my experience with roommates as an autistic person

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  • Опубликовано: 27 сен 2024

Комментарии • 18

  • @GabHeart-rk6qm
    @GabHeart-rk6qm Месяц назад

    Cleanliness is a must!

  • @JPaulPhD
    @JPaulPhD 3 месяца назад

    I am so the same way with temperatures and 70 is what I keep mine at if not 69 and I can tell if it is off by 1 degree as well. I get overheated easy at work in higher temps too. Also I am very funny about keeping things organized and clean and in place etc. I rather not have different people in my space as well because it affects my routines. It is so wild how many things I have in common and so I truly think I have some form of autism though I never thought of it. I enjoy your videos. Thank you for making them and keep them up.

  • @arrowverselover100
    @arrowverselover100 2 месяца назад

    I had a single room, but shared a bathroom and kitchenette with different girls for two years. Sophmore year I had a terrible suitemate. Junior year I got a double suite to myself and senior year I had such an amazing suitemate! I have autism and she has anxiety. It was the best experience living with someone I have ever had. If she could have been my suitemate for all four years of college I would have had a much better experience.

  • @AutoBalance-qy2jg
    @AutoBalance-qy2jg 10 месяцев назад +1

    Very relatable! It helps to hear about situations from an outside perspective to better contemplate my own.
    Funny & inspiring, thanks for sharing!

  • @GabHeart-rk6qm
    @GabHeart-rk6qm Месяц назад +1

    Oh god I wouldn’t be able to live with that. I need one box fan , and also a tv to type in on RUclips “box fan noise” just to not hear my roommate and her kids

    • @brisbreathing
      @brisbreathing  Месяц назад

      It was so awful and it got WORSE. But I survived 😭

  • @rex_8618
    @rex_8618 Месяц назад +1

    The struggle is real! I'm the same age as you. I've had terrible experiences with my roommates. My very first roommates were bullies. I was slammed and thrown on the wall like a toy. My subsequent set of roommates were nicer. But I still had zero privacy whatsoever. And then I could not stand it anymore and now I rent a tiny studio. And I'm very fortunate that my parents are helping me with my rent. I will never ever ever go back to having roommates again. You couldn't pay me to. And I know not everyone is in a position to afford their own apartment, and I'm so sorry for those who're struggling with it. And I wish you all the best!

    • @brisbreathing
      @brisbreathing  Месяц назад +1

      I'm so glad you were able to make that transition! No one deserves to feel uncomfortable or even fearful in their own home or living space. I'm right there with you, I will do absolutely ANYTHING to avoid living with roommates again.

  • @GabHeart-rk6qm
    @GabHeart-rk6qm Месяц назад

    I would not be able to walk on a dirty floor.

  • @hp2546
    @hp2546 9 месяцев назад

    At least you made a cut into convincing your parents to let you go to a far away college. Not many autistic person can convince their parents to let them attend a far away college. I am autistic and my parents would of have me choose a close to home college. As for your living arrangement, welcome to the life of living independent because in your situation, it won't be the roommate's job to feed you. It will be an environment where you take care of yourself and your roommate take care of themselves. It is an environment where they don't look out for you and you don't look out for them because it is expected they won't treat you like a family member or friends. Only thing you will do is share the rent and the space. So whole point of living life as a roommate is to be comfortable in solitude life. If you end up not feeling comfortable in solitude life, you will end up feeling homesick. I can say that the pro about having a roommate is at least they leave you alone and does not call complain about any solitude life. As an autistic person, I hate attention seeker and I hate people who refuses to take care of themselves but at least I would always view of getting a roommate in college as a way to be free from attention seekers.

    • @hp2546
      @hp2546 9 месяцев назад

      @@brisbreathing That is no wonder your parents would let you go to a faraway college and start an independent life because so far, you survived all those trials of being able to live like a normal person which meant your family trusts you. So it is clear you were not born autistic because if you were, more independent opportunities is taken away from you. I would do whatever it takes to get my solitude life.

    • @brisbreathing
      @brisbreathing  9 месяцев назад +1

      @@hp2546 You can’t develop autism, you’re either autistic or you aren’t. Many people (especially girls) with lower support needs do not get diagnosed during childhood and it leads to so many other mental health struggles. I know that our experiences could never compared; I don’t know how your autism impacts your life and vice versa. It makes perfect sense to want independence. Sometimes, I’m not sure it’s something I will be able to achieve.

  • @DirtyHarry1899_
    @DirtyHarry1899_ 10 месяцев назад

    I don´t know if you´re a music freak like me but maybe put on some headphones and listen to music when you get tired of the noises from the people around.

    • @brisbreathing
      @brisbreathing  10 месяцев назад

      yep this is always good. i have a very loud fan in my room at all times too haha

    • @DirtyHarry1899_
      @DirtyHarry1899_ 10 месяцев назад

      👍@@brisbreathing