Hopeful Message For Men Dealing With Overwhelming Pain After Divorce
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- Опубликовано: 1 июн 2024
- The pain of separation or divorce can be unbearable. Here's how the men I've worked with as a divorce coach got through the pain and found full lives on the other side, including dating again, without guilt or fear.
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I’m Rachael Sloan, Master NLP Practitioner, certified life coach, and the creator of Better Beyond Divorce. I've helped hundreds of men move past the shock, betrayal, grief and anger they experience both during and after a divorce, to a place of clarity, calm and confidence. I hope to help you do the same.
DISCLAIMER: I am a Master NLP Practitioner and personal growth mentor. The material in this video represents my understanding and experience and nothing more. This content is not meant to replace professional medical advice, treatment or diagnosis. Always consult your medical provider before making any changes to your treatment.
I'm currently in the separation stage only 3 months out pending the divorce. But while I was still home she had already started dating someone else, disappearing all night coming in the early morning hours, or not coming back till the next day. Claiming she was at her mom's place. Now I'm living in a recovery group home while the new guy has moved into the house. She ended up getting pregnant with an ectopic pregnancy having her last fallopian tube removed. She's really saddened by this while I'm upset about it. I talk to her on a daily basis, but she's always partying & drinking with the boyfriend & multiple men around. All this has been incredibly painful & heartbreaking to me. But I try day by day to take care of myself. I just can't get over her actions & betrayal. We also have a 6yr old daughter trapped in the middle of this. So hard.
David I truly know and feel your Pain, I also recognize that you have a very good heart towards her in spite of all the negative experiences. Right now, keep putting yourself first as you heal.... Wishing you strength on your journey - you will get through this better on the other side. It will take time...
@@GuaicoboiYes I do have a good heart towards her despite everything. Thank you for your uplifting & encouraging words.
I'm going to tell you the same thing any good coach will tell his team after they lost a championship game and have to watch the other team celebrating. Remember this feeling. Use it to make sure you don't get abused again. Women are very good at telling you what you want to hear as long as it benefits them, and they can mine financial and emotional resources from you until someone better comes along. The divorce statistics tell you something better usually comes along as far as they are concerned. Remember this feeling. Let it fuel you to build yourself up and to create a life that YOU enjoy and that you "don't need no woman." to be alive. If you need someone to talk to or to point you in the direction of content that will help, feel free to PM.
I will assume some things, please forgive if I'm wrong. She and you are young. Under 40?
She want the party girl lifestyle.
She doesn't want to be a mom, but won't let go of the power.
Two: any move you make is going to cost $$ big time.
So onto you:
Get help, go to a therapist.
Form or find a "male centric" support group."shouldn't be hard just look at a motorcycle club. Legit of course.
Then get to work, first yourself, then finance (don't share with ex), next and this is the hardest....write a letter to your ex, forgive her of everything (yes, everything) tell her in the note how she hurt you, how you feel (be super honest) ask her why and forgive her. Then write one to yourself and tell yourself why this happened and how you feel right now ( be harsh and honest) and forgive yourself. Now go get two copies made of each. Buy 4 envelopes, put the originals in the first two and date the others 10 years from now.
Burn the first two and hold onto the others...open in 10 years. And read, think and burn them too.
I'm going through something similar, it's hard which you could talk to you
Rachel the pain of divorce is absolutely devastating and excruciating.
It is brother...Im there with you as well
The best thing to do for men if they want to avoid the inevitable pain and suffering of separation and divorce is to refuse to enter into serious relationships. Single men retain their peace, their time and their financial resources. Women will tell you they don't need no man. Believe them and train your mind to be strong enough that you don't need no woman. It is the only way to live a real life if you are a man. Women use you for your emotional and financial resources until someone better comes along, or they get bored. Divorce statistics are there, and they tell the truth.
I have to agree with You, as I experienced all of what you said. But we have to be very careful our pain DON'T cloud our hearts and mind towards women.
I am discovering NOT all are the same, whilst the majority might be, not all are.
It's the same with Men, not all are abusers as the world would like you to believe!
R.S.is a good example. There's hope for Men, find a woman in a third world country and live there with them. The west has really set up women to fail with certain ideology...
@@Guaicoboi - Maybe. But the "passport bros" phenomenon is still much too new to really be able to determine what the divorce statistics will be on those relationships in 10-25 years. It also doesn't take away from the fact that once you are married to any woman, she determines your future, not you. Women's nature is what it is, and centuries of evidence show that a relationship with any woman depends less on vows, (which women have made very plain means nothing to them) and more on that woman's "feelings" about you from moment to moment. The phrase ""WOMAN'S PREROGATIVE TO CHANGE HER MIND" is a cliché for the same reason that most clichés are. It speaks to a basic and easily observed truth. The vast majority of women are constantly on the lookout for better and next.
Naybevitvwas painful for 20 years. How mire painful can it be
Most of my friends are single dads, none of my male friends are dating anyone.
Ii avoid women entirely , a lot of my students (I tutor higher math and programming to college bound boys in the summer) are the same. They all have uncles, fathers, brothers etc who have all been abused by the divorce industry. They Know.
Damn the wall is undefeated. Wall 1 Rachael 0
The failyre is both
Date other women. Replace
I barely survived one relationship. Why would I do it again?
Why is everyone always talking about pain men go through with divorce. What about women?
"For Men" is literally in the title of the channel.
Yes there are hundreds of videos for women. There are hundreds of pro-female advocacy groups. There literally ten of thousands of books written for women.
The idea of pro-male videos is new.
Men can and do fall into 3 categories post divorce.
1) He climbs into a bottle or work.
2) He climbs into himself.
3) He climbs into bed with another woman for new relationship.
He didn't cure the pain or anger or hurt, he just substituted it. Men opt out of life, at 75% of women.
Most of these men are post break up. They are told (when trying to discuss) their feelings of pain, get over it, you sound broken, be a man.😢
So I hope this answers your question?
@@perryhopkins3195
You missed one:
4. He climbs a ladder with a rope around his neck
women initiate 75% of divorces so what about women? Men kill themselves over divorce and losing their kids....women jump bed to bed....so whats your argument??
G T F O H go find a feminist page to troll