What Forty Steps Taught Me About Love and Grief | Tembi Locke | TEDxPasadenaWomen

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  • Опубликовано: 7 янв 2025

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  • @patmix2012
    @patmix2012 2 года назад +72

    who else is here after watching the series on netflix. her story is beautiful and their love has inspired thousands of people, her husband still lives on with his spirit.

    • @lizzabbott
      @lizzabbott Год назад +3

      Yes ! I just watched the series yesterday & day before … during the last weekend of January 2023. So good ! It was so beautiful, authentic , & healing. I cried deep cathartic, cleansing tears. Lots of whimsey, romance, laughter & breath taking scenes along the way , too ! I knew nothing about the series when I started. You might say I was Divinely led to it ! It spoke to me and MY own loss
      ( as well as my struggles while in cancer treatment ) deeply. Now I want to buy Tembe’s book : From Scratch !!

  • @Beriabi
    @Beriabi 2 года назад +108

    Zoe told your story so well. I cried all weekend .

    • @merek8514
      @merek8514 2 года назад +3

      same here

    • @wendynync
      @wendynync 2 года назад +2

      Uncontrollable sobbing 😭💔

    • @bridgetlilly-02
      @bridgetlilly-02 2 года назад

      So so well 😭😭😭😭

    • @Karishmadaspurkayastharicha
      @Karishmadaspurkayastharicha 2 года назад +2

      I'm already suffering from acute depression and i have made terrible mistakes in my life regarding my choosing my career and hurting my single mom. I have been so selfish all these years thinking about me and my career. I lost my father when I was in my 5th grade and my single mom gave me everything but I have not yet been able to repay. Instead chose PhD. It sucks it really sucks in India

    • @tracygraham4929
      @tracygraham4929 2 года назад +1

      Me too❤️

  • @sandyj1623
    @sandyj1623 2 года назад +47

    I binge-watched the series From Scratch this past weekend. One of the sweetest love stories I have ever seen. Could not stop crying. So lovely!!🥰🥰💖💖

  • @judyrivers3421
    @judyrivers3421 5 лет назад +38

    Thank you so much. I became a Widow on February 4, 2019, after being my husband’s Caregiver for 4 years. We got closer than ever during that time and I thank God that I had the strength to take care of my husband during his illness. I couldn’t let anyone else do it. It had to be me. I knew I had to be the one person with him because I knew him so well and I knew he needed me.

  • @lilliansteele7165
    @lilliansteele7165 3 года назад +27

    Took my forty steps while taking care of both of my parents along with the help of my brothers during our parent's final illnesses. Tembe is a special person.

  • @QuaQuaJames
    @QuaQuaJames 11 месяцев назад +2

    "Where I thought I was in for a life of recieving, I realized I was set for a life of giving"
    That just hit me....one of the greatest acts of service she could've gave him

  • @keepingit763
    @keepingit763 2 года назад +15

    Well said! Those forty steps are so hard when you love unconditionally and you are afraid to wake up because of the pain! Thank you for sharing your experience with the world.

  • @ginettegruntmanis5829
    @ginettegruntmanis5829 2 года назад +6

    I can relate to her story as my husband died of pancreatic cancer. It’s been 25 years and 6 months. Our daughter had just turned six only 10 days prior. I let her see, touch and kiss her deceased dad. He’s always in our hearts and sends her ladybugs on important events! It takes time …

  • @tsb8769
    @tsb8769 2 года назад +8

    Tembi, I watched your story last weekend on Netflix.
    From Scratch is a beautiful story of family and love. Thank you!

  • @VincentFulco
    @VincentFulco 7 лет назад +20

    Beautifully delivered. This needs to seen 100x more. I am a fellow widowed person to a incredible soul who I called my partner for 13 years. You nailed the beauty and love (in the midst of the pain storm) that one finds caregiving someone with a terminal diagnosis countless decades too early. Pure love and connection. it scares those who will never know it. Be well.

  • @vidronin
    @vidronin 6 лет назад +14

    This never gets old, I listened to this when I become a caregiver for my mom, I will take my 40 steps!

  • @emilystravens8807
    @emilystravens8807 2 года назад +6

    Thank you so much for sharing this! I cried all through as I watched the movie yesterday because it was like I was reliving my caregiving time with my late husband, 4 years ago. Thank you for your courage!

  • @jagryn
    @jagryn 6 лет назад +14

    Thank you for putting into words what I could not. It has been 1 year, 3 months and 14 days for me.

  • @diannew6066
    @diannew6066 6 лет назад +18

    I was my husband's caregiver too. Thank you for this wonderful talk. Even after 6 years I still struggle. I think this will help me to realize I not only lost, but I gained too.

  • @QuaQuaJames
    @QuaQuaJames 11 месяцев назад

    I remember watching this video over a yr ago while dealing with love and the death of several ppl in my life...gave me alot of strength to handle the lost of loved ones.

  • @karimaogden3875
    @karimaogden3875 5 лет назад +12

    I am currently reading her memoir "From Scratch- A memoir of love, Sicily and Finding Home". I must admit I had never heard of her until I saw a clip of Reese Witherspoon choosing it for her book club.

  • @lizettegratacoswys2958
    @lizettegratacoswys2958 6 лет назад +2

    The beauty in grief, a love poem

  • @salaheddinejiri2315
    @salaheddinejiri2315 7 лет назад +3

    I like the way that she used for presenting the speech it was very amazing and touching and at the first i don't wanna to watch it but i give me a chance and that's the most powerful speech i heard ever.

  • @paulagiumarelli-garcia8824
    @paulagiumarelli-garcia8824 4 месяца назад

    Beautiful unconditional love. I too am trying to take my forty steps

  • @gloriamitchell3518
    @gloriamitchell3518 4 года назад +1

    I am thankful to have found this TedTalk. Care giving and death is indeed difficult to talk about.Thank you Tembi Locke, I hope I will remember when it is time to take my 40 steps. Exhale.

  • @gretel1015
    @gretel1015 6 лет назад +1

    As one who has lost a loved one thank you for your story.

  • @Mercy8115
    @Mercy8115 6 лет назад +4

    Oh God. I can't believe I am crying.

  • @beckysolomon764
    @beckysolomon764 2 года назад +3

    Thank you so much Tembi for sharing your story ❤❤

  • @katnic8030
    @katnic8030 5 лет назад +3

    Thank you for your bravery and voice. This talk is important, and inspiring.

  • @susiestangland2719
    @susiestangland2719 6 лет назад +2

    Outstanding! Thank you & I know this is one I will return to watch!

  • @ElinT13
    @ElinT13 8 лет назад +7

    What an amazing and positive woman! Thanks for this lecture!

  • @ericalewis3268
    @ericalewis3268 9 лет назад +24

    Simply amazing...thank you...what I needed to hear.

    • @davidstumph4257
      @davidstumph4257 6 лет назад

      Erica Lewis has to be an early morning for the

  • @mirikiri9956
    @mirikiri9956 8 лет назад +12

    Wow this was amazing!!Didn't want to watch it at first cause it sounded depressing but I'm glad I did. It resonated a lot with me! Thanks

  • @carinm.bonifacino
    @carinm.bonifacino 7 лет назад +4

    What a gorgeous well told story. Thank you

  • @hanyrahahleh5604
    @hanyrahahleh5604 7 лет назад +20

    Love is the only language that every human talk it

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  • @justfrancine2886
    @justfrancine2886 6 лет назад +1

    This is so beautiful. Made me cry 😭

  • @Jane-rs2si
    @Jane-rs2si 2 года назад +1

    My heart hurts 💔

  • @MauricioPina
    @MauricioPina 2 года назад +1

    Amazing story.

  • @elizabethmartineau-marshal341
    @elizabethmartineau-marshal341 2 года назад

    Thank you Tembi - Brava!!!!

  • @PositiveWomenTV
    @PositiveWomenTV 2 года назад +4

    This is now a Netflix movie I believe.

  • @cocoaempress8891
    @cocoaempress8891 7 лет назад

    Wow, I have no words. This was beautiful.

  • @candynew21
    @candynew21 6 лет назад

    It is such a touching and inspiring speech.

  • @noelielafleur5975
    @noelielafleur5975 2 года назад

    Best series ever

  • @EliBartEliBart
    @EliBartEliBart 2 года назад

    Inspirational. Thank you!

  • @tanyalundberg1475
    @tanyalundberg1475 2 года назад

    Thank you ❤️

  • @SXHQQSSS
    @SXHQQSSS 6 лет назад +1

    TOUCHED!! SPEECHLESS!!!

  • @sbrownie
    @sbrownie 2 года назад

    Too early in the morning here to be crying.❤️

  • @tanial.williamson8082
    @tanial.williamson8082 2 года назад +2

    I envy her. My parents died within three months of each other and my two biological brothers, sister in law, niece, and nephew turned into hateful monsters. They were in LA and I have been alone in Colorado. I have spent every Christmas since my parents died alone because my biological family is a group of rich, selfish @$$h0|es. And it isn’t just my nuclear family but both sides of that family. They have too much money so they don’t care. It has been 7 1/2 years since my parents died and I am still struggling. I want a real family. I want connection. I want unconditional love. I have never truly had either. I have no idea how to find it.

  • @JeremyForest
    @JeremyForest 7 лет назад +1

    Wow! I did not know that her husband passed away. Tembi Locke is an amazing and talented actresses. I definitely enjoyed her story.

  • @charliewright3884
    @charliewright3884 2 года назад +3

    The TRUE love story is actually between Tembi and her sister though

  • @PositiveWomenTV
    @PositiveWomenTV 2 года назад +1

    The greatest glory in living lies not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall. -Nelson Mandela

  • @keneti7
    @keneti7 8 лет назад +5

    beautiful and courageous! Thank you!

  • @shineawright2244
    @shineawright2244 2 года назад

    I’ll keep saying it…. SUPERB❤story‼️🤎‼️

  • @chanelrenee1344
    @chanelrenee1344 7 лет назад +1

    Beautiful.

  • @immaSwift
    @immaSwift 2 года назад

    anyone else just finish up Brene Brown’s 2 podcast episode?

  • @aymuammosmiom4091
    @aymuammosmiom4091 8 лет назад +3

    Well said Tembi.

  • @naturallydope6971
    @naturallydope6971 5 лет назад

    Tearful and beautiful.

  • @aspen327
    @aspen327 2 года назад +1

    Everyone is entitled to their opinion. Bottom line. She still stay. She took care of him. She could have walk away.

    • @Jane-rs2si
      @Jane-rs2si 2 года назад +4

      Who walks away from their husband? “IN sickness and and in health” !!!

  • @GreaseLightning02
    @GreaseLightning02 3 года назад

    England, Surrey

  • @newNewsAt61
    @newNewsAt61 2 года назад

    ❤️

  • @angelmarshall2735
    @angelmarshall2735 7 лет назад +1

    My brother. Dies how. To. Get over the. Lose

  • @lr2075
    @lr2075 5 лет назад +1

    She is not believable. She seems angry she lost 10 years.

    • @rondaatwater6549
      @rondaatwater6549 4 года назад +7

      No she doesn’t.

    • @candygirl20048
      @candygirl20048 4 года назад +15

      Nothing about her or this speech seems angry. Seems like you are projecting.

    • @shirleysheikh8119
      @shirleysheikh8119 4 года назад +8

      Tembi's talk was genuine, inspiring & uplifting. God bless her & her daughter.

    • @MrsFKS
      @MrsFKS 2 года назад +1

      Sounds like projection. She comes across loving, heartbroken and earnest. Caring for a dying spouse is not easy and she’s admitting this

    • @kmoney9112
      @kmoney9112 2 года назад +2

      Are you ok up there ? She’s obvious has some anger as well. I would be angry 😡 & everything else under grieving if I lost the loml! Are you nuts ?