I sat down to watch this video after slicing up an apple to have with my cream cheese bagel, and I laughed out loud that the sponsor was an apple company 😂
What’s crazy (or not so crazy) is that jaclyns journey is probably one of the most relatable and common journey. I’ll watch her videos and I’m like yup girl I understand but also simultaneously I’m like don’t look at the scale as if we aren’t all doing the same thing 😅
Yes! Watching her from the outside, I feel like I can think of all the right solutions for her but I know I’ve gone through and still go through the same issues with mindset and diet culture
I used to religiously weigh myself naked before a shower! Now when I get the urge to I just hop straight in the shower. My mind is like “nope can’t weigh after a shower so I guess I’ll have to skip this one”. I’ve found it quite a useful hack around my own brain😂
So many people go through a similar journey as Jaclyn and she is open and honest about how she feels. But when you review, it’s helpful to see the perspective from someone with a healthier relationship with food. And what is really right for the body rather then all these crazed we tend to follow online
@@65NART could you elaborate ? im confused as to why you would say abbey's relationship with food isn't healthy because i think that it so clearly is ?
I just have to say that something really clicked in me from watching your videos. You’ve helped me realize that my problem with overeating is literally caused by under-eating. It was refreshing to realize that I don’t need to restrict myself or avoid any foods, but rather add foods to my meals to make them more balanced and filling. Here’s to throwing away everything diet culture has taught me in 2022 💕
When I began my journey, my endocrinologist vehemently forbade me from weighting anywhere but his office (I had monthly appointments). Besides measuring weight, he also had that equipment that measured exactly how much is fat, bone density, muscle mass, etc. And I think it helped A LOT knowing my weight once per month - I focused in how I was feeling, how my clothes were fitting better and didn't get paranoid with a number (my doctor told me that a lot of things could make your weight fluctuate - water retention, menstrual bloating, stress - that was why he was adamant). I managed to lose 18kg in 10 months without much suffering, just following the plan and focusing on how well I was feeling overall.
I love this! And what a supportive doctor to encourage you not to weigh yourself. I want to lose about 40 lbs as well, and am curious what the plan you mentioned actually looked like, if you don't mind sharing.
Jaclyn just recently got engaged. I'm *really* hoping we don't see a lot of "shedding for the wedding" kind of diet culture with extreme calorie cutting and exercise. What is supposed to be a happy time can easily turn into such a stressful period for a myriad of reasons. For those of us who are plus-sized brides, wedding dress shopping can be especially traumatic and frustrating. Here's hoping that doesn't happen for her.
My best friend got married a few years ago and she's not even approaching plus size but she said almost everyone she spoke to was asking her how much weight she was going to lose for the wedding?? She was like my fiancé loves me right now at this size and I like my body why would I torture myself? I'm gonna buy a dress that fits me the size I am now.
@@Rose-jz6sx I had the same thing happen when I got married. However I was told I would have to pay extra to get a dress taken in/out. So then when people asked me I would ask then if they were willing to pay for alterations. It quickly stopped
I'm very glad I got married during the pandemic and wasn't "able" to go in to dress shops. Instead, I purposefully ordered a dress online that I knew was too big (and didn't let myself obsess over the number for the size) and then went to a seamstress to get it tailored. I really think that the traditional shopping process would have been triggering for me.
I'm struggling with weight gain during Crohn's remission (yes that's a thing) and I'm so grateful for your videos. They really help me check my diet-culture intruding thoughts. I'm mostly just focusing on making meals into HCC! Thank you ❤
I had a short period of remission and gained almost 15 lbs. Adjusting my meals to where my body can burn what was once going through my system without being absorbed was quite a journey. Then I had a flare and lost, then gained some back. I'm not in remission at the moment and still working on that balance with SIBO on top of it all. Hang in there, small adjustments lead to lasting ones! 🤗
YES! I’m going through the same struggle with Crohn’s remission weight gain and reminding myself that this is healthy and my body is (thankfully!!) healing. Thank you so much for reminding me I’m not the only one fighting those thoughts. ❤️
I have so much empathy for Jaclyn, her mental processes when it comes to the scale and obsessing over it is like looking in a mirror. I gained 40 lbs based on that "can't lose weight even though I'm trying, might as well give up and be fat" mentality. I just started trying to eat more intuitively and I can already say my mental health is doing a lot better.
The scale thing is an interesting issue. For me, I found looking at the number on the scale to be really helpful because it made it simply about data, and it took the emotion out of it. It was the pressure to feel good about myself that was causing me a lot of pain. When I finally looked at that number I thought "Okay, got it, I have gained a lot of weight, and I feel crappy about it, but that's okay. I will get that number down slowly." It allowed me to just get on with my routine without spending energy on trying to figure out my emotions and feelings about my body and weight which will always be complicated. (However, I understand that for some people, the scale is a complete no-no and causes immense stress and unhealthy obsession). Tricky!
Yeah, some people are more heavily affected by diet culture so when the number isn't going down fast enough or it fluctuates, plateaus, etc. they feel like a failure. Even though weight loss is complicated and not always linear. You just get stuck in that extreme diet culture (some times eating disorder) minsdet. I speak from experience here.
That's so interesting! I grew up without a scale in my home due to my mum's body issues and her trying not to pass them on, it was good not to have one but sadly mum still passed on her issues lol I definitely grew up with "X number is too fat it's disgusting to be that weight and it is not only large it's a personal failing" which, wow is that not how it works haha I am above the number of death now due to life but I love my body more than ever. I do get very triggered by numbers though, even though I know roughly what I weigh it's weird how deep rooted the diet culture stuff is, like it's objectively not how I think, but I feel it still.
@@Rose-jz6sx That sounds so tough!! We can get so many messages from our family and others around us about our bodies even at such a young age. I was a very big kid and my peers sure made me know all about it, not to mention growing up in that scary time that was the early 00's. Love that you're loving your body and have gotten through that process of untangling family-induced body BS!
I think one of the best things that's happened to me was losing my scale while moving. I was at the point where I weighed myself first thing in the morning, everytime I went to the bathroom and saw it, and every night before bed so I could compare it to the next morning. Then one day of last minute packing and it was gone and me, being cheap and scared, haven't bought a new one in the 4.5 years since. It took about 3 years to stop slinking off to my parent's scale everytime I was over, and I still struggle a bit with wanting to obsessively measure, but I don't get that chance to shame myself repeatedly on the scale.
It's actually pretty much the same for me. I used to obsessively weigh myself when I was still living at home. But moving out resulted in me not having a scale at home. Not being able to weigh myself every single day and see the number rise or fall is honestly making me feel a lot more comfortable with my eating choices. So I can focus more on how I feel instead of how much I weigh. When I was home over the holidays I did realize though how easy it is to get back into old habits.
I’m glad you’re covering this series because regardless of how personal Jaclyn’s vlogs are intended to be and how difficult this journey has been for her, she is choosing to publicly post these videos to an audience of almost 6 million people.
Jaclyn isn’t asking for help nor is advising on how to eat or lose weight. This is HER journey. If you don’t agree with someone’s personal journey… don’t watch it.
I try to stay off the scale as much as possible. If it shows weight gain I get terribly depressed. If it shows weight loss, then I become encouraged to lose more weight, and even more, its never enough! I become obsessed. Trying to maintain healthy eating habits and focussing on enjoyable activity is far more beneficial. I am sure I speak for many.
Thank you for posting these videos! As someone in recovery from an ED who tunes into the lives and thus diets of many influencers and RUclipsrs, I always find your commentary extremely useful in navigating a healthy relationship with food. I’m in a stage of recovery where your videos are very supportive to my journey so again, thank you so much for posting!
I saw this comment and I just wanted to stop by and support your journey!! You can do it! Every day is a new day 🤍🤍 I don't know you, but as a person deep into recovery. I'm. So. Proud. Of. You. Even on days that aren't good. I'm proud of you 🤍 be well
i think its really great that the advice you’re giving her is in no way judging the choices she’s making and how you feel for her. its really admirable!
Love that we now have a study that says "if you are hungry, you eat more" Who would have thought? 😂 (I know studies are often done into things like this and sometimes they are disproven, but this one is particularly funny to me, for some reason.)
I can relate to Jacyln's anxiety around scales and how much that has an impact on my self worth. I'm on a journey of eating food that tastes good to me and is nutritious, I'm also working on finding exercise that I will do that I enjoy (shout out to aqua aerobics!) I love how powerful I feel lifting weights 💪 🥰
Abbey, I'm OBSESSED with your hair! The color is stunning and I'm loving the blunt chop! It looks equally as gorgeous straight or wavy. Just wanted to share.. also, I'm loving this "series" on Miss Jaclyn
I have been overweight for my entire life and since watching you videos I have been working on having a healthier relationship with food. So thank you 😊
Love Cosmic Crisp. I’m a Washingtonian and a 2-time Washington State University grad. Was so surprised to see those on here! I’ve been watching for a long time.
Her journey is very real and does show how our thoughts and feelings fluctuate so much during a weightloss journey. HOWEVER, Jaclyn is extremely wealthy and can find a professional dietitian, chef to make pre-made healthy meals, and can hire a personal trainer who will meet her in whatever spot she is in her weightloss journey. Many of us don't have the money to access things that will make weightloss easier so I'm surprised she doesn't take advantage of her blessings to help give her the boost and organization she needs.
While yes you are CORRECT, she would have all those resources BUT SHE still has to do the work of restricting and putting the fork down and exercising delayed gratification…if all it took was money then why is Oprah Winfrey still fat????????? No one but yourself can actually put in the time and suffering for a long term goal such as the one she desires.
@@totallyrandom1126 i don't disagree! Of course self discipline is the best thing and really putting in your best. But having the money to access extra resources is great 👍also, Oprah has definitely lost weight over the years and she's happy with her weight im assuming. I understand Jaclyn because I also lack motivation to get fit but I dont have the resources she does as easily available to try and push myself more. But those can also be excuses haha
@@dsybarrios Pretty sure Oprah has stated she’d like to be thinner but just can’t maintain it. She’s also still rather large for someone with all her resources. It’s hard and people want to say if only I had this or if only I had that when the reality is, think of the things you are proud of that you do in life……Why are you successful in those areas? It’s simple: because it MATTERS ENOUGH to you…..I don’t think Jaclyn really wants it bad enough as she has an incredibly distorted view of food……bad food, good food…..she’s too all or nothing when I have found balance and moderation to be the only sensible tools that prove effective.
@@totallyrandom1126 oop youre right, she has a very black and white view on weightloss. But anyways, I hope she finds what works best for her and makes her feel the best!
It's not amazing, actually.... These trend apples are patented and force the old classical variety out of the market. They have a big profit margin, so farmers are forced to sell these instead of maybe their family kinds. There's a lot more to it, but just....it's like what Monsanto did to corn
@@lisalisa2628 yes, you're absolutely right, of course. The Monsanto example was more to emphasize how big these are on the market. In my country(Germany) the "pink lady" has exterminated many of our old apple varieties from shops and I personally can only eat some of the very old kinds. I have a neighbour with tress over 200 years old and luckily he lets me harvest them for my own consumption. But generally it is simply not profitable anymore with the competition of for marketing optimized trend apples, so farmers have to sell these trend apples that are too sweet and too shallow for my taste and I have problems digesting them. At least growing them has not the disastrous consequences of Monsanto seeds, but they still have a negative effect on the market and history of local apple varieties. They also have less nutrients than old apples, but I mean....better this apple than no apple, I guess. The corn example was to show how corn varieties that were grown over generations have slowly disappeared because of Monsanto's practices. The oldest I know of was 600 years old and was pushed away by Monsanto seeds and their market practice. But at the end of the day a Boskoop (an old German apple) wouldn't be able to pay sponsorships to RUclipsrs. And even though I hope Abbey would advertise normal apples like this, she also needs to make money. And I personally have more joy seeing her advertise (trend) apples than meat subscriptions 😅 And to be fair, she doesn't discriminate between traditional and trend fruit in the content part of her videos :D (I'm a bit sensitive to this topic since I've recently talked to a farmer about his problems and afterwards did some research, so the timing of this trend apple ad was maybe just bad for me 🥲)
I’m beginning to think I may have an eating disorder. I’ve dieted all my life and over the past 10 years have gotten into the habit of eating very little, if anything, during the day with dinner being my only meal. How I got here, I have no idea, as I always, always used to eat breakfast and lunch. I’m learning from your videos Abby.
I am in the same place. I have issues with my body but I havent purposefully restricted myself from eating. I just don't eat that much. I think I've ruined my metabolism :/
Jacelyn’s situation is pretty relatable to most people. We try to lose weight and we track our process by numbers we see on the scale. Nothing wrong with that since the scale is a much more visible tracking method than perhaps say looking at muscle definition etc. But the problem comes when we get too reliant on it…… In my first year of college, I was also in the thick of the diet culture. I used the scale to track my “progress” and obsessively noted down my calories and the corresponding weight daily. Thinking it a number game, I cut back my calories to 800-900 per day refusing to go above 1300 to hit a deficit of at least 200-700 to ensure results. A punishing method but it delivered. It was a terrible experience to say, and it was only after nearly fainting twice a day while riding the subway did I snap out of it.
I love that this is sponsored by Cosmic Crisp Apples. True, I am apple-obsessed, like you. Apple+nut butter is pretty much THE perfect snack. Also, curious about whether you've seen the ads for Lumen, some device where you breath into it and it "hacks your metabolism." SEEMS PROBLEMATIC but would love your thoughts.
Jacklyn is doing so many of the same things I did at the peak of my ED. It’s so easy to get wrapped up in those 10 pounds of mostly water weight you lose. Then the weight stacks on the moment you start to eat a little more. Such a depressing cycle. I started focusing on my mental health and started to learn how to appreciate my body and slowly I started treating my body nicer. I stopped weighing myself, stopped using MFP and just started to incorporate 10 minutes of yoga daily. I’ve never felt more confident and more in control of my eating habits. I hope she doesn’t fall down the diet rabbit hole. Your videos are so important, thank you RUclips algorithm! 🙏
I'm so glad I found your Chanel and videos. I've been trying to get healthier and watching your videos has helped me alot. I start doing personal training and at first was obsessed with just loosing weight but seeing your videos helped me realised being skinny doesn't mean my body is healthy and happy. So I've still been exercising but now I'm eating to nourish my body not just to drop my weight.
So excited to see your sponsored by cosmic crisp apples. These apples came from my alma mater at Washington State University and they are so delicious. I have also really enjoyed your videos coming from past EDs your channel has me looking at food as food and not good or bad.
I remember reading an article about these apples like 10 yrs ago and waiting expectedly for them to get to the southeast. Also, congratulations on your progress. I'm so happy for you!!!
I’m so glad I watch you because you actually inspire me to cultivate a healthier relationship with food. Recovering from an eating disorder when you’re still considered “obese” is really hard, especially when realizing you have to let go of certain mindsets. I still want to lose weight but now thanks to you I’m no longer viewing food as “good” or “bad” and am trying to listen to my hunger cues more. Thank you! ❤️
OMG, after watching videos like this I am so glad I found your channel and started my intuitive eating journey , finally stopping that vicious cycle of restrictions and demonising food!!! I hope Jaclyn finds a way out of this dieting torture and finds smth sustainable for her! ❤️
Ty for making these videos!! I know if I watched Jaclyn's journey without Abbey's input that makes me pause and remember how hurtful certain habits are, it would be detrimental to my own mental health. Please keep making them!!
Another apple lover here! I got some as free samples with my grocery pick up order and was surprised at how good they were. To me they taste like a slightly tart honeycrisp, and their crunch was fantastic!
I agree. When i started my health journey, not once did i look at the scales. A few months down the road, my friends say that I have lost weight and asking how much i've lost so far. I told i dont know because i don't keep track. They were like, arent you even a bit curious? I was like nope.... coz i dont want the focus to be on weight loss.
Omg you're sponsored by apples?! My dream lol. I actually just bought some of those cosmic crisp apples yesterday haha. Can't wait to try em!! I love apples too and used to keep a journal to log all the different apples I ate and rate them so I can determine what my favorite are haha.
I'm going to be brutally blunt but I wonder if part of her disordered eating is due to the fullness of her face--as she has fluctuated in weight the filler has remained so she has that Prednisone moon-face look, and will no matter how small she looks. She can lose weight but if she looks in the mirror, she'll still see an overly "filled" face. It's in reverse why E.C.'s veneers look so big compared to her face.
I'm 25 and have a round face with pretty full cheeks, and always have even at my lowest weight. Before I learned to accept those features, I struggled so much whenever I looked at pictures of myself with other people, because even though I was the same size or even slimmer than some of my friends, I stood out (to myself, no one else gave a cr*p about it lol) because of the roundness of my face, which made me super self-conscious and led me to develop disordered eating all throughout high-school. Idk if that counts as body dysmorphia but it's something I've had to work on mentally for years.
@@prettyinpink9893 Ive had work done and I honestly am amazed when people feel the need to deny it. Even though mine is subtle its THERE. There’s no shame in admitting it and I wish she would.
I’m on a small dose of prednisone for Addison’s disease and I totally thought she was on prednisone because of the roundness of her face. Is it just fillers?? My face isn’t super round but the pred definitely changed the fat distribution in my face. :(
The last time I weighed myself ( long time ago ) I was around the same weight as jaclyn. We have the same shape and I am happy the way I am, I spent most of my teens and 20s trying to be a size two and not letting myself eat as much as I should . I'd rather enjoy food and be the shape I am
I’m honestly so in love with your channel. Even if I’m not super into nutrition or not an expert I almost recur to you as a podcast. Saludos desde mexico ✨
Abbey you gave such great advice here. A year ago I lost a lot of weight with lightning focus and strict calorie restriction and daily weigh ins. When something threw off my routine I quickly quit what I was doing. I was diagnosed with borderline personality disorder and it is likely why I do very well and then very poorly with diets. I now realize my bathroom scale might actually be a trigger for me. I now have new things to focus on which might actually keep me motivated
I love the education in your videos! you may have done something like this before but if you haven't I think it'd be a great idea to cover the difference between disordered eating vs an eating disorder.. like people who can't eat bc of anxiety/depression/no appetite. what are some tips for them to make sure they're getting enough calories?
Oh woOooww. Thank you for clearing up what inflammation really is. Seeing the word pop up in SO many wellness articles and i knew it seemed a bit fishy 👀
i don't understand why, with her platform and money/access she wouldn't just hire a nutritionist. unfortunately her content is relatable to many of us but it's SO, so harmful - thank you abby for making these videos from an educated and scientific POV.
I just bought cosmic crisps for my daughter's school lunches yesterday. Apples are also her favorite food, and they were my favorite growing up. I used to eat one after another while watching tv.
One thing I discovered is if I keep hardboiled eggs, cubed cheese and carrot sticks in the fridge, I’ll grab those when I’m hungry so I don’t grab something easy but unhealthy like chips or crackers. (I live with other people and they keep those options in the house.) Edit: I have insulin resistance so I need to watch my carbs. Not saying others shouldn’t eat chips or crackers.
The weight tracking app I use shows you a graph with a median line derived from each single weighing.. That way, if your weight has a downward tendency it wont inmediately show a bump if you gained a little weight, and you'll not get negative feedback (but it only works if you check your weight sparingly)
Thanks to you Abbey I know better than to watch this video. My BED demon ignored all that chaos, rollercoasteriness, and imbalance contained in the first minute and was like she lost 14 pounds eating yummy veggie things!!!!!! surely i can do it too for a short while!!🙅🏽♀️ Nopey nope. Not doing that again. Id rather be happy healthy and sane at the cost of accepting myself. Leaving a comment and a like to support the channel. Lots of love and gratitude.
I’ve been overweight my whole life and can see how anyone who doesn’t know much about nutrition can feel overwhelmed by food and weightloss … it’s been my life . But since going to a dietitian for three years and working towards WLS ( weight loss surgery) and learning why I’m so overweight I’ve been eating like shit my whole damn life … I’ve learnt so much about food and body needs and have lost 63 lbs to date .. not at goal yet but learning :)
I used to be obsessed with the scale. I’d do crazy calorie counting and weigh myself at least once a week, and if I didn’t lose at least 2 lbs. I’d just give up. Ironically once I made it more about just being healthy and not about weight loss, I actually did end up losing weight. 🤷🏻♂️ it’s a become more of a lifelong commitment to better health as opposed to having to lose X number of pounds by X date.
I feel her on when she says something along the lines of "all I've had today is xyz," I feel like diet culture encourages us to eat as few calories as we can bare, so it's almost like boasting that it's a good thing that she hasn't eaten all day, when in reality it's not good at all, and leads to overeating in the evening. I'm glad that *slowly* more information is getting out there that 1000 calories a day is NOT the answer
I use the scale but I HAVE to do it every day and log it somewhere where I can see the data and the trend over time. It’s caused me a lot of peace to see the patterns over time and notice the rises and falls that naturally happen at regular intervals in my body vs the slow decline in numbers overall if I look at the whole thing. I get way more stressed out about weight when I pin everything to an isolated number every couple of weeks. It’s a tricky thing.
I've been on a fitness / weight loss journey since June 2021. I was determined to not restrict my food too much because every time i've done that i've lost 10-15 pounds and gained it all back. Instead I focused on protein, fiber, and less beer 😅 Also started working out more often, and finding more movement I enjoy. The issue was my scale wasn't moving at all. Thankfully I took a photo in June, and on Jan 1st I took another one. My body looks SO different and i didn't even realize because I was so focused on the scale. Scale weight really isn't everything!
Abbey you have such an elegant yet not boring dialogue in all your videos :) Makes me more intrested in nutrition ever since I came across your channel a few months ago. Plus nice to hear from a fellow Canadian here! Question from the video: Can you elaborate on what you mean by "your body is gonna want to fight weight loss"??
Some family of mine sometimes do the taunting "mmmm this is so good! Just have some" thing with certain foods that I have overeaten in the past and it's so frustrating
I came back here to comment days after watching to say you fully convinced me to buy cosmic crisp apples from my local grocer and they are actually as good as I what I dreamed! 🍎
Paradoxically for me (as a person with no history of EDs), weighing myself every day has actually helped me release some of the power of the scale. I didn't weigh myself for years, which is how I didn't realize weight had crept on over the pandemic. But seeing the number shift so much based on water intake, food intake, and time of day has actually released the number's power over me because I realize now that it is not a fixed measure of progress. It is just another data point that I observe then move on from and keep making healthy choices.
I have the same experience, as a person with no ED history, who recently lose weight in a healthy and sustainable way. I didn't weigh myself for years also. Now I do this every Morning so I know if I need to lose 1-2 kg, before it piles up to 7 kg, like it used to be.
My problem is that even if i stuff myself to the brim and I go out to dinner I still eat all the rolls and the dinner. I just dont enjoy it as much and I feel bad that I did it. So, if I burn 2,000 calories in a cardio run and a small breakfast and lunch, my pre dinner hunger... Im just saying my pre dinner hunger is always there no matter what i eat in the day. I just have to make my mind up before I go in what Im going to allow myself. I wish that pre eatting that day would control my hunger for dinner.
That monologue Jaclyn went on when she put on 2lb was exactly the tape recording that played in my head 24/7 when I was in my ED. It kinda freaked me out, but ultimately, made me feel so sorry for Jaclyn. That stuff is insanity to me. That all or nothing mentality. I’m so grateful that my relationship with my body is so much better today. We’re in this together, whatever the weight.
Going through the same thing . As a physician I work long stressful hrs ( with Covid , it has only become worse lately) . I try to workout , prepare home cooked meals and walk to hospital and still my scale doesn’t budge . It’s so depressing and it’s not just the scale I look bigger in pictures too especially my face and neck.. 😔I feel so exhausted at the end of the day like I have chronic fatigue or something
Since you’re a physician you should get a full Thyroid panel. I couldn’t lose weight and when I got tested my TSH was 3.4 which is supposedly in the normal range. But many experts are now saying that the thyroid should ideally be under a 2.2. I ended up getting surgery for something else which dropped my TSH to a 0.9. I lost weight immediately after. You also mentioned your neck is bigger which often is a result from thyroid issues.
@@BbGun-lw5vi Hi , I got my thyroid tested and it was within normal limit . But yes you are right , it's been a while and I should get tested again . About the neck , it has always been a case that I tend to store fat here when I gain weight , it's the subcutaneous fat , not an enlarged thyroid . Definitely need to get TSH rechecked given the fact that my dad side family has hypothyroidism .
@@akkis3090 I get what you’re saying about being predisposed to weight gain. But yes, you should recheck it. And like I said, get the full thyroid panel. A lot of people go undiagnosed because they just get the basic TSH.
Preach for tossing the scale! I cannot have one in my house, or I will obsess. I use the one at my parents when I need to every once and a while and trust how I feel in my skin.
Abbey thank you for such common sense tips. I think they work for all of us. I have slowly lost 112 lbs over the last 5 years and friends tell me to stop losing weight when technically I am still considered over weight. I just smile and thank them for having my back, continuing to do my thing. The funny thing is that I know if I broke out a Butterfinger they would jump my shit!
I feel like her journey is so relatable to so many and I feel like she's obsessive because she's an influencer and in the public eye and I imagine when you already don't feel good about your body constant non stop backlash from the internet makes it tremendously harder to handle and deal with and this has caused her to have an even more unhealthy relationship with food.
I love cosmic crisp apples! I listened to a podcast about their development before they were released a few years a back and have been a Cosmic Crisp Fangirl ever since lol
One comment from the other side of the spectrum, the scale isn’t always the enemy. I have health problems and have lost 20 pounds in a month with no diet change and was already on the thin side. The scale can be really so helpful in monitoring.
hey abbey any way you could review/make recommendations on meal services (like sun basket, hello fresh, sakara, green chef, everyplate, etc)? my family is looking into using one to lower the stress of planning/cooking dinner but it's so overwhelming to choose!
Do you have any tips for not falling intoa different/new ED? For as I can remember I've eaten way too much when bored, stressed, etc., and then "made up for it" with restriction later. I never got diagnosed, but am pretty sure it's Binge eating disorder. But then I recently started ADHD meds (Vyvanse, which also is sometimes prescribed for BED), and it felt awesome at first, I was rarely hungry but could happily eat at meal times. But within a couple days of that I realised I was forgetting to eat when my husband wasn't home, and I decided to track my food for a day to see how bad it really was... I won't share numbers to not upset anyone, but it wasn't great. So I've kept tracking while I adjust to the meds, but it's been 2 weeks and I still find myself eating almonds and crackers with hummus or guac at 9pm because I realise I'm like a small meal behind the minimum and I don't want to hurt myself long term. But I can't keep tracking calories forever, it's time consuming and impractical and not great for my mental health. They already make me weigh myself every week for the ADHD stuff and I just can't help but get frustrated that nothing has changed and think that I could just eat salad and veggie broth all day and I can see signs of it becoming a different kind of obsession with numbers and food (like weighing all my raw ingredients and then decanting everything I made into a mixing bowl so I could weigh it again and see how much denser it was because of evaporation during cooking... I know it's horrible but I don't know how to avoid it). Also I just literally don't know what to eat. I can't just have a tonne of toast to make up the calories, I won't feel good, but healthier stuff tends to be lower, so I'd need to eat more of it, but I'm full.
I started consuming more sugar and fat when I realized I was struggling to eat enough. At this point you want to focus on making sure your getting enough calories so if it doesn't stress you start having a desert or two a day while you figure out what works for you with normal meal times. Say you know you tend to chronically under eat by 3 to 600 calories per day. Introduce a slice of chocolate cake or whatever dessert you like till you can get the calories of your main meals up. This definitely won't work for everyone but it's helped me.
I have a video discussing my own experience with this issue: m.ruclips.net/video/tOoillC-y2k/видео.html - but I will put this topic on my list to discuss more!
Abbey love the video, I admire how invested you are in others mental and physical health. You are so compassionate and caring. I would really like hear your thoughts on Sarah's day concerning new workout program. It feels very targeted at those with eating disorders..
Dude I was eating like 1600 calories during the day at work (430 am to like 2pm and it as food from Starbucks because I work there and it's free) and then at home I was just absolutely starving and feeling so guilty about it. Sometimes being in a deficit at all makes you Binge or just eat more than normal if you have insecurities or issues with food.
ME too an omg my roommate worked with apples an dear god. Those apples were huge i ate ine she gave me we went to a wedding an i didn't eat. Because i was so full.
Her experience is totally relatable. So much of our self worth is based on how we think we are being perceived by others-especially if that perception is that we are failures. Striving not to fail or even stumble is enough to make most of us give up. I commend her for putting herself out there. It’s more common than I think we want to admit.
I really appreciate you Abbey; on tips before heading out for a dinner/ lunch gathering. That is so true. I am trying to combat that "need" to do a cheat or especially high caloric food weekly that will just reverse my progress. Whilst I understand that balance is very important, but it has become too regular that after every such meals, I will feel guilty. I hate that feeling. Just trying to be real, weight loss is not easy. Maybe whatever steps or hacks there are, it requires work, attention and time to invest in it. I did Noom in 2021 and it worked well for me, though I have stopped after 3 months of use. I think your channel is more integral at keeping sense and being realistic of long term understanding between food, health, nutrition and lifestyle. Thanks Abbey!
I see myself 10 years ago in her and it makes me sad for her. I had a friend who always used to brag about how little they would be eating in a day and nothing we say is gonna help her now unfortunately. She has to see the impact of yoyo dieting for herself.
Now we need a therapist to unpack her mom also being on crazy diets, I am sure while she was younger too. Side note, I have several on the cookbooks behind you, and I would love to know your favourite recipes/favourite cookbooks. That save with jamie one is great, and I just got Plenty which I saw in another video.
as someone who suffers from BED I have noticed that I don't have a good body connection for when I get hungry. I don't really ever feel hungry I just begin to feel faint, is there a way to rectify this
I've never seen a RUclipsr get sponsored by an apple company... but I'm not upset about it
I want some apples now 😂
😂❤️
I sat down to watch this video after slicing up an apple to have with my cream cheese bagel, and I laughed out loud that the sponsor was an apple company 😂
It was rather adorable
They are SO delicious. I ordered grocery delivery last week and they threw in a free sample apple. It made me laugh 🍎
I adore that Abby gets sponsored by literal produce - "this video is sponsored by medjool dates" "this video is sponsored by APPLES" 😭
Thank you! 😂❤️
Cosmic Crisp was developed by my local University/workplace! I’m so proud they sponsored Abbey!
My whole family graduated from WSU, GO COUGS!!!
Omg she's not kidding though, cosmic crisp apples are DELICIOUS. My favorite next to honrycrisp
I dead ass said “ how tf you get sponsored by fruit
What’s crazy (or not so crazy) is that jaclyns journey is probably one of the most relatable and common journey. I’ll watch her videos and I’m like yup girl I understand but also simultaneously I’m like don’t look at the scale as if we aren’t all doing the same thing 😅
💯 it shows me what I’m like and why I’ve gotta get off the crazy go round.
Yes! Watching her from the outside, I feel like I can think of all the right solutions for her but I know I’ve gone through and still go through the same issues with mindset and diet culture
I used to religiously weigh myself naked before a shower! Now when I get the urge to I just hop straight in the shower. My mind is like “nope can’t weigh after a shower so I guess I’ll have to skip this one”. I’ve found it quite a useful hack around my own brain😂
@@angelicapacheco7176 yesss it’s just so ingrained and hard to unlearn!
I completely understand that this is a common experience!
So many people go through a similar journey as Jaclyn and she is open and honest about how she feels.
But when you review, it’s helpful to see the perspective from someone with a healthier relationship with food. And what is really right for the body rather then all these crazed we tend to follow online
For sure. I’m glad you find the video helpful!
Who has a healthier relationship with food? Abbey? Not really.
@@65NART could you elaborate ? im confused as to why you would say abbey's relationship with food isn't healthy because i think that it so clearly is ?
I just have to say that something really clicked in me from watching your videos. You’ve helped me realize that my problem with overeating is literally caused by under-eating. It was refreshing to realize that I don’t need to restrict myself or avoid any foods, but rather add foods to my meals to make them more balanced and filling. Here’s to throwing away everything diet culture has taught me in 2022 💕
I’m so glad my videos have been helpful for you ❤️ wishing you luck with the rest of your journey!
I feel like this really sums up what I’ve learned from Abbey and is what I’m trying to do more of now 💗
When I began my journey, my endocrinologist vehemently forbade me from weighting anywhere but his office (I had monthly appointments). Besides measuring weight, he also had that equipment that measured exactly how much is fat, bone density, muscle mass, etc. And I think it helped A LOT knowing my weight once per month - I focused in how I was feeling, how my clothes were fitting better and didn't get paranoid with a number (my doctor told me that a lot of things could make your weight fluctuate - water retention, menstrual bloating, stress - that was why he was adamant). I managed to lose 18kg in 10 months without much suffering, just following the plan and focusing on how well I was feeling overall.
Thank you for sharing!
Yes!!
I love this! And what a supportive doctor to encourage you not to weigh yourself. I want to lose about 40 lbs as well, and am curious what the plan you mentioned actually looked like, if you don't mind sharing.
Jaclyn just recently got engaged. I'm *really* hoping we don't see a lot of "shedding for the wedding" kind of diet culture with extreme calorie cutting and exercise. What is supposed to be a happy time can easily turn into such a stressful period for a myriad of reasons. For those of us who are plus-sized brides, wedding dress shopping can be especially traumatic and frustrating. Here's hoping that doesn't happen for her.
I hope so too!
My best friend got married a few years ago and she's not even approaching plus size but she said almost everyone she spoke to was asking her how much weight she was going to lose for the wedding?? She was like my fiancé loves me right now at this size and I like my body why would I torture myself? I'm gonna buy a dress that fits me the size I am now.
@@Rose-jz6sx I had the same thing happen when I got married. However I was told I would have to pay extra to get a dress taken in/out. So then when people asked me I would ask then if they were willing to pay for alterations. It quickly stopped
I'm very glad I got married during the pandemic and wasn't "able" to go in to dress shops. Instead, I purposefully ordered a dress online that I knew was too big (and didn't let myself obsess over the number for the size) and then went to a seamstress to get it tailored. I really think that the traditional shopping process would have been triggering for me.
I'm struggling with weight gain during Crohn's remission (yes that's a thing) and I'm so grateful for your videos. They really help me check my diet-culture intruding thoughts. I'm mostly just focusing on making meals into HCC! Thank you ❤
I have UC! I feel your frustration. 😤 ❤️ Hang in there!
I have Crohn's too and did not know that!! Going to look into it. Good luck with your health!! 🙂
How did you get your Crohn's into remission?
I had a short period of remission and gained almost 15 lbs. Adjusting my meals to where my body can burn what was once going through my system without being absorbed was quite a journey. Then I had a flare and lost, then gained some back. I'm not in remission at the moment and still working on that balance with SIBO on top of it all.
Hang in there, small adjustments lead to lasting ones! 🤗
YES! I’m going through the same struggle with Crohn’s remission weight gain and reminding myself that this is healthy and my body is (thankfully!!) healing. Thank you so much for reminding me I’m not the only one fighting those thoughts. ❤️
Jaclyn is definitely in disordered eating territory. It's hard to watch her police her own choices so cruelly. Food (and fat, even) are not the enemy.
I definitely hope she is able to find the help she needs
I believe that is the struggle that we all, when trying to be healthier, go through 😊
Jaclyn is so concerned with her outside appearance and what people think about her. I’m not surprised.
@@DreamIt.PursueIt.AchieveIt no it’s not
@@celestinetoussaint6350 that's you perspective. I understand
I have so much empathy for Jaclyn, her mental processes when it comes to the scale and obsessing over it is like looking in a mirror. I gained 40 lbs based on that "can't lose weight even though I'm trying, might as well give up and be fat" mentality. I just started trying to eat more intuitively and I can already say my mental health is doing a lot better.
I love how kind you are in this video, this is the content the internet needs.
Thank you ❤️
The scale thing is an interesting issue. For me, I found looking at the number on the scale to be really helpful because it made it simply about data, and it took the emotion out of it. It was the pressure to feel good about myself that was causing me a lot of pain. When I finally looked at that number I thought "Okay, got it, I have gained a lot of weight, and I feel crappy about it, but that's okay. I will get that number down slowly." It allowed me to just get on with my routine without spending energy on trying to figure out my emotions and feelings about my body and weight which will always be complicated. (However, I understand that for some people, the scale is a complete no-no and causes immense stress and unhealthy obsession). Tricky!
Yeah, some people are more heavily affected by diet culture so when the number isn't going down fast enough or it fluctuates, plateaus, etc. they feel like a failure. Even though weight loss is complicated and not always linear. You just get stuck in that extreme diet culture (some times eating disorder) minsdet. I speak from experience here.
Thank you for sharing what works for you! This is definitely a very individual matter
That's so interesting! I grew up without a scale in my home due to my mum's body issues and her trying not to pass them on, it was good not to have one but sadly mum still passed on her issues lol I definitely grew up with "X number is too fat it's disgusting to be that weight and it is not only large it's a personal failing" which, wow is that not how it works haha I am above the number of death now due to life but I love my body more than ever. I do get very triggered by numbers though, even though I know roughly what I weigh it's weird how deep rooted the diet culture stuff is, like it's objectively not how I think, but I feel it still.
@@mackenzie1845 Oh, absolutely! The scale can either be a simple tool or absolute torture.
@@Rose-jz6sx That sounds so tough!! We can get so many messages from our family and others around us about our bodies even at such a young age. I was a very big kid and my peers sure made me know all about it, not to mention growing up in that scary time that was the early 00's. Love that you're loving your body and have gotten through that process of untangling family-induced body BS!
I think one of the best things that's happened to me was losing my scale while moving. I was at the point where I weighed myself first thing in the morning, everytime I went to the bathroom and saw it, and every night before bed so I could compare it to the next morning. Then one day of last minute packing and it was gone and me, being cheap and scared, haven't bought a new one in the 4.5 years since. It took about 3 years to stop slinking off to my parent's scale everytime I was over, and I still struggle a bit with wanting to obsessively measure, but I don't get that chance to shame myself repeatedly on the scale.
Interesting, thank you for sharing!
It's actually pretty much the same for me. I used to obsessively weigh myself when I was still living at home. But moving out resulted in me not having a scale at home. Not being able to weigh myself every single day and see the number rise or fall is honestly making me feel a lot more comfortable with my eating choices. So I can focus more on how I feel instead of how much I weigh.
When I was home over the holidays I did realize though how easy it is to get back into old habits.
I’m glad you’re covering this series because regardless of how personal Jaclyn’s vlogs are intended to be and how difficult this journey has been for her, she is choosing to publicly post these videos to an audience of almost 6 million people.
For sure. I definitely hope she is able to find the help she needs
Totally agree. I think us vloggers have to constantly check ourselves to make sure we understand our responsibility when posting
Jaclyn isn’t asking for help nor is advising on how to eat or lose weight. This is HER journey. If you don’t agree with someone’s personal journey… don’t watch it.
I try to stay off the scale as much as possible. If it shows weight gain I get terribly depressed. If it shows weight loss, then I become encouraged to lose more weight, and even more, its never enough! I become obsessed. Trying to maintain healthy eating habits and focussing on enjoyable activity is far more beneficial. I am sure I speak for many.
I completely understand!
Thank you for posting these videos! As someone in recovery from an ED who tunes into the lives and thus diets of many influencers and RUclipsrs, I always find your commentary extremely useful in navigating a healthy relationship with food. I’m in a stage of recovery where your videos are very supportive to my journey so again, thank you so much for posting!
I’m so glad these videos are helpful for you! Thank you for sharing ❤️
I saw this comment and I just wanted to stop by and support your journey!! You can do it! Every day is a new day 🤍🤍 I don't know you, but as a person deep into recovery. I'm. So. Proud. Of. You. Even on days that aren't good. I'm proud of you 🤍 be well
@@kendallversoi4367 @abbeysharp You are both so kind! Thank you both for your responses💙💙
i think its really great that the advice you’re giving her is in no way judging the choices she’s making and how you feel for her. its really admirable!
Thank you!
Love that we now have a study that says "if you are hungry, you eat more" Who would have thought? 😂 (I know studies are often done into things like this and sometimes they are disproven, but this one is particularly funny to me, for some reason.)
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I can relate to Jacyln's anxiety around scales and how much that has an impact on my self worth. I'm on a journey of eating food that tastes good to me and is nutritious, I'm also working on finding exercise that I will do that I enjoy (shout out to aqua aerobics!) I love how powerful I feel lifting weights 💪 🥰
Thank you for sharing what works for you!
Abbey, I'm OBSESSED with your hair! The color is stunning and I'm loving the blunt chop! It looks equally as gorgeous straight or wavy. Just wanted to share.. also, I'm loving this "series" on Miss Jaclyn
Thank you so much!
I have been overweight for my entire life and since watching you videos I have been working on having a healthier relationship with food. So thank you 😊
So glad my videos are helpful for you!
Love Cosmic Crisp. I’m a Washingtonian and a 2-time Washington State University grad. Was so surprised to see those on here! I’ve been watching for a long time.
Her journey is very real and does show how our thoughts and feelings fluctuate so much during a weightloss journey. HOWEVER, Jaclyn is extremely wealthy and can find a professional dietitian, chef to make pre-made healthy meals, and can hire a personal trainer who will meet her in whatever spot she is in her weightloss journey. Many of us don't have the money to access things that will make weightloss easier so I'm surprised she doesn't take advantage of her blessings to help give her the boost and organization she needs.
While yes you are CORRECT, she would have all those resources BUT SHE still has to do the work of restricting and putting the fork down and exercising delayed gratification…if all it took was money then why is Oprah Winfrey still fat????????? No one but yourself can actually put in the time and suffering for a long term goal such as the one she desires.
@@totallyrandom1126 i don't disagree! Of course self discipline is the best thing and really putting in your best. But having the money to access extra resources is great 👍also, Oprah has definitely lost weight over the years and she's happy with her weight im assuming. I understand Jaclyn because I also lack motivation to get fit but I dont have the resources she does as easily available to try and push myself more. But those can also be excuses haha
@@dsybarrios Pretty sure Oprah has stated she’d like to be thinner but just can’t maintain it. She’s also still rather large for someone with all her resources. It’s hard and people want to say if only I had this or if only I had that when the reality is, think of the things you are proud of that you do in life……Why are you successful in those areas? It’s simple: because it MATTERS ENOUGH to you…..I don’t think Jaclyn really wants it bad enough as she has an incredibly distorted view of food……bad food, good food…..she’s too all or nothing when I have found balance and moderation to be the only sensible tools that prove effective.
@@totallyrandom1126 oop youre right, she has a very black and white view on weightloss. But anyways, I hope she finds what works best for her and makes her feel the best!
@@totallyrandom1126 wow restricting…delaying…suffering?? No thanks, been there done that
I love that this video is sponsored by a WHOLE FOOD. It’s amazing that you have the opportunity to promote a fruit as a sponsorship 🍎
Freelee is going to be so jealous
Thanks!
It's not amazing, actually....
These trend apples are patented and force the old classical variety out of the market.
They have a big profit margin, so farmers are forced to sell these instead of maybe their family kinds.
There's a lot more to it, but just....it's like what Monsanto did to corn
@@ellywhite4861 actually they're created the old-fashioned way, by tasting and patiently cross-breeding over 20 years. Not like GMO apples at all.
@@lisalisa2628 yes, you're absolutely right, of course. The Monsanto example was more to emphasize how big these are on the market.
In my country(Germany) the "pink lady" has exterminated many of our old apple varieties from shops and I personally can only eat some of the very old kinds. I have a neighbour with tress over 200 years old and luckily he lets me harvest them for my own consumption.
But generally it is simply not profitable anymore with the competition of for marketing optimized trend apples, so farmers have to sell these trend apples that are too sweet and too shallow for my taste and I have problems digesting them.
At least growing them has not the disastrous consequences of Monsanto seeds, but they still have a negative effect on the market and history of local apple varieties.
They also have less nutrients than old apples, but I mean....better this apple than no apple, I guess.
The corn example was to show how corn varieties that were grown over generations have slowly disappeared because of Monsanto's practices. The oldest I know of was 600 years old and was pushed away by Monsanto seeds and their market practice.
But at the end of the day a Boskoop (an old German apple) wouldn't be able to pay sponsorships to RUclipsrs.
And even though I hope Abbey would advertise normal apples like this, she also needs to make money. And I personally have more joy seeing her advertise (trend) apples than meat subscriptions 😅
And to be fair, she doesn't discriminate between traditional and trend fruit in the content part of her videos :D
(I'm a bit sensitive to this topic since I've recently talked to a farmer about his problems and afterwards did some research, so the timing of this trend apple ad was maybe just bad for me 🥲)
I’m beginning to think I may have an eating disorder. I’ve dieted all my life and over the past 10 years have gotten into the habit of eating very little, if anything, during the day with dinner being my only meal. How I got here, I have no idea, as I always, always used to eat breakfast and lunch. I’m learning from your videos Abby.
Thank you for sharing. I’m so glad my videos can be helpful for you ❤️
Look after yourself ❤️ you deserve nourishment
Food is energy, warmth and safety. You deserve to eat and feel satisfied. All the luck to you
I am in the same place. I have issues with my body but I havent purposefully restricted myself from eating. I just don't eat that much. I think I've ruined my metabolism :/
Thank you for making these videos. I frequently watch while I’m cooking and eating. You are so comforting and encouraging.
I’m so glad you find them helpful!
I would love for you to do an in depth dive at metabolic set point theory and how our body wants to defend its adipose tissue.
I have a video discussing set point theory! m.ruclips.net/video/mI0wqYle_9w/видео.html
Jacelyn’s situation is pretty relatable to most people. We try to lose weight and we track our process by numbers we see on the scale. Nothing wrong with that since the scale is a much more visible tracking method than perhaps say looking at muscle definition etc. But the problem comes when we get too reliant on it…… In my first year of college, I was also in the thick of the diet culture. I used the scale to track my “progress” and obsessively noted down my calories and the corresponding weight daily. Thinking it a number game, I cut back my calories to 800-900 per day refusing to go above 1300 to hit a deficit of at least 200-700 to ensure results. A punishing method but it delivered. It was a terrible experience to say, and it was only after nearly fainting twice a day while riding the subway did I snap out of it.
I’m so sorry for your experience. I hope you’re doing alright now ❤️
I love that this is sponsored by Cosmic Crisp Apples. True, I am apple-obsessed, like you. Apple+nut butter is pretty much THE perfect snack. Also, curious about whether you've seen the ads for Lumen, some device where you breath into it and it "hacks your metabolism." SEEMS PROBLEMATIC but would love your thoughts.
Love that combo too! I’ll have a look into those
Jacklyn is doing so many of the same things I did at the peak of my ED. It’s so easy to get wrapped up in those 10 pounds of mostly water weight you lose. Then the weight stacks on the moment you start to eat a little more. Such a depressing cycle. I started focusing on my mental health and started to learn how to appreciate my body and slowly I started treating my body nicer. I stopped weighing myself, stopped using MFP and just started to incorporate 10 minutes of yoga daily. I’ve never felt more confident and more in control of my eating habits. I hope she doesn’t fall down the diet rabbit hole. Your videos are so important, thank you RUclips algorithm! 🙏
Thank you for sharing! So glad you’re finding the reviews helpful 😊
I'm so glad I found your Chanel and videos. I've been trying to get healthier and watching your videos has helped me alot. I start doing personal training and at first was obsessed with just loosing weight but seeing your videos helped me realised being skinny doesn't mean my body is healthy and happy. So I've still been exercising but now I'm eating to nourish my body not just to drop my weight.
So excited to see your sponsored by cosmic crisp apples. These apples came from my alma mater at Washington State University and they are so delicious. I have also really enjoyed your videos coming from past EDs your channel has me looking at food as food and not good or bad.
I remember reading an article about these apples like 10 yrs ago and waiting expectedly for them to get to the southeast. Also, congratulations on your progress. I'm so happy for you!!!
yes!! as a washingtonian, i love apples and couldn’t believe i hadn’t tried a cosmic crisp until last year. they r so good
Love apples 😊
I’ll try them if I see them in a store.
Thank you! So glad you enjoy the videos 😊
I’m so glad I watch you because you actually inspire me to cultivate a healthier relationship with food. Recovering from an eating disorder when you’re still considered “obese” is really hard, especially when realizing you have to let go of certain mindsets. I still want to lose weight but now thanks to you I’m no longer viewing food as “good” or “bad” and am trying to listen to my hunger cues more. Thank you! ❤️
OMG, after watching videos like this I am so glad I found your channel and started my intuitive eating journey , finally stopping that vicious cycle of restrictions and demonising food!!! I hope Jaclyn finds a way out of this dieting torture and finds smth sustainable for her! ❤️
Thank you ❤️ I definitely hope she is able to find the help she needs
Ty for making these videos!! I know if I watched Jaclyn's journey without Abbey's input that makes me pause and remember how hurtful certain habits are, it would be detrimental to my own mental health. Please keep making them!!
Absolutely! So glad they’re helpful
So ok, for those playing at home, the cosmic apples are absolutely wonderful. My 5 year old loves them too. If you see them at the store, grab em!!
Agreed! ❤️
Another apple lover here! I got some as free samples with my grocery pick up order and was surprised at how good they were. To me they taste like a slightly tart honeycrisp, and their crunch was fantastic!
I agree. When i started my health journey, not once did i look at the scales. A few months down the road, my friends say that I have lost weight and asking how much i've lost so far. I told i dont know because i don't keep track. They were like, arent you even a bit curious? I was like nope.... coz i dont want the focus to be on weight loss.
Omg you're sponsored by apples?! My dream lol. I actually just bought some of those cosmic crisp apples yesterday haha. Can't wait to try em!! I love apples too and used to keep a journal to log all the different apples I ate and rate them so I can determine what my favorite are haha.
I hope you enjoy them!
I'm going to be brutally blunt but I wonder if part of her disordered eating is due to the fullness of her face--as she has fluctuated in weight the filler has remained so she has that Prednisone moon-face look, and will no matter how small she looks. She can lose weight but if she looks in the mirror, she'll still see an overly "filled" face. It's in reverse why E.C.'s veneers look so big compared to her face.
I am on prednisone and have that moon face. I thought she was too… I never thought it could be the filler
I'm 25 and have a round face with pretty full cheeks, and always have even at my lowest weight. Before I learned to accept those features, I struggled so much whenever I looked at pictures of myself with other people, because even though I was the same size or even slimmer than some of my friends, I stood out (to myself, no one else gave a cr*p about it lol) because of the roundness of my face, which made me super self-conscious and led me to develop disordered eating all throughout high-school. Idk if that counts as body dysmorphia but it's something I've had to work on mentally for years.
She’s said multiple times that it’s not filler but I think it is too honestly.
@@prettyinpink9893 Ive had work done and I honestly am amazed when people feel the need to deny it. Even though mine is subtle its THERE. There’s no shame in admitting it and I wish she would.
I’m on a small dose of prednisone for Addison’s disease and I totally thought she was on prednisone because of the roundness of her face. Is it just fillers?? My face isn’t super round but the pred definitely changed the fat distribution in my face. :(
The last time I weighed myself ( long time ago ) I was around the same weight as jaclyn. We have the same shape and I am happy the way I am, I spent most of my teens and 20s trying to be a size two and not letting myself eat as much as I should . I'd rather enjoy food and be the shape I am
I’m honestly so in love with your channel. Even if I’m not super into nutrition or not an expert I almost recur to you as a podcast. Saludos desde mexico ✨
Abbey you gave such great advice here. A year ago I lost a lot of weight with lightning focus and strict calorie restriction and daily weigh ins. When something threw off my routine I quickly quit what I was doing. I was diagnosed with borderline personality disorder and it is likely why I do very well and then very poorly with diets. I now realize my bathroom scale might actually be a trigger for me. I now have new things to focus on which might actually keep me motivated
Thank you for sharing your experience. Wishing you luck with the rest of your journey!
love your videos! can you do one about acid reflux/GERD and how to manage it without it being overly restrictive? this is a struggle for me
I second this, GERD is a nightmare
Agreed! GERD sucks, and it’s really hard to keep a good relationship with food.
I will put this on my list to discuss!
Avoid spicy food, tomatoes, caffeine and stress
2:20 I live in Seattle where Washington state university is.
I love the education in your videos! you may have done something like this before but if you haven't I think it'd be a great idea to cover the difference between disordered eating vs an eating disorder.. like people who can't eat bc of anxiety/depression/no appetite. what are some tips for them to make sure they're getting enough calories?
I can put this topic on my list to discuss!
I got my boyfriend to start watching some of your videos, and it’s helping both of us on our journey. And I love your nail color!
Thank you!
Jacklyn needs some MH support as well as help from a dietitian. I hope she can do this healthily! Good luck to her!
I’m wishing her luck as well!
"I'm literally turning into people I hate" that thought is so relatable wow
Oh woOooww. Thank you for clearing up what inflammation really is. Seeing the word pop up in SO many wellness articles and i knew it seemed a bit fishy 👀
I’m glad that part was helpful!
i don't understand why, with her platform and money/access she wouldn't just hire a nutritionist. unfortunately her content is relatable to many of us but it's SO, so harmful - thank you abby for making these videos from an educated and scientific POV.
I definitely hope she is able to find the help she needs. So glad you found the review helpful
I just bought cosmic crisps for my daughter's school lunches yesterday. Apples are also her favorite food, and they were my favorite growing up. I used to eat one after another while watching tv.
One thing I discovered is if I keep hardboiled eggs, cubed cheese and carrot sticks in the fridge, I’ll grab those when I’m hungry so I don’t grab something easy but unhealthy like chips or crackers. (I live with other people and they keep those options in the house.)
Edit: I have insulin resistance so I need to watch my carbs. Not saying others shouldn’t eat chips or crackers.
Thank you for sharing what works for you!
Idk why but the fact you are sponsored by an apple makes me laugh in a great way!
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The weight tracking app I use shows you a graph with a median line derived from each single weighing.. That way, if your weight has a downward tendency it wont inmediately show a bump if you gained a little weight, and you'll not get negative feedback (but it only works if you check your weight sparingly)
Thanks to you Abbey I know better than to watch this video. My BED demon ignored all that chaos, rollercoasteriness, and imbalance contained in the first minute and was like she lost 14 pounds eating yummy veggie things!!!!!! surely i can do it too for a short while!!🙅🏽♀️ Nopey nope. Not doing that again. Id rather be happy healthy and sane at the cost of accepting myself. Leaving a comment and a like to support the channel. Lots of love and gratitude.
i HAVE to comment this. I LOVE COSMIC APPLES. I saw them for the first time about 1 year ago and they are the best apples that I have ever had!
imagine getting sponsored by COSMIC CRISP apples. that is literally my goal in life i could eat them for EVERY MEAL THEY'RE SO GOOD
I’ve been overweight my whole life and can see how anyone who doesn’t know much about nutrition can feel overwhelmed by food and weightloss … it’s been my life . But since going to a dietitian for three years and working towards WLS ( weight loss surgery) and learning why I’m so overweight I’ve been eating like shit my whole damn life … I’ve learnt so much about food and body needs and have lost 63 lbs to date .. not at goal yet but learning :)
Thank you for sharing!
I used to be obsessed with the scale. I’d do crazy calorie counting and weigh myself at least once a week, and if I didn’t lose at least 2 lbs. I’d just give up. Ironically once I made it more about just being healthy and not about weight loss, I actually did end up losing weight. 🤷🏻♂️ it’s a become more of a lifelong commitment to better health as opposed to having to lose X number of pounds by X date.
You HCC’s pop into my head all the time and I’m trying to tweak what I eat to make my food choices better
I feel her on when she says something along the lines of "all I've had today is xyz," I feel like diet culture encourages us to eat as few calories as we can bare, so it's almost like boasting that it's a good thing that she hasn't eaten all day, when in reality it's not good at all, and leads to overeating in the evening. I'm glad that *slowly* more information is getting out there that 1000 calories a day is NOT the answer
Absolutely, I’m glad about that too!
I use the scale but I HAVE to do it every day and log it somewhere where I can see the data and the trend over time. It’s caused me a lot of peace to see the patterns over time and notice the rises and falls that naturally happen at regular intervals in my body vs the slow decline in numbers overall if I look at the whole thing. I get way more stressed out about weight when I pin everything to an isolated number every couple of weeks. It’s a tricky thing.
Thank you for sharing what works for you
Same for me.
Woohoo cosmic crisp apples! Sending love from Washington ❤️
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I've been on a fitness / weight loss journey since June 2021. I was determined to not restrict my food too much because every time i've done that i've lost 10-15 pounds and gained it all back. Instead I focused on protein, fiber, and less beer 😅 Also started working out more often, and finding more movement I enjoy. The issue was my scale wasn't moving at all. Thankfully I took a photo in June, and on Jan 1st I took another one. My body looks SO different and i didn't even realize because I was so focused on the scale. Scale weight really isn't everything!
Thank you for sharing what worked for you!
I love this. It takes time, and consistency is key. You’re killing it!!
Abbey you have such an elegant yet not boring dialogue in all your videos :) Makes me more intrested in nutrition ever since I came across your channel a few months ago. Plus nice to hear from a fellow Canadian here!
Question from the video: Can you elaborate on what you mean by "your body is gonna want to fight weight loss"??
I can put it on my list to discuss this topic more in a video!
Some family of mine sometimes do the taunting "mmmm this is so good! Just have some" thing with certain foods that I have overeaten in the past and it's so frustrating
That would be very frustrating!
I came back here to comment days after watching to say you fully convinced me to buy cosmic crisp apples from my local grocer and they are actually as good as I what I dreamed! 🍎
I’m so glad you enjoyed them!
Paradoxically for me (as a person with no history of EDs), weighing myself every day has actually helped me release some of the power of the scale. I didn't weigh myself for years, which is how I didn't realize weight had crept on over the pandemic. But seeing the number shift so much based on water intake, food intake, and time of day has actually released the number's power over me because I realize now that it is not a fixed measure of progress. It is just another data point that I observe then move on from and keep making healthy choices.
I have the same experience, as a person with no ED history, who recently lose weight in a healthy and sustainable way. I didn't weigh myself for years also. Now I do this every Morning so I know if I need to lose 1-2 kg, before it piles up to 7 kg, like it used to be.
I'm glad that's been helpful for you!
My problem is that even if i stuff myself to the brim and I go out to dinner I still eat all the rolls and the dinner. I just dont enjoy it as much and I feel bad that I did it. So, if I burn 2,000 calories in a cardio run and a small breakfast and lunch, my pre dinner hunger... Im just saying my pre dinner hunger is always there no matter what i eat in the day. I just have to make my mind up before I go in what Im going to allow myself. I wish that pre eatting that day would control my hunger for dinner.
That monologue Jaclyn went on when she put on 2lb was exactly the tape recording that played in my head 24/7 when I was in my ED. It kinda freaked me out, but ultimately, made me feel so sorry for Jaclyn. That stuff is insanity to me. That all or nothing mentality. I’m so grateful that my relationship with my body is so much better today. We’re in this together, whatever the weight.
Can you make a video with suggestions on how to eat out while reaching weight loss goals?
Going through the same thing . As a physician I work long stressful hrs ( with Covid , it has only become worse lately) . I try to workout , prepare home cooked meals and walk to hospital and still my scale doesn’t budge . It’s so depressing and it’s not just the scale I look bigger in pictures too especially my face and neck.. 😔I feel so exhausted at the end of the day like I have chronic fatigue or something
I’m sorry for your experience. I hope you’re doing alright ❤️
Since you’re a physician you should get a full Thyroid panel. I couldn’t lose weight and when I got tested my TSH was 3.4 which is supposedly in the normal range. But many experts are now saying that the thyroid should ideally be under a 2.2.
I ended up getting surgery for something else which dropped my TSH to a 0.9. I lost weight immediately after.
You also mentioned your neck is bigger which often is a result from thyroid issues.
@@BbGun-lw5vi Hi , I got my thyroid tested and it was within normal limit . But yes you are right , it's been a while and I should get tested again . About the neck , it has always been a case that I tend to store fat here when I gain weight , it's the subcutaneous fat , not an enlarged thyroid . Definitely need to get TSH rechecked given the fact that my dad side family has hypothyroidism .
@@akkis3090 I get what you’re saying about being predisposed to weight gain. But yes, you should recheck it. And like I said, get the full thyroid panel. A lot of people go undiagnosed because they just get the basic TSH.
@@BbGun-lw5vi yup will get free T4 and total T3 as well
I LOVE THAT YOUR SPONSORS ARE PRODUCE
Thank you!
Preach for tossing the scale! I cannot have one in my house, or I will obsess. I use the one at my parents when I need to every once and a while and trust how I feel in my skin.
I love Abbey videos, all the other RUclipsrs I watch are in a holiday coma lol so I’m so thankful Abbey is still uploading. 😎♥️
Thanks! ❤️
this was very well done and I have learned so much from your channel!
Abbey thank you for such common sense tips. I think they work for all of us. I have slowly lost 112 lbs over the last 5 years and friends tell me to stop losing weight when technically I am still considered over weight. I just smile and thank them for having my back, continuing to do my thing. The funny thing is that I know if I broke out a Butterfinger they would jump my shit!
I’m glad you find the tips helpful!
Great video, but can I just say how much I love the fact that your sponsorship is apples. Amazing.
Thank you!
So happy you posted a new Video today! Bruised my rips today and can Not sleep because of pain🤧
Oh no, I hope you feel better soon!
I feel like her journey is so relatable to so many and I feel like she's obsessive because she's an influencer and in the public eye and I imagine when you already don't feel good about your body constant non stop backlash from the internet makes it tremendously harder to handle and deal with and this has caused her to have an even more unhealthy relationship with food.
Thank you so much for this. This is exactly what I needed to hear today! ❤️
So glad it was helpful!
at 10:42 I was about to exit out because I thought it was the end . haha. you caught me
I love cosmic crisp apples! I listened to a podcast about their development before they were released a few years a back and have been a Cosmic Crisp Fangirl ever since lol
They’re so good!
I was so surprised when you said sponsored by Cosmic Crisp apples!! I went to WSU and love those apples!
They’re the best!
One comment from the other side of the spectrum, the scale isn’t always the enemy. I have health problems and have lost 20 pounds in a month with no diet change and was already on the thin side. The scale can be really so helpful in monitoring.
Whatever works best for you!
Hi Abby. Would you please do a video on the need to make dietary changes during menopause?
I will put this topic on my list to discuss!
@@AbbeysKitchen Thank you.
I’m glad I’m here early for this one! Love your videos Abbey!!
Thanks! ❤️
hey abbey any way you could review/make recommendations on meal services (like sun basket, hello fresh, sakara, green chef, everyplate, etc)? my family is looking into using one to lower the stress of planning/cooking dinner but it's so overwhelming to choose!
On my list to make a video about this!
Do you have any tips for not falling intoa different/new ED? For as I can remember I've eaten way too much when bored, stressed, etc., and then "made up for it" with restriction later. I never got diagnosed, but am pretty sure it's Binge eating disorder. But then I recently started ADHD meds (Vyvanse, which also is sometimes prescribed for BED), and it felt awesome at first, I was rarely hungry but could happily eat at meal times. But within a couple days of that I realised I was forgetting to eat when my husband wasn't home, and I decided to track my food for a day to see how bad it really was... I won't share numbers to not upset anyone, but it wasn't great. So I've kept tracking while I adjust to the meds, but it's been 2 weeks and I still find myself eating almonds and crackers with hummus or guac at 9pm because I realise I'm like a small meal behind the minimum and I don't want to hurt myself long term. But I can't keep tracking calories forever, it's time consuming and impractical and not great for my mental health. They already make me weigh myself every week for the ADHD stuff and I just can't help but get frustrated that nothing has changed and think that I could just eat salad and veggie broth all day and I can see signs of it becoming a different kind of obsession with numbers and food (like weighing all my raw ingredients and then decanting everything I made into a mixing bowl so I could weigh it again and see how much denser it was because of evaporation during cooking... I know it's horrible but I don't know how to avoid it).
Also I just literally don't know what to eat. I can't just have a tonne of toast to make up the calories, I won't feel good, but healthier stuff tends to be lower, so I'd need to eat more of it, but I'm full.
I started consuming more sugar and fat when I realized I was struggling to eat enough. At this point you want to focus on making sure your getting enough calories so if it doesn't stress you start having a desert or two a day while you figure out what works for you with normal meal times. Say you know you tend to chronically under eat by 3 to 600 calories per day. Introduce a slice of chocolate cake or whatever dessert you like till you can get the calories of your main meals up. This definitely won't work for everyone but it's helped me.
Can you look into a intuitive eating nutritionist near you or online?
I have a video discussing my own experience with this issue: m.ruclips.net/video/tOoillC-y2k/видео.html - but I will put this topic on my list to discuss more!
Abbey thank you for teaching me about hunger crushing combos! It has helped me with bingeing at night ❤️❤️❤️
I’m so glad it’s been helpful for you! ❤️
@@AbbeysKitchen omg I’m so happy you seen my comment! Much love!!!!! ❤️❤️❤️
Abbey love the video, I admire how invested you are in others mental and physical health. You are so compassionate and caring. I would really like hear your thoughts on Sarah's day concerning new workout program. It feels very targeted at those with eating disorders..
Thank you ❤️I'll have a look at that!
Dude I was eating like 1600 calories during the day at work (430 am to like 2pm and it as food from Starbucks because I work there and it's free) and then at home I was just absolutely starving and feeling so guilty about it. Sometimes being in a deficit at all makes you Binge or just eat more than normal if you have insecurities or issues with food.
I’m so sorry for your experience with this
Cosmic crisp apples are literally my favorite apple and I can’t find them anywhere and the withdrawal I’m going through is unbelievable. 😂
I WENT TO WASHINGTON STATE UNIVERSITY AND THESE ARE MY FAVORITE APPLES. Life-changing. Coolest sponsor ever hahah
So glad you like them!
ME too an omg my roommate worked with apples an dear god. Those apples were huge i ate ine she gave me we went to a wedding an i didn't eat. Because i was so full.
Her experience is totally relatable. So much of our self worth is based on how we think we are being perceived by others-especially if that perception is that we are failures. Striving not to fail or even stumble is enough to make most of us give up. I commend her for putting herself out there. It’s more common than I think we want to admit.
For sure
Hi Abbey New to your community, enjoying your blog. Will make yours an active part of my week! Thank you
Thank you so much!
I really appreciate you Abbey; on tips before heading out for a dinner/ lunch gathering. That is so true.
I am trying to combat that "need" to do a cheat or especially high caloric food weekly that will just reverse my progress. Whilst I understand that balance is very important, but it has become too regular that after every such meals, I will feel guilty. I hate that feeling. Just trying to be real, weight loss is not easy. Maybe whatever steps or hacks there are, it requires work, attention and time to invest in it. I did Noom in 2021 and it worked well for me, though I have stopped after 3 months of use. I think your channel is more integral at keeping sense and being realistic of long term understanding between food, health, nutrition and lifestyle. Thanks Abbey!
I understand! So glad my channel is helpful for you ❤️
I see myself 10 years ago in her and it makes me sad for her. I had a friend who always used to brag about how little they would be eating in a day and nothing we say is gonna help her now unfortunately. She has to see the impact of yoyo dieting for herself.
For sure, it is very upsetting to watch
Now we need a therapist to unpack her mom also being on crazy diets, I am sure while she was younger too.
Side note, I have several on the cookbooks behind you, and I would love to know your favourite recipes/favourite cookbooks. That save with jamie one is great, and I just got Plenty which I saw in another video.
I can put this topic on my list to discuss!
@@AbbeysKitchen that would be awesome!
as someone who suffers from BED I have noticed that I don't have a good body connection for when I get hungry. I don't really ever feel hungry I just begin to feel faint, is there a way to rectify this