I found your channel like a week or so ago, and it is one of several pieces that have pushed me to where I am now. This time last week, I was a disillusioned postal worker who called out for a week straight because I couldn't take it anymore. Now, I'm starting up a small business, trying to make a RUclips channel, and content like this is my lifeforce now. My ultimate goal is to move to Europe, as you did. I'm a writer, but I've only ever sold one piece so I feel I have a way to go. But I know that I can get there. Thank you for posting these! :)
Wow, thank you for sharing. To think that my words have impact on anyone means something but to read messages like this, I truly have no words, but I’m so glad to hear that my videos have helped to move you make such big shifts in your life… just thank you for sharing. It truly means the world. I’m so moved by your passion and your resilience. Sometimes the smallest thing sort of knocks us over the head and wakes us up. It’s happened to me a few times in my life, at times where I too felt disillusioned. I 100% believe you will make all your hearts desires happen… you already did the hardest part… you started! Congratulations! You’ve got this! ✨☺️🙌🏻
Lovely and full of gems. If i may, I will add one more that has made an impression on me. The great Martha Beck has often noted that we are designed to know what to do next. If we don't know what to do next it means we are tired. Lie down. Rest. As your system recovers having a sense of what to do next will be revived. This isn't on a what to do with my life scale but rather on a granular day to day scale. Eventually (as you are so elequently saying here), one thing will lead to another.
Thank you so much for sharing! I agree! It’s why I mentioned staring at the clouds at the end. Sometimes you just need to stop, rest, and then try again when you’re ready (and have the energy of course). Thank you so much for the kind words 🥰✨🙏🏻
Stumbled upon your page just today and I can't thank you enough for how much wisdom you have put into one video. I am 33 years old and am still learning ways of living.
Thank you so much! I’m so glad it resonated with you! Just remember we are all learning, nobody knows what they’re doing. So just keep taking every day one step at a time, and be gentle on yourself 🫂✨
Thank you for sharing this-it means a lot. I completely understand how starting over can feel overwhelming, especially when life comes with so many responsibilities and constraints. I think the idea here isn’t about having the resources to ‘afford’ big changes but about finding small, manageable ways to take steps that feel possible, wherever you are in life. Even something as simple as exploring a curiosity or changing a small routine can lead to clarity over time. You’re not alone in this, and it’s never too late to try something-no matter how small-that feels just for you.✨🫂
Saving this so I can come back to it any time I'm stuck in that devastating cycle of overthinking and fear of the unknown. You reminded me its okay to just be and not always have everything figured out, and that gives me peace. Amazing video that really helped me personally, thank you!
I’m so happy to hear it… we all do it (me very much included). Most of the time we think ourselves into a corner when we just need to let go and let things happen. I’m so glad to hear it resonated with you and I hope it helps for all future cycles of overthinking 😉✨
Girl, you remind me so much of me in my 30s. Now a decade later, I'm listening to your words, and I'm just wishing you a beautiful life. I'm just wishing you "Beauty for Ashes", if you'll pardon the play on words, my dear... Thank you for the beauty you bring, and even in the lovely package that you bring it like getting a christmas gift and the wrap is so beautiful and the bow is so beautiful that it's almost as full of anticipatory delight as the actual delight brought by whatever is inside the box...This, itself, is meaningful. Makes your life meaningful, and matter to many. My mom always says "we're all just here to walk each other home", and you really do that beautifully, which is so important in the woods of this life, as so many of us are feeling our way forward...I sat here listening to your words, grateful for the reminders, grateful for the very timely encouragement, and even the synchronicity of you were mentioning bingeing Doritos, when I did just that at 4 in the morning last night while reading a David Grann novel, because I couldn't sleep because my head has been full of "what is my next step? Which road to take at this fork?"... Grateful for your graceful, gentle wisdom, grateful for our paths intersecting. And just hope that you realize how extraordinary your bravery is; how you were willing to walk back into the theater, turn the lights on the stage again, choose your props and your backdrop, be willing to create a new story, at least the skeleton of a story, and know that there will be a beautiful play. There will be good action on the stage, and I think love will even walk in stage left and illuminate everything even more for you. I wish you beauty. I wish you love. I just want to just say thank you for your deeply meaningful contribution to all of our lives, thank you for your lovely, meaningful life...Thank you for helping my bravery, to walk back into the "theater", one more time....❤
Wow. Wow. Wow. I don't know what to say. What kind, beautiful words. This means the world to me and I just want to thank you for the taking the time to put these words together. They warmed my heart in the most needed way. Thank you! ✨❤️
@@the.ashfiles ... Grateful here too🙏... may all these words, both yours and mine, flesh out in the most lovely ways in the coming days, weeks, and year ahead🙏 ... Nighty night over there across the pond...Lovely upcoming week for you...🌷 "God, please give us what we would've asked for had we known."🙏🌷
The past week or so i have just been in a downward spiral of anxiety, and overthinking. The anxious is still there but just in the back burner of my brain. I have just been sorta stuck in this state, im not really sure why. Your videos seem to pop up just in the correct moment, thank you so much for making the videos you make, it always feels like that person you dont hear from very often but when you do, its like there was no gap in time at all, its really comforting. In the video you said "starting is just starting, its giving yourself permission to explore" im not sure why this settled me down but it helped ( even just a little ) to allow myself the chance to, make mistakes. i dont know how much sense this is really making. But just, everything about your video style and just the words in them resonate with so many people. Think im gonna safe this and come back to when im feeling really, out of sync with myself. Have a good week!!!
This all made perfect sense and thank you for sharing! I really appreciate you taking the time and I'm so glad the videos have helped you in some ways. Keep trusting your intuition and be kind to yourself throughout the process. ✨☺️
It’s really difficult, I’ve been there at so many different points on my life… but the fact that you’re taking steps towards the acceptance is huge. It’s no small feat ✨
I’m 68, retired, live alone. My passion is creating, or it used to be. But I’m terribly bored. Nothing appeals to me anymore. I just watched a video about Dopamine and it made so much sense. And oh, yea…I was diagnosed w ADHD twenty years ago. But no meds have helped. I raised a family, did a lot of creative projects, when my family was young. But now, in retirement nothing appeals to me… Sooo, watching this and hearing your soothing voice, the intelligence you share as you explain an extremely emotional topic is really helpful. Because in this moment I know I’m not alone. I know there IS hope…and honestly, I’m very grateful that the blahs didn’t hit hard until these past five years. One of my fears tho is that I’ll start something, put myself out there, then get bored and I’ll stop. Will I let ppl down, will I waste $(that I don’t have to waste). Because I have started then stopped, I have bought supplies, etc. and it feels pretty empty because I feel like I’ve failed. Sheesh! For now, I’ll watch more of your videos…new subscriber! Yay, I found you! And I know I need to move my body more… My heart ♥️ goes out to all of “us” as we bravely wake up and start each day…hoping to find motivation, interest and possibility.
And I want to add, your style of the video, the beautiful town, your voice…perfect! Thank you for giving us something beautiful to look at, something meaningful to listen to, and for sharing your voice as you deliver comfort, respect and understanding.🕊✨✨
This hit me. Thank you so much for sharing. First, I just want to say-I see you, and I’m so glad you found your way here. The way you describe the ‘blahs’ creeping in later in life, the fear of starting and stopping, of investing in something only to lose interest-I think a lot of people will relate to that more than they even realize. But what if stopping isn’t failing? What if it’s just following curiosity until it runs its course? Not everything has to be a lifelong passion. Some things are just meant to be enjoyed in the moment, no pressure, no expectations. I hope you give yourself the space to explore without feeling like you have to commit forever. And I truly hope you find little sparks of joy again, in whatever way feels right for you. ✨🫂☺️
Thank you for your kind & thoughtful response. I’ll keep on keeping on…and try not to judge or assess myself. I’m learning to look at interactions …whether it’s on a dating app, or exploring a new idea as an experience. That helps. But I still yearn for feeling a sense of satisfaction. And it’s been minimal. But I’m “here” to learn and grow and probably to teach others simply by sharing… I’ll keep visiting you here! And, I just bought the outline(book) about writing fiction. I’m hoping it will help me share a story that’s been bubbling inside my head for many years… Never a dull moment in there!!! 😊
I’m so glad you could resonate with this piece. I know there’s so much pressure at your age to know what you want. You do not need to know. Just try things and experiment and you’ll naturally find your way. No need to put pressure on yourself! ✨🫂
I believe that what I like most about your videos is that they come off more like a friend giving you advice, its not preachy or proclaiming to have the answers. It putting one into the mindset of asking internal questions. Its so refreshing becasue it pushes my mind in nessasary yet neglegted directions in a way that feels like cahnge will happen, at my own pace, I just have to let it. I am very greatful to have found your channel. Since ive been watching your videos I have begun the process of living for me, distancing myself from people that negativly impact my life. And am now starting the process of moving to somwhere Ive wanted to for years, but alwasy felt like I needed some sign or go ahead to make it happen. And for that and so many more little moment. I say thank you.
Oh goodness, this brought me to tears. This means so much to me and thank you so much for sharing. Its never sat well with me, the approach of any sort of “self-help” that feels as if its being shouted at you. That “this is the way and it’s the only way”… that isn’t and never will be the case because everyone’s experience in this life is unique. I’m so happy about these changes you’re making in your life… for YOU! Thank you again so much, this has made my entire week! 🙏🏻✨
How can a person in their 30s be so damn wise??? Brilliant piece. (P.S. My Freewrite arrived Friday afternoon. 5000 words down the first day!) Thanks for being part of the inspiration.
Yay! Your freewrite arrived! And 5000 words?! Wow! Congrats! That’s amazing Carol Anne! ✨ As for the wisdom, not sure where it came from - a lot of failing, learning and trying again I think 🥰
no, no, no! i'm an enneatype 4! feeling's our preferred center & our thinking's enmeshed in it while "doing" is pretty much neglected 🤣 why *live* life when you can simply overanalyze every single aspect of it & fantasize about the past or future while your present slips away? thanks for the incredibly lovely call out that i actually *really* needed right about now 💖 clicking off of endless youtube advice videos about things for a bit to go do a thing or two
I'm so glad I stumbled on your channel. This is the sort of content I would like to make and having a faceless YT channel is even more interesting. You must put a lot of effort into your scripting.
Thanks so much! I do put a lot of work into it? And I appreciate you noticing. I do plan to show my face one day, but this will do for now! ☺️ thank you for being here 🙏🏻✨
"One deep thought away from solving it all" I feel personally attacked and i love it.. Thanks for giving me some much needed perspective today. Hope you are well and at peace.
I can't describe how much I love your videos. They're so gentle even when you're talking about stuff that feels so overwhelming. I love your voice and the way your clips seem so organic. You obviousley spend time on what you're going to say which makes it so meaningful. I often spend my time overthinking about how everything I need to be for an end goal. But, just enjoying things is enough of a reason to do it. Thanks!
Thank you so much for the kind words and I’m so delighted to hear you love the videos. I think overthinking is universal, trust me, I overthink every video and script I work on but it just takes practice to sort of slowly let it all go and realize that we just need to take things day by day. One foot in front of the other… and then sometimes taking a nap in between 😉✨
A wonderful video thank you. This one speaks to me because I will be turning 39 in just over 3 weeks. And I have never really felt like I have known "What to do with my life". And for me, a big part of this is with my having been born with a physical disability, Congenital Hydrocephalus & Hypertonia that causes too much muscle spasticity on the entire left side of my body (my left side is semi deformed) all of the big dreams & goals that I had as a kid were torn down & attacked & stolen away from me by the abusive 'parents' that didn't want me to achieve anything great because they wanted me to 'settle' for less like they did. To be honest when I have as much challenges & hardships as I do, I need my life or more accurately my existence to "make sense". I love how in your videos it sounds like you are simultaneously talking to both yourself & us as listeners & it is so calming, soothing & helpful, thank you. Again I love your videos & channel. ❤
Thank you for sharing your story and I'm so sorry about the challenges you've faced, but my goodness do you articulate your feelings well. And if I have any hand in inspiring or helping in any way, it is a true honor. Thank you again for being so open and I'm wishing you all the very best ✨🙏🏻☺️ - also happy birthday in a few weeks!🥳
Moving in a month an a Half by myself at almost 50'S , in a new country , no friends, no job , no place where to live , no car, starting from scratch. Am I scared? Of course , but I am completely open to whatever is gonna come.
Congratulations! What an exciting move! I just did a very similar thing (I knew one person) but it’s scary and freeing all at the same time! Wishing you all the best on your adventure! ✨☺️
Today, after the covid lockdown , I lost so many friends and favorite spots that thought life was perfect Today, I give my friends time, listen laugh and help.. Downey California Surfer Frank 😂😂❤❤❤❤
Thank you. Your voice. 1995 to 2000. Keiko Harada we were book friends , we would go to book stores and read and read, we loved libraries and I showed her all of Calfornia and I am a surfer I was able to get her to surf. The said, thing is her Gaol in life was to marry a white man. Her hart was always broken , she saw me as a friend.. I loved her, but her goal in life was marrying a white man. 2000 she returned to Japan with her white man. He was a ginger truck driver but she said, he was white.. Sad, I never hear from he ever again Gardena California. 1995-2000. I miss her.
I love your content more than anything here on RUclips :)) Watching your videos, is not wasted time, they make me happy, feel good about life and about myself! Thank you :))
I’m very much thinking about Leaving social media, I already deleted Snapchat, TikTok & LinkedIn. I haven’t gotten to delete Facebook and Instagram honestly because I’m already connected so much on Facebook and instagram but I know I will be at peace with my privacy and people not trying to dig into my accounts to learn about me. I know I will be okay but I’m so self aware how ADDICTED it was to social media. I am also planning to just keep my Pinterest, Goodreads & RUclips account since I don’t have any tie to them & i genuinely just like these platforms.
I completely understand these feelings. I’ve been reflecting recently on my own social media use. And while I use it for work I’ve definitely had to set boundaries for myself when it comes to non-work usage. They say we are more connected than ever these days but it’s only surface level and I deeply want to move back to more intentional connection. Some platforms, like RUclips are a great salve. But I know it’s hard, we are all addicted, but good for you for noticing and taking action. Small steps, you don’t need to do them all at once! You got this! 🫂✨❤️
Nice views of Hampstead. I used to envy (a bit) people who had their lives planned out. No more. Having made a mess of our (the partner and I did the same kind of thing) lives, we realized that it is the best of all possible worlds for us. Fear of failure is crippling.
I think human life is too complex to just have one purpose. Every person's life has many diverse aspects like work, family, frds,love, passion, hobbies , things they hate, socio political views, religious identity and values etc. All these things collectively create their overall sense of existence. So I don't think we should look for one singular purpose that provides meaning and objective to all these sectors. We should keep balance among them and not obsess over one particular sector.
You could start by paying attention to what already exists in your mornings, afternoons, and nights-what feels good, what drains you, what you avoid. The answer isn’t always about adding something new; sometimes, it’s about noticing what’s already there and shifting accordingly. If nothing stands out, experiment. Make mornings about curiosity, afternoons about movement, and nights about unwinding. The goal isn’t to have a perfect schedule; it’s to build a life that feels like it fits you. ✨🫂
@@the.ashfiles thank you. Loved the vid and lived in Primrose Hill, back in the day. You could start by including the feeling of perfection as a possibility. As you always have the most beautiful heart, every moment of every day. I include the possibility of feeling perfection and that possibility always fits so well with my heart. In all sincerity, your heart will actually shift, shape and build anything for you, every day, out of nothing.
I so needed this video. I'm starting life* in my 40's and it's overwhelming for sure.
*I just survived the first 40 years, I wasn't living.
I know that feeling very well! The point is… you’re starting, and that’s so incredible! Wishing you the best Tim on this journey! 🙌🏻☺️✨
I’m right there with you 🫶🏽
@@CaminoSubRosa I'm wishing you all the very best! ☺ It makes me happy I'm not alone, but it also makes me sad that I'm not alone. Hugs
@@the.ashfiles Thank you, I'm wishing you all the very best also. ☺ There needs to be a starting life over club, guess this channel might be it. 🤔
I found your channel like a week or so ago, and it is one of several pieces that have pushed me to where I am now. This time last week, I was a disillusioned postal worker who called out for a week straight because I couldn't take it anymore. Now, I'm starting up a small business, trying to make a RUclips channel, and content like this is my lifeforce now. My ultimate goal is to move to Europe, as you did. I'm a writer, but I've only ever sold one piece so I feel I have a way to go. But I know that I can get there.
Thank you for posting these! :)
Wow, thank you for sharing. To think that my words have impact on anyone means something but to read messages like this, I truly have no words, but I’m so glad to hear that my videos have helped to move you make such big shifts in your life… just thank you for sharing. It truly means the world.
I’m so moved by your passion and your resilience. Sometimes the smallest thing sort of knocks us over the head and wakes us up. It’s happened to me a few times in my life, at times where I too felt disillusioned.
I 100% believe you will make all your hearts desires happen… you already did the hardest part… you started! Congratulations! You’ve got this! ✨☺️🙌🏻
Lovely and full of gems. If i may, I will add one more that has made an impression on me. The great Martha Beck has often noted that we are designed to know what to do next. If we don't know what to do next it means we are tired. Lie down. Rest. As your system recovers having a sense of what to do next will be revived. This isn't on a what to do with my life scale but rather on a granular day to day scale. Eventually (as you are so elequently saying here), one thing will lead to another.
Thank you so much for sharing! I agree! It’s why I mentioned staring at the clouds at the end. Sometimes you just need to stop, rest, and then try again when you’re ready (and have the energy of course). Thank you so much for the kind words 🥰✨🙏🏻
Stumbled upon your page just today and I can't thank you enough for how much wisdom you have put into one video. I am 33 years old and am still learning ways of living.
Thank you so much! I’m so glad it resonated with you! Just remember we are all learning, nobody knows what they’re doing. So just keep taking every day one step at a time, and be gentle on yourself 🫂✨
I wish I had seen this video 10 years ago. At 42, starting over and just trying things seems like something I can’t afford.
Thank you for sharing this-it means a lot. I completely understand how starting over can feel overwhelming, especially when life comes with so many responsibilities and constraints. I think the idea here isn’t about having the resources to ‘afford’ big changes but about finding small, manageable ways to take steps that feel possible, wherever you are in life. Even something as simple as exploring a curiosity or changing a small routine can lead to clarity over time. You’re not alone in this, and it’s never too late to try something-no matter how small-that feels just for you.✨🫂
I hope you know this is one of *the* best videos you - or anyone - have ever made! Life-changing stuff.
oh wow, this made me burst into to tears. Thank you so much ✨☺️🙏🏻
Saving this so I can come back to it any time I'm stuck in that devastating cycle of overthinking and fear of the unknown. You reminded me its okay to just be and not always have everything figured out, and that gives me peace. Amazing video that really helped me personally, thank you!
I’m so happy to hear it… we all do it (me very much included). Most of the time we think ourselves into a corner when we just need to let go and let things happen. I’m so glad to hear it resonated with you and I hope it helps for all future cycles of overthinking 😉✨
Girl, you remind me so much of me in my 30s. Now a decade later, I'm listening to your words, and I'm just wishing you a beautiful life. I'm just wishing you "Beauty for Ashes", if you'll pardon the play on words, my dear... Thank you for the beauty you bring, and even in the lovely package that you bring it like getting a christmas gift and the wrap is so beautiful and the bow is so beautiful that it's almost as full of anticipatory delight as the actual delight brought by whatever is inside the box...This, itself, is meaningful. Makes your life meaningful, and matter to many. My mom always says "we're all just here to walk each other home", and you really do that beautifully, which is so important in the woods of this life, as so many of us are feeling our way forward...I sat here listening to your words, grateful for the reminders, grateful for the very timely encouragement, and even the synchronicity of you were mentioning bingeing Doritos, when I did just that at 4 in the morning last night while reading a David Grann novel, because I couldn't sleep because my head has been full of "what is my next step? Which road to take at this fork?"... Grateful for your graceful, gentle wisdom, grateful for our paths intersecting. And just hope that you realize how extraordinary your bravery is; how you were willing to walk back into the theater, turn the lights on the stage again, choose your props and your backdrop, be willing to create a new story, at least the skeleton of a story, and know that there will be a beautiful play. There will be good action on the stage, and I think love will even walk in stage left and illuminate everything even more for you. I wish you beauty. I wish you love. I just want to just say thank you for your deeply meaningful contribution to all of our lives, thank you for your lovely, meaningful life...Thank you for helping my bravery, to walk back into the "theater", one more time....❤
Wow. Wow. Wow. I don't know what to say. What kind, beautiful words. This means the world to me and I just want to thank you for the taking the time to put these words together. They warmed my heart in the most needed way. Thank you! ✨❤️
@@the.ashfiles ... Grateful here too🙏... may all these words, both yours and mine, flesh out in the most lovely ways in the coming days, weeks, and year ahead🙏 ... Nighty night over there across the pond...Lovely upcoming week for you...🌷
"God, please give us what we would've asked for had we known."🙏🌷
@ thank you 🙏🏻✨❤️
2:55 I love this. Stagnancy does nun get moving even if it’s just around your house cleaning or writing singing anything
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The past week or so i have just been in a downward spiral of anxiety, and overthinking. The anxious is still there but just in the back burner of my brain. I have just been sorta stuck in this state, im not really sure why. Your videos seem to pop up just in the correct moment, thank you so much for making the videos you make, it always feels like that person you dont hear from very often but when you do, its like there was no gap in time at all, its really comforting. In the video you said "starting is just starting, its giving yourself permission to explore" im not sure why this settled me down but it helped ( even just a little ) to allow myself the chance to, make mistakes. i dont know how much sense this is really making. But just, everything about your video style and just the words in them resonate with so many people. Think im gonna safe this and come back to when im feeling really, out of sync with myself. Have a good week!!!
This all made perfect sense and thank you for sharing! I really appreciate you taking the time and I'm so glad the videos have helped you in some ways. Keep trusting your intuition and be kind to yourself throughout the process. ✨☺️
Accepting your role in your life can be difficult, especially when you had other plans. I'm getting there.
It’s really difficult, I’ve been there at so many different points on my life… but the fact that you’re taking steps towards the acceptance is huge. It’s no small feat ✨
@the.ashfiles thank you for inspiring me❤️.
I’m 68, retired, live alone. My passion is creating, or it used to be. But I’m terribly bored. Nothing appeals to me anymore. I just watched a video about Dopamine and it made so much sense. And oh, yea…I was diagnosed w ADHD twenty years ago. But no meds have helped. I raised a family, did a lot of creative projects, when my family was young. But now, in retirement nothing appeals to me…
Sooo, watching this and hearing your soothing voice, the intelligence you share as you explain an extremely emotional topic is really helpful. Because in this moment I know I’m not alone. I know there IS hope…and honestly, I’m very grateful that the blahs didn’t hit hard until these past five years. One of my fears tho is that I’ll start something, put myself out there, then get bored and I’ll stop. Will I let ppl down, will I waste $(that I don’t have to waste). Because I have started then stopped, I have bought supplies, etc. and it feels pretty empty because I feel like I’ve failed.
Sheesh!
For now, I’ll watch more of your videos…new subscriber! Yay, I found you!
And I know I need to move my body more…
My heart ♥️ goes out to all of “us” as we bravely wake up and start each day…hoping to find motivation, interest and possibility.
And I want to add, your style of the video, the beautiful town, your voice…perfect! Thank you for giving us something beautiful to look at, something meaningful to listen to, and for sharing your voice as you deliver comfort, respect and understanding.🕊✨✨
This hit me. Thank you so much for sharing. First, I just want to say-I see you, and I’m so glad you found your way here. The way you describe the ‘blahs’ creeping in later in life, the fear of starting and stopping, of investing in something only to lose interest-I think a lot of people will relate to that more than they even realize. But what if stopping isn’t failing? What if it’s just following curiosity until it runs its course? Not everything has to be a lifelong passion. Some things are just meant to be enjoyed in the moment, no pressure, no expectations.
I hope you give yourself the space to explore without feeling like you have to commit forever. And I truly hope you find little sparks of joy again, in whatever way feels right for you. ✨🫂☺️
Thank you for your kind & thoughtful response. I’ll keep on keeping on…and try not to judge or assess myself. I’m learning to look at interactions …whether it’s on a dating app, or exploring a new idea as an experience. That helps. But I still yearn for feeling a sense of satisfaction. And it’s been minimal.
But I’m “here” to learn and grow and probably to teach others simply by sharing…
I’ll keep visiting you here! And, I just bought the outline(book) about writing fiction. I’m hoping it will help me share a story that’s been bubbling inside my head for many years…
Never a dull moment in there!!!
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@ oh goodness, never a dull moment in my head either. Wishing you all the best 🥰✨
Brilliant! Love the cadence of this video - your voice, the music. I just listened without even watching until I noticed the beautiful images.
Oh thank you so much! 🙏🏻☺️✨
Writing definitely does bring awareness
This was wonderful to listen to, and I was watching this thinking, “I’m sure I’ve been to those shops!” You can’t beat Hampstead, I love it.😍
Thank you! And yes, it’s such a beautiful area 🥰✨
I'm 16... And crying... Just... Thank you.
I’m so glad you could resonate with this piece. I know there’s so much pressure at your age to know what you want. You do not need to know. Just try things and experiment and you’ll naturally find your way. No need to put pressure on yourself! ✨🫂
I believe that what I like most about your videos is that they come off more like a friend giving you advice, its not preachy or proclaiming to have the answers. It putting one into the mindset of asking internal questions. Its so refreshing becasue it pushes my mind in nessasary yet neglegted directions in a way that feels like cahnge will happen, at my own pace, I just have to let it. I am very greatful to have found your channel. Since ive been watching your videos I have begun the process of living for me, distancing myself from people that negativly impact my life. And am now starting the process of moving to somwhere Ive wanted to for years, but alwasy felt like I needed some sign or go ahead to make it happen. And for that and so many more little moment. I say thank you.
Oh goodness, this brought me to tears. This means so much to me and thank you so much for sharing. Its never sat well with me, the approach of any sort of “self-help” that feels as if its being shouted at you. That “this is the way and it’s the only way”… that isn’t and never will be the case because everyone’s experience in this life is unique. I’m so happy about these changes you’re making in your life… for YOU!
Thank you again so much, this has made my entire week! 🙏🏻✨
Yess I was just thinking that!!!
How can a person in their 30s be so damn wise??? Brilliant piece. (P.S. My Freewrite arrived Friday afternoon. 5000 words down the first day!) Thanks for being part of the inspiration.
Yay! Your freewrite arrived! And 5000 words?! Wow! Congrats! That’s amazing Carol Anne! ✨
As for the wisdom, not sure where it came from - a lot of failing, learning and trying again I think 🥰
Great video. I just turned 60 and I can vouch that all of this is pretty much spot on.
I’m so glad you enjoyed it and could find some truth within it ✨☺️
no, no, no! i'm an enneatype 4! feeling's our preferred center & our thinking's enmeshed in it while "doing" is pretty much neglected 🤣 why *live* life when you can simply overanalyze every single aspect of it & fantasize about the past or future while your present slips away?
thanks for the incredibly lovely call out that i actually *really* needed right about now 💖 clicking off of endless youtube advice videos about things for a bit to go do a thing or two
Haha, oh the struggles of being a 4! It’s so true… so glad it landed though! Happy doing! 🙌🏻✨
I’m not crying…..
Thank you, thank you for sharing your profound words of wisdom, the delightful imagery and for the sweet reminder to be. 😊
This is a safe space for crying, always! And thank you for the kind words, I’m so glad the piece resonated with you 🥰✨
I'm so glad I stumbled on your channel. This is the sort of content I would like to make and having a faceless YT channel is even more interesting. You must put a lot of effort into your scripting.
Thanks so much! I do put a lot of work into it? And I appreciate you noticing. I do plan to show my face one day, but this will do for now! ☺️ thank you for being here 🙏🏻✨
This is great motivation. To accept things as they are but to not be complacent.
So glad it resonated with you ☺️✨
"One deep thought away from solving it all" I feel personally attacked and i love it.. Thanks for giving me some much needed perspective today. Hope you are well and at peace.
Haha, sorry for the attack but glad it resonated ☺️✨
I can't describe how much I love your videos. They're so gentle even when you're talking about stuff that feels so overwhelming. I love your voice and the way your clips seem so organic. You obviousley spend time on what you're going to say which makes it so meaningful. I often spend my time overthinking about how everything I need to be for an end goal. But, just enjoying things is enough of a reason to do it. Thanks!
Thank you so much for the kind words and I’m so delighted to hear you love the videos. I think overthinking is universal, trust me, I overthink every video and script I work on but it just takes practice to sort of slowly let it all go and realize that we just need to take things day by day. One foot in front of the other… and then sometimes taking a nap in between 😉✨
A wonderful video thank you. This one speaks to me because I will be turning 39 in just over 3 weeks. And I have never really felt like I have known "What to do with my life". And for me, a big part of this is with my having been born with a physical disability, Congenital Hydrocephalus & Hypertonia that causes too much muscle spasticity on the entire left side of my body (my left side is semi deformed) all of the big dreams & goals that I had as a kid were torn down & attacked & stolen away from me by the abusive 'parents' that didn't want me to achieve anything great because they wanted me to 'settle' for less like they did. To be honest when I have as much challenges & hardships as I do, I need my life or more accurately my existence to "make sense". I love how in your videos it sounds like you are simultaneously talking to both yourself & us as listeners & it is so calming, soothing & helpful, thank you. Again I love your videos & channel. ❤
Thank you for sharing your story and I'm so sorry about the challenges you've faced, but my goodness do you articulate your feelings well. And if I have any hand in inspiring or helping in any way, it is a true honor. Thank you again for being so open and I'm wishing you all the very best ✨🙏🏻☺️ - also happy birthday in a few weeks!🥳
Ah well that was lovely. Thank you for this 🙂
I’m so glad you liked it 🥰✨
Life isn’t like marriage in the 50’s - this gem 💎 to carry along
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Thank you. Again right on time and on the nose.
Thank you so much! ✨🙏🏻
Breathe, wander, enjoy life. I feel much better from hearing these words.
I’m so glad to hear it ☺️✨
Pasta prep is probably the MOST relatable thing my existential situation has ever been comparable to.
Haha! I love it! ✨☺️
Just bumped into your vlog.....& Thank u ,..from the aesthetic cinematography to the splendid realty calls you talk about ❤❤well done
Thank you so much for the kinds words! I really appreciate it! 🙏🏻✨
Moving in a month an a Half by myself at almost 50'S , in a new country , no friends, no job , no place where to live , no car, starting from scratch. Am I scared? Of course , but I am completely open to whatever is gonna come.
Congratulations! What an exciting move! I just did a very similar thing (I knew one person) but it’s scary and freeing all at the same time! Wishing you all the best on your adventure! ✨☺️
@@the.ashfiles I am counting days.
I wish you the very best in your journey. It sounds amazing.
Lovely - thank you. ❤
Anytime ✨☺️
Thank you for making this! ❤❤
Of course! 🥰✨
Another gem. ✨ The scenes are lovey. Action creates clarity… Not knowing is where the good stuff happens… 🔥 TY
Thank you so much! So glad you enjoyed it and those pieces resonated with you ✨🥰
So glad I found your channel, thank you ✨
Thank you so much! So happy to have you here! 🥰✨
Today, after the covid lockdown , I lost so many friends and favorite spots that thought life was perfect
Today, I give my friends time, listen laugh and help..
Downey California
Surfer Frank 😂😂❤❤❤❤
Thank you. Your voice. 1995 to 2000. Keiko Harada we were book friends , we would go to book stores and read and read, we loved libraries and I showed her all of Calfornia and I am a surfer I was able to get her to surf. The said, thing is her Gaol in life was to marry a white man. Her hart was always broken , she saw me as a friend.. I loved her, but her goal in life was marrying a white man. 2000 she returned to Japan with her white man. He was a ginger truck driver but she said, he was white..
Sad, I never hear from he ever again
Gardena California. 1995-2000. I miss her.
Sitting in the discomfort...thanks for this calming video.
So glad to hear it resonated with you. ✨☺️🫂
Thank you so much for making these vids, Ash. They're kind of an anchor for me as I start out my 2025. Your wisdom and sharing are unparalleled
Thank you for sharing that, and I’m honored to be of help in any way. Happy to have you hear 🙏🏻✨
I love your content more than anything here on RUclips :))
Watching your videos, is not wasted time, they make me happy, feel good about life and about myself!
Thank you :))
Thank you so much! So happy to hear they're resonating with you ✨❤️
Yes, this is good enough so I won't do anything about it. Thank you dear Ash, I really needed to hear this 😊
So glad it was helpful! ☺️✨
Gorgeous, thank you so much
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Thank you. I needed this today. ❤
So glad it found you ❤️🫂
thank you, thank you, thank, that was beautiful.
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Thank you so much, so glad you liked it 🥰🙏🏻✨
I’m very much thinking about Leaving social media, I already deleted Snapchat, TikTok & LinkedIn.
I haven’t gotten to delete Facebook and Instagram honestly because I’m already connected so much on Facebook and instagram but I know I will be at peace with my privacy and people not trying to dig into my accounts to learn about me.
I know I will be okay but I’m so self aware how ADDICTED it was to social media.
I am also planning to just keep my Pinterest, Goodreads & RUclips account since I don’t have any tie to them & i genuinely just like these platforms.
I completely understand these feelings. I’ve been reflecting recently on my own social media use. And while I use it for work I’ve definitely had to set boundaries for myself when it comes to non-work usage. They say we are more connected than ever these days but it’s only surface level and I deeply want to move back to more intentional connection. Some platforms, like RUclips are a great salve. But I know it’s hard, we are all addicted, but good for you for noticing and taking action. Small steps, you don’t need to do them all at once! You got this! 🫂✨❤️
Nice views of Hampstead. I used to envy (a bit) people who had their lives planned out. No more. Having made a mess of our (the partner and I did the same kind of thing) lives, we realized that it is the best of all possible worlds for us. Fear of failure is crippling.
Fear of failure is absolutely crippling! It prevents us from trying so many things in our lives. I’m glad you found some clarity ☺️✨
Well done.
Thank you so much! ☺️✨
4:42 I thought I was at first
I love this!
Thank you so much! 🙏🏻✨☺️
Ummm beautiful video! Where is this gem of a city??
Thank you! This is London (Hampstead Heath and Primrose Hill) ☺️✨
Why do i always cry while watching your videos 🥲
I hope they're the good, cathartic kind of tears ✨❤️
I think human life is too complex to just have one purpose. Every person's life has many diverse aspects like work, family, frds,love, passion, hobbies , things they hate, socio political views, religious identity and values etc. All these things collectively create their overall sense of existence. So I don't think we should look for one singular purpose that provides meaning and objective to all these sectors. We should keep balance among them and not obsess over one particular sector.
I very much agree ☺️✨
What could you feel with your mornings, afternoons, days and nights.?
You could start by paying attention to what already exists in your mornings, afternoons, and nights-what feels good, what drains you, what you avoid. The answer isn’t always about adding something new; sometimes, it’s about noticing what’s already there and shifting accordingly. If nothing stands out, experiment. Make mornings about curiosity, afternoons about movement, and nights about unwinding. The goal isn’t to have a perfect schedule; it’s to build a life that feels like it fits you. ✨🫂
@@the.ashfiles thank you. Loved the vid and lived in Primrose Hill, back in the day. You could start by including the feeling of perfection as a possibility. As you always have the most beautiful heart, every moment of every day.
I include the possibility of feeling perfection and that possibility always fits so well with my heart.
In all sincerity, your heart will actually shift, shape and build anything for you, every day, out of nothing.
That‘s beautiful ❤
Thank you so much! ✨🙏🏻
Damn, but I do want to throw in my job and become a potter 😂
Haha! 😂
What is the name of this nice city?
London ✨
thank you for this great piece Ash❤💯.
Anytime, my friend! 🥰✨
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Here is my better question: what do you say when a video dairy is impossibly beautiful?
Oh geez 🥹 thank you so much 🙏🏻✨
I like kale.
thank you so much for this🤍
Of course 🥰✨
I need an episode about how to deal with too much to do when ignoring doesn't really help. 🫣
I will add it to the list! ✨☺️