How Jennifer Pan's Fake Life Went Horribly Wrong
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daniel: breaks up with jennifer because of too much drama
daniel, 3 seconds later: helps her plan a murder
Nicole Charlotte Villaluz 😂😂 very true
LMAO I thought the exact same thing
Nicole Charlotte Villaluz YESSS SO LAME!!!!
Yikes
I did not mean to LOL!! 😂
Strict parents don’t make brilliant children. They make liars.
that's what happened to jaclyn hill
Strict parents actually creat a child wgo wont be a crimanal cuz no mather what, they still are ur parents, my cuzin is one of the kids and smart cuz of his strict parent
Briee Haro facts hard facts
Dddd Reere I think I had a stroke reading this.
Theyr the ones that lash out Eventually cause parents never let them do shit so true
A lot of ppl commenting "she could just leave" and I agree she could, but I do just want to add that as someone with pretty overprotective parents, when you want to move out it's almost like they curse you, they tell you you'll never survive on your own, and that idea can get into your head. They wish the worst for you and it can be so scary to even think to go out in the world for the first time with absolutely no safety net! They set you up to fail. I really admire people who leave home with no support and make it work.
You're also not raised to be a confident person so you're afraid to live on your own.
@@alexthedeal1827 I agree!
People making those comments don’t understand emotional and psychological abuse
My dad was like that. I was a rebellious teenager because of how strict he was and at 17, i made some bad choices and he told me i had two choices- do what he wanted or leave. So i left. If you kill your parents, you’re still going to be alone but also probably in prison. It’s hard to leave. It still takes a toll on me to this day... But murder isn’t the solution to that issue.
@@lhunn4448 damn I'm sorry that happened to you. I hope you're doing okay now! Lol yeah murder is not the right decision for sure
The moral of the story
Parents: Don't set unrealistic expectations for your children.
Children: Do not murder your parents.
*correction
Parents: don’t freaking abuse and try to control your children
Good advise!😝
Commenting to like so it stays at 666
Children: Maybe don't murder them but get out of there as soon as you can. What they did to her pushed her to insanity, don't let anyone do that to you. You deserve better.
Ehh…
I wish she just ran away. It didn't have to end this way. Everyone loses here.
That's what my fiance and I were discussing after I watched it. She was an adult, and while I can only imagine the mental strain that her situation was putting her in, she could have run away, or gone to stay with someone and not told her parents where she was. They couldn't have legally forced her to come home. That said, I think that with years of compulsively lying, her apparent obsession with her boyfriend, and of course that this was her solution in the first place, among other things I'm sure, she had a lot of issues. I don't believe that she was mentally stable, and that she felt trapped didn't help at all. It's so sad that it all happened the way it did. :(
You clearly don’t have parents who would literally stalk you down and make your life miserable. They think they own their kids
I think she wanted inhertance
@@beckyg.9087 Sure, so instead of leaving and filing a restraining order lets kill the parents. Amazing logic.
She was just better off leaving and never coming back
Strict parents create rebellious kids, that eventually become anxious over thinking adults, always searching for approval.
Accurate. As a 22 year old living with strict parents I can certainly attest to that. From being a care free child I turned into a very serious logical 'boring' individual who doesnt know how to have fun without getting anxious of what my parents will say. It's hard to break from it, but I try. I'm sure with alot of children who go through this it's difficult to tru and live life for yourself without feeling like you're disappointing the two people you love most.
please stop, you're speaking too much truth
I wouldn't say that's always the case, it truly depends on the situation.
Anxious over thinking adults always searching for approval
Ok that's me. I wasnt even allowed to play d&d because of satan. It's kinda funny now.. but not really lol
Carol Simpson strict Christian parents ?
if your child cannot come to you and tell you the truth about their grades when they're struggling in school, you are the issue. they were beyond abusive
The dad called her bluff with the "wait until I'm dead" she said aight bet
I-💀💀💀
🤭 omg nooo 😭
Oop-
Dayum
damn!
these parents were pretty sucky but it really broke my heart when they begged the intruders to not hurt jennifer :/ they just wanted the best for her, just did it in the wrong way...
And yet we have messy people in this comment section running their mouths about how the parents deserved to be killed and how Jennifer is blameless.
F Santos I have yet to see a comment where they claim the “parents deserve it” everyone can agree that they kinda suck but no one it saying they deserved to be killed
@@robynvalentine5355 Some people have said it in the comments
Robyn Mentee literally a lot of people are saying that in the comments there joking about their deaths.
@@robynvalentine5355 just because u haven't seen one doesn't mean there aren't any
What strict parents think they're teaching their kids:
-Discipline
-Respect
-Obedience
-Life skills
What they're actually teaching them:
-Fear
-Anxiety
-Rebellion
-How to be incredible liars.
edit: since yall keep saying "hurrdurr well i had strict parents and i did great" lemme just say you did not have parents anywhere near as strict as asian tiger parents lmfao
edit 2: im not excusing what she did, what she did was not right, im just pointing out the kind of toxicity overly strict and controlling patents create in their children
that isnt always true. if they are insane in this front then yea those things happen.
@@Exodus-sh5mq what??
@@Exodus-sh5mq Bruh I'm not about to go kill my parents but I'm an incredible liar with severe anxiety and a fear of being yelled at. Also majorly rebelled in highschool/college.
True, my parents were strict as hell, but one has to be really sick to hire a hitman to murder them
💯
When this story hit the news in Toronto, the Asian community was ROCKED. Children of immigrants families sympathize with Jennifer because we have experienced what she has gone through. It doesn’t mean we all had Tiger Parents or the severity of strictness but we have all felt it. The pressure to do well in school and extra curricular. Moving out even as an adult isn’t as easy. I left my home at 24 and my family treated me so differently for years until another cousin moved out. Not being able to hang out with friends because you HAD to stay at home let along have a boyfriend. And on the other side, my parents really felt for Jennifer’s parents because they felt what it was like to push your child to be successful and have a better life and your child rebels instead. At the end of the day, the Pan parents’ were abusive to her treating her like a prisoner but that doesn’t mean their lives weren’t worth living for.
I could NEVER sympathize with a murderer.
In uk coercive control is recognised as abuse. I wonder how they got away with treating her so badly.
@@di3486i could
@@di3486And yet her parents were soul murderers for all of her life and no one bats an eye until the murder happened.
@@LorienzoDeGarcia Still, no excuse. Period.
Listening to her interviews with the police I was shocked to find out she was 24, she sounded like a teenager. It's clear that she was both naive when it came to life due to being kept under lock and key by her parents and became a fantastic liar because of her parents.
Wait what? I straight up thought that she was still a teenager this whole time. It makes sense but still.
with that $10,000 dollars you think she'd just put a deposit down on an apartment and move out,,,
right?
Exactly
If she was college age I don't understand why she just didn't stay with her boyfriend and cut contact with her parents. If you're legally an adult you do not have to obey your parents.
I'd definitely do that
They literally threatened to kick her out so I don't know why she didn't just leave
strict parents create rebellious kids, dont @ me.
Angelina Martinez I agree! I had very strict parents and I was sooo bad as a teenager. Bad boyfriend, drugs.. everything. I went crazy lol
My kids have a lot of freedom, and both older teens (15 & 19) have decided to he straight edge (sober)... I was under the thumb, almost stalked by my parents, and smoked weed, and drank, from 15 years old on until I got sober when I got pregnant with my now 19 year old... Communication is key! Be their parent, not their friend, but raise children you can TRUST, and let them know they're valued, and curiosity is OK. don't block them if they have questions. Talk openly. Just my 2 cents... :)
Julie MB Crow good for you!! I also had crazy strict parents and I grew up to drink until I blacked out once I had freedom. I also lied a lot because the tiniest thing like a grade of a C would have labeled as a horrible child. I wasn’t even allowed to go to a Kelly Clarkson concert with a friend and her MOM. My boyfriend had a lot of freedom and trusting parents and he also chose to be straight-edge. Being strict does not create good kids.
@Angelina Martinez
lol I just wanted to @ you don’t you’re definitely right
I grew up with basically no limits. I can’t recall one rebellious thing I did. It was so weird to me that everyone was so eager to party, smoke, ditch school, etc etc. I just seemed so much more mellow and mature than everyone else. I had my first alcoholic drink when I was 23 lol.
For anyone asking why she didn't just leave - kids raised this way are unfit for real life and terrified of being on their own. They have never learned any kind of independence and even making small decisions scare them. This is how super strict and religious parents bind their kids to them for life. Their only survival skill is lying, but that doesn't really get you an apartment or help you figure out every day life
Being Asian, I can understand what she went through. Especially being a girl. You feel like you're suffocating. The boys were more loved, treated as king. Us girls were seen as useless, slave. We do not have the same freedom as the boys. Go to school, straight home, cook and clean after everyone in the family. Especially if you're the eldest daughter. Babysit all your younger siblings. My family lived in a 3 bedroom house. There were 9 of us and my brother the oldest who was only 2 years older than me get a room all to himself. Everyone else cramp into the other room.. Whatever my brother wants, he gets.
I still remember one time, I went to my friend bday, it was only 6pm, we haven't even had dinner or blow the candle on the cake and my mom already came and force me home.
One time, it was late 8pm, I decided to sleep at my friend house and the next day, I got my ass whoop so bad I was crying for days. But then I see my brother going out, doing drugs, drinking and he didn't get his ass whoop. Just a few lecture. Man.
It's very sad to be an Asian girl growing up.
That's why when I was young I always pray in next life, please please don't let me be reborn in a Asian family.
Those who did not grow up in this kind of household will never understand and know the mental, physical abuse the children goes through. Imagine how much abuse she must've went through for her to get to the point where she have the fake her grade and college acceptance. Killing her parents was extreme, but she was probably torture to the point all she see is killing them is her only way for freedom. I actually sympathize with her.
That’s really bloody sad.. what a hard life
She probably has more freedom in prison
I sympathize with her as well. She was abused for years. How incredibly sad😞
💔 I'm so sorry to hear what you've gone through. I hope you're happy despite everything you've gone through ❤️. I don't know you, but I can tell you're a very empathetic person and whatever you do in life will greatly benefit from your perspective and empathy. You didn't deserve to be treated that way. You are worthy of happiness and deserve great things in life ❤️
it's the same here for latin American households, sons get treated like gods for existing while the daughters get criticism for every little thing, it really seems like they were even looking for things to criticize you on.
Love how Felix was just living his life at an engineer college when his sister was literally trying to murder her parents and living a double life
LMFAO omg i didn’t even realize that 😭
Blair Patterson wow this is totally related to the story.
I know I honestly forgot about Felix
Bro I forgot about him
omg. Ur right
This is why parents should let their kids live a little it’s good to be a strict parent but sometimes kids needs to make mistakes to learn .
Yes that’s true 🙌🏽
damn right
I don’t expect my kids to be perfect, but I do expect them to do their best. Jennifer wasn’t doing that.
But I don't 'think strict parents create a murderer. It's obvious Jennifer had loads of problems, pathologically lying being one of them
@@voidedsoup I think that depends on your definition of strict. Some parents can be overly strict (or worse) to the point they control everything and that can ruin their kids. Then you have parents that are strict in a way where they just don't take bullshit but otherwise they let their kids be kids. Again, it just depends.
If she thought out her suicide excuse more, she could've said "I wanted to hire people to make my suicide look like a murder so that my parents wouldn't feel like it was their fault that I wanted to die."
She was in her 20s (24 I believe) when all of this happened but I’m sure emotionally due to the restrictive upbringing she was more like a teenager.
*The hitman actually gave Jennifer a friends & family discount I’m so done* 😭
💀💀
Or when she tried to cancel. Loool cancel your subscription to a hitman. 😂
I find it funny that this “perfect” Asian couple, have connections to a hitman named homeboy. 😂😭
Fern Alderton I just found out her boyfriend was also a marijuana dealer, not mentioned here lol.
Not sure you should take that discount if he charges $20k for two, discounts to $10k but only kills one.
Technically i suppose its a 50% return fee
The mom can go out line dancing but the daughter can’t go to a high school dance. Smh
Cristianandtupac right!?
Reminds me of how my parents went out on a date and left me to babysit my brothers on the night of my senior homecoming (it was the weekend of their anniversary).
This isn’t related and probably sounds dumb but what does smh mean 😂
@@heyitsbee8473 shaking my head :)
@@PhoenixRising87 No, thats kinda of fair for them. But they should have found a different babysitter for you.
My current boyfriend grew up in a very strict Vietnamese family. He is the oldest of 4 kids. He has two younger brothers and one younger sister. He said that growing up, the only thing his parents really expected from him and his brothers was to get good grades and to go to college and not get in trouble with the law in any way. His sister however has had way more standards set for her, not only does she have to get good grades (straight A’s specifically), get into a good college and stay out of trouble, but she has to go with the career her parents pick and she’s the only one out of the siblings that isn’t allowed to go out with friends or have any friends over. She’s not allowed to have any friends that are boys and she has to clock in time logs in when she studied and did homework.
My bf hates seeing her under all that stress and he has actually been trying to convince his parents to let her live with him and his roommates because of how much anxiety she has just being in the same house as their parents. Their parents however won’t allow her to live with him but he still allows her to stay over whenever she can.
It honestly hurts a lot to see her living her teenage years in a prison.
Some parents still don't understand that their kids are individuals and not their puppets. It's a shame she thought murder was the only way for her to be finally free
Everyone’s making jokes about how Felix was literally minding his own business and living his best life as an engineer, but forget that probably the reason why he wasn’t mentioned at all throughout this story is because of how Asian culture treats boys WAY differently than girls. Parents kind of let their sons get away with much more and thinking of them as the trophy children while they are more strict on their daughters.
Mayday Janette IK fr
A lot of parents of all shades are harder on the girls & more lenient with the boys
Kyrii Yvonne very true
PERIODT.
U are totally right. It's more obvious in Asian cultures but I think older generation's way of parenting is really sexist in general. Girls are expected to mature way earlier than boys and I'm very sure this enables the "boys will be boys" mentality.
Idk how she had such overly involved, helicopters parents and yet they never even tried to visit her at college or not known that she didn’t graduate HS.
Leanna’s Banana’s! Language barrier maybe?
Parents like that don't care about the "how", just about the end result.
Sweet Pea completely agree
What are " helicopter parents "??
They’re parents who basically “hover” over you by checking on you often and try to know what you’re doing and where you are 24/7 and they’re just always on your case
Her dad must be, “you’re such a disappointment you can’t even kïll me right”
Ooof. Damn. You're probably right. 😬
In the beginning it wasn’t mentioned that she was excelling in middle school and she studied a looooot, she was expecting to get valedictorian, however, it was given to another person. And that’s when she completely felt demotivated and thought what’s the point of studying so much and putting so much effort and work when you don’t get much out of it. Then, high school started and that’s when she started doing much worse in school because of that.
Omg a “family discount” to assassinate a family......at least he’s humble 💀💀💀💀
@Natthenn 😭🙊
Nadia Shock I thought it was because he was friends with Daniel
Hahaha fuck
we love a Humble Hitman 🤠
"And then she met ..." is the true crime equivelant of "but everything changed when the fire nation attacked"
Subtext: It's about to go dowwwwnnnn
crimson Yuu I just watched true crime
Oh my God 😂
😂😂😂😂
Hahaha I didn't expect an avatar last airbender quote in here.
I'm from Toronto and I remember when all this went down. I don't know what it is with Toronto and tiger parents, but I have known a few! Quite a few Asian people I went to school with were absolutely miserable because their parents would never let them sleep. If they weren't at school, they were at home practicing their instruments day and night. Yeah, they had good grades, but they had ZERO people skills, because they were never allowed to communicate with other humans in the "outside world." And they move like robots. So I hope this is a lesson for those overly strict parents out there. It's one thing to want your kids to be successful, but when you take it too far, it becomes CHILD ABUSE whether one chooses to admit that or not! Jennifer was emotionally and psychologically abused by her parents her whole life, and they drove her right off the edge. She wasn't born that way.
As a child of a incredibly strict father let me just say that it didn't make me respect him or work harder... It made me on some level loath and hate him and his parenting style. Spanking your children or threating to "take away Christmas" only works when they are smaller and weaker than you... Once they grow up, it just makes them angry, and that's not a good life for them trust me.
Father: You will date this young man over my dead body.
Jennifer Pan: Hold my beer
lol shouldn't be funny but it kinda is
Anna Costello Wisniewski it’s not funny
More like hold my iphone burner
Words are powerful
😭😭
Strict parents tend to do more damage than good, imo.
Not having a parent who cares is pretty damaging to, imo . Somewhere in the middle is just right lol.
My parents managed to be neither and both at the same time somehow...Grew up fucked up lol
agreed they were so controlling that she didn't even thought about just moving out and living her own life
Corrin Gromley having shitty parents who convince everyone they care about them when they actually could give two fucks about them is way worse
*overly strict
Not condoning her murdering her parents or anything here, but I completely understand why she did it. There's a fine line between being involved in your kids life and totally controlling your kids life.
Yeah but she didn’t do it bc they were strict. She wanted Daniel back and wanted to get her parents house,cars, and money
There's blame all around here. The parents basically started the ball rolling by horribly, abusively controlling their daughter. They are as much to blame as her. Such a shame
Man wtf. $10K? She could have just ran away! Damn
Agreed, but 10K was more back then that it is now. So maybe it might of seemed like a larger sum? Not to justify what she did. Not at all.
I guess she really wasn’t very smart.
@@Liliana-qi8rw this was in the 2010s, girl she could have ran away
you are right, she have not excuses. she is a criminal
@@midapita ah. For some reason I thought it was 2005
She was an adult with two jobs. She shouldve just left.
the inheritance was prolly looking 😍😍💰
Exactly! She just messed up her whole life
Lol rip Jennifer
No rip her parents
Right It was like 4 years of fake collage girl just leave
I'm surprised there isn't a movie for this yet.
Woooow ikr 😅
Would be too sad to watch. Too many people are going through this out there. So many kids are being abused without a voice behind closed doors and no one knows. We are all about the government this and government that. Meanwhile…at home….
@@maedottekalign2408 Too many stupid people would get confused.
It will be called Menendez part 2: the Chinese saga
hey if you're there !! Netflix RELEASED it just a few days ago i guess .
I grew up with Tiger parents and I can honestly understand her. I've had my parents key-track my computers, ground me for 6 months, never went to prom, couldn't have friends etc. It gets to the point where it is easier to lie, just to save your own sanity. I had to cut them off completely to get out, it's so sad she never felt safe enough to lead a normal life.
Fast foward 15 yr...I'm a piano teacher :D
Can’t believe she used an iPhone as a burner phone🤦🏾♀️
Rich kids these days 🤦🏽♀️
Dumb asf
That's what you focused on
Right? Dumb idea
This was in 2009
I’m crying cause her parents were thinking of Jennifer when they were about to die...
I find it kinda ironic that that's when they think about her wellbeing
@@lolitaku7229 So true. Like oh now you care? Kinda late I think🤔
LOLI taku nailed it
@sbjkd E M P A T H Y
sbjkd yikes, you good there?
Her dad saying he has anxiety and ptsd but I’m sure they put her through awful amounts of stress and pressure for such a young brain developing. I grew up in a very strict religious conservative home where I wasn’t allowed to even cut my hair because it was a sin and couldn’t play sport because it wasn’t what a Christian girl would do. Just like Jennifer I wasn’t allowed boyfriends, was homeschooled because school was a sin and I had to be in a Christian homeschool program, was forced to go to church 5 days a week to sing in a choir and go to youth services. Also wasn’t allowed to move out until marriage. And on top of all that experienced sexual abuse at the hands of a church leader. Anyway that did a lot of damage to my mental health and to this day at age 30 I’m still struggling to heal. I’m definitely not condoning what she did and she should be in prison for what she did but her parents aren’t saints.
honestly i have no sympathy for the dad in this story. Strict parents means kids are more likely to rebel.
I dont really care about how hes doing since his attempted murder ik i sound harsh and Unsympathetic but hann isnt a saint
Wow, I am so sorry for what you experienced. To be told silly things like cutting your hair is a sin and then at the same hand be sexually abused must have made life so hard and confusing. I am so angry for you. That's not what life in the church or knowing God is at all about. I'm so sorry. I hope you are finding healing.
I have extremely strict parents who made me feel ashamed to be anything else beside who they wanted. They were emotionally manipulative, verbally abusing me all the time. I have no sense my worth even as an adult so I finally left their home when I was 20 in secret. I wish she took herself out this family environment instead of what she did.
Homeboy pulled through with the friends and family discount tho
lmao I'm dead-
@@gachanoob8133 so are her parents 😂
Ashley Marcy guhhhhhh😂😂😂😂😂😂
@@ashleymarcy265 BAHAHHAHA
Ashley Marcy dark humor 😂😂
“Going to school or being kicked out”. GET KICKED OUT. Start your own life, Jesus.
That's why I think there is more to her motives. She could have left. She was able to work, had her boyfriend. I suspect there was a lot of anger in her and she really wanted to kill them regardless.
@@anka6356 she also would get a lotttt of money from their estate if she pulled it off
@Turquoise Cheetah she did live on her own for two years with him without her parents. She obviously knew she could do it
People need to stop blaming victims of abuse. Whether it's from their partners, their bosses, or their parents. "Why didn't she leave?" is never the right thing to ask when a woman is being hit by her partner, so why is that okay when a woman is being treated like she's property by her parents?
Rose My mom gave me that ultimatum when I graduated high school. It was either that I could live at home and go full time to college and work.. or she would kick me out. She told me this the day after I walked the stage for graduation. So I didn’t want to debt at only 18 of going to college, and the females on my mom’s side has severe memory issues... so I struggle extremely hard with test taking. I was scared (still am) or dropping out of college because it’s all tests and quizzes. Soooooo... I joined the army. And now I have a bulging disc in my lower back. And I have an MRI tomorrow morning to find out what other treatment options I have left. Physical therapy and medication isn’t helping handle or treat the pain.
Wish I would’ve just apply to college and accepted the debt.
I had strict parents growing up, and even now at 30 they still would like to treat me like I’m 14. I had an accident and needed to stay with them after leaving the hospital when I was 25, and they tried enforcing the same “rules” that a high school kid would have. There’s a difference between caring and respecting their home while I was there for a few weeks, and the way they went about it. When we’re not living together my mom’s my absolute best friend and I’m on the phone with her for a couple hours every other day. However, I understand completely the pressure & control Jennifer felt from her parents.
I think the most important aspect of strict parents disowning you is that they rarely teach important life skills that make people capable of surviving in the world as a young adult. It’s important for children to have a firm grasp of important traits like independence, collaboration, conflict resolution, empathy, resourcefulness, confidence, and adaptability before they leave the home. People with overly strict parents often lack these skills and suffer when they aren’t under their parents’ watchful eyes.
Imagine being a parent and you telling the robbers not to hurt your daughter but your daughter is the one who hired them. SMH. So heartbreaking.
Same way goes when parents make their children victims too.
But this would’ve never happened if her stupid ass parents weren’t so damn strict
Almighty Quez there’s absolutely nothing almighty about you, your intelligence or your stupid comment
The part that gets me is Jennifer telling her Mom “Goodnight...” and her Mom had no idea that her daughter is going to have her killed within minutes.
@@Master-vh2wm you are such a piece of shit
Controlling/Strict parents have horrible effects on children. I do not condone her actions. And let's remember our children are their own person with freewill. Feeling entrapped does no good to the human soul.
Exactly. I was wondering "am i a bad person for feeling bad for her?" because of how strict her parents were with her, is almost as if they pushed her to insanity.
This case feels close to home because I too, had very strict parents. I managed to make them see things diferently. But I understand. I still have Post traumatic stress from some experiences and I'm already 24.
I’m working with a girl with very strict Asian parents and it so obviously has an effect on her. She’s very bratty and inserts herself in every conversation kinda attention seeking. She’s not aloud to have a phone or go do anything pretty much, so she just really plays up her personality at work I guess because she’s so suppressed the rest of the time
I hate what she’s done to her parents but I can’t help but sympathize with her because I can relate to having overbearing parents that won’t let you live and are ridiculously strict. I understand wanting to be strict on your child but don’t do it to the point where they feel entrapped it creates an unhealthy relationship between the parents and the child
Alyssa Bowen I know someone like that it’s sad her parents even when she moved out has a control on her putting trackers on her phone
I don’t condone what she did by any means. But I have absolute empathy for this girl. Imagine every single moment of your life being dictated by a person with unrealistic expectations… that’s abuse…
As an Asian myself, I can totally relate to Jennifer's story. I have strict parents, but not as strict as her parents. Still, it doesn't mean that you can hire someone to kill your parents.
The green and white pallet in this video is so pleasing.
yessss
I thought about that the whole time watching it lol and it matches her eyes and top it's perfect
honestly
Chandler Gufflyr you obviously like green, huh!? (Your profile pic😹😻)
I can say the same about your hair
they did realise she was like.. an adult right?
Exactly, she was ~24
A lot of Asian parents are super controlling even over their adult children.
I don’t understand if she had jobs why she didn’t save up and leave her parents behind ?
My boyfriend is 21 and he has a curfew of 11 o'clock. It puts a strain on his relationships with friend and me. I can tell he's stressed all the time, because his younger sibling has more freedom then he does
I'm 18 and I'm not allowed to have a boyfriend or go on dates and my curfew is 8:30pm. I'm not even allowed to go to parties or go out with my friends two day in a row. It gets very depressing. I can't even call my friends after 11
I feel like parents being overly strict is usually disastrous. It teaches a kid that grades are more important then THEY are, as a person. I think people should encourage their kids, but also let them know they are _more_ than just their grades ♥️
Honestly, I feel bad for her. She never had a childhood, her teenage years were robbed from her, even her 'time in college'. Now she won't even get to live as an adult.
I'm not saying arresting her was wrong, she still hired literal hitmen.
But like, I'm just wondering what living feels like to her.
You feel bad for her?
Her parents were strict yes but she dug her own whole by constantly lying. Her brother was raised the same way but did he end up hiring a hitman? No
@@StXGaMeRalli because her brother was a boy…. Boys get treated way different than girls. In every household. Not just Asian.
@@StXGaMeRalli boys do get treated differently in strict households
@@lillymurray8408 That's true. My family is mexican, and we lived in mexico until recently, but she was. still a pathological psycopathic liar that I do not empathize with. My grandma neglected my mother, and her brother and sister, but her favorite was clearly my uncle, as she bought him most fancy things. She was strict, and urged them to go to college, discouraging my mother from careers she thought to be useless. But it was my uncle, not my mother, who ended up having a child unexpectedly out of marriage. I'm just saying: it depends a lot on child of how people turn out. She was just.... a psycopat. I don't pity her.
It really hurts my heart that there aren’t many pictures of Jennifer smiling. You can just see the pain and discomfort she was constantly in.
S a l t y yes we know but that’s not the point ofc I don’t agree with what she did but I can see where she is coming from the point is Jennifer was sick and she thought of no other alternative to escape
@S a l t y for a boy? are you not listening what her parents did to her? i'll simply assume that you have no idea what she's been through. because i do know. monitored like a criminal, mentally abused because you're not smart enough, forced to be someone that isn't you. i didn't justify her actions, she could've just run away. but you might just see him as a boy, but for her he was hapiness, hope, freedom. monsters are created not born!
@S a l t y did you listen to the whole thing? If you seriously think she did it purely because of a boy, then id advise you listen again. Obviously nothing justifies it, but her parents were controlling, manipulative and abusive.
AjAwesomeface she wanted freedom even before the boy she was lying to get freedom like faking her grades
@S a l t y you have no idea what she went through that can really affect someone
a lot of people are saying “why didn’t she just leave” but when you live in a traditional asian household, that’s not the case. it goes against tradition to speak out , to refuse, to leave. it’s shown as disrespect. doing so just causes your family to see you as the black sheep, the outsider. you get treated differently. i could tell that yes, she wanted to do all of these things, but still get accepted by her family. i would know, because i’ve done the same lol. living in a traditional asian household for girls means you either grow up to be a home maker or a successful doctor/lawyer/etc. you’re not supposed to have time for anything else. tiger parents are super strict, but at the end of the day, they’re doing what they think is best. yes, the parents have somewhat of a blame here, but their consequences shouldn’t have resulted in their lives lost/traumatized.
I've read that her mother was the ferocious one, while her father was the reluctant accomplice. Also, as I understand it, a great many people in the Asian diaspora, and in Asia itself, can't abide all that "tiger" stuff.
I have an Asian friend in her 20’s and she tried to leave but her parents told her that they would disown her if she did. So she still lives with them and they are strict.
Seriously, those people are no better than chodes who ask why people who are hit or emotionally abused by their partners don't leave.
shannon yang id rather be disowned than put up with that
Dewi Lew i feel like it’s not a white people thing if that makes sense? like don’t get me wrong, i’ve heard of strict “tiger” white parents. but i usually see it from POC parents. idk. i hope i don’t sound offensive saying that.
Fun fact - a "C" in Canada is actually in the 60% range. We break grades down differently than the States. Less than 50% = F, 50-19% = D, 60-69% = C, 70-79% = B (which means that you are meeting curricular standards), and 80-100% = A
I left home at 16, I worked 40 hours a week and still finished High School, I went to College. It's 40 years later and all is well. I was told you will never make it, you'll be crawling back home, you will end up in jail. None of that happened, the worse thing that happened is I ate a lot of Ramen for awhile:)
Good for you! Self made. God bless
I'm proud of you!!
@@Tamara-ju3lh Thanks 😊
that is a cool name..you chase the dragon?
much better than what she did at any rate.
Her father: Date that man over my dead body
Jennifer: Bet.
This was outta pocket 😭💀
What carful what you say 🤣
tomatotyler this ain’t suppose to be funny but dammm 💀😭
I feel so terrible for laughing 😂😢
JAILLLL
It's kind of heartbreaking that, after doing all that in search of freedom, she's now going to be imprisoned for life.
I mean she got a hit man to murder her parents. Not that heartbreaking at all.
@@minak6169 lmao, I didn't say "she did no wrong," I said she did it in search of freedom. Yeah, cold blooded killers shouldn't walk free with no repercussions. It's still sad that she did an extreme action IN SEARCH OF FREEDOM and will now never, ever experience freedom. Like, were you this callous with the Gypsy Rose case?
You can sympathize with someone who did a Bad Thing, it won't make you bad, it's ok. And it doesn't mean you don't think they were bad. Unclench.
@@roughentumble9145 I'm not saying what her parents did was right. Nor am I not sympathetic to her circumstances. I just said that a prison sentence was inevitable considering what she did. How have I been callous? And idk who Gypsy Rose is but please get off your high horse.
Mina K you should look her up then it’s a compelling case
@@robynvalentine5355 I'll have a look then. Thanks for the recommendation.
I have forged a report card several times, and helped my friends do the same. I understand the pressure of not disappointing your parents.
i had very strict parents growing up, still do just am 25 now. still see a therapist because of how traumatic it was. I understand her frustrations but when I was 18 I moved out right away and actually moves across the country. They call me all the time saying it's selfish and I need to go back, they love me and want the best just do not understand balance and did not grow up in America, I never was allowed to see anyone (not even friends) and had to wear uniforms to public school
Wow the uniform to public school!! I thought I was the only one wow
Jennifer: My parents won't let us be together
Daniel: Too much drama, bye!
Jennifer, three seconds later: We could kill my parents
Daniel: I'm in let me call homeboy!
Lol that's pretty funny tbh
Oh jeez
Lynx Lefay You twisted hag! How is that funny? He is just summarizing some parts with quotes. 😡
@@matthewguru1382 Oh, you don't know the half of it. 😆
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Just because they had “good intentions” towards their daughter doesn’t mean they weren’t abusive. They are abusive parents. Intentions don’t matter. Outcomes do.
Lily Rose this!!!!
Well said. According to a proverb: "The hell is paved with a plenty of good intentions". People must know what their doing, not only what they desire.
kind of like how you can run someone over and kill them accidentally, you didn't mean for them to die but alas
Doesn’t mean they deserved to be shot.
Moe Clips I never said they deserved it.
Let's say she was the wife and it was her husband who was abusing her... no friends, not allowed out, monitoring phone calls, etc... what would the opinions be then? Could she use battered spouse syndrome as a defense? At 24 she is an adult in an abusive relationship with her parents, and she sees no way out. Of course, I'm not condoning murder, duh, but isn't there some argument and parallels to abused spouse?
Except there was a way out, funny you mention the hypothetical scenario because it reality she was fine living on her own but her boyfriend dumped her and that was what made her go back to her parents plot the murder in the first place, to have money to keep him around. Oh and btw, saying you don’t condone something means nothing if you literally condoning it by framing the situation as if she didn’t have a way out when that’s not the case.
But in domestic violence situations, the abusive spouse is usually actively trying to keep you in the house. Jennifer was an adult by the time she killed her parents and they gave her the option to live her life according to their plan or leave their house and forfeit any and all support. Any awful thing to put your child through, but not the situation you described at all. They gave her a way out. It was just more financially beneficial for her to kill them. That's evil.
I've been debating posting this but I know there are young people out there who might be stuck in a situation like this with a friend:My childhood best friend was a vietnamese girl with incredibly strict and quite abusive parents. As we got older and I started to call into question her parent's behavior even considered getting my parents involved with helping her in someway. Any time I did this she or my other asian friends would say will that is "just how asian parents are" or "that is our culture, it is normal." As a white kid I was definitely worried about appearing judgmental of another culture so I mostly let it go. I didn't tell my parents much about her home life and minimized things when they expressed concern. I regret this so much! I remember one time vividly I was sitting at lunch and I told her a story about how my uncle shot a animal in front of me once as a kid because he felt I needed to "toughen up." Like any sane person she goes "wtf" and I said "will he's a redneck that whole side of my family, that is just how they are." I saw this look of realization come into her eyes and I wish I had pushed that further. Culture isn't an excuse for abusive behavior. There are way more important things then staying "pc." So if you are in a position like this please try to help your friend. The way her life has turned out I really wish I had done more when we were kids but I was too concerned about looking bad.
you hit the nail on the head, only question I have is WHERE were your white friends?
Soooo your telling me that her parents didn’t find it weird that they didn’t go to a high school graduation
Alex C maybe because they weren’t from there
It’d be language barrier plus they are immigrants which mean they didn’t know how high school and university in that country operate (i.e. they might thought it is different from their home countries). (I know this because I am also studying aboard and my parent didn’t attend my high school graduation either + they mostly let my big sister and the agency took care of me because they don’t know about the system etc.)
I think it is somewhat reasonable if they start to suspect after she starts lying about working since it will be the part they can relates and know how it work (e.g. must have uniform or lab keycard if she is really in that occupation).
where I'm from, we don't have high school graduation ceremonies, so maybe that was the case with her school
Rona says hold my beer. :'(
@@flutey28 that hurt me more than it should have 😭
While I don’t condone her actions, I do think her parents were abusive.
Is it bad that I lowkey wanted her to get away with it 💀
@@wishes7142 just a tad
abusive is definitely an understatement. she was a prisoner.
While I agree that the parenting style was Not right at all.but she was well over an adult she was 24! and legally she could have left anytime if she was over Her parents Telling her what to do. I personally believe the reason she did was not only Because of The parenting but because she wanted the house cars money etc that would be left Behind sad that she grew up that way but still doesn't make taking your parents life acceptable.
Absolutely! Also, being the first born daughter of an Asian house hold is no joke. I can definitely relate and sympathize with her but I draw the line at getting this carried away with the lying and planning to kill her parents.
As someone that live in Ontario Canada It’s great to see a Canadian case covered. However this was a case that shook the province and its just so crazy.
For strict parents it's crazy they never attended high school meetings, talk to teachers, like who was paying for college? I do not get how she got away with all that. Also, her defense was she had Tiger Parents, well she did, but she lived the way she wanted anyhow. She didn't listen to their rules anyhow.
“The idea of going to the school dance now makes me wanna die inside.” I felt that to my core.
Same girl, same.
Yes indeed
I felt that in High School. I made a deal with my parents to attend one dance a year, lol.
Same honestly
I'm here being happy that I rare go to dances
how could her parents be so strict yet so uninvolved in her life to the point she could just lie about anything and they didn't even think about it twice? that's why strict parenting DOESN'T WORK
It's because they're FOBs. They had no choice but to trust her word bc they didn't know how university and volunteering worked around there
Faking a transcript is pretty extreme and maybe the parents didn't expect the worst
@@tellercamille8080 I agree, but mainly because I'm sure that the parents would take that as their failure. While I don't condone what she did AT ALL, I can imagine she was living in a version of Hell.
Strict parenting does work but abusive parenting does not. Her brother was brought up the same way and he turned out fine. I dont know why he couldn't get him to tell them her problems and just continue to lie. Parents listen if they see your struggle but she just tries to hide it all.
@@igot7-lu Her brother was a male and thus he may have been granted some privileges that his femaile counterpart couldn't.
My parents were strict like hers, besides the grades. They were happy with a’s or b’s but I wasn’t allowed to have friends after school and never was allowed bday parties etc
I am sorry about that we can also learn from our parents to not be like that to our children and not raise them the same way
that's pretty normal.
@@karinagarcia3702 Idk, that doesn't sound too bad. It could be a LOT worse.
So glad you don't censor yourself or use the "beeps" anymore....you are a great storyteller.
When her Dad threaded to kick her out, she should have just left🤷🏽♀️
Been waiting for someone to,say this. She should have just freaking left!
@Abidjanaise hope you are doing ok 💔
Exactlyyy 💯💯 could’ve avoided all of this
They would've done somethong to bring her back into their control anyway (not defending her)
Maybe she didn’t have anywhere to go since Daniel left her
Her parents were a bit much, but they didn't deserve what she did to them.
ismini but shot and killed? They shouldn’t have been parents yes but killed that horrifically? Yea no
ismini no, I have parents like that and yes, I do have to live a double life, but I would never kill my own fuckings parents... like to think like that you must be sick and twisted in your head. It’s just disgusting. If you hate your parents so much you can just move out and never talk to them again. But if you even consider killing your parents. Like come on, that’s just pure evil.
@ismini Dude, my parents are like that too, and when I was younger they were insufferable. But never did I wish death upon them! Now that I'm older, I kind of understand where they are coming from. They just have bad communication skills and never learned creative parenting, but it doesn't mean they're crappy people! They do want the best for you, but they're imperfect people. They feel frustration with you and with themselves when they don't feel like they can get through to you.
My parents are like that, but much worse and I can’t imagine actually going through with what she did. Absolutely insane.
@ismini u serious??! Apportion seems good for kids like u. They only wanted her to have great grades and a decent education, how is it ok to kill them bcuz of that. I don't think u respect ur family tbh.
When the dad screamed on the phone call…my heart DROPPED
Strict parents like that only end up with kids hating them. This type of strict parenting is very damaging and abusive. I am not condoning what she though because it’s not right.
I mean, my grandma was neglectfull and very strict, but she is still loved by all her three children. My grandfather had like three families and never providined any money for her to be raised, but she still loves them both and considers them family. Plenty of people love their parents no matter how relatively bad or unconventional their methos may have been, my parents never let them go anywhere without and are unhappy with B's, and I certianly love them and consider myself lucky to have them. I'd wager children who distancew themsleves from their parents and hate them, at least here in mexico, are more uncommon than those who love them despite whatever they may have done.
Firm believer that strict parents just create sneaky kids
They do
lyn yep
I had a childhood friend that would lie to her mother non stop and all these crazy schemes and her mother was super strict.
lyn I agree. If anything those kids turn out to be troublemakers. They end up raising the exact opposite of what they intended
I’m one of them 😫very true
You'd think she'd put a lil more effort in her grades considering faking everything seems like way more work
People excel at different things. She may not have been book smart, but was obviously great at forgery.
She had learning disabilities which kept her from excelling gradeswise
Alexis Madelyn Rau she didn't mention that
I know! D: Like damn just study a little more....
Not everyone can get good grades.
When your parents are unreasonable about every detail about everything, you’ll go to any lengths to avoid their reactions. Including but not limited to faking report cards.
Or faking their signature on tests and shit like that..
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Sameee lol
I've watched 4 today.
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Meee! Lol
Instead of trying to murder her parents you would think she would try to run away or fake her own death
she wanted their money tho aswell
I was debating if she was going to kill her parents or commit suicide. But after the dad said “you can’t date this man over my dead body” I was like “oh shit...😬”.
She could've tried to seek emancipation
She was an adult why not move out
Alannah Kelly They can't legally stop her once she turns 18
A class trip to EUROPE??? My class went to the local state park for a picnic.
Sis SAME
In elementary we took a school trip to a park.... 2 blocks from the school. We even went walking...
I mean I’m sure she went to a private school
My school is public and we did a trip to Galapagos islands it was like 1.5k or something but everything was covered for the week. And this year I believe it's Costa Rica. It's all only if you want to and they even have scholarships for kids to apply for. But we had trips at my other highschool to DC so this isn't to new to me. I guess
I go to public school and went on a school trip to california this year and I live in the uk!
Tiger parents are definitely a thing. My grandma made my mom be a lawyer. She doesn’t even use her degree now lol. She also made my uncle be a lawyer and made my other uncle be a doctor.
So what does your mom do if she doesn't use her degree now?
Whenever I'm asked what I think the worst way to would be, I always say "afraid." I feel so bad for the mother in this case who must've been horrified in her final moments and who died believing her daughter was in danger.
“family discount” to assassinate a family i can't
Danielle Rothwell bahahahshgjfhj
Oh god the irony, right?😭🤣🤣🤣
Reading the comments, you can really tell who had strict parents and who didn't lmaoo
LOL i was just thinking about this
@@KendallRae Ahh I can't believe you saw this!! But I understand where she's coming from. Like was her plan warranted? Absolutely not. Being hurt doesn't excuse doing horrible things, but it does explain them. My parents were very similar to hers, and I'm in therapy because of it. It really does damage one's psyche.
I had strict parents...I don't feel sorry for her parents at all. My father treated me the exact same way (my mother blissfully didn't give a shit) up to when I moved out in January (I just turned 32 in April), and I am still a hot mess because of it (in therapy, struggling with suicidal ideation, etc.) And that's the thing. Stories like Jennifer's happen all the time; they just usually end with the child offing themselves instead of their parents.
@@PhoenixRising87 Yes, exactly. People who are saying "she was an adult, why didn't she just leave" truly don't understand what it's like to live with parents like that. I am glad you got out of that situation and hope things improve for you and your mental health.
oôo yep
My mom was definitely a tiger parent (she admits) and was tough on me with piano, skating, school and languages, but I'm so glad she let go a lot as I got older. I now value how much she did for me to succeed. Also fun fact, I had a few visits at the Sick Kids hospital when I was an infant/toddler
The strict parenting is for a reason. They want their kids to value the opportunities they never had, you end up understanding why they did it and enjoying the fruits of their efforts.
Here in Brazil we have a similar case in many aspects, the girls name is Suzane Von Richtofen, she was 17, and because our "justice" here is awful, she already left jail and is preagnant living her life. Both parents died, her brother (15 years old at the time) struggled all his life. That night he lost his entire family. The most diference Between these two cases is that Suzane didn't have so strict parents like Jennifer.
“The strictest parents make the sneakiest kids” -someone on Twitter
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Kalani Lu thank u ❤️
Kalani Lu I love yours too
Ikr
I agree 100% if my parents knew what I did as a kid, i would have been on lockdown.
I find this really sad tbh, sure don't let your kids run wild but don't make their life a living hell. People can only take so much before they snap.
She was a grown women when she did this...
@@sftnstlg obviously her age makes her legally responsible. But if your parents take that much control of your life, it follows that you will have a hard time seeing them as people rather then strictly as authority figures. When a prisoner murders a prison guard, noone is surprised. It's an adult decision based on circumstances. If shed been a POW in an enemy camp, she would be seen as a hero.
@Carol Simpson While I can understand your point, I’d argue that this young woman’s circumstance is too far removed from that of a POW for the two to be compared at all. Her parents were arguably too controlling, but it’s nothing to kill them for. She was basically an adult: cut contact and move on if necessary.
@@Birdheard97 there are mental prisons as well. Look at that little gipsy girl - she could have just left too. But had been made so dependent on her abuser that she thought that the only way her mother wouldn't control her life was if she were dead. Both girls were dead wrong, but I can see how their thinking could get that warped.
Ehhh but Gypsy Rose Blanchard’s mother had Munchausen by Proxy which is a severe mental illness. This video never indicated that Jenifer’s parents did anything on that level. Gypsy was forced to fake an illness and underwent medical treatment that she didn’t need (physical abuse). This girl couldn’t talk to boys or attend school dances. Her parents put an unhealthy amount of pressure on her and were definitely controlling, but it’s very different from what Gypsy endured.
I can't feel too bad for the parents. They were controlling and abusive. Murder is never the answer but what a horrible childhood.
They were doing their best
I’ve definitely forged my report card before. When you try your hardest but your hardest isn’t good enough, your not left with many choices as a kid.
Controlling parents are on par with toxic relationships. Yes discipline your children and give them guidance but don’t hold them as prisoners. They’re not your property.
This. Education about bad things and love is more important than grades and restrictions.
I agree with most of this. I dont consider my son “property” but he is mine till he turns 18.
Words of wisdom. Parents are not owners of the children they give birth to. Parents are spiritual and emotional guides and a temporary care takers to the children they invite to this world. All parents' No1 task is to not destroy the children's natural gifts and dreams in the process of guiding them throughout their childhood. Those who impose their way of life and their unsolved expectations toward life on youngsters provoking in them frustration and a sense of humiliation are monsters, actually.
@Shawn Burke a child is not a house or car. No a child is not Property. A child is simply a child that you raise and teach and guide. Not someone you hold prisoner. And you by law can't hold them hostage after 18. Just cause your their parents.
Okay, boomer
I really don’t have much sympathy for the parents but the fact that they begged the “intruders” not to hurt Jeniffer when she was the one orchestrating their murders is kind of heartbreaking
Suspicious Pooh they did love her very much, everything they did was out of fear. My parents are what I would consider tiger parents. I remember resenting them for years. I finally moved out, they never said I love you, they never said how proud of me they were. Recently my mom got diagnosed with cancer and told me (and my dad told me) how much they loved and care for me. My parents were immigrants and did everything they could to make my life happy. Some people show their love in different ways
Ikr i live in Vietnam and my parents are kind of strict but I don’t let the strictness stop me from doing what I want to do sure I will go to college to make them feel secure but nah actually I’m out here looking for jobs that’s I like I will not tell them yet unless I find one I’m sure my parents are not this strict and have high expectations in me like her parents they just want me to be a good man and noo I’ll never do anything harmful to my parents even if they were this strict bc I understand why they do what they do the asian parent is very different from the way they uprising their children to the parent in the west but I know one thing they all love their childre the same I wish that she knew this before she hired the hitman it’s just bad
Yeah... still doesnt justify tho.. she killed her mom
Really there are parents who abuse and starve their kids and sex traffic them and you’re saying you don’t have sympathy for her parents? Get a fucking grip!
@@samarztk Agreed. It's a cultural thing Asian tiger parenting didn't become a huge issue until Americans decided it was one.
This case is an example of the psychological effects of tiger parents. I don’t condone what Jennifer did and there were better choices she could have made but I do understand why she bowed to the pressures. Tiger parents are so into what they think is best for the kids that they have no idea they’re damaging them psychologically and emotionally
I hope Netflix is paying you since they just released the same video with less details but more interrogation videos.
Lmaoo I saw it was on Netflix but don’t feel like sitting thought the whole thing so I came here 😭