This teaching/talk has finally touched my core after many years of listening to it. I feel as if I’ve been sick all these years and am now healed after taking this medicine called “Trust.” When I say ....... I “ trust “ that you will disappoint me ... repeatedly. But that won’t change the way I feel about you. I will always love you and care for you. I trust that many unpleasant things in life will come my way ... repeatedly. But that won’t change the way I feel about Life. I trust that my car will always require maintenance. I trust that sickness will come my way more than once. But that won’t change the way I feel about it. And the list goes on and on. It brings me a sense tranquility, peacefulness and Contentment. It may be because for the first time in my life I’ve come to really understand what this word “trust” is and what “acceptance” is. Trusting and accepting the way life “is” instead of trying to change it to fit my sense of what’s wrong and right, what should and shouldn’t be. Trust instead Lies. Trust instead the fault finding mind. Trust instead of Hate. Trust instead of Agreed. Trust instead of Jealousy. Trust instead of ill-will. And trust in the goodness of people.
Ajahn Brahm - so glad you are back giving talks! Another wonderful talk. It's true - trust is a risk, but you have to take that risk, you have to 'let go' of trying to control everything [which you can't anayway] - which comes from fear. {Good about teaching!!!!!ha.}
I really love these teachings.They bring such peace to my life.I am thankful this guy is around to teach others how to have a better life and how to better the lives of others.
Repeat your stories as many times as you want AB. I watch your videos over and over and over again. Never boring. Always learning. What I don’t catch the first time, I grasp the third or even the eighth time around.
i got through fifteen minutes of this and i enjoyed this so much. this man will be a god after he dies of old age like 130 year old. 15 minutes ready to come again.
Forgiveness does not mean that someone has to stay in an abusive relationship. It means forgiving the person that has caused you pain (physical and/or emotional) so you can progress on the path to peace and happiness. Many times that consists of understanding that you can't control the other person's actions and leaving with the intention of being more peaceful. If they say "I won't do it again," you can trust them because if you're not with them, they won't be able to :)
Mr. Monk, thank you very much for the talk. Without failing, I have always able to gain from your talk. I am more at ease with myself. Thus [hopefully], I can be a better husband, father and teacher. There are certainly multiplying effect.
When trust is given it is such a freeing thing for both parties. I will say it is one of the most valued things in my marriage. I have never once questioned anything my husband has said to me - and it is the same in return. There are situations in which I like to be cautious for safety, but I do agree that most people are good and mean well most of the time. I feel that this talk very much applies to friendships and people close to us. Giving people a chance is important!
Have always had issues with trust and can't seem to "solve" it. But giving trust first makes sense. No easy feat, but will work on it. Thanks for these talks.
@TheBobbigirl You're very wise for coming to watch these talks to help you through that. I've met someone who had bipolar disorder and I understand the suffering that's there.
To trust others you must trust yourself, often very hard to do especially when it involves the unknown. A mistake may make you feel badly, like I can't even trust myself, but more often it's just a mistake and something you can learn from which will strengthen that trust in the future.
The thought of committing suicide arises in me frequently. I think it arises because I see the futility of my daily existence. From the moment I wake to just before I lay down to sleep. It is the same thing ... day after day, month after month, year after year. And what is that same thing I do every minute of my existence ??? I try to be happy. I do have moments of happiness which is why I haven’t killed myself yet. I’ve tasted moments of joy! One such time was discovering the Four Noble Truths !
Lord B, I hear and understand your words and, I trust that they are true because I have felt the same,. Perhaps it would help if you can develop trust that there is a reason you are here and that purpose is still in the future.
@@marillavanbeuren8572 “... Why am I here? ..... Why was I born into this human realm?” TO GET OUT !! To get off this merry-go round. You know, like to “wake up,” We can only become “enlightened” in the human realm and not in any other realms (ie, animal or hell realm etc). The Buddha outlined the instructions for us ... the Noble Eighth Fold Path. But, I feel I have one foot in the door and the other foot out. I see progress however. The big one is letting go of who I think I am and all the attachments that come with it. I used to believe the things of this world will bring me permanent happiness; I’m happy and full of joy that that isn’t the case anymore. I’m moving away from that belief.
@@lordbyron3603 Ajahn Brahm's teachings about Attachment taught me a lot about myself, much of it unrealized until I listened, and yes, I also believed in permanent happiness until I learned that truly "nothing is forever" so sad but so true. Like you, I want off this merry-go-round, this realm. I accept that this is only one of my many lifetimes, I think I will prefer the animal realm. I work with animals and strongly believe they have many attributes lacking in the human one. Bottom line, isn't it all a learning process? The AFL simile?
what can you do tho? if you have found out your partner cheated already and you freaked out and now don't trust them. how can you mend that when theyre afraid to tell you the truth now?
@Emoshons I'm not sure how to best answer your question, although I hope I can help at least a little. You don't have to believe in reincarnation; it's the most natural thing as a Westerner to not believe in it. The Buddha said to question everything, every teaching, even his until you can know for yourself through experience whether or not it is true. For me I have this, trust, this feeling, that came to me from meditation practice that says this could be true, but I acknowledge I don't know.
+Naropa Ananda , the purpose to life is to be aware of the reflective quality consciousness allows you to experience your life and the lives of others. The purpose of Meditation is to reflect within the consciousness you control .
Dear Naropa, The purpose of meditation is to develop concentration, cultivate self-awareness and act out your the supreme way. My suggested reading to you is The Seven Pillars of Zen.
You don't understand. Its nothing personal against any beleif system. What meditation teaches is how to be self-aware. You can apply self-awareness to your life The question of life beyond physical death is for everyone to find out in the ending credits.
Hrmm.. Well, the Buddha said not to believe anything just because anyone tells you it or that you yourself have imagined it, but weigh things out to find out what is for the best.
you lost me there, when you said :" to trust the governments" , think again; in these days they make the laws , from the banks for the banks, not from the people for the people.anymore. just a thought...
Ajahn, you said when someone gives you their trust, it is a rare and valuable thing. So you say one should take care not to spoil that trust. Just like when your mother gave you her trust. You were careful not to spoil that trust she gave you. So you're urging the "receivers of trust" not to abuse and spoil that trust because it is rare. But then you say, give the benefit of the doubt to someone who has spoiled that trust, people make mistakes, allow others, the world to make mistakes. It's obvious your message is both to the "receiver of the trust" as well as to the "giver of the trust". If so, then the receiver of the trust can actually destroy (spoil) the trust and albeit the relationship. My question is how many mistakes do you allow the receiver of the trust? Example, my best friend, who is addicted to drugs stole money from me. He also injured my toe, fingers and ribs after saying that he wouldn't and that I should trust him. He took small things from family members as well. He rarely followed through on his word ... He made mistake, after mistake, after mistake. You say "be wiling and have the courage to be let down". "It's better than living in fear." How the frack can I. I agree with many and most of the things you've said, and I've listened to your talks religiously. But this trust thing ... I have a problem with.
Lord Byron I think his general message is to forgive endlessly. However I've noticed that sometimes his advice on personal issues is more practical (as opposed to the very idealized ideas he shares during his talks) so I have no idea how he would answer you if you asked that question. There is my answer to an year old question lol Just felt compelled to write something.
+Lord Byron When someone is sick with addiction they are not trustworthy. Would you trust someone with impaired judgement to be in charge of something you value? So you protect yourself from their impaired judgement, but don't abandon the person to their disease. You forgive them the injuries you received and remain compassionate. Maybe trust others to help you with this process.
+Lord Byron Hey. trust is apart of growth, learn as you live from the lessons that trusting other as well as yourself can teach you. if there is someone in your life who is taking advantage of you, there is a responsibility you have to yourself and as well as other person to forgive both of each other, for breaking the trust and also for trusting the liar . You should never feel guilty for helping someone who doesnt want to help themselves. Dont give up on the people who hurt you, as you know how grim their situation maybe, you know the way out as well. Help them through the wisdom that you have cultivated for yourself and inevitably those you meet. Promise to yourself that you won't become the enabling component in lives of the people who betrayed you. In order to do so you need to distance the perception that person has of your control of their situation and of your own life. Be firm and confident that you can stimulate results out of none action. Let that person know that you care for who they truly are and all they should except from you and as well as in return from them is that you will always be able to forgive them but until they are honest with themselves and care for their own sobriety and respect you for who you truly are, then and only then can your relationship grow into something greater than ever considered .
This teaching/talk has finally touched my core after many years of listening to it. I feel as if I’ve been sick all these years and am now healed after taking this medicine called “Trust.” When I say ....... I “ trust “ that you will disappoint me ... repeatedly. But that won’t change the way I feel about you. I will always love you and care for you. I trust that many unpleasant things in life will come my way ... repeatedly. But that won’t change the way I feel about Life. I trust that my car will always require maintenance. I trust that sickness will come my way more than once. But that won’t change the way I feel about it. And the list goes on and on. It brings me a sense tranquility, peacefulness and Contentment. It may be because for the first time in my life I’ve come to really understand what this word “trust” is and what “acceptance” is. Trusting and accepting the way life “is” instead of trying to change it to fit my sense of what’s wrong and right, what should and shouldn’t be. Trust instead Lies. Trust instead the fault finding mind. Trust instead of Hate. Trust instead of Agreed. Trust instead of Jealousy. Trust instead of ill-will. And trust in the goodness of people.
Ajahn Brahm - so glad you are back giving talks! Another wonderful talk. It's true - trust is a risk, but you have to take that risk, you have to 'let go' of trying to control everything [which you can't anayway] - which comes from fear. {Good about teaching!!!!!ha.}
I've only watched two talks by Ajahn Brahm and I already feel as if he knows me. He is a sage of the human being.
I really love these teachings.They bring such peace to my life.I am thankful this guy is around to teach others how to have a better life and how to better the lives of others.
Repeat your stories as many times as you want AB. I watch your videos over and over and over again. Never boring. Always learning. What I don’t catch the first time, I grasp the third or even the eighth time around.
Something will happen in my life and it's like these videos pop up at the right time! Thank you so much!
I like his talks so much. He is amazing. I wish one day I could visit him and his monastery!
i got through fifteen minutes of this and i enjoyed this so much.
this man will be a god after he dies of old age like 130 year old.
15 minutes ready to come again.
“ ... Allow yourself to get hurt ... and that vulnerability disappears ! ...” indeed!
I'm aware this isn't my most enlightened remark, but while I listened to this my mom yelled: Please give the poor man a glass of water!
its not an unenlightened remark. ajahn speaks n same way
:D
Hello little brother. Could your mom and mine be related?
Forgiveness does not mean that someone has to stay in an abusive relationship. It means forgiving the person that has caused you pain (physical and/or emotional) so you can progress on the path to peace and happiness. Many times that consists of understanding that you can't control the other person's actions and leaving with the intention of being more peaceful. If they say "I won't do it again," you can trust them because if you're not with them, they won't be able to :)
Mr. Monk, thank you very much for the talk. Without failing, I have always able to gain from your talk. I am more at ease with myself. Thus [hopefully], I can be a better husband, father and teacher. There are certainly multiplying effect.
Thank you Ajahn Brahm for making this talk available.
Thank you Ajahn Brahm! this is very amazing and thank you so much for giving this talk, i really enjoyed it!
Thank you Ajahn for a wonderful talk. May you be well.
What a beautiful loving message xx
Thank you with all my heart!
When trust is given it is such a freeing thing for both parties. I will say it is one of the most valued things in my marriage. I have never once questioned anything my husband has said to me - and it is the same in return.
There are situations in which I like to be cautious for safety, but I do agree that most people are good and mean well most of the time. I feel that this talk very much applies to friendships and people close to us. Giving people a chance is important!
Sadhu Sadhu SADHUUUUUUUUUU ❤️
Have always had issues with trust and can't seem to "solve" it. But giving trust first makes sense. No easy feat, but will work on it. Thanks for these talks.
@TheBobbigirl You're very wise for coming to watch these talks to help you through that. I've met someone who had bipolar disorder and I understand the suffering that's there.
Omg these burps during the talk crack me up so much 😂😂😂 love you, ajahn brahm!
Best talk yet
I'd like to hear a bit on addicts that we love just decimating our trust over and over. You just can't trust them . I need help dealing with this
To trust others you must trust yourself, often very hard to do especially when it involves the unknown. A mistake may make you feel badly, like I can't even trust myself, but more often it's just a mistake and something you can learn from which will strengthen that trust in the future.
@arev1977 I feel the same way hes great to listen to
The thought of committing suicide arises in me frequently. I think it arises because I see the futility of my daily existence. From the moment I wake to just before I lay down to sleep. It is the same thing ... day after day, month after month, year after year. And what is that same thing I do every minute of my existence ??? I try to be happy. I do have moments of happiness which is why I haven’t killed myself yet. I’ve tasted moments of joy! One such time was discovering the Four Noble Truths !
Lord B, I hear and understand your words and, I trust that they are true because I have felt the same,. Perhaps it would help if you can develop trust that there is a reason you are here and that purpose is still in the future.
@@marillavanbeuren8572 “... Why am I here? ..... Why was I born into this human realm?” TO GET OUT !! To get off this merry-go round. You know, like to “wake up,” We can only become “enlightened” in the human realm and not in any other realms (ie, animal or hell realm etc). The Buddha outlined the instructions for us ... the Noble Eighth Fold Path. But, I feel I have one foot in the door and the other foot out. I see progress however. The big one is letting go of who I think I am and all the attachments that come with it. I used to believe the things of this world will bring me permanent happiness; I’m happy and full of joy that that isn’t the case anymore. I’m moving away from that belief.
@@lordbyron3603 Ajahn Brahm's teachings about Attachment taught me a lot about myself, much of it unrealized until I listened, and yes, I also believed in permanent happiness until I learned that truly "nothing is forever" so sad but so true. Like you, I want off this merry-go-round, this realm. I accept that this is only one of my many lifetimes, I think I will prefer the animal realm. I work with animals and strongly believe they have many attributes lacking in the human one. Bottom line, isn't it all a learning process? The AFL simile?
@dropcum I would gladly make a donation to the Buddhist Society of Western Australia to help facilitate a microphone for the questioners.
thank-you
Trust people to be themselves
happy new year everyone
what can you do tho? if you have found out your partner cheated already and you freaked out and now don't trust them. how can you mend that when theyre afraid to tell you the truth now?
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How about 4 or 5 mistakes? Unintentionally?
What do you do if someone you love so much won't talk to you anymore because you betrayed their trust?
@Emoshons I'm not sure how to best answer your question, although I hope I can help at least a little.
You don't have to believe in reincarnation; it's the most natural thing as a Westerner to not believe in it. The Buddha said to question everything, every teaching, even his until you can know for yourself through experience whether or not it is true.
For me I have this, trust, this feeling, that came to me from meditation practice that says this could be true, but I acknowledge I don't know.
What is the purpose of Meditaion and what is the purpose of Living ! Is there an answer?
+Naropa Ananda , the purpose to life is to be aware of the reflective quality consciousness allows you to experience your life and the lives of others. The purpose of Meditation is to reflect within the consciousness you control .
Dear Naropa,
The purpose of meditation is to develop concentration, cultivate self-awareness and act out your the supreme way. My suggested reading to you is The Seven Pillars of Zen.
Are the answers related toward becoming aware of reality. The existence beyond Physical death?
You don't understand. Its nothing personal against any beleif system. What meditation teaches is how to be self-aware. You can apply self-awareness to your life The question of life beyond physical death is for everyone to find out in the ending credits.
I agree, however it does not affirm the continuance of consciousness, that awareness of "Knowing" The state of complete Blissfulness.
Nice thing you got with your "7." An inverse "L." Cool...
Hrmm.. Well, the Buddha said not to believe anything just because anyone tells you it or that you yourself have imagined it, but weigh things out to find out what is for the best.
@arev1977 I feel the same way. I wish one day I meet him!
he said shit is that ok?
you lost me there, when you said :" to trust the governments" , think again; in these days they make the laws , from the banks for the banks, not from the people for the people.anymore. just a thought...
Ajahn, you said when someone gives you their trust, it is a rare and valuable thing. So you say one should take care not to spoil that trust. Just like when your mother gave you her trust. You were careful not to spoil that trust she gave you. So you're urging the "receivers of trust" not to abuse and spoil that trust because it is rare. But then you say, give the benefit of the doubt to someone who has spoiled that trust, people make mistakes, allow others, the world to make mistakes. It's obvious your message is both to the "receiver of the trust" as well as to the "giver of the trust". If so, then the receiver of the trust can actually destroy (spoil) the trust and albeit the relationship. My question is how many mistakes do you allow the receiver of the trust? Example, my best friend, who is addicted to drugs stole money from me. He also injured my toe, fingers and ribs after saying that he wouldn't and that I should trust him. He took small things from family members as well. He rarely followed through on his word ... He made mistake, after mistake, after mistake. You say "be wiling and have the courage to be let down". "It's better than living in fear." How the frack can I. I agree with many and most of the things you've said, and I've listened to your talks religiously. But this trust thing ... I have a problem with.
Lord Byron I think his general message is to forgive endlessly. However I've noticed that sometimes his advice on personal issues is more practical (as opposed to the very idealized ideas he shares during his talks) so I have no idea how he would answer you if you asked that question.
There is my answer to an year old question lol Just felt compelled to write something.
+Lord Byron When someone is sick with addiction they are not trustworthy. Would you trust someone with impaired judgement to be in charge of something you value? So you protect yourself from their impaired judgement, but don't abandon the person to their disease. You forgive them the injuries you received and remain compassionate. Maybe trust others to help you with this process.
+Lord Byron Hey. trust is apart of growth, learn as you live from the lessons that trusting other as well as yourself can teach you. if there is someone in your life who is taking advantage of you, there is a responsibility you have to yourself and as well as other person to forgive both of each other, for breaking the trust and also for trusting the liar . You should never feel guilty for helping someone who doesnt want to help themselves. Dont give up on the people who hurt you, as you know how grim their situation maybe, you know the way out as well. Help them through the wisdom that you have cultivated for yourself and inevitably those you meet. Promise to yourself that you won't become the enabling component in lives of the people who betrayed you. In order to do so you need to distance the perception that person has of your control of their situation and of your own life. Be firm and confident that you can stimulate results out of none action. Let that person know that you care for who they truly are and all they should except from you and as well as in return from them is that you will always be able to forgive them but until they are honest with themselves and care for their own sobriety and respect you for who you truly are, then and only then can your relationship grow into something greater than ever considered .
beAu-ti-ful going ford
can't you give the guy a night off when he's got a cold? geez
The whole self help literature lies in this piece of footage.
third ( how sad ) haha
beAu-ti-ful going ford