Our 1st lobola + watching the Springboks vs New Zealand

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  • Опубликовано: 12 янв 2025

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  • @LadyWisdom2U
    @LadyWisdom2U Год назад +61

    I’m in tears, because our African culture was stolen from us. This is so amazing to me, the involvement & dedication & intentionality in a ceremony for the giving of the Bride & the blending of families. The fact that the Uncles of the Bride go out to investigate the man & negotiate lolobola is priceless. I need all those Uncles fighting on my behalf. I’m so glad that you shared the lobola ceremony.

    • @asadelmalikphd
      @asadelmalikphd  Год назад +2

      ❤❤

    • @ShaqleeToine10.02
      @ShaqleeToine10.02 Год назад +1

      Lobola lol..hahaha

    • @baphithi
      @baphithi Год назад +4

      The reconnection between us here and in the diaspora is fantastic, almost surreal. Social media has been great for us.
      Just some detail:
      It’s the man’s uncles that go to the bride’s family to initiate the process and negotiate ilobolo.
      This could have been one of the series of activities and events that happen before the actual (big) wedding.

    • @kemmoneR
      @kemmoneR Год назад +6

      You should see the behind the scenes. In my culture there's a time when the elders sit down and give you marriage rules (counselling sort of), in some cultures you even get a new name as well. Its truly beautiful. every little thing that is done has a spiritual meaning.

  • @ShaqleeToine10.02
    @ShaqleeToine10.02 Год назад +43

    Merging Of Tsonga and Swati Cultures, Beautiful 🎉❤

  • @eastafricanist9156
    @eastafricanist9156 Год назад +31

    Wow. You guys getting deeper into the culture. Absolutely love the African attire. 👍🏿from Uganda 🇺🇬

  • @jp-pp7wr
    @jp-pp7wr Год назад +19

    Thank you for immersing yourselves in our very diverse culture. Ms Adrienne looked super elegant in traditional dress. Shout to Brother Ricky too. You all looked great. We love you all.

  • @M3OverSeas
    @M3OverSeas Год назад +21

    Beautiful marital service…hopefully I will be able to experience witnessing such a wonderful exchange of love and the joyful merging of families once I’m there❤ Shout outs to Dr Adrian, Dr Assad and Brother Ricky Jones and other family from the US! Excited that y’all got to attend such a blessed occasion in our Homeland!!✊🏾🥰🙏🏾

  • @chanteyelliott
    @chanteyelliott Год назад +9

    This is soooo beautiful 😍. We were robbed😢 everything was taken from us. But im coming home to reclaim it.. i cant wait to relocate

  • @mbusosiera1648
    @mbusosiera1648 Год назад +9

    This is real integration with the natives!
    Hope you will also do the Zulu reed dance, which takes place every September, right at the start of spring,
    And you must visit Giyani in Limpopo to learn more about the Tsonga tribe, and make sure you don't miss Venda too!

  • @Thimzohx
    @Thimzohx Год назад +9

    Your traditional attire look fantastic on both Dr Asad Miss Adrian, I had to pause to appreciate it❤.

  • @RastaAfricanGentleman
    @RastaAfricanGentleman Год назад +14

    Everyone was on point, loved it guys. Thanks for showing so much love to your second home

  • @JohnHaze4666
    @JohnHaze4666 Год назад +20

    Dr Asad I would like to take this opportunity to congratulate you for being open minded and getting yourself intergrated in to our culture, I see many U.S born Africans getting to the continent but failing to associate themselves with the culture of the country they chose ,instead they form their own community that is a recipe for disaster we must work hard to learn from one another in order to live in harmony 👏👏👏in our eyes you will always be African, pula.

  • @M3OverSeas
    @M3OverSeas Год назад +13

    Everyone is looking FABULOUS!!❤

  • @abm5707
    @abm5707 Год назад +9

    Well done brother, you picked up that it is Church songs @4:00.

    • @asadelmalikphd
      @asadelmalikphd  Год назад +3

      😂😂

    • @abm5707
      @abm5707 Год назад +4

      @@asadelmalikphd you guys are an inspiration to us and for us to stay here in SA, when we hear what you go through in the US.
      I once (late 2022) saw you (from a distance) with your family, at the Mall of Africa. I will introduce myself if I see you again.
      Enjoy your Sunday.👍👍👍

    • @roblucci2366
      @roblucci2366 Год назад

      Sounds like those negro spirituals😂

  • @njakes3001
    @njakes3001 Год назад +7

    I was eagerly waiting for this video to drop after seeing you there yesterday. Lovely work 👌

  • @docwoc7903
    @docwoc7903 Год назад +7

    I love it! I miss SA so much. I can’t wait to get back next week♥️🇿🇦

  • @nosiphosamkehlatshwayo5348
    @nosiphosamkehlatshwayo5348 Год назад +4

    This is beautiful ceremony 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽. Dr Asad and your wife you looked amazing.

  • @thandiedollar4789
    @thandiedollar4789 Год назад +10

    I’m loving this for y’all, the bride is beautiful

  • @Ruud-c7v
    @Ruud-c7v Год назад +8

    Organized Chaos at the square. 😊

  • @Kutlwiiii
    @Kutlwiiii Год назад +3

    U guys looked so beautiful in ur traditional attires, and how u soaking up the culture in Mzansi is just lovely to see❤. Springboks are world champions and now we hoping for the Proteas (cricket) to emulate the feat next month to what will be an amazing year in respect of SA sport.

  • @Bbbbee-lolo
    @Bbbbee-lolo Год назад +4

    Am happy for you all Dr Asad and Sister Adrien and bro Jones.. thank you for honoring the invitation you guys looked great and what a great combination Swati and Tsonga ❤
    yhooo springbok was chaotic i wouldn't have survived, congratulations to the Bokkes🎉

  • @tumeloseadira8224
    @tumeloseadira8224 Год назад +9

    You and your family are officially Soutj Africans. And I hope your children are learning sotho/tswana/zulu/etc from their friends. They gonna be ambassadors of the "African Americans" in future plus it'll be a flex when they visit America speaking African languages

  • @macboerTV
    @macboerTV Год назад +10

    As a white south african this so lekker to see. Never seen this before. ❤

    • @asadelmalikphd
      @asadelmalikphd  Год назад

      ❤️

    • @gozieeneh7110
      @gozieeneh7110 Год назад +1

      But u live in the country? You should have attended a lot.

    • @lebogangmokoenalebza6949
      @lebogangmokoenalebza6949 Год назад

      @@gozieeneh7110 the most arrogant white are found in SA i find it more to enteract with foreigner than white south african as black south african

    • @_theerealnono_7694
      @_theerealnono_7694 Год назад +3

      ^^You guys comments are unnecessary. He never said anything offensive, you're doing too much.

  • @veemotaung1060
    @veemotaung1060 Год назад +2

    The bride's family is AmaSwati, groom's family VaTsonga and they were singing (church song) in SeSotho

  • @taxxc8461
    @taxxc8461 Год назад +3

    Brother Ricky! I love your Sotho outfit. ❤️❤️❤️ not to mention brother Asad & wife looking good.

  • @tsheponcamane2018
    @tsheponcamane2018 Год назад +3

    This is beautiful, Brother Asad and Sister Adrienne you look great, I hope you had a good time at both functions... I know we will get a review video next telling of what you learned through the experiences

  • @lebo5281
    @lebo5281 Год назад +5

    The ever graceful EmaSwati❤️❤️ and va ka hinooo💃🏿💃🏿💃🏿

  • @mongezinjaju8683
    @mongezinjaju8683 Год назад +3

    Everything was perfect. special day for my People

  • @Savedbygrace-z6d
    @Savedbygrace-z6d Год назад +10

    You both look regal ❤️

  • @platophilosopher1293
    @platophilosopher1293 Год назад +3

    Asad, what you guys saw was not lobola negotiations. What you witnessed was a celebration of their union - we would refer to it as a "traditional wedding". Later on the bride and the groom may also decide to have another wedding ceremony - which we refer to as the "white wedding" - taken from the bride wedding dress. Lobola would have occurred long before the traditional wedding celebration. Lobola negotiations are a private matter - between the groom and bride's family. It is not open to the public. You would not have been invited to that occasion. When the groom signifies his intention to marry the bride - he would ask his uncle and other person (s) they may choose - to go the the bride's home and let them know of his intentions. The groom and the bride are also not involved in lobola negotiations. The bride is from the Swazi nation (amaSwati) - and the groom from the Vatsonga (Tsonga) nation. Not tribe.

    • @dizzdocumentaries
      @dizzdocumentaries Год назад +2

      We call it kwanjula in Uganda, it's the traditional wedding ceremony

  • @bpatton866
    @bpatton866 Год назад +2

    U and Adrienne are sharp as a tack Doc Asad Thank you for sharing.This is inspirational and relaxing Be well family 💕

  • @Dumizulu_Rain
    @Dumizulu_Rain Год назад +6

    Ya'll looking great, what a special time to be alive 🎉🎉🎉😊

  • @meteorhail5021
    @meteorhail5021 Год назад +8

    Malum'Asad, these are my people 😢 Swati people

  • @sithembisangwenya7032
    @sithembisangwenya7032 Год назад +3

    😂😂😂 bro Asad was ready for getting the collection as soon as you heard the music 🎶 it was church time

  • @williamwebbs1952
    @williamwebbs1952 Год назад +5

    Love South Africa 👊🏿👊🏿👊🏿👊🏿 absolutely amazing vlog today 👊🏿👊🏿👊🏿

  • @tshidioageng6918
    @tshidioageng6918 Год назад +3

    The jones and Asad you guys looking good with your attire

  • @fullerwilliams5458
    @fullerwilliams5458 Год назад +3

    My favorite couple, one day I have to meet these people before I die.

  • @vat81
    @vat81 Год назад +1

    Welcome to us brother and sister.

  • @DAHOMEY1804
    @DAHOMEY1804 Год назад +5

    Great Cultural experience.

  • @THEJONESFAMILYCHANNEL
    @THEJONESFAMILYCHANNEL Год назад +5

    Watch out now with the switch!

  • @seekinggod4180
    @seekinggod4180 Год назад +7

    You guys Look Beautiful, The Colors are goegeous

  • @DAHOMEY1804
    @DAHOMEY1804 Год назад +3

    Wow! You all look great!

  • @undisclosed.5x
    @undisclosed.5x Год назад +1

    Let a playa play 🖤 Black Power, G. You’re living the dream

  • @agnessphiri5036
    @agnessphiri5036 Год назад +1

    Looking grt guys ❤️❤️🥰

  • @shrifamudondo1081
    @shrifamudondo1081 Год назад +1

    Hope you guys had a good time

  • @tshepomogotsi
    @tshepomogotsi Год назад +4

    Actually the entrance to the Square is up the stairs on the other side, that door is an entrance into the mall, from the Square.
    Of course it is not ideal to park inside the mall, walk outside and around to enter the Square, unless you r one of those souls who enjoy long walks...

  • @thetopg921
    @thetopg921 Год назад +1

    You guys should have watched the game at one of the staduims,

  • @chanteyelliott
    @chanteyelliott Год назад +2

    Well ALRIGHT NOWWWW.. YALL LOOKING REAL GOOD ❤❤❤❤❤❤

  • @The-Art-of-Luv-4-Africa
    @The-Art-of-Luv-4-Africa Год назад +4

    Beautiful ceremony...Yes, go Springboks. I'm a bandwagon Bok!😊

  • @Seed119
    @Seed119 Год назад +2

    Bam bam bam dapper just like that.

  • @pauletteparker7225
    @pauletteparker7225 Год назад +4

    Nice outfits...Represent ❤❤

  • @kennedytsokodibane3058
    @kennedytsokodibane3058 Год назад +4

    See that chaos in Sandton is exactly why I stayed my butt at home & watched the game on TV.

  • @shisuiuchiha480
    @shisuiuchiha480 Год назад +6

    Unpopular fact: The Tsonga and Swati are the same people. Most think that Emaswati are Nguni but they are not. Majority of Emaswati are of Tfonga origin. Their monarch however, stems from Nguni. The Nguni conquered Ematfonga in Eswatini. The language is a mix of Nguni and Rhonga. Rhonga=Thonga=Tsonga=Tfonga is all one people using different dialects.
    That is why The Emaswati Monarch always go to Mozambique to Ematfonga to ask for blessings every year and they don’t ask blessings from The Nguni in KZN. They still acknowledge that majority of Emaswati are of Ematfonga origin and they respect that.

    • @trayway9067
      @trayway9067 Год назад

      ur mistaken aswell the Swati people are 100% Nguni, just like all how Zulu,Xhosas,Ndebele,Bhaca,Shangaan,Ngoni of (Zambia,Malawi,Tanzania) are the same. All these kindoms have shared relations for more than three centuries back, thats why they understand each other very well when they speak becoz they share the same Great grandfather called Mnguni. Their culture and way of doing things is very similar to even deny they of the same "Mnguni".They even share the same Surnames Like Dlamini, Zwanes,Mkhwanazi , Mthembu etc.
      Its like saying Sotho,Pedi and Tshwana and Lozi(the people of Zambia,Malawi) are not of the same person. Sotho,Pedi and Tshwana and Lozi people could have conversation without any Hassle because they very similar and from the same Grandfather.
      Furthermore, The Shangane people who their King "Soshangane" hailed from the Nguni or Zulu nation also integrated with Tsonga people. Which is why ur also see similarities of language between Tsonga and Zulu dialects. Thats why some people consider Tsonga people to be part of Nguni due to that fact of Soshangane and similar language dialect atp. I Won't even have to educate you about the relationship between Zulu n Swati Kindoms. The King of AmaSwati himself he knows we all united by one Word specifcally which is "Mnguni" beside culture and Language similarities.

    • @shisuiuchiha480
      @shisuiuchiha480 Год назад

      @@trayway9067 there are many Thonga people in KZN as well but their culture is suppressed by Zulu Nationalism. The history of South Africa is not as simplistic as you make it be. Don't be lazy like our government and research our history of our tribes.
      AmaNdebele are also Rhonga and they still maintain Rhonga lexicon in their speech. The founding Patriarch of Amandebele is king Mabhudhu the first whom the city, Maputo in Mozambique was named after. As they migrated into modern day South Africa they lived amongst Nguni people which influenced their dialect alot. But if you listen to Sindrebele very carefully you will be able to connect the dots. Ask Ndebele historians and they will tell you that they are not Nguni.
      You'd have to understand the history and Patriarchs of the tribes to know where they come from. You can't just base it on what they speak today. Language is influenced by migration it's not genetic.

    • @shisuiuchiha480
      @shisuiuchiha480 Год назад

      @@trayway9067 brother you arguing something I already stated. I did concede that The Monarch of Emaswati is of Nguni origin. The Dlaminis invaded Eswatini and became Lords over the land. But they conquered Ematfonga. Just do research of the history of Eswatini. Ofcourse there are Nguni clans in Eswatini because they went in great numbers to conquer the land. But the majority of the people of Eswatini by ethnicity are Thonga.
      You can even see it in their dress code. Emaswati women dress like Thonga/Tsonga not like Nguni women. You'd have to be observant on the culture to pick these things up. The reason Siswati is more Nguni is because the ruling house and army was Nguni so they imposed their language on the land. But you can still here traces of the Tsonga speech within Siswati.

    • @trayway9067
      @trayway9067 Год назад

      lol, my brother you seem to not understand how Swatis came about. i woud have understood if ur said Swatis are an almagation of the dlaminis and Tsongas including other clans like Zwane n Mkhwanazi etc. But you saying Swatis are Tsonga is 100% wrong. Tsongas were not necessarily conquered by Dlaminis.
      Dlaminis initially came southwards towards Delagoa bay in Mozambique where they encountered and settled as part of the Tsonga-Thembe people up until the 18th centruy when was dynasty conflicts between Dlaminis and Tsonga-Thembe.
      Which eventually lead to them to pack and leave and head south westwards where they went through Lubambo valley, and settled up in Pongola valley near what is called Enhlangano. In that area their were now under Dlamini King Ngwane, which the area was known as Emangwaneni.
      what made or constructed Swati nation is the alliance between the Dlaminis and Tsonga-Thembe alliance and many other clans. this Kingdom was construct becoz The dlamini felt threat by how the Zulu and Ndwandwe conflict for supremacy was threat to neigbouring kingdoms and Clans. Therefore the Dlamini had to unite with other clans that they once settled with and assimilated in.
      Even the Tsonga people are not just Tsonga but there are Shanganes who also assimilated into ther Tsonga tribe. AS ur shud know how Shanganes come from KZN from Nguni and named their nation after "Soshangane" of The Zulus nation.
      . @@shisuiuchiha480

    • @trayway9067
      @trayway9067 Год назад

      Lol don't lie try to imperialize the significance of Tsonga people. There are no Tsonga people in KZN. otherwise, i will ask ur to give me proof of that or ur just being emotional. 💀💀
      Ndebeles from Zim are actually hail from Mzilikazi and they know that very well. the person who gave birth to Ndebele of Zim is Mzilikazi who also came from KZN and seek refuge in Bulawayo. dont be ignorant about this. Not everything is Tsonga. even the way they talk and dress is just like Zulus. During the Coronation of The zulu king Ndebele King of Zim and other Ngoni Kings of Zambia, Tanzania and Malazwi were present. @@shisuiuchiha480

  • @Phila-zd3ps
    @Phila-zd3ps Год назад +2

    oooh woooow family ❤❤❤❤❤❤💙💙💙👌🏾👌🏾👌🏾👌🏾👌🏾You are looking beautiful guy's

  • @livingsimply68
    @livingsimply68 Год назад +1

    You guys are cool and rocking it🎉

  • @Pamela-ek9cp
    @Pamela-ek9cp Год назад +2

    We always put God first

  • @SbuAfrica
    @SbuAfrica Год назад +5

    😢😢 all the good vlogs are too short! Thank you anyways

  • @gaironesabenjamin2766
    @gaironesabenjamin2766 Год назад +3

    Asalaamualaikum u guys look stunning🎉🎉🎉from Cape Town

  • @gordenmg4966
    @gordenmg4966 Год назад +2

    It doesn't end there DR Asad should the couple conflict you would be required to gether again and try to resolve conflict as the negotiator of their marriage. Lol.

  • @quietstorm677
    @quietstorm677 Год назад +1

    Looking good

  • @faneloMk
    @faneloMk Год назад +5

    Bride is Swazi culture otherwise know as Eswatini do visit sometime

    • @asadelmalikphd
      @asadelmalikphd  Год назад +1

    • @mbusosiera1648
      @mbusosiera1648 Год назад +2

      South Africa has Swati people!
      Hence Swati is one of our official language!
      Majority of South African Swati people are from Mpumalanga, and our previous Deputy President and former Premier of Mpumalanga DD Mabuza is a Swati from Mbombela
      Mpumalanga is majority Swati and Ndebele then Shangan people!

    • @_theerealnono_7694
      @_theerealnono_7694 Год назад

      ​​@@mbusosiera1648 Wanted to say the same. SA has Swati people, Mpumalanga has a large concentration of Swati and Tsonga people. Doesn't necessarily mean that they (bride's family) are from ESwatini.
      Please be careful of saying Shangaan, the proper term is VaTsonga... I learned that SA Tsonga people don't appreciate that term.

  • @andreradford864
    @andreradford864 Год назад +2

    Hello Dr. Asad, quick question, I just arrived in SA and am setting up everything. When you bought your car did you have to get a learners permit and a SA license? I was told this was the procedure. Thank you Andre PS love the videos!!!

    • @asadelmalikphd
      @asadelmalikphd  Год назад

      No. But you do have to get a traffic registration number

    • @_theerealnono_7694
      @_theerealnono_7694 Год назад

      As far as I know, you do all that if you don't have a driver's licence at all (even from your country of origin). Let them know you're a driver and have a license from the US.

  • @blkfish70
    @blkfish70 Год назад +1

    ASA y'all

  • @sbararamabuza6041
    @sbararamabuza6041 Год назад +1

    U looking amazing

  • @Seafarers199
    @Seafarers199 Год назад +2

    Lit video 🔥💪🏿

  • @gozieeneh7110
    @gozieeneh7110 Год назад +1

    I enjoyer this one, try a fabulous dress please but this is amazing your pretty in African dresses. Attend more African event.

  • @pmambongwe8640
    @pmambongwe8640 Год назад +6

    Was it lobola or equivalent of umembeso?

    • @asadelmalikphd
      @asadelmalikphd  Год назад

      ?

    • @lebo5281
      @lebo5281 Год назад +1

      @pmambongwe8640 No it is not equivalent to umembeso, ke tlhabiso ya magadi, I don't know what you would call it in isiZulu mabazoqedela and throw a party.

    • @penekedirero4636
      @penekedirero4636 Год назад

      Umembeso in seSotho is dikapeso where the brides and grooms families exchange gifts. Over here is a celebration of completion of the tough lobola negotiations and some folks use it as a traditional wedding especially when funds are limited, hope this helps.

    • @pmambongwe8640
      @pmambongwe8640 Год назад +3

      @@lebo5281 Hhay ngeke guys, then you say we Zulus spend too much. You celebrate ilobolo. You're rich rich 😂. Unless there's other things we do that you don't. I do remember Faith Nketsi eyenza the tlhabiso.

    • @pmambongwe8640
      @pmambongwe8640 Год назад +1

      @@penekedirero4636 I get that part of having it as a traditional wedding too then but to celebrate ilobolo so extravagantly guys, cha you move different. Ninemali, I salute you.

  • @kaialeitham8202
    @kaialeitham8202 Год назад +7

    You and Adrian look driptastic! Beautiful❤

  • @ronewasitholimela4634
    @ronewasitholimela4634 Год назад +1

    You should let your sons play rugby. They will enjoy it

  • @Mbalings
    @Mbalings Год назад +1

    Absolutely beautiful ❤🎉1😍

  • @LionelEstree
    @LionelEstree Год назад

    Bru😢that's all I can say😢😢

  • @SQBfootballer
    @SQBfootballer Год назад +2

    Adrienne is left handed?

  • @AshMckay123
    @AshMckay123 Год назад +1

    Only a few moments of you watching d Springboks were shown.
    Very disappointed.

  • @MavaNjezula
    @MavaNjezula Год назад +1

    What tribe does those couple belong?

  • @istekgroups1526
    @istekgroups1526 Год назад +1

    Brother asad and Adrian..u look uhmm

  • @ntombimadu8437
    @ntombimadu8437 Год назад

    Watch how your dms are going to be full of zulus inviting you to their lobola ceremonies cause zulus just gotta colonize evvvveeerrryyy body

  • @lungangamahle6036
    @lungangamahle6036 Год назад +1

    Lol y are they using Zulu term "lobola" cause none of them are Zulu's 🤣 he must use his ethnic term for ''Lobola" they even using Zulu song. Is the wife Zulu?

    • @asadelmalikphd
      @asadelmalikphd  Год назад +1

      I think the dad is Zulu. I know the reverend was Zulu.

    • @arhadi-mt3fs
      @arhadi-mt3fs Год назад +11

      @lungangamahle Your comments always are very selfish, what's wrong to you ?

    • @ShaqleeToine10.02
      @ShaqleeToine10.02 Год назад +1

      @@asadelmalikphd Bride is Swati, meaning the Dad is probably Swati

    • @JohnHaze4666
      @JohnHaze4666 Год назад +3

      He e man stop it with your uncivilized mind S.A is one and this is exactly what king shaka was fighting for incase you didn't know.

    • @lungangamahle6036
      @lungangamahle6036 Год назад

      @@arhadi-mt3fs I didn't know I had a stalker In you.
      I'm Zulu, so I'll protect my nation and dispell any myths and misrepresentation!! You should also learn to be patriotic about your ethnic group as well and stop stalking me