I was accused of leaving my Kenyan husband to marry a white man in Belgium, here is my truth | LNN
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- Опубликовано: 9 июн 2023
- If there is one thing Victoria is unapologetic for, it’s choosing to follow her heart and love who she loves. She knows too well how it feels to marry someone you are not compatible with. She also knows all too well how it feels to marry someone who gets her heart.
On this episode of LNS, she walks us through the tough choices she had to make and why in life, one should never conform
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Thank you so much for watching🙏
Good morning Lynn. Regards. Much love from this side. Pay a visit to Spain🇪🇸. ❤️❤️❤️😘
Good morning too LYNN ❤
Good morning Lynn and everyone nice weekend to you all ❤
Lynn welcome to America
@@gladysmoraa4818 we need her here.
Victoria challenged me to study when I was in high school. With her brother, Martin, they organised for tuition sessions during school holidays for us. I'm glad she played a part in shaping my life.
I wish her well in life and celebrate her.
What I love about this is that she didn’t leave her ex husband for being toxic, cheating or violent (like most people usually ask) but because they were not compatible. Also they had communication problems, why force someone who clearly isn’t into the marriage. It doesn’t matter what the reason is. If you are not happy just leave the marriage. Don’t die trying to make the society happy. We only live once, make your life worth living .. waking everyday feeling happy is such a luxury 🥰🥰🥰
true
Ma dear we only die once and live everyday, opt for happiness everyday 😊 love from Tanzania
Ladies need to set their priorities right to avoid getting into relationships then finding out you are not compatible leaving one part broken
It's wonderful to listen to a woman who knows exactly what she wants.
I am one of them. I had to leave with two kids and no regrets at all
Marrying someone that you are not compatible with is a nightmare
Hell fire
Very true!
It's mental toture😢
It's really a nightmare, I have experienced that feeling. One may end up depressed or cheat
It's hell fire weeee
I like how Nyawira comes across. She sounds very authentic and real. Also very emotionally mature. I resonate with her mindset and opinions
I was married to a Mr.Kinuthia Ndegwa i tried to hold even when things were getting worse, I stayed coz"A good wife builds her house"kind of a thing,endured physical,emotional abuse,unfaithfulness but when I left i went back to school abroad and currently dating a white guy and I can't ask for more,atleast for once in life I feel loved appreciated and at the same time pursuing my career!!!!!
Good for you!👏👏👏
Am happy for you gal go go go
Wah😮 umemtambua na majina yake yote, are you really healed?😂
😂😂😂😂 remind me of Andrew kibe how he call them Nganuthia
@@sonyia7521 I think the name is generic not his real name.
I like how Victoria took ownership of her own happiness and forgot about the expectations of the society. I admire her so much. The truth is most of us have lost ourselves in the same way and the damage gets bigger the longer you take to free yourself from all this. Thank you Lynn. I am personally working on myself and everyday I wish I could have done it earlier but it is never too late. Even our fellow brothers can learn something out of this. God bless you all
I can relate to her story so much but for me, the relationship I left in Kenya before I moved to USA was very abusive and kids were involved which is sad. Thank God that I'm now happy and soon bringing my kids to the US and in a happy relationship. It's true, An ending isn't really an end. It's an opening for a new beginning somewhere.
Hope to find my happiness too cz i live with bitterness and regrets..my kids are unhappy too.. really sad😢
@beatricenyaboke8186 I totally know how difficult it is and it's even more sad when kids have to go through what they didn't sign up for. You as a loving parent, should find a way to protect them from the trauma even if leaving the situation will be the only way dear. I hope it's not too hard for you
Same here mummy
Happy for you
First one leo nipewe likes
Never stay somewhere you are never happy to please people. There is always a perfect match to everyone. Good work Lynn.
She has such a calm demeanor and really straightforward,knows what she wants. She made a good decision...hii African mentality ya kuvimilia kwa ndoa and it's not working has affected many.
Being content and Happy in marriage also contributes to raising a healthy family.
Mpaka mtu anatolewa macho ndio anaamua kuondoka kwenye ndoa!
I see myself in her personality, I am going through this right now. Thank you Lynn for this interview. I feel justified and today I have made my decision and it feels so good💃🏽
Some of these comments clearly show why there is such a rise in murder suicide marriages, if u dont feel complete in the marriage you are in, leave like she did and move on. Let the man find a woman that complements him fully.
Exactly , let people talk , what matters is yourself
She listened to her inner feelings and acted right to walk out.❤
Yes before she got children cause kids need both parents,I hated it seeing my parents fight and being caught in the middle.
Perfectly put. Wise and intelligent woman I can attest too.
Sounds great. Do such rules apply to men coz I feel like men would have been demonized in circumstances like this.
@@naxiz_kenya2805 it applies in relationships either way(men or women). It's about self-care resulting from conscience.
Being with or married to somebody whom you are not compatible is the worst thing. Love this ❤. Thank you Lynn.
But never incompatible with the colonizers
True
Am actually in the situation right now
@@maryanneatienootieno1413 may you find yourself and find peace and finally follow your heart dear.❤️
Aki inconsistency kills love... what happens when your partner says things and never keeps any of them,,, each day you grow further away 😢
Exactly..trust fades n loves "Runs away "..
How can a young man burry himself in business to an extent of not visiting a newly wedded wife in Belgium?????????!
My question too
Exactly……that right there was a red flag 🚩
The Dutch Accent waaa.I love her educational background.she put herself first.zingine next 🔑
My high school mate..you were very sharp in school and athletic too....you haven't aged at all.Looking good,all the best in marriage.
She is a very honest lady and down to earth. Thank you for believing in who you want to be
This story is very easy for me to understand, she got married to the Kenyan man because she was going abroad though there were compatibility issues. He was enjoying the financial support she was giving but he was not supportive of her dream. She knew in her mind the marriage was just on the paper. She is accomplished so she does not need a man to support her, the fact that she got one along the way is a good thing. Ladies get a man who is supportive of your dreams. It seems she has both.
I wouldn't put it any better. I consider myself one lucky woman. I too was newly married when I went to pursue my master's in Belgium through a full scholarship my hubby is my number one support system he was super supportive of me following my dreams was done came back to Kenya worked abit then got a PhD scholarship in Germany still my hubby was my number one supporter he never felt intimidated at any point because of my career progress
Typical kenyan mentality
@@r.q5194 most women are hard headed when they become successful
@@michaelrapando6658 It all depends with one's character. Despite all that I have achieved careerwise my hubby is still the head of our home like the way it should be and so he leads and I follow his lead.
Well explained… lm still in Africa… met my husband while my business was just starting and didn’t make sense… he has supported me through and through and yes compatibility and aligned interests is the biggest part of a successful relationship
A RUclips notification from LNN is enough to brighten my day,. Lynn you are amazing,
Love you!!❤
This Lady is open minded, intelligent, true and honest to herself...her mind set is on another level....i love the interview 😀
I like this lady's school of thought.She knows who she is and what she wants.Nyinyi wengine endeleeni kulazimisha mapenzi alafu mnauana.
😂😂😂 ati nyi wengine muendelee kuforce issues hadi wafanye nini
@@chikugetao9198 😂mtu akiachwa anawachika,asiue mtu amemkataa
But ready to be white man's maid
@@michaelrapando6658 read my comment to understand
@@michaelrapando6658 kaskie vibaya uko kwenu
I found this conversation very profound. Victoria is quite sound and an independent thinker. I have learned a lot. Thank you Lynn for the amazing work you are doing 👏.
We speak about the American accent,this one really got the bug of the Dutch accent.shes a strong woman and love her story.knowing what she wants and going by it.
I understand her perfectly, am a people person I guess
I have dated both black and white men and i can proudly say, if you are a strong minded woman who want to be independent despite being married then just marry a white guy😁.
True 😊
Very true
I support this
True. Most African men are insecure of a woman with a strong mind or principles bcoz they feel undermined or not having enough authority over her. They want a woman who follows their orders without questions. The few who accept it are called "weaklings" or they have been sat on but they don't care as long as they are happy.
You mean black men are dense?
i like the way she is naturally simple , no makeups
Not all endings r failures. Thank you Victoria for owning your story.
Thank you Lynn..Much love from uganda
If all women would be this mentally independent, and clear with what they want in life and relationships, then we would have less single parents and less cases of couples killing each other. Just dont settle for less because it will cost you in the long run.... Good job Lynn
I love your thinking
Hallelujah!
Some African women love suffering. They love being treated as second-rate objects, they're happy when they're enslaved and beaten and walked on. They hate peace and progress. Yes, they're "submissive." In a nutshell, I love your proposition, Damaris. If only.....
If a man says to a woman @just decide what you want to do with your life” , obviously it’s over. I am glad you did what was right for you sister. You never let yourself down as you have a life and your children are precious. I could see that bad sign coming from him.
Those who can't get their heads around her accent, it's very simple; her primary language is Dutch NOT English, and thus the heavy accent. Kitu kidogo...let's get over it and listen to the heart of the story ☺️☺️
But uni was kenya and we speak proper english..😂
@@kigendawafula3109 true
It’s only a fool who complains about other people’s accent.
@@kigendawafula3109
If you had been to Britain, you would know the English you were taught in Kenya is fake
Shiro Njuguna am actually enjoying it.. sounds soo sweet
WOW! Another online dating success story!!! Your happiness is key no matter what
Very intelligent woman. I am marveled by her smart way of thinking about her future at a very young age and shaping it. May God continue to guide her. Another great episode Lynn. Keep them coming. Love you.❤Cant wait to have you here in the USA. I will host you. 🙏🏼
She is so composed ,i love that about her ❤am glad she chose herself no matter what people will think 🤔
I was married at 16 and divorced at 21😢its not because he was physically abusive but thats not the kind of life i wanted for my dearself😉im now chasing my dreams and loving it,
Weuh! As a divorcees, but the other way round (divorced a mzungu & got kids with an Afrikan) sema rejection from family & friends 😢 I know how she feels. #FollowWithHeart #LoveAlwaysWin ❤🙏🏾✅🌻
Sending you more love and light🙏
My take was, you may have lost everything but as long as you have a will to move on, things will work out for you. Thank you Lynn for bringing Victoria on the show.
Waa these two girls are naturally beautiful. And I like that Lynn is still Lynn with light makeup.....good girls 😊👍👍
The path Victoria is describing is one most Kenyans esp Nairobians don't comprehend...they think they do but they don't. And the ideology of 'fighting for your marriage' is a very Kenyan thing even when the situation doesn't justify nor defend it.
Thank you❤
Its all of Africa i guess 😢which is sad coz why force things.If its not working ,its not working period!!!Fight for what is worth not what is non existant !
Well stated❤
@@orglasworld That's it. If it's not working it's not working period. One should reflect and move on
This is so encouraging.You have to be happy in all aspects but unfortunately, most of us fail terribly on this.
I love how composed, humble,simple Victoria is...her story is so inspiring and educating...she has a very amazing family.
Thanks Lynn for the wonderful show🤗
Good morning fam🥰🥰 another day to learn something.. Lynn we are always here for what you got for us 💖
This is one brilliant, strong and courageous lady. She has bravely followed her heart (intuition) and simply her God given common sense. She did not waste her years fighting the wrong battles - She knows her self worth and She fought an inner battle to flourish and become who she envisioned to be. She refused to lie to herself, faced her truth and made decisions that has led her to this positive and uplifting story. Kudos and all the best.
I luv the line...'she FOUGHT an inner battle to flourish and BECOME who SHE envisioned.
Happines ,peace of mind is what we all want . Right?
Happy for her❤
The man was good, not abusive as she's said, just that you didn't have exposure and once you were out you discovered yourself and what you want to go for ..... It's good you both realised quite early and I hope he's doing well wherever he is❤❤❤
So where 3 in this marriage? Let’s learn to say more about other individuals’ mental health wellbeing
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@@proudmganda1159 what do you mean
Why marry racist whites . Kenya women have this terrible reputation of marrying whites . As white people on the right talk about genocide , I subscribe to that. You are literally destroying your own race by blindly mixing it with those who funked up your country. I'm really glad that this obsession is not in my country women .
I'll never understand how people forget that we only have one life to live, therefore it should be a worthwhile one with happiness of of course
A young woman with a smart mindset on how to find your true love....she tells us all that matters is your happiness....Kudos Victoria
Aki Lynn just know that we love you soo much may God continue to bless you and expand your territories ❤
Am glad to know that she’s happy and that she chose herself as God intended for her to.
everyone needs genuine love , I am a victim of living with a man who I have no feelings for and I sense he doesn't love me too , let me say it's not easy
yeah it's not easy
Its hell , jipange polepole , everyone and anything needs love
Me too
My situation TOO
Jipange you need love,life is short.
You are a wise lady. I stayed for 25 years with a man who spoke to me only one sentence which was always a question; 'where's my food?, are my shirts ironed? Did you do what I told to do? ' that kinda thing! Eventually I left.
Wow
This is amazing Vicky,you have represented us well in Belgium ❤
GOD BLESS YOU VICTORIA AND LNN TEAM FOR THE LESSONS WE LEARN FROM PEOPLE STORIES💓🌹🙏🏾
Flowers ⚘️⚘️⚘️ Lynn ngugi,she's such a gem not easy to find .much love gurl❤❤❤
Listening at this beautiful Kenyan woman with exceptional narrating skills one can't help but admire the parenting skills some children gets exposed to. "Because I don't like makeup....", is there any lady listening out there?
It's rare to find a simple, beautiful and intentional natural skin woman telling her story in a composed demeanour and masterly of English. I wish today's generation can listen to Victoria in meaning and intention. Men look for such ladies for marriage. Ladies, learn something about the secrets of "What men really want in a woman...." These are the two expectations from men-Natural beauty and exceptional humility. Victoria is visionary and a personal with values and value to bring to the marriage @50-50% that where that marriage fails, property can easily be awarded at fifty-fifty. Don't bring nothing to the table and expect everything or half contribution. Victorias are rare today.
Thanks Lynn for this show and by the way you look exclusively beautiful and smart in that outfit👏.
So what happened to her first husband that he couldn’t keep her? Please let women be, marriage is not the ultimate goal but happiness. Dear women, go to places where you are loved and appreciated the way you are, make up or not. Teach men how to be good husbands too please.
She's naturally beautiful 😍 and comes across as emotional mature. Once one knows thyself don't waste time.
Do you sis .... 💃🏾
I'm in swaziland 🇸🇿 and I'm very happy to see such an amazing nd strong lady...your happiness comes first ....if doesn't save u just let it go....if u not at peace just choose u..not even what our parents used to say..they are staying in an abusive marriage just for the kids but truth of th matter is u teaching your kids tht it's OK to be abused...so I just love this lady she really stood up for her self no matter what the society is say..coz at th end of th day u matter nd u come first...I really wish to share my story one day with u.....God bless u all for th wonderful job....
Swaziland ulienda through which way?
I was in such a situation... though not married in April I let go. .... great learning from the episodes.
New subscriber from Guyana 🇬🇾 South America. I listened to Victoria's story and I'm amazed at her intellect, honesty and humility. Thanks for sharing this with us 🙏
What I like about this Lady,she's a down to earth person. What a lovely soul
I love how she is explaining everything.
Same
She’s intelligent
Blow by blow account of everything
MATE is my new name for partner. Can my mate locate me ooooooo abeg
@@jjkui4535 pokea nyota
"LIFE IS A CHOICE THAT IS FOLLOWED BY YOUR OWN DECISION THAT LEADS TO YOUR DESTINY" Congratulations Victoria for "BEING YOU" and listening to your heart. You sounds just like me. I follow my heart and not worrying of the society opinions. Wishing you all the best and Abundant Blessingsto your family and your future. We need many Victorias to listen and make the right decisions according to their observations and their views towards life.
Truth
Wow... she's so goal oriented and so grounded.
Congratulations our own Gal Lynn God's grace be with you. The Guest I love how shes confident and she did well to listen to her inner voice. Go gal 🎉🎉🎉🎉
Lynn am super proud of your work and you as a person! Keep changing lives! Keep Shining! Keep Rising!
Me taking notes from her❤she's soo intelligent...its always good to put yourself first choosing you over everything
That is a good parting short "listen to God and what makes sense to u".
Nyawira is so positive… the episode is such a breath of fresh air!
Good morning Lynn,,,I really loves you dear,,, I always learn more here n am happy for you girl, continue the good work
Nice watching my sister,am proud of you 🎉🎉 My number one supporter...kudos❤
You are very brilliant.
You are calm yet with a strong personality.
You speak English eloquently yet with a Dutch accent so I guess you are quite good at Dutch too.
And detailed...
Enjoy yr life.
Love must be reciprocated
Thank both for the inclusiveness. Understanding that this is a Kenyan show it shouldn’t be assumed that all supporters of the LNS platform are from Kenya and or speak Swahili. It makes it hard to follow the stories when the guests switch languages right in the middle of the narrative.
@Lyn Ngugi, make sure you eat Belgian chocolates especially the pralines.
I salute Victoria for discovering her worth and doing something about it. This shows a lot of maturity.
I wish her and her family all the best in everything they set their mind to.
I feel that just isolating "God hates divorce" is not right and simplistic! We already make mistakes in deciding whom we marry before we know them well enough. Let us not blame God for our own mistakes. And let us ask God for wisdom !
Power to you girl. There's only one life to live. You make your choices and be happy.
Good to know that there are other Kenyans there who are statisticians. I pursued a graduate degree in statistics in the USA and do not regret it. Victoria's personal story is also very inspiring as well. Compatibility is very important a in relationship and who are we to judge someone else's choices as they pursue hapiness. Thanks for sharing
Beautiful woman. Bold and mature. Wonderful conversation. Lynn remain blest. Thank You.
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Lynn God loves you, you reciprocate the love by pouring it to us by bringing us amazing hot enlightening topics that we learn so much from ❤️we love you back,thank you 😊🙏
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Our girl! Great interview
I like her eloquence and clear expression of mind and soul... very intelligent kiudu educated 😁😁
Beautiful! You do you girl. Be with that person who loves you in every way. Don't let your villagers hold down your dreams and squeeze your boundaries in a dot.
The story was touching lesson delivered don't stay somewhere you're not happy and don't afraid to lose anything you can always find another one lynn God bless may this land favour you in a special way
Another chance to learn something new from lNN channel 👏👏👏👏
I needed this. I have been feeling guilty for leaving my previous boyfriend for similar reasons especially for compatibility. I knew we were not compatible but 2 years later I still felt guilty. Her story really helped me to breathe move on and it doesn't mean I'm a bad person because I left. Her story helped a lot. Love from SA.
An Amazing and beautiful story❤️
Happy for you Victoria 🙏
Europe series has started.. what a pleasant surprise seeing lyns notification on Saturdays
Let’s do this❤❤
These woman is brilliant. She knows her worth. No one should point a finger to her at all. The ex was not challenging e had fears to merry such an open spirit. These sister has moral brave. But hei good decision she made. Am happy for her. She never wanted to carry a bargain man. That man I would also don't want him to be my baggage. God bless sister. Stay happy embrace life God gave you. 🙏🙏🙌That is Grace 🇿🇦🇿🇦
She seem like a very down to earth woman and kind hearted❤❤ ❤ something she said that unsettled me though.. she mentioned that she has read the Bible so much but tue Bible is not some novel or book that can just be read nd put away..I'd like to encourage you my beloved sister to continue studying the Word of GOD because each da you study it the LORD GOD reveal new things to you😭 please do not stop studying the word of GOD 🔥🔥🔥 I love your humble nature may the LORD GOD strengthens you🙏
Thank you so much lINN for wonderful job you are doing around the world ❤ God bless you
Inspiring story. Faith over fear.
Good morning Lynn and crew among top 5 here we go.
@LynnNgungi i love you and i love every bit of your inspiration story❤ you're amazing keep on shining much love❤
Thank you so much!!
Love you too❤
@@LynnNgugi ❤❤❤❤❤❤
Now this is opening up, great interview, great lessons she's well expressed. I like it when they come on the show and open up this much without tarnishing the other partner but also making us understand well what exactly happened from there side and how they feel. Sio the other lady who we hosted juzi na akakatalia info akakua tu motivational speaker 😅
😂😂wee wacha
Wewe Lindah sasa ungeachia tu hapo kwa feel but umeamua kuongeza vayolence🤣🤣🤣🤣
Mgani huyo 😂😂
@linda mgani? is it mwenye alikaa na boyfriend for 17 years?
kumbe si mm tu niliona hivyo😂😂😂😂
God hate divorce but not divorcee,compatibility is all matters my dear 🙏your happiness ,joy n living your life is all matters 🙏🙏
Go on talking my dear, it's a good therapy. When I lost my son at 27 years after graduating as a doctor,
I used to pick his story at any point of conversation even where didn't fit. At one point my daughter told me that talking about my late son is my therapy. Whenever I talk about it I felt is like a burden shared.
Talk, talk until it's more comes in.
Healing is gradual and different steps. It's had to forget but pain and tears gets lesser and lesser.
Take it easy one day at a time.
This lady is very smart, it was never going to work, I tried for 19yrs,I stayed for my kids,😢 it never got better. I'm happy alone.
My take. As long as you can work don't be afraid to leave what is lost and start all over again. I need this right now. Thank you nyawira.
Bravo 👏👏 since I became a member of LNN today is my 1st day am finding a guest from my county(Embu) wow . Victoria you are so composed.. Realising yourself and making a bold move to walk away from people who aren't compatible with you is the best therapy you can offer yourself.
Wooow! Me too
Love this ! God Bless You Lynn