In the old days couples married young and grew together as they shared life's journey. Nowadays they want the finished product without any shared experiences.
@@pikaboo623 I believe single years should be teenagers years as those years are high school & college years. 20s & up are for relationships. You learn yourself through career/jobs, hobbies travel. Multiple relationships don’t help in long run as they stagnate life for men & women making it harder to stay in one relationship.
I totally enjoy taking care of a loving man who reciprocates. It makes me want to love him more, and pay attention to his needs, because he's there for me. Teamwork. Got each other's back, and feeling the love. Thank you for this message. #Love Don't fight
Girl where are you? I'd love to cross whatever hurdles to get a person like you. (That too a loving life partner) I guess you're in a relationship, my bad luck. But I will find someone with this mindset, no matter how long it takes, also I'll stay virgin until I find the one(my personal choice). Edit: (Weird wish : I wanna cook & serve her food at least three times a week forever😅)
You have the best advice!! You are straight to the point and don't repeat and say what every dating coach says. Thank you for all your hard work and dedication!!! ^__^
He his friend first. With or without sex men don’t factor sex into having a relationship. If your patient and genuinely his friend, pairing that with not being a crazy psycho 9 times out of 10 he’s gonna catch feelings for ya.
I think it would cause you to be more of a challenge and for him to travel the distance because your not so close by that he doesn’t have to make an effort to see you
cartrice2010 Texting is easier & allow us to do other shit in-between texts... Basically, cuz we don't feel like talking at times & or about nothing significant
Sexist and wrong. Guys talk shit as well. Please, guys are lazy lazy. It's women doing the work. Women HAVE FAR FAR FAR more to do then you! Women have to work twice as hard to be thought of as half as good.
I have a guy friend that I just re united with after many years and our first conversation was through text & I had asked if we can talk on phone & he said try later . Well when I saw him yesterday. Now I know why ! Not only did he tell me he doesn’t like talking on the phone but I saw for myself that he constantly talks (which is fine ) but it’s hard to make out a lot of words he says because he talks fast & kinda mumbles . So texting is so much easier to communicate
You're the best 💓 always get straight to the point. My new friend 😊 always listen to me and ask me more questions . some time he says oh that's why you got mad at me We must always talk .🤔
He likes me and he's a good person but why does he always find imperfections in my face and personality? Doesn't unconditional love mean accepting a person for who they are?
How do I get a guy to see past my body? I have never been in a serious relationship with substance, my body is always the topic and how beautiful I am. I break it off always bc I know that it's not real. I need help, I just want something real.
It’s going to start with physical attraction, always. I don’t think you can get around that. Make him get to know you before getting physical. If he disappears on you, you know he only wanted sex or got to know you and decided y’all weren’t a good fit. In that case no sex + bad fit = no need to hang around any longer or friend zone.
Tatenda Madondo Yes !! Of course, he wants to show you off to all his buddies and family. At least that's what I'd do if I really wanted to be with her
I think she may like the drama of getting on, getting off again. She still wants you to notice her or else she is testing you to see how far will you go as to quit from her easily even though she was the one breaking up. She wants to see you fight back for her. These types of girls are drama and attention seekers usually.
She was my girlfriend for a year and a half, and in that time she was definitely not that type of girl. She said she wants to speak to me regularly but she just can't make time for a relationship at the moment. She said if there's anyone she could be in a relationship with at the moment, it would be me. Not sure how much of that is BS, but thanks for your reply anyway :)
Me being a girl, it's very strange that she suddenly lost interest.. because believe me, if she even says you would be the one she'd choose to be with in a relationship, why suddenly not be avaliable for it or for the both of you? Work or school excuses are legit.. but even so, people always make an effort to be together when they're really in love, even if it's just a few hours a week, trust me. But hey, only you both know each other best and I don't want to be giving any kind of wrong or unnwanted advice here. :) But you question really caught my eye because I've been there before too and I know how girls normally are too. Keep texting her back, or not.. Do what makes you most comfortable with yourself i guess :)
Melissa Ferreira This is a good reply, thanks. I need some time to think about how I'm going to approach this logically, since I'm obviously still a bit flustered by it all at this stage. You do speak a lot of sense though and I appreciate you taking the time to write that out for me.
what if I ask you the same thing why he texting me and send confused messages i really love you, i think difference affected me then no emails for two days then tell me text me on .. maybe she still wants to be together
I have a question. How do I know if he likes me or just wants to be friends? We are in a unique situation so it’s harder to tell. We met last June at a bus stop. He told me he was visiting from Mexico where he lives. We sat and talked for two hours. It was the longest conversation he had ever had in English. He was leaving in 2 days. We met up the next day and spent the entire day together. He kissed me before he left. The day he left he sent me a message on Instagram. To this day we still message each other EVERY SINGLE DAY. We’re both single but We’ve never discussed relationship stuff tho. Does he only see me as a friend?
My friend met a guy from India on line . He convinced her that he really liked her but he also convinced her to show herself to him. She fell for him hard & one day left to fly to India to meet up with him . She never made it and was stuck in the airport for couple weeks . He never went there . And all along he was married with a family
What dose it mean when a close guy friend suddenly starts becoming sexual towards you? (Note we had a thing for each other not like friends with benefits but a romantic interest for one another. Dose he just want sex or an actual relationship?
i haven't seen my girl bestfriend for 2 years now since i moved to canada but im coming back to my old country and i have been inlove with her what should i do when i get back?
I have a guy that I date off and on . We known each other for more than a year . He's tells me he can see his self with me but just afraid that once he shows me the real feelings that I would just walk all over him.now it's like we brake up every 4months when I feel like we not going no where so I just leave him and block his number and then he hits me up on social media to tell me he miss me and all that crap. But one thing I must say is when we together like hanging out , he's always up my ass gives me what I want when I want it . But I just don't see why we not officially together? What should I do?
My gf is always bashing her ex on social media what does that mean??? Do she still likes him? Do I need to let her go? Its been a year since they dated and she still talk smack about him??
OK became with a guy became best friends after 6mths took it to a dating relationship after 6 mths together. Him swearing for a year that he was so over his ex. We got together after dating 6mths and slept together. One week later HIS SISTER invites the EX to Family Christmas she tells him she is sorry she cut off communication with him. He now says that he needs to process things. I love 140 miles away the ex less than 40. HE still text and calls but not as much as he did once did. AM I the side chick or do you think he could be really confused?
cynthia haskin He should have only gone into detail once about the relationship. If you kept asking him questions after that, then that's your fault. But if he has brought her up in detail more than once, he clearly is confused now that he saw her again. I would question him at this point.
Omg, so that means that this guy is into me? 😳😭😭, He's too old for me, I am too young 😭😭, I am 20 and he's 38 😭😭😭😭😭😭. He keeps saying age is just a number. I honestly don't know what to do.
I have been inlove with my bestfriend and i want to tell her the truth but im afraid it might ruin our relationship as bestfriends and it might get akward what should i do?
I know of a relationship except who can help you bring your broken relationship within 48hrs he is from Texas and he help me and my lover get back after many years of separation
I wish my bf would spend time with me without him taking it out eventually and yanking on it. I don't want to have sex all the time. We never do anything else, and I really hate it. He asks nothing about me, he isn't interested in stories about my life...he will just cut me off and change the subject. He has two little girls I am forbidden to meet. It has been two years and I am getting pretty tired of it.
Doesn't matter what others think. What do you personally think of this girl? If you truly love and care about her, you will accept her how she is for everything that is unique about her. If not, then move on to someone else because this girl deserves someone who values her.
+spaciousgalaqxy that's a good point. But she's the love of my life and your correct, it doesn't matter what other people think. She's just a special girl and I love her for that. ❤
Hi, i like a guy and he is public figure i mean a top model in my country. Every body knows he never have any scandal. I follow him on Facebook. He himself give importance to his followers and fan and reply to them its the same account in which he has his friends and family means he is open person. He many times reply to my private messages as well. I am following him for two years. I have never met him i want to keep my value and don't like his others fans. Two months before i added him on snap chat and now a week ago he added me back. It was a happy moment and i just sent him thanks messages but now he is not viewing my snap chat story. I want to move forward and want to become his friend. How it could be possible
how would you feel if your 17 year old daughter is talking to a 21 year old guy note that your daughter is very mature and has given him ground rules on what she stands for when waiting for marriage to have sex and the guy is okay with that and looks at her different and likes her innocence he also talks about marriage with her and hes always making future plans and wanting to take care of her is that weird and how would u react if she were to bring him home for you to meet
HeyItsShyy Sounds like you're describing your situation Lol. If 16 isn't the legal age of consent in your location, instead of 18, then anything sexual would get him a charge anyway. The age gap isn't too big, & that situation is always better than a 17yr old messing with guys her age, going from boy to boy....I didn't know it at first, but I was talking to 17 yr old a couple years ago. I was 21 at the time. Thought she was 18, but she was cool. Only reason we stopped contact was due to her childish behavior. Was mad at me, & wouldn't tell me the issue
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In the old days couples married young and grew together as they shared life's journey. Nowadays they want the finished product without any shared experiences.
wow that's true
but I also believe we need to enjoy our life being single before committing for a lifetime.
@@pikaboo623 I believe single years should be teenagers years as those years are high school & college years. 20s & up are for relationships. You learn yourself through career/jobs, hobbies travel. Multiple relationships don’t help in long run as they stagnate life for men & women making it harder to stay in one relationship.
@@RonLennard1020 I agree with you, I realized this after making many mistakes.
Arranged marriage was the best. All this dating is stupid.
I love how u get right to the point...no ads or gimmicks...thxz!!!👏👏👏
The patience thing is so true ☀️
I totally enjoy taking care of a loving man who reciprocates. It makes me want to love him more, and pay attention to his needs, because he's there for me. Teamwork. Got each other's back, and feeling the love. Thank you for this message. #Love Don't fight
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Girl where are you? I'd love to cross whatever hurdles to get a person like you. (That too a loving life partner) I guess you're in a relationship, my bad luck. But I will find someone with this mindset, no matter how long it takes, also I'll stay virgin until I find the one(my personal choice).
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(Weird wish : I wanna cook & serve her food at least three times a week forever😅)
right it's not always touchy and feely it's just chill. to the point you would have to come on to him. just being interacting in a conversation
You are so gentlemanly and wise. I appreciate your viewpoints and wisdom. I am so grateful for your videos. Thank you! :-)
You have the best advice!! You are straight to the point and don't repeat and say what every dating coach says. Thank you for all your hard work and dedication!!! ^__^
Powerful testimony bruh. I subscribed as a single man looking for my queen. Im patient
He didnt want me only for pump and dump and i still can’t get over it after 2 years. No one else makes me feel the same way.
It's so hard finding a great guy : (
Mustang Facebook be patient he will come
Mustang Facebook it's not only you. It's a problem for all the woman in the world
Mustang Facebook its all im Gods timing have patience
If your great feel it believe it the universe will give the energy you give off
preach
Excatly, it’s like if you’re inspiring to him somehow. He completely stops talking to any other girls too. And you’ll just know.
That is so true I had a man who did that and I was so honored 😊
I actually would like to know how did you get into being a relationship expert, i highly respect your work and what you created. :)
How can you get a guy to be exclusive to you?
Congratulations gloriaa0214! Your question got the most likes. Watch for a video response to your question in my next video.
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He his friend first. With or without sex men don’t factor sex into having a relationship. If your patient and genuinely his friend, pairing that with not being a crazy psycho 9 times out of 10 he’s gonna catch feelings for ya.
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Why would a guy stay in a relationship with his GF even though he doesn’t love her anymore?
because of what she does for him and haven't found his next yet.
Jen nifer regular sex
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She allows it
The ice cream was so sweet and cute.
This is such a good advice it took me 48 years to figure it out lol
I like you vlogs. They are concise and to the point. But highly informative. I hope you have a good woman because you deserve it!!
the volumes a little low but still valuable information so thank you
Does distance make the heart grow fonder or will that make him lose interest?
Fonder depending on the guy
Depends
I think it would cause you to be more of a challenge and for him to travel the distance because your not so close by that he doesn’t have to make an effort to see you
Thank you for a longer video most are too short
This helps me a lot.
Your right about the patience!.. i can relate
Why do men prefer to text instead of talk on the phone?
cartrice2010
Texting is easier & allow us to do other shit in-between texts... Basically, cuz we don't feel like talking at times & or about nothing significant
Sexist and wrong. Guys talk shit as well. Please, guys are lazy lazy. It's women doing the work. Women HAVE FAR FAR FAR more to do then you! Women have to work twice as hard to be thought of as half as good.
Because you allow that a man is like a child and will push you to see what he can get away with
cartrice2010 it’s easier to text than to call 😁
I have a guy friend that I just re united with after many years and our first conversation was through text & I had asked if we can talk on phone & he said try later . Well when I saw him yesterday. Now I know why ! Not only did he tell me he doesn’t like talking on the phone but I saw for myself that he constantly talks (which is fine ) but it’s hard to make out a lot of words he says because he talks fast & kinda mumbles . So texting is so much easier to communicate
How much space does a guy want?
gloriaa0214 Weekends
He was shocked when i told him I haven't kissed anyone before? (I'm in high school)
nothing to be shocked. me and my crush are in 3rd year university and still havent kissed anyone before. don't feel pressured to do it
Lovely channel. Very explanatory.
I will find that guy this year. Fact indeed
You're the best 💓 always get straight to the point. My new friend 😊 always listen to me and ask me more questions . some time he says oh that's why you got mad at me
We must always talk .🤔
He likes me and he's a good person but why does he always find imperfections in my face and personality?
Doesn't unconditional love mean accepting a person for who they are?
How do I get a guy to see past my body? I have never been in a serious relationship with substance, my body is always the topic and how beautiful I am. I break it off always bc I know that it's not real. I need help, I just want something real.
Don't worry 🤗
Me too
It’s going to start with physical attraction, always. I don’t think you can get around that. Make him get to know you before getting physical. If he disappears on you, you know he only wanted sex or got to know you and decided y’all weren’t a good fit. In that case no sex + bad fit = no need to hang around any longer or friend zone.
Now i want ice cream, and I'm a rusty dater.
What does it mean when a guy stares at you? In a loving way
THANK YOU FOR ANSWERING MY QUESTION I apperiacte it :)))
great vid. it helped me alot. I always wanted to know that
Thank you so much!
You are welcome MissFaithyBSweet.
2:02 perfect description
How do u know if a guy like u, long distance
that was. helpfull thanku Jesus loves u
If he introduces you to all of his friends as his girlfriend, does that mean he's serious about you?
I would be proud to show my girlfriend to my friends they always ask me
Tatenda Madondo if a guy introduces you to his friends or family It probably does mean he wants to get serious
Tatenda Madondo Yes !! Of course, he wants to show you off to all his buddies and family. At least that's what I'd do if I really wanted to be with her
Duh
Tatenda Madondo nope
I found someone but he’s in a complicated situation and it hurts but I have to do what’s best for me
Why is she still texting me after she broke up with me?
I think she may like the drama of getting on, getting off again. She still wants you to notice her or else she is testing you to see how far will you go as to quit from her easily even though she was the one breaking up. She wants to see you fight back for her. These types of girls are drama and attention seekers usually.
She was my girlfriend for a year and a half, and in that time she was definitely not that type of girl. She said she wants to speak to me regularly but she just can't make time for a relationship at the moment. She said if there's anyone she could be in a relationship with at the moment, it would be me. Not sure how much of that is BS, but thanks for your reply anyway :)
Me being a girl, it's very strange that she suddenly lost interest.. because believe me, if she even says you would be the one she'd choose to be with in a relationship, why suddenly not be avaliable for it or for the both of you?
Work or school excuses are legit.. but even so, people always make an effort to be together when they're really in love, even if it's just a few hours a week, trust me. But hey, only you both know each other best and I don't want to be giving any kind of wrong or unnwanted advice here. :) But you question really caught my eye because I've been there before too and I know how girls normally are too. Keep texting her back, or not.. Do what makes you most comfortable with yourself i guess :)
Melissa Ferreira This is a good reply, thanks. I need some time to think about how I'm going to approach this logically, since I'm obviously still a bit flustered by it all at this stage. You do speak a lot of sense though and I appreciate you taking the time to write that out for me.
what if I ask you the same thing why he texting me and send confused messages i really love you, i think difference affected me then no emails for two days then tell me text me on .. maybe she still wants to be together
I have a question. How do I know if he likes me or just wants to be friends? We are in a unique situation so it’s harder to tell.
We met last June at a bus stop. He told me he was visiting from Mexico where he lives. We sat and talked for two hours. It was the longest conversation he had ever had in English. He was leaving in 2 days. We met up the next day and spent the entire day together. He kissed me before he left. The day he left he sent me a message on Instagram. To this day we still message each other EVERY SINGLE DAY. We’re both single but We’ve never discussed relationship stuff tho. Does he only see me as a friend?
My friend met a guy from India on line . He convinced her that he really liked her but he also convinced her to show herself to him. She fell for him hard & one day left to fly to India to meet up with him . She never made it and was stuck in the airport for couple weeks . He never went there . And all along he was married with a family
Please will you tell me Is wrong or right to try to win somebody over for me myself if they not engaged though married..Thanks
What dose it mean when a close guy friend suddenly starts becoming sexual towards you? (Note we had a thing for each other not like friends with benefits but a romantic interest for one another. Dose he just want sex or an actual relationship?
i haven't seen my girl bestfriend for 2 years now since i moved to canada but im coming back to my old country and i have been inlove with her what should i do when i get back?
Thanks a lot it helps me with your nice note!!?!
Very good 👏👏👏
He does more the second aspect of the little details :)
I have a guy that I date off and on . We known each other for more than a year . He's tells me he can see his self with me but just afraid that once he shows me the real feelings that I would just walk all over him.now it's like we brake up every 4months when I feel like we not going no where so I just leave him and block his number and then he hits me up on social media to tell me he miss me and all that crap. But one thing I must say is when we together like hanging out , he's always up my ass gives me what I want when I want it . But I just don't see why we not officially together? What should I do?
Unblock his number and start dating him again? Talk to him fr and allow him to vent to you and you vent to him.
Patricia Boston he told you what's up. Listen.
My gf is always bashing her ex on social media what does that mean??? Do she still likes him? Do I need to let her go? Its been a year since they dated and she still talk smack about him??
Help Me she isn't over him, and NOT THAT INTO YOU. If she was, she wouldn't care about her ex.
Help Me
Hope you broke up with her Lol
Dutch B.L.D why you say that??
Help Me
Cuz she still has some emotional attachment to him
Dutch B.L.D so what would you do if you was in the same situation??
he sometimes looks at me but he says he does not care about me and he broke up with me what does this mean and what should I do?
and he also cheated on me he is now my ex
That Mysterious Girl Coach all I can say is don't pay him any attention
JerryTheMVP ok. I have been doing that already.
What if he doesn’t want anything except keeps borrowing coffee in the morning cause we’re neighbors? >.> I also might be carrying his child 👶
how do you know your past relationship still like you even if without communication eAch other..
What if your crush's friend points at you?
OK became with a guy became best friends after 6mths took it to a dating relationship after 6 mths together. Him swearing for a year that he was so over his ex. We got together after dating 6mths and slept together. One week later HIS SISTER invites the EX to Family Christmas she tells him she is sorry she cut off communication with him. He now says that he needs to process things. I love 140 miles away the ex less than 40. HE still text and calls but not as much as he did once did. AM I the side chick or do you think he could be really confused?
cynthia haskin He should have only gone into detail once about the relationship. If you kept asking him questions after that, then that's your fault. But if he has brought her up in detail more than once, he clearly is confused now that he saw her again. I would question him at this point.
Break up or you will continue to make excuses for him and continue to have a broken heart ❤️🩹
Would a guy get into a long distance relationship just for sex?
MzBrazilian87 yes
100% on point
Military guys make it more difficult to know. Does these apply to them bc they don't smile like others!
How To Tell My Mom I Have A Crush On Someone?
if the guy ses he dosent like you and cudels with you wat do it mean
Sidney Visser he may just being nice...and not really into you physically, bad body but u have a nice face
He doesn’t knows what he wants and so it’s safer to say what he says but he’s showing you what he really means
i've been wondering about the body language thing...ty for separating the real from the genuine.
Good evening, please i would pike to private chat the owner of this channel/or the person in the video.
What does it mean when a guy asks you to be his girlfriend on the second date?
Did you say yes ?
@@passadonut I said no
Two thumbs up!
Thank you
Omg, so that means that this guy is into me? 😳😭😭, He's too old for me, I am too young 😭😭, I am 20 and he's 38 😭😭😭😭😭😭. He keeps saying age is just a number. I honestly don't know what to do.
Walk away from such creeps, please!
@@xrc7445 I blocked him lol 😂
@@aliboo1012
Good for you!
@@aliboo1012 Girl🙄🤣
It's fine x
I have been inlove with my bestfriend and i want to tell her the truth but im afraid it might ruin our relationship as bestfriends and it might get akward what should i do?
Roasted do it afraid
What’s the truth ?
Can someone tell me what it means when a guy asks if you trust him?
I know of a relationship except who can help you bring your broken relationship within 48hrs he is from Texas and he help me and my lover get back after many years of separation
Text him would explain how it works +1 2 0 4 8 0 8 2 2 3 4..!!!!!!!!
He is indeed problem a problem solve
@@hajaraibrahim4999 not interested
@@musicgirl999 You are welcome
I wish my bf would spend time with me without him taking it out eventually and yanking on it. I don't want to have sex all the time. We never do anything else, and I really hate it. He asks nothing about me, he isn't interested in stories about my life...he will just cut me off and change the subject. He has two little girls I am forbidden to meet. It has been two years and I am getting pretty tired of it.
Are u still with him hes not treating you right
Girl leave him.
Sorry he’s only using you . I know how you feel and it’s very painful
why isn't that every time we msg each, he either begins sentences with lol or ends it with lol?
He's happy
Yea.. it cause he's very happy.
To keep it lighthearted
What dose it mean when a close guy friend suddenly starts acting sexual towards you?m
Learn the old fashioned word. “ NO”
thankkkk you
I still wish I knew what the deal was with this I like.I know there's more to his story than what he was telling me.
Was with one of those & finally broke up with the narcissist
how do i convince my girlfriends parents that i really love her and dont just want sex?
Marry her
Facts
If I'm dating this girl and no one else likes her because she's different from other girls (shes emo)... should I break up with her?
Doesn't matter what others think. What do you personally think of this girl? If you truly love and care about her, you will accept her how she is for everything that is unique about her. If not, then move on to someone else because this girl deserves someone who values her.
+spaciousgalaqxy that's a good point. But she's the love of my life and your correct, it doesn't matter what other people think. She's just a special girl and I love her for that. ❤
theangelofheaven i its good to have a girl that not everyone wants that way everyone one won't try to win her heart over
Absolutely not.....be ur own person...
People dont matter...she does...be a man...it doesnt matter what anyone thinks
What’s EMO?
It’s been two months I’m still not ready to have sex bc I’m a overthinking
And why should you ?
You need a mic🎙🔊
Hi, i like a guy and he is public figure i mean a top model in my country. Every body knows he never have any scandal. I follow him on Facebook. He himself give importance to his followers and fan and reply to them its the same account in which he has his friends and family means he is open person. He many times reply to my private messages as well. I am following him for two years. I have never met him i want to keep my value and don't like his others fans. Two months before i added him on snap chat and now a week ago he added me back. It was a happy moment and i just sent him thanks messages but now he is not viewing my snap chat story. I want to move forward and want to become his friend. How it could be possible
Yeah my boyfriend doesn't just want sex he love's me! ❤
We've done it once but he didn't try anything (im kind of the one who started it haha)
If he really loves you then he will make a full commitment and marry you
Bad guys do this too
how would you feel if your 17 year old daughter is talking to a 21 year old guy note that your daughter is very mature and has given him ground rules on what she stands for when waiting for marriage to have sex and the guy is okay with that and looks at her different and likes her innocence he also talks about marriage with her and hes always making future plans and wanting to take care of her is that weird and how would u react if she were to bring him home for you to meet
HeyItsShyy
Sounds like you're describing your situation Lol. If 16 isn't the legal age of consent in your location, instead of 18, then anything sexual would get him a charge anyway. The age gap isn't too big, & that situation is always better than a 17yr old messing with guys her age, going from boy to boy....I didn't know it at first, but I was talking to 17 yr old a couple years ago. I was 21 at the time. Thought she was 18, but she was cool. Only reason we stopped contact was due to her childish behavior. Was mad at me, & wouldn't tell me the issue
He’s only 4 years older .
ok
this guy calls me everyday please help.
He likes u
My darn husband only wanted me for sex lol
Then you just think hes a friend 🤣😭
Hes telling he wants a baby with you(girl)
Why does a guy like to wrestle with me?
Hj
Hooah
No... I don't want any relationship with anyone from my past or exs or flings ... I'm going to throw up now just the thought of it !!!