How to Express True Intimacy In Dating

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  • Опубликовано: 18 сен 2023
  • Christopher and Wendy explore the challenges of navigating intimacy while maintaining chastity in dating. They both share personal experiences and discuss the importance of directing our desires towards the true, the good, and the beautiful. Join us for a candid conversation on the journey of self-mastery, building trust, and upholding the dignity of your partner.
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Комментарии • 53

  • @TheologyoftheBodyInstitute
    @TheologyoftheBodyInstitute  9 месяцев назад +1

    Watch the full discussion here: ruclips.net/video/Byc2fzjV_EE/видео.html

  • @josephmartin6219
    @josephmartin6219 9 месяцев назад +56

    Sexual liberty is not the liberty to indulge my compulsions, rather it's the liberation from the compulsion to indulge.
    Beautiful teaching from TBI.
    May God bless your ministry.

    • @israeliana
      @israeliana 9 месяцев назад +1

      Amen to that

  • @claytonshankle4427
    @claytonshankle4427 9 месяцев назад +26

    I am not Catholic, I am Baptist, but the info in this video is so rooted deep in the truth of God. Listening to this video brought conviction for my actions in the present and past. I wish this would go viral.

  • @CatholicChurcMusic
    @CatholicChurcMusic 9 месяцев назад +44

    I'm practicing celibate life and I can admit it's a daily hustle. I wish I could get chance to share my whole story too.😢😊

    • @huntsman528
      @huntsman528 9 месяцев назад

      Why are you practicing celibate life?

    • @emmanueloshaddai3259
      @emmanueloshaddai3259 6 месяцев назад

      What are your thoughts on fasting in the celibate life?

  • @nh5221
    @nh5221 9 месяцев назад +28

    It is a relief to listen to you guys. Almost brings tears to my eyes. I miss my Catholic community. Your words make me feel at home, loved, accepted. I feel alienated and misunderstood in a predominantly non-Catholic city.

    • @stevecooper7883
      @stevecooper7883 5 месяцев назад

      All Christians can agree with you there. We need to come to a unity of the faith over such basic issues as chastity

  • @sergii_i
    @sergii_i 9 месяцев назад +17

    Imagine how many couples, even those who have been married for a long time, do not know what true chastity means. And that chastity is also necessary in marriage to live in harmony and true love between spouses.

  • @jamesjimison6455
    @jamesjimison6455 7 месяцев назад +3

    I’m Non denominational, this makes sense, to control when you indulge in intimacy with your spouse, instead of letting your passions control you.
    Thank you for this!

  • @csongorarpad4670
    @csongorarpad4670 9 месяцев назад +7

    This was very beautifully put, moving me deeply within. I felt especially struck when Cristopher spoke about putting up a wall - even though I did it unconsciously at first, it's something I've done out of a reflex, scared that I will hurt the one whom I love and fear of being unchaste, constantly reminded of my unchaste life, during my time out of the Church when I had abandoned the faith for 7 years...
    It's going to take time to heal those wounds that I've caused myself and the hurt that others have caused me. But this video is definitely a step in that right direction.
    Thank you and God bless!

  • @AblazeWorship
    @AblazeWorship 9 месяцев назад +5

    Amazing teaching! Thank you Lord! 🎉Celebrating the beauty of our humanity! Being a prophetic light to the world. Thank you Lord!

  • @SEeALiigHt
    @SEeALiigHt 2 месяца назад

    Minute 8.09 just made me tear because its beautiful truth ! THANKS FOR YOUR WORD

  • @felipemanhaes470
    @felipemanhaes470 9 месяцев назад +3

    Just what I needed to watch in the time I needed to watch. Providence. God Bless you!

  • @wendy8406
    @wendy8406 5 месяцев назад

    I love your videos, they are so inspiring! The more I know, the more I want to keep learning! God bless

  • @CGLopez-jw4kz
    @CGLopez-jw4kz 7 месяцев назад +4

    “Why do I have to put a wall” 😭

  • @oar-N-oasis
    @oar-N-oasis 9 месяцев назад +8

    Oh wow, what a beautiful message to start my day. Thankyou 🙏

  • @pauls.2308
    @pauls.2308 9 месяцев назад +6

    The two of you have a BeYoutiful relationship ❤🙏🏿

  • @freehorse7299
    @freehorse7299 9 месяцев назад +1

    God bless you both!

  • @emily7969
    @emily7969 Месяц назад

    This is such a beautiful testimony. Thank you!

  • @GogakuOtaku
    @GogakuOtaku 5 месяцев назад

    13:27 YES YES YES!!!!!!! Absolute truth, right here!

  • @dosstodd8014
    @dosstodd8014 9 месяцев назад +6

    Oh how I wish I could go back and do it right!

  • @whimsicalaubrey1413
    @whimsicalaubrey1413 Месяц назад +1

    Wendy is so feminine and beautiful, she’s the kind of woman I want to be like

    • @TheologyoftheBodyInstitute
      @TheologyoftheBodyInstitute  Месяц назад

      We love Wendy, too! If you ever have a question for her feel free to submit it for the podcast: askchristopherwest.com/ask

  • @claytonshankle4427
    @claytonshankle4427 9 месяцев назад +3

    My God this is a g r eat video, a must watch for every single person.

  • @anonimo-um2ng
    @anonimo-um2ng 6 месяцев назад +4

    Avoid fornication, self abuse, porn is the best, it is hard but sex outside of marriage it is the way to loneliness and unhapiness, I learn this in the worst way possible. Jesus is Good and Just what one reaps is what one sows.

  • @thefacelessquestion3333
    @thefacelessquestion3333 3 месяца назад

    I'm not sure you answered the question this person was asking. I've been dating this girl for almost 2 years and I gotta say, it's very difficult to maintain a "chaste relationship", we really love eachother but abstinence is a hard path to thread.
    I'll appreciate y'all advice, prayers... anything you can give at this point.

    • @sitka49
      @sitka49 3 месяца назад

      My answer - Yes it is hard, but i think the alternative is worse than -I would say if you didn't have desire to go farther then what's prescribed ( like tearing each others clothes off)? To me would be a bigger problem in the long run.

    • @TheologyoftheBodyInstitute
      @TheologyoftheBodyInstitute  3 месяца назад

      Thank you for the feedback! We know it's hard but the glory that awaits is worth the hustle. These videos might help:
      ruclips.net/video/xzqkbX5czFE/видео.html
      ruclips.net/video/LqgV8rYbmhM/видео.html

  • @lauraforeroflorez1531
    @lauraforeroflorez1531 3 месяца назад

    Does it mean that if Im not struggling being in chastity with my boyfriend, something is wrong?

    • @sitka49
      @sitka49 3 месяца назад

      Yes, because I think the alternative is worse than - I would say if you didn't have desire to go farther then what's prescribed ( like tearing each others clothes off)? To me it would be a bigger problem in the long run. Because and if you don't have that desire now?- how are you going to look at each other in 20 yrs and you've had sex 1000 times with each other - we were horny like that from the beginning - married at 24 me ,and 23 her, and after 3 kids and counting we had are best sex lives in our 30 and forties - They can say what they want about sex but it got us through some difficult times.

    • @danielcurtis1288
      @danielcurtis1288 2 месяца назад

      Not necessarily as long as you have that Eros desire for your boyfriend. If you don’t desire your boyfriend that way than you probably shouldn’t be with him. I desire my girlfriend that way but we have had no issues with staying chaste physically so far. However we have had to tamper down our imaginations.

  • @SDsc0rch
    @SDsc0rch 9 месяцев назад +3

    so......... in your youth, throw it to Chad and Tyrone
    but now that you've met a "good man" you're gonna make him wait
    no one sees the problem a man would have with this??
    toss it around FOR FREE to the dregs of society
    but GOOD MEN need to "put in the work"
    pfft!!

    • @Sahl-Dohr
      @Sahl-Dohr 9 месяцев назад +22

      Keep heart. Not everyone is sleeping around. And if we have then we need to repent and then seek redemption and restoration in the Lord & community. We're not obligated to keep dating or marry someone we deem not wise. Kyrie Eleison, Christe Eleison.

    • @regsabatini
      @regsabatini 9 месяцев назад +3

      It was the opposite in dating with my now husband-he made me wait to even kiss him. We had a quick engagement, but we were older at 30+. Every failed relationship I’ve been through throughout my adult years, he was worth waiting for. It also wasn’t hard because I knew it would be worth it.

    • @gunsgalore7571
      @gunsgalore7571 9 месяцев назад +5

      No, no, you missed the whole point of the video. Nowhere in the whole video do they advocate having sex before marriage with ANYONE, much less the "dregs of society." (In fact, if they did support this, they would be going against the "Theology of the Body," supporting which is the whole point of the channel, as St JPII's Theology of the Body does not allow any sex before marriage at all.
      In fact, your comment is so off the topic of the video that I wonder if this is an accidental comment that was meant to be posted to a different video.

    • @hazelrakei4482
      @hazelrakei4482 9 месяцев назад +3

      I'm a mother to a handsome 10 year old. I'm single and waiting for Mr Right. It's not easy. Men somehow think l would not have a problem with having sex as l have a child. It's very confusing. I fell, I didn't know better. Now, that l do l am walking on the right path. Repentance means turning away and this is a condition for absolution in confession. So it's not not she denies the good guy. It's that she's growing and moving differently.

    • @israeliana
      @israeliana 9 месяцев назад

      ​@@regsabatinithat's so sweet. I was recently dating someone and we set a rule to wait to kiss. It was hard but it helped us realize if we are best for one another.
      We decided to "break up" but now I'm going to practocising waiting to kiss until we are sure of one another. If it's God's will we can wait until the altar. That's so romantic to show that kind of restraint.

  • @jmm91910
    @jmm91910 9 месяцев назад +4

    Nobody taught me that when I was young 🥲