Self-Esteem and Self-Confidence - What's the Difference?

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  • Опубликовано: 1 дек 2024

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  • @reindropzify
    @reindropzify 5 лет назад +131

    self-confidence: I CAN
    self-efficacy: I WILL
    self-esteem: I AM
    ❤ this

    • @juliakristinamah
      @juliakristinamah  5 лет назад +4

      You got it😉🙌🏻❤️

    • @Kiseochan
      @Kiseochan 5 лет назад +2

      What about "I Do?" (As in like a job or task you perform on a regular basis.)

    • @jorgegutierrez1812
      @jorgegutierrez1812 5 лет назад

      Thank you so much

    • @Bertnahhaha
      @Bertnahhaha 5 лет назад +2

      I actually am getting "I am" tattooed on me soon, for this reason. I personally associate "I am" with power, positivity and growth. But the problem is, I often forgot I Am anything at all! I'd like to get the tattoo on my wrist (and technically upside down, but the tattoo's for me so pfft) so that I see it everyday and am reminded of how amazing I really Am! Weeeee!

    • @Edzhjus
      @Edzhjus 3 года назад

      Would make sense. 😐

  • @ericav4202
    @ericav4202 5 лет назад +55

    What makes your videos/advice stand out from others (In my opinion) is the focus on how simple details can evoke growth and change, effectively making one self-aware of our responsibility to ourselves.
    You communicate strong messages without sounding preachy.
    So much value on this channel, thank you for posting.

    • @juliakristinamah
      @juliakristinamah  5 лет назад +3

      Julia Kristina Counselling
      Erica, there are few things that mean more to me than what you’ve said here. Thank you. So grateful to have you in my camp❤️

    • @kilipaki87oritahiti
      @kilipaki87oritahiti 5 лет назад +1

      Erica V So true!

    • @kilipaki87oritahiti
      @kilipaki87oritahiti 5 лет назад +2

      Erica V I went to a professional therapist thinking I would be understood, but instead I have never felt so judged. I thought I was there to get help. Not feeling ten time worse about my self, my emotions and thoughts. Julia is a person that doesn’t do that. She helps you to think it through and come to your own conclusions instead of telling you “what to do”. A rare talent in this time and age.

    • @francesmartel7948
      @francesmartel7948 4 года назад

      @@juliakristinamah I love your videos; you seem like a really kind person, and I’m impressed with your knowledge ❤️👍🏽

  • @PatriciaMuirMaestroQ
    @PatriciaMuirMaestroQ 5 лет назад +4

    My teacher in grade 4 planted the seed of self efficacy that has supported me through many challenges. When struggling through frustration about a school project to the point of tears, he said that I was tenacious and that I had what I needed to solve the problem. It’s amazing how his encouraging words have helped me through the big problems, the frustrations, and self doubt.

  • @peterho7740
    @peterho7740 2 года назад +1

    8:09 "Good enough is a decision, not a destination." Still working on this, but I'm happy to have found this.

  • @zzdipsetanazz
    @zzdipsetanazz 5 лет назад +1

    Few issues:
    Just because someone made it past situations doesn't mean they made the right decisions and/or they are the same person after having done so
    Someone can have low self esteem due to a lack of confidence for many reasons
    If someone is a people pleaser and it results in good friendship and relationship then I believe they will be self satisfied. The problem comes when the individual does all this people pleasing and has nothing to show for it.
    Bombshell here!
    Self esteem has alot to do with environment
    If someone is around happy people and they treat them well generally people will be happy
    But at the same time you can have an overall positive self esteem but lack confidence in certain social areas
    Great video and thank you for all your work!

  • @claudinesouza8995
    @claudinesouza8995 5 лет назад +23

    I AM - that's what I need more work on! Thank you, Julia! Hugs from the other side of the screen :)

  • @amandajanehypnotherapy1959
    @amandajanehypnotherapy1959 2 года назад +1

    As a therapist, This is so informative! you break it down into easy to know and easy to share information. really great video, thank you

  • @lynnmelo
    @lynnmelo 5 лет назад

    I HAVE AND I CAN GO THROUGH HARD THINGS... AMAZING. FIRST TIME ALL these TERMS ACTUALLY MAKE SENSE. THANK YOU. I just noticed how annoying all the caps can be but I rather accept my imperfections and mistakes. Not tried to edit the comment to appear perfect to get the approval of others. Thank you again, Julia.

  • @dddamaged7501
    @dddamaged7501 4 года назад +1

    Thank you, I just worked out why some people are confident liers, they have been practicing all their lives.

  • @avonradloff
    @avonradloff 2 года назад +1

    Personally, I feel the attribute I most aspire to maintain is my sense of self-efficacy, especially in response to external expectations. Thanks for articulating the differences, it helps to actually know the difference.

  • @zeruszephuros5419
    @zeruszephuros5419 5 лет назад +3

    I really love your summary...
    I can (confidence)
    I will (efficacy)
    and I am (esteem)
    ...........holy moly!
    Keywords of the year xD

  • @AbdullahArRafi
    @AbdullahArRafi 4 года назад +1

    This is probably the best video about self-esteem on youtube! Thanks a ton for such valuable information!

  • @tiffanylavon
    @tiffanylavon 2 года назад +1

    Thank you for explaining the difference. I thought I wanted to be a confidence coach but my purpose is more aligned to being a self esteem coach/mentor🥰

  • @potato_powered
    @potato_powered 5 лет назад +1

    I literally worry about how much I worry.
    I should watch this video everyday. Thanks for this and your other videos Julia.

  • @axlfox4048
    @axlfox4048 5 лет назад +2

    I shared your 25 ways to say No, as well as you method of asking yourself "Is This Worth It" when dealing with a moment of anxiety with my psycoligist and she said both are wonderful and actual asked me to send her the 25 Ways To Say No so she can use it in her methods she uses with others

  • @BrookeBevan-b2b
    @BrookeBevan-b2b 9 месяцев назад

    I can, I have, and I will! Great video. I identify with it so much. I have had those experiences getting established on and establishing my own private rural acre. So much work, some fulfillment, yet a void that isn't filled. This really made me feel like that disintegrates into the self-presence and satiated self-efficacy that clears your mind, soul, and improves how you feel and how you feel about yourself and achievements.

  • @claudinesouza8995
    @claudinesouza8995 5 лет назад +5

    Totally. We forget how we got through things!
    I am commenting as I watch it!

  • @jennaseaman8395
    @jennaseaman8395 2 года назад

    You are just awesome. You have been helping me so much because I cannot find a therapist that’s free.

  • @Firuzeh
    @Firuzeh 5 лет назад

    I like the way you exceptionally don’t have the “uptalk” so many young youtubers have. I like your rhythm and speech.

  • @emansamir8478
    @emansamir8478 3 года назад

    I came across this channel searching for the difference between self-confidence and self-esteem and it was amazing the way you sum each one in a little phrase I can, I will, and I'm. This makes subscribing to your channel. It's informative

  • @Simplyme714
    @Simplyme714 3 года назад

    I need to work on - I AM! This video really cleared up the difference. Thank you!

  • @kbrown3230
    @kbrown3230 5 лет назад

    Wow! Thank you. I am - my current task. What a gift you are to those of us struggling on the path.

  • @lorae7
    @lorae7 5 лет назад

    Recently found your channel. So far I’m enjoying the matter of fact, real and usable information. So many channels are into the new age being one with the universe nonsense and so far I haven’t gotten that from you at all. Thanks for your insight on healing from abuses

  • @chefigalante6271
    @chefigalante6271 5 лет назад +3

    im dealing with anxiety and your videos are helping me so much :)

    • @RachelSmets
      @RachelSmets 5 лет назад +1

      katia correia learning about anxiety helps a lot and it’s so good you’re doing this. By learning, you’re actually becoming more self aware of what’s going on within you and that’s the key to get rid of it, for good!
      Cheering you on!

  • @wormemc
    @wormemc 4 года назад

    I really appreciate the lazer sharp way you cut straight to the issue. I have struggled with this issue for a long time not understanding why I wasn't confident in certain situations. This makes so much sense and it's so simple. Fantastic!🙏

  • @juonnicholson4576
    @juonnicholson4576 5 лет назад

    You have by far one of the best RUclips channel out there

  • @karik726
    @karik726 5 лет назад +1

    I can and I have done tough things! Very tough! I can always find a way to get what I need done.

  • @dlc20246
    @dlc20246 3 года назад

    from all videos that I watched, yours is the only video that help me clearly differentiate self esteem and self confidence.

  • @sarahjane9354
    @sarahjane9354 5 лет назад +6

    Watching this has made me realise that I have low confidence not low self esteem. I generally quite like myself and am happy with who I am, but I constantly fear messing things up and have terrible social anxiety. That must be why a lot of therapy techniques I've done in the past haven't worked.
    So how do I get confidence?

  • @Maria-fg2fr
    @Maria-fg2fr 4 года назад

    i liked your talk on difference between self confidence, self efficacy and self esteem. simple but profound.

  • @nadisenergy3149
    @nadisenergy3149 5 лет назад

    I have done and gotten through hard times. I AM ready to work on feeling good within. I love sharing your videos across the globe to everyone I know. Thank you, Ms. Julia, you are amazing! :)

  • @clintonrosen
    @clintonrosen 5 лет назад

    I listen to your videos ever day, in the gym. Sometimes I even share them with my therapist.

  • @ethancooper4154
    @ethancooper4154 3 года назад

    This might be a big break through in my treatment plan, I had never thought about this....thank you so much!

  • @aimjbtnh3
    @aimjbtnh3 5 лет назад

    For some reason I've always had really bad performers anxiety. I've constantly worried about being perfect when people watch me. But when I'm not on the "stage", I perform amazing. I don't have low self esteem. I like myself. I think I'm a pretty unique individual (infj), but my confidence has kack d apparently.....based on your advice. Thank you

  • @carolinlovelifecoach
    @carolinlovelifecoach 3 месяца назад

    Self Love is not arrogant

  • @bonkahermitakaintjudge9228
    @bonkahermitakaintjudge9228 5 лет назад +5

    I can and I have done many hard things and managed to get through them all alive.

  • @ethancooper4154
    @ethancooper4154 3 года назад

    I can and I have done hard things! Making my way through a particularly hard one now so my success rate isn’t quite 100% but there IS another side and I WILL get there

  • @raissam8955
    @raissam8955 3 года назад

    You've made me realise that I need to work on my self esteem , thank you so much💛

  • @MissDoreen
    @MissDoreen 3 года назад

    Hi Julia 👋 😊 I am a newbie to your channel and the shift society. It's hard to admit but I suffer from low self-esteem low self-confidence and negative thinking and now I believe I have a touch of perfectionism LOL your videos and lessons are changing my mindset and my life! Thank you so much for providing these inspiring empowering videos! Sincerely, sending you lots of love and gratitude!

  • @NoticeFeelBreathe
    @NoticeFeelBreathe 5 лет назад +1

    Truth: I have experienced challenges that I didn't think I'd mentally and emotionally survive.

  • @justjonelle
    @justjonelle 5 лет назад

    I am so thankful for your videos. Ive gotten good at alot of things. More and more everyday. What I struggle with alot is worthiness without outside validation. I want to be able to live and thrive without outside people saying what I did or said was good. I have to be comfortable with myself with or without outsiders. I know I can because I can and I have done hard things. I am good enough as I am. I know I am. I believe I am.

  • @chloeferguson2685
    @chloeferguson2685 4 года назад +1

    That was really great thank you - I love braking it down into the short phrases really helps to clarify it. I'm leading a self-esteem and confidence session and I think this distinction will be really helpful. Thanks for sharing

  • @keith-annstone4762
    @keith-annstone4762 5 лет назад +1

    I can
    I will
    I am
    Julia you nailed it w/ this awesome video.
    Thank YOU!

  • @barbarahawkins7864
    @barbarahawkins7864 5 лет назад

    I’m sharing all the episodes I watch with my sister & a few friends . Thanks for your help 🌻

  • @mnqobingcobo3200
    @mnqobingcobo3200 2 года назад

    Crisp descriptions. I learnt about something new today, self efficacy. I thank you. I shared your video before I was through watching it, hence my comment is edited.

  • @Rob9mm
    @Rob9mm 5 лет назад

    This was a real good one Julia. The part about worrying about being uncomfortable reminded me of the "shortcut becoming the longcut" syndrome.

  • @yoyoyo5621
    @yoyoyo5621 4 года назад

    oh i kidna get this. I used to be confident(I can be successful, make money, professionally succeed, my skills are great and I'm smart) but used to have no self esteem at the same time(nobody likes me, I'm worthless, I'm just an object and tool and don't deserve to be loved, no one wants to be friends with me, no one can love me). There were areas in my life i was confident in and areas where I just had 0 confidence/efficacy, like making friends and maintaining relationships, which is funny becuase I actually had lot of friends and always made friends wherever I went..omg yeah i know exactly that sliding off feeling, nothing sticking... so sad!

  • @asoo342
    @asoo342 3 года назад

    I can and i have done hard things , thank you so much 🙏🌱

  • @PhillipRajcany
    @PhillipRajcany 5 лет назад +17

    I am pretty tired from all the 'could be' and 'might be' uncomfortable worries that go through my mind-- it's been happening for so long it's become almost completely subconscious and automatic.
    *I can and I have done hard things* >: )

    • @lifeandhomewithmeredith9050
      @lifeandhomewithmeredith9050 5 лет назад

      Phillip Rajcany I am also tired of over thinking everything! Yes for me subconscious and automatic

    • @RachelSmets
      @RachelSmets 5 лет назад +1

      Phillip Rajcany our thoughts are so powerful, and if it became automated fro you, it became unconscious. You can change those worries again, just like they entered your subconscious, you can retrain your brain to get automated opposite thoughts, the thoughts that are not worries.
      This takes time and effort, but you can retire your brain.
      What you learned, you can also unlearn.

  • @AfrinKankudti
    @AfrinKankudti 5 лет назад

    I love the audio quality of your videos! Great work! Thank you very much

  • @gegealthani4636
    @gegealthani4636 2 года назад

    I am sharing this with my siblings it’s important for them 👍🏻

  • @wendyloulou0427
    @wendyloulou0427 5 лет назад

    I can and I will and I do hard things!! Totally shared this to my Facebook. 😀

  • @karinaleon2824
    @karinaleon2824 5 лет назад +5

    Another great video as always!thank you Julia!!!!

    • @juliakristinamah
      @juliakristinamah  5 лет назад +1

      Absolutely my pleasure Karina! Thanks for watching.

  • @thunderemperor5704
    @thunderemperor5704 3 года назад

    One of the best video I Ever saw ❣️

  • @maidasperandeo4098
    @maidasperandeo4098 5 лет назад

    You are fabulous.I watch your videos everyday .

  • @fishar-caramel
    @fishar-caramel 7 месяцев назад

    great .. you described the difference perfectly

  • @RoxiTube1
    @RoxiTube1 5 лет назад +2

    I agree with you on self esteem... but
    I thought confidence was a feeling... competence is what you want really.
    But great you explained... thx 😄

  • @ClefairyFairySnowflake
    @ClefairyFairySnowflake 5 лет назад

    I can and have done hard things! Have a great day!

  • @eljay345
    @eljay345 5 лет назад

    I can and I have done hard things! I am! A great video.Thank you Julia Kristina.

  • @Postulatedstate
    @Postulatedstate 5 месяцев назад +2

    People hate you if you're confident and have self esteem.

  • @lasses.andersen4696
    @lasses.andersen4696 3 года назад

    Thanks allot!!! ❤️ I've used my entire life up until now, trying to achieve self-esteem from "hustling" 😬 on the bright side, in the progress i got a lot of confidence from trying and getting good at stuff😜👌🌳💚

  • @ShadowCatGambit
    @ShadowCatGambit 4 года назад

    I'm sharing this video on FaceBook.
    I suppose this is why I lose confi-... self-esteem when I try to defend myself from others. I try to fight for my core values and beliefs behind the wall of introverted safety in my heart, but the harder I defend, the more power I give others, and the more self-esteem I lose. I'm starting to believe that has a large amount to do with trying to put on the armor of confidence on the slippery negative self image I have of myself (not being able to believe my own worth without being able to prove my point to others). I don't feel like I can feel good about myself if I'm not wanted, desired or respected by others.
    How much do others affect our self-esteem, self efficacy, and self-confidence? How do I stop making my feelings of self-worth vulnerable to what others think and how much I can attract and pleasure the opposite sex? (I've been abused and neglected by my mother, and have experienced disdain and been ignored by girls I'm attracted to).

  • @michellezareas8276
    @michellezareas8276 5 лет назад

    Your intuition is on point! This is exactly what I was asking myself, last week. Thank you!😍🙏♥️

  • @pattyhill9278
    @pattyhill9278 5 лет назад +1

    I needed this today. Thank You. I need to work on, “I am”.

  • @barbarahawkins7864
    @barbarahawkins7864 5 лет назад

    I can and I have done hard things! Going through some right now... rough... but I I’ll make it to the other side 👍🏻

  • @lacasonarestaurante7420
    @lacasonarestaurante7420 4 года назад

    I love your videos! thank you so much!

  • @abeerghazzawi1613
    @abeerghazzawi1613 5 лет назад

    Thank you so much this was very helpfull I have picked my self up recently it took a lot of effort but sometimes I still have hard thoughts and your video made me feel better today

  • @jmac5907
    @jmac5907 5 месяцев назад

    This is such a great video. Resonates with me so much.

    • @jmac5907
      @jmac5907 5 месяцев назад

      I acknowledge that I have high Confidence but low self-esteem. I have come to understanding that we should not seek the approval of others rather we should act in ways that serve ourselves first.

  • @iamwendiwithani4115
    @iamwendiwithani4115 2 года назад

    I can and have done hard things. I will!

  • @NYOBICOMICS
    @NYOBICOMICS 5 лет назад +2

    I can and have done hard things, but I find my self in 44 years of life always having to do this , and I am not sure if I can keep living life like this

  • @dramendiana373
    @dramendiana373 5 лет назад +2

    I can and I've done hard things! 😎 Oh, yeah!
    🤔 To be completely honest, I can use more confidence in some fields, part of me gets pretty insecure about taking action, not because of lack of self-esteem (I do like myself, LOL) but because of the idea of not knowing how to manage situations... I know life doesn't come with a manual but wouldn't be nice have one with all the codes to respond properly to each situation? 😂 Nice video, love it!

  • @sylviaolivares5379
    @sylviaolivares5379 5 лет назад

    Another brilliant video Julia Kristina, thank you so much 😊❤🙏🏼 I'm sharing this video on Pinterest.

  • @AmirKhan-ds8rs
    @AmirKhan-ds8rs Год назад

    Thank you so much for sharing with us

  • @lifeandhomewithmeredith9050
    @lifeandhomewithmeredith9050 5 лет назад +1

    WOW you are so gifted in helping others! What a blessing you are to so many and me. What mic are you using? I need one so I have been researching them but I haven’t seen that one and the sound is fantastic. Much Love.... xoxo I can and I have done hard things!

  • @abdul2009
    @abdul2009 5 лет назад

    Thank you for making this video, I appreciate you sharing, it provided me with a lot of clarity, like in learning that I was not being honest with myself and basically denying the self-loathing I would do even though I've grown & learned to have confidence(& efficacy, & esteem). Keep making more videos✌🏽

  • @Timmeshia
    @Timmeshia 5 лет назад

    Such an amazing break down. Thanks as always!!

  • @emnastrandmanmokede228
    @emnastrandmanmokede228 5 лет назад

    You are wonderful, thank you for the amazing videos! My work is probably on all theese areas, but mostly on self-esteem; I Am!

  • @paulaneary3662
    @paulaneary3662 5 лет назад

    Great video. I have gotten good at just about EVERYTHING I have done. I am not afraid to try new things and am self-taught at many things. I was married to someone who did not like trying new things and I could never figure out why. Afraid to make mistakes? Who knows. I'm just glad I am not like that. I am a great gardener, painter and quilter. Love all of it. Have even gotten paid for some of my paintings and quilts. Life is fun. Tough stuff? Try giving up a baby for adoption bc your parents told you you would never succeed if you kept your baby. Made it through that one. Divorce, made it through that too. Supported myself WITHOUT WELFARE as a single parent bc the ex was only required to pay $125.00 a month child support. Yep, 125.00 A MONTH. So I supported myself and my son working 2 jobs. Yep, I like myself. I CAN, I WILL, I AM. Also done with the people pleasing. Thanks for all you do Julia!!

  • @memeagain4106
    @memeagain4106 5 лет назад

    First comment!... glad your back!

  • @amydeleon3387
    @amydeleon3387 5 лет назад

    I can & I have done difficult things ... For real. I'm surprised at how strong I was or how easy it was! My new saying: Bring It!

  • @raissam8955
    @raissam8955 3 года назад

    I can and I have done hard things 💛

  • @mariateresavitalone4741
    @mariateresavitalone4741 5 лет назад +1

    I can and I have done hard things ❤

  • @Paul0937
    @Paul0937 5 лет назад

    Yep, done lots of hard things. Expect to do more and learn lots along the way. The Audio sounds more well rounded.

  • @ChristianChua
    @ChristianChua 2 года назад

    You are SPOT ON!

  • @axlfox4048
    @axlfox4048 5 лет назад

    I can and I have done hard things!
    I CAN get control over my anxiety, I WILL get control over my anxiety, I AM better then my anxiety makes me believe

  • @Linda-ls6fd
    @Linda-ls6fd 5 лет назад

    Thank you Julia😀

  • @Naturally0Saxy
    @Naturally0Saxy 5 лет назад

    Thank you for giving how I feel a definition

  • @evanbills4426
    @evanbills4426 Год назад

    I’m confident in cooking and being a good spouse.

  • @MegaAesha
    @MegaAesha 5 лет назад

    I can and i have done hard things. By the grace of God.

  • @hesar270
    @hesar270 2 года назад

    Loved it, Thanks a lot

  • @dhikradunn9975
    @dhikradunn9975 5 лет назад +2

    I have and I can do hard thinks am good enough I accept my self just like I am now I am love and blessings to others amen 🙏

  • @myramuise4389
    @myramuise4389 5 лет назад

    I have and I can do hard things!! ♥️

  • @annachehagood3460
    @annachehagood3460 5 лет назад

    I love this 😍 thanks for the reminder. For me ...I am is a huge one!

  • @potato_powered
    @potato_powered 5 лет назад

    I looked up self esteem and I seem to fall under the high category with some key exceptions that you may find interesting. In a sense I sort of do not trust myself when it comes to my emotions towards others. I have developed feelings for narcissists in the past and so I do not fully trust my emotional judgement when it comes to relationships. Also, I do not trust people in general since they seem mostly irrational which makes it difficult to know how people will react. I also find it disturbing that there seems to be so many narcissists or sociopaths in society especially in managerial jobs or positions of power. There is also the overall meta view that humans, as a species, tend to behave like a toxic narcissist or even like a destructive plague and no matter what anyone says or does it seems likely this planet will inevitably end up destroyed. Such a bleak outlook obviously does not help. I'm not really sure how to assuage my anxiety in the matters above. I have been studying up on psychology as much as possible which I hope will help on the first issue but there is not much that I can do on the latter issue other then to pretend the house is not on fire :/. The only true remedy for the latter is to modify human DNA to make them less narcissistic and opportunistic while removing any remaining territorial tribalism baked into the species. Basically humans are not an enlightened species as-is and would need modification to become so. Any ideas? Thoughts? Thanks in advance Julia.

  • @alexiapapadaki6243
    @alexiapapadaki6243 5 лет назад

    Just one thing.
    THANK you!

  • @paulaneary3662
    @paulaneary3662 5 лет назад

    Julia, one thing I am noticing is that as I change and get more comfortable with myself I am a bit more VOCAL about my opinions. Not mean, or pushy, just speak up a bit more. I am noticing people are not used to this especially from me. I am noticing people, primarily my family, doesn't know how to cope with the "new me" so to speak and it feels like they can't enjoy time with me now. Why is it, THE WHOLE WORLD is allowed to have opinions and tell me all about what they think, but when I decide I would like to have an opinion, and speak up about it, others are offended? Do people only want to hang around others who ONLY agree with then? Could you do a video on this?

  • @rainbowgurl245
    @rainbowgurl245 5 лет назад

    I love all your videos...u have no idea how much u are helping me 😢 Thank you 🙂 And I did share this video 🙂

  • @bonkahermitakaintjudge9228
    @bonkahermitakaintjudge9228 5 лет назад

    Another great presentation. Thanks again

  • @gezinathais6373
    @gezinathais6373 5 лет назад

    I can accomplish my goals, I will get better, I am ok the way I am.

  • @nevilledausab5686
    @nevilledausab5686 4 месяца назад

    Great video and great content indeed