This episode was all about parent/child relationships which is one of my FAVORITE topics! FYI for copyright purposes we have to cut out a lot of our scenes/commentary. If there is something missing from this episode that you'd like me to comment on let me know and I'll try and answer it in the comments. Thank you for being here! 🖤 👇
@@alibabapirce9782 suicidal ideation has nothing to do with weakness, it can be a symptom of many things, including desperation to escape impossible situations. Everyone needs help at times, that's one of the purposes of therapy and suicide hotlines, to help people in need. just like going to a orthopedist for broken limbs or an oncologist for cancer. Suicide hotlines are not about people bending over to help you, but instead its about having a safe place to express ones feelings, and gain additional perspective so that one can help themselves and learn how to survive their own situation.. Saying suicide is weakness only further stigmatizes it, meaning people are less willing to get help, please do not ever say that, as you only make it more likely for the suicide to happen.
I love this series and glad this video series is getting a lot of views for your channel because its a good cahnnel. With that said, I would REALLY love to see you do an episode dedicated to ENID at the end of the series where you go through the whole series and focus on her character specifically. I realize that's hard to do on a video by video basis because the main character is wednesday, but ENID is just as important in this show and is just as complex of a character. I would also wager that season two will see her play a more prominent role alongside wednesday because they did such a good job casting these two girls and such a good job writing wednesday and enid. The complexity and emotional make-up of enid is deserving of its own show for sure, so the least we can do is ask for a video at the end of your video series dedicated to her specifically, because as I said, she's one of the best written supporting characters in the history of film. She really truly embodies not only the best qualities of a well-written character, but it also proves that time spent on supporting roles is NOT time wasted, AND her psychology is fascinating in and of itself. Enid is LITERALLY the rainbow to Wednesday's storm cloud... but just because she's glitter and sunshine doesn't mean her life is always easy and doesn't mean she's never upset and never has challenges. But the way she seems to be fueled by optimism and has a strong will without being overbearing is a good enough reason for a video dedicated to her, but if you look at all the other nuances, its a no-brainer. But I assume you were already thinking of dedicating an entire video to her... because I suspect you find her character as fascinating as I do. Thanks for this series, and whether or not you actually do an enid dedicated video, thank you for taking the time to consider it.
I love that too. I just wish he had been more in charge in case of parenting. Because supporting your kid passively can also be not enough to protect them from the toxic behaviours of the other parent.
@@mrslundy1535 while I wish that too, after about 20 years of being married to somebody who's energetically set in their ways, you find a way to pick your battles. I'm thinking that the fact that Enid had a choice about whether she went to that re-education camp had something to do with an argument he and his wife already had in the car, so to speak. Otherwise why would her mother have even given her a choice?
One thing I noted was the goodbye kiss and hug from Morticia to Wednesday. In that it was done without touching her. Acknowledgement that Wednesday does not like to be touched and her mother knows it and respects it.
A lot people didn’t understand why Wednesday was mad at her father for being a murder but i don’t think that’s why she was so angry. She always knew her father to be open and truthful so when she found they had a secret she was devastated. So then she watched him lie to her face when he confessed, which only further proved her trustful father could even lie to HER when she’s felt she’s always been his kinda confidante.
Exactly. Especially when both the lie and the truth are ckear cases of self defense/defense of others. These are not things they should have kept from her in the first place. So now you have them lying to her about something that would not have mattered if she had known.
I agree. I also feel like covering for Morticia spills over to their daily life. Wednesday can sense something is off and that's why she isn't her mom's biggest fan. Notice how she opened up to her mom once the logic was all worked out?
I wondered this as well. If she describes him as constantly honest and open. While also herself being overly frank when she commits a crime. I think him performing an act like that and not sharing it with the family made her suspicious.
@@dazzlingdexter5060 Especially since he didn't actually do anything except cover for his wife but she could be seen as reserved which bothers Wednesday and is why they aren't close.
This episode in particular got me crying like a baby, especially when Morticia said "I'm sorry you felt you couldnt tell me". I'd give everything to hear that from my mom. She raised me by herself and i grew up very attached to her and when I was younger i used to share everything with her. But as I matured I grew up into a different person than her in taste and worldview, and now it feels we cant connect anymore, so i catch myself having thoughts and secrets i wanted to share with her, just like before, but cant do it anymore cause I know she would not take it well. This episode really hit home for me.
Before her passing, my mother and I had a very close relationship, and I find as an adult I inherited much of her behaviours, for instance, I don't recall my mother ever having a boyfriend, not seeing it as necessary or to give fulfilment, maintaining full independence, and so as an adult I very rarely have relationships as I don't feel I need them to feel complete or validated.
As an older adult in my 30s now, I have a new appreciation for coming-of-age stories. Part of me believes that my parents gave me those kinds of stories to give me direction in a manner that they could not give me out of their own shortcomings as adults. I really like Wednesday's relationship with her parents, especially her mother. I think Wednesday learned how to give her parents respect as human adults who made decisions that aren't completely rational like how she thinks. I appreciate this kind of conversation for young adults to watch not to teach them to idolize their parents, but because at that age we all start to shift from loving our parents to questioning them. It shows its okay to have those kinds of thoughts as a teen (and it's completely normal too!) and that while it can be a little scary to imagine our superhero parents can be faulty, it starts to teach us how to give grace to others starting with the ones who (hopefully) earned it the most. [Not discounting that parents can't be the source of our pain and trauma. That's totally valid, but I appreciate that in this case Wednesday's parents truly cherish her and just wish for her to know that and would never change a thing about her.]
I've never met my dad but I believe my mom did an admirable job raising an admittedly difficult son. I could always tell that behind her often stressful exterior, there was love fueling her. As well as maybe a bit of sadness for being in a single parent situation
my relationship was stress and strained. My mom's a compulsive liar, my dad is a temperamental asshole who you can't even ask a question without him yelling at you. They're constantly fighting and are honestly part of the reason why I don't ever want to be in a relationship because I don't ever want to be trapped into such a hostile environment like that. I love them because I'm obligated to, but I want to be nothing like them. Like my self worth is at bedrock level cause of them, my conflict handling skills are terrible because I respond like they do because that’s how I was taught, and then they scream at me for it.
I hear you. In my case, I did not acknowledge these dynamics until my mid-30s. I wish I had been aware much sooner. It was hard for me to be self aware: I thought I was a mistake and my feelings were unimportant. I am finally getting the help I need, though.
That really sucks sorry i feel lucky to have such loving parents but I have always been very guarded because I was hurt in the past in school I’m also sensitive to other’s emotions and am very empathic I could get angry on a dime when some else is pissed off and trust me it’s not fun I was sadly born this way and experienced trauma at 12 due to losing my home to hurricane Katrina we lost everything I have no idea where my empathic abilities come from but I have a feeling they come from my dad cause he’s the same way and so is my sister
I have always been told that I’m the female version of my father and I’ve always disliked it not only because he wasn’t a very present figure in my life but also because he is very Wednesday like… cold ruthless in some ways. You don’t see him smile ever but he shows love through actions…now that I’m older I know that I’m not him. I’m my own person that has some similarities with my father but also a lot of diferences and opposite opinions. Honestly I think that’s made out relationship better in certain ways. It’s really odd how being compared to someone else while growing up can actually affect your relationship with that person.
Marvelous to watch your analysis and learn about information that I consider so useful to understand our own behavior. Keep up this amazing work and thank you. 😊
I relate to Wednesday a lot because of my darker interests(murder mysteries and criminal psychology) but also because of my autism. She truly has made me feel like I belong and, when I act like her, my little brother stops picking on me.
as I've become older O'm getting more and more similar to my mother and while it's scary, it has also made gain so much more comprehension and compassion for her and that has helped repair our relationship
5:53 There was a scene in an episode of MASH, where the psychiatrist (reoccurring character Dr. Sydney Friedman) talks about missing this in a patient he just lost.
My relationship with my mom is really good. I don't think I've ever thought consciously about "I want to be like her"/"I don't want to be like her" even though I'm very independent. Of course, I have learned a lot from her by her actions more than words since I learn by observing and we're both pretty quiet haha. Although thanks to a situation with her family where they took advantage of how good she is as a person, always willing to help others. I did say that I would never trust as much as she does because sometimes it's not so good to be that good of a person to people like that.
Why am I anxious to watch your reaction? Every one you make is so good, and I guess I keep worrying that the next will fall flat but just like all the others, this video was great. Thank you so much for making this video. Thank you for mentioning Enid and Wednesday's growing relationship, and thank you for talking about Enid and Wednesday in general. I also loved seeing your reaction to parts of the show. I feel that many people who react think you need to vocalize your reaction to things in order to entertain with your reactions. However I loved seeing your face as it showed your reaction and even when you did talk without pausing it did not drown out what was going on in the episode, only add to it. You are so insightful and kind I look forward to seeing next episodes reaction next week. Cannot wait to learn more from you.
Please react to ‘The Fallout’ its a movie (with Jenna Ortega) about a school shooting and how different people experience and work through trauma differently. Its really authentic and I would love to hear your take on it :)
1:09 Well, most of my family is extremely homophobic, transphobic, slightly racist, sexist, and generally are a, "everything that isn't a white Christian male is bad or wrong" type of family, so there's that. My mom's ok-ish tho
I really appreciated this parent episode. Although I'm a grown woman it really made me think of me and my mothers dynamic. You know why we are and react the way we do. Very insightful
really appreciate you taking the time to talk about suicidality and share resources and on top of it acknowledge and appreciate our existence without even knowing us. im sure you are making a lot of people feel seen even if just for a moment and thats so powerful. thanks for the information, acceptance, and love you spread
1:22 One of the things that I’ve found about myself that is different from most is that I’ve never even considered to do the opposite of what has been presented to me by my dad. I’ve never wanted to deviate of rebel against him, and I’ve always stuck with him. Of course I’ve found out new things about him, but I still love him and am always by his side.
In this episode you talked a few topics that hurt me in a personal level, but it wasn't an uncomfortable journey, which is wild because we're strangers, myself even more of a stranger to you, guess you're really good at your job XD your words were very educational and comforting, very non-judgmental, highly appreciated! Thanks for your hard work, have a nice day! 😊
You need to react to Zoey's Extraordinary Playlist. It deals with grief, and the show is just very good show. Also the main character, Zoey, starts going to therapy in the later half off season 2, and I think the therapist did a good job.
My mom and dad were complete opposites. My mom was a strong woman, very artistic, and a bit sensitive and very musical (she was a professional singer/guitarist, taught dance and voice and guitar, sang opera on her own radio show as a teen, etc.. My dad was (no joke) completely tone deaf. He had a bad temper and was prone to rages. He could be kind of a bully at times, but mostly he was... decent, though he got along so much better with my brother than with me. So I sometimes thought that he didn't like me very much. He was very logical and practical and very smart -- definitely more towards the intellectual side. But he could not show affection or give positive reinforcement, at least to me. He could be very manipulative, and not always very honest. I ended up moving far away from my parents as soon as I could afford to, mostly because of my dad. Later in life, I did try to have a relationship with my dad, when it looked like he had gotten a lot more mellow. But by then, he was very sick and had Alzheimer's and Cancer, so that never really happened, at least in a meaningful way. My younger brother had a very different experience. He got along great with my dad, but could not get along very well with my mom. I have memories of my dad teaching my brother about maintaining the car, changing the oil or the tire, and giving him driving lessons. My dad refused to teach me how to drive, and never had time for me when I asked. Years later, after he had died, my mom told me how proud my dad was of me, how he thought it was really good that I got into computers, always proud of how I had done in school. I wish he could have told me though, way back then. I have a bit of both of them in me. I was shy and quiet and gentle, and a bookworm, and smart like my dad (I'm kind of a nerd), but love music and art, though I didn't go in that direction. I was always afraid of becoming my dad so I really suppressed my anger. But my mom always was encouraging me to stand up for myself, because I could be a push-over. I was a target for bullying throughout Jr. High. Eventually, when i got older, I think I reached a good compromise between the two extremes. I also co-facilitate a class now that helps people with mentally illness with public speaking -- I was shy and deathly afraid of public speaking. But now I try to teach others how to speak up. Thanks mom!
I love the way you comment on every episode! You stay unbiased and equally attentive to all the characters regardless of who you like more. Thanks for the videos, they are really helpful! I can totally relate to Wednesday. I remember very well how I didn't want to be like my parents in many aspects! Back then I didn't feel my family was a safe space. So I learned to be private and keep my thoughts to myself. So I really did observed how they acted or reacted to something and tried to make conclusions so I act differently in the future. It's funny though, I don't deliberately choose to copy my parents' behaviour but surprisingly I sometimes see how some of my reactions came from my parents! What I envy Wednesday is for being allowed to be herself and for not being pushed!
1:50, this was what really said "good relationship" in my mind, willingness to share family burdens. You have to be a certain level of trusted friend to hear family issues, and their short talk shows so much support it shows how much Wednesday has developed in a single relationship that treats her fairly.
So basically my relationship with my parents was a little rough througout my life. They are almost 70 and im 18 rn so that didnt really helped. Also I always wanted to be someone different and independent of what I was receiving at home. Also I have a twin so there's been always some "competition" between us too. But was always triggered me was that they expected much more from than from my brother so what I did was to not care what they said for a very long time and still till this day. Today, I wouldnt day it has changed I have adapted myself to that feeling so I feels natural now.
I've been looking forward to this. I hope you do the last 2 episodes together ❤️ Enjoy the next 3 episodes. See you next week. Thank you for these videos it's a different and enlightening point of view from other reviews online.
The End of this made me cry, I really have never been told anything like this, even though I am surrounded by people who love me in my life and try their best to say that. Thank you Doc.
Surprised to not see anyone commenting on that split-second offense you showed with the sheriff's morbid joke XD somewhere from 14:16 - 14:17. Anyways, overall I've been enjoying your reaction to the series! Psychology has always been an interesting subject to me :)
Excellent episode! Thank you for all the resources and grounding us as we travel with these characters. Each week I learn something new from you that I've been able to add to my personal survival tool kit. Thank you. 💜
From a very young age i was consciously trying to do things as different (or even opposite) as possible from my father so as to not end up like him coz i didn't like the person he was. Fast forward 25+ years i keep noticing more and more similarities to him and while my stance towards him has soften quite a bit it is still frustrating to realize that some bad traits/behaviours of his have been ''passed'' to me. To be fair to him though, this might not even be his fault. I might just happened to get these traits ''along the way'' coincidentally by myself. PS: I love ur analysis of the show and how u do not just focus on wednesday but give some ''screen time'' the other ones as well. Looking forward to the next one.
Thank you for your informative and educational reactions, it's so interesting to explore the family dynamics and psychological issues portrayed on the show with a trained professional. Keep up the great work!
Growing up, my mom was like the angel showing me affection and kindness while my dad was the scary boogeyman. He supposedly used his temper for my own good, to help me remember important lessons. The thing is, I don't remember a single thing he ever said to me when he was like that. I remember the tone and volume of his voice, I remember trying to endure without crying until I could leave, and I remember very clearly the one time that he was calm and quiet when he caught me acting cruel as a child and he told me I should treat people the way I want to be treated. That was the lesson that stuck with me. It's odd, but I relate more with him than my mom now that I'm an adult. He never wanted to be a parent and he did better than I think I would have in his place. Sometimes I hear myself speaking like he did when I feel the need to be strong and scary myself. Mostly I do my best to not be like him, leave the rage out of it when solving interpersonal problems. From my mom I got my affectionate nature and love of singing, but we don't have much else in common anymore. She says she respects our differences, but then she doesn't, whether it's an intervention where her friends tell me I'm going to hell or it's a casual comment where she approves of a friend trying to force her daughter into having children. I appreciate both of them despite their human faults, and we do chat occasionally, which as close as I want to be.
I love seeing you react to the therapist as I know the sparks will fly as every scene with her made me flinch. Sure she does a few things good, but overall she's a bad example of a therapist.
Your analysis is so interesting. Love this series. If you were looking for another series for after this the series,Legends of Vox Machina, has a lot of characters and references to mental health.
I grew up with parents who love me but have a very dysfunctional relationship. I consciously made a decision not to act like that, especially not to yell at my future partner and call him names. I am now married to the man that I love and we are able to communicate with each other in a healthy way! I'm also in therapy and working on healing myself so things can only get better from here.
Ah! I was waiting to see your reaction/Therapy as always! You give such interesting insights and analyses. I found the dynamic very interesting. (I love how Wednesday smile when seeing The corpse...) Enid is strong.
Thank you for another wonderful and insightful reaction! Your ending is so sincere and kind and it made my day! 😊 I want you to know that everyone who follows you is glad you exist too. Know that you ARE making a positive change for people like myself.
I'm curious how a therapist determines if a patient is suicidal, when the patient themselves didn't consider suicide. When I tried getting help before knowing what I had, I've been told to admit to myself that I want to kill myself. I didn't really consider suicide, even after that session. Whenever someone told me that killing myself would be the best thing for the world, I came to the conclusion that simply staying away from people who don't like me would achieve the same goal.
I wonder how much of Enid's inability to "wolfout" stems from her feelings of inadequacy placed on her by her mother and the pressure that places on her..
I grew up with parents that would fight a lot, drink smoke, and even heard stories of how my dad was abused as a kid from his stepdad. I’m autistic, in a happy and healthy relationship with my girlfriend and plan to never partake in drinking, smoking or drugs. I have had a few chances to try weed and drinking but I decided to keep a clear head and look out for my friends when they were in that state.
Loving your reactions to wednesday!! I really really would want to see you react to alice in borderland. I think you would absolutely love to talk about how people behave in certain life-death situations. It's an emotional series that shows a lot of true human nature. Just a recommendation tho, you do you. :)))
She defs would have been a better therapists if the writers had a better understanding of the dos and donts of that profession. But I agree girl needs her license revoked.
My father and I definitely butted head during teenage years and early 20s. He wasn't ready to accept my independence as his first born. And he did such a great job preparing me for it that he struggled not being needed the same anymore. There are MANY ways I am and have been like my father but growing up I recognized traits from my mother that I preferred to imitate and adopt. I'm very grateful for how my father raised me, but now that I have a son I recognized a few ways I want to raise my son differently.
Hello again, I did say I would reply more to these lovely videos and thought I would from a movie/show perspective mention that the moment Reggie the coroner mentioned in the earlier episode retiring and taking a cruise my automatic thought was he is going to die. In movies and shows the term 'red shirt' is used to describe a character that dies relatively fast. Take for example the hiker in episode one that was warned by the lady driver he should not go camping or hiking around Nevermore. When I first watched episode one I said: 'He's going to die. He's a red shirt character.' These characters often establish the scene and display a danger that later the protagonist must overcome. Another cliche of movies and films is if we meet a character like Reggie who is introduced and they speak of taking a vacation, retiring, or moving some place else that is usually an indicator that they will be killed off either on screen or off. In Reggie's case it was off screen but it came as no surprise to me when it was mentioned he died. Of course because of the cliche 'I'm retiring and going on a cruise' from a movie or show perspective that makes his "Suicide" highly suspicious because who would end their life when they are excited to retire and go on a cruise with their wife? Obviously in real life it isn't as cut and dry as that because of the reasons you gave in the video. There can be many factors as to why someone would take their life and it's really good to learn more about this subject from you.
I really loved this episode because we see how much Wednesday actually cares about her family. The way she praises her father is so sweet yet so Wednesday still. The way she opens up to her mother and that her mother still apologized to her. My parents were good at apologizing too and I think it's part of what helps me be patient and understanding with people. I hadn't caught how Wednesday being vulnerable around Eugene meant she let her guard down and that's why she was startled when she was touched on the shoulder. That's another cool way we see Wednesday being more open to feeling something.
1:17 - I will bite. Relationship-wise, I am not sure how to define it. In the past, I always thought we were all fairly close. Though I noticed my sister and mother had a close bond, my siblings say my grandmother and I were fairly close too. My sister went so far as to say I am/was her favorite. In either case, I think my brother got the short end of the stick. He tried for a long time to stay close to his dad and that just fell apart unfortunately and he was the one that got picked on growing up the most. Today, things are quite different. While I do have contact with my parents, my Grandmother is by far the one I talk to the most and tbh, she is really the only one who makes an effort to talk to me. If I hear from my mom, it is always to ask for financial help. Otherwise, she expresses no direct interest or effort into my personal life, how I am doing, or what I am doing. A prime example of this would be a Short Film called Jinn's Promise that I am currently making has been a WIP the past two years. Just two months ago, my collaborator and I sat back to celebrate finally getting a storyboard made for the project. By the end of this year, we will be celebrating again with a finished teaser trailer we are both looking forward too. My Mom, Sister, Grandmother, and Brother are all aware the project exists and is the focus of my efforts over the past two years. The only person in my family who has ever asked me how it is going has been my Grandmother. My brother lives with me still so he just finds out by proxy of being in my presence. My sister has never asked and my Mother has never asked about it. Ever. I Have never been shy of telling them about it and my Grandma can attest to this, but no one ever asks me to talk about it so I just am left with this feeling that the effort to communicate with them is one way. 2 - Did I observe how they acted growing up? Yea, often. I was what many would call the quiet kid and I usually minded my own business and watched. Not just my parents, but everyone. In regards to my family though, as I got older and felt like I had some amount of room to talk, I would try to engage more in what would be considered "adult matters" and most of the time I would be told to stay out of it or not get involved followed with some excuse about me not being able to understand. Ultimately, I think I learned a lot from them, specifically how NOT to handle things. My mother is not a good example of financial stability and has always been in the gutter. My grandmother, while knowing better most of the time, didn't have the heart to put her foot down on some of the choices my mother was making. But she is like that to all of us and while I understand she does value us learning the lessons ourselves, the issue I take with it is that it has allowed my mother to adopt a bad financial habit that has not just hurt her, but the whole family. What bothers me most is that my parents have a habit of avoiding and backing away from conflict too. Now, to a degree I get it, but its bad enough that they don't ever put their feet down on situations that I thought they had every reason and motive to respond to. Just to clarify, these situations should have gone to court. None of them ever did and as a result, a lot of people have gotten away with walking all over my family. Something I am not very fond of. 3/4 - I think I have learned to avoid a lot of the situations my parents fall into. And behaviors. I don't think I am perfect by comparison to any degree, but I have avoided a lot of financial problems just by staying away from the mistakes they made. Outside of financial stuff or other matters, the one thing I do thank them for is my mannerisms. I grew up in a Military Family technically as my Grandfather served. By that extension, I grew up addressing people in a proper manner. Mam, Sir, etc. Keeping my temper in check in heated situations has been something they have helped with. I like to describe it has to have a very forward "customer service" attitude in public and with friends, though I am more relaxed with friends. As a result of being mostly acquainted with gamers. All that said, most of who or what I am has been built on my own personal interests. While I watched and learned some things from my parents, they were always very open and forward in encouraging all of us to be ourselves and decide who we wanted to be. No matter how goofy it got lol. That I think I am the most thankful for. They have not been perfect by far (never met a parent who was either), but they gave us a lot of freedom to explore and express ourselves growing up.
I can honestly relate to Pugsly. My big brother stood up for me and protected me from a lot of abuse growing up. And I kinda hero worship him for that.
1: I fought with my parents throughout my childhood and adolescence (verbally, not physically), but at least for me it never got to the point that it made me genuinely dislike, scorn or lose respect for them. 2: I was diagnosed with autism LATE in life. When I told my mother, and after she had read up on what that COULD mean a fair bit, she told me something I did not remember - that from an early age, rather than being like "normal" children were supposed to be according to her own parents and others around them, I would frequently and very intently WATCH her with a lot of concentration. I think she's right, and that I was in fact trying to figure out how humans are supposed to human. 3: I respect my parents a lot for showing their children many sides of themselves, letting us closer than a lot of parents do before putting any kind of mask up and portraying a character. I didn't think about it then, but I am grateful now. 4: After I got my diagnosis (in my 30s) I realized during my "journey of self discovery" (gag) that I had built a LOT of my notions of how people should behave, and therefore, how I should behave, on them, mirroring them rather strongly. Fortunately, they are decent, kind people who treat people as they would wish to be treated to a greater extent than a LOT of people do, so that guidance didn't lead me very far wrong. Also, our house was inundated with wordplay and language play, so I never had the common symptom of autism that is having a lot of trouble with irony, wordplay and ambiguous language. I may not read faces, moods, "the room" or such stuff very well, but I'll get your double entendre jokes and other ambiguities without much trouble. My respect for them has grown, especially given that they raised an autistic kid that was JUST shy of exhibiting symptoms so strongly that it was remarked upon back in the 80s, with no help, no access to further information, and I think they did really well.
My mother was married and divorced three times by the time I was 12. One time when I was a kid and she was drunk she told me I ruined her life just by existing. While she was still alive I used to tell people if I called and told her I was dying all I’d hear was how my death would affect her life. My father has always been more of an acquaintance than a parent. All of this sounds bad but I’m 62 and have been married 42 years and have two grown children. Growing up I just accepted my family wasn’t ‘normal’ but figured there were people who had it worse. It was what it was…
Knowing how the episode ends, I wonder if the guilt the coroner felt was for covering Garrett attempting to poison Nevermore students, not hiding who stabbed him, and that's why the coroner killed himself.
As soon as I heard that Gomez (supposedly) killed someone, I knew that if he did, he must’ve had a good reason, as Gomez is consistently portrayed as a loving husband and father. Turns out, he didn’t kill, he just bit the bullet for Morticia, which is one of the reasons she adores him so much. And I really want to see more of Morning Song in Season 2, as it sticks its roots into the school, and Bianca tries to stop her mother’s cult from continuing its operations of hypnotizing people into giving her money. There is some irony with Sheriff Galpin calling Gomez a “murderer walking around scot-free” to Tyler, who he knows is a murderer. As unprofessional letting a known murderer run around is, Sheriff Galpin is in clear denial about his son’s evil. He raised him to be good, so he doesn’t want to live in a world where is only son is not only killing people, but enjoying it. Plus, I want to see more of Enid’s dynamic with her parents, especially with how her mother will react to the fact that her daughter finally transformed. This will result in some possible plots that could play out very well. And with her dad being quiet and understanding, while Enid’s mom is judgmental and pushy. And the fact that Eugene has two mothers, that’s some representation we need. And I’m sure that the Gates family’s dynamic is a dark parallel of the Addams family’s dynamic. While the Addams family is healthy dynamic after healthy dynamic, the Gates are toxic and hateful, even to each other.
While the discussion of suicidality is appreciated, it's important from a narrative standpoint to also recognize the tropes at play with the coroner's death. One of the top red flags that a character is going to die is either being a rookie or "two days from retirement." This is because the rookie hasn't developed the skills yet to recognize an incoming threat for what it is, while the almost retiree has let his guard down early. Considering the nature of this show, it's only natural to distrust the idea that he was suicidal in the first place
Thank you for your content and I would like to ask a question that might have been addressed in the past. I love the fact that you analyze Wednesday as if she were a real person, but how do you factor in the fact that she is an OP Mary Sue? In one of your videos you saw one of her fight scenes you said the scene was terrible and a few minutes later you mentioned that the police officer couldn't believe she did all that by her own. According to that, If he had scene the fight scene, he would have even more reason to not believe her. What would you think if you find a person that seems to have OP capacities in life? Would you believe it to be true or what conclusions would you have? Thanks.
My cis uncle was named Dana at birth, he changed his name to Dane because he didn't like "having a girls name" my family had no issue with him doing so. I'm trans, it's been pretty obvious all throughout growing up and those same people take issue with me changing my name. I'm really glad this show makes heavyhanded attempts to relate to queer people even if the characters aren't explicitly queer
ok before i forgot about this question in the start of the video: i'm a teenager and the only person that annoys me is my mom, but she does this ALWAYS. and she also expects me to behave as same as she did, which means working hard, planning every second and acting like a few years older person. and i want to be the opposite of this because i don't want to become like her (too strict for everyone). I hope someone can relate (or that this makes sense)
hello, my mother was always protective, she spoke for us (my brothers and I), every time we went to the doctor and she is able to define our feelings when we couldn't, I liked being her center of attention, I liked that she ran to help me every time I had a problem, and when I grew up I did everything to get her attention, I bought her things, I told her everything, but she suffered when she didn't get a favorable response, my psychologist told me that she was always waiting for her to rescue me, Of course, it is easier when someone tells you what to do than to find out on your own.
Even though I grew up with my parents and we did a lot of family traditions and they are wonderful people, I seem to have taken more emulation from my grandparents
The pathologist suicide case is an other dark joke. In movies there are some thing, called redflags. If a character say any of it, will die. The pathologist told all of them. "I will retire on Friday." "I will take my wife to..." "I will change my scalpel to some cocktail." "Go, I will close the morgue alone". These are all redflag sentences. When I heard them, I know, he will die somehow. (The only redflag what I missed, is a picture, from his "newborn grandchild")
That ending took a turn. It's wild how little we know about other people. Never in my life would I think a psychologist like yourself had gone through those dark times. It's so refreshing to see that no matter who we are, we all have had our struggles in life. We can all relate to each other in one way or another, and it's so important to help those people out when we can.
Overall I love my parents and have a great relationsship with them, but something I think I decided to do the opposite of them is how they handle their frustration with one another. Throughout my childhood there were some periods when they where "fighting" often, and they both had the attitude of wanting to have the last word. I always tried to calm them down, saying to both to stop. So now I'm very much non confrontational
My relationship with my parents has always been rocky at best. Yes, I always observed them in my early years and now. Some things I liked but mostly I just didn't like the things they did, how they acted with each other and with other people. I do not copy them, I actually try my best not to be compared to them and try to distance myself from their actions and chronic bad decision making skills.
This is an amazing video. I actually have a great relationship with my mum and would consider it a compliment if people say I emulate her...but I do have to acknowledge I'm not a carbon copy and there are differences. And that's OK to. Her lesson and support have helped me so much with my boys. And the reson I follow her advice is because she doesn't force it on me. All of your advice in this video is very helpful. Thankyiu :)
Hi there, Love your Wednesday series. I was wondering if you have heard of the Series "Lucifer"? In it there is a Series long Therapy sessions between Lucifer and Dr Linda. I imagine it is chalked full of bad therapy, but I think they still did it appropriately for a fictional setting. Anyway I think it would be great if you visited that series for reaction videos. It was a very well done show. So much that its original network was unable to kill it LOL
I definitely used my caregiver (whole family really) as a guide to learn what not to do. My family never felt like a family. Sure, I was generally taken care of but ultimately I never felt tuely loved, accepted, understood, nor like my opinion or dis/likes mattered. There was an idea of what I should be and they acted like that's all I was even if I was different. Depending on the circumstance, the difference was either chastised, ignored, or deliberately misunderstood. For instance, when I came out as not being of the same faith (pagan/spiritual instead of catholic), it was decided (despite my explaining my beliefs) that I didn't believe in anything and no longer needed presents for holidays, even my birthday. Not that I was gifted stuff I actually asked for anyway...only what they wanted me to have, even if it overall was more expensive than what I asked for. (First world problems, I know.) I even nearly died because it was believed I was being a hypochondriac. Luckily, I was taken to the ER in time... And despite the doctor stating that if I was brought in any later that it would have turned fatal and bedridden for months afterward as a result, they still refused to admit they were wrong... There's a whole lot more too, such as outing me to everyone after they accidenally heard my sibling and I discussing our sexualities because they're a huge gossip who just has to tell everyone EVERYTHING...even strangers at a drive through window... They were at least accepting of my sexuality but still a shitty thing to do to a kid without their consent. Not to mention the anger issues SO ~ yeah. I tried to learn from the mistakes of those around me growing up.
Please react to Attack on titan if you haven’t watched it already. It touches on so many moral complexities and I believe that anyone who studies or is interested in psychology will fall in love with it. The story is the best I’ve seen too
I have no connection with my birth mother I ended the relationship when I was a kid with my mother it was very toxic she was more i to looking for a new husband then raising her own daughter more dependent on a man then me along with when she finally had that she preferred having my half brothers then me and have not spoken to her in 15 years
This episode was all about parent/child relationships which is one of my FAVORITE topics! FYI for copyright purposes we have to cut out a lot of our scenes/commentary. If there is something missing from this episode that you'd like me to comment on let me know and I'll try and answer it in the comments. Thank you for being here! 🖤 👇
i dont get why pople make suicide hotlines. if youre weak why should other people bend over to help you.
Make a patreon! I would totally subscribe to see the full commentary video
@@alibabapirce9782 suicidal ideation has nothing to do with weakness, it can be a symptom of many things, including desperation to escape impossible situations. Everyone needs help at times, that's one of the purposes of therapy and suicide hotlines, to help people in need. just like going to a orthopedist for broken limbs or an oncologist for cancer. Suicide hotlines are not about people bending over to help you, but instead its about having a safe place to express ones feelings, and gain additional perspective so that one can help themselves and learn how to survive their own situation.. Saying suicide is weakness only further stigmatizes it, meaning people are less willing to get help, please do not ever say that, as you only make it more likely for the suicide to happen.
I love the fact your hair is a mix of Wednesday and Morticia. You’ve got Morticia’s long straight hair and Wednesday’s bangs 🖤🥺🥰
I love this series and glad this video series is getting a lot of views for your channel because its a good cahnnel. With that said, I would REALLY love to see you do an episode dedicated to ENID at the end of the series where you go through the whole series and focus on her character specifically. I realize that's hard to do on a video by video basis because the main character is wednesday, but ENID is just as important in this show and is just as complex of a character. I would also wager that season two will see her play a more prominent role alongside wednesday because they did such a good job casting these two girls and such a good job writing wednesday and enid. The complexity and emotional make-up of enid is deserving of its own show for sure, so the least we can do is ask for a video at the end of your video series dedicated to her specifically, because as I said, she's one of the best written supporting characters in the history of film. She really truly embodies not only the best qualities of a well-written character, but it also proves that time spent on supporting roles is NOT time wasted, AND her psychology is fascinating in and of itself. Enid is LITERALLY the rainbow to Wednesday's storm cloud... but just because she's glitter and sunshine doesn't mean her life is always easy and doesn't mean she's never upset and never has challenges. But the way she seems to be fueled by optimism and has a strong will without being overbearing is a good enough reason for a video dedicated to her, but if you look at all the other nuances, its a no-brainer. But I assume you were already thinking of dedicating an entire video to her... because I suspect you find her character as fascinating as I do. Thanks for this series, and whether or not you actually do an enid dedicated video, thank you for taking the time to consider it.
Enid remains one of the most wonderful characters. And I appreciate her father's quiet support.
Her father can love her all he wants, but he is still a useless coward. He needs to stand up for his daughter for once, and tell Mom to STFU.
Quiet is right. He says like one sentence the entire episode. 😆 But I agree. Enid is awesome.
I love that too. I just wish he had been more in charge in case of parenting. Because supporting your kid passively can also be not enough to protect them from the toxic behaviours of the other parent.
@@mrslundy1535 while I wish that too, after about 20 years of being married to somebody who's energetically set in their ways, you find a way to pick your battles. I'm thinking that the fact that Enid had a choice about whether she went to that re-education camp had something to do with an argument he and his wife already had in the car, so to speak. Otherwise why would her mother have even given her a choice?
Enid's dad looks exactly like apex streamer, stormen.. lol
One thing I noted was the goodbye kiss and hug from Morticia to Wednesday. In that it was done without touching her. Acknowledgement that Wednesday does not like to be touched and her mother knows it and respects it.
Yes, I loved this. I was hoping she would have brought it up in this video.
I don't think it was for Wednesday's benefit. It was so Morticia's makeup wouldn't be disturbed, vanity being her chief characteristic.
A lot people didn’t understand why Wednesday was mad at her father for being a murder but i don’t think that’s why she was so angry. She always knew her father to be open and truthful so when she found they had a secret she was devastated. So then she watched him lie to her face when he confessed, which only further proved her trustful father could even lie to HER when she’s felt she’s always been his kinda confidante.
Exactly. Especially when both the lie and the truth are ckear cases of self defense/defense of others. These are not things they should have kept from her in the first place. So now you have them lying to her about something that would not have mattered if she had known.
I agree. I also feel like covering for Morticia spills over to their daily life. Wednesday can sense something is off and that's why she isn't her mom's biggest fan. Notice how she opened up to her mom once the logic was all worked out?
I wondered this as well. If she describes him as constantly honest and open. While also herself being overly frank when she commits a crime. I think him performing an act like that and not sharing it with the family made her suspicious.
@@dazzlingdexter5060 Especially since he didn't actually do anything except cover for his wife but she could be seen as reserved which bothers Wednesday and is why they aren't close.
This episode in particular got me crying like a baby, especially when Morticia said "I'm sorry you felt you couldnt tell me". I'd give everything to hear that from my mom. She raised me by herself and i grew up very attached to her and when I was younger i used to share everything with her. But as I matured I grew up into a different person than her in taste and worldview, and now it feels we cant connect anymore, so i catch myself having thoughts and secrets i wanted to share with her, just like before, but cant do it anymore cause I know she would not take it well. This episode really hit home for me.
Enid is such a loving character. Besides Wednesday herself she really makes this new series shine. I am loving these reactions!
Enid's dad looks exactly like apex streamer, stormen.. lol
Before her passing, my mother and I had a very close relationship, and I find as an adult I inherited much of her behaviours, for instance, I don't recall my mother ever having a boyfriend, not seeing it as necessary or to give fulfilment, maintaining full independence, and so as an adult I very rarely have relationships as I don't feel I need them to feel complete or validated.
As an older adult in my 30s now, I have a new appreciation for coming-of-age stories. Part of me believes that my parents gave me those kinds of stories to give me direction in a manner that they could not give me out of their own shortcomings as adults. I really like Wednesday's relationship with her parents, especially her mother. I think Wednesday learned how to give her parents respect as human adults who made decisions that aren't completely rational like how she thinks. I appreciate this kind of conversation for young adults to watch not to teach them to idolize their parents, but because at that age we all start to shift from loving our parents to questioning them. It shows its okay to have those kinds of thoughts as a teen (and it's completely normal too!) and that while it can be a little scary to imagine our superhero parents can be faulty, it starts to teach us how to give grace to others starting with the ones who (hopefully) earned it the most.
[Not discounting that parents can't be the source of our pain and trauma. That's totally valid, but I appreciate that in this case Wednesday's parents truly cherish her and just wish for her to know that and would never change a thing about her.]
I loved the development of Wednesday and Morticia's relationship.
I've never met my dad but I believe my mom did an admirable job raising an admittedly difficult son. I could always tell that behind her often stressful exterior, there was love fueling her. As well as maybe a bit of sadness for being in a single parent situation
my relationship was stress and strained. My mom's a compulsive liar, my dad is a temperamental asshole who you can't even ask a question without him yelling at you. They're constantly fighting and are honestly part of the reason why I don't ever want to be in a relationship because I don't ever want to be trapped into such a hostile environment like that. I love them because I'm obligated to, but I want to be nothing like them. Like my self worth is at bedrock level cause of them, my conflict handling skills are terrible because I respond like they do because that’s how I was taught, and then they scream at me for it.
I hear you.
In my case, I did not acknowledge these dynamics until my mid-30s. I wish I had been aware much sooner.
It was hard for me to be self aware: I thought I was a mistake and my feelings were unimportant.
I am finally getting the help I need, though.
That really sucks sorry i feel lucky to have such loving parents but I have always been very guarded because I was hurt in the past in school I’m also sensitive to other’s emotions and am very empathic I could get angry on a dime when some else is pissed off and trust me it’s not fun I was sadly born this way and experienced trauma at 12 due to losing my home to hurricane Katrina we lost everything I have no idea where my empathic abilities come from but I have a feeling they come from my dad cause he’s the same way and so is my sister
I have always been told that I’m the female version of my father and I’ve always disliked it not only because he wasn’t a very present figure in my life but also because he is very Wednesday like… cold ruthless in some ways. You don’t see him smile ever but he shows love through actions…now that I’m older I know that I’m not him. I’m my own person that has some similarities with my father but also a lot of diferences and opposite opinions. Honestly I think that’s made out relationship better in certain ways. It’s really odd how being compared to someone else while growing up can actually affect your relationship with that person.
Marvelous to watch your analysis and learn about information that I consider so useful to understand our own behavior. Keep up this amazing work and thank you. 😊
I relate to Wednesday a lot because of my darker interests(murder mysteries and criminal psychology) but also because of my autism. She truly has made me feel like I belong and, when I act like her, my little brother stops picking on me.
@@dc56789 same!
as I've become older O'm getting more and more similar to my mother and while it's scary, it has also made gain so much more comprehension and compassion for her and that has helped repair our relationship
5:53 There was a scene in an episode of MASH, where the psychiatrist (reoccurring character Dr. Sydney Friedman) talks about missing this in a patient he just lost.
My relationship with my mom is really good. I don't think I've ever thought consciously about "I want to be like her"/"I don't want to be like her" even though I'm very independent. Of course, I have learned a lot from her by her actions more than words since I learn by observing and we're both pretty quiet haha. Although thanks to a situation with her family where they took advantage of how good she is as a person, always willing to help others. I did say that I would never trust as much as she does because sometimes it's not so good to be that good of a person to people like that.
I just love watching your analysis, they're so descriptive and well thought out. Thank you for this amazing content.
Why am I anxious to watch your reaction? Every one you make is so good, and I guess I keep worrying that the next will fall flat but just like all the others, this video was great. Thank you so much for making this video. Thank you for mentioning Enid and Wednesday's growing relationship, and thank you for talking about Enid and Wednesday in general. I also loved seeing your reaction to parts of the show. I feel that many people who react think you need to vocalize your reaction to things in order to entertain with your reactions. However I loved seeing your face as it showed your reaction and even when you did talk without pausing it did not drown out what was going on in the episode, only add to it. You are so insightful and kind I look forward to seeing next episodes reaction next week. Cannot wait to learn more from you.
Please react to ‘The Fallout’ its a movie (with Jenna Ortega) about a school shooting and how different people experience and work through trauma differently. Its really authentic and I would love to hear your take on it :)
*grabs popcorn*
1:09 Well, most of my family is extremely homophobic, transphobic, slightly racist, sexist, and generally are a, "everything that isn't a white Christian male is bad or wrong" type of family, so there's that. My mom's ok-ish tho
I really appreciated this parent episode. Although I'm a grown woman it really made me think of me and my mothers dynamic. You know why we are and react the way we do. Very insightful
Omg im so happy you uploaded again 😊❤
really appreciate you taking the time to talk about suicidality and share resources and on top of it acknowledge and appreciate our existence without even knowing us. im sure you are making a lot of people feel seen even if just for a moment and thats so powerful. thanks for the information, acceptance, and love you spread
1:22 One of the things that I’ve found about myself that is different from most is that I’ve never even considered to do the opposite of what has been presented to me by my dad. I’ve never wanted to deviate of rebel against him, and I’ve always stuck with him. Of course I’ve found out new things about him, but I still love him and am always by his side.
In this episode you talked a few topics that hurt me in a personal level, but it wasn't an uncomfortable journey, which is wild because we're strangers, myself even more of a stranger to you, guess you're really good at your job XD your words were very educational and comforting, very non-judgmental, highly appreciated!
Thanks for your hard work, have a nice day! 😊
You need to react to Zoey's Extraordinary Playlist. It deals with grief, and the show is just very good show. Also the main character, Zoey, starts going to therapy in the later half off season 2, and I think the therapist did a good job.
God I love that show ❤
That show is awesome!
That ending 🥲🥲. Thank you so much for your kind words!
My mom and dad were complete opposites. My mom was a strong woman, very artistic, and a bit sensitive and very musical (she was a professional singer/guitarist, taught dance and voice and guitar, sang opera on her own radio show as a teen, etc.. My dad was (no joke) completely tone deaf. He had a bad temper and was prone to rages. He could be kind of a bully at times, but mostly he was... decent, though he got along so much better with my brother than with me. So I sometimes thought that he didn't like me very much. He was very logical and practical and very smart -- definitely more towards the intellectual side. But he could not show affection or give positive reinforcement, at least to me. He could be very manipulative, and not always very honest. I ended up moving far away from my parents as soon as I could afford to, mostly because of my dad. Later in life, I did try to have a relationship with my dad, when it looked like he had gotten a lot more mellow. But by then, he was very sick and had Alzheimer's and Cancer, so that never really happened, at least in a meaningful way.
My younger brother had a very different experience. He got along great with my dad, but could not get along very well with my mom. I have memories of my dad teaching my brother about maintaining the car, changing the oil or the tire, and giving him driving lessons. My dad refused to teach me how to drive, and never had time for me when I asked. Years later, after he had died, my mom told me how proud my dad was of me, how he thought it was really good that I got into computers, always proud of how I had done in school. I wish he could have told me though, way back then.
I have a bit of both of them in me. I was shy and quiet and gentle, and a bookworm, and smart like my dad (I'm kind of a nerd), but love music and art, though I didn't go in that direction. I was always afraid of becoming my dad so I really suppressed my anger. But my mom always was encouraging me to stand up for myself, because I could be a push-over. I was a target for bullying throughout Jr. High. Eventually, when i got older, I think I reached a good compromise between the two extremes. I also co-facilitate a class now that helps people with mentally illness with public speaking -- I was shy and deathly afraid of public speaking. But now I try to teach others how to speak up. Thanks mom!
I am sure Enid's family is relatable to many people's irl
OMG, another video, I loveee psychology and this series, thank you!! 🤌💚♾️
I love the way you comment on every episode! You stay unbiased and equally attentive to all the characters regardless of who you like more.
Thanks for the videos, they are really helpful!
I can totally relate to Wednesday. I remember very well how I didn't want to be like my parents in many aspects! Back then I didn't feel my family was a safe space. So I learned to be private and keep my thoughts to myself. So I really did observed how they acted or reacted to something and tried to make conclusions so I act differently in the future. It's funny though, I don't deliberately choose to copy my parents' behaviour but surprisingly I sometimes see how some of my reactions came from my parents!
What I envy Wednesday is for being allowed to be herself and for not being pushed!
Your outro really spoke to me. Thanks for those kind words.
Always nice to get these videos. I forget it's wednesday, and then these videos pop up.
1:50, this was what really said "good relationship" in my mind, willingness to share family burdens. You have to be a certain level of trusted friend to hear family issues, and their short talk shows so much support it shows how much Wednesday has developed in a single relationship that treats her fairly.
I really enjoyed your breakdowns of these episodes.
So basically my relationship with my parents was a little rough througout my life. They are almost 70 and im 18 rn so that didnt really helped. Also I always wanted to be someone different and independent of what I was receiving at home. Also I have a twin so there's been always some "competition" between us too. But was always triggered me was that they expected much more from than from my brother so what I did was to not care what they said for a very long time and still till this day. Today, I wouldnt day it has changed I have adapted myself to that feeling so I feels natural now.
I've been looking forward to this. I hope you do the last 2 episodes together ❤️
Enjoy the next 3 episodes. See you next week.
Thank you for these videos it's a different and enlightening point of view from other reviews online.
I miss your full analysis of each episode about every detail. But I like everything we are learning from you here!
Love this series so much work put into this . Finish all 8 episodes please 🙏🏽
The End of this made me cry, I really have never been told anything like this, even though I am surrounded by people who love me in my life and try their best to say that. Thank you Doc.
Surprised to not see anyone commenting on that split-second offense you showed with the sheriff's morbid joke XD somewhere from 14:16 - 14:17. Anyways, overall I've been enjoying your reaction to the series! Psychology has always been an interesting subject to me :)
thank you for talking about the therapist! i’m very interested in the field and i love hearing your input on her methods
Excellent episode! Thank you for all the resources and grounding us as we travel with these characters. Each week I learn something new from you that I've been able to add to my personal survival tool kit. Thank you. 💜
From a very young age i was consciously trying to do things as different (or even opposite) as possible from my father so as to not end up like him coz i didn't like the person he was. Fast forward 25+ years i keep noticing more and more similarities to him and while my stance towards him has soften quite a bit it is still frustrating to realize that some bad traits/behaviours of his have been ''passed'' to me. To be fair to him though, this might not even be his fault. I might just happened to get these traits ''along the way'' coincidentally by myself.
PS: I love ur analysis of the show and how u do not just focus on wednesday but give some ''screen time'' the other ones as well. Looking forward to the next one.
Thank you for your informative and educational reactions, it's so interesting to explore the family dynamics and psychological issues portrayed on the show with a trained professional. Keep up the great work!
Growing up, my mom was like the angel showing me affection and kindness while my dad was the scary boogeyman. He supposedly used his temper for my own good, to help me remember important lessons. The thing is, I don't remember a single thing he ever said to me when he was like that. I remember the tone and volume of his voice, I remember trying to endure without crying until I could leave, and I remember very clearly the one time that he was calm and quiet when he caught me acting cruel as a child and he told me I should treat people the way I want to be treated. That was the lesson that stuck with me. It's odd, but I relate more with him than my mom now that I'm an adult. He never wanted to be a parent and he did better than I think I would have in his place. Sometimes I hear myself speaking like he did when I feel the need to be strong and scary myself. Mostly I do my best to not be like him, leave the rage out of it when solving interpersonal problems. From my mom I got my affectionate nature and love of singing, but we don't have much else in common anymore. She says she respects our differences, but then she doesn't, whether it's an intervention where her friends tell me I'm going to hell or it's a casual comment where she approves of a friend trying to force her daughter into having children. I appreciate both of them despite their human faults, and we do chat occasionally, which as close as I want to be.
I love seeing you react to the therapist as I know the sparks will fly as every scene with her made me flinch. Sure she does a few things good, but overall she's a bad example of a therapist.
Your analysis is so interesting. Love this series. If you were looking for another series for after this the series,Legends of Vox Machina, has a lot of characters and references to mental health.
I grew up with parents who love me but have a very dysfunctional relationship. I consciously made a decision not to act like that, especially not to yell at my future partner and call him names. I am now married to the man that I love and we are able to communicate with each other in a healthy way! I'm also in therapy and working on healing myself so things can only get better from here.
Ah! I was waiting to see your reaction/Therapy as always! You give such interesting insights and analyses.
I found the dynamic very interesting.
(I love how Wednesday smile when seeing The corpse...)
Enid is strong.
Thank you for another wonderful and insightful reaction! Your ending is so sincere and kind and it made my day! 😊 I want you to know that everyone who follows you is glad you exist too. Know that you ARE making a positive change for people like myself.
I'm curious how a therapist determines if a patient is suicidal, when the patient themselves didn't consider suicide.
When I tried getting help before knowing what I had, I've been told to admit to myself that I want to kill myself. I didn't really consider suicide, even after that session. Whenever someone told me that killing myself would be the best thing for the world, I came to the conclusion that simply staying away from people who don't like me would achieve the same goal.
I wonder how much of Enid's inability to "wolfout" stems from her feelings of inadequacy placed on her by her mother and the pressure that places on her..
I grew up with parents that would fight a lot, drink smoke, and even heard stories of how my dad was abused as a kid from his stepdad. I’m autistic, in a happy and healthy relationship with my girlfriend and plan to never partake in drinking, smoking or drugs. I have had a few chances to try weed and drinking but I decided to keep a clear head and look out for my friends when they were in that state.
Loving your reactions to wednesday!! I really really would want to see you react to alice in borderland. I think you would absolutely love to talk about how people behave in certain life-death situations. It's an emotional series that shows a lot of true human nature. Just a recommendation tho, you do you. :)))
girl someone needs to take dr. kinbott’s license away😭jkjk
Exactlyyyy
She defs would have been a better therapists if the writers had a better understanding of the dos and donts of that profession. But I agree girl needs her license revoked.
@Artorias I don't think it was unintentional I feel like they purposefully made her that way.
My father and I definitely butted head during teenage years and early 20s. He wasn't ready to accept my independence as his first born. And he did such a great job preparing me for it that he struggled not being needed the same anymore. There are MANY ways I am and have been like my father but growing up I recognized traits from my mother that I preferred to imitate and adopt. I'm very grateful for how my father raised me, but now that I have a son I recognized a few ways I want to raise my son differently.
Been looking forward to u reviewing this ep
Thank you, especially for the message at the end!
Hello again,
I did say I would reply more to these lovely videos and thought I would from a movie/show perspective mention that the moment Reggie the coroner mentioned in the earlier episode retiring and taking a cruise my automatic thought was he is going to die. In movies and shows the term 'red shirt' is used to describe a character that dies relatively fast. Take for example the hiker in episode one that was warned by the lady driver he should not go camping or hiking around Nevermore. When I first watched episode one I said: 'He's going to die. He's a red shirt character.' These characters often establish the scene and display a danger that later the protagonist must overcome. Another cliche of movies and films is if we meet a character like Reggie who is introduced and they speak of taking a vacation, retiring, or moving some place else that is usually an indicator that they will be killed off either on screen or off. In Reggie's case it was off screen but it came as no surprise to me when it was mentioned he died. Of course because of the cliche 'I'm retiring and going on a cruise' from a movie or show perspective that makes his "Suicide" highly suspicious because who would end their life when they are excited to retire and go on a cruise with their wife? Obviously in real life it isn't as cut and dry as that because of the reasons you gave in the video. There can be many factors as to why someone would take their life and it's really good to learn more about this subject from you.
I really loved this episode because we see how much Wednesday actually cares about her family. The way she praises her father is so sweet yet so Wednesday still. The way she opens up to her mother and that her mother still apologized to her. My parents were good at apologizing too and I think it's part of what helps me be patient and understanding with people.
I hadn't caught how Wednesday being vulnerable around Eugene meant she let her guard down and that's why she was startled when she was touched on the shoulder. That's another cool way we see Wednesday being more open to feeling something.
I was so looking forward to this episode 🥹
1:17 - I will bite.
Relationship-wise, I am not sure how to define it. In the past, I always thought we were all fairly close. Though I noticed my sister and mother had a close bond, my siblings say my grandmother and I were fairly close too. My sister went so far as to say I am/was her favorite. In either case, I think my brother got the short end of the stick. He tried for a long time to stay close to his dad and that just fell apart unfortunately and he was the one that got picked on growing up the most. Today, things are quite different. While I do have contact with my parents, my Grandmother is by far the one I talk to the most and tbh, she is really the only one who makes an effort to talk to me. If I hear from my mom, it is always to ask for financial help. Otherwise, she expresses no direct interest or effort into my personal life, how I am doing, or what I am doing. A prime example of this would be a Short Film called Jinn's Promise that I am currently making has been a WIP the past two years. Just two months ago, my collaborator and I sat back to celebrate finally getting a storyboard made for the project. By the end of this year, we will be celebrating again with a finished teaser trailer we are both looking forward too. My Mom, Sister, Grandmother, and Brother are all aware the project exists and is the focus of my efforts over the past two years. The only person in my family who has ever asked me how it is going has been my Grandmother. My brother lives with me still so he just finds out by proxy of being in my presence. My sister has never asked and my Mother has never asked about it. Ever. I Have never been shy of telling them about it and my Grandma can attest to this, but no one ever asks me to talk about it so I just am left with this feeling that the effort to communicate with them is one way.
2 - Did I observe how they acted growing up?
Yea, often. I was what many would call the quiet kid and I usually minded my own business and watched. Not just my parents, but everyone. In regards to my family though, as I got older and felt like I had some amount of room to talk, I would try to engage more in what would be considered "adult matters" and most of the time I would be told to stay out of it or not get involved followed with some excuse about me not being able to understand. Ultimately, I think I learned a lot from them, specifically how NOT to handle things. My mother is not a good example of financial stability and has always been in the gutter. My grandmother, while knowing better most of the time, didn't have the heart to put her foot down on some of the choices my mother was making. But she is like that to all of us and while I understand she does value us learning the lessons ourselves, the issue I take with it is that it has allowed my mother to adopt a bad financial habit that has not just hurt her, but the whole family. What bothers me most is that my parents have a habit of avoiding and backing away from conflict too. Now, to a degree I get it, but its bad enough that they don't ever put their feet down on situations that I thought they had every reason and motive to respond to. Just to clarify, these situations should have gone to court. None of them ever did and as a result, a lot of people have gotten away with walking all over my family. Something I am not very fond of.
3/4 - I think I have learned to avoid a lot of the situations my parents fall into. And behaviors. I don't think I am perfect by comparison to any degree, but I have avoided a lot of financial problems just by staying away from the mistakes they made. Outside of financial stuff or other matters, the one thing I do thank them for is my mannerisms. I grew up in a Military Family technically as my Grandfather served. By that extension, I grew up addressing people in a proper manner. Mam, Sir, etc. Keeping my temper in check in heated situations has been something they have helped with. I like to describe it has to have a very forward "customer service" attitude in public and with friends, though I am more relaxed with friends. As a result of being mostly acquainted with gamers.
All that said, most of who or what I am has been built on my own personal interests. While I watched and learned some things from my parents, they were always very open and forward in encouraging all of us to be ourselves and decide who we wanted to be. No matter how goofy it got lol. That I think I am the most thankful for. They have not been perfect by far (never met a parent who was either), but they gave us a lot of freedom to explore and express ourselves growing up.
I’m so excited for the next episodes!
I don't know you either, but I am glad you're here as well
I can honestly relate to Pugsly. My big brother stood up for me and protected me from a lot of abuse growing up. And I kinda hero worship him for that.
Wait, does she miss her or does she need her because her siren voice is fading and her partner needs a voice for their business?
It's pretty obvious that it's the latter.
Probably late but Honestly, I really loved Enid. I really want to see her character growth when season 2 comes out 😊
Me too
1: I fought with my parents throughout my childhood and adolescence (verbally, not physically), but at least for me it never got to the point that it made me genuinely dislike, scorn or lose respect for them.
2: I was diagnosed with autism LATE in life. When I told my mother, and after she had read up on what that COULD mean a fair bit, she told me something I did not remember - that from an early age, rather than being like "normal" children were supposed to be according to her own parents and others around them, I would frequently and very intently WATCH her with a lot of concentration. I think she's right, and that I was in fact trying to figure out how humans are supposed to human.
3: I respect my parents a lot for showing their children many sides of themselves, letting us closer than a lot of parents do before putting any kind of mask up and portraying a character. I didn't think about it then, but I am grateful now.
4: After I got my diagnosis (in my 30s) I realized during my "journey of self discovery" (gag) that I had built a LOT of my notions of how people should behave, and therefore, how I should behave, on them, mirroring them rather strongly. Fortunately, they are decent, kind people who treat people as they would wish to be treated to a greater extent than a LOT of people do, so that guidance didn't lead me very far wrong. Also, our house was inundated with wordplay and language play, so I never had the common symptom of autism that is having a lot of trouble with irony, wordplay and ambiguous language. I may not read faces, moods, "the room" or such stuff very well, but I'll get your double entendre jokes and other ambiguities without much trouble. My respect for them has grown, especially given that they raised an autistic kid that was JUST shy of exhibiting symptoms so strongly that it was remarked upon back in the 80s, with no help, no access to further information, and I think they did really well.
My mother was married and divorced three times by the time I was 12. One time when I was a kid and she was drunk she told me I ruined her life just by existing. While she was still alive I used to tell people if I called and told her I was dying all I’d hear was how my death would affect her life. My father has always been more of an acquaintance than a parent. All of this sounds bad but I’m 62 and have been married 42 years and have two grown children. Growing up I just accepted my family wasn’t ‘normal’ but figured there were people who had it worse. It was what it was…
Knowing how the episode ends, I wonder if the guilt the coroner felt was for covering Garrett attempting to poison Nevermore students, not hiding who stabbed him, and that's why the coroner killed himself.
As soon as I heard that Gomez (supposedly) killed someone, I knew that if he did, he must’ve had a good reason, as Gomez is consistently portrayed as a loving husband and father. Turns out, he didn’t kill, he just bit the bullet for Morticia, which is one of the reasons she adores him so much.
And I really want to see more of Morning Song in Season 2, as it sticks its roots into the school, and Bianca tries to stop her mother’s cult from continuing its operations of hypnotizing people into giving her money.
There is some irony with Sheriff Galpin calling Gomez a “murderer walking around scot-free” to Tyler, who he knows is a murderer. As unprofessional letting a known murderer run around is, Sheriff Galpin is in clear denial about his son’s evil. He raised him to be good, so he doesn’t want to live in a world where is only son is not only killing people, but enjoying it.
Plus, I want to see more of Enid’s dynamic with her parents, especially with how her mother will react to the fact that her daughter finally transformed. This will result in some possible plots that could play out very well. And with her dad being quiet and understanding, while Enid’s mom is judgmental and pushy.
And the fact that Eugene has two mothers, that’s some representation we need.
And I’m sure that the Gates family’s dynamic is a dark parallel of the Addams family’s dynamic. While the Addams family is healthy dynamic after healthy dynamic, the Gates are toxic and hateful, even to each other.
Hope shes not reading the comments you've put ... she still has 3 episodes to go and you've just let the cat out of the bag 😳
@@debbiecooper298 Yeah
Love these episodes ugh can’t wait for the next one ❤
14:16 i'm sorry, that cut-- 💀
the sherif is always out of pocket with the comments 🤧😭
While the discussion of suicidality is appreciated, it's important from a narrative standpoint to also recognize the tropes at play with the coroner's death. One of the top red flags that a character is going to die is either being a rookie or "two days from retirement." This is because the rookie hasn't developed the skills yet to recognize an incoming threat for what it is, while the almost retiree has let his guard down early. Considering the nature of this show, it's only natural to distrust the idea that he was suicidal in the first place
great video as always
I love this series
Yay, made my day better!
What did you think of Wendsday telling her mother that she feels like she's in her shadow at Nevermore? I thought that scene was very powerful
Thank you for your content and I would like to ask a question that might have been addressed in the past. I love the fact that you analyze Wednesday as if she were a real person, but how do you factor in the fact that she is an OP Mary Sue? In one of your videos you saw one of her fight scenes you said the scene was terrible and a few minutes later you mentioned that the police officer couldn't believe she did all that by her own. According to that, If he had scene the fight scene, he would have even more reason to not believe her. What would you think if you find a person that seems to have OP capacities in life? Would you believe it to be true or what conclusions would you have? Thanks.
14:16 Courtney did NOT appreciate that joke 😭
I feel like the cuckoo clock was an intentional metaphor given the 'kooky' nature of the show.
My cis uncle was named Dana at birth, he changed his name to Dane because he didn't like "having a girls name" my family had no issue with him doing so. I'm trans, it's been pretty obvious all throughout growing up and those same people take issue with me changing my name. I'm really glad this show makes heavyhanded attempts to relate to queer people even if the characters aren't explicitly queer
ok before i forgot about this question in the start of the video: i'm a teenager and the only person that annoys me is my mom, but she does this ALWAYS. and she also expects me to behave as same as she did, which means working hard, planning every second and acting like a few years older person. and i want to be the opposite of this because i don't want to become like her (too strict for everyone).
I hope someone can relate (or that this makes sense)
hello, my mother was always protective, she spoke for us (my brothers and I), every time we went to the doctor and she is able to define our feelings when we couldn't, I liked being her center of attention, I liked that she ran to help me every time I had a problem, and when I grew up I did everything to get her attention, I bought her things, I told her everything, but she suffered when she didn't get a favorable response, my psychologist told me that she was always waiting for her to rescue me, Of course, it is easier when someone tells you what to do than to find out on your own.
Even though I grew up with my parents and we did a lot of family traditions and they are wonderful people, I seem to have taken more emulation from my grandparents
The pathologist suicide case is an other dark joke. In movies there are some thing, called redflags. If a character say any of it, will die. The pathologist told all of them. "I will retire on Friday." "I will take my wife to..." "I will change my scalpel to some cocktail." "Go, I will close the morgue alone". These are all redflag sentences. When I heard them, I know, he will die somehow. (The only redflag what I missed, is a picture, from his "newborn grandchild")
25:35 Thank you 🥲🫶🏻
I'm early. I love ur vids
That ending took a turn. It's wild how little we know about other people. Never in my life would I think a psychologist like yourself had gone through those dark times. It's so refreshing to see that no matter who we are, we all have had our struggles in life. We can all relate to each other in one way or another, and it's so important to help those people out when we can.
Overall I love my parents and have a great relationsship with them, but something I think I decided to do the opposite of them is how they handle their frustration with one another. Throughout my childhood there were some periods when they where "fighting" often, and they both had the attitude of wanting to have the last word. I always tried to calm them down, saying to both to stop. So now I'm very much non confrontational
My relationship with my parents has always been rocky at best.
Yes, I always observed them in my early years and now.
Some things I liked but mostly I just didn't like the things they did, how they acted with each other and with other people.
I do not copy them, I actually try my best not to be compared to them and try to distance myself from their actions and chronic bad decision making skills.
This is an amazing video. I actually have a great relationship with my mum and would consider it a compliment if people say I emulate her...but I do have to acknowledge I'm not a carbon copy and there are differences. And that's OK to. Her lesson and support have helped me so much with my boys. And the reson I follow her advice is because she doesn't force it on me.
All of your advice in this video is very helpful. Thankyiu :)
Hi there, Love your Wednesday series. I was wondering if you have heard of the Series "Lucifer"? In it there is a Series long Therapy sessions between Lucifer and Dr Linda. I imagine it is chalked full of bad therapy, but I think they still did it appropriately for a fictional setting. Anyway I think it would be great if you visited that series for reaction videos. It was a very well done show. So much that its original network was unable to kill it LOL
I definitely used my caregiver (whole family really) as a guide to learn what not to do. My family never felt like a family. Sure, I was generally taken care of but ultimately I never felt tuely loved, accepted, understood, nor like my opinion or dis/likes mattered. There was an idea of what I should be and they acted like that's all I was even if I was different. Depending on the circumstance, the difference was either chastised, ignored, or deliberately misunderstood. For instance, when I came out as not being of the same faith (pagan/spiritual instead of catholic), it was decided (despite my explaining my beliefs) that I didn't believe in anything and no longer needed presents for holidays, even my birthday. Not that I was gifted stuff I actually asked for anyway...only what they wanted me to have, even if it overall was more expensive than what I asked for. (First world problems, I know.) I even nearly died because it was believed I was being a hypochondriac. Luckily, I was taken to the ER in time... And despite the doctor stating that if I was brought in any later that it would have turned fatal and bedridden for months afterward as a result, they still refused to admit they were wrong... There's a whole lot more too, such as outing me to everyone after they accidenally heard my sibling and I discussing our sexualities because they're a huge gossip who just has to tell everyone EVERYTHING...even strangers at a drive through window... They were at least accepting of my sexuality but still a shitty thing to do to a kid without their consent. Not to mention the anger issues
SO ~ yeah. I tried to learn from the mistakes of those around me growing up.
Exactly what my mother did to me. She made me fulfill what she was not able to.
Please react to Attack on titan if you haven’t watched it already. It touches on so many moral complexities and I believe that anyone who studies or is interested in psychology will fall in love with it. The story is the best I’ve seen too
I have no connection with my birth mother I ended the relationship when I was a kid with my mother it was very toxic she was more i to looking for a new husband then raising her own daughter more dependent on a man then me along with when she finally had that she preferred having my half brothers then me and have not spoken to her in 15 years