Married for 33 years. Separated at year 28. Still married by living apart. It was the no communication, no quality time, and the no concern for my feelings that was the reason I had to finally stop colluding in my own self betrayal! It was a slow and lonely death of our marriage that gave me to courage to move out and not look back. Took my savings and bought a townhouse. He can file for a divorce and pay a lawyer, but l rather use my money to travel and invest. I’m healing and feeling better everyday. 🧘🏽♀️
So, you pulled the plug but want him to foot the bill? That's cowardly... Own it to your decisions. It's the right thing to do. It takes two to kill a marriage. One person cannot do it by themselves.
My husband and I have been married for 46 years on January 11, 2021 we have no children at home anymore we helped raise grandchildren and now it’s just us and we have fallen in love all over again it’s not about sex for me although it is for him I love him with all of my heart and he loves me more than he ever has he is kinder and more loving to me than ever I love him as much as I did the day I married him sure we’ve had our ups and downs but we love each Luther tell death do us part
You hit the nail on the head! There is another side to this doomsday tale. Falling in love after the kids have left! 🤗. I am soooo happy for you and your husband! 😎
I'm 70 years old, 10 years divorced, 20 years married, two boys and I don't think my wife ever loved me but I worshiped her. She divorced me and it turned out to be a new wonderful life. I have good friends with benefits and more love than in my 20 year marriage. It's a lot better than you think..
@stevenwentworth4249 The husband is supposed to be pro-active and the wife receptive. Quit being a passive victim and start loving your wife. I bet you got into porn and prefer that to IRL wife. But you play the victim. Am I right?
@@ricvanwinkle1665 You are a passive man. You impotently wait for your wife to kiss you because you are passive. You are BS-ing. You blame your wife for your own perverted passivity. #gay.
Married 40 yrs now a lot of ups and downs ,, downs all my fault I fully love my wife now she always loved me now I enjoy her the couples having problems try going to church on Sunday and say a prayer when waking up every morning you will feel like a new marriage happened trust me I’m happier then I’ve ever been
In 2024 with the economy the way it is, divorce is financially impossible for anyone except the wealthy. Thus, you accept being with a person for the rest of your life knowing money is the only thing keeping you together. The alternative today could mean a very horrible lifestyle and maybe becoming homeless.
I'm 63 going through my 4th divorce. Respectvwas gone he is a narcissist abusive and very toxic and he caused us to become homeless. When I found a way to get a place to live I told himbi was done and to just go. I also financially supported him for 3 years. 17 years on and off with him. I an do better alone.
It is important in a relationship. If you aren't someone else is . Don't go for the I don't want it anymore BS. This is why more and more are choosing not to marry or have kids.
In the midst of my second marriage. Feel content at times, but relationship has zero intimacy beyond holding and kissing. Tired of fighting for affection. Will likely separate within the year. Just being honest.
Sexless marriage for over ten years and after she moved into another bedroom I bought a life like sex doll and now she’s accusing me of cheating on her
32 years, issues of course. She started online chats and when she hot attention from others she put more energy into online relationships instead of us. I always tried but as our kids tell me she che ked out before she moved out. Lied to us all to cover her eyes it and made look like it was me. Our kids saw through her lies. She moved out to New relationship but tried selling it as shelter, she got caught and continues to lie. Has absolutely no communication with any of our kids. All grown ups now. I asked for divorce but she is stalling the process.
I'm 50. I get curious on how someone can leave their spouse after so many years. My marriage is not perfect. I often describe my husband like an achy elbow. He is part of me after all this time. Just like an arm. Just because most days my elbow aches I don't want my arm cut off. I love my arm. And an ache isn't enough for me to amputate. Loosing my husband seems like it would be equivalent to being amputated. Sure I could go on living. But, I would never stop missing what it was like having my arm. And in some ways perhaps a prosthetic arm would work better but it would never be truly part of me the way my husband is. I love my arm and it isn't achy all the time 😂❤😊. This is scary though and I hope me and my husband don't have signs we headed for divorce. I wonder what an expert would say? Are we good? Or is there some serious signs that we don't have a permanent marriage? Listening to this video we still sleep together and have sex. He laughs more than I do. He enjoys being around me more than I do around him. But I feel so connected to him. And he takes care of me when I am sick which is quite often. He is my lover and my family. How do I know if the imperfections we have are what lead to silver divorce? Is there any guarantees?
Sounds to me like you have a great relationship!! There are always issues present in any relationship, but based on your comment you have way more positive points than the “typical” negative! Enjoy, and be proud of your perspective and relationship! 👍
Richard Misel jr I know it is hard especially if she is cheating or addicted to the button. You need to get out and live life. Even if your broke & poor . There is someone out there that will like you for more than a tool.
That’s what I thought too of 19 years. Last week found out she’s been with this dude every day, Every day!. She said she didn’t want this to happen.. bah ahaha 😂
You can't blame people for needing love yet abused by the legal judiciary system. It's not the divorce it's the spouse that refuses to stop being the aggressive victim using hatred control that during the marriage never had good luck on your extortion tactics of victim mentality while together all you did was steal
How about working it out and HONORING your marriage vows?? Is that now an “antiquated” ideal? You make a promise to each other and to GOD when you marry. Sorry but, need to REALLY consider that before saying “I do”.
It took two to do the same to make it work. But sometimes, the spouse is only willing or able to handle all the good side of you but not the rest. Haha. Everyone is a package. In this case, the vow is pointless.
Married for 33 years. Separated at year 28. Still married by living apart. It was the no communication, no quality time, and the no concern for my feelings that was the reason I had to finally stop colluding in my own self betrayal! It was a slow and lonely death of our marriage that gave me to courage to move out and not look back. Took my savings and bought a townhouse. He can file for a divorce and pay a lawyer, but l rather use my money to travel and invest. I’m healing and feeling better everyday. 🧘🏽♀️
So, you pulled the plug but want him to foot the bill? That's cowardly... Own it to your decisions. It's the right thing to do. It takes two to kill a marriage. One person cannot do it by themselves.
My husband and I have been married for 46 years on January 11, 2021 we have no children at home anymore we helped raise grandchildren and now it’s just us and we have fallen in love all over again it’s not about sex for me although it is for him I love him with all of my heart and he loves me more than he ever has he is kinder and more loving to me than ever I love him as much as I did the day I married him sure we’ve had our ups and downs but we love each Luther tell death do us part
Congratulations Debra! You've achieved what we all aspire to have! Best wishes, Silke!
I’m so happy for both of you ❤️ if I ever get married, I hope I have one as good as yours!
Sounds really needy
You hit the nail on the head! There is another side to this doomsday tale. Falling in love after the kids have left! 🤗. I am soooo happy for you and your husband! 😎
Congratulations thought I was heading there my self sigh . Good job both of you cheers 🥂.
I'm 70 years old, 10 years divorced, 20 years married, two boys and I don't think my wife ever loved me but I worshiped her.
She divorced me and it turned out to be a new wonderful life.
I have good friends with benefits and more love than in my 20 year marriage.
It's a lot better than you think..
I have so many questions. Once she filed, were you ok with it? Did you fight to save the marriage?
56, 15 years together, but fell out of love 10 years ago. Companions and roommates not enough to expand and grow.
Yup, been there!
Exactly what I'm experiencing, got to be happy, time to move on.
@stevenwentworth4249 The husband is supposed to be pro-active and the wife receptive. Quit being a passive victim and start loving your wife. I bet you got into porn and prefer that to IRL wife. But you play the victim. Am I right?
@@francikoenmy wife is a devout catholic and I pulled all the bible bull to no avail
@@ricvanwinkle1665 You are a passive man. You impotently wait for your wife to kiss you because you are passive.
You are BS-ing. You blame your wife for your own perverted passivity. #gay.
Married 40 yrs now a lot of ups and downs ,, downs all my fault I fully love my wife now she always loved me now I enjoy her the couples having problems try going to church on Sunday and say a prayer when waking up every morning you will feel like a new marriage happened trust me I’m happier then I’ve ever been
In 2024 with the economy the way it is, divorce is financially impossible for anyone except the wealthy. Thus, you accept being with a person for the rest of your life knowing money is the only thing keeping you together. The alternative today could mean a very horrible lifestyle and maybe becoming homeless.
Laughter is a lubricant to a relationship 😂😂😂
I'm 63 going through my 4th divorce. Respectvwas gone he is a narcissist abusive and very toxic and he caused us to become homeless. When I found a way to get a place to live I told himbi was done and to just go. I also financially supported him for 3 years. 17 years on and off with him. I an do better alone.
Hello Kat,how are you doing?
You lost me at your 4th divorce. So holy matrimony is a game to you. Just stop, smh..
It is important in a relationship. If you aren't someone else is . Don't go for the I don't want it anymore BS. This is why more and more are choosing not to marry or have kids.
In the midst of my second marriage. Feel content at times, but relationship has zero intimacy beyond holding and kissing. Tired of fighting for affection. Will likely separate within the year. Just being honest.
I know many, like 20 Gen Y and Z couples who sleep separate during the week.
Sexless marriage for over ten years and after she moved into another bedroom I bought a life like sex doll and now she’s accusing me of cheating on her
😅😅😅
You are a pervert.
Run forest,run!!!
32 years, issues of course. She started online chats and when she hot attention from others she put more energy into online relationships instead of us. I always tried but as our kids tell me she che ked out before she moved out. Lied to us all to cover her eyes it and made look like it was me. Our kids saw through her lies. She moved out to New relationship but tried selling it as shelter, she got caught and continues to lie. Has absolutely no communication with any of our kids. All grown ups now. I asked for divorce but she is stalling the process.
I'm 50. I get curious on how someone can leave their spouse after so many years. My marriage is not perfect. I often describe my husband like an achy elbow. He is part of me after all this time. Just like an arm. Just because most days my elbow aches I don't want my arm cut off. I love my arm. And an ache isn't enough for me to amputate. Loosing my husband seems like it would be equivalent to being amputated. Sure I could go on living. But, I would never stop missing what it was like having my arm. And in some ways perhaps a prosthetic arm would work better but it would never be truly part of me the way my husband is. I love my arm and it isn't achy all the time 😂❤😊.
This is scary though and I hope me and my husband don't have signs we headed for divorce. I wonder what an expert would say? Are we good? Or is there some serious signs that we don't have a permanent marriage?
Listening to this video we still sleep together and have sex. He laughs more than I do. He enjoys being around me more than I do around him. But I feel so connected to him. And he takes care of me when I am sick which is quite often. He is my lover and my family. How do I know if the imperfections we have are what lead to silver divorce? Is there any guarantees?
Sounds to me like you have a great relationship!! There are always issues present in any relationship, but based on your comment you have way more positive points than the “typical” negative! Enjoy, and be proud of your perspective and relationship! 👍
@@2ndActTV thank you for your time and thoughts 💛
The man notices you cost more to upkeep than the 25 year old.
Men, like you are perverts, who love money and use women. You are Satanic and on the wide road to hell.
She looks great for her age, very pretty 😍
Ahh, thank you! 🤗
Hello rose,how are you doing?
Meh
Didn’t even know this was a thing
You just said that sex was the number 1 reason then you say it isn't the number one reason.
Hello Elaine,how are you doing?
I cant wait to find a woman over 50 to listen to said no man ever.
Don’t worry - most women who divorce at that age don’t ever want to get married to another man ever again.
I'm 54 married 29 years 27 years sexless ( less than 5 times a year ) cant afford a divorce.
sexless and cant afford to walk away, an't that a bitch?
Richard Misel jr I know it is hard especially if she is cheating or addicted to the button. You need to get out and live life. Even if your broke & poor . There is someone out there that will like you for more than a tool.
How are things?
That’s what I thought too of 19 years. Last week found out she’s been with this dude every day, Every day!. She said she didn’t want this to happen.. bah ahaha 😂
@@dodgebullet7423 WTH. I feel for ya man.
You can't blame people for needing love yet abused by the legal judiciary system. It's not the divorce it's the spouse that refuses to stop being the aggressive victim using hatred control that during the marriage never had good luck on your extortion tactics of victim mentality while together all you did was steal
Hello Wendell,how are you doing?
@wendellignacio6353 The husband is the leader of the wife, per the Bible. If your marriage failed, by definition, it was YOUR fault.
3 or 4 years? Lightweights, its been like 11 years.
a very disturbing phenomena...thanks.
On many occasions men want sex but they are not romantic or complement wife every day with little details man are let the relation fall.
I see new blessings coming your way text me privately to know the revelation
If you divorce after 50, that's going to be the end of that. Little late in the day, wouldn't you say?
There’s still plenty of life to be lived at 50.
@@beardy7124 Yeah, I'm 60. Don't think you're starting your second chapter.
Nothing like that.
3 years nonsex i can do standing on my head as its over 17 for me
Married 24yrs ..together 30 ..haven't had sex for years maybe 5 times in 10 yrs
Hello Belinda,how are you doing?
Nah…fuck that
How about working it out and HONORING your marriage vows?? Is that now an “antiquated” ideal? You make a promise to each other and to GOD when you marry. Sorry but, need to REALLY consider that before saying “I do”.
It took two to do the same to make it work. But sometimes, the spouse is only willing or able to handle all the good side of you but not the rest. Haha. Everyone is a package. In this case, the vow is pointless.
After 32 years, people and Things change. Obviously, your 'god' doesn't show up to help people save their marriage.
And by “your” you mean OUR.
Wise up.
Menopause 🤠
If you divorce, you were never really married
One word - STUPID - no PhD needed to figure this one out folks