ADHD and Intense Emotions - What the DSM doesn't tell you!
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- Опубликовано: 9 июн 2024
- Ever wonder why your emotions with ADHD are so darn intense?
Do your emotional amps go to '11'?
Ever been called "too intense", "too dramatic", "too sensitive"?
Yup, there's a reason that adults with ADHD feel emotions, criticism, and rejection so much more intensely, but it's not often talked about. In fact, it's one of the most common reasons adults with ADHD get frequently overlooked and misdiagnosed.
So grab a stress ball and let's talk about intense emotions, emotion dysregulation, and adult ADHD.
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Barkley, B. A. (2015) Emotion Dysregulation is a Core Component of ADHD. In R. A. Barkley (Eds.), Attention-deficit hyperactivity disorder: A handbook for diagnosis and treatment (4th ed.). New York, NY, US: Guilford Press.
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I just realized I always is use the "I'm anxious" as an excuse for my intense emotions.
Oh wow! Light bulb moment!
Shit... me too... 🤦♂️🤣
@@KiwikimNZ uhu
…YUP. To be fair, I do have comorbid anxiety. BUT the standard anxiety/depression drugs cranked those up SO DAMN MUCH to the point 1) I have NEVER felt that intense before in my life and 2) I literally couldn’t control them.
So…currently working on getting a psche eval to be formally diagnosed with adhd and (re)diagnosed with anxiety and depression. I’m also comorbid with what is most likely fibromialgia. BUT, since after discussing things with my therapist (since my brain refused to know what psychiatric drugs my old pcp had me try) and my current pcp (he could see what my rheumatologist wants me to try for fibromialgia which Also can treat depression + old pcp’s records don’t go back far enough) …we ended up deciding that generic-Lyrica (a mildly addictive and regulated drug) would be safer for me to try since Rheumo’s Suggested is just too close to what class my therapist thinks prolly set me off so bad (and I’m waiting on the psyche eval-hopefully my medicaid will cover gene labwork as well.)
Thank god for my state having GOOD medicaid, and finally having a therapist and pcp who actually listen to me
sameeeee
This makes so much sense. I avoid any/all hard conversions because I will just start bawling and nothing gets accomplished. I can’t listen to a sad song or watch a sad movie without crying like a baby. I’m 39 and just now learning why I am the way I am. Kind of sad to think I could have managed my life better if I knew this.
I relate with your comment very much.
I'm the same about hard conversations but I get angry over bawling. For the sad music and movies. My eyes start leaking but not full on crying but I have done that a few times if something affects me more.
I have not been diagnosed yet but the more and more I learn about myself and adhd. The stronger the urge is to go get diagnosed.
Thank you for sharing your comment.
Thank you for this video! I’m getting an evaluation done for the possibility of having adult ADHD. And I’m enjoying learning so much and finally getting some answers that make so much more sense for why I am, who I am!
Today I just felt really hurt and sad all day and I don’t know why. I get this sometimes where I feel like I’m really depressed for like a day or two before I begin to feel better again. I just know I was feeling a lot of emotional pain and hopelessness. I tried to cheer up but I just couldn’t. I didn’t want to do any of the things I would normally do and it was really hard to do anything at all.
Gosh, that happens to me too!
Actually experienced that this week, and finally got to the other side of it yesterday. I remember this happening to me in childhood, adolescence, and still happening now. I thought it was SAD, but it happens during my favorite seasons too. It's overwhelming and I feel I can't explain it because there's no "reason"...
Exactly the same symptoms with me. Gradual decline over past three years after a number of changes in my life, losing a friend, good neighbours moved out and drug using squatters moved in next door and the place I absolutely loved volunteering at closed down. My support system all wiped out, started isolating, now home an untidy mess which I procrastinate because I feel completely drained of all energy, get breathless and worn out very quickly. Some weeks are really bad, but occasionally I have a couple of good days in a row. All the joy and excitement of life has disappeared. I have been through this years ago, wasn't expecting it to return. Very grateful for being able to share and learn so much from others who understand the agonising suffering we sometimes experience and feel unable to actively help myself feel better 💖
The oversight in the DSM was a catastrophic mistake for a lot of people who were supposed to be helped by that book. The line excluding anything that can be explained away as a mood disorder, though, is what hit me the hardest.
Thanks my man - hits home in a real, good , clear way 👍 Even having been an “inpatient “ at McClean’s in Boston , the DSM -5 placed me in the ‘borderline’ diagnosis but AADHD , or lifetime ADHD seems more appropriate for what I experience - the intensity of “feelings” , emotions etc - . Despite what I feel , one is still the director of one’s own movie and responsible for your own reactivity and response to what wells up inside you . ✌️
This is amazing thanks so much! This needs way more views and acknowledgement. Story of my life being called too sensitive, and when I feel things I feel them so deeply even sadness and depression it’s so intense!
Me too
this is so helpful- I've been sharing it with my clients, they're so grateful- most of them had no idea about the emotional component of ADHD. Keep making more!
Thanks a bunch, especially for the self-disclosure and the dyslexathymia tidbit. Still new to reframing "myself" and the natural ways I function. Looking forward to learning more!
Hunter Blanton Thank you for watching and subscribing!! Coming to terms with and learning a new ‘story’ about how our brains work (instead of us just seeing ourselves as ‘broken’ or ‘failures’) can be really tough work. I’m hard at work scripting the next video and more are to come, but what would you really look forward to learning more about??
Omg bawling… I cannot put my emotions into the correct words and get frustrated. I love you! Thank you
Already diagnosed with ADHD 20 years ago but since being front row at the Vegas mass shooting I have been a jumble mess when I try to engage emotionally with someone.. whether sad, mad, happy… it seems I can’t express using correct wording
My emotions are messy lol. Now I know why people avoid me at work!
I paused the video when you said the little bit around emotional literacy because I needed a minute to basically catch my breath. I remember trying to communicate to an ex years ago that I genuinely don't know what words go with what feelings. Had no idea at the time that I had ADHD, nor that it was even associated with the condition. Keep up the psychoeducational content! You're making people like me feel more sane :)
Often I don't know what emotion I am feeling or why I'm feeling it.
Mine dont last long but they are very intense while its happening.
My husband loses patience when I say I’m anxious, so I don’t say it anymore. In fact, my sister and others in my family don’t understand and just think I should stop worrying and having anxiety or depression, so I try to not show it in front of them. It’s been getting worse, and I’ve only recently wondered if I may have ADHD.
Just diagnosed at age 40 emotional regulation challenges and executive function challenges are the two most common issues I have to deal with
My emotions are so high when i listen to sad songs i feel like melting down with love & i don't know who i love then intensity of the music 🎶 feel like crying but I do hold them to feel embarrassed infront of everybody
Super helpful. Thanks, Dr. DeFife!
The fuck i'm learning this now?! I'm 32 and i've always had a hard time using the right words to express my emotions. It's been so bad i sometimes thought i maybe don't have other emotions but anger, sadness and excitement. Just knowing this is helpful!
I’m 40 I have both Aspergers and ADHD Inattentive and expressing emotions is hard
I’m 41 diagnosed at 40 it’s like being reborn
How about being 70 before getting a clue??
Can you guys explain this a little more? What if you're, for instance, really in love with someone? Are you able to express it? Or do you not know how to say things like, "you're perfect for me," or "I love you for xxx reasons."
I am struggling because my ADHD partner is now withholding from saying he loves me back, unless it's on his terms and his timing. He's rarely ever called me things like "beautiful" or use words that associate with attractiveness. He does not say things that give me much emotion and is pretty dry. But he loves when I blow up his ego. Could this be an adhd thing or is it possible that I just love him more than he loves me? He also rarely makes time to see me now that he has a new roommate and is hyper focused on completing tasks around his house that he's not done in years. I could really use some advice. I feel very lonely and unloved.
I always felt very strong emotions and it wasn't until recently where I started to piece together that I think I experience emotions more strongly than others. I'm not officially diagnosed yet but I have strong suspicions that I have ADHD.
THANK FOR YOUR EXPLANATION,
I THINK,
LIVING WITH BPD IS ONE OF THE MOST PAINFUL.
DESPERATE ATTEMPTS TO ESCAPE FROM EMOTIONAL PAIN.
A POSITIVE NEW,
'POSITIVE,LONG-TERM OUTCOMES ARE POSSIBLE FOR PEOPLE WITH BPD WHO COMMIT TO A COMPREHENSIVE TREATMENT PLAN,
NB"'NO ONE WOULD FEEL EMBARASSED ABOUT SEEKING HELP FOR SOMEONE IF THEY BROKE THEIR ARM-AND WE REALLY SHOULD BE EQUALLY READY TO SUPPORT SOMEONE COPING WITH EMOTIONAL DIFFICULTIES"
Me growing up telling everyone "I DON'T KNOW WHAT I'M FEELING, I JUST FEEL BAD!" was my everyday
My emotional reaction is my biggest fear in any new situation.
Do you guys sometimes feel frozen? Like, you know what you're supposed to do, but you can't even move your body that much?
Paralyzed and overwhelmed before you start lol. Yeah
My cat ate some of my food and I literally shat myself, could that be ADHD
tbh i got here cuz i just wondered why everything makes me wanna cry, from my football team doing well to thinking aw my dog is so cute to everyone hates me
I always get myself into trouble with adhd, did it today when I felt left out and kinda turned it into something which hurt someone I care about
Found u from tik tik keep the content up
Or maybe it’s CPTSD?
Thank you for your insight.😎👌🇺🇲
Thankyou
Am having my 4th assessment appt in a few days.
I know I have generalised anxiety and apparently adjustment disorder with depressed moods, and I think they all pull into eachother and make the comorbidities worse.
Just remember this hedgehog, and realize that your life is better. ruclips.net/video/s5ZwjYlGz2s/видео.html All of us with ADHD are hedgehogs. We all curl up into a ball when forced into a conflict. Perhaps a hedgehog is the ADHD spirit animal.
My “emotional superpower” is uncontrolled crying at work, hbu?
My emotional superpower is exhausting myself from suppressing the 2 billion impulses I have.
Mine is being a rules lawyer
i feel like i'm losing my emotional depth as the years go by, is there anyone else that feel this way?
How do we know that it's intense emotion not actual anxiety. I have been diagnosed with ADHD. I am always anxious but never showed any intense emotions or hyperactivity/ impulsivity.
anybody in their early thirties screaming holy crap baskets.
I'm 39 and over here like 👀
36 just diagnosed
dx at age of 29
Can it make us express an emotion in a less expressive way?
Wow...
I'm missing what kind of strategies there are...?
A type of therapy called "emotion regulation" helps you learn to correctly identify emotions of others and your self, to think about those emotions, formulate responses using knowledge of experience and consequences, and make decisions about how you responsd.
This requires complex processing and integration of many brain areas, which the ADHD brain struggles with (definitive functional features). Trauma and PTSD can look like ADHD, so please make sure you read about both and have some ability to understand and discuss with potential therapists as you may consult and interview them. Often ppl with ADHD do actually have PTSD due to a lifetime of adverse life experiences in many different contexts. People who have ADHD are more prone to developing PTSD due to the emotional dysregulation and extremes in emotions, difficulty processing their extreme emotions and rationally framing experience, ruminative and perseverating thinking about the situations "causing" those feelings, and impaired social cognition in which they mis-read facial expressions, non verbal cues, and other peoples emotions and thoughts.
Too sensative😞🙋♀️
The emotions were so intense that you glitched.
Not to be insensitive but…I’ve been having a hell of an ADHD bad day and 2:54 was absolutely bonkers hilarious to me. I like this dude but this video is horrible
What? You are saying that this video is horrible because of that single tiny mistake?
@@lila8701 it's an amalgamation of things about it