤣🤣

    • @gailainsley6939
      @gailainsley6939 Год назад +2

      @@arimdu1408. That’s those that had kids young and in poverty. Not children from these types of women who actually plan financially, mentally and emotionally 😂😴

  • @lillesha00
    @lillesha00 Год назад +7

    ❤ I decided to do it 11 years ago. My baby is amazing but not a baby 9 years old now! 🎉

    • @arimdu1408
      @arimdu1408 Год назад

      Around about the age my son started to ask for me

  • @darrenhilton9402
    @darrenhilton9402 3 года назад +9

    "Promises I Can Keep."

  • @jones2277
    @jones2277 Год назад +7

    men need to rise to the challenge, literally and figuratively, or this will be the norm here on out.

  • @luckyMe_0
    @luckyMe_0 10 месяцев назад +4

    Oh my dream comes true..ladies work hard to afford pretty babies..dating (man)is horrible this days..fcous in your carrier (money)..when you ready go to sperm bank to get beautiful babies..don't listen these man they worry about themselves..not the babies or you..they going to be mad😅

  • @MyThoughtzAndOpinionz
    @MyThoughtzAndOpinionz Год назад +4

    Let’s see how this turns out in 10 years

    • @lalina1304
      @lalina1304 Год назад +1

      studies have already been done, it goes way better than single parents due to divorce, not too different to happy two parent homes.

    • @MsFlamingFlamer
      @MsFlamingFlamer 8 месяцев назад +5

      This isn’t new. There are SMBC whose kids are grown and they are fine

  • @chuckruckus3648
    @chuckruckus3648 3 года назад +3

    End days
    Pick the smarter taller embryo.

  • @IOeste80
    @IOeste80 Год назад +4

    Women fall for the absolute worst qualities in men, and then are surprised when they don’t make good fathers. This is NOT the way. People should choose their mates more carefully…and if that’s too much to do, then just resolve that a child or family is not in the cards for you. YOU may not feel that a child needs a father, but that’s selfishness on your part. At some point, that child will absolutely need/want that him…even if you refuse to acknowledge it. Love is not selfish.

  • @TroubleWorld
    @TroubleWorld Год назад

    🤷🏾‍♀️

  • @arimdu1408
    @arimdu1408 2 года назад +4

    Because statistics support this as the most successful combination for you child to become a prisoner, suffer from mental health issues, homelessness etc. If you can't get along with another human how do you expect to raise one? 🤷🏾

    • @z7z766
      @z7z766 Год назад +1

      ​ The fact that your male brain is cherry picking study that got nothing to do with this video. The study you are cherry picking and I bet you never even read the whole research is about single parent by circumstance where the child is exposed to conflict that happen between the separated parents, poverty and uneducated young single parent. On the other hand, studies show that children of single mother by choice SMBC do even better than children from two parents home. SMBY are age appropriate, professional, educated a d financially affluent women who live in a good neighborhood, there is no conflict at home, there is no sexism or gender roles, there is no male depravity etc. Also majority OF SMBY go for sex selection and choose to have only female children

    • @arimdu1408
      @arimdu1408 Год назад

      @@z7z766 I didn't refer to any study. Although please enlighten me to a few journals I am very interested in your findings. I could also say the same about two parents that are equally educated. In fact I will even go out and say I bet they do even better than even than a single one man or woman. Conflict and conflict Resolution are important for children to observe . I have seen my parents argue and resolve conflicts peacefully and by example that how I resolve conflicts.

    • @papillonnoir3747
      @papillonnoir3747 Год назад +2

      Ya ll keep throwing out "the statistics show" when these are an entirely different group of older, educated and financially stable women. Stop comparing apples to oranges. Just say you're mad its another thing men can no longer control women with and go. If its one thing about men ive learned is most of you definitely dont care about kids 😂

    • @natashadickson4819
      @natashadickson4819 Год назад

      3% of the U.S. population have ever been in prison. Therefore, the vast majority of people will be alright, including those are raised by single parents.

    • @arimdu1408
      @arimdu1408 Год назад

      @@natashadickson4819 it's closer to 8% as to people that have been at some point in their life. What about the other factors. I'm saying your child is doomed just pointing out a fact two is better than one.

  • @shelbysycamore637
    @shelbysycamore637 2 года назад +6

    When having a child is like buying a designer bag.

    • @MsFlamingFlamer
      @MsFlamingFlamer 8 месяцев назад +3

      You obviously don’t know diddly about the fertility process if you honestly think that’s what IVF is like.

  • @mykehunt2430
    @mykehunt2430 3 года назад +8

    Not enough single moms in Chicago I guess. So do they get to go down to welfare or whatever and say I ain’t got no man give me money?

    • @karmabutterfly7985
      @karmabutterfly7985 3 года назад +27

      If they can afford ivf and donor sperm then they don’t need welfare 😒

    • @lwashington8534
      @lwashington8534 2 года назад +10

      Dude you have no idea what you are talking about. A single woman that is adopting or doing fertility treatments has MONEY. Buying a vial of sperm is like $1,000 and insurance doesn't cover it. A private adoption is about $10-20K. Most of these women are likely middle or upper income individuals- they don't need welfare.

    • @niurcajimenez6252
      @niurcajimenez6252 2 года назад +25

      No, it’s not like that, most of of us who decide to take this route don’t qualify for welfare because we are overqualified to support our own children. IVF itself is for people that are economically stable.

    • @gracelikerain5039
      @gracelikerain5039 2 года назад +23

      Women who are doing this have money already and a house etc

    • @serenasimms1400
      @serenasimms1400 2 года назад +22

      A single mom by choice and a single mom by circumstance are two incredibly different things.

  • @anthonylee3236
    @anthonylee3236 Год назад +4

    Congratulations ladies!
    Another liberation for yall.
    Men and relationships were never needed.
    This modern society really allow us man to see the true nature of woman.
    Not believe what we were thought.
    With a woman; everything has to cater to them.
    But they walk around and call men narcissist.
    🤦🏽‍♂️

    • @sahmiayav3208
      @sahmiayav3208 Год назад +4

      It’s okay Anthony you can still find a good date even if some women are choosing to care/live for themselves 🙃

    • @lts5674
      @lts5674 Год назад +4

      @@sahmiayav3208 Date each other or stay single. I don't see what the big deal is.

    • @MsFlamingFlamer
      @MsFlamingFlamer 8 месяцев назад

      INCEL

    • @princessofpower4862
      @princessofpower4862 7 месяцев назад +3

      This comment is hateful towards women. Sham on you. When will men understand women want to be respected?? 😩

  • @johnnieantler58
    @johnnieantler58 3 года назад +13

    This single motherhood movement maybe the woman’s choice, but it’s not the best choice for the child, kids need a dad, a male figure in their lives.

    • @icyunvme2400
      @icyunvme2400 3 года назад +59

      Not really.

    • @jusme4142
      @jusme4142 3 года назад +56

      Not if they’re abusive and manipulative.

    • @Lovely_Diva
      @Lovely_Diva 2 года назад +6

      @@jusme4142 Exactly!!!!!!!!!

    • @gracelikerain5039
      @gracelikerain5039 2 года назад +33

      Alot of men are abusive lol

    • @leelawadeesrisamad9573
      @leelawadeesrisamad9573 2 года назад +24

      No I had a father growing up and sometimes he can be a real piece of work. He thought just because he is a man, he is the leader of the family and he can say anything and hurt anyone in the family through verbal abuse whenever he want which is very disgusting.

  • @darius5396
    @darius5396 2 года назад +7

    Smh I feel sorry for the kid

  • @tripzero4699
    @tripzero4699 3 года назад +8

    Like we don't have enough single mom's already

    • @serenasimms1400
      @serenasimms1400 2 года назад +34

      Single moms by choice and single moms by circumstance are two completely different things.

    • @LittyLux
      @LittyLux 2 года назад +7

      @@serenasimms1400 Thank you

    • @Cub__
      @Cub__ 2 года назад +1

      @@serenasimms1400 And neither are a good thing.

    • @serenasimms1400
      @serenasimms1400 2 года назад +12

      @@Cub__ yes but men at the end of the day are to blame. When they get their shit together things will be as they should be. Until then this is a great solution and there is nothing wrong with it.

    • @Cub__
      @Cub__ 2 года назад

      @@serenasimms1400 How silly you are and void of any accountability. "Blame all men" is your serious response lol.

  • @anthonywilliams8139
    @anthonywilliams8139 3 года назад +12

    This has to be one of the most dumbest things I’ve ever heard of in my life and the fact that they are trying to articulate it as if it makes sense. STAY WOKE GUYS 👊🏻

    • @anyonebutyou87
      @anyonebutyou87 2 года назад +35

      Meanwhile, you’re the kind of dad us women DONT want.. one of the reasons we’re doing it on our own :)

    • @jadenphilander8799
      @jadenphilander8799 2 года назад

      @@anyonebutyou87 you dont even know how he is as a father. And you creating more harm to the child by being a single mother. Matriachy has never benefited a household. As a black man...just look at the African American community. Loom at the state we are in because of the removal of the father...

    • @anyonebutyou87
      @anyonebutyou87 2 года назад +16

      @@jadenphilander8799 you don’t know that. I could get into a relationship with someone who is abusive and takes it out on the children. THAT would do more harm to a child than without one. There are men out there who do that, and kids are so messed up because of it.
      Or I could get pregnant to dumb douche who doesn’t want anything to do with the child. How would the child feel knowing that their father never wanted them?
      Being a single mother whether they be by choice or chance, we are going to give the child as much love as they possibly can. I’ve got a government job, own my house and in the best financial position of my life.. I don’t NEED a man, would I like one, sure but that hasn’t worked out for me so I’m going to do this, because I can. My child will know where they came from and will be brought up in a house with no fighting, no abuse and into a family where they feel wanted.

    • @jadenphilander8799
      @jadenphilander8799 2 года назад +1

      @@anyonebutyou87 As I always say...the black community is best example. Thats the effect of single parenthood. That child qill seek their father. You need a man and a father figure for your child to ensure the best environment for your child to grow up in. Financial stability is just a small part of it. Look at the studies about single parenthood and how children suffer under it. Every women wants a man and every man wants a women except women dont want to admit that because they been led to think that not needing a man is not empowering. To prevent an abusive partner...women and men need to stop having children out of wedlock, choose suitabke partners and then wait for marriage to have kids. Simple. And women are statistically more likely to be bad single parents than men.

    • @jadenphilander8799
      @jadenphilander8799 2 года назад +3

      @@anyonebutyou87 So many black men have to heal from their mothers...lets not act like women are not contributing to an abusive household.

  • @JJ_DaJenius
    @JJ_DaJenius 3 года назад +9

    By choice??? WTH. The end is near!

    • @1mrbeastfan885
      @1mrbeastfan885 2 года назад +11

      what💀 you make no sense

    • @sensusfidelium9510
      @sensusfidelium9510 2 года назад +1

      No it makes plenty of sense !

    • @ۥٴٴٴٴٴٴۥۥ-ظ
      @ۥٴٴٴٴٴٴۥۥ-ظ 8 месяцев назад

      They couldn't find the man because the other women ruined men looking for decent women. Those women gave up waiting on man they choose to be mother on their own.

  • @jasonstewart3748
    @jasonstewart3748 Год назад +1

    Can men make that choice 👎. Does she think she can replace a father with money?

    • @z7z766
      @z7z766 Год назад +7

      Yes

    • @MsFlamingFlamer
      @MsFlamingFlamer 8 месяцев назад +6

      If men have the resources to buy a donor egg and surrogacy then yes, a man can be a single father by choice. Gay men make babies this way all the time. But few men really have the patience and nurturing to take care of a baby.