How To Be A Good Speaker That Everyone Wants To Listen To
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Hi,
I am Jamila Musayeva, an international social etiquette consultant and the author of two books "Etiquette: the least you need to know" and "Afternoon Tea Etiquette." My books are available in English language in print only. If you wish to order, please email info@jamilamusayeva.com or my website: jamilamusayeva.com/order-books
In this video, I am sharing with you some of the most useful tips to help you become a better speaker. I hope you find these tips useful and applicable in your journey to becoming the best speaker you can possibly be.
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Video ideas:
1. Dating etiquette
2. Business meetings etiquette
3. Meeting someone for the first time (introducing yourself, shaking hands etc.)
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Love this!! Such good ideas
Business meetings etiquette video would be interesting!
Thanks for your suggestions ☺️
Right
Yes!!! These are ALL topics I need, especially number 3!!
I've lived my whole life hearing people tell me I need to "raise my voice". This video is helpful :)
Glad to hear!
Same here and it's double since I'm a black girl :/
Same girl ! im on a training to become a teacher and all what ppl say to me is raise your voice even the students 😭😭
For me, it's the other way round. Lol
@@k.5425 😂
Video summary (starts at 5.12)
⏩ What affects the sound of our voice:
1. Pitch: women have a higher pitch as compared to men.
2. Volume: men have louder voices as compared to women.
3. Culture and upbringing.
4. Tone and rhythm. Control and use it the right way. Monotone is boring.
⏩ Tips:
1. Breathe. Fill your lungs with enough air before and while speaking.
2. Take pauses while you speak. They help the listener understand your message better and act as full stops to your sentences.
3. Don't speak too fast or too slow.
4. Have a straight posture while speaking as it allows air to enter your vocal cords more easily.
5. Sip water to hydrate the vocal cords throughout your speech.
6. Raise your voice, when necessary. If you want to draw attention, lower your voice. If you want to be heard by those at the back, raise your voice.
7. Enunciation is important. It's different from pronounciation.
8. Record yourself speaking. Avoid video filming as it may distract you from your actual voice.
Thank you for doing this summary ☺️
Aw thankyou I was waiting for someone to do this....
Thank you
Thanks
waw thank you
Do one about interviews:
1. What to wear: shoes, hairstyles, bags, etc.
2. How to speak
3. Body language
You know the drill. Love you so much!
Thank you! Noted 😉
Soothing and calming voice : the highest form of etiquette.
thank you!
I'd love to watch videos on:
1. How to dress
2. How to look confident in every situation
3. How to speak confidently when you're nervous
4. How to make small talks
5. How to make conversation with someone you don't have much common with
6. What to talk about when you accidentally bump into some old friend
7. How to walk properly
8. How to greet your guests
9. How to behave properly when you're a guest
10. How to NOT look rude
I’ll try to help.
1. How to dress
Be yourself but tilt towards classical designs. History has a way of filtering out bad tastes.
2. How to look confidently in all situations.
This question is too broad.
3. How to speak confidently when nervous
Avoid speaking and instead ask questions to obtain more clarity about the situation.
4. How to make small talks
Avoid small talking, except to put attention on the other person, not yourself, with genuine kindness. Never involve degrading topics about someone not in the room.
I’ll stop there..
I need to stop cursing after every word first
I relate to your problem a 100%
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Avoid listening to songs and watching TV that uses curse words. Also avoid people who you talk to who use curse words.
@@gracemaina6593 so I basically need to un friend all my friends and stop watching TV 🤣🤣🤣 thanks for the advice hun 🐣
Same
Jamila, please do hair etiquettes. Maybe styles or something too
Will take it into account ☺️
And make-up please
Yes please! ✌🏻
I love you content, I also really like your soft pitched voice. Because I'm very sensitive to sounds, sometimes I click on a video but I really can't keep watching it because of the person's voice. But yours is soooo soothing.
Thank you very much! ❤️
Same. I often have my volume at 2 and sometimes I'll click on a video and they are shouting so loud that when I try to turn them down I unintentionally mute them😂.
Since we are moving to phase of virtual meetings/webinars, please make a video on Video Conferencing etiquettes?
Points like-
-things to remember if you are taking meeting from home,
- how much camera frame should cover
- something to note if you are hosting the conference
Your recommendations are noted ☺️
@@JamilaMusayeva Looking forward to more of your videos 🙂
Yes please!!
@@JamilaMusayeva yes please...
5:12 still i would recomend u to see from start but time is important so here u go
Confidence comes from doing something you're not good at ✨
Thank you so much for sharing that story. Just gets to show that if you practise anything is possible.
I used to have a terrible fear of public speaking and also doing videos. But the more I do it the easier it gets. Loved this video 😊
Thank you for saying this! ☺️
I would love a video about table manners: correctly setting a table, how to use the appropiate spoon for each course that requires it, not to make noises when chewing... those kind of things.
You can see my video on dinner etiquette ☺️
She already made a video about that "dining etiquettes" you can watch that if you like.😊
@@JamilaMusayeva i have watched many of your videos and i use those techniques while sitting in classroom an all. Everyone makes fun of my walk they say i walk like a lame person i don't know what's so wrong in my walk but i watched your video about walking so i try to do that but lots of time i still stumble I don't know why..thank you for making these videos.. i would love if you could help me because i feel uncomfortable while sitting for a long time because I can't sit still for hours If you could tell us about what to do when you start feeling uncomfortable in such situations when you have to continuously sit for hours no matter what. And once again thank you for making such videos and helping us. 😊😊😊
I am much louder when I speak and that was the problem I always get irritated of. always I think about to change it but I can't. You know when I get more interested on a conversation I automatically become louder and after that I get embarrassed of that. After seeing your videos I understood how much pretty and amazing is when people speak very calmly & slowly.I love the way you speak, you smile and everything. God Bless You & Hoping for more videos.❤❤ Much love from Kerala(India).🙏❤
Thank you very much! ☺️
@@JamilaMusayeva ❤😊
omg I have the same problem I can't speak loud enough ... and if I do speak loudly for even an hour I loss my voice😊 thanks god am not alone 😂 and BTW thank you for your courage to film this video because we human cant be perfect in every thing and that what makes us unique 💕✨
That is very true! But we can all work on ourselves ☺️
You have to learn to use your diaphragm :) Taking (classical) singing lessons can be helpful
I understand completely when you speak of "projecting" your voice. My mother always told my sister and me that, "Ladies do not speak loudly". But she never said anything about laughing. Hence, I speak softly and I laugh quite loudly! 😁
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It would be really nice if you had a podcast...your voice is honestly so soothing
Thank you!
I'm in love with your videos! You're so intelligent and sweet. I've been studying etiquette on my own for the past 7 months, and you're one of the few consultants that don't sound judgemental or pretentious when speaking about elegance. Thank you so much for that! Kisses from Brazil 💕
Happy to hear that 🙏🏻
Thank you so much for this amazing video Jamila. Your content is really helpful! Keep it up 💕
Honestly, I am so grateful to you for all your guidance through your videos ❤️.
Jamila I feel so empowered by your videos, thank you.
These lady etiquettes does not go unnoticed. Subscribed and Listening.
love your voice, it is so soothing! Lovely to listen to. 🥰
You radiate so much of positivity. So calming and relaxing your voice is.. i am learning from you❤️❤️ thankyou for your contribution to make us better!
Your intention of teaching can be seen. You are teaching with all of your heart. I love this about you, you are being honest. You are teaching honestly. Would love to learn more from you. And above all, proud of you, and loving you with my heart and grateful ofcourse as you are helping me groom my self. Thank You ❤️
I am happy to hear that! ❤️
finally, most awaited. thank you for making this video :)
You are welcome 🙏🏻
I spend my whole day just on watching ur videos!😍❤️🙏🙏
Every point mentioned was super helpful and thought provoking, it definitely makes sense how this cud help improve us
Thank you so much for all these videos. I learn new things with every one I watch. You are truly a great teacher.
I love your videos! Could you do a video on car etiquette? Like how to enter and exit a vehicle in a more proper way. I feel like I lack the grace in that area and don't know how to fix that.
Thank you! ☺️ Noted!
Yes! Im like, "wait, do I enter the car like this? Should a lady be driving? What do it do?" Lol
Yes! And how to get in and out of a car gracefully with an umbrella too.
I feel so calm when you speak. So glad you made this video!
Thank you!
Finally this is the video I was waiting for ❤
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It is truly a delight watching you Jamila. Thank you for sharing your grace and pleasance with us. So glad I found your channel :)
You are very welcome ☺️
So spot on! I really enjoy listening to your voice and the information your imparting 🥰
Thank you! 🙏🏻
I'm 16yrs old
Whenever I'm angry, depressed,sad I listen your voice it's best relief
I am happy to hear that my videos are helpful to you 🙏🏻
I would also suggest praying. Jesus always gives me joy when I’m feel depressed 😊
I was waiting for this video. I'm your new subscriber and I'm learning a lot from you. Thank you Jamila❤️
Welcome to my channel ☺️
This channel has quickly become one of my favourites. Thank you so much for sharing so much, I always learn a lot ❤
Thanks a lot!
Thank you for your videos,your voice is a beautiful gift.
Thank you so much for an informative guide towards being a good speaker. God bless you.
Jamila!!! This video came at the perfect time for me because I have a big virtual event this weekend. Thank you so much. You are incredible! I wish you were my mentor ❤
Thank you! I am happy to hear that ☺️
Thank you so much for this video! ❣️ I have read a lot of articles but this helped me (perhaps helpful for all of those who watched for sure) to be a better speaker!😊
I want you to know that (not bragging) I didn't use my headphones and you sounded quite soft and your voice is so low that I volumed to the limit and it didn't cross my room even when it was almost midnight and nobody was annoyed😂💝
I started watching your videos just 2 days before and I must say that your content is really helpful. Thanks a lot.
Thank you! 🙏🏻
Hello!!
I start watching your videos from the past few days😄
And glad to see you teaching about these things in so brief and in an easy way which I always wanted to learn.✨✨
Thank you so very much, dear!
I truly appreciate your work!💯❤
Thank you again with all my heart😊😊
You are very welcome!
Thank you very much for this video! You always present very interesting Content and I'm happy when I see a notification! :) The point that I found the most interesting is that we have a cultural difference in Volume in Speech.
You are very welcome 🙏🏻☺️
Jamila , i love your voice and i really want to thank you for these tips you gave . All of these have been coming handy and i really cant thank you enough. Lots of love💓
You are very welcome ☺️
I'm so grateful for your content, dear. "Accent + speed = disaster". I totally agree. I'm a native French speaker and every time I tend to speed when speaking in English it's a bit not elegant. Thanks a lot for your advices. 🌱🌱🌱
You have a nice tone of voice..🥰i love the way you speak..This video is really helpful..thumbs up!👍
Thank you for the Video Jamila. I have take notes and I will implement the tips. Congratulations for the great work, it is helping me a lot in so many areas of my life. Greetings.
So happy to hear that! 🙏🏻
I love your voice, it is so soothing! Lovely to listen to. 🥰
Thank you!
very informative! Thank you for posting these kinds of videos. It is helping me improve into a better person.
I am happy to hear that ☺️
Thank you! You're such a nice person sharing your knowledge and experiences with us. . Your viceos are very useful and informative. I like your sweet voice🙌🌹
Thank you for your kind words 🙏🏻
Love your videos ❤️❤️ I am learning so many new things!!!!! 🙏🏻🙏🏻 Thanks so much 😊😊
You are welcome!
Loved ❤️ this video! Thank you for taking the time to make this :)
I'd love to see you talk about, how to give a good presentation and the aftermath, answering the questions the audience may have.
Much love!
Thank you! Your recommendation is noted ☺️
I'm a new subscriber and in love with your content! You are sharing very valuable information in such a classy and sweet manner, thank you for all what you are doing! Sending you lots of love and gratitude
Thank you very much! ☺️
i swear everything you say sound so interesting, like you really have the gift of comunication!! you're amazing!
Thank you 🙏🏻
Great lesson. Really we need it. Thank you very much.
"Thank you Jamila for sharing about the soft skill. Its relate with my job & help me improving my skills." 👍
Jamila, you’re just awesome! Totally an inspiration to me. The way you speak, the way you dress, the way you address things, in short I love all the things about you. I can listen to you all day long. Thank you so much for making this video. ❤️☺️
Thank you so much! ❤️
Your work is so helpful. Thank you for everything.
You are welcome ☺️
Fantastic presentation! I'm glad that you discussed the issue with annunciation. I deal with customers that need to watch your video. Thank you again for your valuable tips.
You are welcome
Thank you for sharing about the struggles and how you are working to overcome. Your voice is quite lovely. I find it very elegant and refined.
Thank you 🙏🏻
Pls keep on posting daily or at least twice a week we need this content....
I really like your video, this is absolutely useful! I am a very shy person and tend to speak softly in front of people, usually presenting a speech/ PowerPoint. I also tend to blush and speak with "emm" continuously as I'm not so confident of myself. Many teachers comment that they can't hear my voice when I'm talking but I actually thought that I spoke loud enough but not to others. With this video, I hope I can be more confident to speak loudly and powerfully.
I am happy to hear that! ☺️🙏🏻
I like you. I watched a few videos and showed my little daughter the walk and sit etiquette. We enjoyed them. The blooper video also 😄
I geniully like some of tips and write down on sticky notes and pin over everywhere ...so that i can see and follow reguarly during mirror practice....thanku sweetheart😘
You are very welcome ☺️
Every video of yours is inspiring. Thanks so much for the video. 😊
Thank you! 🙏🏻
It's good to know that breathing is so important for speaking as it's for singing. I like that people have their own voice and you can recognise it.
This is my favourite video among all of your videos on your channel. Very professional informative, also love the examples that you made, e.g. Margaret Sacher. Please keep going at this direction and similar topics.
Thank you very much ☺️
Much needed content maam, thankyou so much🙏
You are welcome ☺️
Thank you so much ...❤️✨ it is so useful for me as I am not confident to talk in public ... thank you once again ✨
You are welcome ☺️
I discontinued drinking coffee because i always felt that it didn't help at all throughout the day,but thank you so much because now i know why water helps more.
Your voice is so relaxing ♥️
Thank you!
wow, ma'am every lecture of you add much value to us. You happily share many important tips to us. Very professionally you speak without hurting others and also by not giving fraud information, Very useful what you say. Kindly do more videos on public speaking if possible . Always great thank you
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As expected, I always learn something new whenever I watch your videos. I have to admit, some of these I already know but a lot of the times I completely neglect doing them. Your videos always serve as a good reminder and are really helping a lot of us rebuild our foundations ♥️ Thank you, Jamila
I am happy to hear that! ☺️
Thank you very much Madame. I love your teachings 💕
Thank you 🙏🏻
Hello, I recently discovered your videos and they are super helpful ! Thank you for your content.
You are welcome ☺️
Cheers from Bulgaria, dear Jamila! I've just stumbled upon your channel and love the presentation, advice and charisma you give off. Wishing you lots of success! An idea for a possible video: the etiquette of giving and receiving gifts, especially with the Christmas season coming for many people. Of course, it could just be about gifts for people who are our business partners, colleagues, etc. I know that some objects and colours vary across cultures. All the best!🌹
Thank you very much for your kind words. And great idea for video. Will note it down ☺️
The first feature of your videos to catch my atention and keep me watching was precisely your voice. It's kind, pacient and has a good volume. Thank you for your hard work and your kindness.
Thank you for your kind words ☺️🙏🏻
Very helpful video. I love it, and your way of speaking is very beautiful and respectful.
Thank you 😊
I absolutely LOVE your voice! Its sooo relaxing. The perfect pitch and pace for me! Its so funny how some things that seem like failures in life turn out to be the greatest asset. Your voice is definitely something that sticks out in the Greatest way! Its very feminine and lady like!
Thank you for saying this 🙏🏻
Thanks for all your delightful tips 🌺🙏🏽 I think, another thing I will add is to look our audience in the eyes (without staring), a little like you do in your videos. When we're stressed, or too much in our heads (and trust me, I know), we tend to look away because we're thinking at the same time and not fully mindful of our interlocutor. So, yeah, I would add, finding a way to connect with the audience, through smiling and eye contact is a great way to go. Sometimes, our presentation would be average, but because our presence and level of "intimacy" with people was on point, people will remember us as very interesting and relatable.
Absolutely! ☺️👍🏻
Hi Jamila , I'm from Philippines ❤️ I really love your videos, it helps me a lot!
Thank you!
Yes! Waiting for this 😍
Thank you! ☺️
thank you very much. i really appropriate your videos and look forward to more of your content. 🌻
Thank you!
Thank you for the wonderful tips. They are very helpful.
You are welcome ☺️
Thanks for the good feedback on good public speaking! So informative!
You are welcome
I just stumbled upon in this channel. This is good for self improvement.
Thank you! Glad to hear that ☺️
Clear and refined presentation. Thank you.
Thank you!
You’re speaking so beautifully ♥️♥️And I see a real lady through you♥️♥️♥️
Thank you!
Thank you so much for this wonderful video 💖
I love your videos I learn so much elegance from you.😍😘
So happy to hear that!
Her smile is so contagious
Aaww, i Fell in love with you because of your voice and style of speaking, i love to hear you all day. Lots of love Jamila.
Nighat
Thank you ☺️
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💕🦋🦋♥️🌸🌸Thankyou! Elegance is a strong word that not all people have and some things cannot CANNOT BE REPLACED WITH MONEY OR WORDS!! You learn that as you grow. 💕♥️♥️🦋🌸🌸
Thank you 😊
Jamila your full of etiquette. The way your eyes moves , soft voice and happy gesture. I can listen all day. no need to speak 😅 Your best teacher... I am sure one day I be turn into a gentlemen under your Jamila channel. Thank you for awesome Channel.
Have Good Day/ Night Mam 😊🌺
I am happy to hear that! ☺️
and FAKE!
Thank you for those very interesting advices!
Excellent content, thank you for these wonderful tips. I’m a work in progress, developing the best version of myself.
You are welcome!
Your video is amazing. Thank you for all your inspiring information.
Thank you!
Thank you, sweetie for this video, love it!!!!
You are welcome!
Hello Jamila ,thank you so much for this video ,i found it pretty helpful as im working on my voice 💯
Thank you