I was SOOOOO obsessed with my ex wife after we split up last March. I was constantly thinking about her being with another guy and living an amazing life without me. With the help of much continued therapy, and Rachel's work, I was able to get over my obsession and become comfortable being with myself. I'm now able to go places and do things by myself and still am able to have a great time. Your life gets better fellas. It takes time and work, but it gets better. 💯
I’m going through this now it’s torture and giving me panic attacks can’t take it much more. I’m spiraling can’t sleep or eat or focus at work. Need help
@@brianmcandrew719 I wish that there was a way to instantly to the pain away. Unwanted divorce is absolutely devastating to us men. Unfortunately, I didn't find a way to instantly make the pain disappear. I found myself an awesome therapist, watched A LOT of self help videos, and embraced the loneliness instead of fighting it. Also, don't be afraid to cry. As men, we're constantly being told that crying is a sign of weakness. That's complete bullshit. You need to cry. Let that pain out. Don't keep it inside. I feel your pain man, but with time, it will get better.💯
I completely understand, my ex divorced me in March of this year. Started sleeping with other men which broke me tremendously, where I am better now and finding mystery again. Just knowing that women are capable of this lets me know that I won’t make the mistake of getting married again. This is really only beneficial to women, because if they don’t have a partner and sex is easier to obtain for them. They don’t want to be seen as promiscuous, that why marriage saves them not us!
I am overwhelmed and lost and haunted at the thought of her with someone else and happy after 32 years of marriage. My mind cant process what happened and how my future is lonely and broke and she is flourishing without me. I can’t stop the thoughts and am fearful of what’s happening to me mentally and physically
5 months feels like yesterday, 3 grown kids and it seems they care less about me (some more than others) as a dad I haven’t always reacted/responded correctly, I’m human ya know? But wtf?? Ida never walked away from her but this is the last time she walked out on me, it’s brutal to say the least and I’ve made my mistakes but I can’t run this hampster wheel for anybody anymore! I’m here for my kids if they ever call me, my life is about self care and love of God!
Right on spot. It's happening for a month now whit the same intensity. Can't get over the feeling and here. With 3 kids it is just not imaginable, with the constant connection we must have because of them. And the jealousy of what might be happening or might be is just killing me. It is ruining me both emotionally and physically. Thanks Rachel for vids.
My soon to be ex actually told me she knows I ruminate and she gave me space to talk. We are still living together for another month. It seems like Rachel was reading my mind when she made this video. I am sometimes feeling completely at peace until we have a heart to heart and it feels like reconciliation but I know it's not. So I am back reliving the break up again while she has already signed a lease on a town house two hours away. This sucks
Bro I’m telling you it’s hard to heal while you’re still living together. It’s debilitating. The sooner the better to start the process. It takes a lot of time. Your brain has hired wired these nueropathways like highways at break neck speeds. Best thing you can do is putting time aside for yourself to practice letting go when you catch up yourself ruminating. Not easy my man. Good luck.
Haha like you read my mind today Rachael, in month 2 since she left and am so annoyed at myself for the constant rumination. As always you are a godsend !
26 years since the divorce. One brief 6 month after serious relationship which had the EXACT ending of me being tossed to the curb no reason no explanation other than she married her previous affair with a married man that divorced his wife and married her. WTF!!!! Why me!!!!! So I swore off women after that. Fool me once fool me twice …. Game over. I recently met a nice woman from Poland that lives here now. We became friends first. I called it off when I saw the reason for her previous divorce. So now Im ruminating over my ex wife. We were great together and happy until a divorced friend became a close friend to her and she became a total stranger when she cheated on me with a coworker encouraged by her friend.
Divorce rates in men are higher because one is separated from own kids, because laws are against men and because of false accusations that usually destroy men’s life. Also a man ends up losing everything at once.
I was SOOOOO obsessed with my ex wife after we split up last March. I was constantly thinking about her being with another guy and living an amazing life without me. With the help of much continued therapy, and Rachel's work, I was able to get over my obsession and become comfortable being with myself. I'm now able to go places and do things by myself and still am able to have a great time. Your life gets better fellas. It takes time and work, but it gets better. 💯
I’m going through this now it’s torture and giving me panic attacks can’t take it much more. I’m spiraling can’t sleep or eat or focus at work. Need help
@@brianmcandrew719 I wish that there was a way to instantly to the pain away. Unwanted divorce is absolutely devastating to us men. Unfortunately, I didn't find a way to instantly make the pain disappear. I found myself an awesome therapist, watched A LOT of self help videos, and embraced the loneliness instead of fighting it. Also, don't be afraid to cry. As men, we're constantly being told that crying is a sign of weakness. That's complete bullshit. You need to cry. Let that pain out. Don't keep it inside. I feel your pain man, but with time, it will get better.💯
I completely understand, my ex divorced me in March of this year. Started sleeping with other men which broke me tremendously, where I am better now and finding mystery again. Just knowing that women are capable of this lets me know that I won’t make the mistake of getting married again. This is really only beneficial to women, because if they don’t have a partner and sex is easier to obtain for them. They don’t want to be seen as promiscuous, that why marriage saves them not us!
I am overwhelmed and lost and haunted at the thought of her with someone else and happy after 32 years of marriage. My mind cant process what happened and how my future is lonely and broke and she is flourishing without me. I can’t stop the thoughts and am fearful of what’s happening to me mentally and physically
5 months feels like yesterday, 3 grown kids and it seems they care less about me (some more than others) as a dad I haven’t always reacted/responded correctly, I’m human ya know? But wtf?? Ida never walked away from her but this is the last time she walked out on me, it’s brutal to say the least and I’ve made my mistakes but I can’t run this hampster wheel for anybody anymore! I’m here for my kids if they ever call me, my life is about self care and love of God!
Right on spot. It's happening for a month now whit the same intensity. Can't get over the feeling and here. With 3 kids it is just not imaginable, with the constant connection we must have because of them. And the jealousy of what might be happening or might be is just killing me. It is ruining me both emotionally and physically. Thanks Rachel for vids.
Rumnination is just so overwhelming. 25 years and my sweet heart is gone.
Rachael is amazing! been in her program for 10 months and I'm a new person!!
My soon to be ex actually told me she knows I ruminate and she gave me space to talk. We are still living together for another month. It seems like Rachel was reading my mind when she made this video. I am sometimes feeling completely at peace until we have a heart to heart and it feels like reconciliation but I know it's not. So I am back reliving the break up again while she has already signed a lease on a town house two hours away. This sucks
Bro I’m telling you it’s hard to heal while you’re still living together. It’s debilitating. The sooner the better to start the process. It takes a lot of time. Your brain has hired wired these nueropathways like highways at break neck speeds. Best thing you can do is putting time aside for yourself to practice letting go when you catch up yourself ruminating. Not easy my man. Good luck.
Bless you. You are like an angel.
Your content is priceless and an invaluable resource.
Thank you thank you thank you.
Haha like you read my mind today Rachael, in month 2 since she left and am so annoyed at myself for the constant rumination. As always you are a godsend !
She is talking crap a lot.
You are so freaking awesome Rachael. Thank you
This is tremendous, really appreciate your wisdom.
26 years since the divorce. One brief 6 month after serious relationship which had the EXACT ending of me being tossed to the curb no reason no explanation other than she married her previous affair with a married man that divorced his wife and married her. WTF!!!! Why me!!!!! So I swore off women after that. Fool me once fool me twice …. Game over. I recently met a nice woman from Poland that lives here now. We became friends first. I called it off when I saw the reason for her previous divorce. So now Im ruminating over my ex wife. We were great together and happy until a divorced friend became a close friend to her and she became a total stranger when she cheated on me with a coworker encouraged by her friend.
Divorce rates in men are higher because one is separated from own kids, because laws are against men and because of false accusations that usually destroy men’s life. Also a man ends up losing everything at once.
Agree 100%. Laws are for the women just short of murder. It’s total BS. I HATE HER ASSHOLE LAWYER.
Brilliant insight