I am glad to hear you say that!! “Terrible twos “.. I am the only one I know that absolutely LOVES the 2-3 yr age group!! They are trying to go all over.. trying to learn to communicate in words.. get frustrated… keep trying… it’s a beautiful age to me! Finally I “meet” another person that agrees! Haha ❤
Thank you so much for being the person you are. I have had basically no contact with my two adult daughters and my 14 and nine-year-old granddaughters due to being extremely codependent with narcissistic fleas stuck to me. I did not see it. A year ago my oldest daughter cut some of the cord and I was devastated. However, it opened my eyes to the generations of mother daughter behavior in my bloodline. I needed to change. So but I was unsure how. I found you and a woman on youtube and have been working diligently on me and my own identity. And, today my youngest daughter contacted me and wanted to talk, I’ve watched every thing you have out there and I seek the Lord daily. I want them to know that they are free to be themselves and I am free to be me and we are always a family. Thank you again for sharing your wisdom
Thank you for your honesty. I have dysfunction in myself and foo, am desiring to grow, learn, have healthier responses. Sounds like you have come a long ways.
@@sh6460 it’s hard and you’re gonna ugly cry a lot! But every time, God steps in and fills me with healing. The next day I feel stronger and think, I’ve got it, until the next realization and it’s back to ugly crying and healing it’s been the hardest most incredible time in my life. I am making healthy boundaries for myself and learning my identity. I’ve been at it since last July 4. If you ever want to chat. I am here. ✨
My parents broke my will. There was no self governance allowed. Even my intimate thoughts (journal) were raided and I was punished for my thoughts. Then when I needed it, I didn’t have it to defend myself out in the real world. I am embarrassed to explain how passive I was in close personal relationships because it doesn’t match my outward persona. After coming out of an extremely bad marriage with a covert narcissist (he is SO charming and gentle in public and compulsively networks and collects people in his fan club…but none of these people will ever meet the real him), I finally laid my will down at God’s feet and asked Him to take my life. For many years, I was afraid to submit to God - I thought He would abuse me like my parents and my two intimate partners had. Turns out, the reward for laying down your will before God is FREEDOM from control by anyone or anything in this world. Imagine that!!! I no longer feel the need to please anyone who isn’t God. I trust Him to give me discernment about people and to set me on the right path so that I can make better decisions for myself.
Thank you so much for sharing your wisdom and knowledge with us on this RUclips format. I know I've been blessed by your work for years. I pray God's continued blessing on your life.
Wow you really hit home plate to my Heart. I never really got to choose God for myself. Like the example grandfathered in powerful point of reference. Hmmm food for thought 🤔 Can you make a video explaining that a little more in depth I grew up with alot of religious trauma.
I came from a awful home. At 14 I figured out how I could leave their home early. So I graduated early and went to college. They continued to be controlling as I was still only 17. I got married at 19, figuring that THAT would force them to change. It didn't in many, many areas of my life. When I was in ED tx for the 10th time (I went to tx as an adult as no kid of their's needed to see a therapist, etc) I came to the realization that because they hadn't and foreseeable future showed no change of them - I cut the umbilical cord. It was sad, difficult and uncomfortable for me for a while. And then I started getting to make my own decisions "without feeling guilty." I also learned that guilt is AN EMOTION not a medical condition!! I even had to tell my mother this when so many of her statements started with: "I feel so guilty...." I also had to let her know that it's not "one glass of wine when you keep filling it!" Today I still struggle with my illness (ED, etc) but just day's before I'll be 49, I'm healthier than I ever was under their care. GREAT message Doc!!!
@JesusSaves77799 I apologize for my poor communication. ED is Eating Disorder and tx is treatment. Thank you for asking me to clarify what I was trying to say 🫶
I am glad to hear you say that!! “Terrible twos “.. I am the only one I know that absolutely LOVES the 2-3 yr age group!! They are trying to go all over.. trying to learn to communicate in words.. get frustrated… keep trying… it’s a beautiful age to me! Finally I “meet” another person that agrees! Haha ❤
I was that way too! I loved the 2 year old stage, didn’t like the phrase “terrible twos”!
Exactly. My two boys were adorable during that 2, 3 year old age.
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Thank you so much for being the person you are. I have had basically no contact with my two adult daughters and my 14 and nine-year-old granddaughters due to being extremely codependent with narcissistic fleas stuck to me. I did not see it. A year ago my oldest daughter cut some of the cord and I was devastated. However, it opened my eyes to the generations of mother daughter behavior in my bloodline. I needed to change. So but I was unsure how. I found you and a woman on youtube and have been working diligently on me and my own identity. And, today my youngest daughter contacted me and wanted to talk, I’ve watched every thing you have out there and I seek the Lord daily. I want them to know that they are free to be themselves and I am free to be me and we are always a family. Thank you again for sharing your wisdom
Thank you for your honesty. I have dysfunction in myself and foo, am desiring to grow, learn, have healthier responses. Sounds like you have come a long ways.
@@sh6460 it’s hard and you’re gonna ugly cry a lot! But every time, God steps in and fills me with healing. The next day I feel stronger and think, I’ve got it, until the next realization and it’s back to ugly crying and healing it’s been the hardest most incredible time in my life. I am making healthy boundaries for myself and learning my identity. I’ve been at it since last July 4. If you ever want to chat. I am here. ✨
The great news is that you became self aware, so I congratulate you ❤😊🎉
Good word, thx Henry!!
My parents broke my will. There was no self governance allowed. Even my intimate thoughts (journal) were raided and I was punished for my thoughts. Then when I needed it, I didn’t have it to defend myself out in the real world. I am embarrassed to explain how passive I was in close personal relationships because it doesn’t match my outward persona. After coming out of an extremely bad marriage with a covert narcissist (he is SO charming and gentle in public and compulsively networks and collects people in his fan club…but none of these people will ever meet the real him), I finally laid my will down at God’s feet and asked Him to take my life. For many years, I was afraid to submit to God - I thought He would abuse me like my parents and my two intimate partners had. Turns out, the reward for laying down your will before God is FREEDOM from control by anyone or anything in this world. Imagine that!!! I no longer feel the need to please anyone who isn’t God. I trust Him to give me discernment about people and to set me on the right path so that I can make better decisions for myself.
Dr. Cloud is an amazing counselor in several areas.
Gosh this is so good .
Thank you Dr Cloud.
Thank you so much for sharing your wisdom and knowledge with us on this RUclips format. I know I've been blessed by your work for years.
I pray God's continued blessing on your life.
This is SOOOO Great!!!
Thanks, needed to hear this today.
This is SO right on!
Wow you really hit home plate to my Heart. I never really got to choose God for myself. Like the example grandfathered in powerful point of reference. Hmmm food for thought 🤔 Can you make a video explaining that a little more in depth I grew up with alot of religious trauma.
I came from a awful home. At 14 I figured out how I could leave their home early. So I graduated early and went to college. They continued to be controlling as I was still only 17. I got married at 19, figuring that THAT would force them to change. It didn't in many, many areas of my life. When I was in ED tx for the 10th time (I went to tx as an adult as no kid of their's needed to see a therapist, etc) I came to the realization that because they hadn't and foreseeable future showed no change of them - I cut the umbilical cord. It was sad, difficult and uncomfortable for me for a while. And then I started getting to make my own decisions "without feeling guilty." I also learned that guilt is AN EMOTION not a medical condition!! I even had to tell my mother this when so many of her statements started with: "I feel so guilty...." I also had to let her know that it's not "one glass of wine when you keep filling it!" Today I still struggle with my illness (ED, etc) but just day's before I'll be 49, I'm healthier than I ever was under their care. GREAT message Doc!!!
Hi! What is ED tx please? Thanks! 🌸
@JesusSaves77799 I apologize for my poor communication. ED is Eating Disorder and tx is treatment. Thank you for asking me to clarify what I was trying to say 🫶
Thankyou very much that was very helpful reinforcement of what I am learning. I would love to hear you teach on church/spiritual abuse
How can I miss you if you never go away 😂😂😂😂