why you'll never be able to FLEX like an influencer... the truth exposed
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- WHY YOU’LL NEVER BE ABLE TO FLEX LIKE AN INFLUENCER… the truth exposed.
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This is another video in my SOCIAL MEDIA VS REAL LIFE video series, this time taking a look at the damaging effect social media influencers flexing on their followers can have. Now I want to make it clear that i’m not against designer items or people who covet them, what I am against is people going into serious debt to purchase these items because they think they ‘need’ them or because they feel like they’re failing at life if they don't have them. So many of the luxury influencers get their designer products either completely free, or heavily discounted, and there are also influencers that are hundreds of thousands of dollars in debt trying to maintain the illusion of a luxurious lifestyle. Don’t let social media fool you, and don't ever compare yourself negatively to what you see online. Love you. x
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The cost of ONE designer bag, or shoes ... I could buy sooooo many other important things that I actually need.
Literally if every influencer took the money from just ONE of their most expensive bags and donated it to a charity.. the difference it would make is astounding.
Sarah Junkins it’s their money, so they can use it however they want, they owe no one nothing but there is a suspicion that our donated money isn’t used for the cause of helping those in need... billions are donated each year and yet there’s no change? Why? What happens to that money? Where does it go? Something to think about
Depressed Af You do realize that an administrative team is needed for any charity. Accounts, Marketing (think about how you know of or became aware of the charity you most support). There are certain legal requirements, that when large amounts of money is being dealt with, then each cent can be accounted for.
Depressed Af Shut up.
Oh God.. certain designer bags price tag could pay for my universities tuition fees and allowance the whole three semester... and yes, our public uni in my country is quite cheap for the locals because of the subsidy.. point is, with designer bags price tag, as a student, I could live a life of luxury...
I read a quote the other day saying something like "The problem with social media is that it makes people feel bad who have not become a millionaire by the age of 23" and I felt that. Sometimes I feel like I have not accomplished anything in my life and it takes me a while to understand that all that influencers do is lip-sync a little while I actually do have a bachelor's degree.
Facts. Also, and really good for those influencera who do reach such fake and fortune so young by lip syncing etc. What are they gonna do in a few years?
Yeah in 5-10 years their looks, audience and appeal will diminish but you’ll still have your bachelors degree
Well I would say that's debatable. Is having a bachelor's degree an accomplishment, of course but so is being an influencer. Not all influencers do lip-sync, some entertain and that's a real career. That's one of the beautiful thing now days, people who don't have proper education can still be successful. But I hope you go on to do great things, and without knowing you probably have way more accomplishments :)))
@@vicksinaja You're right. The way I worded it is indeed a little bitter. There still are influencers who don't really do a lot and have huge following. But there are also people, like Stephanie for example, who influence but in a very good way and actually have achieved great things. I totally think they deserve the success (as long as they don't sell questionable products or the like). I still think my degree is worth more than a lip-syncing fanbase that might leave me tomorrow, but I wouldn't say I have more than big influencers just because I might have had better education.
However, it's not okay that social media makes us feel worthless because we're not millionaires at the age of 23. That shouldn't happen.
@@chewbacca1238 Agreed, the competition is just getting stronger and stronger but all we have to do is just try our best and that'll be more than enough.
The security of being debt-free with money in savings feels better than the joy any luxury item will bring you.
Amin 🙌🙌
yup! completely agree. currently have this mindset and while it's tough to save i know it'll pay off one day
Amen ❤️👉🏻🇨🇦☮️
Right.
and a decent credit score lol
The richest people honestly hardly ever flex. They save. That in itself is a lesson.
sooo trueee
The smartest people honestly hardly ever save. They invest in important development things for humans. E.g. Elon Musk. That is itself is a lesson.
Big facts
Amen!!!
@@passiveincome4908 You're absolutely right. I agree with you 100%.
What I was trying to say is that people with vast wealth now, when up and coming in their early stages would put designer products and flashy nonsense to the back of their list of priorities and focus on accumulating more wealth before splurging out of control with money that they could double up on.
I heard once “ We buy things we cant afford to impress the people we don’t like” 😫
It's from Fight Club: "We buy things we don't need with money we don't have to impress people we don't like."
Couldn't be more true...
Very true
So true! You've got to take a step back and think 'why?' 🤔
Wow my name is Alexandra Walker. How wild!
They can afford it though 😭😭
I remember times when Gucci, Prada, etc. were Luxurybrands for old rich women in St. Moritz. Now it's just ridiculous.
Those were the days!
yes sadly these influencers have made these designer pieces common, every second person has a LV Neverfull bag. And it's so true these designer pieces do not make you anymore happy, I know.
Tbh I still think of them as ugly, unfashionable old rich woman items 😂
I agree, the loss of exclusivity and meaning has just made these brands less valuable. Along side the quality in their products have decreased immensely
@@TheMarilynme they go with almost everything though 😂 I used to hate them but my husband got me one for a milestone birthday, I have to say it’s a very practical purse. There’s still no way I could justify the cost.
Thank you for continuing to shed light on these topics. Your videos have become so therapeutic for me.
You couldn't have said it better🙌💖
to me as well🙋♀️
Ok- let's go.. Stephanie's weekly therapy session..
Thank you
Charlotte 👋
I love your channel as well Kendall!
Could buy a whole new wardrobe ✨✨
The fact social media influencers make more money than people that work really long hours and hard physical labor makes me sick XD
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Absolutely
Yes
Yet here u are clicking and commenting adding to there bank accounts
@@mirrorkilroy1495 because I love Stephanie's videos duuuhhh
The saying is if you’ve eaten 3 meals a day for the last 2 weeks then you’re in the top 15% of the wealthiest people on earth. It always puts my heart and desires into perspective.
Love this!
@Jenny Tina is actually referring to material wealth, "material" in this case is financial access to regular meals, not just being happy.
Hi. I tried googling this but couldn't find anything. Do you have a source? I'm curious.
Oh wow, I feel so grateful now.
I don't think that's acurate. Where did you get that information from?
FINALLY. SOMEONE (AN ‘INFLUENCER’) THAT ACTUALLY ADMITS THEYRE NOT THE BIGGEST FAN OF JSTAR. THANK UUUUUUU. everyone just kisses his ass.
Or Jaclyn hill... she bugs the CRAP out of me
yeh he does nice makeup but he's sketchy af
@@honestreviews7185 he was super sketchy years ago when I was a teen the fact that he’s gotten more out there instead of growing up is very concerning!
Money talks wealth whispers
I’m so over the whole “dream closest” Carrie bradshaw ideal. I don’t need that much sh’t to be happy. It just sits there, you can’t wear it all. No thanks. I’m happy with something simple and nice to wear. I’d rather obsess about leveling up myself from the in out, not out in.
Also there's a cool stat, we only wear 20% of our clothing the 80% just are there.
The most I don’t like about “influencers” is the fact that they called themselves INFLUENCERS how stupid is that...
Yeah most just influence others to be depressed
@@badgalirri you've literally said it all.😭😂
@@badgalirri loooooool 🤣sooo true
They ARE influencers though. Their entire career is based off influencing others. That's exactly what they should be called.
Your videos about influencer “culture” are so amazing! Telling the truth about influencers lives, pics, etc. is so helpful for so many young women (including me) thank you!
Thank you!! I actually get really nervous about putting these videos out (I’m literally sweating right now) but I’m glad they’re helpful!! Xx
@@stephanielange you have bo idea ❤ thankyou
It’s “fake rich” because they most likely have mad debt.
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when offset gave his 2 YEAR-OLD daughter an $8,000 Birkin bag...
i had to take a break there.
Oh my gosh... that’s exactly what a little kid wants right?! 😳
& the sad thing is she dropped that bag right back in the box as soon as he handed it to her and went for another toy
she has no interest in that bag what a waste
Her birthday party videos actually made me feel sick. I couldn’t watch them. Same with Jenner/Kardashian kid stuff. The “excess” shown in those videos literally makes me ill... knowing how many humans on this earth are really suffering, and these children (completely innocent) are being showered in so much luxury BS they are not even capable of understanding. It’s so gross. Wouldn’t you want to raise your child to have some humility and compassion for other kids? If these kids knew how much food those parties could buy for other suffering kids.... I bet they’d want the luxury to end too! Kids are way smarter than their adults...
That’s insane. Last I checked, toddlers just want to play and that bag will probably get ruined in a matter of minutes.
Hes a rapper not a influencer
It’s not that I can’t afford them I just can’t justify spending $5000 for a Chanel handbag I feel as I’m being ripped off 😳
I am a fashion lover and i agree with you 100% ! There are better things to buy with 5000$ , something actually useful like a car !
Think of the vacation you can take for one Chanel bag!!!
Facts
@@debholtz54 truth 🙌🏻
Totally agree!
Netflix has a documentary called ,The Social Dilemma' that touches on this subject. So enlightening.
Totally going to watch! Thanks for letting me know!
Ya that's great that they have that on Netflix right net to their pedo cuties video... 🙄 netflix is a joke and people who still support them.. I cant even I guess children acting like grown women wearing hardly any clothes is fine just wait till it becomes more and more accepted sickos can just go on netflix instead of the deep web ffff I cant even
Thanks for the reco will watch it now. :)
Thanks for pointing this out, because of your comment I just started watching.
It's an awesome but terrifying documentary.
I remember saving up just to get a Holister T-shirt when I was 14 and I thought that was a thrill lol
I’m saving up for books😅😅😅😅
I’m 15 right now
My sister on the other hand wants robux 🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️
She’s 13
SAME
Same lol
Hahahaha same!!
Lol I was happy to buy an outfit at Hot topic when I was 15 or 16 🤣😂
It makes me sad that, while those celebs are flaunting their richness, there are people actually starving or under hungry risk. I think that we need to rethink our purpose as human beings on this planet.
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Why does that bother you? Them not being rich won't fix the people who are starving.
Honestly I’m an influencer and I don’t even own a single designer item, it’s over saturated & I just feel like designer items have lost its value. Everyone just looks the same! Lots of love to you ♥️♥️♥️♥️
Omg @Rumena Begum your an absolute louser just begging it of anyone and everyone
sure Rumena, you don't own designer items....but... you persistently annoy companies to give you free stuffs and bully people.
Saturated? Lol in transfat
Plus a lot of it is bad for the earth
For a 30 something year old you somehow still manage to hold that high school mean girl persona
The Gucci label sure has been ruined by all the desperate clout chasers trying way too hard to flex in their mostly fugly gear
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And Alessandro Michele
You articulated this so well
I'm not sure if I'm alone here but I actually 'go off' influencers that start buying and showing their designer stuff. Only because I don't find them relatable anymore. I want to follow their fashion style and be able to copy /take inspiration from. I can't do that if they're buying designer shiz 😂I don't have money or inclination for that! Lol
Hell yes, the second someone starts only shopping designer, or being elitist I'm unsubscribing. So many great RUclipsrs have been ruined by money and fame
The only time I don’t care is if they are being styled for an event or photoshoot or something like that. At that point, if they have the money, they can buy it if they don’t want to look out of place but just showing and constantly posting expensive items gets old real quick.
I don’t even know I’m doing it. All of a sudden I realize that I’ve been watching people’s videos less and less and it’s all because I no longer relate. I find myself watching smaller you tubers who talk about budgets and stuff 🤷🏻♀️
I feel like its chill when influencers show these things, its part of their life. But when someone ehm jeffree ehm cut a chanel bag using a hot knife thats just bad. And it was obvious that he did it just to flex
Same, especially if i watched for fashion inspo.
If you make millions a year, you can afford it: go ahead
If you’re taking out loans just to impress others: there’s something seriously wrong w u
I can’t stand Jeffrey Star either, he’s a horrid person. Its free to be a nice and kind human. I agree a lot of teenagers have lost reality due to social media.
Ikr!! Why do people even follow Jeffrey I have no idea!
He’s done nothing good w his money, slaves make “made in China “ it horrific what’s happening in China 7 major floods, earthquakes, locust storms, it’s a sad world, when u enslave religious groups, Karma sadly targets the poor ppl. ❤️👉🏻🇨🇦
JS, should never have a plateform!!!! Horrible human being. He's so empty inside!!!
Pearl chiappine sadly we all know him!
Pearl chiappine what did he do? (just curious, i don‘t follow him but heard of him)
Best thing I ever did for myself: Delete all my social media. I don't see the point anymore. Great video!
I think as a whole, especially this year, we all need to take a look at our consumption habits.
It doesn’t need to be “minimalism” but just really look at what we are buying and why we are buying them.
Quite frankly I believe this will be forced upon most people sooner without choice...the economy is gonna fall apart.
Beth Stadalsky yeah 😞 this year has been pretty crazy. This is a good point. That’s why Stephanie’s vid is so helpful. It definitely helped me!
@@herrooookitty totally, on one hand I feel like lots of people will get the reality check they deserve but on the other hand I'm scared to death for a huge portion of our population who are fighting to survive.
Fully agree!! It was clear this year that our incomes aren’t permanent and we need to choose wisely
I can say, hand on heart, that I’ve used everything I’ve bought this year (and they weren’t expensive to begin with). It’s mostly been kitchen ware, lol.
I totally agree that there is no need to "flex" on designer items but I take so much pride in being able to save up and purchase a bag I've always wanted with MY money. I usually will only purchase one or two designer items a year and it truly does mean something very special to me.
You don't sound preachy. You sound like someone who has their head on straight!
I honestly usually end up unsubbing from those types of influencers because they just become so unrelateable!
That’s good! I really feel like if you don’t feel either inspired, entertained or enjoy watching an influencer unfollow and unsubscribe (myself included!) x
@@stephanielange yeah exactly. But no, I would never unsubscribe from you because eventhough you are a large channel and have money you stay grounded and humble and say what we are all thinking. I love fashion and makeup but I'm like I will never be able to afford that in my lifetime then why watch cuz I would just be tempted to purchase something that would most likely put me into debt lol. Raw beauty Kristi is another that keeps it real. There are just so many people who get lost in fame and fortune and it's refreshing to watch your channels! 💖💖
@@SJ-hk7kc relating to someone doesn't mean they have to be just like me?? In fact my friends and I are very different from one another. And that's just my opinion so you don't have to agree with it! You can watch whoever you'd like and so can I! 👍😊
You get me girl!!! I have unsubbed from a ton of influencers and since i have stopped watching them i have grown 6 new brain cells.
I’ve watched young large influencers that still use plastic bags for their makeup products buy from stores like shein. Save up all their money to buy a house. Then rent out the house they bought and travel or buy another house. Then some older influencers constantly buy clothes and designer bags and are in debt living in apartments. Not all influencers are like that some have designers and nice houses. I like Lydia and Amelia liana mostly for theft personality and cute interiors. I get inspiration from their classy style. I never pay attention to the designers they wear.
I love the way you look without makeup!
I don’t care at all about designer and being rich anymore. I just want friends. 😔
I don’t have any friends irl (only online) so having a friend would be the most valuable thing to me.
Crisscross , same with me. My daughter and my sisters are the only friends I have. Partly my fault, because I got tired of being crapped on.
Hey there I could be your friend if you want
Omg same
Same, since I moved for college I have been having a hard time making friends
@@brendal9976 if you were being crapped on then it’s not your fault, nobody deserves to be crapped on.
"Every self respecting woman should have that..." Yes, the thing that bothers me the most is the fact that contentment, self respect, peace in life is equaled to material possessions and traveling. I don't agree with "escape culture" either. Constant travelling, events, like u can't absolutely be happy if you haven't gone to Positano or Santorini in summer and Switzerland in winter, and also a few "quick" trips in between. It true that people sometimes think that you don't respect yourself if you don't own expensive things, or if your boyfriend/husband doesn't get you expensive things. You are somehow less than if you don't even aspire to be rich and have those things, not just not own them at the moment. And also as you mentioned, the fact that kids and teens fall into this trap is so dangerous for their character development and future relationships.
My bankaccount is unhappy with or without a Valentino Bag
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*_FELT._*
Being a mum, owning a home and having an awesome fiancé is more to life than a £35.000 handbag to me. You got this girl 🤍
“You’ll never be able to flex like an influencer”
Me with $4.50 in my bank account:
Oh... okay 🥺
Lmao 😂
That's why I love minimalism so much. Own few things that you really like and every piece is a favorite. Your space doesn't get cluttered and it's easier to stay focused.
Yeah. This so much. I'm not a minimalist but I realized a lot of my stuff was dragging me down. I held on too tightly to things. Instead of going out and living life I would spend the weekend once again, cleaning my closet or something like that. I've been getting rid of a lot of it. And it feels better. I feel lighter. I keep the stuff I truly love. I used to even keep clothing that reminded me of a certain time in my life but I realized I'm not even that person anymore and I don't want to even go back to that person simply b/c I've grown and changed. So it made it easier to let it go.
i remember when my mum used to bring out her 'luxury' bags and accessories for special events, to entertain me and my little sisters, tell me the stories of when our dad got them for her and what birthday or occasion they were given to her for....
now it's plastered all over my timeline and these items don't hold anymore sentimental value to people.
these companies actually have such beautiful history and artists and designers but now they're so underappreciated and just seen as 'clout'
Yeah I know what you mean! It’s like they’ve become just the same as any old item that you can pick up from the shops, but most of us don’t have the money to treat these items so frivolously. Myself included 🤔❤️
@@stephanielange and i don't mind not being able to get them. my mum gifted me her LV bag for my last prom (only for the night lol). i felt no better than anyone else in the room but it definitely felt so special. i'd looked at the bags in her wardrobe for years and imagined how they'd feel to wear. it now holds that memory for me and not just a photo-op.
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The thing is that a few of the companies don't have beautiful history. Many supportet Hitler, Hugo Boss made uniforms. And I think Coco was antisemetic, I may be wrong here!
@@miss81SMB very true but the current designers definitely have changed to name and aspect.
"Some people like Jeffree Star"
Yes, racist, shallow, manipulative, evil people who can relate to him
I love how unafraid you are of calling out the larger influencers that have built their brand on such shallowness!! 💕💕 it’s soooo refreshing
When I was 14 I was happy for just being able to buy an anime magazine or be able to use the internet in a computer shop for 1 to 2 hours and pay with money I saved up
I 100% agree!! I’m a girl who would rather spend money on experiences rather then crap sitting in my house! I feel so blessed to own a home and a car and have a meal everyday! I come from a 3rd world country and thanks to my parents immigrating to Canada, I live a life of what I would call privilege, I mean I don’t own a Chanel bag but dang do I feel lucky to own a home and a full belly, cuz I know how it was when we lived in our 3rd world country during a war...this is why I love you Steph! Your so relatable 😘😘❤️❤️
You’re amazing! And your parents too ❤️
Honestly I feel sorry people feel this way. I couldn’t care less if someone has a fancy bag, car, or jewelry. Honestly I think it’s a waste of money. I don’t care if you have it either way. What you own does not change my opinion of you one way or the other. I care about someone’s personality, integrity, honesty, kindness, and things like that. I don’t know maybe I’m just weird. 🤷♀️
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No I totally agree with that
Honestly I find most designer things ugly 🤷🏻♀️
Or is it the designs that they go for that are ugly... you know, I often do wonder with so many beautiful things out there they tend to go for the same old names over well designed things.
Same. Most of It is plain and ugly.
Agree
With some super shiny bright colors that you won't even use besides your one ig post 🤦🏻♀️
@@sisuguillam5109 yes there is way more to Gucci than those ugly ass tracksuits and shoes they have. Gucci in the 90’s was something else. Every fashion house in general has more than what influencers decide to flex. They always choose the logo items to show they have that and the rest of us don’t. I’ve also heard the items with the logos tend to be the least expensive compared to their normal clothes
When influencers say : this was so kindly gifted, or that was sent over, i get sick to my stomach. It really affects my mood to watch al their new in pieces but yet i keep watching and envying them. I kind of despise the way they brag and make it sound as if they are humble and environmentally conscious. I don’t have social media because it used to affect me soo much that I ended up having a low self esteem and my husband recommended me to delete those apps. I took up learning a language and always had my books next to me so that whenever i had free time I’d learn a few more pages. Some people don’t easily get affected, but for me turning away from it was the best decision i made. And helped me gain a new skill which boosted my confidence instead of making me feel lesser.
Me too hun me tooo!!! 100%! Quitting instagram was one of the best things I ever did.. I feel so much more grounded, grateful, happy, less mad etc like I cant stand most influencers. Good for them they are very lucky, but seeing them flaunt their wealth makes me soo jealous, bitter and mad 😂💀 like if my friend comes up w a chanel bag im not jealous cuz I know what she had to do to get it... did she work really hard? Did her daddy pay? Did she have to fuck some old guy? W these influencers you dont even know, and that triggers me af 🤦🏻♀️😭😂
@@badgalirri i love your reply and how to the point you are. Cheers 🥂 to being anti sm. Hope we’ll have a better start to 2021.
@@reneels5351 💕💕 Definitely hun!!! And that this damn pandemic clears up too! ❤️🥂
That's how I feel too, and that's a great tip to avoid and redirect!
My biggest pet peeve are these influencers who purchase a shit ton of designer bags and clothes who then go on to talk about their journey to sustainability. In the Frow in particular is guilty of this. Like, no, you can't claim to be trying to be sustainable when your job is literally about consumerism. I wish they'd be honest and just own their maximalism.
well said
I can’t agree more! I had to stop watching inthefrow because she just talks utter shite. You can’t be saying that you’re all for environmentalism and that you’re on a journey to becoming more sustainable AND THEN purchase Chanel handbags every other week. It’s just ridiculous.
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Buying designer items, if done properly, prevents consumerism. Typically workers, depending on the brand of course, are much more well paid. One designer bag, pair of shoes, jeans, and jacket could last years. If you look up the royal family from the UK you’ll see a lot of the items the men and the Queen have they’ve had for years and have reworn time and time again. This actually goes against consumerism. HOWEVER, it’s when you buy designer like it’s fast fashion that it contributes to consumerism, for example: and I love her fashion but Kate Middleton does this a lot. If you purchase quality items mindfully you won’t have to repurchase similar items again for years (it’s basically a tenet of minimalism actually, buy less but of great quality so that it lasts a long time).
You can be a sustainable maximalist, by shopping at thrift stores. I think people need to feel okay with being a maximalist and find ways where they can still be sustainable
I miss when makeup influencers were relatable. When I found out how rich they actually are, everything changed.
louder for the people in the back. hell things were overpriced when i was a little girl. it is way worse now.
I truly hope there will come a time when “influencers” can no longer make a living plugging crap online. Inthefrow and Lydia are two of the worst. So vapid and self centred. They don’t realise the negative effect the culture they’re pushing has on the world... or rather don’t care because it’s currently beneficial to them. They have no talents aside from sharing the talents of others. They’ve now started preaching sustainability because they’ve been pressured to by their audience yet every video is new items, new purchases, new sponsorships and of course you NEED it all. There’s a reason this generation is the unhappiest despite having more than any other. I appreciate you going down the route you are without all the smoke and mirrors.
So happy you said this. I watched them but every time is finish watching them I’d feel so insufficient and feel like I needed all those things.
I love that she addressed this issue!
I kept thinking the same as I was watching Steph’s video. I hope this is a phase, and things aren’t like this forever now. I worry so much about my little girl when she’s older. Life as a teen was hard enough decades ago, but I can’t imagine how much harder and more hopeless it can feel for youth today.
It’s funny because they are the on,y two influencers I like. they live a lifestyle I hope to have and I find it very inspiring and think they are pretty down to earth for what they have
Agree 100% about lydia everything is "the dream" and "I'm obsessed" and must not forget "game changer"
@@Bignose599 Then it's on Depop within a month 😑 Ridiculous. The way Lydia handled her brand launch and everything since has been brutal. She blocked me from her Insta just because I agreed with someone who wanted the comments turned back on for her Glo account... That's who Lydia is.
I get 100% what you're saying, but I love my designer shoes. They are art to me. And I rarely wear them, so they are definitely for my enjoyment, not the approval of others.
Everyone has different things they appreciate and would save up for. :)
For awhile I wanted a designer bag soooo badly. I’m so glad that I didn’t end up falling victim to that and realized there were things I wanted more than designer items
Yes ❤️❤️❤️
👍🏼👍🏼 same
Libby Morehouse if you want designer stuff just look for second hand stuff on eBay, I get all my all saints dressed and clothes from eBay and Depop because I love the grungy vibe but don’t wanna pay 500 for a jacket, and charity shops! I get most of my clothes that way now, you can find some really cool individual items from second hand places like those, and then I get duplicates of my favourite hoodies and stuff for when I wear them to death 😂
@@dark_baphomet Thanks for the insight! My point was more that I previously thought I wanted designer things because social media made me feel like I needed to have designer things to be a woman or to show any amount of respect/success, but now I realize that I don't have a desire for those items. If that changes and I find something specific that I'm interested I'll definitely keep this in mind though!
"Why you'll never be able to flex like an influencer"
Because I'm poor bruh, I don't need a video to tell me that 😅
YAAAAASSSS! I love the way you do this!! Honestly like it’s just so needed ❤️❤️
Love ya girl! X
As someone who’s worked really hard to get to where I am professionally, I have to say I love my handbags! They’re sorta like little mementos for major milestones in my life. However, I absolutely can not justify spending $1000+ on any item just to keep up with trends/other people. My best advice I can give is if you love the bag and can afford it, buy it! But always try to collect items that fit your lifestyle, budget, and style. Buying an item that speaks to you will be much more cherished than an impulse/trendy purchase. Also, nobody needs 10+ bags lol. Love your video btw, great topic💕
You know, the same could be said for house tours. I love seeing people's homes and all, but we at the beginning of a long renovation and our house looks pretty bad right now. We're okay with having a small house that has a lot of sentimentality. These home tours with perfect decor, gourmet kitchens, luxury bathrooms.... I definitely can't relate to that either. I honestly have no idea how people buy all the designer items, luxury makeup, luxury homes, fancy cars, etc. We afford day-to-day and that's about it.
You might enjoy the Wabi Sab - E, they are renovating a farmhouse and it's so aesthetically pleasing, real and helpful.
mazuikou thank you!!!
@@mazuikou yes I love their videos soooooo much!! And the rooms all tune out astecially pleasing and beautifully set up, yet they stick to their budget and diy as much as they can (wich is basically all of it because they are very talented!)
I actually dislike most influencer houses, especially if they start with a beautiful older house & tear out everything & paint over/tear down paneling & replace everything with dystopia grey modern design that will go out of fashion in 10 years. Leave the "ugly" house to me!
Personally, I am a designer item collector, I don’t do it for validation in any way, I just love having these beautiful pieces and accessories to add to my everyday outfits. Gucci and YSL being brands I’ve adored since a young age, but NEVER go broke buying them, the value of how much you’re paying for it and how happy it will make YOU and only you determines the purchase.
Exactly!
And they’re actually really good investments!! You can literally make more back than you paid sometimes so it’s not always bad for the bank account (in the long run)
Love this video. Im 33 now and ive learnt so much over the years. I use to brag about how much I used to spend on expensive things. Now I love to brag about my bargains. So many women compliment me on my clothes and I love to say "$30 from h&m". I rather brag about the bargin finds instead of my expensive things.
yeah it’s $30 from h&m but think about all the slave labor and waste behind that brand? you don’t have to spend hundreds on a gucci top but you can spend $100 on a shirt from a sustainable brand that’ll last you years to come instead of a “$30 from h&m” top that you’ll throw away after a few washes and uses
I absolutely love bargain finds since I was a kid! Thrifting was something I did for the first time in my teens. Before that I had never heard of it! I usually only talk about big brands if it was a bargain or a hand me down (I get lots of them!) Love that you do this!
@@alicemardirosian8528 yes! 🙌🏼
😂 that’s exactly what I did I got the Louis Vuitton reverse bag and wallet and I wear it EVERY SINGLE DAY. If it costs that much I’m getting my use out of it 😂
I’ve actually unfollowed so many influencers because of this exact reason! I love your channel because you are one of the few genuine ones left.
I’m 15 and you really gave me a new perspective. I felt left out for not having anything like Chanel or Louis Vuitton and I even asked my mom about wanting something designer. You are 100% right about how social media made me feel like I need it since it seems like a “normal” thing to own
My niece and I had this talk just yesterday (family bbq). Her 21st Birthday is coming up. She has a list of what she wants for her Birthday; 3 specific luxury bag; a Gucci sneakers, a Christian Louboutin heels, a Cartier Love bracelet (no diamond), a Gucci belt and the new iPhone that's not even out yet 🙄. Yap! She is assigning us "gifts". Her justification is that is a 2 in 1 gift for her birthday and Christmas (her Birthday is the day after Christmas). According to my niece, she needs to start posting more on Instagram and items needs to be "gram worthy". I don't have an Instagram so I am not sure what that feels 😂.
I said hard pass from Auntie. I spent an hour telling her why.
Eek
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Wait... did she want all these items in the same year?
@@hotjanuary, oh yeah all this year 😂
Make-Up Addiction, please tell me her parents aren’t enabling this nonsense. She’s 21 years old and her head is screwed on wrong. She’s not prepared for real life or even well adjusted. They’ll be doing her a favour in the long run if they employ tough love now. She needs to learn financial responsibility and re-evaluate her priorities and values. Coming up to family members with a whole list of expensive items is disgusting behaviour.
“Comparison is the thief of joy.” ~ President Theodore Roosevelt
I absolutely agree with everything you have mentioned in this video I love how honest you have been lots of respect to you girl 💯🙏🏻♥️♥️
Stephanie you're awesome.. you're literally my online best friend ❤️✨thank you for helping people ✨
Unless it's an Hermes Birkin or certain Chanel bags, it's actually a really bad strategy to treat bags as 'investment.' They may 'hold their value' over time but with inflation much of the time you take a small loss, and for trendier bags or less prestigious brands, they tend to lose value over time. When I buy a more expensive item (which to me is brands like Realisation Par or Reformation where dresses are typically $140-$250), i don't expect to make that money back or to even turn a profit. If I sell something, I typically get back about half to two-thirds of the price. I think of it as 'subsidizing' the cost a little bit but it's not an investment strategy. I don't buy nicer things to sell them down the line, I just know I have the option because it's likely to be somewhat in demand.
I feel like generally when people say a bag is an investment they mean it'll last them forever so the price (for them) is worth it
Cole Most of the time they don’t even wear those expensive bags on a daily basis. Of course it will last a long time when it’s mostly just gonna be displayed in their bedroom as a statues LOL. They aren’t wearing the bag, the bag wears them. They get so finicky and afraid to wear it out too much because it might get damaged and it’s resell value lowers.
The word you’re looking for is to “depreciate.” Your assets are depreciating over time. Now you know some terminology come tax time if you want to turn your hobby into a business.
When I was a teen I wanted converses so bad. Everyone had them and I found them so cool but my mum refused because they were made of fabric! Too expensive for something of such low quality. She would’ve disowned me if I asked for a luxury handbag 🤣
I love this series!! Makes me feel so much happier about my life and is such a huge reality check for me!
I own one designer bag which I wanted for the longest time because it was my grandmas go to bag and it reminds me so much of her!! I never bought it causw I knew I could never afford it and was saving to get it but my parents bought me it as a surprise for doing so much for them... I cried for about half an hour when I got it and I treasure it so much! It has so much sentimental value to it...
I couldn't imagine having designer everything and not beinf able to appreciate the value of an item.
Aw I love that 🥰🥰 you will treasure that bag and wear it all your life and that’s the difference ❤️ it actually means something to you x
wow that's beautiful
I bought a pair of Loubs on sale- they're actually terrible, the heel nib wears out so fast, and they're way more uncomfortable than other similar height heels.
I'm so glad I spent my teens in the 90s when the people we could idolise were the friends cast or cindy Crawford (I loved her style) but being extra rich or fabulous was what you expected from dynasty and shows like that, but never something you could relate to and the pressure was so much less.
I do worry about the younger generation that's been totally influenced by the kartrashians and that ilk, its not real life!! Its who you are as a person that matters, not what you have!!!
I remember being in secondary school and desperately wanting a Paul’s Boutique bag for school. It was like £80 and of course my parents refused to spend that kind of money on a school bag. I’m glad they did because I only wanted it because it was a trend and it’s not even a nice bag! I would feel so bad rn if I looked at pics of it and knew my parents spent that money
You're so pretty🤎
You were sent from heaven. 🕊💕🙌 Every time I go on Instagram and feel shitty about myself, it always seems like the next day you post a new video on why I shouldn’t feel that way. Seriously, you’re one of a kind. I love your videos. 💕
When I was like 15 until I think 20 I used to love watching all the designer stuff, as I've grown older I realized you really don't need any of those things. And with this pandemic I feel like people might have realized that having a designer handbag, glasses or clothes is totally useless.
the demand for these is so unsustainable and wasn't everybody against leather for some time? now all that instagram activism means nothing for the sake of being trendy.
how many of these 14 year olds know that the leather is coming from boas, crocodiles, lambskin and camel skin...?
Problem is I don’t think they care 😓
Yup, way back it was trendy to be vegan for "ethical reasons" and then a year later almost everyone wants designer bags made of leather.
I love leather jacket, though because rock and roll and sometimes I need it when I visit a cold country.
@@gracedaphne1213 you can actually get vegan leather now that looks almost identical to real leather
I’m so poor that I’ve never had real leather. I mean, it wasn’t even an option, it was always fake. If I buy a more expensive purse, I’ll have to make sure it’s faux leather. Thanks for the reminder
@@piperchristeson3394 have you heard that most vegan leather is incredibly bad for the environment since it is basically just plastic. The alternatives like pineapple or mushroom leather is very cool and sounds sustainable, but that leather isn't actually available that much.
Ethical vegan doesn't have to mean environmentally friendly of course. I find it really hard to make my choices because I absolutely adore animals, but I also don't want to put too much pressure on the environment. From what I've heard, often leather is a byproduct of the meat industry and then I can understand using everything from the animal. But if we didn't have the meat industry anymore then perhaps good vegan leather might take over.
I don't know if my comment made any sense to be honest. I'm just trying to bring awareness to the downside of vegan leather 😏
This topic is something that really hits home just because I studied fashion and love fashion but the damage social medial (ironically) has had on fashion is really upsetting but something else that is really troubling is how much this has messed up the slowest part of the fashion industry which has always been luxury fashion. Funny enough, most of these influencers that behave like this are completely ignoring the fact that these items are handcrafted to last a LONG time not just the 'season' and now they have literally cheapened luxury goods because they have made it the new 'fast fashion' which is not only awful as a culture but for the earth!
Luxury companies can’t keep up with the demand, as a result the construction quality of their goods has gone down. I see a big quality difference between my vintage pieces and my recent acquisitions.
The first time I heard of a Birking bag was in Gilmore Girls when Logan gifted Rory one and Emily freaked out.
Shortly after Jeffrey Star released that video of his like tens of Birkins.
I'm not gonna tell people how to spend their money but that is reckless and irresponsible in my opinion.
It’s not reckless if you can afford it. that’s the whole point. They’re sensible investments and certain products only increase in value. The same as certain cars do.
@@eatmyoctopus so giving a 2 year old a Birkin bag just because they can afford it is fine? (offset and cardi).
buying that much leather goods when thousands of animals are being slaughtered for it is good?
if they bought it and kept it to themselves then yea sure maybe but they brag and boast about it at every opportunity.
the amount that these bags total up to IS ridiculous.
these influencers don't even wear them regularly. i get collectors but at least they look at them from time to time and document them. the others make one haul video or tour and then it collects dust...
Omg same! I love Gilmore girls
Jenny Depending which handbags you buy, they can definitely increase in value.
S J How is that an excuse?? just because you work in that industry doesnt mean that you have to flex every second like everyone else...and it has nothing to do with jealousy...these so called influencers have an impact on society! they are responsible for the shit they do...and if they can‘t take that responsibility nor want that people look up to them, then there is a very simple solution for that: stop being an influencer!!
I don't want to starve myself just to wear my monthly rent around.
When I was a child I went to a high end boarding school and for my 12th birthday all I wanted was a designer scarf (everyone else had them)! At 18 I inherited a large sum of money and I spent SO MUCH on designer items and I can tell you I regret it so, so much. I was young but my god, I spent a house deposit on sun glasses, bags and clothes... the pressure I felt to spend my money on these items was immense and luckily now I’m a bit older and a bit wiser and I know I don’t need these things to be happy. Thank you for making this video! ❤️
I did this with an inheritance, too. Major regrets! Best not to inherit anything before 30, lol.
Didnt spend on clothes but on vacations and parties😂 18 is too young to get large sums of money clearly....
Yes yes yes .....!!! :)
Especially when you realize how most designer brands are made in slave labour and sweatshops. It kinda looses its appeal if you research how your favorite brands actually are made.
I remember buying a Burberry perfume. It was so precious for me when I was 19 that I still have the bottle 90% full.
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I never used it cause for me it was so rare. I use to always be on Instagram would desire to have plastic surgery done, get all these expensive items and all that.
Now I'm in college, left social media. Doing good, have an actual vision for life.
Think of all the families at St Jude with their child battling cancer and how many meals could be provided for families during a hard time for the cost of 1 designer bag. That’s just one scenario. The women and children in women’s homes trying to get out of abusive situations and get on their feet, how much money could go towards them getting a used car or something….
As someone that loves luxurious stuff I did NOT feel offended at all, you are 100% right
I can't believe 14 year olds are dying this??!! That is so shocking!! That must be such a weird influence on teenagers! You are very right! Grat job on the video and makeup look!
YESSSSS! So glad you’re talking about this! I grew up in a relatively well off family that if they wanted to could buy the occasional designer items and it’s crazy to me that flexing is the thing to do now because I was always taught to be careful and only wear expensive things if you’re going somewhere safe out of the fear of getting mugged for looking too “rich”. As my parents always said, if someone is showing off too much it’s all for show. Most of the time the actually rich people are the ones that aren’t out there flexing on their social media or IRL.
the problem here is the flex culture. as someone who currently study fashion design if somebody buy my design, i want it to be special for them, and feel the love, labour, and craftmanship in each of the pieces we make. it's just sad that people buy them to flex and make other people feel less about themselves. imagine how the craftmans feel about that
if people were interested more in how things are made and the design principle instead of self validation to own something, it would be a very different story. fashion should not be about flexing (unless it's self made. flex it!!!!)
“How about we just don’t give f**k if we impress people or not?” YES Stephanie!!!!
ugh ikr, so easy to say but honestly one of the hardest things to do. as social beings, we look to our peers and each other for standards of success, acceptance, etc. social media makes life way more complicated than it needs to be.
Trust me the older you get it becomes a way of life. I have always lived that way. No frontin here, just facts. I have nobody to impress but myself. The people that you are trying to impress usually care nothing about you and they certainly are not paying your bills.
I wasn't looking when she said the sponsor, and I thought she Hermes 🤣 I turned so fast my neck snapped
Am I the only one that actually thinks that people who flex whether in real life or on social media are actually pitiful? 😅 I come from a country where showing off is considered really tacky and not very chic. I feel like people who feel the need to brag about what they own have completely forgotten about what actually matters in life und where actual happiness comes from. That is exactly why I don't use social media anymore. All that people care for on those platforms is who has the biggest house, who owns the most expensive car, who spends the most luxurious vacations, who has the biggest butt, etc. It is just ridiculous. I remember when I was still a teenager social media was used by people to inspire other human beings and share tips and ideas. These days it is more about selling stuff to people that no one actually needs. It's all about consumption.
Which country?
Where r u from?
@@nabeelahmd6720 Germany
@@xOPowerRangerOx I read your comment and was like: Sounds like Germany to me 😂
@@kristinbornemeier2523 Haha 😄 you were absolutely right
I cackled at “Jacklyn Hill I’m looking at you” She is very guilty of this. One of the guiltiest.
And look how pathetic she turned out to be. She chose purses, fillers and cars over her marriage. Now nobody cares about her.
My main problem is the age group of their followers. These aren’t early 20’s, they’re tweens & high schoolers. My granddaughter is 14 and so far my daughter has done a really good job of keeping her down to earth and making her earn the money. I used to indulge both of my grandchildren but not designer clothes etc. I now get them stuff from 4Ocean or things that will last. I learned my lesson back in the day when I saved and bought myself a pair of Vanderbuilt Jeans (yep, I’m that old) and the butt ripped out after about a month. I’ve been a Levi’s girl ever since. I do enjoy nice clothes but buy clothes that I can mix & match and will add a ‘fad’ piece here & there but I still wear clothes I bought over 30 years ago that I update easily with the ‘fad’ pieces.
Beth, oh I relate!!!! I, too, thought I “had” to have those Gloria jeans and literally they were SO poorly made! I don’t mind paying for quality but paying for a name or status was something those of us who came of age in the 80s learned could be very disappointing. I am now more into comfort, lol, and my Shopko stretch jeans that I got for $20 on sale have lasted longer and over much more um..”body real estate” than those Vanderbilt jeans ever did 😂
Can I just say, PREACH.
I recently started a tiny channel because I love fashion, but even before that - I would consume endless hours of fashion related content on youtube,
and the normalization of luxury subliminally seeped through the cracks of my common sense.
I started coveting items I never thought of, let alone wanted, before. Items I could not afford in a million years, and honestly - if I could - why would I?
The smartest thing those companies ever did was identifying the potential of collaborating with social media 'influencers'.
I don't judge them either, btw, don't get me wrong. If such an opportunity presented itself to me I would jump on it.
But there need to be more people like you, who shed light on the behind the scenes of it all, and remind us how ridiculous all of this really is ❤
Anyway off I go to binge on the rest of your channel now that I found it lol
Same with the really expensive makeup! They get it from the companies and don't need to pay for it. I caught myself wanting really expensive makeup but I just didn't have the money. And I'm that kind of person that saves up and then spends it one whatever I want rather than just paying it with a credit card. And I'm lucky that I'm just like you, I don't need expensive designer clothes or accessories. It's made in the same shops as the cheaper stuff and most of the time you pay for the name. Honestly how can a small bag costs thousands of dollars? The production is a fraction of that price.
Anyone hard about TKMaxx? I bought quality branded handbags and sunglasses there.
once we were back in paris waiting in the line to go into the LV store with my mum and sisters. the daintiness of the whole store really intrigued me. everyone there was much older and it was beautiful hearing the staff talk about the origins, designs, features and inspiration behind the bags.
i think that it should NOT be an elitist or a-lister thing to have these bags but I feel bad for all the kids who miss out on these magical stories and quite literally: history.
however, we shouldn't place such a high value and worth on materials at the end of the day.
the only thing everyone should be able to do is appreciate something from whatever distance or proximity to it.
You as an influencer yourself using your platform to make us all feel SO much better about ourselves and untwist these crazy societal expectations we place on ourselves is so beautiful and truly amazing.
Thank you so much, you have helped my mental health a lot. ♥️
Oh Lord when you said ''dog or cat leather'' I legit almost puked.
Me too. I had no idea about that
Because cow's leather is okay? No animal should get killed to become a piece of stuff for us to carry around. Go vegan! ❤️🌱
@@catboyYuta I didn't say that, I just didn't know that doing that to cats and dogs was even done.
Why what does it matter which animal it’s ripped from? They all suffer. Just type in ‘tanneries’ in RUclips see how cows become handbags.
@@keecc3243 I didn't say that I approve of leather
I don’t know, I’d rather have money in the bank and not be responsible for having dead animals on my arm. I grew up in a very good households and I thank my parents for making me extremely grounded. I’ve spent a few hundred on Luxary vegan bags, and used them for years. And I just feel much better about myself. I’m also in my 30’s and grew up in the rise of social media, who was able to also see it from the outside as it was happening. I’m so happy I’m not a teenager growing up in this age. I think it would be a lot harder.
I know. I watched a video where this successful Doctor was showing off a chinchilla blanket that she bought (over a 100K dollars btw) and it made me sick How could you spend all that money for a dead animal? That’s so horrible smh
@@tracy_cakkes oh that’s freaking nasty.
I'm a teenager now. Lol. Wish I was a teenager in like the 2000's.
My favourite handbags are Loungefly and you can usually find them in hot topic. They’re pretty reasonable price wise and the prints are gorgeous! I’d rather get one of those and wear them into the ground then buy a super expensive bag that I’m scared to even take out of the house.
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This used to happen to me when I was a teenager in the 2000s (on tv, magazines, videoclips, etc). don't worry, if you're watching these videos and thinking for yourself you'll be great :) xxx
Also idk how being an influencer truly works... is it a self proclaimed title??
Social media is a long and endless commercial. Thank you for talking about leather, people don't realize how much they pollute the environment.
Its so refreshing to see an influencer be so real and transparent!
Thank you Steph - keep doing what your doing! :)
Highly encourage going to channels like Invisible People who interview those living in poverty. Not to feel bad for them or make yourself feel "blessed" but to ground oneself. Such intense luxury can make oneself see faults when there is none. Channels who talk about human experiences really opens one's eyes. One does not fail in life, it is just another way of life that unfortunately has suffering. For example, Fashion has such emphasis on how the body looks but it is when you follow someone doing physical therapy or anatomy lessons that you truly appreciate the work one's body does to live.
*cough* Kim Kardashian during covid not reading a room *cough*
I so agree and I actually would go so far as to say that these “flash your wealth” videos are in extremely poor taste and borderline offensive. I’m not against videos about designer items, like reviews or what items are good to invest in etc, but the look at me, look how loaded I am and the disgusting vanity of it all makes me a little sick