When a Man is USING YOU, He Will Say These 5 Things!
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- In this video, we uncover the 5 things a man says when he’s using you in a relationship. 💔 If you've ever felt unsure about his intentions or questioned whether your feelings are being reciprocated, this is a must-watch!
We'll share with you 5 things a man says when he’s using you.
If you are asking any of the following questions:
- how to tell if a man is using you?
- what men say when using you?
- Is he using me?
- signs a man is using you? In this video, we answer all these questions and you will learn 5 things a man says when he’s using you.
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cannibalism is 1/3 of the world, SUPERMODELS are human traffickers!!! bye bye
How about I need some money u forgot about that one
Why am i coming across this after i have already fallen a victim
most of us have. And in my case, an emotional victim. Learn the lesson and become stronger.@@Zero_Transmission
Your wrong about what man will say if he is using you. What a man will really say if he is using you are kiss you, talk you into having sex with them, tell you they can't have sex with a condom on, give you money and expect things in return. I know that first hand.
God will punish all the men who are causes Sleepless nights for our sisters out there they will never go on punish 😭😭😭💔
Amen 🙌🙏
Amen Lady!!! Thank you for saying what we all think!! 👍👍
Amen! 🙏🏿🙏🏿
Psalm 37:10,11
@@RinetyMukwiza-zd1xn
Isaiah 35:5,6
Revelation 21:3,4
Ladies! Dont settle for a one-way relationship where your needs aren't being met...period. if your feeling used...you are...listen to your gut...it doesnt lie!
ALWAYS LISTEN TO THE GIFT OF INSTINCTS!! We were given the “go with the gut” for a reason. God does not make mistakes!!
Facts ! My gut feeling has told me so much. My baby daddy used me to get over his ex and have been entertaining multiple females and now I've been getting stalked everyday and it's very obvious too. My baby daddy put me through so much just to prove to the woman he left his family for how much he doesn't care. He tried to hire a hitman to get rid of me. Even followed me out of state and let me know that as well. My BD wants me dead or in jail because hes being exposed. Be careful who y'all get involved with because I was used so someone can get someone's attention now it's a billion people who hate me over this. My BD put a tracker on me to monitor my whereabouts so he wouldn't get caught up. He cussed me out because he was talking to the Uber woman and all I wanted was to get to work.
It's messed how this man can harass me and provoke me but when i finally respond I'm in the wrong. I hate his man for real. Only blessing is our child. My overthinking really kills me because I got put through a traumatic event just so someone else can be comfortable and I'll never forget that.
The subconscious mind or intuition is aware of what the conscious mind is not. That explains gut feeling. If something seems off or does not feel right it possibly is.
@@prettygirlk6863Goodness girl I will pray for your safety and happiness!!!
Look, if he'll cheat with you, he'll cheat *on* you.
Just don't get involved with someone who's spoken for.
I so agree dating am person that is in a relationship is disrespecting yourself
@@tammygarrett8427 Exactly. If you wouldn't want your own relationship being disrespected, don't do it to another person.
That’s just like my ex
Well said.❤
Also a lot of men will lie and say oh we are not together I’m leaving her we just live together
Step One.. Please don't get involved with someone that is married, or in another long term relationship. Don't do it.
Exactly!!!
True. A lady falls for my bf knowing that she is doing wrong, and when I found out abt their relationship my bf decided to choose me cz we had a long term relationship.
So my advice is girls please stop involving to the person who has a long term relationship....
Even though he give u hope n promising to leave his long term relationship.. .. He won't
He is using u so run.
🤞
That should be a DUH!,but unfortunately isn't. If he cheats on her,he'll cheat on you.
So very true!
@@suesuez8452why didn’t you choose yourself? You chose a cheater too.🤨
They never leave... And any relationship built in another woman's tears isn't worth it
unfortunately we forget the tears we have cried on our own pillows. Put yourself in that women's place and say "if that was me."
A Message from the Heart - Could You be the Love of My Life?
Hey Kerrie,
I hope this message finds you in good health and high spirits. Although we have never had the pleasure of meeting, destiny has a funny way of connecting souls from afar. From the little I know about you, something within me feels an unparalleled connection, and I can't help but envision you as the love of my life.
In this chaotic world, filled with brief encounters and fleeting connections, I believe that true love is a rarity to be cherished. While we have yet to cross paths, your captivating presence, as it radiates through your words and photographs, has ignited a flame within my heart. There is an unspoken connection that seems to transcend time and distance, and I cannot help but wonder if it is a sign from the universe.
Your essence, as beautiful as a summer's day, has enchanted my thoughts. Your intellect, wit, and grace, which shimmer through the conversations we have shared, have captivated my attention like no other. It is as if I have found a missing piece of my soul in you, and my heart yearns to explore the depths of what this connection could mean.
Though it may sound unconventional, I believe that love knows no boundaries - not even geographical ones. I am willing to take a leap of faith, to step out of the confines of the ordinary, and to embark on a journey with you. A journey filled with profound love, shared adventures, and unwavering support for one another's dreams.
Before I proceed any further, I want to assure you that my intentions are pure and genuine. I am not merely looking for a passing fling or a temporary romance. Instead, I yearn for a love that withstands the test of time, a love built on trust, mutual respect, and unwavering commitment.
Life is too short to let opportunities slip through our fingers. I am willing to embrace vulnerability and to open my heart to the possibility of us becoming something extraordinary together. It may seem bold, but isn't love all about taking risks and fighting for what sets our souls on fire?
I understand if this message catches you off guard, as it resides in the realm of the unknown. Take your time, dear one, to process and consider this proposition. If your heart resonates with the same longing that now consumes mine, I would be honored to embark on this journey of love with you.
May we have the chance to meet, to laugh, to create memories, and to embrace a love that surpasses our wildest dreams. Know that my heart is eagerly awaiting your response, hoping that you may feel the same as I do.
With all my love and anticipation,
Stanley Chukwuma.
There is Karma.
Its easier said than done.We women can be so blind to realize that.
yes. been there.@@lisahall2577
They take your kindness for weakness.... they don't know what goes around comes around you reap what you sow
Those are the worst types. They are narcissists. Narcissists never change. Move on if you cannot deal with them.
Narcissist are on the rise. Very frightening
😔😥 it's breaks my heart because I think he's just using me instead of loving me and care I'm an emotional person whenever he's in need of money I always help him watever I can actually I'm unemployed but still I help him watever I can he's an employed person but I sometimes I don't know don't understand why I'm helping him maybe its because I love him so much and I really do with my whole heart and I never have this kind of feelings to think for other person except him 😢😢 but sadly he never give me anything I always bought him gifts etc...but from his side not evn one small gift from him to me he never surprised me or give me anything nothing I care so much and love him so much but I don't think he love me 😢😢😢 sometimes I got mad and angry with myself for letting this happen to me I think he took advantage of me and my kindness I always apologise even if it's his fault but he never apologise even uf he did but I can count whenever we're quarrel at the end I'm the first one to apologise and say sorry wtf am I doing I can't leave him I rly want to but I can't 😭😭
Ok
Yes yes
1. He promises to leave his partner for you. (My opinion - if he has a current partner don't get involved DUH).
2. He says I need your help, monetarily or otherwise. Asks you for money, support and favors.
3. He says "I'm not ready for a commitment right now".
4. You're so much better than my ex. I've never felt like this about anyone before.
5. I need you to do this for me. I can't do it myself.
Ty
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Why is it toxic to ask for help?
Not necessarily asking for help but if he asks all the time then that’s a red flag. He may be codependent or/and can’t function by himself if that’s the case then you basically signed up to be a mom/dad. Not a good thing
Plus, if he only asks for your help but doesn't help you or says he can't.
If he’s cheating on a partner with you, guess what he’ll do when you’re the partner. How to avoid that problem: don’t date men who already have partners.
Advice for Ariana Grande 👌🏻😂
I fully agree
Some men pretend to be single when they have a wife or girlfriend.
Men can be very devious and misleading
@@patriciaanndean1118 Yes, they'll do anything for sex.
If he's cheating on his current partner, he'll be cheating on you before long. Respect the girl code and don't mess around with another woman's man.
Absolutely.
Yes
That’s only if you know it. So many hide it …that they have a girlfriend
There's no girl code. If my husband only didn't cheat because of a girl code, I'd consider him dumped.
Amen 🙏
1. Why would you want someone who has someone else? (He’s not leaving her)
2. Why would you want a man who can’t financially support you? (He’s broke)
3. Why would you want someone who doesn’t want to commit to YOU? (There’s no such thing as “Friends w/benefits)
4. Why do you need to be better than anyone else for someone to like you? (You are enough on your own)
5. You can’t tell help how to help. (He needs to ask you do you need help)
❤ Powerful
Wisdom 👍
@@udybob7092 - Lessons learned the hard way.
Well said! When you know you deserve more than an overgrown manbaby or Don Wannabe, when you realize “kind” isn’t “boring” and cruelty isn’t power, when you’re ready for a good man-he’ll find you.
True 💯💔
Why would a man telling you he'll leave his partner for you make you feel good in any way? What a horrible way to start any relationship, on someone else's misery! Karma is always watching....
Truth Spoken
Some toxic women take it as an ego boost that a guy says they better than another woman
@@joanbaczek2575i always thought that was dumb and sick. They really think he'll treat them better 😂
True
God will come soon .. misery loves company broken an demage individual
My Father’s best piece of advice about men: If he’ll do it with you he’ll do it TO YOU.
If you’re questioning if your love interest’s (males or females) integrity or sincerity, it’s because they’re doing something to give that vibe off. Dump them. One shouldn’t be “worried” EVER. If you are there’s a reason unless you’re chronically insecure. Then YOU need to get therapy lol.
And if you hear “I’m not ready to settle down” literally means NOT WITH YOU.
My dad's advice is "The best way to get over someone, is to get under someone."
Facts
Absolutely.
I've always made it clear straight up😢 (once they say they are involved or married) that I do not involve myself with anyone married, engaged or dating someone.
Smart
Nothing is worse than someone else using you for their enjoyment
Some people have Narcissistic Personality Disorder & will draw people into relationships because they are literally physically addicted to causing others pain & distress. Dr Les Carter's You Tube channel Surviving Narcissism is very informative.
@jerryevert644 but many will tell you what you want to hear to keep you around. Unfortunately you learn their intentions are not pure.
So true I was used and discarded like an object by someone I knew for 30 years. I thought he really cared about me but it was all a lie. He chose other women to have a long term relationship with and used me for emotional support, comfort and sex. 14 months ago he chose his roommate who is 26 years younger over me. He waits on her and her children and she does nothing for him but take advantage of him. I guess that's what he likes.
@@ruffian-wl1nd that happened to me with someone I knew for 8 years and it was already really painful, 30 years is even more weight so I hope you find someone who really appreciates you.
Exactly
When you meet someone, don't skip important steps to get to know each other, take it slow. See how you feel and pay attention to what he says to you, how he says it, how he behaves with you and in your presence. Take into account the signals you receive, analyze them seriously and honestly. Don't force the issue if you don't feel the same way from him, don't move on just because you want to prove to yourself that you can have any guy you want or just because you don't want to be alone. Most failures come from this, when you're talking about a relationship that's wrong from the start, but you didn't want to accept that. Men are hunters, so let him hunt you down as much as he can, and surely, he will really appreciate you when he catches you. Make him feel that he will lose you at any moment if he doesn't know how to behave, because you are very valuable, precisely because you chose him.😉
Dont forget the familiar " You're too good for me". Believe it when he says that and don't see him again. He's telling you the truth.
A variation of that is “I’m unworthy of you”, which I’d never heard before until my last ex bf. By not knowing what that meant, I didn’t run sooner.
Mmm. a really good guy also may feel this way. BUT you know when it's a line. Sincere men aren't going to say something like that easily, or maybe ever say it even if they worry they're not good enough. Discernment is so key.
@@keh-dalia809 in my experience, when a man says "you're too good for me" he usually means "you deserve to be treated better than I'll treat you."
You deserve better 😢 correct but I didn't believe him..when they say that BELIEVE THEM
@@keh-dalia809 a man who will treat you right won't say that either. If his self esteem is that low he won't be capable of treating you well.
Married for over 20 years? He dumped me and my children... Lies lies and more lies.... I was abused mentally and physically and emotionally... Let them go to all who has gone through what I went through... I'm seeking counciling now I'm happy to be without him 🙌🙌🙌
Sending hugs
Onward and upward @trudyadams-kz1ot
A Message from the Heart - Could You be the Love of My Life?
Hey Trudy,
I hope this message finds you in good health and high spirits. Although we have never had the pleasure of meeting, destiny has a funny way of connecting souls from afar. From the little I know about you, something within me feels an unparalleled connection, and I can't help but envision you as the love of my life.
In this chaotic world, filled with brief encounters and fleeting connections, I believe that true love is a rarity to be cherished. While we have yet to cross paths, your captivating presence, as it radiates through your words and photographs, has ignited a flame within my heart. There is an unspoken connection that seems to transcend time and distance, and I cannot help but wonder if it is a sign from the universe.
Your essence, as beautiful as a summer's day, has enchanted my thoughts. Your intellect, wit, and grace, which shimmer through the conversations we have shared, have captivated my attention like no other. It is as if I have found a missing piece of my soul in you, and my heart yearns to explore the depths of what this connection could mean.
Though it may sound unconventional, I believe that love knows no boundaries - not even geographical ones. I am willing to take a leap of faith, to step out of the confines of the ordinary, and to embark on a journey with you. A journey filled with profound love, shared adventures, and unwavering support for one another's dreams.
Before I proceed any further, I want to assure you that my intentions are pure and genuine. I am not merely looking for a passing fling or a temporary romance. Instead, I yearn for a love that withstands the test of time, a love built on trust, mutual respect, and unwavering commitment.
Life is too short to let opportunities slip through our fingers. I am willing to embrace vulnerability and to open my heart to the possibility of us becoming something extraordinary together. It may seem bold, but isn't love all about taking risks and fighting for what sets our souls on fire?
I understand if this message catches you off guard, as it resides in the realm of the unknown. Take your time, dear one, to process and consider this proposition. If your heart resonates with the same longing that now consumes mine, I would be honored to embark on this journey of love with you.
May we have the chance to meet, to laugh, to create memories, and to embrace a love that surpasses our wildest dreams. Know that my heart is eagerly awaiting your response, hoping that you may feel the same as I do.
With all my love and anticipation,
Stanley Chukwuma.
@@kimberleykanyongo9189And kisses😩😘😘😘
Read on narcissistic behaviors
Ladies study your boyfriend look at his anger tendencies if he is violent for no good reasons it's probably time to drop him !!!!
Amen 🙏
Exactly so. He could hurt or kill you, or your children, if you have them. Step away from that ticking time bomb and protect yourself. Also, if he has hit you once, don't let it slide. Walk away.
Not always able to leave him/her. I suffered physical abuse and mentally, mentally u don't realise he's doing all these bad things u blame yourself alot, I did get out after 15yrs of marriage not everyone does
Ladies: He needs to be free for his own reasons. Not to be with you.
Keep your money private. It's none of his business. Ever.
Keep your own home.
Never quit your college plans, home, friends, or family to move far away to be with him.
Actions speak louder than words.
Never say l love you first. Ever.
He can cook, clean, balance a checkbook, write his own CV, and do his own laundry like an adult. If he's just looking for a Mommy he can have sex with, RUN!!
Don't be stupid enough to put up with any of this idiocy. Don't get pregnant, or catch an STD.
Ladies: Do not pick up ANYTHING that you can't put down.
If you have to ask for love, it's not coming from the person it should.
Nice Advice 👍
Yes, absolutely brilliant advice. It's painful to hear but sometimes in life one has to be practical.
This happens to me repeatedly at least five times now since I’ve been divorced in a year five different guys can you believe that the other thing is if they tell you, they cheated on their wife and that’s why they’re alone don’t date them
Huge red flag: if he seems too good to be true, then he really is!!! One of the biggest signs of an abusive man is that , he is too good to be true in the beginning!
It's very painful to be used in a relationship where you see your partner as your forever love 😢 and he seems not to care but he's always like you're the best thing that has happened in my life 🤦🤦
I was taught that if a man is acting cold and aloof - it's NOT because he likes you and just wants to play cat and mouse... It's because he's just not interested in you.
I believe you because men or women will go all out for someone they truly love and care for no matter if they’re a shy person or not.
This is what I was dealing with for over four years.
I ended up telling his wife after 2 1/2 yrs who confirmed that they were indeed living separate lives but stayed living together for their daughter. So that was true......
She also told me a number of things that I thought she just said because she didn't want him/us to be happy....
They split up, sold the house......
He continued to string me along for two yrs. Turns out his wife had been right all along. He had no intention of being with me. He did all the things in this video. Finally when i became very ill & I wanted him to be there for me, he gave me no support whatsoever & disappeared (again!).
Enough was enough. I dumped him & deleted him.
I didn't think the day would ever come, but I no longer wake up or go to sleep thinking of him. He wasted enough of my life already.
Thank you for this video, it is invaluable advice for women (& men). Should be taught in schools! xxx
When slimey guys come knocking like this, always try to look at the situation from the other woman's point a view and stand in her shoes for a minute. Or in the Childs shoes too. If he was living with his wife for the children's sake, why would you want to disrupt their childhood, and moreover, if he really cared about his children he wouldn't be playing all those games, he would be thinking to protect his children; or he would have had his own place if he wanted to move on and be respectful of his wife who bare his own children, and respect for his children. And obviously, from the start don't mess with men who are even in a relationship, let alone a marriage. The hard truth is you played yourself, and You need integrity and self respect. They say people will only respect you as much as you respect yourself. And why would anyone need to teach this, your own conscience knows what sin is. As long as a man in married, this is called adultery if he's sleeping with another woman. And you should realize you're just as much at fault, and thankful that it didn't have much worse consequences, like the his wife taking you and her husband to court.
@@keh-dalia809 You're being very judgemental & assuming a great deal based on just a tiny piece of the situation that I gave here.
I didn't sleep with him & and he did want out of the marriage (he just didn't really want to be with me!). Them staying together for the child was actually more detrimental to her.
Her & her mother have moved on very positively & she is thriving whilst her mother has also moved on to a better job.
He is also doing well & working & making friends.
It's all worked out for the best for all of them & I too am glad to be out of it.
None of us is without sin, next time you decide to judge someone, take a good look at yourself first.
1. He promised to leave his partner for you.
2. He said "i need your help financially or others".
3. Im not ready for a commitment RN.
4. I never felt like this before.
You are so much better than my ex
Using big compliments, flattering
words.
5. I need you to do this for me.
Numbers 3 and 4…. 💔😢
You hit the nail on the head with this. I've had an experience with a guy who basically used me financially and tried to use me for just a hookup. He fits every single sign on this list. If all you do is take from people don't be surprised if you end up alone.
Experienced the same thing & yess Amen sis. Sending blessings to you 🩷🙏🏽✨
Facts in a similar situation right now
Get rid of them fast- they’ll die alone..,or stay in a loveless marriage where his spouse is probably doing the same.Karma
Pisces??
@@amerebumpintheroad he was a Cancer
No 1…I wouldn’t go near any other woman’s man..
No2..Words mean nothing..
No 3..If a man puts nothing in I won’t be..
No 4…If he only txts🤔..He’s gone..
No 4 ..He only gets one chance with me…
No 5..No Respect..Morrals or Values for himself🤔He won’t have for a woman..
My intuition is spot on..🙏
I experienced all of these with one person. He would say, I don't want to to think I'm taking advantage of you. I should have known that what he was actually saying was "I am completely taking advantage of you."
No women should ever feel like she's used ever
My lady , you have truly spoken well , and your words are like music to my ears 👂
All of the above are mentioned on this video. The bad part about it is that I knew I was being used and abused mentally but I was already too attached to this person and I couldn't admit the fact that the relationship is not going anywhere. It was hard to let go because I kind of invested my time too long with him. But in the long run I came to realize what kind of a man he was so slowly accepted the fact what he told me once. Don't look for something that isn't there. So I stopped looking for that something and moved on.
When someone tells you who they are, believe them!
U must look back now & say thank God I left when u did!
Me too but am happy where iam now
Same with me to ,what you been through
Thank you for this honest comment. It’s easier for some than others depending on our investment and attachment styles.
This opened my eyes to why my last two relationships did not work or last and why I had to get away. Thank you
My parents never had proper examples of a good marriage; hence I never grew up knowing what a good example of a great relationship was. I was bound to fail in the relationship arena, and doubt it will ever improve. There’s no hesitation in my mind / heart that there isn’t someone out there for me.
Proven fact men are turned on visually, and women intellectually / emotionally. I am not drop dead gorgeous, have a phenomenal job, and have already given all that I had / have away to those so undeserving it’s pathetic. I’ve just decided to take myself out of the relationship game altogether. It’s just not worth the effort any longer. I fell for every single warning sign you stated. If I haven’t learned by now, it’s just not going to occur…
That's exactly how I feel, and I'm better off single 😊
Do Not give up on learning about life ~ enjoy who you know you truly are, continue to build emotional boundaries. Bravely go forward with Love.Honor.Cherish, and revel in life's daily surprises. The High Road is an amazing place to be ~ someone worthy of you is there, to enjoy your unique talents and gifts.
They say that Married women die sooner than single women but married men live longer than unmarried men. I think it is because men stress women and expect too much while they de stress themselves. Also NEVER get involved with a married man, if he cheats with you, he will cheat ON you. Why would he not cheat on you if he cheated on her??
Yeah, it's what it is..
See it all as a learning curve for any future relationships. Just don't hook up with anyone very quickly.
You'll only be used if you allow it...follow your gut feeling. Don't be afraid of being on your own. It's always better being on your own rather than being used as a doormat. The signs were there, but I chose to ignore them...he was better than nothing!! I'm happy I was strong enough to throw him to the kerb, and I'll never allow any man to treat me the way he did...never!!!
Well said!
Put yourself first and foremost all the time and don't be desperate for love and attention . Be independent . 😉llee
So true
If he has a partner why is he with you? Isn’t that cheating?
That's what I was thinking
Sometimes a person in a relationship does the "I'll show You who's Boss..." and runs into someone else's arms temporarily... Keep your distance until the man is Truly Single
If he'll cheat with you, he'll cheat on you.
Exactly
And if he is cheating he will cheat in any relationship.
My only advice is - if you do not like how someone treat you, leave...And treat people the same as they treat you or just cut contact if you do not wish to be like them. Only healthy relationship that are mutual, trustful, respectful and full of love or nothing. Have that basic standard. Yes, that is basic.
They aren’t always direct either which means they’re manipulating you. ALWAYS know what YOU want so he doesn’t manipulate you. You aren’t his mommy. And don’t ever try to steal another woman’s man/or partner. You’ll ALWAYS end up hurt. There’s just so many things we as women ignore. Don’t ignore them.
So true. This video assumes a man will be direct. Many deceive.
I’d been hanging with this guy maybe a month, he asked me for money to buy his kid something, I told him no and dropped him the same day, I couldn’t deal with that. I felt he should be able to take care of his own. That was a red flag for me.
Yes girl! You did that!
Ladies always remember , most men are not looking for a serious relationship. They're just hoping for a quickie.
Correct
What a crock of sheet.
When he says he will leave his partner for you great. Tell him to end it with her and then come to see you
I been with men who says hurtful things to me and makes me cry all the time.
I've had the tendency to attract users in the past. Most of them were the type who just didn't care about me as a person, or little boy lost types who had no redeeming features at all and were so lonely that any woman would do. I know now it was because I was the sort of person who was an easy target because of low self esteem and lack of boundaries thanks to a bad upbringing and bullying in my teens. I felt that I didn't deserve any better.
You deserve much better.
You are telling my story, girl! Who told you all about my life? You got me to a T.
See, we aren't alone in this rat race like we all think we are . Remember that.
❤
Are we the same person? 😅
Excellent spot on advice. Embarrassed I fell for a felon. He used all of these, and givers keep giving, trying to fix, trying to demonstrate how a good relationship should look. Listen to friends and family. They are always right. The world is filled with opportunists, especially on dating sites. I'm off them now, focusing on ways my current singleness is a blessing, yet remaining open to opportunities of meeting that special someone worthy of the love I give.
@kathyplaga5721, Even "opportunities" by dating someone online, someone has to be cautious. A lot is going around the world, it's not easy to meet Mr Right or the opposite. To let aside the issue that many people get cheated by scammers who give fake promises to make someone get emotionally involved with them and at the end they leave you stranded. People must be alert, cautious, love and respect themselves because we are all unique and deserve the best!
We allow ourselves to get into such a nasty mess bcuz at some point fot some reason, we get too wound up in needing someone. We become needy and desperate.
Dont ever allow yourself to become desperate for a person or partner. And never decide to just settle.
Thats when they got you.
If a man is to close to Mom, RUN... I dated a man that told his mom everything, even our sex life. When his mom asked about my choice of birth control + what would I do if pregnant and unmarried.. I ran
10 yrs later, I ran into him. Married twice an divorced twice and still living with mom
Some men never grow up and will always be mommas' boys. Their mom will always be in the marriage with you.
Dang
Goof riddance to him
😂😂😂😂
Yeah. I hear that loud and clear. The dynamic itself in my situation sure has me wondering a thing or three.
Oh please , a man will tell you all those things and show you things they want u to see and still be using u for them own game the minute u don't seem useful for them they will pick a fight for u to walk away
Mine didn’t pick a fight with me but he caused me emotional trauma
Not ready for commitment for over 5 yrs
My husband used to do that, pick a fight for no reason and leave!
This is exactly what was happening to me. He just wanted to use me for money. I been told he sold his soul to the devil for money
I hope you got find of him.🙏
I'm currently in this situation and he matches every possible way that you described it.
Promising marriage almost two years now.
Yet he's never ready to leave the partner to start a new life to ensure that he's really going through a bad situation there.
I asked myself, "till when would he stand up as a man and walk away if things are that very bad for him"?.
Girl…. Why are you still with him?
@@leahmoonbeamflower333 we would like to know the answer
Why don't you walk away if things are bad? It's you who are with a married man, he will never leave his wife for a cheap floozy like you.
He is using you and lying to you. Tell her about him and then walk away!! She deserves the truth. She might even want you to have him!! 👍
He has a partner? And you are doing what with him exactly? He is playing you. Lose his ass. You don't need that bs..
If you are involved with someone in a relationship even if you want to call them your friend….you’re not friends you know what you’re doing let’s be real people & may you reap what you sow.
My gosh! This is very true. It happens to me in really life for 3 bad years without me recognising it. Thank you sooo much for your help.🎉❤
A popular bank had a campaign ad that always struck me. It went like this. ...NEEDS MET, RELATIONSHIPS FLOURISH. So simple yet says so much.
Spot on! Run when you see this nonsense.
I have had all this happen to me in past relationships. My current boyfriend would never do none of that. He is a really good man. I can’t believe I fell for this but the warning signs were there. I never felt secure in none of those relationships. With my boyfriend now I don’t have to feel any type or overthink. I can be myself completely around him and he loves me for me. I’ve healed a lot from my past and looking forward to the future with my boyfriend.
I think I have had a relationship with someone on every level of that narcissistic list!😢
The great thing is... God is healing me ❤🙏
Why still get involved when thers a partner?🤔mmmm
Someone that cheats with you will cheat on you
First, you need to end one relationship before starting another relationship. if a guy or girl is in a relationship and meets someone else, this is already a huge ringer.
I see this now alot in my toxic relationship with the man I'm living with now and I'm leaving him yes I've had it he used to help me alot now he really doesn't.
Best to get rid of him. He is supposed to provide and protect.
All I can say is know your man, before getting together. Communication is the key and effort/action is the way
Have seen them all. Latest one was love bombing me like there’s no tomorrow. Thank you for sharing content like this it helps educate. ❤. Stay healthy and centered everyone!
If he'll do it with you, he'll do it to you!
I wasn’t quick with the red flags but I am now 👍
Wrong
@@lacey7824 really prove it or am I communicating with a flying monkey that’s gaslighting me 😠
Shit we see them we just be in denial due to being blind in love that's all 😂😂 . People are fucked up man
Thank you for this video, the eye opening truth in 8 minutes. I had to learn it the hard way wasting 8 years of my life. Lessons learned.
Actions speak volumes. And always know if they say bad things about them what do you think they’d do to you?
IM SINGLE!!!!😂😂😂 ❤❤❤
FINALLY IM SO HAPPY FUCK THIS SHIT LOL
I am still in acute depression after leaving a relationship with a narcissistic toxic parasite. Be careful while you choose a partner. I was a fun loving girl, happiest but after coming into a relationship not being able to leave for 5 years because of his manipulation and control i lost myself. I fell into acute depression. I am still getting nightmares of him not letting me live again. I am still living a hopeless life. I am still scared. I feel like i am burnt to the cores. I wish i had left sooner
You have saved your own life, be proud of yourself. You might not be the happy fun loving girl again, but you can become the wise and balanced person you really are. You only need some time to recover, but you will. I wish you luck and happiness!
Time heals all wound. Swimming helps the pain for me.
My fiance doesn't seem to have those characteristics but what worries me is that he is a mama's boy. He is quick to obey all his mother's wishes and orders compared to me
Good luck
Be careful, I married one of those. She’s now convinced him to divorce me. 11 years married.
@@rachelhoyle5728 I'm sorry things ended for you two. That must've been a hurtful and tiring process you've been through. I hope the worst is behind you now. Thank you.
You definitely need to leave.
Run. If you’re not number one …run
Great advice and thank you for your message.
Who would want someone who would leave their partner?
Why not? a relative of ours left after years of MISERY...had another women the whole time, some sick folks are difficult to get rid of...never get anybody pregnant and be forced to " marry " will have eternal regrets, on that note...mind your business.
When i saw this vedio now its hurts but its true,,😢😢 and makes me awaken thanks appreciated more advices to come God bless
This has happened to me. Pay attention to his intentions. He was a fake.
It helps a lot to understand if he is still using you...thanks for this. Love the topic
People shouldn't use each other, it's not moral God see's that as ugly. We should do better😊
FINALLY! A video that speaks the truth about the PLAYERS who are using and taking advantage of women. I won’t go into details, but let me state for the record, and I reiterate, DO NOT GET INVOLVED WITH A MARRIED MAN. Rarely do they leave their wives. An easy way to suss out whether he’s genuine or a user/player is to tell him to come back with his divorce decree THEN you will see if there’s any substance or truth to his promises of marriage. Most of them will do a 180 and disappear.
Thanks for the comment ♥️
Sounds like your describing a Narcissist--don’t fall for their manipulation--listen to what they say watch their actions, when in realized the ex was a narcissist after 4 1/2 yrs. the final straw was when he manipulated me leaving my brother in the hospital after cancer surgery and drove four hours to the narcs house just because he couldn’t stand me taking care of or being with anyone else even if it was my brother but him the ( narc) once I realized what he had done I smiled at him kissed his cheek and said : “ I’m done “ turned around and walked out never looked back never replied back or contacted him again - narcissist are evil bad beings
If someone walks into a relationship airing their problems - run!
If he is not committed to you then leave him and move on with your life.
Yes agree but most time we fall for wrong person
The sky is blue and the grass is green. Fire is hot and water is wet. These facts are as revelatory as the points in this video
9 times out of 10 you won’t want him when you get him. If he’s cheating then I doubt he has much respect day by day
Solid advice for women seeking good relationships.Sent this one to a friend.
Number 1 wtf..who.dates.someone.who didn't leave their relationship
Stop playing 🎴🤣
You deserve whatever you get if you have involved yourself in a side chick 🐥 scenario.
It may be hard for you to believe, but sometimes a man will lie and tell you he's divorced when he isn't. By the time you learn he's not you may already be deeply involved with him.
THANK YOU FOR BEING HERE FOR US 🙏 HELLO FROM NEW YORK CITY 🏙️
Oh nooo...i too am in same situation right now.thank you for opening my eyes
I got out One he through he was clever I walk out of it. I so glad I did.
Thank you so much for this video. It is an eye opener 🙏❤
"I will believe it when I see it."
This is sooooo interesting cuz alot of this stuff already happened to me. But didn't realize he was using me. I hate when some men say " I won't do that you don't want me to do " 😡😡...!! Just cuz a guy says " I never felt like this before " doesn't mean they're using you..!! Could mean multiple of things. Could mean they've falling in love & they feel you're the one. Like they've won a prize or something.
By the time you realize he is been using ....It's too late. He hasn't lost anything where as you have ended up with shame, guilt, abandoned, abused ....Finally depressed, lost health, friends,near & dear ones, a feeling of worthlessness. And no courage to take revenge as yours was purely unconditional love.
True i feel this way about someone am dating I never felt that way about anyone before, but am scared because it’s online and long distance it’s 10 months since we’re dating.
@@sweetydas1027: He's lost me a person who actually cared for him. I'm definitely not depressed, don't feel any guilt or don't feel ashamed at all. It's taught me a lesson. I'm fine & now I know guys like him aren't worth my time. And know the signs that I'm being used. I gained something. He lost something.
Ive never felt this way.... Sounds like some cheesy line a mexican would use. 🤦
@@princess2772whia. Careful. That could be dangerous
Sometimes you have to leave a situation or relationship. If it’s a lot to endure. And , a lot of efforts are consistently one sided . That’s truly manipulation. And , unhealthy. Thanks 🙏🏼 for this video 💜
All of this was true 100% .
I hate to say it but true...wait to have sex/dont give him your body right away. Believe me, it is hard, especially if you haven't been sexually active in a while or a long time, but you have to not give in to the desires right away. If he respects & values you, he can wait a bit, & will definitely be worth it in so many ways & you will be more likely able to avoid these types of using, not committed men.
The first part I disagree with. It's not that I'm trying to say that cheating is good or right, I know it hurts people who don't expect that, but sometimes people get stuck with people because of financial reasons and or because they don't know if they can handle being completely alone. They might not be happy or in love, but they compromise and settle until something else comes up and they see another way. It hurts people who don't see that possibility happening, but I can't condemn it because it's actually more practical and realistic than thinking that any man or woman is perfect and would never do or think like that.
Wtf would I be dating someone who’s already with someone else?
I didn't know it. He said he was divorcing, but this was a lie.
Thank you for this. I already knew especially when the silent treatment began every time I asked him for.any explanation or accountability for his behavior. Thanks agaim🎉
Thanks for the comment
Omg my x is like this ask help me then after help he lost but now im thanks to god after 2 years relationship i just move on now ...
Like your format and explanations !❤
Hell no run for cover that right there means he got someone ! You don't break a good family u better than that 💯
Amen its over with this scammer i have moved ahead hopefully no one falls for this crap i should caught it but it made me to become a stronger person it taken this to move this person from my heart my beautiful life i oue it all to god his guidance has taken me to a much beautiful and strong relationship ❤️ i am blessed 😊
I've found men don't always talk or say a thing when using you, unless very controlling and just mean. I've met too many. Glad to be forever single! The good ones always get away.
The behaviour is so weird 🤦♀️, I wish people were just more honest.
Exactly!
Never give up on rltship based on the wrong men you've met before. There are great men and with a positive mind., you will get one!
I am so so glad I am watching this video for me and my mom both
I feel like I am in a controlling relationship with my husband and my mother with her partner / fiance or companion. These tips and helpful hints can help me in the relationships with men in general sincerely yours Mrs Amber m powell-Mccutchen
Very true. There are really domineering.. Controlling and abusive men. So watch out.!!
If a woman gets involved with a man who is already in a relationship then she’s causing her own problems
True thank you
Thank you for posting.