My mum died 12 weeks ago, I was there for everything, I was her carer n I looked after her at home until she passed which she did in my arms ...god I miss her. Julie and her vids enabled me to get through the whole thing. Cannot express the gratitude I feel x
My mum died 9 weeks ago and I was in the same position as you. I wish I’d have known about this channel then. I did not know what to expect and our hospice nurses were lovely but I felt they lacked in communicating to me what they were noticing about where my mum was at. I would have liked them to be more forward.
Thank you Julie - I was afraid of death , but after helping my beloved mother with her transition, I learned to embrace the natural process. The spirit never dies. ❤️🙏🏼
@@electrictroy2010 If you don’t believe in an afterlife, you don’t believe in God. God preached an afterlife in His Word. If you don’t believe in a God, you believe life came from non-life. That makes no sense. No one has ever seen life come from non-life. We have seen, however, life come from life. If you think there’s no God, you are more illogical than you think.
Julie that’s exactly how my wife was breathing before she passed. Thanks for helping me understand how dying is and easing my mind that she was unconscious and didn’t suffer. Thanks for what you do! You don’t realize how much this means to me and my family!
Neither one of my parents did this while dying and I'm glad because I would have thought they were suffering. Its a wonderful thing to teach people about the dying process, so they won't think their loved one is suffering. Thank you.☺
I saw my dad breathing like this not long before he died. No one ever explained what I was witnessing. I am so glad to know now that he wasn’t suffering…..❤️
Same here. I wish I knew then, what I have learned from watching these videos. But, it has relieved the stress of remembering how my dad was in those last few days.
@@bhallmark3390 Same here!! My dad passed away 2 years ago. Sending you lots of love and hugs 🥹❤️❤️ it was so traumatising for me to see him and thought he was suffering too. I was 22
Thank you for posting this. I watched this video yesterday. My elderly dog was scheduled for euthanasia later today (she's just a month shy of 19yrs old and quit eating/drinking yesterday). I observed this breathing pattern in her this morning. She just passed a few minutes ago. I appreciate you posting this for educational purposes because I immediately recognized it when I saw it and it helped me to know what stage she was in and to not be afraid. I was also able to explain to the family what was happening so they weren't afraid either. I am very grateful to you for what you do, whether we are processing death and dying in our human loved ones or in beloved furry friends, you are doing a wonderful service by helping us to understand.
Thank you, everyone. I truly appreciate the well wishes and kind words. That's something we will never forget, as they really do mean a lot to us. Much love to all.
Sorry for your loss. By her age, I can only assume you took great care of her and gave her a happy life. My cat passed away about a month ago and we watched her go through this too. Odd thing was her eyes just stayed open for a couple of hours during the ordeal. Glad to know she wasn't struggling to breathe and hopefully was unconscious.
My husband, his sister & I were with my mother-in-law when she passed. She did this type of breathing for about an hour before passing. The 1st time she appeared to stop breathing, we thought she was gone , but then she began breathing again. Judie, I agree with you that watching a loved one pas is a beautiful thing! It had such a profound impact on me! In a way, I sorta feel like I “helped” her to cross over. My sis-in-law was on one side of her bed, holding her mom’s hand. I was on the other side of the bed stroking her face and moistening her lips. My husband was sitting nearby in a chair, just taking it all in. We were saying positive, soothing comments to her repeatedly. Earlier that evening, before she “fell into her deep sleep”, when I moistened her lips with water, she whispered, “Ahhhh, Pepsi”! That was the last thing she said! 🥹
I just want to say thank you so much for your videos. My mom passed this morning, a year after being diagnosed with ALS. Ive been watching your videos and thankful for them as I have watched my mom this last on her journey to the end. Everything from death rattle, motteling, and breathing were right on and I think without having watched your videos, this experience would be a lot more traumatizing.
My mum is end stages of dementia, she hasn’t been able to move, walk, talk, eat anything except blended foods, she sleeps all day and never opens her eyes and has been this way for years. She started Cheynes stotts breathing last year, and doctors prepared us that she was at the end. A year later she is still here. It’s heartbreakingly prolonged and drawn out.
I haven’t been with a dying family member or friend yet but thank God for you Nurse Julie, making these videos! I always knew that someone dying experiences many things, because I’ve heard “tell” of it from others. Your videos give one an idea what to expect, true… But they also let one know, of what they’ve heard, which is true or not. Thanks so much for this.
I am a care-giver and just went through this last week with a long time client of mine. She died very peacefully. Hospice is so wonderful! Love your channel.
Learned about this in nursing classes but have seen this and diaphragmatic breathing in relatives as well. There are signs that you start to pick up on and there comes a point when you just love the person and that’s about all you can do. I have to believe they can feel it somehow. What an honor and a privilege to get to be there for these patients, but especially their families. It’s a calling. I hope my family has someone like that when my end is near. I also hope that I live a life so that my family will want to be there for me, but don’t know that I want them to go through that. So many heart wrenching choices for the loved ones of these patients.
thank you, Julie ... I watched my dad go through that and I was terrified at the time - so nice to know it was normal and to know it isn't them being panicked. You are helping so many with the death of their loved ones - God bless !
To be with a loved one as he passes away is an endearing experience. I was with my father when he passed away. I felt like I escorted him to eternity's door and he slipped on thru. I wasn't overcome with grief but with peace. Those who you truly love with your heart there never really is a separation. It is truly a sacred experience.
This is a wonderful thing that you are doing. Educating the public about death. I took a psych clasd in school and studied kubler Ross teaching. I wish this info had also been included in the course. We should not fear death. ❤
I’m going to be volunteering after the required class(es). You’re videos will help me to recognize when someone is uncomfortable and offer support to those who don’t have loved ones or friends
Thank you for all your information and support. My mother is 95 and bedridden. Most of her tendons have contracted. She cannot unbend her knees and her right hand is rolled into a loose fist. It’s difficult to see because she was so active all her life. Tennis, running, baking and enjoying a glass of wine at sunset on the beach. My dad was doped up on morphine when he died and I don’t remember seeing any of the symptoms you’ve shared here. I just noticed that he wasn’t breathing anymore. His mouth was open though. Before the morphine kicked in I had to keep moisturizing his mouth with one of those sponge things. He did go peacefully and that was good. I’m hoping the same for my mom. Your videos have been so helpful though and I really appreciate them. Thank you so very much.
Thanks Julie. Your videos are SO educational! I so wish I knew all this info many years ago when I witnessed my dear Father in law pass away! His death traumatised me but now I realise his actively dying process was so normal. Bless you for this privileged insight!××
Thanks Julie for continuing to post amazing and honest stories that educate the public on death and dying. ❤ I’ve seen a patient have Cheyne Stokes pattern with up to 90 seconds of apnea/not breathing(!)- leading into the last few days of life. They were comfortable (!) but I was shocked by the length of time because I had seen periods of not breathing for under minute with cheyne stokes before that.
Thank you for your content. My father died 20 years ago but this has help me to understand the things that scared me about the process then, when I was 30. Since then I’ve always been a little nervous about my own passing when it comes
Thank you for all of your videos. I've had three people die in my arms. The first was my 13 day old son. He died of viral sepsis. It was absolutely horrible 🥺 I'm still not over losing him and died in 1998. I guess that's something you never really get over. You just learn to deal with the pain 💔 The second was my uncle. He had cancer . I and my mother took care of him in the end and my mom, the amazing person she was, somehow knew he was about to die. So she called me into his room. I saw the distance look in his eyes that you spoke of , and I crawled in bed with him , I placed my head on his chest and told him it was ok to go home. No sooner then I said that, he passed peacefully away. The last person.. I don't want to say was the hardest but it was definitely the most HORRIFIC.. I was working at Golden Corral in Portsmouth Va. I noticed this frail elderly man and his wife come in. Something about him really caught my eye. I looked down at his wrist and saw he had a hospital bracelet on. So I made a mental note of this and continue to work. As I was carrying a large tray of plates and cups I saw that the man and the woman had left their seats but left their stuff in their seats. As I'm walking to the back to take back to take back the plates and cups, I see the older gentleman stumbling out of the bathroom . I knew then something was very wrong! All of a sudden he drops to the floor ! I drop the large tray that I'm carrying to the ground and run to his aid. His wife is nowhere in sight. I'm cradling him in my arms screaming for one of my co-workers to please help me and to call 911. One of my managers literally walks right over top of us and says " Oh just leave him he's just DRUNK ! " I yell angrily back, " NO HE'S NOT !! HES DYING GOD PLEASE HELP ME !!" EVERYONE continues to work and casually walks RIGHT OVER TOP OF US giving us absolutely NO AID or HELP and NOT CALLING 911 ! My cell phone was in the back and I was not about to leave this man's side. When I was a teenager I was taught how to do CPR but at this point I was in shock because this man looked like a fish out of water. His eyes were bulging out of his head and his mouth was foaming and gaping back and forth like he was trying to get his last bits of air. Any training that I had was COMPLETELY out the window ! FINALLY a customer was kind enough to call 911. The only thing I could think to do for this poor sweet old man was to hold him close to me and tell him over and over and over, that I loved him. To me ,The thought of him dying in strangers arms in a strange place without being loved terrified me! And I meant every single word of what I said ! Even though I had never met this man before with every fiber of my being, I loved him ! Finally, the paramedics got there. They took over, and that's when I broke down into tears. I stood at the front door watching them take him into the ambulance. I finally saw his wife slowly walked to the ambulance as well. My head boss came over to me and asked if I was okay. With tears rolling down my face I told her no. I asked her, because she had walked outside to check on the gentleman, if the man was going to be okay. I will never forget what she said,.. "Honey .. he was dead in your arms.." No sooner than she had said that one of the same assholes that had ignored the gentleman and I came up to me and said, " Hay can you come sing Happy Birthday to someone with me?" I stared at this asshole in disbelief ! HOW DARE HE! Here I was begging him and everyone else to help save a man's life and they walked over us like we were shit on the ground !! But he had the UTTER AUDACITY to ask me to sing Happy Birthday to someone with him?! Are you kidding me right now!? So that's what I pretty much said to him. I told him and my main boss that this place was utter and adulteratedly evil! If they could walk over someone begging for help with a person dying in their arms and ignore them like they were just less than a person and 20 minutes later act like nothing even happened I could be no part of this corporation. So I told them all to go f themselves and that I quit ! I hate the fact that I didn't do more for this poor man. I hate the fact that I panicked and I didn't even attempt CPR. But my soul was telling me that this man needed to know that he was loved more than anything. So I hope and I PRAY If anything like this ever happens again that I do the same thing with telling the person that I love them but that I don't freak out to the point that I cannot give them life-saving care. I honestly believe that poor sweet man should have never been released from the hospital in the first place. Welp ,Those are my stories of the ones who have passed away in my arms. And if this is what Yahuah the Heavenly Father has in store for me.. For me to be there for the ones moving on to the next life... Maybe I should think about doing what you do? Maybe it would help me deal with death a little better? Because each time, so far, that I've had someone die in my arms, I went into shock and lost 3 days of my life. I don't know... What do you think? Ok well I love you girly ❤ Keep doing what you do ! YOU'RE AMAZING!! ❤🥰❤
You showed up and thank you for that. Astounding how others will act. Your heart shows…and you were an earth angel that day for that man. I personally want to kick your manager, and Birthday Bozo! Yeah in our mid 20s we were in a very busy large restaurant. Sunday crowd. 4 happy old ladies were being guided to a table, obvious friends. They were maybe 70 to 80 yrs old but none looked frail. Well the one old dear collapsed. Friends were shocked, horrified, upset. Waitress was maybe 22 and wasn’t mean but didn’t know what to do with the lady at her feet. This lady was blocking the main path in the restaurant. My hubby jumped in and talked soothingly but confidently to them all. Got the patient laying flat, her friends to back up. All were in shock doing nothing, just staring. He got someone to call 911. We all did not have phones then. (1990) . You know the waitress and staff literally started walking over the patient to keep working. Not providing any normal response like they cared but more inconvenienced. Hubby put a stop to that. He asked for a coat to put over her midsection. Her bladder had released. Her friends were embarrassed for her. He took her vitals and a nurse in the restaurant appeared and took over until paramedics arrived. He assisted her. I stayed out of the way. We both were quite upset with how people and especially staff responded to the unconscious woman in distress. I asked him how she was, and he shook his head and said she was already gone. Nurse and him knew it. Greatly upsetting her shocked friends. People just carried on. Often this happens in groups/crowds. Thinking someone else will deal with it. Hubby is a first responder so his inclination is to always jump in. He was upset noone cared about her dignity. Literally just walking over her. Not even asking after her.
I'm not a nurse, first responder, EMT or doctor but I am a bioethicist. We get called in when people don't know what to do in an unusual or difficult medical situation such as when decisions about life support have to be made. One of the things we are taught is that CPR in reality is very very different then most people think or as it is depicted on TV. To do CPR effectively, the recipient's ribs often have to be broken and it only works in about 5-10% of cases. If the gentleman you held was actively dying, as he seems to have been, CPR would have done more harm than good. You did the right thing. Your intuition was accurate and your empathy helped to make his leaving the world easier and probably less frightening. It tells me how deeply you feel and how beautiful a person you are when you say that you've lost three days of your life each time you have confronted death. Your reactions and the need to take care of yourself in the wake of those circumstances is as normal and natural as is the dying process itself. In contrast, indifference and selfishness are learned acquired responses. Society will reap what it sows. As to the specific attitude and actions of those who were actively a negative influence in your initial comment and the reply that followed, I ask anyone who might be tempted to react in so callous a manner if they would want to be treated similarly when they are in extremis? Maybe if we didn't spend so much time signaling virtue, we could and would actually practice it. Someone said that evil consists in good men doing nothing.
Samantha thank you for sharing and caring. What a beautiful thing you did in each circumstance. Your compassion will come back to you in ways you can never expect…probably already has. If I’m ever in distress I hope you are around🌸
My parents died within six months of each other. I was with both them. My dad did this kind of breathing. Several times I thought he had gone only to have him suddenly start breathing again. My mother did not breathe like this. Her respirations just got shallower and shallower. You could barely see any chest movement. And, then, she just stopped breathing and she was gone. Both of my parents had hospice care. God bless you and all the dedicated and caring people who provide hospice care and support.
Thanks for doing what you are doing! It is so important to normalize a natural dying process. I have worked many years in carehomes and hospice myself. It is so necessary we don't panic and we keep calm for the dying person. Great work Julie
I witnessed my uncle’s passing in a Cardiac ICU in 2007. He was on life support and pain relief and a machine was doing the breathing for him so didn’t observe any Cheyne Stoking but thank you Julie for sharing this and talking us through it. You made it seem less confronting and if I am ever witness to something like this again I’ll know what to expect and recognise it if it happens. Thank you so much 🙏
Thank you for this. I was my dad's carer a year ago. He passed. I was so worried about exactly this breathing. If only I knew. All your clips are, in hindsight, to the point. Wish I understood actively dying then😢 I miss my dad❤
Both my parents died a year apart at home with me. They both did this and I knew the time we had was coming to an end. I wish that I could just hear their voices one more time. I miss them so much!
Julie, you have proven with every one of your videos that "knowledge is power". We tend to fear what we don't know or understand. You are giving us the knowledge to eliminate that fear. Thank you for all you do! God bless! ❤❤❤
Hi Julie, thanks for the video, I'm a nurse associate (UK, rank of nurse) I work o an ED and I've heard of cheyne stokes breathing and having watched this I've definitely seen it before, I just never made the connection.
Thank you Julie. I used to avoid anything that mentioned death. So obviously that's exactly why I'm terrified of it. You have definitely helped me a little. I also think your channel helps people to open up about the loved ones they have lost. Typing it out on here helps I think. That can only be a good thing.
Thank you for normalizing the end of life.Before I became a nurse, I used to be a caregiver to the elderly. I loved talking with them and they had such a matter-of-fact way of discussing their eventual death, that it was comforting to me. When I worked in a hospital and did post- mortem care, that just helped me even more.
Thanks for sharing. I was with my grandmother, mom, dad and step-dad when they passed and with my grandad a day or two before and right after. There are so many similarities but there are differences too But all of them were basically in a coma like state. I feel very blessed to have shared their last moments with them
I saw this so many times in thirty years of nursing, ten years later this brings back so many memories. At this point I'd checking the lower extremities for mottling.
I find all your videos and comments very educational. It's important to know what's normal during active dying. I would rather know and be comforted with the knowledge the ignorant and afraid. Thank you for sharing your experience and knowledge
Thank you for bringing these videos to our attention. I've always been afraid of the dying process. Your videos help to normalize a process that our culture has lost touch with and that previous generations knew to expect.
Thank you nurse Julia. I witnessed by brother-in-law's cheyne-stokes some years back and didn't know what it was. After he passed, I thought alot about that time I saw that kind of breathing. During the time I was up in his room with him, I thought maybe he could hear me speak to him while the breathing stopped. I would say his name close to his ear and I would hear a slight noise like he was responding and just told him how much we all Loved him. I did it several times and had to stop, because I couldn't stop crying. Maybe he heard me or maybe he didn't. I'm not sure. Anyway, this is remarkable that you bring this particular type of activity to us. I do Thank You from the bottom of my heart. I use to think alot about it, but with your testimony of what this is, hopefully I won't think of it as often. God Bless you Julia. Your heart is in the right place and it's a Good Heart.🌹 Doug
My husband passed away 2 weeks ago. You describe his last few minutes of his life. I was not scared at all but now I know it’s regular to die that way. I thought everyone has death rattle but he didn’t. Thank you for explaining and I am grateful that you do these videos. You made me more calm when he passed away.
This not my normal scene. Being a paramedic we deal with death,but not usually end of life. We only have contact with natural death if we're doing a transport to or from hospice care, this was very helpful to me to see a peaceful death, my dealings with death and dying usually of the traumatic type,and we would jump in and try to preserve life. Thank you for helping those that have no idea what to expect during the process, me being one of them 🌞
I have been through this in the most unpleasant way with my Mama. What you are saying now just makes me feel better, like we all (10 children) didn't know that the weird manifestations of her death were just normal dying stages of a human being.
That's what my Mom did. I'm so glad that one of us (my brother or I ) were with her. She had a 'good' death. Thank you for your videos. This does so much to comfort survivors.
I appreciate the people that share these videos. I appreciate all you teach because it helps me not to be aftaid of death gor myself and for my family.
Nice exammple of cheyne-stokes breathing. Personally I have this generally when I am in Rem Sleep and and my related breathing and heart issues cause this to happen. I generally stop breathing for up to almost a minute between breaths. My Resmed 10 reports these periodically and sometimes for over 30 minutes worth of Rem sleep often with obstructive apnea mixed in. I have had this erratic breathing condition since I was a teenager and I am now 70. Some nights I sleep excellent and other nights I look like someone breathing their last due to my medical issues. I plan on keeping alive until God called me home. Keep up the excellent informational videos.
Thank you for having the courage to educate people on such an important topic. Your videos are some of the most consequential on RUclips. Also, congratulations on your sobriety. I have been a friend of Bill's since 1989. Our lives really do get better than our wildest dreams. Take care.
Julie my dear. My mom had her 2nd major stroke on 2-28-23 & passed away here at home on 4-4-23. I wanted to be a little bit more informed as what it might look like for her or if something changed with her it was normal. Our Hospice situation was probably the worst imaginable! I learned more from you than them. What I’m really trying to say is “Thank you!”.
Thank you Julie, I watch your videos all the time. This though would definitely feel like she was having a hard time breathing, it's one thing to understand something and another to know it's normal
To have seen this without knowing what is happening would be so horrific! It would fuel my nightmares for the rest of my life. Thank you so much for teaching and explaining this normal biological process!
I want to thank you so much for all of your time and videos… everything you have stated here, were indeed fact, with what my sig other went through… he was in Hospice and what you describe here is exactly what occurred… During his final days, your videos helped me more than you can even know….. and for that I want to “ Thank You Again”! Bless the heart/hearts, that your videos bring to the next family……!
It’s much more alarming when the dying person is rattling too. My Grandma was rattling SO loud we didn’t even really notice what else was going on, and I used to work on an oncology ward so was used to seeing cheyne-stoking and hearing the rattle. I don’t know if it was just so much more alarming because it was my own Grandma but in the end I was as shocked as everyone else by the volume.
I Love how you Explain & Educate so many of Us on the End of Life... So that when it happens, we're not Terrified, as we might've been for Ourselves or the other Person, had we not been Educated by you. Unfortunately, like many Things in our World, Death has been Shoved in a Dark Closet w/ a Sign that says "Do Not Enter, What in here is Scary & Taboo!" Thank you for Breaking the Stigma Surrounding Death, bc as you say - It's as Natural a Part of our Lives as Birth. ❤
Thank you for showing a natural death breathing When I first started out in nursing the death and dying was just a philosophy Now it's part of the teaching in the medical field and mandatory We've come along way baby 🤗🤗🤗🤘🤘🤘🙏🙏🙏🦋
There are cases of Cheyn Stokes breathing that don’t involve actively dying. Probably witnessed most often by caregivers of those who have TBI or Spastic quadraplegic Cerebral Palsy or some other kind of brain damage. Don’t want any caregivers panicking. I panicked or was very concerned when I was first told my loved one was breathing this way, but talked with the Pulmonologist who eased my fears of my loved one being in an actively dying stage. It’s been several years ago and my medically fragile loved one is still blessing us with her beautiful soul.
Thank you for explaining at the last part of the video. I was actually wondering if he was conscious because I saw his head tilt a little bit, closed his mouth once and swallowed. Initially, I was thinking- GOSH! he has difficulty in breathing and he's mentally aware of what's happening. Again, thanks for explaining. We all have to be ready because this is the common fate that we all need to face one day.
My mom recently died of lung cancer; it was very quick & I didn't get a chance to see her until she was well medicated and unconscious. She breathed similar to this & I couldn't help but feel worried and scared that she was 'aware' that she couldn't take a full breath. After watching this video, I think it was just her body going through the process. Thank you for making these videos; I'm going through them because, even though my experience was quick and sudden, I just want the reassurance. Thank you again.
Thank you for all you do. My husband has genetic CHF (his mom passed from it). His EF is between 10% and 15%. We've pretty much exhausted all available treatments. Also Dad is on hospice.😢
Thank you 🙏💖 I 've been afraid of death för a very long time , but I finally understand its nothing to be afraid of.. This Will really help me a lot ❤ have old parents and want to be there until there final breath 🙏
Everyone in my life has died but I wish I'd know this back then. You are doing such a good thing for people. May I add your makeup is lovely and how's that guy you told us about?
I have a question: How is it we can end an animal's suffering saying it is the right thing to do BUT YET it's soo wrong to do for a human? Animal medicine is humane unlike human medicine which is VERY CRUEL by not ending a person's suffering due to serious injuries/ diseases.
Animals can’t write their own living will it’s possible this person signed a DNR but their POA has ordered to continue all life saving measures. You have to realize tho this person is dying .. the plug has been pulled you don’t do anything with this person they won’t be alive much longer as mentioned in the video this normal.
I watched my Father in this form of breathing as sat with him one evening in the Hospital . He was dying of COPD . That night at 3am I got the call from his wife the he was gone . I think at that moment I was relieved that he was not suffering as I saw it .
The information that you share in your videos to educate people on The dying experience is so helpful. I think it helps to take the fear and mystery out of the process, and that's important because death is a part of life. Thank you, Julie.
My BIL passed away at home (we lived with him) and he was in hospice. when he started doing this it scared the you know what out of me. Even though the hospice nurse prepared us for it, it does not compare to actually seeing it. When he had his long moments of not breathing I had all I could do not to go over and shake him to get him breathing again. Although I had lost almost my whole family (both sides), this was the first I was a caregiver and watched someone just fade away. I have to admit I learned so much about the dying process and the signs of it. I never knew all the changes that happen in the body that tells signs of the body preparing for death.. I have so much respect for hospice care, it really takes special people to help those who are on their final journey on this planet.
I'm in RT school and my aunt began to die. My mom looked to me for answers but I couldn't help her. I had just learned about PEEP but not vents and breathing patterns. I pulled her aside from everyone to explain to her what I knew but told her "I'm just starting school". I think my basic knowledge helped my mom with it all, as well as myself. Thank you for explaining this so everyone can understand ❤
I’M SO PROUD OF YOU FOR EVERYTHING THAT YOU DO BUT I AM A REAL MAN BUT I AM SO EMOTIONAL AND I CAN’T DO WHAT YOU DO BECAUSE I COULDNT HANDLE IT AND I WOULD JUST BREAK DOWN EVERY TIME AND I COULD NOT KEEP LIVING SEEING PEOPLE DIE ON ME ALL THE TIME BUT YOU ARE ONE HECK OF A BEAUTIFUL WOMAN AND I LOVE YOU JULIE AND HONOR YOU FOR ALL YOU DO 🙏🙏🙏✝️✝️✝️💜💜💜😭😭😭
I lost my husband to glioblastoma 7 weeks ago. I awoke that morning and heard him breathing like this, and I knew what it meant. He passed 90 minutes later. He was awake, and even spoke. He didn't suffer. Hospice never discussed this breathing pattern, nor what it meant, and I only knew because of your videos.
My husband was breathing like that when he was actively dying, he died 3 years ago of metastatic lung cancer. I can say I know he wasn't conscience when that was happening
My aunt died today, she was unconscious, breathing rapidly with gurgling crackling sounds, mouth slightly open but the only different thing was she had through coming out of her mouth but by bit with everything breath. Also her lips and hands were noticeably blue
Have seen cheyne stokes several times when I worked as a 911 paramedic.. it can be unnerving if you dont know what is happening, thank you for educating ppl about this!
Can you please explain the role / impact of any medications administered during Cheyne Stokes? Can you also explain the difference between Cheyne Stokes and agonal breathing? Thanks.
Wish I'd seen this 18m ago, I'd have been better prepared, watching my nan in bed after a stroke and her heart racing, no meds could bring her rate down so it was inevitable her heart would just give out but this video bought it all back, in a silly way it's like I'm back in the room with her and it's like she's still here although obviously a horrible way to remember her, but the wide open mouth, that occasional close and swallow then right back to wide open, the shoulders and chest jumping as she takes short sharp breaths but quickly back to long, slow breaths - it's honestly bought it all back, the thing that I still don't get is I know the body is shutting down, but it's not chemically induced, if she was full or morphine or propofol I'd understand, but it's not medicinal, it's somewhere in between sleep and chemical coma, why can't she (obviously my nan) respond to touch or calling her name, why won't a strong prod or shake rouse her, I'm sorry, I'm rambling now ..! .. thanks for sharing this, and in a small, silly way, giving me a way of being back in hospital with her, just over 24 hrs before she left us
As a ward nurse it's hard. The breathing changes towards end of life are the biggest things that distress families or make them anxious that the patient is distressed. Ive seen enough to recognise that the various breathing changes are normal at end of life, but I can't put names to them or describe the different things properly, or have anything besides instinct on how soon they will pass. Thanks for your help.
I made myself watch and I’m not a person who can deal with this situation. Death does scare me, not for Myself but to see another in this process. I’d be better spontaneously if and when, than waiting for those moments. But, thank you for making it watchable…just. (For me).
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Thank You Julie for your gift of normalising the life cycle, as we lost the exposure to this transition of our bodies many years ago.
My mum died 12 weeks ago, I was there for everything, I was her carer n I looked after her at home until she passed which she did in my arms ...god I miss her. Julie and her vids enabled me to get through the whole thing. Cannot express the gratitude I feel x
I am going through this now with my mum💔so sorry for your heartbreak
I'm so sorry for your loss.
My mum died 9 weeks ago and I was in the same position as you. I wish I’d have known about this channel then. I did not know what to expect and our hospice nurses were lovely but I felt they lacked in communicating to me what they were noticing about where my mum was at. I would have liked them to be more forward.
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I’m so sorry for your loss. ❤🙏🌷
Thank you Julie - I was afraid of death , but after helping my beloved mother with her transition, I learned to embrace the natural process. The spirit never dies. ❤️🙏🏼
God bless my love x
Amen
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@lorianne4608 THERE is no afterlife. Like switching off a computer. Memory erased. The end
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@@electrictroy2010 If you don’t believe in an afterlife, you don’t believe in God. God preached an afterlife in His Word. If you don’t believe in a God, you believe life came from non-life. That makes no sense. No one has ever seen life come from non-life. We have seen, however, life come from life. If you think there’s no God, you are more illogical than you think.
Julie that’s exactly how my wife was breathing before she passed. Thanks for helping me understand how dying is and easing my mind that she was unconscious and didn’t suffer. Thanks for what you do! You don’t realize how much this means to me and my family!
Hope you're doing well
@@burrowss14 Thanks, with excellent grief counseling and the passage of time I’m doing okay.
Neither one of my parents did this while dying and I'm glad because I would have thought they were suffering. Its a wonderful thing to teach people about the dying process, so they won't think their loved one is suffering. Thank you.☺
I saw my dad breathing like this not long before he died. No one ever explained what I was witnessing. I am so glad to know now that he wasn’t suffering…..❤️
Same here. I wish I knew then, what I have learned from watching these videos. But, it has relieved the stress of remembering how my dad was in those last few days.
Same here with my grandmother!!
@@bhallmark3390 Same here!! My dad passed away 2 years ago. Sending you lots of love and hugs 🥹❤️❤️ it was so traumatising for me to see him and thought he was suffering too. I was 22
Thank you for posting this. I watched this video yesterday. My elderly dog was scheduled for euthanasia later today (she's just a month shy of 19yrs old and quit eating/drinking yesterday). I observed this breathing pattern in her this morning. She just passed a few minutes ago. I appreciate you posting this for educational purposes because I immediately recognized it when I saw it and it helped me to know what stage she was in and to not be afraid. I was also able to explain to the family what was happening so they weren't afraid either. I am very grateful to you for what you do, whether we are processing death and dying in our human loved ones or in beloved furry friends, you are doing a wonderful service by helping us to understand.
So sorry for the loss of your fur baby. 19 years is a long life and you obviously took very good care of her.
@@cathichristian4142 Thank you. I appreciate your kind words.
Wow that is so amazing, sending you and your family love
Thank you, everyone. I truly appreciate the well wishes and kind words. That's something we will never forget, as they really do mean a lot to us. Much love to all.
Sorry for your loss. By her age, I can only assume you took great care of her and gave her a happy life. My cat passed away about a month ago and we watched her go through this too. Odd thing was her eyes just stayed open for a couple of hours during the ordeal. Glad to know she wasn't struggling to breathe and hopefully was unconscious.
My husband, his sister & I were with my mother-in-law when she passed. She did this type of breathing for about an hour before passing. The 1st time she appeared to stop breathing, we thought she was gone , but then she began breathing again.
Judie, I agree with you that watching a loved one pas is a beautiful thing! It had such a profound impact on me! In a way, I sorta feel like I “helped” her to cross over. My sis-in-law was on one side of her bed, holding her mom’s hand. I was on the other side of the bed stroking her face and moistening her lips. My husband was sitting nearby in a chair, just taking it all in. We were saying positive, soothing comments to her repeatedly. Earlier that evening, before she “fell into her deep sleep”, when I moistened her lips with water, she whispered, “Ahhhh, Pepsi”! That was the last thing she said! 🥹
Those will probably be my last words, too! #pepsirocks
Oh yes, those will definitely be my last words, with a cold can of Pepsi in my hand!
Oh bless her! I drink Diet coke and pepsi
What a good story to share! Thank you!
@JC-tp5lz THERE is no afterlife. Like switching off a computer, the dying brain gets erased. The end
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My dad is at the end of life and I am so thankful to you and the families who share these videos! ❤
I just want to say thank you so much for your videos. My mom passed this morning, a year after being diagnosed with ALS. Ive been watching your videos and thankful for them as I have watched my mom this last on her journey to the end. Everything from death rattle, motteling, and breathing were right on and I think without having watched your videos, this experience would be a lot more traumatizing.
My condolences to you. Hard losing your mom. I lost mine 7 years ago.
Thank you. My condolences to you as well.
My mum is end stages of dementia, she hasn’t been able to move, walk, talk, eat anything except blended foods, she sleeps all day and never opens her eyes and has been this way for years. She started Cheynes stotts breathing last year, and doctors prepared us that she was at the end. A year later she is still here. It’s heartbreakingly prolonged and drawn out.
My prayers that God give y’all peace and comfort as; we know not the hour or day
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I am so sorry that you have to go through this.
Years back I was a Hospice Aide, and cared for a lady in the same situation as your mom. It lasted about 10 months.
I’ll pray for your mother and hopes she goes to heaven!😊❤
I’ve known about this for a while. But, I had no idea it could go on for so long.
I haven’t been with a dying family member or friend yet but thank God for you Nurse Julie, making these videos! I always knew that someone dying experiences many things, because I’ve heard “tell” of it from others. Your videos give one an idea what to expect, true… But they also let one know, of what they’ve heard, which is true or not. Thanks so much for this.
I am a care-giver and just went through this last week with a long time client of mine. She died very peacefully. Hospice is so wonderful! Love your channel.
Another great video Julie. I was a nurse & cheyne-stokes breathing can be very scary for loved ones. Well explained.
Learned about this in nursing classes but have seen this and diaphragmatic breathing in relatives as well. There are signs that you start to pick up on and there comes a point when you just love the person and that’s about all you can do. I have to believe they can feel it somehow. What an honor and a privilege to get to be there for these patients, but especially their families. It’s a calling. I hope my family has someone like that when my end is near. I also hope that I live a life so that my family will want to be there for me, but don’t know that I want them to go through that.
So many heart wrenching choices for the loved ones of these patients.
thank you, Julie ... I watched my dad go through that and I was terrified at the time - so nice to know it was normal and to know it isn't them being panicked. You are helping so many with the death of their loved ones - God bless !
To be with a loved one as he passes away is an endearing experience. I was with my father when he passed away. I felt like I escorted him to eternity's door and he slipped on thru. I wasn't overcome with grief but with peace.
Those who you truly love with your heart there never really is a separation.
It is truly a sacred experience.
This is a wonderful thing that you are doing. Educating the public about death. I took a psych clasd in school and studied kubler Ross teaching. I wish this info had also been included in the course. We should not fear death. ❤
I’m going to be volunteering after the required class(es). You’re videos will help me to recognize when someone is uncomfortable and offer support to those who don’t have loved ones or friends
Thank you for all your information and support. My mother is 95 and bedridden. Most of her tendons have contracted. She cannot unbend her knees and her right hand is rolled into a loose fist.
It’s difficult to see because she was so active all her life. Tennis, running, baking and enjoying a glass of wine at sunset on the beach.
My dad was doped up on morphine when he died and I don’t remember seeing any of the symptoms you’ve shared here. I just noticed that he wasn’t breathing anymore. His mouth was open though. Before the morphine kicked in I had to keep moisturizing his mouth with one of those sponge things. He did go peacefully and that was good. I’m hoping the same for my mom.
Your videos have been so helpful though and I really appreciate them.
Thank you so very much.
Thanks Julie. Your videos are SO educational! I so wish I knew all this info many years ago when I witnessed my dear Father in law pass away! His death traumatised me but now I realise his actively dying process was so normal. Bless you for this privileged insight!××
Thanks Julie for continuing to post amazing and honest stories that educate the public on death and dying. ❤
I’ve seen a patient have Cheyne Stokes pattern with up to 90 seconds of apnea/not breathing(!)- leading into the last few days of life. They were comfortable (!) but I was shocked by the length of time because I had seen periods of not breathing for under minute with cheyne stokes before that.
Thank you for your content. My father died 20 years ago but this has help me to understand the things that scared me about the process then, when I was 30. Since then I’ve always been a little nervous about my own passing when it comes
Thank you for all of your videos.
I've had three people die in my arms. The first was my 13 day old son. He died of viral sepsis. It was absolutely horrible 🥺 I'm still not over losing him and died in 1998. I guess that's something you never really get over. You just learn to deal with the pain 💔
The second was my uncle. He had cancer . I and my mother took care of him in the end and my mom, the amazing person she was, somehow knew he was about to die. So she called me into his room. I saw the distance look in his eyes that you spoke of , and I crawled in bed with him , I placed my head on his chest and told him it was ok to go home. No sooner then I said that, he passed peacefully away.
The last person.. I don't want to say was the hardest but it was definitely the most HORRIFIC..
I was working at Golden Corral in Portsmouth Va. I noticed this frail elderly man and his wife come in. Something about him really caught my eye. I looked down at his wrist and saw he had a hospital bracelet on. So I made a mental note of this and continue to work. As I was carrying a large tray of plates and cups I saw that the man and the woman had left their seats but left their stuff in their seats. As I'm walking to the back to take back to take back the plates and cups, I see the older gentleman stumbling out of the bathroom . I knew then something was very wrong!
All of a sudden he drops to the floor !
I drop the large tray that I'm carrying to the ground and run to his aid. His wife is nowhere in sight. I'm cradling him in my arms screaming for one of my co-workers to please help me and to call 911. One of my managers literally walks right over top of us and says " Oh just leave him he's just DRUNK ! "
I yell angrily back, " NO HE'S NOT !! HES DYING GOD PLEASE HELP ME !!"
EVERYONE continues to work and casually walks RIGHT OVER TOP OF US giving us absolutely NO AID or HELP and NOT CALLING 911 !
My cell phone was in the back and I was not about to leave this man's side.
When I was a teenager I was taught how to do CPR but at this point I was in shock because this man looked like a fish out of water. His eyes were bulging out of his head and his mouth was foaming and gaping back and forth like he was trying to get his last bits of air. Any training that I had was COMPLETELY out the window ! FINALLY a customer was kind enough to call 911. The only thing I could think to do for this poor sweet old man was to hold him close to me and tell him over and over and over, that I loved him. To me ,The thought of him dying in strangers arms in a strange place without being loved terrified me! And I meant every single word of what I said ! Even though I had never met this man before with every fiber of my being, I loved him !
Finally, the paramedics got there. They took over, and that's when I broke down into tears.
I stood at the front door watching them take him into the ambulance. I finally saw his wife slowly walked to the ambulance as well. My head boss came over to me and asked if I was okay. With tears rolling down my face I told her no. I asked her, because she had walked outside to check on the gentleman, if the man was going to be okay. I will never forget what she said,.. "Honey .. he was dead in your arms.."
No sooner than she had said that one of the same assholes that had ignored the gentleman and I came up to me and said, " Hay can you come sing Happy Birthday to someone with me?"
I stared at this asshole in disbelief ! HOW DARE HE! Here I was begging him and everyone else to help save a man's life and they walked over us like we were shit on the ground !! But he had the UTTER AUDACITY to ask me to sing Happy Birthday to someone with him?! Are you kidding me right now!? So that's what I pretty much said to him. I told him and my main boss that this place was utter and adulteratedly evil! If they could walk over someone begging for help with a person dying in their arms and ignore them like they were just less than a person and 20 minutes later act like nothing even happened I could be no part of this corporation. So I told them all to go f themselves and that I quit !
I hate the fact that I didn't do more for this poor man. I hate the fact that I panicked and I didn't even attempt CPR. But my soul was telling me that this man needed to know that he was loved more than anything. So I hope and I PRAY If anything like this ever happens again that I do the same thing with telling the person that I love them but that I don't freak out to the point that I cannot give them life-saving care.
I honestly believe that poor sweet man should have never been released from the hospital in the first place.
Welp ,Those are my stories of the ones who have passed away in my arms. And if this is what Yahuah the Heavenly Father has in store for me.. For me to be there for the ones moving on to the next life... Maybe I should think about doing what you do? Maybe it would help me deal with death a little better? Because each time, so far, that I've had someone die in my arms, I went into shock and lost 3 days of my life.
I don't know... What do you think?
Ok well I love you girly ❤ Keep doing what you do ! YOU'RE AMAZING!! ❤🥰❤
You are a Angel 😇 thank you
You showed up and thank you for that. Astounding how others will act. Your heart shows…and you were an earth angel that day for that man. I personally want to kick your manager, and Birthday Bozo!
Yeah in our mid 20s we were in a very busy large restaurant. Sunday crowd. 4 happy old ladies were being guided to a table, obvious friends. They were maybe 70 to 80 yrs old but none looked frail. Well the one old dear collapsed. Friends were shocked, horrified, upset. Waitress was maybe 22 and wasn’t mean but didn’t know what to do with the lady at her feet. This lady was blocking the main path in the restaurant. My hubby jumped in and talked soothingly but confidently to them all. Got the patient laying flat, her friends to back up. All were in shock doing nothing, just staring. He got someone to call 911. We all did not have phones then. (1990) .
You know the waitress and staff literally started walking over the patient to keep working. Not providing any normal response like they cared but more inconvenienced. Hubby put a stop to that. He asked for a coat to put over her midsection. Her bladder had released. Her friends were embarrassed for her. He took her vitals and a nurse in the restaurant appeared and took over until paramedics arrived. He assisted her. I stayed out of the way. We both were quite upset with how people and especially staff responded to the unconscious woman in distress. I asked him how she was, and he shook his head and said she was already gone. Nurse and him knew it. Greatly upsetting her shocked friends. People just carried on. Often this happens in groups/crowds. Thinking someone else will deal with it. Hubby is a first responder so his inclination is to always jump in. He was upset noone cared about her dignity. Literally just walking over her. Not even asking after her.
I'm not a nurse, first responder, EMT or doctor but I am a bioethicist. We get called in when people don't know what to do in an unusual or difficult medical situation such as when decisions about life support have to be made. One of the things we are taught is that CPR in reality is very very different then most people think or as it is depicted on TV. To do CPR effectively, the recipient's ribs often have to be broken and it only works in about 5-10% of cases. If the gentleman you held was actively dying, as he seems to have been, CPR would have done more harm than good. You did the right thing. Your intuition was accurate and your empathy helped to make his leaving the world easier and probably less frightening. It tells me how deeply you feel and how beautiful a person you are when you say that you've lost three days of your life each time you have confronted death. Your reactions and the need to take care of yourself in the wake of those circumstances is as normal and natural as is the dying process itself. In contrast, indifference and selfishness are learned acquired responses. Society will reap what it sows.
As to the specific attitude and actions of those who were actively a negative influence in your initial comment and the reply that followed, I ask anyone who might be tempted to react in so callous a manner if they would want to be treated similarly when they are in extremis? Maybe if we didn't spend so much time signaling virtue, we could and would actually practice it. Someone said that evil consists in good men doing nothing.
So true. Thank you for speaking the truth so eloquently.
Samantha thank you for sharing and caring. What a beautiful thing you did in each circumstance. Your compassion will come back to you in ways you can never expect…probably already has. If I’m ever in distress I hope you are around🌸
My parents died within six months of each other. I was with both them. My dad did this kind of breathing. Several times I thought he had gone only to have him suddenly start breathing again. My mother did not breathe like this. Her respirations just got shallower and shallower. You could barely see any chest movement. And, then, she just stopped breathing and she was gone. Both of my parents had hospice care. God bless you and all the dedicated and caring people who provide hospice care and support.
Hello. How long did your Dad experience his breathing changed?
You’re such a great comfort Julie. I love your channel ❤
Thanks for doing what you are doing! It is so important to normalize a natural dying process. I have worked many years in carehomes and hospice myself. It is so necessary we don't panic and we keep calm for the dying person.
Great work Julie
I witnessed my uncle’s passing in a Cardiac ICU in 2007. He was on life support and pain relief and a machine was doing the breathing for him so didn’t observe any Cheyne Stoking but thank you Julie for sharing this and talking us through it. You made it seem less confronting and if I am ever witness to something like this again I’ll know what to expect and recognise it if it happens. Thank you so much 🙏
Thank you for this. I was my dad's carer a year ago. He passed. I was so worried about exactly this breathing. If only I knew. All your clips are, in hindsight, to the point. Wish I understood actively dying then😢 I miss my dad❤
Both my parents died a year apart at home with me. They both did this and I knew the time we had was coming to an end. I wish that I could just hear their voices one more time. I miss them so much!
Julie, you have proven with every one of your videos that "knowledge is power". We tend to fear what we don't know or understand. You are giving us the knowledge to eliminate that fear. Thank you for all you do! God bless! ❤❤❤
I have learnt a lot ever since I joined your channel. Brilliant. Am no longer afraid of death
Hi Julie, thanks for the video, I'm a nurse associate (UK, rank of nurse) I work o an ED and I've heard of cheyne stokes breathing and having watched this I've definitely seen it before, I just never made the connection.
Thank you Julie. I used to avoid anything that mentioned death. So obviously that's exactly why I'm terrified of it. You have definitely helped me a little. I also think your channel helps people to open up about the loved ones they have lost. Typing it out on here helps I think. That can only be a good thing.
Thank you for normalizing the end of life.Before I became a nurse, I used to be a caregiver to the elderly. I loved talking with them and they had such a matter-of-fact way of discussing their eventual death, that it was comforting to me. When I worked in a hospital and did post- mortem care, that just helped me even more.
Thank You Julie. That was very informative. You did a great job explaining something that is so hard for people to accept as reality.
Thanks for sharinng these, Julie! You have such a gracious manner.
Thanks for sharing. I was with my grandmother, mom, dad and step-dad when they passed and with my grandad a day or two before and right after. There are so many similarities but there are differences too
But all of them were basically in a coma like state. I feel very blessed to have shared their last moments with them
I saw this so many times in thirty years of nursing, ten years later this brings back so many memories. At this point I'd checking the lower extremities for mottling.
This is a great kindness of you . Thank you for helping people to understand the process.
I find all your videos and comments very educational. It's important to know what's normal during active dying. I would rather know and be comforted with the knowledge the ignorant and afraid. Thank you for sharing your experience and knowledge
Thank you for bringing these videos to our attention. I've always been afraid of the dying process. Your videos help to normalize a process that our culture has lost touch with and that previous generations knew to expect.
Thank you nurse Julia. I witnessed by brother-in-law's cheyne-stokes some years back and didn't know what it was. After he passed, I thought alot about that time I saw that kind of breathing. During the time I was up in his room with him, I thought maybe he could hear me speak to him while the breathing stopped. I would say his name close to his ear and I would hear a slight noise like he was responding and just told him how much we all Loved him. I did it several times and had to stop, because I couldn't stop crying. Maybe he heard me or maybe he didn't. I'm not sure. Anyway, this is remarkable that you bring this particular type of activity to us. I do Thank You from the bottom of my heart. I use to think alot about it, but with your testimony of what this is, hopefully I won't think of it as often. God Bless you Julia. Your heart is in the right place and it's a Good Heart.🌹 Doug
My husband passed away 2 weeks ago. You describe his last few minutes of his life. I was not scared at all but now I know it’s regular to die that way. I thought everyone has death rattle but he didn’t. Thank you for explaining and I am grateful that you do these videos. You made me more calm when he passed away.
This not my normal scene. Being a paramedic we deal with death,but not usually end of life. We only have contact with natural death if we're doing a transport to or from hospice care, this was very helpful to me to see a peaceful death, my dealings with death and dying usually of the traumatic type,and we would jump in and try to preserve life. Thank you for helping those that have no idea what to expect during the process, me being one of them 🌞
I have been through this in the most unpleasant way with my Mama. What you are saying now just makes me feel better, like we all (10 children) didn't know that the weird manifestations of her death were just normal dying stages of a human being.
That's what my Mom did. I'm so glad that one of us (my brother or I ) were with her. She had a 'good' death. Thank you for your videos. This does so much to comfort survivors.
I appreciate the people that share these videos. I appreciate all you teach because it helps me not to be aftaid of death gor myself and for my family.
I think you have answered a question that has bothered me for years about my mother's death from Lewy Body Dementia in 2006. Thank you!
You really are an angel for those of us who where there for our loved ones last days. Hospice is heaven sent too.
Nice exammple of cheyne-stokes breathing. Personally I have this generally when I am in Rem Sleep and and my related breathing and heart issues cause this to happen. I generally stop breathing for up to almost a minute between breaths. My Resmed 10 reports these periodically and sometimes for over 30 minutes worth of Rem sleep often with obstructive apnea mixed in. I have had this erratic breathing condition since I was a teenager and I am now 70. Some nights I sleep excellent and other nights I look like someone breathing their last due to my medical issues. I plan on keeping alive until God called me home. Keep up the excellent informational videos.
My mom died a week ago from colon cancer. I held her hand. Watching this was incredibly difficult.
Thank you for having the courage to educate people on such an important topic. Your videos are some of the most consequential on RUclips. Also, congratulations on your sobriety. I have been a friend of Bill's since 1989. Our lives really do get better than our wildest dreams. Take care.
Julie my dear. My mom had her 2nd major stroke on 2-28-23 & passed away here at home on 4-4-23. I wanted to be a little bit more informed as what it might look like for her or if something changed with her it was normal. Our Hospice situation was probably the worst imaginable! I learned more from you than them. What I’m really trying to say is “Thank you!”.
Thank you Julie, I watch your videos all the time. This though would definitely feel like she was having a hard time breathing, it's one thing to understand something and another to know it's normal
To have seen this without knowing what is happening would be so horrific! It would fuel my nightmares for the rest of my life. Thank you so much for teaching and explaining this normal biological process!
I want to thank you so much for all of your time and videos… everything you have stated here, were indeed fact, with what my sig other went through… he was in Hospice and what you describe here is exactly what occurred…
During his final days, your videos helped me more than you can even know….. and for that I want to “
Thank You Again”!
Bless the heart/hearts, that your videos bring to the next family……!
It’s much more alarming when the dying person is rattling too. My Grandma was rattling SO loud we didn’t even really notice what else was going on, and I used to work on an oncology ward so was used to seeing cheyne-stoking and hearing the rattle. I don’t know if it was just so much more alarming because it was my own Grandma but in the end I was as shocked as everyone else by the volume.
I Love how you Explain & Educate so many of Us on the End of Life... So that when it happens, we're not Terrified, as we might've been for Ourselves or the other Person, had we not been Educated by you.
Unfortunately, like many Things in our World, Death has been Shoved in a Dark Closet w/ a Sign that says "Do Not Enter, What in here is Scary & Taboo!" Thank you for Breaking the Stigma Surrounding Death, bc as you say - It's as Natural a Part of our Lives as Birth. ❤
Thank you so much for doing these videos!!!
You do a great service by educating us.
Thank you for showing a natural death breathing When I first started out in nursing the death and dying was just a philosophy Now it's part of the teaching in the medical field and mandatory We've come along way baby 🤗🤗🤗🤘🤘🤘🙏🙏🙏🦋
There are cases of Cheyn Stokes breathing that don’t involve actively dying. Probably witnessed most often by caregivers of those who have TBI or Spastic quadraplegic Cerebral Palsy or some other kind of brain damage. Don’t want any caregivers panicking. I panicked or was very concerned when I was first told my loved one was breathing this way, but talked with the Pulmonologist who eased my fears of my loved one being in an actively dying stage. It’s been several years ago and my medically fragile loved one is still blessing us with her beautiful soul.
Thank you for explaining at the last part of the video. I was actually wondering if he was conscious because I saw his head tilt a little bit, closed his mouth once and swallowed. Initially, I was thinking- GOSH! he has difficulty in breathing and he's mentally aware of what's happening. Again, thanks for explaining. We all have to be ready because this is the common fate that we all need to face one day.
My mom recently died of lung cancer; it was very quick & I didn't get a chance to see her until she was well medicated and unconscious. She breathed similar to this & I couldn't help but feel worried and scared that she was 'aware' that she couldn't take a full breath. After watching this video, I think it was just her body going through the process. Thank you for making these videos; I'm going through them because, even though my experience was quick and sudden, I just want the reassurance. Thank you again.
Thank you for all you do. My husband has genetic CHF (his mom passed from it). His EF is between 10% and 15%. We've pretty much exhausted all available treatments. Also Dad is on hospice.😢
I hope and wish, you are not alone in this challenge. ❤
Thank you 🙏💖 I 've been afraid of death för a very long time , but I finally understand its nothing to be afraid of.. This Will really help me a lot ❤ have old parents and want to be there until there final breath 🙏
Lost both my parents 13 months apart .. reading about this type of breathing gives us some comfort somehow
NOT ENOUGH THANKS FOR ALL YOU DO FOR US ALL OF US!!!❤🎉❤
JULIE, YOUR THE GREATEST THANKS FOR ALL YOU DO.
Everyone in my life has died but I wish I'd know this back then. You are doing such a good thing for people. May I add your makeup is lovely and how's that guy you told us about?
This was very well explained and informative. Thank you for this.
Thanks to you and nurse Penny for sharing your experience and stories to normalize the death process for us.
Thank you so much for posting all of these videos.
I have a question: How is it we can end an animal's suffering saying it is the right thing to do BUT YET it's soo wrong to do for a human? Animal medicine is humane unlike human medicine which is VERY CRUEL by not ending a person's suffering due to serious injuries/ diseases.
Animals can’t write their own living will it’s possible this person signed a DNR but their POA has ordered to continue all life saving measures. You have to realize tho this person is dying .. the plug has been pulled you don’t do anything with this person they won’t be alive much longer as mentioned in the video this normal.
You're terrific Julie and looking great too. Keep up the wonderful work.
This is so helpful thank you deeply for your educated take on the process of death and dying.
I watched my Father in this form of breathing as sat with him one evening in the Hospital . He was dying of COPD . That night at 3am I got the call from his wife the he was gone . I think at that moment I was relieved that he was not suffering as I saw it .
The information that you share in your videos to educate people on The dying experience is so helpful. I think it helps to take the fear and mystery out of the process, and that's important because death is a part of life. Thank you, Julie.
My BIL passed away at home (we lived with him) and he was in hospice. when he started doing this it scared the you know what out of me. Even though the hospice nurse prepared us for it, it does not compare to actually seeing it. When he had his long moments of not breathing I had all I could do not to go over and shake him to get him breathing again. Although I had lost almost my whole family (both sides), this was the first I was a caregiver and watched someone just fade away. I have to admit I learned so much about the dying process and the signs of it. I never knew all the changes that happen in the body that tells signs of the body preparing for death.. I have so much respect for hospice care, it really takes special people to help those who are on their final journey on this planet.
Thank you so much for this information on end of life. We need more people like you. ❤
I never knew what this was called and now I do. Very educational.
I want to thank you for all of your informative videos, please continue with them. And I agree with you, this is not home!
I'm in RT school and my aunt began to die. My mom looked to me for answers but I couldn't help her. I had just learned about PEEP but not vents and breathing patterns. I pulled her aside from everyone to explain to her what I knew but told her "I'm just starting school". I think my basic knowledge helped my mom with it all, as well as myself. Thank you for explaining this so everyone can understand ❤
I’M SO PROUD OF YOU FOR EVERYTHING THAT YOU DO BUT I AM A REAL MAN BUT I AM SO EMOTIONAL AND I CAN’T DO WHAT YOU DO BECAUSE I COULDNT HANDLE IT AND I WOULD JUST BREAK DOWN EVERY TIME AND I COULD NOT KEEP LIVING SEEING PEOPLE DIE ON ME ALL THE TIME BUT YOU ARE ONE HECK OF A BEAUTIFUL WOMAN AND I LOVE YOU JULIE AND HONOR YOU FOR ALL YOU DO 🙏🙏🙏✝️✝️✝️💜💜💜😭😭😭
I lost my husband to glioblastoma 7 weeks ago. I awoke that morning and heard him breathing like this, and I knew what it meant. He passed 90 minutes later. He was awake, and even spoke. He didn't suffer. Hospice never discussed this breathing pattern, nor what it meant, and I only knew because of your videos.
My husband was breathing like that when he was actively dying, he died 3 years ago of metastatic lung cancer. I can say I know he wasn't conscience when that was happening
Thank you for educating us on what to expect, it makes it easier when you understand what is normal during end of life.
My dad is actively dying and your video is helping me cope with this process🙏🏽
My aunt died today, she was unconscious, breathing rapidly with gurgling crackling sounds, mouth slightly open but the only different thing was she had through coming out of her mouth but by bit with everything breath. Also her lips and hands were noticeably blue
I was a hospice nurse for years, now retired after 40 years. Good for you.
Thank you for educating the public. 🙏🌹
Have seen cheyne stokes several times when I worked as a 911 paramedic.. it can be unnerving if you dont know what is happening, thank you for educating ppl about this!
Can you please explain the role / impact of any medications administered during Cheyne Stokes? Can you also explain the difference between Cheyne Stokes and agonal breathing? Thanks.
Thank you Julie, you are truly doing a lot of good. God bless you dear
Wish I'd seen this 18m ago, I'd have been better prepared, watching my nan in bed after a stroke and her heart racing, no meds could bring her rate down so it was inevitable her heart would just give out but this video bought it all back, in a silly way it's like I'm back in the room with her and it's like she's still here although obviously a horrible way to remember her, but the wide open mouth, that occasional close and swallow then right back to wide open, the shoulders and chest jumping as she takes short sharp breaths but quickly back to long, slow breaths - it's honestly bought it all back, the thing that I still don't get is I know the body is shutting down, but it's not chemically induced, if she was full or morphine or propofol I'd understand, but it's not medicinal, it's somewhere in between sleep and chemical coma, why can't she (obviously my nan) respond to touch or calling her name, why won't a strong prod or shake rouse her, I'm sorry, I'm rambling now ..! .. thanks for sharing this, and in a small, silly way, giving me a way of being back in hospital with her, just over 24 hrs before she left us
My Dad is passing so these helped a lot!
As a ward nurse it's hard. The breathing changes towards end of life are the biggest things that distress families or make them anxious that the patient is distressed. Ive seen enough to recognise that the various breathing changes are normal at end of life, but I can't put names to them or describe the different things properly, or have anything besides instinct on how soon they will pass. Thanks for your help.
You are an excellent teacher. 🎉
I made myself watch and I’m not a person who can deal with this situation.
Death does scare me, not for Myself but to see another in this process.
I’d be better spontaneously if and when, than waiting for those moments.
But, thank you for making it watchable…just. (For me).