Needed this. My partner isn’t having the best day and I was NOT supportive bc I was triggered. Taking accountability as we speak so I can be better for him in our journey. Thank you two!
You’re so welcome! It’s common to have minor setbacks in a relationship, and it’s awesome that you’re holding yourself accountable. Wishing you two the best.
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Thank you so much. I truly did not know what to do and in return, I reacted negatively towards him. Everything you all have said is exactly what my boyfriend and I are going through.
It’s more common than you think… I’m glad this hit home for you and this convo gives you a deeper perspective to learn how to handle certain situations better for the future 🖤
Thank you for sharing this, this is very helpful advice. My partner's mother recently passed away and we are enduring challenging times. I am trying to be supportive while still allowing her to grieve and being able to express her emotions. I can tell that this situation will make our relationship stronger but I have had to learn to put my ego aside and not take her emotions/attitude as a personal attack during this tough time. ❤
Exactly what i needed! Thank you guys, just had a conflict with my partner bcs he is so stressed from work. I didnt know how to support him.. but i think i do know now! Thanks for sharing, God bless your relationship!
You are very welcome! and yes, the content that we make is to serve as reminders of the things we can do better in our relationships from both peoples perspective... its a journey and we can all continue to learn and grow as our relationship/marriage continues to mature
I came here looking for answers about the challenges I have in my relationship. I have a boyfriend of 2 years now. In the beginning, he had everything--friends, car, business is doing well and it's generally good. But I guess, he had a lot bad guidance and influences that led him into doing strings of bad decisions until a point where he lost everything , except me. I was fighting hard on my side to stay with him. I supported him, emotionally and physically and financially as much as I could. I'd even lost about 9 kg almost, going through all the stresses and challenges. I even almost gave up on him, but I stayed through thick and thin. I was not perfect tho, there were moments where his "bad decisions and mistakes " got me to the point of screaming crying begging. That at times, I'd cry or question him, I'd doubt his abilities, and even tell him he is "no good. " that I regretted being with him.. So Im here, to really know how to properly handle him and his dealings. because I really love him. And I really want to be the support he needs. I wanna make it right. Stay by his side through all of it.
Thank you for the openness in your comment. First, he needs to respect and value your loyalty for wanting to help him through this tough time. If he values your commitment than he should value your words. Yall have to have deep heart to heart conversations about what is going to bring happiness, peace, and productivity individually and together as a couple. Encourage him to write down his goals… what does he see for himself in a 1 year plan, 5 year plan, 10 year plan. This exercise can be done by both you to discuss what your goals are. This provides context as to what is important to both of y’all, as well as understand how to move forward as a couple to get through tough times. This is just an example of something that can help, but it all begins with healthy communication together. Best of luck to you both!
Thank you! We think talking to your partner about what your noticing. I.e his patterns, how he chooses to communicate. Also, getting to the root of why he isn’t expressing fully whether that’s discussing any trauma or past history that has caused him to become guarded. Lastly, letting him know how it makes you feel when he doesn’t fully open up. These recommendations won’t change things overnight but with consistent work we really hope it helps! 🙂
It seems like the subject of the video got missed. The importance of bringing up the issue is very emphasized but not what should come after, nothing particularly helpful on the supporting aspect other than "sit and listen and let them be sad". Personally looking for something to help my partner with being more empathetic and emotionally supportive when I try to communicate to them that I am struggling with something, this did not help.
We really can't change the person, but can only work on ourselves and encourage them by showing a loving example of improvement. I used to wish my husband would be my therapist, but he couldn't be. All I could do was improve myself and what was interesting is that he started to want to improve too. Not everyone will improve when they see a good example, but some will. When I'm overwhelmed I let him know I need help in the calmest way I can and usually he helps. Do your best and communicate clearly and see how your partner responds. It takes time and practice, but if they've are a decent person, they'll most likely start to catch on. Improvement can take time, so be patient and show your appreciation for the little things he does for you and focus on the positive. That has helped me a lot. You can also find a good support group to help you improve yourself, so you can not feel alone if you don't feel your needs are being met. Take care of yourself and connect yourself to God, if you believe in God, and then good people who are inspiring and uplifting. If your inner light is bright, it will spread and help your partner, even if it takes time
Sometimes my partner gets upset. I always try to be supportive, but she gets annoyed by it. I don't know what to do. every single time she gets angry. She believes that I am not emotionally available. I really want to help. I want to understand her. but I fail every time. Help me, please.
So sorry to hear that. Maybe you can express to her that you want to better understand how she is feeling and ask her to explain how you’re showing up as emotionally unavailable when she’s upset? Ask how you can better support her when she’s upset? Perhaps, by posing the conservation this way there will be some resolve. Hope this helps and wishing you two the best. 🙏🏾
@@TheYamborsI have the same problem as this person above me I did ask her how I can help and she said I should know already and that’s she doesn’t have to tell me how to help her so I feel really stuck. I fail everytime
@@Chris-gh6ux im in the same situation as u - though im the gf in the situation. has she expressed to u what she needs before? i have with my partner and i get pretty angry at him because i constantly have to remind him.
@@trint.eyes she has. Kinda like how you’re saying having to be reminded a lot. What do you I should do? I always ask if she’s okay but sometimes I can tell something happened and sometimes she doesn’t tell me until the next day idk why. I ask a couple times “what is it babe what’s wrong?” And she doesn’t wanna tell me for some reason. I feel stuck that I can’t help her out smh I just wanna be there for her.
im sorry i wast good at letting you feel your emotions Jonny. i got forced into the regulator role as a child so i think im doing good by directing and thabim sure shit uiu down
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Needed this. My partner isn’t having the best day and I was NOT supportive bc I was triggered. Taking accountability as we speak so I can be better for him in our journey. Thank you two!
You’re so welcome! It’s common to have minor setbacks in a relationship, and it’s awesome that you’re holding yourself accountable. Wishing you two the best.
same omg i feel so bad
Glad you got value from this as well 🖤 make sure to subscribe and listen to some of our other convos that might bring value for you and your relationship 😁🙏🏽
Thank you so much. I truly did not know what to do and in return, I reacted negatively towards him. Everything you all have said is exactly what my boyfriend and I are going through.
It’s more common than you think… I’m glad this hit home for you and this convo gives you a deeper perspective to learn how to handle certain situations better for the future 🖤
Thank you for sharing this, this is very helpful advice. My partner's mother recently passed away and we are enduring challenging times. I am trying to be supportive while still allowing her to grieve and being able to express her emotions. I can tell that this situation will make our relationship stronger but I have had to learn to put my ego aside and not take her emotions/attitude as a personal attack during this tough time. ❤
Exactly what i needed! Thank you guys, just had a conflict with my partner bcs he is so stressed from work. I didnt know how to support him.. but i think i do know now! Thanks for sharing, God bless your relationship!
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This helps more than you'll ever know. thank you so much.
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Thanks for making this video guys, I really needed to hear this. I am trying to show up better for the woman I love ❤️
You are very welcome! and yes, the content that we make is to serve as reminders of the things we can do better in our relationships from both peoples perspective... its a journey and we can all continue to learn and grow as our relationship/marriage continues to mature
I came here looking for answers about the challenges I have in my relationship. I have a boyfriend of 2 years now. In the beginning, he had everything--friends, car, business is doing well and it's generally good. But I guess, he had a lot bad guidance and influences that led him into doing strings of bad decisions until a point where he lost everything , except me. I was fighting hard on my side to stay with him. I supported him, emotionally and physically and financially as much as I could. I'd even lost about 9 kg almost, going through all the stresses and challenges. I even almost gave up on him, but I stayed through thick and thin. I was not perfect tho, there were moments where his "bad decisions and mistakes " got me to the point of screaming crying begging. That at times, I'd cry or question him, I'd doubt his abilities, and even tell him he is "no good. " that I regretted being with him.. So Im here, to really know how to properly handle him and his dealings. because I really love him. And I really want to be the support he needs. I wanna make it right. Stay by his side through all of it.
Thank you for the openness in your comment. First, he needs to respect and value your loyalty for wanting to help him through this tough time. If he values your commitment than he should value your words. Yall have to have deep heart to heart conversations about what is going to bring happiness, peace, and productivity individually and together as a couple. Encourage him to write down his goals… what does he see for himself in a 1 year plan, 5 year plan, 10 year plan. This exercise can be done by both you to discuss what your goals are. This provides context as to what is important to both of y’all, as well as understand how to move forward as a couple to get through tough times. This is just an example of something that can help, but it all begins with healthy communication together. Best of luck to you both!
Okay but how do I support my partner?????
Great video ! What can you do if your partner is not expressing fully why he’s struggling example short answers
Thank you! We think talking to your partner about what your noticing. I.e his patterns, how he chooses to communicate. Also, getting to the root of why he isn’t expressing fully whether that’s discussing any trauma or past history that has caused him to become guarded. Lastly, letting him know how it makes you feel when he doesn’t fully open up. These recommendations won’t change things overnight but with consistent work we really hope it helps! 🙂
Excellent advice!!!
Subscribed, great video!
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Having a tough day today. It is going well though. Thank you for your content.
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It seems like the subject of the video got missed. The importance of bringing up the issue is very emphasized but not what should come after, nothing particularly helpful on the supporting aspect other than "sit and listen and let them be sad". Personally looking for something to help my partner with being more empathetic and emotionally supportive when I try to communicate to them that I am struggling with something, this did not help.
We really can't change the person, but can only work on ourselves and encourage them by showing a loving example of improvement. I used to wish my husband would be my therapist, but he couldn't be. All I could do was improve myself and what was interesting is that he started to want to improve too. Not everyone will improve when they see a good example, but some will. When I'm overwhelmed I let him know I need help in the calmest way I can and usually he helps. Do your best and communicate clearly and see how your partner responds. It takes time and practice, but if they've are a decent person, they'll most likely start to catch on. Improvement can take time, so be patient and show your appreciation for the little things he does for you and focus on the positive. That has helped me a lot. You can also find a good support group to help you improve yourself, so you can not feel alone if you don't feel your needs are being met. Take care of yourself and connect yourself to God, if you believe in God, and then good people who are inspiring and uplifting. If your inner light is bright, it will spread and help your partner, even if it takes time
Thanks for this summary, I'm looking for the same answers.
Sometimes my partner gets upset. I always try to be supportive, but she gets annoyed by it. I don't know what to do. every single time she gets angry. She believes that I am not emotionally available. I really want to help. I want to understand her. but I fail every time. Help me, please.
So sorry to hear that. Maybe you can express to her that you want to better understand how she is feeling and ask her to explain how you’re showing up as emotionally unavailable when she’s upset? Ask how you can better support her when she’s upset? Perhaps, by posing the conservation this way there will be some resolve. Hope this helps and wishing you two the best. 🙏🏾
@@TheYamborsI have the same problem as this person above me I did ask her how I can help and she said I should know already and that’s she doesn’t have to tell me how to help her so I feel really stuck. I fail everytime
@@TheYamborsi need your advice on what I should do I hope you respond have a great day.
@@Chris-gh6ux im in the same situation as u - though im the gf in the situation. has she expressed to u what she needs before? i have with my partner and i get pretty angry at him because i constantly have to remind him.
@@trint.eyes she has. Kinda like how you’re saying having to be reminded a lot. What do you I should do? I always ask if she’s okay but sometimes I can tell something happened and sometimes she doesn’t tell me until the next day idk why. I ask a couple times “what is it babe what’s wrong?” And she doesn’t wanna tell me for some reason. I feel stuck that I can’t help her out smh I just wanna be there for her.
Video is so true! Thanks for sharing ❤️
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thanks this helps a lot
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Thanks this is helpful.
You’re so welcome!
thanks 🙏🏼
im sorry i wast good at letting you feel your emotions Jonny. i got forced into the regulator role as a child so i think im doing good by directing and thabim sure shit uiu down
Great advice!
Thanks Rahwa! Being present for each other in times of need are vital. And builds that trust that they are willing to support and be there 🖤
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Thanks for subscribing!! I’ll take a look at your content in the coming months and see if we align in mindset and perspective on things. If so we can collab and vice versa u could be on our podcast. But this would be months down the line to be transparent if this happens