STOP Bipolar Manic Spending (12 Tips) | Polar Warriors

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  • Опубликовано: 27 янв 2025

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  • @PolarWarriors
    @PolarWarriors  16 дней назад +13

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  • @BBurnett333
    @BBurnett333 15 дней назад +4

    I had a feeling this video would be a small trigger for me. (YAY! Awareness! The background was very soothing which helped.) At 18, I learned I could not have a store credit card. Didnt know why at the time but it scared me enough not own a credit card again. (Wasnt diagnosed until my 30's.) While listening to you, I transferred money to my savings account. This week, I am returning items I bought while spiraling. (Mania or otherwise.) When Im spiraling, I have no clue whats going on. I ride the wave til it is over. People dont understand what it is like living with bipolar. (I live with bipolar 1.) Some people dont want to understand. Thank you, Rob, for your videos. They help.

  • @KarenMillerMrsMiller
    @KarenMillerMrsMiller 16 дней назад +14

    Rob every time I see your channel and smiling face I am filled with hope !!! Our life is so broken and sometimes hopeless, but your experience and advice is cherished here ❤

  • @viennadesou6546
    @viennadesou6546 16 дней назад +9

    "part of the illness is not knowing when I'm in trouble." i wish more people understood this

    • @BBurnett333
      @BBurnett333 15 дней назад +1

      I hear you. Totally relatable.

  • @rogerkendall9914
    @rogerkendall9914 16 дней назад +11

    Thank you for all your videos. Thank you for all your hard work.

    • @PolarWarriors
      @PolarWarriors  16 дней назад +4

      Thank YOU so much for appreciating what I do. It's a labor of love

  • @lindah8838
    @lindah8838 16 дней назад +4

    Thank you so much for this video! I've racked up my credit cards many times through both manic and depressive moments to where I as well no longer have one other than a self pre-loaded card that seems to help me stop me spending so much. Thanks for bringing up a sensitive topic in a logical and respectful way.

  • @ronnieffreyes
    @ronnieffreyes 16 дней назад +5

    Your most powerful and informative video. Thanks for all the great tips and suggestions.

  • @kerritrouble3473
    @kerritrouble3473 16 дней назад +11

    It’s a constant battle to find a treatment that works and continues to work long term.

    • @kimberlyturner5886
      @kimberlyturner5886 16 дней назад

      I take 2 meds for bipolar and chronic depression. My credit card spending is not healthy. I NEED a therapy of some kind, but my Dr is med management only. Ugh.

    • @jasmina9275
      @jasmina9275 11 дней назад

      Perhaps try to combine psychotherapy both with meds. That can be well invested money instead of maxing credit cards on stuff you don't even need. ​@@kimberlyturner5886

  • @viennadesou6546
    @viennadesou6546 16 дней назад +7

    for this reason I feel like disorders that include impulsivity should be covered under the ADA for some sort of automatic ad block status. it should be a feature set up on all sites and if you qualify, you can opt yourself out of ALL or specific (targeted) advertising if desired. I know some people dont mind some advertising but for those of us who feel harmed by it, we should be allowed to opt out of all.

  • @hobolove2468
    @hobolove2468 16 дней назад +12

    I always remind my family that if they say I need to go to the hospital I will go. I know I’m not capable of seeing the whole picture when I’m ill. I trust them

  • @stephaniedanna1663
    @stephaniedanna1663 15 дней назад +1

    I’m definitely struggling right now and so grateful for this video!

  • @jeffaltier5582
    @jeffaltier5582 16 дней назад +23

    I definitely spend much more when I'm symptomatic. It's never a huge amount, but more like a bunch of smaller purchases-- mainly books or sweatshirts or stuff like that.

  • @jpresso-x8i
    @jpresso-x8i 14 дней назад +1

    Rob. I remember when I wasn’t okay. Your videos help guide the blind. Thank you. We love you ❤ I wake up happy everyday now. Meds are 100% on point (hoping it stays like that)

  • @nitamccall9289
    @nitamccall9289 16 дней назад +4

    Yes I know the ups and downs of Bipolar. I am currently on a LOA ( unpaid) I can barely make the bills by withdrawing from my retirement. I have filed for SSD. I believe I suffered from overspending more when I am depressed than hypo. I can’t get out of bed but I can mindlessly scroll for hours. Thanks for the information and thanks for sharing ❤

  • @renostubbs8504
    @renostubbs8504 16 дней назад +6

    This is a difficult thing to overcome,once money is present...it's on

    • @renostubbs8504
      @renostubbs8504 16 дней назад

      Thank you for sharing these ideas and coping mechanism,I cannot continue to live like this...I appreciate you

    • @PolarWarriors
      @PolarWarriors  16 дней назад +1

      Awe - I appreciate you just as much for watching and commenting. Wishing you a peaceful weekend

  • @lesterlasa3367
    @lesterlasa3367 16 дней назад +5

    Thank you for sharing this information I seem to be much better with my meds and my therapy I’m a recovering alcoholic and I realize that I was masking my symptoms but I have been sober for 30 years now

  • @mylesgreenwood
    @mylesgreenwood 16 дней назад +3

    Awesome video, you finish with the most important thing. Credit cards are really bad.
    I gave up credit cards 30 years ago.
    With not being able to keep a job and the random spending i never had anything.
    Now I own my property and everything I have and all I use is cash.
    I find it's the best way and sleep.
    There's nothing like staying awake for days and hitting the shops when they open .

  • @Mrsjhene
    @Mrsjhene 11 дней назад

    I’ve been diagnosed with BP2 and it’s really something I have to get used to. Glad I was able to find a channel that has the same mental health issues I do ❤

  • @KarenMillerMrsMiller
    @KarenMillerMrsMiller 16 дней назад +6

    My husband’s psychiatrist asked “how many times have you filed bankruptcy” at first visit !!

  • @breathe_brittany
    @breathe_brittany 15 дней назад

    Thank you so much for all you do Rob! I’m stable rn but this has been a major theme the past year! I really find what you had to say as helpful. Proper card management is huge!

  • @moonriver78
    @moonriver78 16 дней назад +4

    I remember when I spent 10k in three months when I was hypomanic and untreated! Now I spend like 100 bucks at most. Thank the heavens for medication. Still building up my savings, but it's worth it in the end. Thank you for all your helpful advice, much appreciated.

  • @Corner5tone
    @Corner5tone 16 дней назад +4

    I really liked the actionable suggestions you provided. Often you don't realize an option exists--like asking the bank to put a daily limit on debit card spending--until you hear about it from someone else.
    Also, the idea of tracking spending like tracking moods gave me the idea (I'm sure it's not original, but sharing in case anyone else hasn't jumped to it yet) that you should centralize all of these items being tracked. I.E.: Have a big desk or wall calendar which is dedicated to tracking:
    (1) Daily Mood,
    (2) Others' Interpretation of our Mood
    (3) Hours (actually) Slept (maybe tracked via an app?),
    (4) Hours out of Bed (or active hours, or something like that)
    (4) Spending that Day (amount and one-word description)
    I think this kind of approach could help identify trends toward both mania and depression (and help provide some reassurance to family/partners/roommates).
    This is just a shoot-from-the-hip idea. I'm sure it can be refined/better implemented.

    • @PolarWarriors
      @PolarWarriors  16 дней назад +1

      Those are WONDERFUL ideas!!!
      -Rob
      www.patreon.com/PolarWarriors

  • @VanessaMatare
    @VanessaMatare 16 дней назад +2

    Thanks for this video Rob! Lots of good tips. I had spending issues with credit cards. I made a decision to work on paying my debts off. It is not easy but I've made progress.

  • @DavidEaster-d4c
    @DavidEaster-d4c 8 дней назад

    I am so grateful Rob for this video as this is my most challenging issue. I have Bi Polar 1 and spending gives me the comfort/thrill that nothing else does. I don’t have any credit cards but use my debit card and get myself in trouble. I am going to rewatch this video over and over. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.

    • @DavidEaster-d4c
      @DavidEaster-d4c 6 дней назад

      I’ve never framed my spending as “self medicating”, it’s so obvious, but I never looked at my spending in those terms. Thank you again for the perfectly crafted video.

  • @davidyule3605
    @davidyule3605 16 дней назад +1

    Thank you. Such practical information for all.

  • @redchen3682
    @redchen3682 16 дней назад +9

    My psych was able diagnose me with mood disorder after a shopping spree. My room is about 15 sqm and I was able to fill half of the room with almost 100 packages. I also told my psych how my sister and brother and law has been criticizing me for my purchase but they don't even ask what they were. I reasoned all I bought was 'needs' and that I used my own money. Afterwards, my doctor also asked about the amount of money I spent. I did not know it was a symptom. But after being diagnosed with bipolar 2, all the symptoms I had since I was a teenager all made sense.

  • @Corner5tone
    @Corner5tone 16 дней назад +2

    Great video! Really glad you covered this topic.
    Yes, perhaps we should rename "retail therapy" to "consumerist coping"

  • @AnnaDeponte6298
    @AnnaDeponte6298 16 дней назад +2

    Really needed this video I notice when I’m manic I spend a lot more . A tip I’ve found is to make a google doc on spending vs saving .Love your videos Rob 💚keep up the good work.

  • @louise5906
    @louise5906 16 дней назад +1

    Thankyou for your knowledge and sharing with us 👍🌸

  • @arcanadawn
    @arcanadawn 16 дней назад +4

    Thank you for this video, I shared it with my best friend, and got her buy in to talk some sense into me if I'm fidget spinner shopping lol.

    • @PolarWarriors
      @PolarWarriors  16 дней назад +1

      Lol - those damn fidget spinners! :p
      Thank you so much for watching and sharing my videos. I'm always here for you.
      -Rob

    • @arcanadawn
      @arcanadawn 16 дней назад +1

      @@PolarWarriors I've loved your videos for ages, and have shared them on a few occasions, but I can't remember (thank you brain fog!) if I've ever commented. You are one of the highlights of my feed, and I'm always so glad when a new one of your videos pops up.
      Stay well, and be safe, fellow Warrior.

  • @RB-sy1oz
    @RB-sy1oz 16 дней назад +3

    I have so many shoes. I do pay off my credit card but I definitely buy things when stressed. The whole retail therapy. It’s easier said than done to fix the mindset. Thank you for your tips. The saved credit cards definitely made it too easy to buy online.

  • @kerritrouble3473
    @kerritrouble3473 16 дней назад +4

    Also be careful because when you give your spouse control over the money and reach out for help. Eventually they may take complete control over your entire financial situation as well as become mentally abusive and extremely controlling to the point where you have absolutely nothing control over anything financially in your marriage or life. They begin to stop you from even purchasing broccoli!

  • @ronaldmiller2740
    @ronaldmiller2740 16 дней назад +4

    HI ROB, YOU ARE SO HELPFUL IN MY LIFE WITH YOUR VIDEOS ,, HEARING YOU TALKS ABOUT BI-POLAR , I CAN TAKE IT IN SO EASYER WITH MY LEARNING DISABILITY , OSD, PTSD - FROM THE ARMY.. DO YOU HAVE A PROUBLEM AT ALL TO CHECK THIS OVER AND OVER ,IT DRIVES ME CRAZY !!! I KNOW I PUT A LETTER IN THE MAIL BOX AT THE POST OFFICE ,BUT HAVE TO OPEN THE DRAW OVER AND OVER , UNTIL MY BRAIN SAYS AND A RELIAF ITS IN THERE ,,, WHILE PEOPLE ARE WAITING BEHIND ME.. I KNOW I GOT MONEY FROM THE BANK AND I DO THE SAME IS IT IN THERE CHECKING ALL MY CREDIT CARDS IN PLACE,, I NOTICED YOUR VIDEO IS QUIET NO WAVES JUST YOU,,,TALKING AND LEARNING ,, THANKS CALMING ..OTHER VIDEOS NO PLANES . PEACE..

  • @janettefessenden72
    @janettefessenden72 16 дней назад +3

    I have to prevent temptations by not going shopping except groceries, toss all flyers before reading them and un-subscribe from all email advertisement. I do my best to remove all temptation before it gets into the house .
    My weakness is still the dollar store so at least I get a ‘rush’ for $20 or less . I’ve also been making a game out of ‘upcycling’ by shopping in my own “janmart” and repurposing what I’ve got or making a challenge to fulfill my new awesome idea for free. . Not a surprise that Jan Mart is well stocked 😂. I try to get the rush of spending without spending. I still have to work hard not to overspend $20 at a time because that adds up fast. But at least it’s better than $100 at a time

    • @PolarWarriors
      @PolarWarriors  16 дней назад

      What a great comment! The idea of upcycling is wonderful.
      -Rob
      www.patreon.com/PolarWarriors

  • @donnabmccolgin3205
    @donnabmccolgin3205 15 дней назад

    Whenever I see a new psychiatrist and go through the intake they’ll often say you don’t meet the criteria for bipolar even though I have drastic ups and downs and manic episodes always revolving around spending especially high end products ( cars, boats, electronics). My last episode was a $40 Jeep which led to bankruptcy. I have incorporated the envelope system recently and it has helped for tiny miscellaneous purchases. I now know my depression, anxiety and manic episodes have led to my crazy spending. It is as you say complicated and very difficult to stop. Being aware of my struggles is the beginning for sure.

  • @NatureHeadSupreme
    @NatureHeadSupreme 16 дней назад +2

    The timing isnt ironic it's a wake up slap. Rob, if you only knew that I am legit trying to think of an excuse to cancel plans I made for today knowing good and well it was out of line. No need in beating myself up, more a definitive reminder to *slow down*
    Cheers to 2025 channel success & growth.

  • @beverleyjohnstone2045
    @beverleyjohnstone2045 15 дней назад

    Thank you thank you for the video I have found that it's more information than I didn't know about

  • @diphillips1686
    @diphillips1686 16 дней назад +1

    What savings🤷‍♀️ It has taken more than 10 years plus my lifetime to finally have Biploar confirmed. Thank you for sharing your lived experience.

    • @BBurnett333
      @BBurnett333 15 дней назад

      I see you. Have been there many times. Give yourself grace.

  • @mr.beaver2822
    @mr.beaver2822 16 дней назад +1

    I know it sounds redundant here in Italy we got the greatest Psycologist! Some weeks ago I heard him claiming that anxiety is caused by the fact that we don't allow our own newborn being to come out and also we follow somebody else's paths (just following theyr directions) in my case this is is true 100% particularly the second issue....

  • @lindaacevedo1104
    @lindaacevedo1104 16 дней назад +4

    I bought a new car when I already had a good one and did not trade in the old one

    • @bintjesvideokanaal
      @bintjesvideokanaal 16 дней назад +1

      I at a certain point had 3😇, so you’re not alone… That was btw before I was diagnosed and now on meds luckily don’t feel that need anymore.

  •  10 дней назад +2

    I have Bipolar II where there are more depressive episodes than mania , i have 4 days of hypomania euphoria and then switch to depression again. Why do people think its less severe ?? In my opinion BIPOLAR is severe anyway doesnt matter what type you have , its like saying Type 2 diabetes is less severe than Type 1 diabetes etc. Bipolar is severe either way. End of story

  • @mariyelko958
    @mariyelko958 15 дней назад

    When I am manic and hypomanic I just go to all my shopping apps and just shop, shop, shopping 🛍. I have such fun. Then I talk to myself and I say get out of this app. I do look at my bank account but honestly there are things that I want but don't need. I'm going to listen more of what you say. I did alot of them when I was younger but still need to start them up again.

  • @beameranged
    @beameranged 15 дней назад

    For me, one of the spending motives is productivity-driven. Will often have a lot of investigations and projects on the back-burner, which may end in eventual purchase when affordability permits and research is concluded. When (hypo)manic, it is easy to burn through them all in rapid succession, consequences be damned.
    I suppose a tip for addressing it - albeit not a great one - is better awareness of mood. Uncharacteristically commenting on random RUclips videos at 04:00, for example, is a good clue that the level might be incorrect.

  • @wsoftly1
    @wsoftly1 16 дней назад +2

    i had my own account and all my money went to bills until i found good meds. now im way more stable

  • @clara3322
    @clara3322 16 дней назад +1

    Any advice on handling mania and hypomania are helpful! ❤

    • @PolarWarriors
      @PolarWarriors  16 дней назад +1

      Hi Clara! I have quite the number of videos posted, you might find them useful. I also am very accessible to talk and answer questions on Patreon. We also have live support groups in which we all share ideas and concerns. Would love to have you!
      -Rob
      www.patreon.com/PolarWarriors

  • @mysterionz
    @mysterionz 13 дней назад

    Thanks for this video :)

  • @saraquintanilha5903
    @saraquintanilha5903 16 дней назад +2

    I don't have credit cards saved in any site, for controlling spending and mainly for preventing credit card/identity theft.
    Everytime I want to buy anything I have to create a virtual credit card with the exactly amount I want to spend in insert manually the number, date and cvc.
    Other thing is having the rule of never buying a thing before 1 or 2 weeks. I have the rush of buying, but then I leave it on the shopping cart. I add things, but next day I go and ask do I really need this item? Will I use it this or next week? Do I still have something similar?
    Then I leave the site/app and if I still want to feel the rush, I change ti another shopping cart and add or delete stuff.
    Like for me is difficult to make decisions, I ask all the above decisions and then star doubting myself, what works in my favour.

  • @TheWizardmcbelch
    @TheWizardmcbelch 12 дней назад

    Oh the irony of this video popping up. I'm filing for bankruptcy but have to get a loan to pay the fees. Thank you for the video, hopefully It'll help me in the future.

  • @problemchild6248
    @problemchild6248 15 дней назад

    Happy New Year 2 everybody n comment section Happy New Year Rob💜

  • @abkeener81
    @abkeener81 13 дней назад

    Cash only doesn’t seem to work for me because many places I frequent (in Fairfax County, Virginia) are either now cashless or prefer cashless payments. I also pay my rent electronically. Same with my utilities and other bills.
    Something my sister-in-law (always my sister … at least to me) once told me to figure out how many hours at my pay rate I’d need to work to afford an item. That kinda worked. But for those who are salaried … take your annual pay rate and divide it by 2080 for your hourly rate. There’s roughly 2080 working hours in a year. I’m Andrew.

  • @trixiestreatstreasuresfoxannva
    @trixiestreatstreasuresfoxannva 3 дня назад

    I've maxed out my credit card and my line of credit ($27,000 total) twice now during mania.

  • @BridgetteZavala
    @BridgetteZavala 13 дней назад

    Yes, yes, and yes!

  • @eileendolan6301
    @eileendolan6301 15 дней назад

    I have one credit card with a $300 limit. I've been purposely keeping myself to that one credit card with that low limit because I know I'll get myself in major trouble with a large purchase if I increase my limit or get more cards. I don't do big purchases with my debit card because I know it's attached to my bills, and I may not have the money for either.

  • @nancypisko491
    @nancypisko491 15 дней назад

    I buy stuff and hide it from my husband

  • @freebie808
    @freebie808 14 дней назад

    *hate it