I was praying to God to help me confront someone with love and a respectful way and God is so good that I came across this video. It helped me... gave me courage. I listened yesterday Saturday and went to church to confront a fellow believer today Sunday and I felt a bit nervous but I pushed through it. It felt good to set my boundary and let them know that they crossed mine and did not respect how I felt. They apologized and said they will not do it again.
“It’s the more assertive people that tend to be abandoned or left less. It’s the more compliant people that….the other person loses respect and then…it diminishes your sense of power in the relationship in a good way…and they just dont feel like ultimately they’re getting anything anymore.” 🤯🤯🤯
Awesome Advice Dr. Cloud 👍 I Also Think She Is Being Too 'Open' About Herself And Her Life. That Is Causing Them To Lose Respect For Her As A Professional And Not Taking Her Seriously. They See Her As A Lonely Person Who They Need To Help Not Realizing She Is There To Help Them In A Professional Manner. And I Agree She Needs To Grow Her Cliental And Then She Won't Feel Like She Has To Rely On Them For A Paycheck
See my problem is I overthink about pleasing the other person. Plus I think that my tone of voice needs work, as many people seem to take what I’m saying the wrong way, as many times the other person takes what I say completely not how I intended it to be.
I suggest that the trainer set up guidelines, in writing, with her clients before the first meeting or during the first meeting about how they will work together. Include why the guidelients are in place. When a boundary is crossed, remind the client about guidelines.
Oh wow! I can’t believe you have a RUclips channel. I’m such a big fan and I recommend, share and gift your book for years. I’d love to work with you. I’m a relationship coach now. 🙏🏽. Thanks for your help.
What's best for them? It's what you do with kids, also. I think most would appreciate that you really want what's best for them. If they don't continue, I'm sorry.
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People pleasing is a trap. We must learn to know what our own boundaries are and learn to live by them.
I was praying to God to help me confront someone with love and a respectful way and God is so good that I came across this video. It helped me... gave me courage. I listened yesterday Saturday and went to church to confront a fellow believer today Sunday and I felt a bit nervous but I pushed through it. It felt good to set my boundary and let them know that they crossed mine and did not respect how I felt. They apologized and said they will not do it again.
... to the degree that you need somebody, you'll be less helpful.... I need to learn to be ok with them walking away
“It’s the more assertive people that tend to be abandoned or left less.
It’s the more compliant people that….the other person loses respect and then…it diminishes your sense of power in the relationship in a good way…and they just dont feel like ultimately they’re getting anything anymore.” 🤯🤯🤯
There was a lot of wisdom in this exchange that I needed to hear. Thank you, Dr. Cloud!
Yes people pleasing is an entrapment.
Awesome Advice Dr. Cloud 👍 I Also Think She Is Being Too 'Open' About Herself And Her Life. That Is Causing Them To Lose Respect For Her As A Professional And Not Taking Her Seriously. They See Her As A Lonely Person Who They Need To Help Not Realizing She Is There To Help Them In A Professional Manner. And I Agree She Needs To Grow Her Cliental And Then She Won't Feel Like She Has To Rely On Them For A Paycheck
"You're paying me for my professional expertise...I wouldn't be being fair to you to let you slide."
These are clients. Keep your private life private. (to the degree you feel you need to.). 🗝️☑️
See my problem is I overthink about pleasing the other person. Plus I think that my tone of voice needs work, as many people seem to take what I’m saying the wrong way, as many times the other person takes what I say completely not how I intended it to be.
I suggest that the trainer set up guidelines, in writing, with her clients before the first meeting or during the first meeting about how they will work together. Include why the guidelients are in place. When a boundary is crossed, remind the client about guidelines.
Gentle is my prayer these days
Oh wow! I can’t believe you have a RUclips channel. I’m such a big fan and I recommend, share and gift your book for years. I’d love to work with you. I’m a relationship coach now. 🙏🏽. Thanks for your help.
Thank you Dr Cloud …. Thank you so much….
Very practical.
So helpful. Thank you.
This was very helpful! Thank you kindly
Always helpful
Your the best !!! So many great ideas !!! We need to focus on something that’s going to help … so good … This will be a good place to grow …
Well - it depends what's her priority. Does she want her client's money or does she want to improve their client's health?
Let's face it. You just can't get along with everyone 😁
What's best for them? It's what you do with kids, also. I think most would appreciate that you really want what's best for them. If they don't continue, I'm sorry.
Good Boundaries and Goodbyes by Lysa TerKeurst!
Thank you! I’m the same way 😊
#BusinessBoundaries
#Don'tGetTOOfamiliar
#WithGRACEseparateBusinessFromPleasure
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#STAYFocusedOnTHEPLANforTheirBestRESULTS
What if someone is like a train? They steam roll right along no?
A good rule, don't mix business with pleasure.
Clients aren't family...
Find your family in your spiritual community...