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Hello my beautiful friends! I appreciate all of your comments and I love you guys! Just a quick note when telling me about your opinion on this friendship convo let’s just try to keep it about your own experiences or your thoughts on how this pertains to you but not bringing down the woman in the video. I just used her video because it was a good topic to talk about but it’s not suppose to bash her or her lifestyle in anyway. Thanks babes! 🥰🩷🩷
I am a low maintenance friend and have been judged by 'friends' for that so I understand and approve your message LOL... those who get it... get 🤷🏾
The point where you said don’t look back there that’s exactly what I was doing looking back there. 😂
Love your videos. You got me and my sister in a whole discussion about high maintenance and low maintenance friends. 😂 She is high maintenance and I am low maintenance because I really prefer to keep to myself. 😊
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I honestly feel like a "low-maintenance" friend is a real friend just as much as a high-maintenance friend. It honestly depends on your lifestyle and regardless of what happens a real friend will understand when/if things change and be there for you. Yall can link when its best for the both of you and they won't make you feel bad for not being able to link as much as they might want.
Team low maintenance. I can’t socialize often. I’m an extroverted introvert and I need time to regroup and decompress. I’ve been an only child so I’m used to being by myself. Even the people you love can still be draining.
Low maintenance friendships are almost mandatory as an adult. Especially when you have a spouse and/or family. You can’t spread yourself thin. I agree with a comment made earlier.. “it’s the quality of the time spent, not the quantity”. You’re good girl! Also… YOU ARE HILARIOUS! Too many funny moments to mention!😂🤣❤️
Jess, when you got out of that workout class you looked like you had been CHASED BY A BULLDOG! I love you girl! You give every time I see you. So glad I subscribed!
😂😂😂😂 that class is SERIOUS business lolll 🩷🩷
lolllllll not a bulldog!!!
Jess, someone sent me your video and I’m so happy that you discussed this! We’re all going to have different perspectives on friendships because we all come from different walks of life and I definitely understand that 🤍 I made the video from the belief that many of us need our minds renewed especially in the area of friendship because while we’ve been taught in the church how to do marriage well, I don’t believe we’re often taught how to do friendship well. I appreciate you bringing this topic up in a loving and respectful way and I’m cheering you on! Also, I love your personality!!! God bless you girl 🤍🤍🤍
Thank you so much!! I was trying my best to make sure it didn’t come off as me being rude to you because that’s def not it, I just need help in handling all my friends 😂 and I thought this was a great topic and I had to get this off my chest because I feel like some of my friends do feel this way towards me and I’m like y’all I’m doing my best 😭😭😂😂
👏🏾 👏🏾 👏🏾 Friendships should be life skills 🤣
I'm an introvert, so I'm such a low-maintenance friend, but I'm the first person there if I'm needed. Girl, you are doing your thing with these room makers !!! Let's go BIG CHOP 🤎🤎🤎
Mondays may be annoying,but if that Monday comes with a video from Jess I think it’s going to be a great day 🙂
On the friendship note, a true friend will meet you where you are as long as you are there when it truly counts 😉❤️
Exactly
I believe your prayers got answered 🤷🏾♀️ in his own way 😂 God has a sense of humor
Sis, you took me out when you came back to the car and stared at us. I had to rewind that part four times. Between 6:22 - 7:00, I was literally CRYING from laughing so hard! 🤣🤣🤣 All jokes aside, you lifted my spirit up by simply being yourself and making me laugh because I thoroughly enjoyed this vlog. It made me feel so much better! 🙏🏽
“We’re outta eggs? We’re outta eggs!?” Chile that sent me😂😂 I definitely understood that SO much
I like to play Jess whole video in my background, I like to pretend we're on video chat together and she's one of my friends who never let me get a word in.😂 I don't have to worry about immoral, abusive, or wreckless speech. She's hilarious real and gorgeous. I watch every episode for company😊❤
❤❤Love this. Sam's here.
Same! We REALLY need a LIVE with my YT Niecey Jess! 😂
The more time I spend with GOD, the better my voice sounds. I couldn't sing for nothing before I got saved. I was a heavy smoker and drinker. I got saved at 33 and I'm turning 38 this year. I know when I'm fasting and seeking GOD consistently, I have more power behind my voice too. When my voice starts getting weak I pray for restoration of my voice as well. Thought I'd share because I had no idea you're a great singer until recently.
Oooo I love this! Thank you for sharing!
@OnlyOneJess thank you Sis, GOD bless you😍
I’m definitely a low-maintenance friend. I love my alone times and I don’t need to talk with anyone every day. The Every Plate meals look really good, so I’m going to try them. I love that you were able to pivot when the singing didn’t work out and now you have this full life that God ordained for you. Keep soaring queen
Girl if your friendship is working for you don’t worry about it. If your friends not complaining it’s all good 😊
@OnlyOneJess I have singing trauma too from music school and talent shows and auditions. I’m classically trained in opera and I have so much anxiety around my voice that I don’t sing anymore. I understand your whole experience!
Wow your talk about friendships gives me hope. I’m almost 24 and I’m not good with making friends cause I was bullied during my teenage years so I never really developed great social skills. But prayerfully like you one day the Lord will bless me with a close knit group of Christ centered women❤. Great video!
I am 24, and I totally feel you. I’ll be praying for you!
The same thing happened to me when I auditioned for xfactor here in the UK! I sang about 3 or 4 words and they told me thank u and goodbye!! I was in disbelief and kept the story to myself until now😂😂
I’ve never known pain like that before 😂
😂😂😂😂 that post workout entrance had me dying 🤣 I absolutely love the light floors! 😍
I learned the smaller the circle the less drama when it comes to friends. Also can’t call everyone your friend. Your circle might be a little to large. But this just works for me
I agree
The way you needed silence after that class 😭 I have not resonated with something so much before in my life 🤣
Between you asking Jesus to be a protein bar and you shushing the car 😂😂
Shoutout to brother Johnathan for using that body scrub haha.
And no you are NOT a bad friend for not wanting to strain yourself from end to end for everybody! Boundaries are NORMAL AND NEEDED. Especially (as you noted) that you have your commitment as a wife. Chileee I'm 1000% an extrovert and I need to recharge on the daily by having my alone time.
That storytime about that audition?! Chileeeeee😬😬😬😬
Each "we're out of eggs" came with a different emotion and expression 🤣🤣🤣
Not “Lord Jesus be a Protein Bar”😂! I have not even finished the video and am already ROTFL😂!! Thanks Jess!!
15:02 about the friend thing: Especially as you get older and life happens low maintenance friends happen. I have friends from childhood wr don't talk everyday but when we do get together it's like no time has passed at all!!!❤❤❤ That to me is what friendship is! I don't need you everyday but when I need you, your there and vice versa! 💯
I don't think being low maintenance makes you a bad friend because it definitely works for some people but I also think there are a lot of people who call themselves low maintenance friends but really those people are depressed and anxious alone when really they need a more consistent community. It can be used as a shield to stay in isolation basically.
Whew, I felt this comment, especially the last part of the paragraph. I need to work on my friendships... relationships period.
i think this is me. I recently found a really good community and i find myself going out and being around them alot when i used to say i liked to be alone. I think i just needed a better community.
@@Toiorchid86 I'm literally working on this right now too! I basically wrote the comment for me 😂
No. That doesn’t make you a bad friend. Everybody ain’t the same. That’s what makes us unique. If our good sis needs “high maintenance” friends or if she is one herself, that is fine…for her. && I’m hopeful that she’ll find friendships that work for her. However, she can’t expect for everyone to be high maintenance or give high maintenance because that’s what she prefers. 🤷🏾♀️🤷🏾♀️
Yo I love how authentic, hilarious and relatable she is
I think we aren’t throwing the kickbacks and the cookouts because of all of the low maintenance friendships. Think about it… if people are collectively not reaching out and not making plans frequently because they’re too busy (life takes over sometimes), or they don’t feel like it, then those close bonds and friendships like we saw our parents have with people cease to exist or at least diminish. Our generation would rather create a fake sense of closeness using social media than actually being close. Also, random side note but yassss to all these DIY projects!
i definitely agree with this. we’re definitely not as close as a society with the social media and people just not reaching out. i’m a perpetrator of it as well
Yessss. I totally agree. Also, everyone self diagnose themselves with social anxiety. Like you are socially inept. They are not the same 😵💫.
The 'We're out of eggs' would be a great commercial ! LOL. Jess: "What do you do when you're out of eggs..." Commercial Narrator: "Grab a Pop-tart.. strawberry, chocolate, cinnamon !."
You can be a low maintenance friend and still be a great friend. Everyone is different and we are adults. But sometimes we can still improve and figure out away to find a balance for all parties.
There's nothing wrong with "low maintenance" friends, if they know you and still want to maintain a friendship with you I don't see the problem. For instance, most of my friends (myself including) are like you, some of us can literally go a couple weeks/a month without speaking (we also value our space) but our conversations always flows like we just saw each other a few days ago (granted I've known most of them for 12+ years but some I've met a couple years ago). On the other hand, I have "higher maintenance" friends who prefer to be in weekly contact with me so we developed a system where we send each other funny/cute media, quotes, random thoughts, etc a few times a week which works for me because I have a weird mindset, lol. Basically what I'm saying if all parties agree and respect each other - what's the problem?
I'm definitely a low maintenance friend. People don't hear from me for months! I just don't have time for all the small talk (I like to be alone and I have my own activities no one likes to do). But like you, if someone is in trouble...im THERE 🏃🏾♀️🏃🏾♀️🏃🏾♀️🏃🏾♀️
I’m definitely a low-maintenance friend with low maintenance friendships. I don’t have to capacity to be giving my all to high maintenance relationships. That takes a lot of energy. All my friends are pretty low maintenance and I do NOT by any means think that makes people bad friends because they’re low maintenance people.
Agreed!!
You did amazing with the guest room floor! it came out so nice!! Can't wait to see the reveal of the big chop!
Not you leaving us on a cliffhanger!! I need the big chop video immediately PLZ
I use the blue painters tape all the time Jess and it works great. The key is you have to make sure it is really pressed firmly against the wall, so that nothing bleeds through. Your bathroom makeover is so beautiful. You have given me so many ideas.
“Lord Jesus be a protein bar” ?!? 🤣🤣🤣 girrrl ! You say the funniest stuff
I'm the same with my friends. I have 5 close friends all from church. I'm not calling them everyday, I'm not over by your home or vice versa everyday. But understand if they needed a kidney, I'm there. I absolutely love each of them. On the other hand, my husband is my best friend
The amount of times you said "we're out of eggs" is sending me😂😂😂
Big Chop Jess is BACK!! Listen, the majority of my adult friendships are “low maintenance”. Most of us are all in the same career field so we busy, having families, spouses, etc. But every time we get together it’s like we pick up where we left off.
Jess!!! I am you with the friends. I am not married, but I still do not like to be all up in people's faces. People would call me an extrovert, but I seriously value my alone time. ❤😂 Doesn't make you a bad friend or person.
Same!
Literally same lol
Hey Jess! Being low maintenance friends do not make us bad friends. At the end of the day, I show up everytime I'm needed, I'm supportive and I speak life into my friends. I have very few, but they're understanding to me not reaching out as much, especially my best friend. She makes sure we talk lol. But regardless, they know I show up for them no matter what. Keep doing that and you're good!
This song is so catchy I'm always singing it when it comes on, I love ur content ❤️ keep em coming
Damn guess I can’t shoot my friendship shot with Jess like I wanted to lol😂 but I honestly ask my friends what their expectations are in the friendship. Then let them know mine and come up with a healthy compromise. Communicating your needs is key ! Hope this helps.
You don’t understand how happy my soul gets when I open RUclips and see that you posted 🥹. What a wonderful way to end my Monday 💗
ahhh y'all are the greatest!
I love this!
@@OnlyOneJesscan we get your hubby to share how he made the steak? I'm always looking for new recipes and techniques!
The way I cackled when you got back in the car like you were running for your life 😂😂
The whole "we're out of eggs?!?" bit is so adult bruh🤣🤣🤣 like damnnnn now what, you better than me Jess, we would've just been out of eggs🤷🏽♀️😂
Hey Jess! I just love your transparency. Just love you! I'm a low maintenance friend, not by choice. I understand I'm the same way. You have a beautiful voice. Annnnnnd, I can't wait to see your next video for the big chop!
My friends know me very well and know that I will be around every once in awhile and they accept me for it lol I need to be myself more than I need to be around them but I'm there if they ever need me 🤷🏾♀️
Jess the builder! Love you ❤
I’m a low maintenance friend but I have learned to meet my friends where they are and vise versa. My love for my friends doesn’t change just because we haven’t talked everyday
I mean, I'm a low-maintenance friend. I think at the end of the day it's not really snout having low or high maintenance but people who understand you and finding people who can work with you. I used to get cussed by my friends because I didn't call or message every day, but I just genuinely can't handle that. I now try and see each friend at least once every three months.
Hi maintenance people in general, I think have esteem issues and seek constant attention. True friends realize life is hectic and the older you get the more responsibility you have. True friends are selfless and compassionate but knows you will be there if truly needed.
When you got back in the car from the workout, I hollered 😂😂😂😂😂😂😅
I can’t wait to see the final result of your big chop. I know it’s going to look great!
Jess “it’s not a big deal “
Also jess making it a big deal 😂😂. So me
I literally just had that conversation about not talking everyday with a friend and here I am watching u talk about it... girlll you just be coming through with the real stuff
I swear every time you cross my mind you post that day and I love it!! Hey girl hey
“We’re outta eggs, we’re outta eggs, we’re outta eggs.” Yes Jess, you’re out of eggs. I laughed so much, I almost woke my baby 😂
She needed to process that thing 😂
Been there😂
GIRRRLLLL I LOVE YOU!!!!
I love your personality and your funny as heck 😂😂 i wish yall can see how fast i sat down to watch this video
Your posts always make my night 😊
I wish you could post more often, but I love long vlogs😂
thank youuuu! im so glad you enjoy them!!
LOL! Jess got her own comedy show! I can't! LOL!🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
As a single, it’s likely easier and reasonable to be a high maintenance friend. That consistent companionship/community helps. There’s a lot of variables to this.
I consider myself a low-maintenance friend because I'm not one to be on the phone and/or hang out every day. I'm an introvert who needs my alone time to charge my "social battery" after being around people for too long. Every friendship is different. As long as there is an open line of communication and you discuss your expectations for the friendship that's all that matters... to each their own. I sing too, mostly at church, but I'm not as confident as I once was in my talent, so I completely understand where you are coming from. However, I think with practice and building confidence, you may feel differently about putting yourself out there vocally. I'm preaching to the choir (myself) also. You're voice is beautiful!
I was watching another wonderful RUclipsr but I saw you posted and sis I had to pause theirs and play your 🎉❤😂 we love it here!
There are different types of friends for different purposes and the maintenance will range depending on the relationship. I love your diy remodeling. It’s all coming out so well. ❤
Loving these vlogs and the home improvement teamwork from you and the hubz! Keep them coming Jess💕
Friendships are intentional. You can be a better friend just by being yourself and maintaining effective communication with your friends.
Not the video ending with a teaser! Ahhh, can’t wait to see the end result. I love seeing big chops, so satisfying 😌
Lord Jesus be a protein bar absolutely lifted up my day. Jess you’re hilarious!😂😂😂😂
Jess you're literally the funniest person i've ever met. I be laughing all through. Also lots of love from Kenya. God bless you.
High maintenance friends seems logical when your single and don’t have kids but once your married and/or have kids you don’t have time or the energy to give those relationships the same amount of energy. That’s how I am with my friends and vice versa
thanks for uploading Jess!! the floors looks good!
I love the "friendship" segment
I disagree that low maintenance friends are bad friends. One of my best friends is low maintenance (like me), and we see each other maybe 4 times a year, and we don’t talk on the phone often, but when we get together it’s like no time has passed. We have a great time! Some of my higher maintenance friends have confronted me about my spotty communication and let me know they didn’t feel like we hung out enough. For those friends, I made adjustments because that is the type of friendship they need. I do enjoy spending more time with them and talking to them on the phone more often. It’s just not something that I need in a friendship or naturally crave. But, I don’t think my low maintenance friend is a bad friend, and I don’t think I’m a bad friend (though there’s always room for improvement). The girl in the video was really overthinking it and making it more complicated than it needs to be. You should be the kind of friend you would want to have, and when a friend tells you they need something specific (and reasonable), you make the adjustment if you can.
I love love your energy & transparency ❤
I’m also struggling to make friends right now and I love to see that God made a way for you, just reminded me that my time shall come. But so excited for this new “I love my hair big and my problems small” kinda Jess, also love that closet bench thing going on
Yesss Jess. Add flipping houses to your resume 😁. I'm loving your house renovations.
I’ve grown to love these vlogs so much. Also feel like Jess and I are the same person. Relate to this friendship conversation
Been anticipating this video for the longest while, gonna eat my dinner while I watch this... Love you so much Jess❤❤❤
i love you guysss!!
@@OnlyOneJess❤❤❤
Congrats on your big chop!!! Can’t wait to see the full video! I had to big chop recently too.
As always, I always enjoy your videos. You have a wonderful sense of humor ❤
I try not to use marriage as an excuse not to call my friends / acquaintances back.
I try to write down who I need to call back, but I’m always the one calling first, or trying to plan a lunch date. It can be exhausting, i have stopped trying with some of my so called friends ( not true friends).
I have learned that my husband of 33 years is my true best friend, and we can only 💯 percent trust in God! My 2nd sister has a a good friend, my other sister usually only text me unless it’s something important. SMH. I really can’t figure her out,.
Praying for all.
Yooooo you are hilarious 😂😭 you got me in tears
Just in the beginning of video… but I had the same anxiety when I went to swimming lessons. I was the only one😮. I think the Yoni gel be different colors every time. And amber alert-- my hometown🥺
The fact that Jess called me out at THE EXACT time i happened to zone in on the couch and background 😂😂 . Okay get me together then lol
Great choice with the floors. They came out so good.
Girl you are hilarious! I be doing the same thing when I show up to a class 😂😂😂 now I see what I actually looks like! Thank you 😂😂😂😂
Yes, she is back!!!!❤
I completely understand. When it comes to friends. I am low maintenance friend and my friends or low maintenance as well. They are considered my sisters. We all have lives and we understand that life happens but when we get together it is truly amazing.
Great team work guys , great job 👏🏽. We love to see it ❤
I am a low maintenance friend! My best friend lives in a different state, she has a child and a very demanding career, we check in all the time. But no we don’t talk everyday, we text a lot we send Instagram videos, and it’s ok with us because we know what it is. But I also have a BUNCH of cousins and we hang out a lot so I do consider them to be my friends.
Your floors look great. I can't wait to see the room completed. I love the couch
With painter's tape you gotta prime with acrylic gesso first.. not sure if that's just an artist thing but I heard it's a hack that works.
Ikr. I recently watched your wedding video as well. So beautiful.
Jess lol...don't change girl. Continue to keep it real 💯. Appreciate your honesty and compassion along with the humor in your videos. Love love love the vlogs.
I too.. consider myself a low maintenance friend... and I don't see no issue with that!!
I soooo relate to the friend thing! Girl the struggle be real 😩
I’m the same ,I stay home and I’m happy . I have lots of friends but I can’t talk to them everyday . My husband is the opposite .