Gut feelings: Truth, or insecurity?
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- Опубликовано: 30 сен 2024
- Alex writes, “How to tell if your gut feeling speaks the truth or if it’s insecurity? I've been dating my girlfriend for 8 months. We love each other & all is great. But I feel that something is wrong. I don’t know if my gut is signaling that she's cheating or if she's not in it for the long-term. Or if this feeling is insecurity. I've been insecure in the past, but my gut feeling has also been right in the past.”
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Stayed with a guy far too long because I was telling myself "I'm just overreacting" and "my anxiety comes from my childhood wounds". Nope, the dude was actually still in love with his ex, and my gut feeling picked it up. Wish, wish, wish I had acted on my gut feeling earlier. If you feel "anxious for no reason" - you're not crazy. There is a reason, it just needs to be understood correctly ♥ hope this helps somebody
yesss. i was chatting with a guy and he started to play texting games. i started noticing it, feeling anxious, thinking its me, bc i am anxious attached. i mantained cool but in the end he would flake and ghost. i was right. i can trust myself now.
The same exact thing happened to me. He ran me into debt and told me if I didn’t lose my virginity to him he wouldn’t believe I loved him, a week after I lost it to him he started cheating on me with his ex, when I would get anxious he would gaslight me and withhold affection. Then when the truth came out he ghosted me, after a 2.5 year relationship. I’m sorry you went through that
It just helped me. This morning in NY.. I'm a telling someone goodbye today. He SUCKS.
I've been feeling extemely anxious with NO apparent reason, Its just a feeling from my gut. It is just so strong. When I confronted him, I can feel hes not honest. Its so frustrating
Oh lord help me........I got this babes...
It gets louder and louder the more you ignore it. I always imagine it as someone knocking on a door in my mind and yelling louder and louder until I listen.
True 🎯
Ive known from the beginning.....God is with me, i know for a fact! Smile and breath...its going to be ok, God made this HUGE heart just for this evil, nothing on this Earth is more powerful than Love and baby, im packing the most of that than anyone alive today knows......he told me that he knew me and had this job for me before I was ever even in the womb and I have hung on brcause of this and because Im a wolf for someone special to me.....the sharks have messed with her....may God have mercy on them, because I will NOT!!!
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My gut starts hurting and I have diarerea so I always regard it as sos
how can some comment be more relatable than this one........
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And love the pattern as well!
@@SusanWinter I just may add or confirm that is, that often times I think, we do pick up on some irregularity - like you said before 5:14 in the video - that makes us have that "gut feeling" but are too *busy, or delusion ourselves still and so on, so it doesn't come to continuousness completely/in a full perspective? And again, literally thank you for existing Susan 😅 and for DOING THESE videos. It is truly a life changer 🙏. Not only that I learn a lot, but also having someone for the FIRST TIME confirming something that "I knew" but watching some other videos on these topics made me doubt my perceptions and conclusions and just getting more confused.. . 🌞🌸✨🧚💜🌱🌻
Asalaamu Alaikum Walaa S
Be careful sharing this kind of gut feeling information if you suspect your partner is a cover narcissist. They will use that against you and Gaslight you, telling you you're crazy and need help or even therapy to deal with your insecurities when they're the ones not in it fully and your gut feeling is nothing but correct at the fact they have one foot out the door and don't want you to know
Totally agree.
The narcissist always has one foot out the door, that’s a given. They are always farming in the background, for a safe potential landing place.
Accurate
Happened to me, found out about a month later i was right
FUKN FOUND OUT 12 yes 12 YEARS LATER ❌❌❌-=== 2008 to 2020
I started detecting some changes in my partner. My gut feeling said she was cheating and even though she denied it in the beginning, she confessed later after she was caught. Always trust your gut.
What were u noticing if u don’t mind me asking
I will never go against my gut again ever before i meet him i had gut feeling not too go their didn't listen most of the relationship has been toxic mind games and the rest 😔
good self-connection!
He could be a narcissist? they are masters of mind games.
I love this. And very rarely are insecurities unwarranted, it's usually behavior which doesn't align with safety/security in a relationship manifesting itself. If people care about the relationship and cultivating it properly, the right actions are taken and exhibited. So if someone's not all in or just there for less committed reasons, you'll be able to tell.
Do you think that if someone is fully committed, they would work on those insecurities with them? I feel like it’s because of my past insecurities, it had pushed my partner away from wanting to do that.
@@vivianluong8873 I don't think it's the norm to work past "insecurities" for another person, I'd be weary of a person pushing you past any untrustworthy/gut feelings, possible narcissist. You'd probably have a secure & clearly communicated relationship from the start. You should also work on yourself before a relationship, to the point where your past isn't hindering you currently, it's unhealthy to bring emotional baggage into a new situation. You won't have good discernment without proper healing.
I think we shouldn't feel uneasy with a good person who has our best interests. If you feel insecure something isn't right or not compatible.
@@larissagonzales6075 this is what I can’t figure the f out
Gut instinct is there to guide you I always say give the benefit of the doubt once then notice behavior patterns
Hm. This answers a puzzle piece for my breakup and why things transpired like they did. Thanks!
I never knew how to differentiate between insecurity and gut instincts before I found out my ex cheated on me. Now I know never to second guess my gut again!
After narcissistic abuse, I will always go by my intuition.
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If there's a gut feeling regarding cheating, it would be best not to expose your suspicion. If we are talking about a long relationship I suggest you should keep an eye on them. A thief would never tell you if he or she has ever stolen anything,same goes here ( pretty much) If the relationship is fresh then i suggest you just end it. Gut feeling is pretty much a warning that the person opposite you is probably not giving you all the attention and love you used to get. (less attracted to you. A 3rd wheel or possibly bored) Nonetheless save your sanity and move on
I love the way you teach us how to communicate in relationship.
thank you Pavica!!
It absolutely speaks the truth. Your gut feeling just reaffirms that there’s something wrong with the relationship. It may not necessarily confirm that the other person is cheating, but it does confirm that you don’t feel right in the relationship. You’re in denial if you think all is great and you want to sweep your gut under the rug.
I like this comment “something is wrong”
Maybe not something like cheating, maybe so, but just something is not right. Thanks!
hey
Always I mean ALWAYS listen to your gut feeling, I had lots of relationships in the past, and I can remember that I got so many gut feeling signals with certain girls only not all of them and I was completely right, I just felt that there was something wrong happening without having any evidence, I felt angry, upset and couldn’t be romantic with them, it’s like something was preventing me from being nice and romantic with them, I was forced internally to stop saying “I love you” or even calling them babe or my love. The hardest thing is how to prove it to confront your partner and in this case don’t talk directly use some physiological tricks. If you confront your partner you would get ZERO truth, nobody would say oh you are right I’m cheating on you, even if they want to break up with you, they don’t want to be the bad part of the story “fu***** cheaters”, they would say “seriously!!! Why do you think that I’m cheating or taking to someone else? You are crazy.
Yeah that's crazy but true
@@johnoyeogbe8179 how is it going now?
how is it going now?
I had a gut feeling after 1 month he wasn't for me. He love bombed me (big red flag) and became very needy and clingy. I felt so smothered! I told him I needed space. He guilt tripped me to keep trying. Saying "I'm going to miss you so much". 4 years later and countless accusations of cheating when I wasn't doing anything! Things would be ok then out of the blue he would blow up and accuse me. I am almost 100% sure now he was the one cheating with this woman he always claimed was just a "friend". It was hell on earth! I am healing now but wish I had followed my intuition. Ladies we have a strong sense of intuition. NEVER ignore your GUT FEELINGS!!
@Zara Nora hey there, i hope you left him already. if you’re already not feeling 100% comfortable, trust your gut
Apparently not strong enough because y’all keep picking the wrong men. Lmao.. smdh😒👌💥
I can speak to this... over the past 6 months, i started to feel something odd about my wife. she started to pull away, and claim she's working late and company events on a regular basis. Then it gets worse as the days pass until she is unresponsive to my texts, and spending time with me less and less, when i know her phone is pretty much attached to her hip. Well... she broke up with me, then confess that she moved on with a coworker a month later. She has always been a person i can trust, and have done nothing for me to think otherwise. But trust your intuitions... A good signal that something is not right, is feeling her pulling away. They do this because they loss emotional connection with you, and more than likely there is a 3rd person involved.
Everytime i didn't listen to my gut, i will regret it shortly after. Now i do not fear it but always rely on it
One time I ignored my intuition about someone because I thought I needed to step outside my comfort zone. Big mistake. Later my gut kept telling me "I told you so nyah nyah!" I lost a bunch of money but in the end, I turned it into a much needed learned lesson....the price to learn it was worth it otherwise I may have ignored it again. Crucial to listen to that instinct/intuition/gut or as some might refer it to as The Holy Spirit. Whatever it is.......do listen to it! Pay attention.
Beautiful. Thanks for sharing this story.
WOW my last experience with someone was the same !!!!
It is profound feeling of absolute certainty that you or the other person needs to leave. It comes from the core of your being and is not something that you sit around and contemplate. You act as if your life depends on it.
It does lol
These words are starting to scare me
@@Megdracula Try reading The Gift of Fear by Gavin De Becker. He explains gut feelings in the book and how they are a gift.
@@ladysmith7747 I’ll look into that thank you
Hey u there, can I discuss something @ladysmith7747
I knew it! Aaah I've tried so hard and beaten myself up because I thought I was just being insecure but also knowing that I'm not really an insecure person in general. But ugh I just knew that my ex was not really in it for me. I broke up with him telling him that something's wrong and that I think he's not ready for a serious relationship with me and he didn't even object lol.
The last sentence hit me in my stomac!
There was your gut feeling right.
A man, who does not even really starts a real deep conversation about it? Red flag into the truth.
I hope for you, you do find the right one.
Bless you
This comment hits hard! I’m generally an insecure person in relationships, but after your comment I wonder if I’ve been more insecure during the last few months because that was when my ex had started questioning if he could love me, but I was unaware of this info at the time.
Love your wavy hair🤩.
You're so put together beautiful.... inspires me to be my best...ty!
thank you!!
True
If this is the case either your gut or an insecurity that always pops up, how would you end the relationship? Especially if the person keeps denying or not understanding why or what to do to help fix your insecurities in the relationship. Tbh I dont even know if I know what a healthy relationship feels like anymore when everyone is so guarded or scared to be themselves. 😕
Hi! I'd say you never need to give a reason for why you want to end a relationship. I mean, you can tell the other person that something consistently doesn't feel right, but you don't need the other person to agree with you! Don't let someone convince you to stay when it's not what you want deep down
I'm now in that situation. I feel physical symptoms the same you feel being in danger, like stomach cramps, stronger heartbeat, adrenaline shivers through all my body. I just know something's off with my date. I showed him a support and empathy telling him that I noticed he's bothered by something and that I'm open to talk about it, but he denies it telling everything's fine. However, he is becoming more and more distant. He changed the pattern of texting and communication, now he feels uncomfortable talking about deeper topics and shortly after changes it to more casual. He stopped asking me questions except the casual ones like "what's up". I'm upset because he should come to see me soon and I'm afraid he is going to flake on me, even though he said multiple times that he wants us to work out as a couple.
Any advice?
Hi dear,
Open communication is important. It's difficult to give advice solely on this comment, but if you'd like to chat privately, feel free to book a private consultation via my site: www.susanwinter.net
Any updates here?? Would love to hear how it turned out.
Ćao! Search insecure attachment styles. In fearful avoidant attachment style, a person may fear closeness and intimacy. However, they need and heavily rely on the support of others at the same time. Too many narcissists too much drama and trauma in this world just because neglecting mothers didn't change their babies diapers on time and give nurturing consistently smfh🙄
oh that dreaded gut feeling that we or at least i try to put off and tell myself im wrong what i am feeling even though deep down i know my gut is right..its not been wrong yet...i think we all know what we are feeling is true too but we try so hard to counter against it..your videos are always very honest and to the point i love that
Idk everytime I ignored my gut feeling, i landed head first, neck deep in shit. Trust your gut feeling. It will save you a lot of trauma.
i had posted something yesterday, about a friend of mine not responding to my emails. After much thought, I came to the conclusion, that it is not to find out why she is not responding in a timely manner, but more importantly, why am I reacting to it. My conclusion is that she was triggering what my ex used to do to me, that was so emotionally painful for me. As far as she is concerned, I will not reach out as much any longer. Maybe just a hey, how you doing, every now and then. I feel at peace with myself.
I know what that's like. I've had friends come and go, some people are just in your life for a season. Don't read too much into it and don't take it personally. Sometimes to know is to know that you dont know.
I'm so glad you did this video, I have been wondering how to tell the difference, I've never been able to trust my gut feeling with regard to relationships because I always wonder if it's my insecurities talking. Thank you so much for the advice. 🤗
Aroma Healing I heard when we have a gut feeling its not that the hunch is truth, it’s there letting us know it’s worth investigating. I’m not sayin like Sherlock Holmes, no one wants that. I think it means to take a step back and observe the facts then make your determination.
Sadly, it’s almost always RIGHT! I mean you can set a clock to it.. just the way it is…
Susan I really like those colors you're wearing. Those blue sleeves are so loud. It's an interesting change of style.
Also I feel like a lot of people take dating less serious in these weird Corona-Times.... A lot of them seem to use it as entertainment against their bordem. Which is kinda frustrating. Especially online dating gets less serious i feel. but maybe it never was that serious for most... :D i feel kinda lost, hoping for romance haha
And what about when your partner thinks his gut feeling is correct and you don't even know where that came from?? ie I was shopping with him, and when we are getting home he then asks me if I know a guy that passed by me when we were going to check out at the supermarket, cause I turned my head towards that guy and he seemed to be looking at me. The worst is I have no idea who he's talking about, I don't know if this guy is blue yellow or green, I wasn't paying attention.And... I'm new in the city I moved countries to live with him, I do not know anyone in the city...? I was shocked when he asked me that.. I feel like crying when I remember this episode.
Carla S I’m really sorry for you and for this experience if you want to talk about it just let me know- www.susanwinter.net
He’s paranoid possibly even paranoid schizophrenia!!! RUN 🏃🏾♀️ 🏃
It's so hard trying to get over someone especially when you hear from a friend they might of gotten married and has a child. Thinking too much doesn't help and fantasising about things which never happened makes it worse. Wish no one has to go through this 😭
Just think if you were meant to be with them you would be. That helps me.
Zain K I’m sorry you had to go through that. Yes I know it’s tough
@@pam164 thank you Karen 😊. If she has actually gotten married I'd likely think it's from someone in her family as I never saw her talk to a boy in college except me. She had a close friend who stuck to her all the time. I'm just wondering if she was related to her as she told me they both went to 2 weddings together. Would sound weird if you hear about two friends going to a wedding. I'm just seeing it that I'm happy she has gotten married to someone in her family and not that she was with someone else like me outside her family.
@@SusanWinter thank you Susan. Today I started feeling better but I just get this these moments of congestion in my head and just feel down again. I haven't seen her in 4 years except 2 years ago when I drove out my road and she was crossing. She had such a big smile on her face when she saw me. We both weren't open about it but it seems like decent girls in religion tend to get married within the family.
Would love to visit you in person and get your advice but sadly I live in the UK and CoronaVirus doesn't help.
@@zaink7037 You will drive your self mad thinking the what's and the ifs? if she is married and has hard as it is you have to let her go ( in your mind) that is the only way you will move on and be happy. I know ive been through a lot of men hurting me my last ex dumped me over phone after 3 years saying he had met another woman oh boy i remember just wanting to die! but 3 years later im great he did me a favour in long run, i would not have him back with bells on!! 😆 Chin up things will get better 💖
Every year when I reflect i always learn that my instincts were always right it's a reoccurring revelation. I was in a long distance relationship 5 years ago but I ended it within few months after my first visit although on paper he is a very nice guy I had a gut feeling he had a secret relationship with a mutual friend and I even asked him but he denied it. But also because of other reasons I did not continue the relationship. However every year I go back to the country to visit family where my ex also lives, since we have mutual friends me and my ex remained friends but he would always pursue to "court" me but because of rumours escalating I would always ask him about the mutual friend yet he would deny it, but s I would make it clear to my ex I cannot commit to him because my gut just didnt feel right. This year after few years I finally was able to ask the mutual friend myself and they admitted it, I spoke to my ex about it and he was like how he was going to tell me he was just finding right time (but he had so many chances to tell me). Keep in mind this ex would always try to "court" me everytime I'd go to the country yet everytime I asked the question he would deny it. Although I never committed to him I always gave him my friendship and he always had the opportunity to tell me the truth in a calm environment.
My fellow youtubers I am so glad I never entered into anything longterm with this guy. Am I hurt? yes I am a because I saw him as a good friend and with any friend I would feel that way if they lied to me for so many years. BUT I am not broken because I never committed myself to this coward my instinct/gut feeling told me each time he tried to "court" me that he is not the right person for me. People NEVER SETTLE even if on paper the person is nice and lovely, your instinct is your sidekick and can identify things that you may not necessarily see straight away.
Thanks for sharing!
So proud of you for being courageous enough to follow through and honour yourself. I'm sure you are so proud of yourself as well. Well done! 🌸🤗🖤
One thing not discussed in the video: When you can't trust your gut feeling because you have depression or another mental illness. For depression, it's hard to trust your gut because depression will lie to you so the part that exists from action can feed itself.
Nope! Its always right!!
Believe your gut feelings!
Hi Susan. Thank you soooo much for your videos (from South Africa) . You are such a Gem.
Could you please make a video about moving on without an apology from your ex partner or why some people just don't have the capacity to apologize even after you have told them they have hurt you deeply. Is there a way you can make them see your perspective or is the inability to apologize a character trait that cannot be changed?
But how do you pick up the pieces without an apology when you were wronged?
Hope to hear from you soon.
It's much harder to move on without closure, but you'll have to do it for yourself. I have a feeling your ex lacks courage, and doesn't want to accept their responsibility by saying, "I'm sorry." Though it would be nice to have them say it, you don't need it to move on.
And he told me I was crazy! I agree, no longer married because of his dishonesty and I have thought maybe I was crazy all of that time!
Susan, I love watching your videos. You always know exactly what to say. I've heard you say many times that when alarm bells go off consistently during a relationship, it's important to trust your gut. What if you had evidence in the past that your partner is not trustworthy but they claim to have changed?
For the first three months that I was seeing my boyfriend, he was still in the process of breaking things off with his ex and lied to me when I confronted him. Now that the truth is out, he claims to have changed but I'm worried that he is pandering to what will keep me around. How do I know if this is my gut instincts or if he has really changed?
When you are with someone and everything is great, the relationship is great, you spend good moments and heartfelt moments with them, but all of a sudden you feel this gut feeling that you are not happy, that’s your gut speaking. Even though things are good, your gut is protecting you. Listen to it. You need to make sure what it is you need to be clear, but listen to it when you are happy or not. It can’t fail you!
How is it going now?
This is off subject, but I have a friend that lives out of state, and we sent messages on Skpe, she doesnt seem to respond to me in a timely manner and its really starting to irate me! I almost want to send her a message and say" wow you seem to be too , busy to respond to my messages" I tried to not send her any messages, but then I end up telling her about something in the news. Again no response. I dont want to respond, while I am feeling irritated, that is never good, but I do want to make a point. I broke up with an ex, that kept doing that to me, and now she is doing it, maybe she is triggering how i felt about him not responding to my messages.
Wow
Hi Susan, I need to know if a gut feeling ever leads to self-fullfilling prophecy. I am a little confused.
My gut feelings have never ever been wrong......ever!
Hey
My gut told me he was up to something. I found pictures on social media and I asked the other lady how long were they dating. Waiting for a response. She might not
I don't know if that was right or wrong but I know I feel better. I need closure
We’re they dating? I’m having this feeling in my gut that the girl I talk to is lying to me
Don't underestimate the power of a woman instinct. My instinct is never wrong.
Honesty is key.....x
Thank you Susan.x
You've got it, Ryan!! Hey... how are you?? How's the acting going? Loved the clip you have on your RUclips page.
Hi Susan.
Sorry for the late reply. I really hope you're safe and well in this unusual time.
I will certainly inform you of any projects that I'm on. As things have now slowed down I'm using this time to find myself again and heal.
I want to thank you for everything you do. I dont many of us realise the hard work and dedication that goes into creating these videos alongside a busy work life. (Although this is an extension of that).
You have, and continue to help me out of mental pits I find myself in often. You're certainly my go too.
I'm in a state of healing.
When you believe, and feel you've met your 'Twin Flame' and then you're shit off from that energy and emotion... you become somewhat incomplete. As if you reached full frequency and now you will never get that back. Part of you has died.
This is my current situation...as in a very spiritual guy, I surrounded myself that ignites my energy and fills the void that were created due to the loss I feel.
I want to thank you again Susan for all you do. You are truly one of those that are making a difference in the world.... something we should all be practicing....to be better.
Stay safe.
Stay well.
I look forward to seeing more of you soon.x
Take care.
Ryan.x
Ryan Green - Actor Ryan what a lovely note. Thank you so much for that beautiful share. I’m glad to hear that I’m you’re taking care of yourself in this time of sequestering. And congratulations on bringing yourself back to the state of wholeness. The twin flame is an extremely intense relationship, and most of us wonder how we can survive it when we’re in it. I’m grateful to read at my videos are of help to you. Makes me smile. Please reach out when you need a smile yourself.
according to naomi wolf famous book ,, vagina,, there is thousands nerve connections between female guts and vagina, which explains common at females intuition compare to
just few men .
Then why do women constantly pick bad men then?? Your theory is about as useful as dog 💩!
Love my ex of 8 months, but... Told him about my gut feeling, explaining that something didn't feel right. He told me to take as much time as I needed, without discussing it. I believe he was with other people, and was just using me as a companion. He is also very codependent on one of his friends. This had a big impact on our relationship. He planned major things with this guy without telling me, such as flying out of state to attend a wedding with him of someone he didn't know, and he even went to dental appointments with him...It was baffling... I asked him if he was paying for the dental care, he gave me an unconvincing "no". The frosting on the cake is when he stood me up and blamed me. I still care for him, but my gut.... At first I thought it was just insecurity, but I don't think so anymore.
You ex was/is probably in a gay relationship with that "friend" and you were his beard.
I always go by actions speak louder than words (always said it to him and he HATED that) so ofc when I was in a relationship I had insecurities and watched to see if he acted otherwise. He always lied about how he was acting, never matched up to what he was doing so my gut feeling from then on felt off. I'm always given a reason why he acts the way he does, but it ends up being a lie and then he admits it and it starts all over again with something else. It is bloody.... DRAINING!!!!!!
Fane Mahe exactly actions do speak louder than words.
@@Mike-xt2lh 💯!!!
What about little lies like
“I didn’t hang up on you” when he clearly did or “I didn’t see your texts” when it clearly says read???
Lie detector test will tell everything you need to know
I am still struggling with this. :-(. I’m so sensitive that I don’t know if I’m feeling vibes or being paranoid.
Sometimes it's confusing, but I would say being sensitive and being paranoid are two different animals. I can be very sensitive myself, and that's really a GOOD thing, it means you care and you're kind. Don't let someone be rude to you with the oh, you're too sensitive snarky comment. If you've been hurt a lot by some people, it makes perfect sense that you would be sensitive. Where this could turn into paranoid are thoughts like "Everyone is out to get me. Everyone hates me." While it's true you have to watch your back sometimes, most of us realize that some people do genuinely like or love us as we are so no, everyone does NOT hate us. I don't know if that helps you, but I hope it does. Sensitive people can be amazing, it's time to drop this notion some people have that being sensitive means you're weak or inferior. Don't buy into that, I know I don't anymore.
Lynn Marie Anderson I am “feely” sensitive, but I am also sensitive in that I pick up on small nuances in conversation, or any interaction. I notice subtleties that most people don’t. My upbringing has caused me to be hyper vigilant to a fault. I also have strong empathic traits and strong intuition. It’s not a good way to live. Thank you for your input - I appreciate your willingness to engage and offer insight. ❤️!!
From my own experience something is making you that so go with the gut
@@TheFender18 you are right. I will never ignore my gut again. I’ve learned that I can trust myself. :-)
@@Iamsam-jl5fn exactly trust your instinct every time ! ...time and experience only teaches us that
I can’t even tell if I’m having gut feelings or not, I feel I’m overthinking way so much, it even made me ill. Still, this guy, he sometimes ignores me or disappears, and when I’ve tried to talk to him about it he just went to sleep. I didn’t try since , I don’t really know what’s going on, I keep getting RUclips notifications for tarot readings which then tell me this guy is manipulating me or that he has hidden motives 🤔 I guess from this video this is an external situation causing my insecurities? Or is it gut feelings too? Or am I just over thinking waaaaay too much?? Someone help🥺
I love a girl but she want to just stay as a friend with me, I have proposed her many times in past year, but she rejected. She just want to make a decision right now, I also don't want to leave her and it is getting difficult for me to stay as a friend. what should I do?
so think being insistent is going to change the result? I think not. I think it will push her away. If you are really her friend, you should respect her decisions. It hurts but there is no other one. getting a yes because you insisted many times after getting told no, is not my idea of how a relationship should start, do you think[?
My partner has accused me of cheating and I have always been loyal and faithful. It is so hurtful to be falsely accused and watching your love and relationship be ripped apart over it. My partner claims he feels it in his gut and intuition, this is so hard to wrap my head around, when I know my innocence 😢
I can't believe this information is just out there on the internet. We are damned blessed and, Susan, you, a bloody angel!
when i ignore my gut feeling, it shows up as a very symbolic message in my vivid dreams... never ignore your intuition!
Stunning top! I loved that Susan “ do you feel safe enough to share” ahh ... vg. Good nugget. Usually our intuition is dead on. I’m not sure insecurity feels the same as a nagging feeling. Sometimes you just know, even if you don’t want to admit it to yourself. This case could be a matter of one partner more “ in “ and the other along for the now. This is where having the up front is this the kind of relationship you want going forward talk. ( But that doesn’t rule out changes of heart down the road.) Stay safe !
zenmaiden1 Great perspective. Thank you so much for the kind words and you stay safe as well
You look beautiful as always. Thank you for this. I needed it 🌸
Wow! I’ve been feeling this lately...
One piece of advice: if you have to keep convincing yourself that everything is fine and you can't shake off the feeling that something is wrong and anxiety comes out of nowhere just leave. Stop trying to be politically correct and give people a chance. They might be great but if you are not feeling it you are just not feeling it. That doesn't make you a bad person. At the beggining you should be calm and excited. Feeling should be growing slowly but steadily. If there are not and anxiety keeps peeking out it's for a reason. Trust yourself.
I can’t even sleep next to my boyfriend anymore nor can I kiss him. My gut is to the fact it’s keeping me up hrs long at not wonder what is wrong in this relationship. He started hiding his phone and no sex and forget me about me nor does he really want to help me. We been together for two years and I have a baby otw I’m 7 months pregnant and he always telling me to call before I come over his place now
What a pretty dress you have on love the colours. I find my gut feeling is always right and that means meeting people and relationships.
@Beatrice Ivan Don't want him back!!!
As I look back first 5 sec I met people and had strange feeling of a big no.it was always right.
U r the best....a gift from God. I just subscribed and your wisdom compassion brilliance and guidance is wonderful. God bless you.❤
I had an intuition that my ex and I wouldn’t last. Seven years later, we separated. My gut was right. The problem was that we didn’t talk much especially in the later parts of the relationship.
You make it sound like you will get the truth. The reality is if you have that conversation it's 9 times out of 10 going to end up with you getting gaslit if there was anything going on. Or do you really believe right then and there they're going to have a moment of clarity and start sharing? Doubt it. They're cheating on you because they do not respect you!
My life.
When she doesn't wanna have sex any more, she is a narcissist, she is the victim & you are the villian, criticeses everything makes you doubt yourself all good signs she having an affair
For me it's all the little things. Each one seems insignificant so I'd probably be clear crazy if I talked about them. But the little things add up and eventually you get to the point of questioning your relationship.
When I married my wife . Something was telling me not to marry her at the time that we were actually saying I do and and I didn't have enough guts to say no because I was not sure if that was my intuition or paranoia getting married. Now things have been very Rocky and I'm wondering if that's because I didn't listen to my intuition or the circumstances in my life that need to be worked out with her I need some help to figure it out let me know if any one knows thank you.
How lovely you look today, Susan! Wonderful subject!
STEPHANIE!! Hi doll. Thank you.
There is a Private detective she stated that every woman and man that come to her about ..about her investigating their spouses for adultery. They all turned out to be cheating. And some were going on gut feelings.. not one person was innocent
I don’t think mine is cheating or trying to, but I think he’s infatuated or has a crush on a certain female he works with. He acts so weird and nervous when he talks about her. He is a caterer and she is a wedding planner. He has even said the venue that she works at is his most favorite venue. He doesn’t think I remember which one she works at Lol… he will just call out this venue and say it’s his favorite
….I’ve been there and it sucks. I do a lot of catering with him, and he talks to a lot of people, but this certain girl he really lights up around her. Super overly friendly and nervous laughs. He is not like that normally. I picked up on that instantly …. now, this girl is innocent and has no idea and she is married.. Now in this venue there is hardly any room in the kitchen to do anything. It’s miserable, but it’s his favorite because I know why…. he had to meet up with her to discuss a wedding and he kept pretending to forget her name. And then he’s like oh the crazy chick the crazy looking chick. I’m like how is she crazy looking? He’s like the one that has a husband. I’m like who cares if she has a husband? That is some weird ass behavior…. I had a discussion with him over it, but he will not tell me anything and claims it’s all in my head. Yeah I’m not stupid 😡 honestly it’s not fair and it just makes me feel like shit because I’m 42 and I look pretty damn good for my age. then he’s gonna act like he has a crush on someone else. It just fkn pisses me off. 😡
I am dating a guy that I have known for yrs. We decided to give a yr a try and see how things go with us...we have made a yr but I noticed little things happening. He stays in his phone a lot saying he is looking at Tic Tok...well it's becoming a big habit...he looks at in constantly and I never hear any sound...even in bed every night he looks at it for long lengths of time so I decided to see his followers. Well it's a lot of women with little clothes on and breasts half way out doing all this freaky stuff. He is younger than me and I felt our life together was really great but now I'm starting to wonder should I back out now and let him seek what he is looking for but I also wanna talk to him about it without being hurt and upset. My gut is telling me to let go.
If you ever come to Cologone, Germany that would be awesome :D i know, this won't happen.
Also I would love to know what Alex did after watching your video. And if he talked to his girlfriend; what did she say? I wonder about that often times, watching your videos. I personally took a lot of your advice and it helped a lot. Mostly it ended "situationships"; hot and cold players and slow faders. I learned a lot from your videos, thanks :) looking forward to many more
Dominic Cobb I love Germany and I haven’t been there for a number of years. And I have never been to Cologne. I’m sure it’s beautiful. And regarding what Alex did or didn’t do; whenever I answer somebody’s video request by making a video, I send them an email with the link to the video. Often times they write back. Sometimes I never hear from them so I never know if they received the information or not
You can share your feelings and they willing sit there and deny what theyre doing while looking you right in the eyes, saying i love you.
Ive had gut feelings my wife has been seeing someone else for a long time , ive tried expressing my feelings and get the defensive arguing from her , i have a long list of inconsistencies in her behavior , hiding her phone , starting random arguments, not to mention the total lack of ANY intamacy in our marriage , we dont have sex , never hug , kiss and for the last month we dont share a bed together. Shes very secretive with her social media accounts, she keeps her phone on silent mode .... etc the list is long . Do i have reason to be suspicious?
I have thar gut feeling that my girlfriend is messing with this dude at the sane prison in it seems so true but I don't have no evidence
We get in fight when do something or say something to her out the way he get mad it's not normal
Was it true??
I don’t need them to tell me the truth I just ghost lol 😂 real mature I know but seriously if I get that your shady then you shady n I’ll act accordingly.. 😂 big time ..
So insightful and experienced you seem.
Thank you 🙂
If you think someone is cheating - They probably are
@Susan Winter, unrelated, your shirt is really pretty and suits you very much
This is a great video for people to help develop their intuition as well. Really good topic.
K P Thanks
Seems like we want people that dont want us.
We want what we cant have.
Desire is stronger emotion than actually getting
After a year and a half of a hell of a situation on my relationship. I have to say this
I am happy that I didn't follow my gut feeling and it worked out.
But even after this, next time im going to follow my gut feeling, because it was a fucking hell of a year and I shouldn't have put out with that shitty situation.
gut feeling is where your ego sits. It wants to feel pain to feed from it.
Perfect been wondering same thing. Great timing!
Yes. Trust your gut and your spouse might not even know it’s happening, whatever It is
Please do not ignore the "somethings off" why am I so anxious and worried all of the time feeling. They are not in it 100% no matter what the reason... cheating etc.. You will end up walking away and they won't care or they will just continue to destroy you. Love doesn't feel bad, anxious or worried. It feels safe, warm and comforting. That person is using you. GTF away and don't look back. You will lose all of your dignity and they will watch you burn and move on to the next without a blink. Please don't waste years trying everything. They won't change no matter how long you "hang in there".
i chose not to ignore it, but now i feel like i ruined it by constantly communicating how i felt something was wrong. i feel like a complete idiot.
I love it. Thank you. I experience the same thing but I know now that I have alot of external factors that made me easy. I should probably just ask her sometime then and continue to trust and love truly.
The gut is chronic. I liked that a lot.
Your presence is so calming!!☺💕
Love, Courtney Thank you
I had a gut feeling … so I investigated with an open mind, and discussed with my partner, who denied.
Then, found not only that he intensified the coworker relationship despite my insecurity with it: completely disregarding my feelings, but also found public evidence online of what was going on (thanks to my brother-in-law who found it and alerted me).
Investigated further, wanting to believe my husband but kept finding other evidence until a mystery bra showed up in our bedroom: a black, lacy one.
At that point, no sense pretending anymore that either of us doesn’t know what’s going on.
Right?
But he still does.
Still pretends he didn’t cheat. I’ve seen the text logs. I can date their dates, their argument, their make up… I know my husband.
It brought up times from the past I believed him and brushed aside my gut feeling and makes our family feel even less stable than it did before, especially since Covid.
I’d
I’m still trying because even if he isn’t worth it, they certainly are.
If it were just us, no question it wouldn’t have taken this long for me to see his patterns and skiddadle.
And I fear we’re setting a worse example for them like this than we would be free from one another.
But society says they have an even bigger uphill battle if we separate, and one is already special needs.
Not worth robbing them of any chance at success or happiness.
I really needed this right now 🥰
Stay safe
Lovely outfit Susan. Pretty.
Haven't even watched the video yet, but this is a fantastic question and one that I often have a difficult time answering.
How can u tell if you have become a cynical?
Well, obviously your.. wait for it.. GUT!!!!
Hello Susan! Best regards from Canary Islands!
Wow, Pablo. How wonderful. Thanks for joining us today
@@SusanWinter You are welcome! Susan! 🤗💞🌺
It’s not with a partner though, it’s a friend.
Extremely interesting! Thank you ♥️
Erin Rose Thanks Erin
I dated a guy for a very long time and he was extremely suspicious and accused me of cheating and going behind his back. I never did these things, and had to defend myself almost every single day. I wish me sat down and actually took that conversation. He foten sent me messages suggesting that I cheated, but obviously he coudnt proove it because it never happened. But I was drained by this experience and felt tired and mentally exhaused over having to proove myself all the time.
It happened to me too. Guys like them seem to be mentally ill - I have no other explanation.
@@carlas9723 they actually are. many are "psychotic". usually antisocial pers. Dis with psychotic features. They may also have pathological selfishness, which becomes a reactive like character flaw. they will bring u down in the process of you actually tryin to "help them", before you realize that your flustering, confusion, effort and hurt in the process is part of their "relief strategy." in this case, u have to go, andd take your empathy with you. and give all that good energy to yourself and others.
@@carlas9723 Nope, they are the ones cheating!!