REACTING TO 'BODY GOALS' INFLUENCERS IN REAL LIFE

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  • Опубликовано: 18 ноя 2024

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  • @palesamothapo7429
    @palesamothapo7429 3 года назад +12372

    I love how you explained why we should normalise the lower belly fat ...thank you

    • @courtneyfleischman2338
      @courtneyfleischman2338 3 года назад +240

      Same here, and that it literally helps protect our very important body parts inside our lower abdomen.

    • @eunheS
      @eunheS 3 года назад +61

      IKR, I was so happy about the fact she explained all that

    • @SavageNami
      @SavageNami 3 года назад +85

      @@courtneyfleischman2338 Lol Protect the Uterus! XD

    • @pjk7685
      @pjk7685 3 года назад +84

      Yea i was wonder why that area is bit thicker but now I see why.

    • @lenaklassen2567
      @lenaklassen2567 3 года назад +6

      Same here

  • @amandaoosterhof5344
    @amandaoosterhof5344 3 года назад +549

    I actually used to obsess over Tammy’s photos 😳. That was really healing to see she’s a real person. Social media is ruining our lives.

    • @maryjane2393
      @maryjane2393 2 года назад +5

      You know Tammy got bbl done in usa in 2019. You probably noticed her huge booty transformation. You don’t get that no matter how much you’re working out girl 😄

    • @petitegm1820
      @petitegm1820 2 года назад +1

      saaaame Ohh my Good ! 😂💀

    • @carmenraad23
      @carmenraad23 2 года назад +1

      It really is

    • @mlk3233
      @mlk3233 2 года назад +6

      everyone looks better when posing for a picture don't make it dramatic

    • @eraldadevole
      @eraldadevole Год назад +2

      It ruins your life only if you let it do and obsess over it. I had my moments where my body was perfect the way it was and now 20 yrs later I have the body of a mom with a kid and 40 yrs on my shoulders. My hb still finds me beautiful and I still find myself beautiful. Am I perfect for everyone? No absolutely not but that is not my problem. I couldn’t care less what others look like. I put on what compliments me and makes me feel happy and go on by my day. Don’t waste time obsessing over this social media whatever, enjoy yourself, your life and your friends and family.

  • @Lidiapozomusic
    @Lidiapozomusic 3 года назад +9203

    Stephanie is becoming literally my weekly therapist

  • @Quli3n
    @Quli3n 3 года назад +191

    girl you are extremely body positive and i am SO here for it. we need more of that on this platform

  • @Refresheddwelling
    @Refresheddwelling 3 года назад +6688

    A friend of mine the other day was crying because she was having body image issues... I told her that whenever I feel that way, I get off of Instagram and go to the lake and see what NORMAL women look like in a bikini.

    • @angelicazordan5538
      @angelicazordan5538 3 года назад +453

      That's so good!! I find that in the beginning of the summer I always get extra body anxious because the media and ads bombard us with how we should be in perfect shape for the summer, and then I go to the beach after stressing out for two weeks and I'm like "oh... Everyone looks normal". Like, there's maybe one really pretty young girl out of 50 people. And she's still not on those insta models' level. It really forces you to realize the lie you were being fed.

    • @4263484
      @4263484 3 года назад +75

      That's a really good idea

    • @marnita5132
      @marnita5132 3 года назад +16

      @@angelicazordan5538 SAME

    • @Lily-gz3ip
      @Lily-gz3ip 3 года назад +58

      imagine if there's only fit women in there

    • @veronakarch5931
      @veronakarch5931 3 года назад +3

      SAME

  • @pawsoff606
    @pawsoff606 2 года назад +70

    I love that you recognize that just one video about this isn't enough... We need reminding and reminding over and over again. And why do we need constant reminders? Because we're getting a CONSTANT message that we should feel ashamed for not attaining these unrealistic body types. And we've been getting that message day after day for DECADES. So it's going to take a lot to reverse that conditioning! Thank you for doing this

  • @merle444
    @merle444 3 года назад +1321

    had a bad day today regarding my body image so this comes just at the right time for me, thank you for reminding me to have mercy on myself and be grateful for like everything my body does

    • @LaguBudakKuching
      @LaguBudakKuching 3 года назад +3

      much love to you 💓 your body is beautiful

    • @merle444
      @merle444 3 года назад

      thank you loves, i appreciate you 💗

    • @louisesharpy
      @louisesharpy 3 года назад

      Wow. Incredible give a way. Dang !! You are so fun to watch. I love how open and honest you are. I have followed you for sooooo long ha. So happy about you doing what you love. Nutrition !!

    • @chitraadnani
      @chitraadnani 3 года назад +3

      Same here we all know the truth but yet we get carried away when we come social media and see such bodies. Lately i have been looking at my body n hating it and i feel bad and realize that i am alive i m grateful, healthy and beautiful in my own way. And i should appreciate that and be thankful that i get to live and be healthy another day.

    • @merle444
      @merle444 3 года назад +1

      @@chitraadnani exaclty, dont be too hard on yourself!!

  • @fabianastacia3350
    @fabianastacia3350 3 года назад +536

    Some of those "perfect body" pictures look so strange, they don't look like actual humans but like some kind of weird dolls. I think the "ugly" pictures is where they really look perfect, because they look real.

    • @seeya3705
      @seeya3705 2 года назад +8

      I agree, when I look at someone in real life it feels different than looking at a photo

    • @blinkie1114
      @blinkie1114 2 года назад +11

      Especially when you see the “ugly” pics of physically active people, like Tammy - it’s really inspiring.

    • @RedRoseSeptember22
      @RedRoseSeptember22 Год назад +1

      Exactly!!!

  • @ngando3209
    @ngando3209 3 года назад +2083

    Let's forget about the angle and lighting, these influencers straight up photoshop their body. That's all.

    • @stephanielange
      @stephanielange  3 года назад +253

      I wouldn’t want to accuse them of it as I have no idea! Angles and lighting reeeeally do make a difference! I actually made a video about that last year! X

    • @Simplelivingslowliving
      @Simplelivingslowliving 3 года назад +22

      Yes some definitely do .

    • @jordiflower
      @jordiflower 3 года назад +4

      100%

    • @cilokmozzarella2049
      @cilokmozzarella2049 3 года назад +14

      And tons of surgeries

    • @raheegor6254
      @raheegor6254 3 года назад +26

      Definitely agree. Some of those pictures just cannot be possible only through angle and lighting. Though they all have beautiful bodies, I just don't agree with the Instagram pictures

  • @onlyinsomniac
    @onlyinsomniac 3 года назад +89

    As someone who grew up in the era of stick-thin models, I wish this video had been around then! I still remember being 12 or 13 and hating my stomach pooch to the point where I developed really messed up eating habits for years.
    Unrealistic standards on social media can cause real damage to women.

    • @Lupanaria
      @Lupanaria 2 года назад +1

      Same here...:-(

  • @rmk6444
    @rmk6444 3 года назад +561

    ‘We stink, we pee, we poop.’
    Yes, yes we do! Love you Stephanie! Keep up the REALNESS!!!

  • @zoes5920
    @zoes5920 3 года назад +66

    Let me tell you, I’m in the middle of a breakdown and I just love knowing I can come to your channel to cheer myself up ❤️ Thank you so much for creating a community that fosters love and acceptance. Your videos mean the world to me right now

  • @hannahbanana9901
    @hannahbanana9901 3 года назад +5817

    the problem for me isn't the influencers: I literally don't trust any of their photos. It's the girls you see in real life, with smooth skin and pretty faces and slim hourglass bodies because that's how they ACTUALLY look if you know what I mean

    • @stephanielange
      @stephanielange  3 года назад +1190

      They’re still not perfect. We aren’t dolls ❤️

    • @miadoser1402
      @miadoser1402 3 года назад +704

      That doesnt mean your not as beautiful as them. Everybody has their own beauty standard. One of my friend was à stripper. She was the most popular. She wasnt thin, no Perfect skin. She is stunning and confident. She assume herself and this is attractive. Be proud of who you are. Imperfections are sexy too. 😏.

    • @cengiz2645
      @cengiz2645 3 года назад +854

      OH my god I’ve been saying this!! I’m no longer a victim of these influencers and celebrities, but rather I’m a victim of my beautiful friend who has flawless skin, or a girl I randomly saw with an amazing body!!

    • @Faithwithbecca
      @Faithwithbecca 3 года назад +266

      I completely agree! And even when a lot of women are naturally beautiful and a lot who have the money to get Botox and injections or a boob job and you think they are setting the standards too high for women in men’s eyes because they see women in real life that have perfect hair , bodies , faces whatever, and you feel like you have to have a boob job or whatever just to be on an equal playing field. I wish nobody could get anything done. Then we’d all be normal looking. I feel like naturally everyone has something that isn’t perfect like their nose or their facial structure or their body and naturally even the most prettiest of people have something that isn’t perfect on them, but now with money, people can get everything fixed to be perfect on them and the poor or not rich people can’t afford to get a boob job after kids or a tummy tuck or whatever so guys look at those women who have the money to get everything fixed and look at us who don’t have the resources and now we look not as good to them.

    • @sauleni1320
      @sauleni1320 3 года назад +8

      Yeah same

  • @madisonmariemorrison
    @madisonmariemorrison 3 года назад +28

    As a teenager… wow. This has been incredibly impactful. I am really prone to comparison and this just shows me another reason I shouldn’t do that

  • @dollykatt
    @dollykatt 3 года назад +695

    Stephanie, as someone who severely struggles with my self confidence and the way I look, I respect you so much for being so real and actually breaking these videos and topics down so well. I seem to forget that not everyone is perfect, and actually get stressed and filled with self-hatred whenever I see other beautiful women on the internet. Thank you so much for this, it really is like a weekly dose of therapy💗

    • @stephanielange
      @stephanielange  3 года назад +47

      Sending you big big hugs!!! You’re uniquely and beautifully made ❤️⚡️

    • @sophhay7300
      @sophhay7300 3 года назад +6

      I love this, I feel the same way sometimes (especially as I habe a chronic condition which makes my stomach bloat alot etc, that gets me down and makes me want to lose weight) So it's wonderful to see videos like this, it just reminds us that we are normal.

  • @karamiller7869
    @karamiller7869 3 года назад +39

    I’ve struggled with anorexia for 3 years now, and your videos are so extremely helpful for me. Thank you ❤️

  • @breezy9046
    @breezy9046 3 года назад +2638

    It's funny how some men try to explain why they want a woman with big breasts and wide hips/big butt. They then claim that it is linked to a woman's fertility and that men are unconsciously attracted to it. According to them, large breasts are a sign that the woman can produce enough milk for the child (despite the fact that small breasts produce the same amount of milk) and that wide hips/big butts are a sign that the woman can give birth more easily (also this is not quite correct). The funny thing is that the fat in the lower belly does actually play a role in fertility, because it protects these organs, but you would never hear these men say that they find lower belly fat sexy.

    • @brokenanklesarentfun
      @brokenanklesarentfun 3 года назад +559

      Also if beauty standards were based on fertility then body hair on women would be worshipped because it signals reproductive age and holds pheromones.

    • @timwiesenfeld8031
      @timwiesenfeld8031 3 года назад +138

      What is to be true (small breasts have the same amount of milk) is not necessarily what we perceive to be true. (So big breasts offer more milk). Plus, back in the last centuries, skinny women were mostly poor and malnourished, while curvy women with breasts and hips were nourished and could actually have children. Further, you can śthink this way too: tall, broad shouldered men are most attractive to women, because we think they can protect us best. However, the best fighters in the world are more on the small, slimmer end. Not fair either.

    • @taiyabazaheer9492
      @taiyabazaheer9492 3 года назад +31

      That's evolutionary reasons from what I've read. Do men really say these things in real life?

    • @MiddleSky
      @MiddleSky 3 года назад +151

      I remember in high school my boyfriend told me liked my belly, and that's when I learned that my little round belly was not a problem. Sometimes we ladies think men want hard, flat stomachs but a lot of guys actually want soft round bodies, they equate softness to femininity. We psyche ourselves up.

    • @kittycat8222
      @kittycat8222 3 года назад +40

      Perfect analysis and absolutely correct. Men only listen to their small head.

  • @flakiiis0008
    @flakiiis0008 3 года назад +79

    This couldn’t have accidentally popped up at a better time. I’m about halfway through pregnancy and feeling like I’ve gained a little more weight this pregnancy compared to my first. Thanks for the reminder that our bodies are beautiful and not to be compared to online photoshopped bodies.

  • @sarahh3061
    @sarahh3061 3 года назад +425

    I really don't care for Instagram.
    It does crack me up that many of the comments of such posts are like this "omg u r unreal😍😍😍"
    Yes! You are correct, they are unreal 😊

  • @daisytb27
    @daisytb27 3 года назад +25

    I love how you’re not shaming these women and noting how beautiful they are even if they don’t look like their Instagram pics ❤️

  • @MissNickyPuppy
    @MissNickyPuppy 3 года назад +3799

    "Don't kill yourself trying to get rid off your uterus." HAHAHAH good one... I think this should be taught in schools. For the longest time I was trying to get rid off that tiny bump LOL until I learned that it's vital to have that as a woman. xD

    • @hannahuahh
      @hannahuahh 3 года назад +96

      I know, it’s as if the standard is to have abs and have a flat stomach like a man, but that’s impossible and men don’t give birth

    • @nm9688
      @nm9688 3 года назад +63

      That's not really true. Your uterus is deep inside and it's the size of a fist. Don't believe these internet myths

    • @celin_withoute7953
      @celin_withoute7953 3 года назад +166

      @@nm9688 doesn’t matter, the fat is still there to protect the uterus and the potential Baby inside and it is normal to have that bit of fat no matter the reason.

    • @JolieGirl2002
      @JolieGirl2002 3 года назад +24

      but then there are girls with that uterus fat nonexistent (kpop female idols for sure), is it possible to get rid of it then?

    • @ioannavalathan9290
      @ioannavalathan9290 3 года назад +87

      Kpop idols probably starve themselves... There are some Korean girls that have spoken about that, like Miss Korea 2020 I think? They expect all girls AND boys there to be a standard weight, no matter your height if you are a girl you must be maximum 50 kilos else everyone calls you fat...

  • @LexaLianne
    @LexaLianne 3 года назад +8

    I love that your videos always pop up on my feed when I need them. For years I’ve dealt with body dysmorphia, eating disorders and just hatred toward my body. My mom was just dragging me down about my weight because I’m not 100lbs like she was in her 20’s which brought me to self deprecate, so I really appreciate that you try to normalize body fat since the media has brought so much negativity towards it over the years.

  • @anaschulz8084
    @anaschulz8084 3 года назад +5145

    My ovaries are extremely safe lol!

  • @livelaughlove6952
    @livelaughlove6952 3 года назад +86

    She said "I don't understand how having the waist the size of a glass is an achievement. Like what have you actually achieved?" Lmaooo love it. Yes girl! Let's focus on really making positive changes in the world and stop obsessing over these crazy beauty goals!

  • @courtneyfleischman2338
    @courtneyfleischman2338 3 года назад +1783

    After many months of being inside in North America, when my husband and I went to our first outing at an outdoor pool this summer, I had this moment of “Whoa! Everyone looks so… normal.” The women didn’t have spray tans. They had curves. Their thighs weren’t perfectly smooth. That’s when I realized how warped my perception was getting about how the “average” woman looks in a swimsuit.

    • @nataliamirochnitchenko8152
      @nataliamirochnitchenko8152 3 года назад +2

      where are you from?

    • @mad6765
      @mad6765 3 года назад +5

      Is she talking about Canada I’m from their it’s great

    • @am-dq2xs
      @am-dq2xs 3 года назад +5

      @@mad6765 Canada is in North America

    • @Tara-ow1rv
      @Tara-ow1rv 3 года назад +19

      Same… first I was scared to go to the pool and show my body but then I realized how normal every one actually looks. Even the skinny girls have cellulitis and are not perfectly lean. I really realized that I really just have a normal body like everyone else.

    • @asmaanaji8806
      @asmaanaji8806 3 года назад +4

      @@nataliamirochnitchenko8152 its not about that like in my country rhey say to ppl u have an american body since they think all americans looks like influencers

  • @meanymouse
    @meanymouse 3 года назад +9

    this is literally exactly what i needed to hear today. i've been feeling like shit about my face/body for years, and videos like yours really help me (little by little) to be able to accept all of me. and you do it all in such an eloquent, kind, and thoughtful way--no bashing on anyone. so refreshing!! thank u!!

  • @baum7des7lebens7
    @baum7des7lebens7 3 года назад +630

    "I love your guts" has a different connotation now after your explanation about the organs and the space they need 😀

  • @May_003
    @May_003 3 года назад +4

    3:37 Steph, you don't have an idea HOW MUCH i appreciate u explaining this. it is SO IMPORTANT, and responsible to talk ab this to young girls and show it too, without any shame. losing "fat" on my stomach as a female has always been a big issue. I work out quite often and i'm so happy with how my body looks, BUT there's my belly, which is uncontrollable. it can expand depending on if i'm on my period or not and other female issues, and it is SO NORMAL !!! but that took me years to understand. uggggh. i just hope no other young girls or women feel like this EVER. thank u so much. 💓💓💓 your channel is honestly the highlight of this platform ! you're doing SO much good !!!!

  • @LexieNicole24
    @LexieNicole24 3 года назад +382

    I appreciate you Stephanie you're doing great work breaking down beauty standards 🙌🏻

    • @stephanielange
      @stephanielange  3 года назад +21

      Thank you so much my love! I appreciate that so much x

  • @mechamaderapha
    @mechamaderapha 3 года назад +5

    I love how you manage to explain these things with so much positivity and without shading these women!

  • @jessisacooldood9032
    @jessisacooldood9032 3 года назад +140

    your videos are so comforting and show the real world is not intertwined with social media; feels nice to be real

  • @kaylabug7020
    @kaylabug7020 3 года назад +12

    I just wanna say, thank you for what you do! I am in recovery for an eating disorder and hearing someone normalize what HEALTHY looks like helps me when I have bad days with my body image. Thank you ❤

  • @kaylajude6036
    @kaylajude6036 3 года назад +80

    The bit of fat on the bottom of my belly used to drive me insane. I hurt myself trying to get rid of it and now I adore that belly fat. The fact that it's protecting my insides just makes me love it even more. You're doing amazing work, Stephanie. I can't click fast enough when you upload these videos and I'm usually not like that. I follow you so closely because I believe that what you're doing is essential in this day and age. You're honestly doing God's work and I love you for it.

  • @jenniferheck6382
    @jenniferheck6382 3 года назад +127

    Zaras „real“ body is sooo beautiful I don’t understand why people like her try to be like a million other influencer

  • @evieriver5545
    @evieriver5545 3 года назад +503

    I'm on a fitness journey at the moment. I'm at a awkward stage where I still have lower belly fat and big thighs, but I've lost 60lbs so far. I'm in the gym a lot now, and recently I found myself having to go to the bathroom and cry because I'm just comparing myself to everyone around me, because I don't look like them.
    Thank you so much for drying my tears and handing me back my crown and dumbbell this evening. Thank you so much ❤

    • @merlinsmama1600
      @merlinsmama1600 3 года назад +47

      Well bloody done girl for losing 60lbs! That is an epic achievement, you deserve that crown! 💗

    • @saandayy8861
      @saandayy8861 3 года назад +34

      Um 60 lbs is INCREDIBLE congratulations!!! It is a mental battle and takes a lot of strength to lose that much weight, that is amazing.

    • @jessicav6990
      @jessicav6990 3 года назад +19

      if anything you would be that person at the gym that i look up to! 60 lbs is amazing

    • @madamebkrt
      @madamebkrt 3 года назад +9

      Losing 60 pounds is *amazing!* You should be nothing but proud of yourself, honestly

    • @acelya414
      @acelya414 3 года назад +9

      congrats on losing 60lbs that must have been a lot of hard work!! I'm also working on having a healthier lifestyle and working out more and the thing that's helped me most is comparing myself only to myself, I try to shut down any negative thoughts I have about myself immediately and actively work on being kinder to myself. I know it's hard to not compare yourself to others but if you work at it, it is completely possible and makes you feel so much better. Think about how much you have improved since the beginning of your fitness journey!! That's something to be proud of, try not to be so harsh on yourself (again, I know that's easier said than done, but seriously you deserve to be kinder to yourself!!)

  • @Rozolle
    @Rozolle 3 года назад +7

    Literally said "AMEN!" when you said "It's normal, it's natural. I feel like we've gone so far down the rabbit hole that we have forgotten, what normal, actual, living human bodies look like." Oh wow, I agree with this so much and I'm so glad to see more and more people bringing it up to acknowledge edited pics on social media and encouraging people to accept their bodies/other people's bodies the way they are and to take care of it because it is the only body you will have.

  • @RhiReviews
    @RhiReviews 3 года назад +137

    Even though I know influencers tune up their photos and tweak them, I’m still always shocked by how different they look in the non-touched up photos!! It’s not that the bodies of some of these influencers are adjusted slightly, it’s that they are completely different to what they appear like on Instagram.

  • @kathinkas6333
    @kathinkas6333 3 года назад +5

    Thank you. I'm struggling with my body everyday and this just made me cry out of relief.

  • @Maria-em4rc
    @Maria-em4rc 3 года назад +289

    I struggle a lot with body confidence/positivity given the fact that I'm very thin with zero curves and instagram influencers don't make it any easier especially when they create so many unrealistic beauty standards!!!

    • @green_eye_gossip
      @green_eye_gossip 3 года назад +45

      It may be time for you to consider deleting Instagram, or taking a break from it to see how that break affects you.

    • @stephanielange
      @stephanielange  3 года назад +97

      Try to change up who you follow, so don’t follow ‘influencers’ who post that kind of content, and follow people who uplift you instead! And remember, curves weren’t always in fashion! Your body would have been the IDEAL in the 90s when no curves and athletic / slim bodies were in fashion! Your body is amazing ⚡️❤️

    • @em84c
      @em84c 3 года назад +25

      In the 90's you would have had the ideal body! It helps to find someone you think is beautiful who has a similar body type to you and follow them.

    • @im_so_bored3896
      @im_so_bored3896 3 года назад +6

      lol me too but dw trends will soon shift, thin will be in again

    • @tayxox4761
      @tayxox4761 3 года назад +14

      I feel you girl I have no boobs or anything and I feel so unwomanly for it, I bet you are beautiful tho!

  • @courtneysheibal3125
    @courtneysheibal3125 3 года назад +5

    Thank you for sharing🥰 I've tried so hard to stay body positive for years and I know about photoshop, but seeing you put this together helps me re-center. Perfection from the media is shoved in our faces so often and I feel bad for all kids having to grow up where this type of expectation is rampant. Thank you for making a difference!

  • @amy3360
    @amy3360 3 года назад +47

    I love when you talk about organs! I have a VERY short torso and surprise surprise I've always been a bit "wide" in my waist. Never considered where my intestines might go if I had a tiny waist. Sure there's a little extra belly fat there that I'd like to smooth out but I'm so not as concerned about it now, thinking about my organs! Is that weird to say? Also, it's so great that you are becoming a holistic nutritionist, can't wait to hear more about your studies!

    • @sparkymularkey6970
      @sparkymularkey6970 2 года назад +2

      OMG, me too!! My torso is super short. Like, my hip bones almost touch my lower ribs. There's almost no space there. And I've always felt bad about having that lower belly fat. I feel so much better when someone reminds me that this is all normal.

  • @qKfairytale
    @qKfairytale 3 года назад +484

    Would you ever do a video with your fiancé over this subject? I feel like women as a whole are slowly progressing towards healthy body images… but men’s view on woman, not so much. Sometimes it takes a man to explain it for other men to believe it, even as informative as you try to be. Im tiring of pursuing this perfect image because men thinks women are to look like that. And if we don’t, we aren’t good enough

    • @acelya414
      @acelya414 3 года назад +76

      don't place your self worth on what men's opinions of your body are because that's a sure way to ruin self confidence, different men are attracted to different bodies. the ones that body shame women who they aren't attracted to don't deserve any attention, they're looking for a reaction so it's best not to give them one.

    • @im_so_bored3896
      @im_so_bored3896 3 года назад +44

      @@acelya414 most men body shame, it's time to get those standards for men's beauty up so they feel the pressure too 😇

    • @tatertots43
      @tatertots43 3 года назад +49

      ​@@acelya414 I agree that we need to move away from letting men set beauty standards, but I think it's important to note that men who body shame women are not just looking for a reaction. Beauty standards for women are set extremely high by the patriarchy for a reason: it makes it easier to exert control over women. It's the systemic equivalent of negging and a way of maintaining the status quo of gender inequality that ultimately benefits men. Women with low self esteems are much easier to control and exploit than women with high self esteems. That's something we shouldn't overlook in this conversation :)

    • @melissahuwe7531
      @melissahuwe7531 3 года назад +12

      Men just have it easier as women embrace the dad bod. :/

    • @dd8645
      @dd8645 3 года назад +3

      @@acelya414 you’re right, instead off waisting our energy into trying to change the view of people who not interested to let’s put it into ourselves and those who have our interest

  • @asdfghjklmnop9131
    @asdfghjklmnop9131 6 месяцев назад +1

    As I’ve been getting older I’ve been really struggling with my body changes and I just want to say I am so grateful for this channel and the delivery 💖 I love that there’s no shame to any of the women mentioned and at the end of the day it’s just a woman supporting the heck out of other women and spreading a message we all need to hear. its just refreshing to remember I’m a real human being and not an instagram post and I am just so happy this content exists

  • @sourdough_bagel
    @sourdough_bagel 3 года назад +118

    This came at the perfect time...thank you...today I was a little bloated (I'm naturally skinny but I'm 13 and have no self confidence and the beginning of an ED so videos like this are extremely uplifting).

    • @stephanielange
      @stephanielange  3 года назад +68

      Oh my love ❤️ I hope you get sorted with your ED. Try to focus on NOURISHING your body. Food is fuel. You are beautiful, unique and amazing and you deserve to absolutely thrive in this life! X

    • @madamebkrt
      @madamebkrt 3 года назад +32

      Believe me, you are nowhere near done at 13 where your body is concerned. You're still growing and your body is having to distribute "feminine fat" (100% normal!) to places it didn't have to before. It's perfectly normal to have a few years where your body may look strange to you because of that - I know mine did when I was a teenager. You're still *so* young and shouldn't be worrying about being "bloated". Just concentrate on keeping yourself healthy with good food and regular exercise, and the rest will sort itself out over time. Trust me.

    • @postiveelectron8879
      @postiveelectron8879 3 года назад +11

      You're still growing, you need to nourish your body with healthy delicious foods, your older self will thank you! ❤❤

    • @xx.05
      @xx.05 3 года назад +6

      Take care and be kind to yourself Maya 💕

    • @AriVirtual
      @AriVirtual 3 года назад +2

      If you don't have ED you don't understand that triggers work. Period. Show some support, great, I love to see it. But don't tell her what to do, or anything. Period.
      Maya, I feel you to say the least. And Im sending you positive energy. You can do anything and everything you want to, it is possible.

  • @rebeccagoodrich9545
    @rebeccagoodrich9545 3 года назад +3

    Love! I needed this today because I’m not feeling great about my body at the moment. This is such a good reminder that this level of perfection isn’t realistic or attainable. We all just need to work on being the healthiest, most confident version of ourselves. Not trying to replicate a body that even the actual influencer doesn’t really have.

  • @siddubois4753
    @siddubois4753 3 года назад +15

    These actually help so much. Sometimes we just scroll and have no idea the lengths people go to to portray this perfect image of themselves online and how that effects us subconsciously

  • @hang1iderswing
    @hang1iderswing 3 года назад +3

    Your content is so calming and nice, and it's so good that you do it without making fun of anyone or calling people ugly. You keep it real and remind us to be okay with our bodies. It's such a relief, it's really exhausting some days to feel so hideous among all these unbelievably beautiful photos.

  • @EA-bf1sx
    @EA-bf1sx 3 года назад +13

    Thank you sooooo much Stephanie for keeping it real!!! As a normal woman with Endometriosis, I can be 'fine' in the morning, then so incredibly bloated by the afternoon. Your videos have really helped me embrace the change in my body and not be so self conscious ❤

  • @alyssa1388
    @alyssa1388 3 года назад +1

    I love how positive you are , like you're not bringing them down, you're just pointing out that not everything is as perfect as it seems. Respect!

  • @thomyorkesrighteye
    @thomyorkesrighteye 3 года назад +54

    Stephanie is a god-sent. She's completely helped with my body image! Love her!

  • @lindsey9728
    @lindsey9728 3 года назад +6

    I've struggled with weight for a while, it got worse due to an undiagnosed medical condition that is now being managed. But, being uncomfortable in your own skin is a barrier to weight loss. I just want to say your video's have really given me the tools to accept my body and I've been loosing weight because of it. Thank you so much for being so kind in your approach and sharing how imperfect influencers are while refusing to tear them down. I don't feel any women should be judged, even if she Photoshops, I get it, it's okay.

  • @sophiepie1821
    @sophiepie1821 3 года назад +279

    My uterus fat protection is VERY protective...😒🤣 ... good layer there

  • @itskeke-wk8ng
    @itskeke-wk8ng 3 года назад +8

    Mannn, thank u for addressing this because all my life I’ve thought I was fat and when I’ve looked back at when I was about 12 I realised I was dangerously skinny but it was just in my mind. I used to do salt water flushes and lemon and water fasts to loose weight to look like how I thought I needed to look and now at 19 I’m finally starting to love my body and accepting that what I see online isn’t acc real

  • @ellabiddy4741
    @ellabiddy4741 3 года назад +15

    Tammy’s paparazzi photos personally make me more envious than her Instagram pictures, cause damn she looks like she works her ass off!! Her whole body is so muscular even in “off-guard” paparazzi photos like she’s not even flexing and she looks so great. I wish she would post more photos looking like that cause her tiny waist, big butt photos don’t even look real to me. Like if you told me they weren’t photoshopped I would not believe it, so they didn’t impress me, however her muscles are super impressive.

  • @aliciasolerperez8675
    @aliciasolerperez8675 3 года назад +15

    At the end of the video i literally said "Thank you Stephanie", I feel like we are expecting from women to have a "perfect" body, but literally everyone has a perfect body, you are the perfect version of yourself, and I think thats something you need to keep reminding to yourself

  • @SaheeliRai
    @SaheeliRai 3 года назад +110

    I literraly had this little bit of lower belly fat when I was very sick and dropped down to less than 37kg at a height of 1,60m and femt uncomfortable all the time because I was starving and really unhealthy and I was so happy when I was back at my normal weight of 43kg(still very thin, but I am healthy, fit and well nourished) and wasn't in constant pain any more

  • @rebenaq4506
    @rebenaq4506 3 года назад +2

    You are 100% right. We all need to appreciate our own bodies.
    I have scars where my life was saved after I had cancer. They are the reason why I am alive.
    Our bodies are amazing.
    All the best being holistic nutritionist. X

  • @sempitan
    @sempitan 3 года назад +97

    My waist looks super small when I look straight at myself. But it looks like I have no waist, if I look from the side (the stomach "bulges"). I was always so self conscious about this. But after this video I suddenly realized: it's my organs! Because my waist is so small in one projection, it has to be bigger in the orher projection to fit my internal organs. 🤯🤯🤯

  • @-onedirectionfanfiction-4439
    @-onedirectionfanfiction-4439 3 года назад +77

    The lower body fat thing makes me insecure but now I know everyone has it I'm proud

  • @this_is_emma3
    @this_is_emma3 3 года назад +5

    Stephanie’s videos are the reason why my self-esteem isn’t as bad as it used to be. I used to “punish” myself (e.g., not shower, workout 5x a week for 2 hours, wear baggy and unflattering clothes, etc.) because my body wasn’t as fit and perfect as the ones that these influencers show off. I am so grateful that I found this channel and her videos!

  • @liliamontealvo1862
    @liliamontealvo1862 3 года назад +4

    You’re amazing! Thank you for this. I also sent it to my teenage daughters. The way you speak is so relatable and honest. 💕

  • @jennkins94
    @jennkins94 3 года назад +6

    Stephanie I just found your channel and I am so glad! My niece is 14 and I am totally that girl who turns and tells her to stop idolising these Instagram influencers and that they don’t look like that at all, it’s honestly so toxic! She has started not eating properly, came to me as she wanted to throw up her food! I suffered from an ED for years so this was really disturbing to hear her going through a very similar thing. This is ridiculous at this point it really is messing with young girls minds and I’m seeing it first hand 😔 but I am so glad there’s women like you speaking up about these things with actual medical proof this is impossible body standards 👏 💜 keep it up girl, bless you xo

  • @AlliesObsession
    @AlliesObsession 3 года назад +3

    I love how positive you are and how you're not going after all those influencers in a negative way but simply pointing out that they don't need photoshop in the first place

  • @prerza
    @prerza 3 года назад +10

    the truth and simplicity in your videos are really comforting :(

  • @wonderwomman5135
    @wonderwomman5135 3 года назад +7

    It's so important that you reach out to your young audience to give them a reality check. Social media is twisted!! Thanks!

  • @ewaw9649
    @ewaw9649 3 года назад +6

    You are the best! I love your content. I have been insecure about my abs my whole life and I am a personal trainer. The industry is cruel and the girls are showing what they want to show. You opened my eyes that we are all just human beings with our imperfections =) Keep up the good work!

  • @MikkitheMistborn
    @MikkitheMistborn 2 года назад

    I love how you’re so down to earth like this obviously makes us all feel a lot better but at the same time somehow you magically aren’t putting anyone else down like you’re so positive and kind and respectful to the influencers. It’s like a total win win for everyone here and that balance is so freaking rare to see so I applaud you

  • @emilyramirez5488
    @emilyramirez5488 3 года назад +6

    I struggle with body confidence and this video made me feel a lot better about my self. Thank you

  • @WatchNiki
    @WatchNiki 3 года назад +2

    I love that you are so encouraging, uplifting, and championing to these girls! So many people are so mean and would use this opportunity to bash other women.

  • @nichola1405
    @nichola1405 3 года назад +7

    These videos are so important. Thank you Steph! 🙌🏻♥️♥️

  • @kakemartini1220
    @kakemartini1220 3 года назад +1

    I need reminding, this helped. Wow. And I actively try to not go down the rabbit hole but damn, I still do. Thank you for this and for being positive towards the women while also being realistic

  • @ImVictoriaRose
    @ImVictoriaRose 3 года назад +60

    Really needed a Steph lange vid today. Struggling with feeling a bit low and more anxious lately.

    • @nafsikakokkola489
      @nafsikakokkola489 3 года назад +1

      Keep going girl. I truly understand your feelings. I'm in the same situation right now

    • @ImVictoriaRose
      @ImVictoriaRose 3 года назад +4

      @@nafsikakokkola489 thank you! I know it’s temporary but still not fun while in it. Hope get better soon too 😅

    • @ibichannel3136
      @ibichannel3136 3 года назад +1

      ❤️❤️💕i hope have a great day.

  • @moonmaidx4914
    @moonmaidx4914 3 года назад +1

    Just straight out bit thank you! These videos make me feel so much grateful about my own body. It’s just crazy how social media just messes up your head in sense of beauty. With the age of 25 I finally understand! But it was quite a journey to a healthy mindset and I still find myself putting myself down sometimes. So just really, thank you!

  • @joboucher
    @joboucher 3 года назад +32

    We do need to plant seeds to tell everyone the “perfect” pictures we see online is most probably photo shopped. I am getting better when I see them to question the authenticity of them. Still a way to go tho. The more we talk about it and plant those seeds it will be normal to think that straight away and not feel insecure straight away feeling like why don’t I look like that.
    We need to re condition our minds to not think that’s normal to look that in human way!

  • @F2000-q2z
    @F2000-q2z 3 года назад +615

    So, I am a man, with a beard and everything. I noticed that there are a lot of comments about men's view of the body of women. I'd say most men know that a belly comes along with breasts and hips, it's part of the package. That's normal, we know and don't mind. I wouldn't really call a belly sexy but rather cuddly or soft. Don't worry about stripes or cellulite, most dudes won't care. Personally I think stripes are pretty, it looks like a print pattern or tiger stripes. Don't worry too much about bad skin. While acne is not exactly attractive, it is something that we have too. And we don't have make up to hide it :) The average normal dude knows what an average normal woman looks like. Don't stress yourselves. Also please dont't put all the blame on us. Most instagram models take and photoshop their own pictures and the fashion industry is mostly a women's affair.

    • @electron-Volt
      @electron-Volt 3 года назад +70

      Probably the most beautiful thing I will read all year.

    • @ES11777
      @ES11777 3 года назад +12

      Yes!!!

    • @nataliaperez4980
      @nataliaperez4980 3 года назад +10

      Love it

    • @gg_ingy
      @gg_ingy 3 года назад +72

      Exactly, it truly isn't the men that make girls insecure. It's the female *influencers* trying to influence them to look like them to sell products/gain followers.

    • @louisa3928
      @louisa3928 3 года назад +5

      Well said!

  • @rpb537
    @rpb537 3 года назад +10

    Steph - thank you, these videos are important.

  • @bookawoe2092
    @bookawoe2092 3 года назад +2

    I just found your channel and I really appreciate you pointing these things out. I know a lot of people point out how impossible these body standards are but you explain it all so well!

  • @jessieh9127
    @jessieh9127 3 года назад +53

    Not all, but most of these Ladies Instagram pictures, you can tell that their waist is NOT real

  • @Λουίζα
    @Λουίζα 3 года назад

    Thank you! I think it helps so many young girls who see those influencers and feel insecure or even ugly. It's so important to see that those women also have normal bodies

  • @ruqayyah4948
    @ruqayyah4948 3 года назад +10

    Thank you so much I’m 18 and have been feeling very insecure about my body. I was a very skinny child and when I turned 18 during lockdown my body changed and I felt so insecure more so because of family’s comments on how I’ve gained and even though it wasn’t said maliciously I felt so upset about my changing body! I’m a size small still but have found myself going into unhealthy habits to try and get back. Your videos have really helped me love my new curves and body thank you honestly !! Your channel is so inspiring for young girls like me ❤️

    • @stephanielange
      @stephanielange  3 года назад +3

      Embrace your changing body 😍 I feel like around that age you stop looking like a teenager and turn into a woman, and that is epic ⚡️ sending you so many hugs! Xx

  • @Latinangelbeauty
    @Latinangelbeauty 3 года назад +2

    I really love these videos, they're a great reminder about what bodies really are

  • @marisaskordili969
    @marisaskordili969 3 года назад +8

    We need more people like you Stephanie 👏👏 thank you, really needed this ❤️

  • @ashleycorbin4459
    @ashleycorbin4459 2 года назад

    I love this girl. Thank you for keeping it real. There's a difference between honesty and malice and this is the perfect example.

  • @clairerasa
    @clairerasa 3 года назад +6

    Just wanted to say thank you for these videos! I often feel so very self conscious about my body, especially the lower belly fat. I'm quite naturally skinny so whenever I eat I bloat and feel I look pregnant, which is ridiculous to think because bloating is normal. We need to start normalising what is normal and healthy on a woman. Every body is different and it shouldn't matter what you look like as long as you're healthy and happy

  • @elinalabrie970
    @elinalabrie970 3 года назад

    Whenever I feel like shit, I watch one or two of your videos and I feel soooo much better. Thank you so much for that.

  • @aliciadeadlydaisy7543
    @aliciadeadlydaisy7543 3 года назад +22

    Absolutely love what you wrote in the description 🥰 you are the caring big sis we all need in our lives 💖

  • @sdburr08
    @sdburr08 3 года назад +1

    You are freeing so many women right now. Do keep up the crusade for healthy body image! You are making such a big impact 💜💜💜

  • @magdziulap
    @magdziulap 3 года назад +57

    I'm from Poland and few weeks ago we've had drama because one of our young actress/instagram influencers said that normalizing bodys is promoting ugliness.

    • @petrauhrakova
      @petrauhrakova 3 года назад +19

      Hello from Slovakia 🇸🇰 this made me scream 💀💀💀 like what the fuck-

    • @magdziulap
      @magdziulap 3 года назад +8

      @@petrauhrakova a lot of Polish influencers were really pissed off that situation and making videos abaut her. You can type in RUclips "moda na brzydotę".

    • @kennyb1588
      @kennyb1588 3 года назад +4

      What- what? I am sorry but i am trying to make sense of that and I can’t

    • @jjba3571
      @jjba3571 3 года назад +3

      Yeah, how dare we trying to regain self steem, then how beautiful people will feel superior

    • @stephaniepreston-mullins3262
      @stephaniepreston-mullins3262 3 года назад

      @Kenny B....read it again, slowly, you'll get it, LoL! 🙃 This comment was not meant to be mean. She's saying that a Polish *Personality/Influencer* said normal bodies were ugly. I mean, idk. It's most certainly NOT *normalizing ugliness* to show how *REAL* you are!! SMFH! 😁🌻🌼

  • @mille8996
    @mille8996 3 года назад +1

    Thank u for making this !! As a teenage girl I’m really struggling with my body and I always compare myself to girls online . This really helped me realise that nobody actually looks like that

  • @leannarose8433
    @leannarose8433 3 года назад +12

    Stephanie swooning over Sofia is such a mood 😂 🥰💜

  • @KattyGyalKenta
    @KattyGyalKenta 3 года назад +1

    You are so precious to all humans on this planet right now. Not only for showing these things in a reasonable way but also talking about everyone so kindly without any shade or hate...humans can learn from you!

  • @graciebabyy
    @graciebabyy 3 года назад +201

    I love the content but it's still hard to watch cause I can't get out of my head that men actually believe women look like this with out any of the negative consequences

    • @sofie1724
      @sofie1724 3 года назад +23

      I thought so too cause my bf used to follow accounts like this before. But when I had a talk with him, he told me "OF COURSE THEY ARE FAKE, you didn't know this until now? Some even send me to ask if i could photoshop for them, they all photoshop" and then I felt much better. Now I actually think that many men understands even better than us women, that this is not real. Ask the men around you and maybe they will say the same ? 💛

    • @skantewarrior109
      @skantewarrior109 3 года назад

      @@sofie1724 we know it’s fake lol

  • @its6104
    @its6104 3 года назад +1

    I’ve been watching your videos for years and I’ve come a long way in loving myself. Sometimes I feel myself slipping back into troubling eating habits in order to lose weight quickly, but I’ve learned to catch myself when that happens and watching your videos helps a lot. You’re doing amazing work and I am thankful for you.🥰👍

  • @Panimalek
    @Panimalek 3 года назад +8

    Thank you for saying that fat on female bodies is to protect our organs. It really made me think about my belly fat in a whole different way

  • @frigatebird2242
    @frigatebird2242 3 года назад +2

    Man I had no idea how much I needed this video. Thank you for this.

  • @lucybrown8472
    @lucybrown8472 3 года назад +22

    These types of videos actually help so much. Like you said even if you "know" they don't look like this in real life, the sheer mass of images like this online makes it difficult to remember the reality and not compare yourself to the photoshopped/posed/surgery version. Thanks for being the blunt friend we all need

  • @NayelyGarcia123
    @NayelyGarcia123 3 года назад +1

    Thank you for your video! You were kind and respectful to the models you presented and yet you presented what real beauty is. I believe most of us get caught up daily trying to achieve Instagram perfection that we lose ourselves in the process. Thank you for remind me what natural raw beauty actually looks like. Thank you!

  • @juliealwaysmiles5342
    @juliealwaysmiles5342 3 года назад +5

    I love you and these videos so much.. I’m healing from body dysmorphia and these videos help so much!!

  • @mkchristner
    @mkchristner 3 года назад +2

    You’re so sweet 🥰 thank you for being real, and finding beauty in so many people! I love your mindset, it’s the actual kind of influence we need! 💕

  • @sweetcountryhome
    @sweetcountryhome 3 года назад +8

    Love that you bring this to light, the human body is not flawless but beautiful! ❤🌸