Why Do Men Think About Sex All the Time?
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- Опубликовано: 2 июл 2024
- Ever wondered why men seem to be thinking about sex all the time? Join us as we dive into the profound depths of human sexuality and its spiritual significance. From St. Paul's insights to the profound teachings of St. John Paul II's Theology of the Body, discover how our fascination with sex is ultimately a quest for God. Learn how to navigate this longing for transcendence and redirect it towards its true fulfillment. Don't miss this eye-opening exploration into the divine mystery behind our most primal urges.
00:00 What Are We Looking For?
00:59 How Do We Find God?
01:50 A Holy Fascination of the Human Body
02:28 Your Existence & Sexuality
04:10 Our Sexuality & the Image of God
05:47 We Are Looking for Our Destiny
06:37 An Icon Instead of an Idol
08:19 The TOB Institute
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I fully agree with Christopher's analysis of the subject, with one very small caveat. We men don't ALWAYS think about sex. Sometimes we think about the Roman Empire.
Perfect comment right here 😂
New plan: create a Roman Republic that respects the Christian Church under the authority of the Pope. There will be no kings or emperors (because Christ is King) 🫡
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I sometimes think about sex in the Roman empire
@@glennlanham6309 Caligula.
Ever since becoming Catholic, I have quit porn completely and I struggle against masturbation with all my strength. I purposely dont even allow myself to glance at a woman lustfully, and I will look away quickly if I find myself being tempted. I don’t consume any media that is remotely sexual. Doing these things has helped me to stop thinking about sex “all the time.” It’s always going to be a struggle, but there ARE good ways to fight the sin of lust. Have faith. Sometimes serious problems require extreme solutions.
I'm 20 and became Catholic this year but I still struggle with this habit. I seem to fall into it at least once a week and keep going back to confession which makes me feel terrible because I feel like Im abusing the sacrament. Pray for me brother
@@jamesmccloud7535 you will be in my prayers brother. Remember, confession is not a punishment or a defeat, it is a triumph. We shouldn’t come to confession with our tail between our legs, but with great love and joy for our Lord who calls us back to himself. He yearns for us, and invites us to rejoin him in love. Be sorrowful for your sin, but rejoice in the Lord’s forgiveness! He is infinite in mercy. Have heart!
Good job! Keep the faith & make use of the sacraments to use the graces for strength as you walk this earthly journey. Praying for you 🙏🏻♥️
@@jamesmccloud7535God wants you to seek Him no matter how many times you fall. Don’t believe the lies of the enemy. Praying for you young man ♥️🙏🏻
I’ve been studying psychology and human nature for several decades, and have been practicing as a psychotherapist for nearly as long. I’ve worked with countless men and women with sexual wounds. About 18 months ago, after 25 years away from the Church, the Holy Spirit began to move in my life. I must say, when I found Dr. West, it was like my life’s work suddenly revealed things I hadn’t been able to see before. It was like looking at one of those 2D posters at the mall (dating myself here!), which has to be seen in the right way to reveal the 3D image within it! Thank you, Dr. West, for helping others to see how all of the parts fit together, for helping others integrate the natural into the supernatural, for providing a coherent pathway toward a better understanding of God!
As a woman ... this is beautiful. But also incredibly intimidating.
Yes God has endowed us with very profound gifts and the enemy temps us to abuse it.
true stuff, though...the way we are wired...
Maybe I’m broken but men do not constantly think about sex 😂 this video presents a low view of men and continues silly stereotypes
@@tookie36 Men constantly think about sex because the culture has the incorrect view of sex and we are constantly bombarded with content that objectify women. I know longer have the problem because the truth set me free. If you are not having issues with it praise God! You are not broken but whole!
I just started reading “Man and Woman He Created Them, a Theology of the Body”!!!
What a great validation to hear that men search for God, this Triune Love, in searching for the human (signifying) love between man and woman (who are both body and spirit). The Spirit, The breath of life in us from God! God creating the soul of man through and in the marital act to beget more life -to then be loved by its parents! It’s a perfect mirror of God with all of us. This video is a great synthesis of all this book contains (of what I have read so far)!
Studies have shown that we think about food more.
(And of course, the Roman empire)
I’m a Latin teacher, and even I think about sex far more than the Roman Empire lol
I don’t know, I’m pretty sure I think about golf more!
It would be so good if more men understood this. Theology of the Body. Amen.
Grace builds upon nature.
That’s been my primary meditation lately.
Somewhat advanced class here 😉🤓 so good.
This video was so so helpful. Thank you.
Great work, Chris!
Thanks Christopher!!! you are so clear to speak about deep issues...
" speak about deep issues.." You mean too much over analyzing?
Personally, not an answer I would expect a man to say.🤔
Brilliant message.
Men have 20 times the testosterones as a woman, thats biggest factor -Also other factors - obviously women pay the higher cost in sexual union with pregnancy - My wife will say sometimes "I just don't get?" - she's never denied me sex and enjoys it when do it, but she'll say "just let me know when you what to do it." Because she doesn't really think about, unless we don't do it for couple weeks.
This might be dragging it too far. If you are saying that men's desire for sex necessarily means that they are looking for God, Paul's case for celibacy crumbles, the sacredness of monogamy crumbles. It remains a mystery how sexuality works prior to the fall and this tendency to over beautify sexuality is just as dangerous as neglecting or avoiding it. The reason why men seek out sex is because they actually desire a relationship, and it is the covenantal relationship between a husband and a wife that reflects the beauty of the covenant between Jesus and the Church. Sexual expression is designed as a physical dimension of that covenantal union between a husband and a wife that doesn't continue into eternity. Though the emotional and Spiritual fruits may, the it is nevertheless temporal, and there is no need to overly glamorize it as to say looking tor sex is looking for God
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I love this reframing of what the sexual urge is all about. It redirects me in such a way as to move me out of shame for my sexual urges and into understanding the original goodness of sex as God created it. This "loop" converts my sexual urges into a spring board to bring me back into union with God, as well as communicating to me that my sexuality is good. I do not agree with Chris' theological statement that "The Father is forever generating the Son." If the Son preexisted all things and created all things, then the Son was never "generated", nor does he require any type of "generation". I think at best, this statement is poorly worded and at worst, is heretical. I can't believe Chris is really saying that the Son is being "generated" in the sense that I heard it but I think he needs to rethink the way this idea is being expressed. Still love the presentation and thank you Chris for this amazing reframing of our sexuality as men. I work in a prison ministry and plan on taking your "referaming" on this topic to the weekly group meeting with they inmates, many of which struggle with sexual addiction.
"The Son’s being begotten does not mean that His deity is less than His Father’s but means that He receives His personal subsistence from the Father. The divine essence itself is not begotten. Instead, in eternal generation the Father communicates the divine essence to the Son; Father and Son possess the same essence, without change.
And this generation must be eternal. The generation of the Son could not happen at a moment in time, for if it did, the Son would not be eternally the Son-nor would the Father be eternally the Father. If the Son’s generation were a singular event, this would mean that God in some sense changes. If the Father ever became the Father, or the Son ever became the Son, then God would not be immutable (that is, unchangeable). Because the Son of God never changes, His begetting must be an eternal begetting-it is not something that happened a long time ago or once-for-all. It is a timeless, placeless, changeless communication from the Father to the Son."
faculty.wts.edu/posts/god-the-son/
I don't think about sex all the time... am I normal? 😐
Norm MacDonald says yes.
Lol "why do men think about sex all the time" (me who thinks about it maybe once or twice a month) 😅
Well explained, but why don't women have it the same? How are they looking for God? And if a woman seeks Him through sex, does it mean there could be something disordered in her?
Men have higher levels of testosterone than women.
Let's have another video: Why do women think about sex a lot? Throughout much of history, many cultures viewed sex as something women desired more than men desired. It was the Victorian era that convinced people that women are sexless angels, which they are not.
I don't.
It is part of the Divine Beauty (being of Use) produced by the marriage of Divine Love and Divine Wisdom.
Men love to become wise. Women love the wisdom so produced. Especially if the subject of the wisdom is about women.
Women think about becoming loving Men think about the loving so produced. Especially if the subject experiencing the loving is men.
We think about sex all the time cuz the sexual urges cause us to look at it
Plenty of women think about sex all of the time.
I don’t. Blocked it out my mind.
Perhaps this explanation works within sacramental marriage where a husband is constantly thinking of sex with his wife, but more generally sorry this is not how most might use this knowledge. I’d wager the vast majority of men thinking of sex are not seeking God, they are falling prey to lust, a cardinal sin. So instead of repenting of their lustfulness in confession, now after viewing this video men will justify their lust as some preprogrammed God seeking behavior?
What is the fine line between Lust and desire? ( Im sure west would give some long winded explanation with no defined answer?)
So if my wife walks in the room with skimpy dress on and I walk up behind her and give her kiss on the neck and my hands start wander? Or is it a matter if she likes it or not?
I believe what West is trying to say is we are innately good and sex is innately good thus our desires for sex are innately good. Of course just like anything else in the world we can make idols out of anything if we are not right with God.
Well most men are single against their wishes so its even harder for us when we want to be married but God still hasn’t shown us our spouses into our mid 20s and up
Are we to reproduce like Victoria times lights out mostly full clothed and only missionary? - ask yourself this what man would approach a woman if there would be
Little to no sex involved after marriage? ( and I know woman that have higher libido than there husbands - what your explain that?
This fundamentally does not, and cannot track with what you are saying -- which is: to crave sex means you're looking to participate in The Devine. You would have been closer to the truth to assert that men might mistake sex for *intimacy* and therefore feel deep love before, during or after the act. But the appetite for the act of sex, is like hunger: an appetite and furthermore *and a biological imperative*. While there are some aspects of marriage that are analogous to Christ and the Church..a natural sexual appetite in and of itself is NOT spiritual. Proof of this is that while you're having sex with your wife/gf/fiancé..you aren't thinking about God lol and I'd argue that if you are that that would be weird. You're wholly focused on your partner. Another example would be if you're playing a competitive game of basketball you're thinking about the required strategy to win and how to help your teammates reach that goal (winning)..you aren't out there dribbling and praying and contemplating The Divine.
Something can be beautiful and be a gift from God, but in and of itself NOT be spiritual (like a beautiful sunset for instance).
I'll end with saying that narratives like this do very little to help people in a practical sense. It might make oneself *feel* spiritual to project a deeper meaning to something. I think a far more helpful narrative would be to give advice for how to better emotionally and sexually connect with a spouse, not this Spiritual mumbo-jumbo.
Dr. West is Yoda… you are a young Anakin😂
Physical things can be measured and quantified - Spiritual things move our emotions in ways that can’t be measured.
Music can be measured and quantified, but the difference between a piece of music that moves us to tears and one that does nothing for us cannot… one piece of music may have major emotive value to one person, and yet be meaningless to another.
If music is considered spiritual - and yet, you don’t believe that relationships and sex have a spiritual element to them, not much we can do for you.
Enjoy the dark side.
@@Prohortico Dr. west is the Dr, of what? ( if I send in my $25 to a website i can be ordained minister too. Lol ) giving questionable to sub standard advice, because in likes listening to himself talk with self-importance? If you noticed yoda had very little to say, but what he did was profound - "Do, or do not ,but there is no try."
@@sitka49 then go buy yourself a $25 doctorate in Theology from Pontifex University in Atlanta… prove how easy it is (and no, you won’t be an ordained minister after this process), but first you’ll have to have obtained a masters degree somewhere else (Catholic University of America). Not that I highly value degrees that much, college educated tradesman and entrepreneur myself. But if you’re Catholic, then Christopher West teaching is founded upon JP2’s theology of the body, and in full accordance with Church teaching. If you’re not Catholic and just here to troll. Your opinion matters not in the context of this video which speaks from a Catholic Theology, but if you are Catholic, then, - “You must unlearn what you have learned”.
You should not be having sex with a "gf" or a fiance.
@@Nuns_Fret_Not exactly- I had another refute for Sitka, but it seems RUclips loves to censor my conservative views… I won’t entertain these obviously non Catholic trolls anymore.
Image and likeness???? So now I'm omnipotent???
No, that's not what image and likeness means. Refer to the Catechism:
'The human person participates in the light and power of the divine Spirit. By his reason, he is capable of understanding the order of things established by the Creator. By free will, he is capable of directing himself toward his true good. He finds his perfection “in seeking and loving what is true and good”' (1704).
'By virtue of his soul and his spiritual powers of intellect and will, man is endowed with freedom, an “outstanding manifestation of the divine image”' (1705).
The answer is so easy. Just know that you are not God
@@AndrewAMD ruclips.net/video/n92mRNzIg4w/видео.htmlsi=PoQTL2DoaQObT9uy
Like a mirror. The reflection does not have the fullness of the image it represents
@@tookie36 that's a very clumsy analogy....humans are more than reflections....can a mirror image be anything more than reflection? Can a reflection think for itself? Can a reflection sin beyond the the object being reflected from the mirror.....if your analogy was correct then "original sin" is a incredibly false premise because it was GOD that was sining and not humanity
Mr. West, sex should not be taken frivolously. However, it is not the beatific vision. You have caused great harm with this teaching.
He actually discusses this at 6:37, if you want to check it out and see if that's what you were remarking on. God bless.
@@gabeepps682 I do still disagree. I don’t think it even is a taste of the beatific vision. Heaven according to Catholic theology is even unimaginatively more great. I do think there are spiritual/ emotional scars that come about from unchaste behavior though.
I’ve been listening to him say this for 10 years, I’ve seen people want to “get a taste of this heaven” through non-Catholic approved ways and get hurt. That’s why I’m a little more passionate about this topic.
@@matthewskawin3453 If people experience sex through non-Catholic approved ways, then yes, they do get hurt and will have spiritual/emotional scars, but that does NOT negate what this video is saying. It's true that we cannot know what heaven is like, only that it is unimaginatively more great than anything we can ever experience on earth. Therefore, if good, Catholic sex is great, then it CAN be a foretaste of what heaven is like.
@@matthewskawin3453 I think some of the catholic teachings on sex are harmful too , I know some young couples ( early 30's) that are in sexless marriages because the wives are in fear of another pregnancy.
They are not harmful. Sex makes babies, and babies are good. Pride is the real thing to be fearful of.