Jonathan, but if suppose there is dysfunctionality where the guy is only sharing about his problems and not being inquisitive about you and your problems...what can I say to him? Any ideas on that? Because I will like to point that out and then move on if he continues his pattern.
Agreed finding an enlightened and a stable guy without alot of baggage that knows how to have a healthy relationship is like finding a needle in a haystack!
But but…..Sherry, the older any of us get, the more baggage we ALL have! Not sure how one can expect someone with no baggage if we’re carrying around our own. I really believe that it’s how we carry it that matters. 💋
@@suzannedawson4120 Yes. I love the way you put that. I have a lot of baggage, myself. However, I've processed as much as possible, forgiven self and others as well as I can, I've done and am still working on personal development and my own communication and emotional maturity. I live in the present with hope for the future. For anyone who's feeling hopeless about finding a partner, I'd suggest taking a breather, spending that time reading some of the books Jonathon recommends, looking within, and focusing on one's own personal development. It's possible to be content with oneself. It might be our greatest achievement, to learn how to love ourselves and to be content alone. When we do, we're at peace and maybe even happy. At that point, I believe we're in the best position to find a partner who's like minded.
Or they just say “good morning “ and that’s it for a day lol. Most guys actually are honest about what they want. Or they hint you. We are just in denial mode many times
[4:23] changes in depth of conversation / withdrawal [6:20] emotional one-sided conversations [7:30] noninviting to personal life / no long periods spent together [9:13] long response time [10:30] no progression in levels of commitment
Great Summary!! I was dating a guy a few years ago and he was in my car, along for the ride to get a minor check up on my car. On the way out, I said..oh hey one of my houses that I rent out is right down the road; would you like to drive by and see it? He said "no". I did not sleep with him ever and only went out with him a few times afterwards. That was a Huge Red Flag to me that he really didn't want to know more about me, or share in my happiness or achievements. My college diplomas are in my bookcase (not open just closed), and he pulled them out and I could actually see a look of scorn or disappointment or I do not know what when he saw my Master's Degree in Science. I could actually see his shoulders deflate. That was after he had perused my two bachelor's degrees. Maybe it was envy or jealousy I'm not sure but I WAS Sure he was not the guy for me. I need a partner to be happy for my success and achievements, not competitive or resentful.
Men do not care about your money. We only care if you are good mother material. Your money means nothing to us. If a guy is interested in your financial position . Kick him to the curb.
@@drmachinewerke1 Well, that's confusing. I often hear guys say they don't want a female gold-digger, and you say guys don't care about my financial position. Someone has to care about finances and paying the bills. Ideally, it would be some sort of balance, and certainly couldn't be 50/50 in all cases. While I am nurturing/caring, and trim, fit, and put-together for my age, I'm 54 ....so I suppose my "grandma potential" would be important to the guy I'm seeing? He's 58 and I am SURE that he doesn't want any more kids/ he already has three adult children ~
He exhibited all 5 from the beginning. Unfortunately, due to my inexperience in dating, it took me 6 months to see it, plus I was happy to stay in for the sex too in the short term. When I wanted more, he cut me out.
When my first fiance and I broke it off, I was beside myself (literally)...My parish priest said, "you are crying today, of course, your heart feels broken...however, although you cannot see yourself in a better space in the future right now, you will be glad you didn't walk down the aisle thinking the piece of paper will change him...fact is, you would be more heartbroken when you are deeper in time, realizing that he didn't even want to date you, so how can he be in a marriage commitment, where the "date" is day after day. 25 years later, (and almost all of that time in between), no regrets and he was absolutely correct...
Yeah. All true. Run! It’s very rare to encounter the mature, enlightened man. Once I meet him (and I will! recognize him as I’ve done the work that Jonathon speaks about) I will never let him go. Engage with this type of guy that Jonathon speaks about, you WILL get burned.
Maybe... often when people speak in third person, means it's not necessarily personal to them and they don't have to own the topic. Like they are observing from the outside and reporting on someone else. BIG difference between saying "Mike has a new girlfriend" (a report about someone else) vs. "I have a new girlfriend". Latter commits the person to behave accordingly. When you are declaring something important to you and feel an emotional connection to it, you are feeling like you want to share it with the world. If a person won a million dollars, she would be much more inclined to announce "I won a million dollars!!" than to say "Susie won a million dollars". When someone is excited about you, they want to show you off, and men want to announce ownership... AS themselves, not as a representative image. So many small distinctions filled with information on where a person is really coming from.
Jonathan it’s so true! I’ve been thru that. Thanks Jonathan u are like an angels every video u did is so appropriate to this generation n time we live in. God bless Jonathan 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
Man, I am so bummed I missed this. 😞 Watched it and it has helped me out much I do not want casual I want the deep connection, all of it, the friends first, learn about eachother,date heavily, and the whole long term monogamous relationship Friends, family and ultimately marriage. Ultimately I want to be someone's first last 💋
YES! 🎉 YES! 🎉YES! 🎉 Getting addicted to these videos 💯👌 My standards for dating may as well be that of a 16 year old and NOT a 36 year old (I've barely dated through all these years). Still firmly in touch with the innocence and purity of my heart and mind. Possibly I need this info more than most, as to stay better calibrated to reality. Starting to think what is it going to take to eventually date some day. Have a feeling that's not going to be for some time yet (I still have stuff to get past and through). At least I know what the best books are to make use of. Thinking, I need to take this knowledge on board, too. I need to intentionally date at some point. Only, it can take me a long time to get my head and heart around to things in this world 💯
Funny to have a video on the reverse....5 Signs She Only Wants to Sleep with You. What I've encountered is men 55 and older really want a relationship whereas women dont want to settle down with one man.
When I see any of these signs I just move on. I used to wait and see what happens then only to get hurt in the end. I have no time for any of this half ass bs guys try to give you!! The last guy that did this to me he just got cut off immediately and you know what it felt good!
Question - if a guy is showing dysfunctionality and only been sharing about his problems and not being inquisitive about me, my life, my problems, then how to point it out? Instead of learning back, I would like to maybe tell him what's not working and then move on if he doesn't come on board. So what can I say
I think start by trying to take space In the convo by replying back with personal experiences that relate to theirs without taking away from the appreciation of their vulnerability, and see if they work with what you say or see if they ask for more insight from what you've shared. If they do, maybe its just they're really wrapped up in their issues that it's Spilling into the romantic realm, and vulnerability is a good sign, to me. However, if they negate the fact that you have past experiences they can learn from, then you can start bringing up like, "Hey, I think these are prevalent issues that seem to really affect you right now. Maybe we should take some time off from seeing each other so you can handle those problems." If they push back and say, "no I think we can still do this." That's when you can say, "okay, but for me to be fully into this, I'd like for you to try knowing more about me, as well. I think I can name half your family members (or something you've been talking about) and I'm not you can say the same, which is fine, but I'd like for that to change. Are you sure you're still up for making this work?" Or something of that nature
@@testing123. I really liked this. Thank you. Will try but first till take my space and go within to find my needs and vision for relationship. Why am I letting myself being objectified or settling for crumbs? I love him but then it is ok to love and let go as well. Because ultimately I want someone who will build a relationship and I will take this as a learning because I have grown so much as a person :)
@@sherryj738 Yes am not saying anything now. Just focusing on my life and reading books suggested by Jonathan and other positive things and visualizing myself leading a positive, happy life. If someone wants to join me in my journey, in my vision, that will be most welcome and I will take out time and energy towards that. If not, then no problem. Neither closing my heart nor stopping my life either. :)
@@JonathonAslay - sorry, please let me clarify, I’m NOT out of looking for real love. Out of that particular situation before it gets to that point. Lol
Fantastic video. I love that commitment means the same thing in your video example as it does to me. I do like my texts asking how my day is though 😀 and I love the fact you use the word fuc**ing as in stop fu**king around.
Question, after six years, thought we were both busy, but you opened my eyes I ask about things to do together always a excuse or a laught how do you address something like this, I've tried but to no success.
Second part lol. 'Hope you have a great day, hope you have a great week lol'. I realised he's avoidant, hell his longest relationships were one or one and a half years, in the last one his ex left to return to her home country and parents. Now I'm asking, what was his part in that. Most men on these apps are avoidant and only want fwb. Men over 55 often look like grandpas to me, so I'm stuck not to mention, fucked.
I was right as this guy I know hardly ever communicate but had tried to court me for a while now seems like he gave up cause I felt something is wrong or missing to even proceed with him
Question everything you said here is my problem..we haven't sex yet but he always communicate every day greetings like if i had eaten, where he is, what he's doing, missing me said goodnight but other than this nothing he tells about his separation. I know sooner or later we would end having sex for both us have been depriving sexual relationship for how many yerars having pains in it. Would i continue the relationship with him? I learned to live him would i leave him.
please.. my fella takes me up with family and intimate friends however he has a lady frien he dated after his first divorce that he totally disparage me in several conversations. I do not get this do you?
After dating 2 months, he has pulled back. We sat down and talked. He said he is emotionally unavailable. We decide to be friends. But get the morning texts. If I don't elaborate conversation its very stale.
@@susantc3509 He is either mulling over exactly how he feels about where to go from here..or he is simply keeping you on ice as an option. For now leave him to it and live your life. Be polite but not so available. If he wants you ..he will try and work with you..if he doesn't..move on. Good luck.💐
@@susantc3509 don’t be friends with him. A man who truly wants a relationship with you will not say he just wants to be friends. He’s keeping you around as an option. I’ve been I. This situation before. Leads to heartbreak.
You have to get to know someone first. Then u conclude whether you like that person. Who wants to get used by member of opposite sex. Men don't want to get used for sex only and disposed of.
OMG that made me laugh! "Men don't want to get used for sex only and disposed of." ARE YOU KIDDING ME? LMAO. Men would absolutely LOVE it if women did this all the time with them.
@@irinaivanovic9792 a large majority of guys don't mind that, however the good ones still don't want to be used for sex alone, when perhaps they want a real relationship.
Jonathon's advice is aimed at an older audience but much of it applies whatever your age. You might enjoy Matthew Hussey's YT channel. He's geared toward younger women. He's also great.
Oops... the internet went out. 😏
Jonathan, but if suppose there is dysfunctionality where the guy is only sharing about his problems and not being inquisitive about you and your problems...what can I say to him? Any ideas on that? Because I will like to point that out and then move on if he continues his pattern.
Oops...will it have a part 2?
Trrully. Precious. Us.
@@sherryj738 Thank you. Am not contacting anymore and focusing on my life.
Last guy- all five signs. I’m disgusted with myself, but I learned my lesson. I finally told him off. Proud of myself now.
Agreed finding an enlightened and a stable guy without alot of baggage that knows how to have a healthy relationship is like finding a needle in a haystack!
Likewise for us men too...
They don't exist
@@JonathonAslay You're right, Jonathan.
But but…..Sherry, the older any of us get, the more baggage we ALL have! Not sure how one can expect someone with no baggage if we’re carrying around our own. I really believe that it’s how we carry it that matters. 💋
@@suzannedawson4120 Yes. I love the way you put that.
I have a lot of baggage, myself. However, I've processed as much as possible, forgiven self and others as well as I can, I've done and am still working on personal development and my own communication and emotional maturity. I live in the present with hope for the future.
For anyone who's feeling hopeless about finding a partner, I'd suggest taking a breather, spending that time reading some of the books Jonathon recommends, looking within, and focusing on one's own personal development.
It's possible to be content with oneself. It might be our greatest achievement, to learn how to love ourselves and to be content alone. When we do, we're at peace and maybe even happy. At that point, I believe we're in the best position to find a partner who's like minded.
Or they just say “good morning “ and that’s it for a day lol. Most guys actually are honest about what they want. Or they hint you. We are just in denial mode many times
[4:23] changes in depth of conversation / withdrawal
[6:20] emotional one-sided conversations
[7:30] noninviting to personal life / no long periods spent together
[9:13] long response time
[10:30] no progression in levels of commitment
Thank you...
#1-4 = there were no problems there (which explains why #5 left me confused)
Thanks heaps
How about number 6. He's married.
Great Summary!! I was dating a guy a few years ago and he was in my car, along for the ride to get a minor check up on my car. On the way out, I said..oh hey one of my houses that I rent out is right down the road; would you like to drive by and see it? He said "no". I did not sleep with him ever and only went out with him a few times afterwards. That was a Huge Red Flag to me that he really didn't want to know more about me, or share in my happiness or achievements. My college diplomas are in my bookcase (not open just closed), and he pulled them out and I could actually see a look of scorn or disappointment or I do not know what when he saw my Master's Degree in Science. I could actually see his shoulders deflate. That was after he had perused my two bachelor's degrees. Maybe it was envy or jealousy I'm not sure but I WAS Sure he was not the guy for me. I need a partner to be happy for my success and achievements, not competitive or resentful.
You dodged a bullet. He would have done everything to drag you down if you'd stuck around.
True
Men do not care about your money. We only care if you are good mother material. Your money means nothing to us. If a guy is interested in your financial position . Kick him to the curb.
@@drmachinewerke1 Well, that's confusing. I often hear guys say they don't want a female gold-digger, and you say guys don't care about my financial position. Someone has to care about finances and paying the bills. Ideally, it would be some sort of balance, and certainly couldn't be 50/50 in all cases. While I am nurturing/caring, and trim, fit, and put-together for my age, I'm 54 ....so I suppose my "grandma potential" would be important to the guy I'm seeing? He's 58 and I am SURE that he doesn't want any more kids/ he already has three adult children ~
@@drmachinewerke1 Good mother material? 😂 Get outta the 1950s. We are partners in life, not your brood mares.
Lol the "how's your day" point that you made is so true. I even catch myself using it a lot when I feel stuck in finding new questions to ask a man.
He exhibited all 5 from the beginning. Unfortunately, due to my inexperience in dating, it took me 6 months to see it, plus I was happy to stay in for the sex too in the short term. When I wanted more, he cut me out.
When my first fiance and I broke it off, I was beside myself (literally)...My parish priest said, "you are crying today, of course, your heart feels broken...however, although you cannot see yourself in a better space in the future right now, you will be glad you didn't walk down the aisle thinking the piece of paper will change him...fact is, you would be more heartbroken when you are deeper in time, realizing that he didn't even want to date you, so how can he be in a marriage commitment, where the "date" is day after day. 25 years later, (and almost all of that time in between), no regrets and he was absolutely correct...
Thanks for sharing...
Hang on to your parish! That’s a good priest! 🙏🏻
I've decided that I am no longer dating. I'm fed up
Why?
I feel this!!
I hope you will use this no dating time for your self development and inner work. Read Jonathon's book recommendations.
Yeah. All true. Run!
It’s very rare to encounter the mature, enlightened man. Once I meet him (and I will! recognize him as I’ve done the work that Jonathon speaks about) I will never let him go.
Engage with this type of guy that Jonathon speaks about, you WILL get burned.
Yes!!!
That's why you turn the tables and do the same as they treat you.
“Mike has a new girlfriend” doesn’t mean it’s you.
Maybe... often when people speak in third person, means it's not necessarily personal to them and they don't have to own the topic. Like they are observing from the outside and reporting on someone else. BIG difference between saying "Mike has a new girlfriend" (a report about someone else) vs. "I have a new girlfriend". Latter commits the person to behave accordingly. When you are declaring something important to you and feel an emotional connection to it, you are feeling like you want to share it with the world. If a person won a million dollars, she would be much more inclined to announce "I won a million dollars!!" than to say "Susie won a million dollars". When someone is excited about you, they want to show you off, and men want to announce ownership... AS themselves, not as a representative image. So many small distinctions filled with information on where a person is really coming from.
I want a relationship like that. Yes he checked all of these boxes. Thank you
So true they don’t take yu to their houses they are very secrety
Geez! Definitely touched on all 5. Guess it’s time to put on my running shoes.
"Hows your day"
NEXT
Jonathan it’s so true! I’ve been thru that. Thanks Jonathan u are like an angels every video u did is so appropriate to this generation n time we live in. God bless Jonathan 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
WOW! Thank you...
Man, I am so bummed I missed this. 😞 Watched it and it has helped me out much I do not want casual I want the deep connection, all of it, the friends first, learn about eachother,date heavily, and the whole long term monogamous relationship Friends, family and ultimately marriage. Ultimately I want to be someone's first last 💋
Thank you
In a nutshell,he wants to hit it and quit it!
I laugh when you do the I want a relationship... brings to mind 80's teenie bopper. Lol. M
So funny about the “ how’s your day?” I never ask that question.
Thank you so much for your advice. I really love your sense of humour 👍👍🌸🌼🌺🌻💐
YES! 🎉 YES! 🎉YES! 🎉 Getting addicted to these videos 💯👌
My standards for dating may as well be that of a 16 year old and NOT a 36 year old (I've barely dated through all these years).
Still firmly in touch with the innocence and purity of my heart and mind. Possibly I need this info more than most, as to stay better calibrated to reality.
Starting to think what is it going to take to eventually date some day. Have a feeling that's not going to be for some time yet (I still have stuff to get past and through).
At least I know what the best books are to make use of.
Thinking, I need to take this knowledge on board, too. I need to intentionally date at some point. Only, it can take me a long time to get my head and heart around to things in this world 💯
Love how blunt you are that’s what we need 🤣😂😂
you hit the nail right on the head!
Funny to have a video on the reverse....5 Signs She Only Wants to Sleep with You. What I've encountered is men 55 and older really want a relationship whereas women dont want to settle down with one man.
That would be funny...
Why is that funny? We are smart! Lol
When I see any of these signs I just move on. I used to wait and see what happens then only to get hurt in the end. I have no time for any of this half ass bs guys try to give you!! The last guy that did this to me he just got cut off immediately and you know what it felt good!
I understand
I have met one man who has all five. It was a very bad encounter.
You are spot on!! All these I had. I would have enjoyed more but it's not happening.
You are so right ! But, some women are the same. I'm bad at doing that with men. Not for sex. But , just happy the way things are.😎
Question - if a guy is showing dysfunctionality and only been sharing about his problems and not being inquisitive about me, my life, my problems, then how to point it out? Instead of learning back, I would like to maybe tell him what's not working and then move on if he doesn't come on board. So what can I say
I think start by trying to take space In the convo by replying back with personal experiences that relate to theirs without taking away from the appreciation of their vulnerability, and see if they work with what you say or see if they ask for more insight from what you've shared. If they do, maybe its just they're really wrapped up in their issues that it's Spilling into the romantic realm, and vulnerability is a good sign, to me. However, if they negate the fact that you have past experiences they can learn from, then you can start bringing up like, "Hey, I think these are prevalent issues that seem to really affect you right now. Maybe we should take some time off from seeing each other so you can handle those problems." If they push back and say, "no I think we can still do this." That's when you can say, "okay, but for me to be fully into this, I'd like for you to try knowing more about me, as well. I think I can name half your family members (or something you've been talking about) and I'm not you can say the same, which is fine, but I'd like for that to change. Are you sure you're still up for making this work?" Or something of that nature
@@testing123. I really liked this. Thank you. Will try but first till take my space and go within to find my needs and vision for relationship. Why am I letting myself being objectified or settling for crumbs? I love him but then it is ok to love and let go as well. Because ultimately I want someone who will build a relationship and I will take this as a learning because I have grown so much as a person :)
@@sherryj738 Yes am not saying anything now. Just focusing on my life and reading books suggested by Jonathan and other positive things and visualizing myself leading a positive, happy life. If someone wants to join me in my journey, in my vision, that will be most welcome and I will take out time and energy towards that. If not, then no problem. Neither closing my heart nor stopping my life either. :)
Yup bootieCall 💝
I’m glad the comments opened up. Trust me - I’m OUT!
I'm out?
@@JonathonAslay - sorry, please let me clarify, I’m NOT out of looking for real love. Out of that particular situation before it gets to that point. Lol
Fantastic video. I love that commitment means the same thing in your video example as it does to me. I do like my texts asking how my day is though 😀 and I love the fact you use the word fuc**ing as in stop fu**king around.
Question, after six years, thought we were both busy, but you opened my eyes I ask about things to do together always a excuse or a laught how do you address something like this, I've tried but to no success.
Second part lol. 'Hope you have a great day, hope you have a great week lol'. I realised he's avoidant, hell his longest relationships were one or one and a half years, in the last one his ex left to return to her home country and parents. Now I'm asking, what was his part in that. Most men on these apps are avoidant and only want fwb. Men over 55 often look like grandpas to me, so I'm stuck not to mention, fucked.
How about a video that answers the question, ..What are signs that he's pursuing you because he only wants that one thing?
Can you elaborate? Which thing?
@@JonathonAslay SEX
Thank you Jonathan, appreciate you 🙏❤😊👍
You are so welcome
Thank you so much for your very informative video. What you say is so true.
Insightful. Very. Special.
Thank you so much, Sir Jonathon. Godbless you as always. Thank you for helping us. 😊👍
My pleasure!
@@JonathonAslay Thank you so much, Sir. 😊👍
So helpful, thanks
Jonathan, if you see this. Do you have any talks on how to screen online prospects to weed them out?
Yes I do, I teach that in my private coaching program... www.jonathonaslay.com/coaching
I was right as this guy I know hardly ever communicate but had tried to court me for a while now seems like he gave up cause I felt something is wrong or missing to even proceed with him
I wondered what happened to this livestream. Your internet went out. Annoying but nothing can be done about it. Enjoy the rest of your day
Yep!!!
Absolutely, Thank you Jonathan.
Thanks for listening
I agree with you but first of all theres no one to ask those questions...so its not only our fault...there should be other side..
If no comunication for long time no feeling for other sorry
That's sad
Loved the video!
And now you sound EXACTLY like the “I want a relationship” guy only now you bounce around singing “I’m in a relationship, I’m in a relationship!”
Give me an example of what you mean he's leading with his functionality.
He's complaining about his life, his ex-wife, his work, his kids, his health...
His “dysfunctionality”! Not functionality.
Thanks jonathon ❤
Precious
Dagnabet. You just disapeared agh
Not even asked to a date. It was “wonder how you look now”. “That’s too much clothes isn’t it?” 🙄👎👎
Where is number 3 🤔
Question everything you said here is my problem..we haven't sex yet but he always communicate every day greetings like if i had eaten, where he is, what he's doing, missing me said goodnight but other than this nothing he tells about his separation. I know sooner or later we would end having sex for both us have been depriving sexual relationship for how many yerars having pains in it. Would i continue the relationship with him? I learned to live him would i leave him.
Hello. Yay.
Nice video
Thanks
It’s best to ask in the beginning so tu don’t waste your time
No, it’s not real -.- I did this, and some guys they will lie to you. So girls really need to keep their eyes open
Last date totally disregarded my needs and wants despite chemistry and attraction, shared intelligence. WTF?
Men & women do that often...
Some men, mostly unhealed want relationship but dont know how to keep relationship
He's into himself, not you.
Omgosh he's hilarious!
How so?
@@sherryj738 honey child, you need a hug???😥
@@JonathonAslay the way you Express yourself about the runnnn!
@@sherryj738 must have lots of extra time on your hands
@@sherryj738 I hear that ha
Please talk about those first 5 dates...i cant go any further...two dates and that's IT...I know I didnt do anything wrong...so why?
Why does this happen for you?
Mmmmmm ok
Question...
How do I get invited to your live streams?
Monday, Wednesday at 4pm PST and Friday at 3pm PST
please.. my fella takes me up with family and intimate friends however he has a lady frien he dated after his first divorce that he totally disparage me in several conversations. I do not get this do you?
Question
Can you give me more info?
Question: I get the good morning texts and hope your day is good. Where should I go from there?
Do you talk with each other?
Yes. But he is a school teacher and has to go soon after.
After dating 2 months, he has pulled back. We sat down and talked. He said he is emotionally unavailable. We decide to be friends. But get the morning texts. If I don't elaborate conversation its very stale.
@@susantc3509 He is either mulling over exactly how he feels about where to go from here..or he is simply keeping you on ice as an option. For now leave him to it and live your life. Be polite but not so available. If he wants you ..he will try and work with you..if he doesn't..move on. Good luck.💐
@@susantc3509 don’t be friends with him. A man who truly wants a relationship with you will not say he just wants to be friends. He’s keeping you around as an option. I’ve been I. This situation before. Leads to heartbreak.
❤️❤️❤️
You have to get to know someone first. Then u conclude whether you like that person. Who wants to get used by member of opposite sex. Men don't want to get used for sex only and disposed of.
OMG that made me laugh! "Men don't want to get used for sex only and disposed of." ARE YOU KIDDING ME? LMAO. Men would absolutely LOVE it if women did this all the time with them.
@@irinaivanovic9792 a large majority of guys don't mind that, however the good ones still don't want to be used for sex alone, when perhaps they want a real relationship.
Coach men to evolve.., it's not us..
Ladies, buy a toy, lol
What if we have never had sex? How would you know he only want sex?
I never said only...
@@JonathonAslay i am asking
Same question
Lol me being 31 watching this
Jonathon's advice is aimed at an older audience but much of it applies whatever your age.
You might enjoy Matthew Hussey's YT channel. He's geared toward younger women. He's also great.