How can we stop being triggered by tone of voice? | The Dr. Cloud Show - Episode 136
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- Опубликовано: 11 сен 2024
- In this segment of The Dr. Cloud show, Wendy has found that she overreacts to people's tone. She takes tone personally and intensely. How can she desensitize herself to getting triggered and caught by surprise.
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Wow, drinking game- some people are not interested in conflict resolution, their end goal is to look cool- "Critical?, name them, process, feeling is only supposed to last 90 seconds or so, named, understood, deal with it. Play a game to see how long it's going to be that they'll say something to make them look cool"! Some of these in my family. Thank you so much Dr Cloud! Great identifying, and great tools😊 I so need this, reprogramming! Then dont allow encounter to get reinforced by dwelling on it, just let it float on down the river, distract yourself, call a friend, etc, no value in dwelling on it. Psalms 101😊
You are sooooo right when you say it’s going to help a lot of people. I am this person who doesn’t trust her husband and is super sensitive with his tone of voice ☹️
My husband and I have experienced this for 20 yrs. His mother would get angry to control and manipulate. My tendency is to get angry when I feel unheard/unimportant. Therefore, he hears my tone and gets triggered and I see his response and is triggered. In a marriage it is difficult to minimize our interaction. We have to deal with our own traumas and issues otherwise it continues to resurface.
Sounds like a Indian mother
I REALLY like the browsers analogy. It makes so much sense. That is food for thought. Very useful. Thank you so much Dr Cloud. I doubt you will ever know how much you have just helped me.
When I read Psalms 101 I noticed what I will do to distract myself from this gaslighting. It says I will sing of your love justice and praise. I will be careful to live a blameless life. I will conduct my affairs blameless. I will not look with approval ... I will have no part of it. Etc. Thank you thank you thank you
This is so great! I took your Boundaries class at church a few years ago when I was going through an unwanted divorce and it was INVAUABLE in my healing thank you so much!
I get triggered by my mom who is critical and inconsiderate. I've clearly outlined my boundaries with her which she is respecting which is great! However, I still get triggered by her overall critical spirit so I have chosen to limit my time with her which is working. I consistently pray for God to show me what my part is and to help me guard my mouth and emotions when I'm with my mom and the Holy Spirit is definitely helping me with this.
That was a very insightful conversation. Blessings, Frank
Wow Dr Cloud!!! Loved that dog analogy and the advice to prepare for the persons bad comments that trigger. So good.💖 Thankful the Lord gave her a kind man to love her through her traumas.
This is one of the very very valuable teaching from you.....thank you so much Dr Cloud. EFT Tapping is one of the tools I use for processing my 'stuffed in' stuff.
Trying to understand condescending phrasing, communication and speech. Listening to this demonstrates the definitive phrasing and declaring absolutes. All men are... Everyone is... You have to....They always... living in constant reaction and defense. Thank you for airing these calls. I have been programmed like this. It is enlightening to listen to the caller and hear myself. I have always looked for someone to blame. Great to hear; step back and get a visual on self understanding.
Wendy mentioned her husband had been a narcissist. We have this in common.
I'm going to pray for Wendy.
I'm so blessed to have found Dr Henery cloud
WOW! So very amazingly helpful!!! Thanks so much Dr.Cloud.
Really good topic and helpful Dr Cloud. I still get triggered by surprise sometimes with the tone of someone's voice or comment and even tho I have done alot of processing in my life on much trauma, there is one particular area of betrayal and rejection that keeps popping up and when it does it still triggers some very deep pain. It's very upsetting because i really try to guard my heart but I think sometimes that my being too open and trustworthy of people too soon, has really hurt me and I'm caught off guard. I'm planning on processing some of these things soon with a therapist.
My past experiences are always bleeding into today
Thank you, just thank you! Just found your channel.
I am very sensitive to when people say my name in a condencending tone. They are exclusive in their social interactions, excluding me, putting their back to me, etc. Then they tell me they think I'm rude. ??? Then, when I make an effort to greet them or wish them well, they respond in a snotty, curt tone of voice. What the heck???
Great lesson. Thank you 😊
This certainly has been helpful to me. Bless you both
So so good!! Thank you 🙏🏼
That was so helpful!!
What if your the person that tells the other person hard things and that person accuses you of being critical, trying to shame them or not accepting them? When you get accused of that enough you start to feel like you are walking on egg shells.
*you’re
What if the hurtful (harsh, angry, critical, etc) person is a parent you can't avoid?
Oh, but you CAN!
Thanks, Dr. I get so much out of your videos.
It helped me. Thank you!
Great info 🙌🏻🌞
I have a whole lot of work to do on myself.!
What if the only place you have this problem is at home with your spouse?
Agreed, me too
Why does he constantly interrupt? Why not give them 5 minutes to share and then talk.
I think because he’s not just having a two person conversation
I get easily irritated
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Dr Cloud, why do you interrupt so much? Let her share her feelings!