In the past I found myself in that situation and believed it was my lot in life,but once I found out I'm an INFJ,and learned more about who I really am,I no longer put up with being the sidekick or the 3rd wheel.Im now working to be the hero in my story and if others cant understand that,its their issue,not mine.It's disappointing to witmess all of the twisted conceptions of what it truly means to be an Alpha,Beta or Sigma.Wolves have it down pat,hopefully one day more People will finally get it.Thank you Wenzes for sharing such helpful advice!
I'm an INFJ woman and my question to you is, do you think infj's can be happy with and compatible with alpha males? I speak for myself and maybe other infj's when i say this and it's that it's hard for me to relinquish control and let anyone else make decisions in my household but I'm also attracted to alpha male's that could possibly take the traditional role and be come the provider.
@@sarasalah3985 see I am an infjt type and for me I know that I am mature when it comes to relationship yes I am controlling but at the same time I am also very flexible and agreeable to others so for me the thing that would work out would be with someone comfortable with whom I am eased out you know I have tried alpha woman but again with them I did not find that comfort I am looking for. I tried to behave alpha but then I realised it was easy but it was not what I was naturally. So now my first priority in my partner would be that she makes me feel like home so that I can share everything with her cos being vulnerable is my biggest fear and someone taking advantage is another one. So I hope this might help you in some sort. Bdw this aplha and all is just bullshit everybody has his alpha ie masculine as well is beta is feminine side it's just that the real alpha males are the crimanls only other than that it's impossible to be alpha for eg Pablo Escobar was real alpha male.
i know the feeling. For me, alphas have the constant and irritating need to demonstrate their alphaness, to have it acknowledged, or else their tender feelings get hurt. It’s pathetic, and holds them back. sigmas, i think, aren’t even trying to BE a “lone wolf”, or actively be “outside”. we just don’t give a shit about protecting the alphas insecurities, and the most efficient way to get the most work done in life is to ignore them and that social structure. other can come if they want, or go play to the alphas feelings. if that’s a lone wolf… okay🤷🏼 Woooooooooooooooo!
I'm a fixed sigma, but for those who know about those moments of the so called "calling" I'm adapt myself to the alpha role usually in times of need or where all is loss emotionally or mentally for those around us
@@djrbdbdndjwjk5039 based on my own personal experience and behavior I would say yes but infj do display a strong independent stance on most aspects of there life
Your first video about INFJs being alphas resonated with me, so I deep dived on the topic. Extroverts = alphas (more concerned about public image) Introverts = sigma (self sustaining). I feel I can be a force to be reckon with but I really enjoy my alone time, and rarely ask for help from others, I rather learn and do it myself. Sigma is like 007 James Bond, who is an introvert (alpha)... mysterious, confident, skilled in survival, refined, and when push comes to shove, he's a one man wrecking ball.. oh, and to get what he wants, he uses his wits and charm, rarely loses his cool, he gets the best girls and after their encounter with him, they change their character to good...that sigma alpha is what I gravitated towards after relating to an alpha by your first video. It's like I'm an army of one, special forces when it comes to decoding human psychology in real time, doing good in the world, and a natural disdain towards bullies. I prefer the company of nature over most people.
I haven't seen an INFJ as intelligent as Alpha , Sigma's are super smart in real life, if you're lucky try to talk to them they are more like INTJ smart as hell while INFJ are so judgemental and so much on feeling sometimes not even thinking.
@@vidalskyociosen3326 I can agree with on this, INTJ is Sigma, while INFJ is Alpha. However, I believe the INTJ actually falls short in comparison to the INFJ due to the feeling & judgement possessed by the INFJ. The feeling & judgement is an advantage in my biased INFJ opinion...LoL In my experience INTJ is "smart as hell", but has a very cold heart...lacking in empathy as well. The INFJ will only display the INTJ cold heart attribute after the famous "INFJ Door Slam".
@@dually81 It's always has been a misconception that INTJ's are very cold or even don't feel a thing , lack of empathy, etc. INTJ's has its own Feelings and Judgement , and Intuition too but combined that with a very sharp intellect , you got yourself an Alpha or a Sigma. But both personality type are great.
@@vidalskyociosen3326 I agree, but man my ex girlfriend, INTJ is still probably my best friend in the world...but boy is she ruthless & cold-hearted. LoL In my experience INTJ does best with INFJ because we won't be easily offended by their direct spoken logical approach to life. For the most part, INFJ does well with INTJ for similar reasons...plus we both enjoy our space.
Liked and subscribed, because being also an INFJ you sound exactly like me and I am helping others. I have always wanted to meet other INFJs so I can receive the same support I give and through this short video, I was able to have a taste of how freaking awesome that felt. No wonder most people just dump their baggage at our feet for our analytical minds to decipher. Will be looking forward to new videos from you soon! Keep up the good work!!!
You are doing such a great job in recent videos of changing the INFJ story. This, combined with your Ni-Ti loop and stress videos, have really helped me rethink the degree to which I over-rely on being an 'introvert'.
Hi Wenzes! Thank you. Your videos have helped me so much. I am in my eighties and have been doing inner work at least since I was four with intuition & classes & workshops & experiences & etc. Yet you have shed so much light on my self understanding that was not there before. I am forever grateful as I admire your courage and attitude. In one sense I see you as doing more of simply "what works better" & in another sense I see you doing miracles in the midst of life challenges. Keep up the good work! I love to imagine you going about your days amongst all of us and being your own awesome self as various situations arrive. You are, indeed, making a difference for all of us while being true to yourself! Peace&Joy, Wenzes!
So the way I went about doing this was to spend a lot of time determining and deciding what I think about a wide variety of topics and questions. After a while, I began to transition into a mindset of figuring things out for and about myself. I think asking yourselves what you think about anything is another good way to put what wenzes is saying. And to Wenzes, thanks for being such a inspiring badass over the past years. You’ve taught me a lot. I feel sure of myself very recently. I think I’m becoming the person who can stay that way.
I understand what you are saying completely because for all of my high school life, I tried to hide or blend in with the crowd and I saw my "weirdness" or "uniqueness" as a disadvantage AND I thought that there was someone better than me and I was the lowest of them all. BUT, through many ups and downs of fighting for myself, against myself (fears and old habits), against how others treated me, and how I treated myself, I saw the biggest realisation. *drum rolls* Everyone has their own part to play in the way the world works, and I was given this gifted mind, eagle eyes and observation skills because I can bring all those improvements that seem so scary to face to light. I saw Wenzes videos about accepting that not everyone will like me and at first it was really hard to accept. But when I realised that my 2 values were Authenticity and Future generations, I had no room to feel judged by others. I had to do what was right, even if it meant it scared me. Lean into that discomfort, and grow with it. I let it control me before, but now I WORK WITH IT. We are not different, we are not better than each other, we are equals. And we need to see this about ourselves and how we fit into this world. I had many problems about where did I fit in....where I fit in...where's my home? Is where is my heart. Its where I can be myself, and so everyday I carry my home with me. Its a hard journey to find yourself, you'll cry, you'll get angry and get irritated, but if YOU STICK WITH YOUR VALUES, then the world is a less scary place because you made your place in the world. And slowly, you'll see that you made your own place in the world. Good luck to all of you searching for your souls out there, look inside and out. But build inside out and watch the world react to it. You and I will be different people because of that, whether you want to lead or simply feel more confident with yourself.
Oh for sure! Just because i would end up alone, never meant i chose to do the work alone. It was always, if you see a need be the need. Even if you stood alone. Just because i wasn't out in front ordering & directing the people around, never meant i wasn't their lead. It was always, I'll be one with you and point out and encourage your strengths alongside you. E.t.c e.t.c. Great video and message @Wenzes
Just finished watching and I agree very much with everything you just said, Wenzes. Thinking on it, I learned about this alpha thing before I even tested as an INFJ (and even now I'm not completely sure on that, but everything I have been learning about INFJs resonates with me and has been helping me deal with my inner demons, so that's fine, right?). I never even knew that there was such a thing as a sigma. But as young as age 15 I already had something that I really wanted to do with my life, a vision, so to speak, and the most fulfilling time of my life was when I was leading my friends toward the fulfillment of this vision - though, sad to say, we failed at doing that because we were all young and inexperienced and had no guidance from anyone. Anyway, the thing I learned from all the failures and disappointments and heartbreaks is that the reason why many of us might think we are not meant to be the alpha is because we all have our visions (from our Ni hero) and we DO want to make those visions reality, but we are our own worst enemies. Instead of looking inwards to see how the broken pieces of ourselves fit (again, Ni hero), we keep looking outward and see signs of impending doom everywhere (Ne nemesis). We have so much capacity for processing information (Ti child), but we keep relying on others to validate our intellect (Te trickster). And personally, I got lost in the Hell of memories of my past (Si demon) when I should have been living in the moment, making the best of each day as if it were my last, even though I may not be good at it (Se inferior). We also keep listening to that voice inside us that tells us we're no good, that we're not deserving of any good because we haven't done enough to earn the people around us and the good they do for us (Fi critic). When we ARE supposed to build honest and deep relationships with others and be all the good we could be for them (Fe parent). Because the truth is that our negative experiences are also everyone else's negative experiences. Our trauma is also everyone else's trauma. Yet we are actually the ones with the strength to stand despite all of that (because, again, Ni hero); to make sense of the tragedies and suffering we've endured, and so to help the ones we love make sense of theirs. I've never been more lost when I couldn't do that. But the hard part is that we INFJs need to be strong in ourselves first; this means making ourselves capable. Sometimes being alpha does mean winning the way everyone else expects us to, even though we may not employ the same means they do in order to win. Why is this? Because we can't just share our visions and expect people to follow. Because deep down it doesn't sit well with us to give orders that we ourselves cannot obey. Because we are meant to lead by example, not just to tell others of our visions but to be the very embodiment of our visions - living proof. A year ago I was curled up in a ball, lost in constant fits of depression because gaming addiction and other influences around me kept eating away at the resolve and time I needed to fulfill my vision. Ironic that it's during the pandemic where I've never been more motivated and more focused on succeeding. I'm writing and working out almost every day, helping with the chores (got stuck with my parents while visiting them on vacation), and constantly using RUclips to expand my knowledge in writing as well as counseling. I also got in a long-distance relationship, and this is how I know the Fi critic thing is real (I constantly feel like I don't deserve her, even after I've done something that makes her very happy). But I look at her smile through the video feed and my Fe parent tells me that it is real. I've had my share of bad experiences. I was born and raised in a 3rd world country. We were actually poor and my parents struggled a lot to get us out of poverty; my dad got in an accident and suffered 3rd-degree burns to his hands, arms, and face when I was 8. I myself went through a lot of bullying all the way up to high school. I was a very angry kid, and that anger - along with other issues - led to me making a lot of bad decisions and missing out on a lot of opportunities. Not that I have never tried before, but it's only now that I feel I'm actually succeeding at picking up the broken pieces of my life and making sense of it. That's what we do, INFJs, and that's what I'm sharing here. TL;DR: Everyone needs help getting out of the same Hell we've been through, and that's why we were born visionaries and alphas. Thank you, Wenzes.
years ago I was an electronics tech and took a Meyers Briggs test and was labeled INTJ; I noted that the score between T and F were very close. Lately I took the test again and it came out INFJ. I think and feel that I am INFJ more than INTJ, though I can play either role.
INFJ's have been tested, and use their right and left brains about equally. One cannot go through life on Ni-Fe alone, because you would otherwise be a people pleasing shell. We tend to use Ni-Ti to navigate many if not most of the problems in every day life. This is a very different function from the Ni-Te of the INTJ, who organize their thoughts externally, bouncing often crazy ideas off people. Ni-Ti usually has a characteristic deadpan delivery, often given as a proclamation.
I've had the exact same experience. I took the test years ago and came out an INTJ, but something about it didn't "click" and I lost interest. Recently I took it again and came out an INFJ. It definitely resonates a lot more, in fact nothing else has managed to satisfactorily explain to me the endless "why"s I've asked about myself my whole life.
IM COMFORTABLE being a Sigma I isolate when I was younger I would just take off on my horse ..I played sports but when done ..I like my space,I'm not socially awkward infact I'll "perform" and I adapt fast with all types...And when it's time I leave and recharge..OR I choose to not come around.IVE never been a follower and if someone tries to force me,I'll be gracious depending upon the relationship, otherwise NO.🙏
what happens when you want to be included, or have companionship then? You c- … nevermind. I hadn’t noticed you were female. I guess you have that option. I very much hope you appreciate it.
The nature/nuture conversation. Ive been on this self examination journey a couple years and getting healthier because ive found a couple youtubrs like you and feel connected. Kinda wish i started couple decades ago.
Great insight. Having a mindset that focuses on what success means to me, rather than what I am told it looks like has been a journey with many twists and turns along the way. Being the 'Alpha' was almost natural. The first milestone in finding myself. It is useful, especially when you know how well you can lead, inspire and motivate others through connection and vision. The trouble I found with being the Alpha is I didn't like the limelight. Preferred to be in the background. Felt morne comfortable not having the responsibility. It just wasn't for me. The next step was being the Beta/Executor. This was tough as it usually meant trusting the vision and ideas of others. Naturally, I would question motives, see potential and real roadblocks where the assumed Alpha either did not or would not. Also, execution was usually me organising the tools/strengths of others to achieve the intended outcome. Strangely found being the Beta less desirable than being the Alpha. Sigma is where I feel the most comfortable and allows me to be myself, be true to who I am and fits well with my need to withdraw, contemplate, reflect and observe without the restraints of group responsibility or the blind spots that come with carrying out a vision or directive of another. I like to follow my own path, explore my own interests, create my own story that allows me to use my refined skills only when I choose to rather than because it's expected or able to. There is an immense satisfaction and underlying strength in knowing I can, and choosing not to. Or facilitating the desired outcome through others, building the motivation/desire to be Alphas and Betas themselves. And all the while this lone Sigma kicks back and enjoys the ride, every now and then jumping in when necessary and yet retaining the freedom that I enjoy.
The original video struck a chord with me, because yes, we've all fallen for the stereotype categories. Having said that I've never followed the rules, finding out I am an INFJ has been the most soul setting feeling, interestingly sigma videos have just recently popped up.....just another interesting concept! Great follow up video!😊
I always used to look up too people who were "alpha," or rather beta. They seemed so fearless and out there with others. But more and more I respect the unique way I see the world and interact with it. It isn't easy, especially when your relationships are built around you being the meek one, to start being yourself because it will throw a wrench in the relationships. Now for the first time they see the real you. But the sooner you rip off that bandage the sooner you can have start living your true life with people that love you being you. I'm currently in that transition and its not easy but I know it will be worth it.
I'm starting to understand myself. God bless all of these people who create these videos. I'm definitely an Infj/ sigma. Right now I'm very isolated. I always thought I was weird. I also felt mesirable. I wanted to understand myself. I even thought to start meditation to find myself.
Alpha is extrovert and Sigma introvert as INFJ. INFJ stands the best balance between Idealism and Reality, focusing practical efficiency. Being visionary seems too high to an alpha, so tight to rules, created and imposed by himself.
Yeah what you're saying is true.i think infj is 'just' like other types of personality, having difficulties but still the same that it just need to be handled wisely. To be a winner in life means one must be able to understand how this world works n then knowing themselves better (conquering the weakness n improve a lot the strength).i think mindset is useful for any type of personality
I thank you for everything I’ve been alone and struggling with my life for 10+years I knew I was different but now I know I’m special and I have used the weapons without knowing until now that I heard about you
One thing infj’s are good at as you demonstrate is being able to put the puzzle together with a single seemingly disconnected (to other people) puzzle piece.
Well put. I'm learning a lot from your channel. Personally, I reserve my judgement most of the time; because there ARE so many perspectives. For instance, I spent an obsessional amount of time, is that even a word? - viewing and listening to these Pick a Card Tarot Readings. I didn't care if other people thought it was nuts. I didn't care if I was 1 out of maybe 10 males in a whole sea of females; when I felt called to say something, I did. If I wanted to bare my soul, I did. If I didn't agree with something I said it. If I didn't feel like commenting for months at a time, I wouldn't. Yes, I resonate strongly with the Sigma personality type; and I don't know, yet, enough about the INFJ to say the same thing; but I won't be hemmed in by a bunch of opinions. And there are so many. Sigma has taken off. It's the newest thing since sliced bread, as they say. And after probably watching HUNDREDS of videos on the Sigma; I've come to a conclusion... there's a lot of confusion going on. People WANT to be Sigma; because it seems the new, cool thing. I AM at least partly Sigma; because I truly go my own way. I see the utility of adopting the Sigma mindset, I love researching everything under the sun, I'm romantic by nature; and I love trying on different personalities, because I'm both the director and the star actor of my own life. But I don't resonate with EVERYTHING said about the Sigma. In time I might; or I might not; but I still find it useful to watch everything about the Sigma; because it is so progressive and inspires me to keep pushing through adversity to reach for my dreams. I practice Telekinesis; you might say that this is my main claim to fame; but I'm not the person who would normally volunteer or work hard to lead others. That's because I respect that everyone is living their own life from their own perspective. I lead now; or seek to be a leader; because I see how the actions of others will eventually, en-mass, is that a word? - affect me and those I love. It is BECAUSE I see the great connectivity of things and I see that the so-called leaders in our society haven't stepped up to the plate, that peoples' individual NON-CRITICAL THINKING DECISIONS as a collective have us headed possibly even toward extinction; and that scares me. I'm pretty courageous; but I can't just stand by and watch the world go to hell. I'm aware that this is my opinion; but I feel I have a strong connection to Deity. And it's urging me to step up. Now's the time. Now that I've matured, handled my ish, as they say. I've got the tea. I'm in the know. And I'm creative and resilient enough to weather the storms of life; and there is a lot of value in that. Yes, I want people to find their own way; but many aren't even looking. Many don't know HOW to go within. I want to mentor people in how to do that. Once they can do that... they won't need me. They'll become aligned to a greater design that will benefit us all. So, for the moment, I'm acting like an Alpha from a position of a Sigma, who feels and thinks much like an INFJ and an INTJ and an INFP, and an ENFP. It's so confusing to label me one way or the other. I'm fluid. Divine timing and my own upbringing and how I've chosen to shape myself over the decades will determine largely what, if any, impact I have on this world. Peace DM.
I can't speak for anyone else I am definitely infj/assertive type and I am definitely Alpha with strong leadership skills where people get confused is because I am not competitive with other people and have no desire to control other people,nor do I desire to be the center of attention. Challenging myself to learn something from everyone I interact with to know them better so as to serve them better in the future.
I'm learning about this after discovering this is my personality type. Now everything makes sense.(sadly) it's a lonely road but at least I can trust my own thoughts and judgments. Thanks for your great informative videos.
It can be less lonely. I'm an introvert, but that doesn't mean i'm not loud. It doesn't mean i don't have a lot of friends, but it means that i see being alone as rest, not a thing that beats me up to death. You can be talkative, communicative leader, but still be an introvert
Doubt it is a coincidence, but I am an INFJ-A and SIGMA male. I don't think it's anything negative at all. More a gift 🎁. We are lone wolves! We are alone most of the time! As Wendez says, all we want is real authentic connections with people. If anything is not inlne with our inner core and values. We simply chose to remove them from our life. We would rather die alone, than except and settle for less than we deserve and that is not "real" ♥
Really like ESTPs are not that highly represented but it is not one of the first things that is mentioned or at all in most ESTPs videos. I do not know if ESTPs are Alphas Betas or Sigma ( not sure it really matters) but we are not in high school anymore. We are social beings and everyone has something to add to help. Good video.
I'm not sure if I'm an Infj or not. I'm wavering between Entp (I know, very different), and Infj. I don't consider myself an introvert. I think that having conversations with people can be one of the best ways to learn about the world. I also love conflict and debate. That being said, so much of what's said about the Infj relates to me. The incessant planning, the communication. Having someone plop down next to you and after a few minutes they're telling you their life's story. So, I'm really conflicted here.
Hard to tell indead but in the end...livelessons are universal in many ways. Folling your own beatdrum and creating a life on your terms is always the right choice, independent of one‘s personality type 👍
Go to key2cognition to learn about your MBTI and then try RHETI (the free one) to know your true Enneagram. This way you won’t be able to doubt who you are anymore.
At first when I saw this in the recommended did not want to watch it I thought I'll just get mad a you because there are so many stupid videos about us online and I did not want to cause myself stuff like that. But now I decided to watch it I'm at 1:38 but you make perfect sense so far.
Wenzes you're so inspiring. I can relate to the archetype of the wolf. Actually, I would like to recommend to you and to your followers the excellent book by Clarissa Pinkola Estes " Women running with the wolves" -. Based upon the author's research on wolves and how they interact within their communities she writes about how the archetype of the divine feminine -(which exists in every woman -definitely INFJs-), is really important nowadays and why it needs to be acknowledged and honored again. Thank you again for the valuable insights ❤
I live my light and truth and principles and integrity and absolute love of being. It organically places me in leadership. Even if that isn't my conscious goal. 🤷
This is a unique approach to the subject of the "Alpha" type. I have some alpha qualities or I wouldn't have stayed in teaching for long. However, I've done some beta jobs well. By myself though, I'm definitely sygma. I'm kicking around the idea that when I gave private piano lessons, it was both. Maybe the lines aren't as sharply drawn as we've thought.
You gave the answer at 10.20 why most of the time we want to be alone. They force you to limiting beliefs whchis called in pschology 'referance point'. And theyre hard to change. Dont try to change them.
I get frustrated if I have to lead people who cannot think for themselves! I expect people to get in there and figure it out for themselves and Alphas are coaches in life.
Can you view your World beyond the easily tangible? Can you see yourself helping the Team achieve the Goal without drama? Can you think your way into a positive mindframe to achieve success in a situation? You may be a Sygma
Being Alpha is leading which means you have people looking to you all the time for guidance. Sigma prefer not to be tied down to people all the time. My preferred role is self directed and independent as a Sigma!
Also, a dictator can be the Alpha, the Sigma a Robin Hood. Sigmas don't want to rule the world, they want to spread mischief. They don't what the hassles of formalities, and the cheap disingenuous etiquette of polite society and their cheesy corporate grins.They're the Han Solos, the Shanes, the High Plains Drifters of the world, the lone antihero archtypes. I personally, prefer the freedom from Alpha leadership and Beta commitments. If you are saying we are the Alphas of our OWN WORLD, then yes, indeed, I agree with that. But, although some betas might end up following me from time to time, I have absolutely no interest in leading them; and some Alphas may challenge me from time to time, I often just say, "Hey buddy, if you can do a better job, by all means, go for it. I really don't care."
I hate being me.,' I hate being INFJ because I feel like an alien,.' and some people try to understand me but they didn't understand I don't know why.,' they always say "wow how did you know?.,' wow,.' bla bla bla.,'
I used to feel alone, but I got comfortable with my own company. On a sigma RUclips video, the narrator said, "The Alpha make the rules, the betas follow the rules, but the Sigmas say (ef) the rules." I resonate with that sentiment more than what you said on this video. I like you, don't get me wrong, and I hear what you're saying, but in this case, I think what you described is the Sigma spirit. We're "Alphas" in our own worlds, and that's definitely SIGMA! :)
I'm an INFJ woman and my question to you is, do you think infj's can be happy with and compatible with alpha males? I speak for myself and maybe other infj's when i say this and it's that it's hard for me to relinquish control and let anyone else make decisions in my household but I'm also attracted to alpha male's that could possibly take the traditional role and be come the provider.
Mostly Alpha's/Sigmas are INTJ type due to their intellect and assertiveness hence " The Mastermind/Architect " Personality. So , Yea INFJ and INTJ can be bonded it's possible but rare.
Naw, we can't be boxed in. My Aries Ascendant and exalted Mars in Capricorn are action oriented, whether it's thru kindness or straight up hard fucking work.
Would You say that sigmas are always Infj? I read they are also intj. But I am supposed to be infp, but I feel more like a sigma, as I do have the confidence to take the lead, if neccessairy.
Sigmas are exempted, but they don’t care about the hierarchy of society. Sigmas are in tune with themselves and go their way, this does not have to be alone or that they don’t lead, it just means they don’t need that validation from outside, they don’t feel the need to stand in the forefront. I think its all the choice we make and what we value.
interesting.....i tested as INFJ decades ago....& i am Not an Alpha...not even close. Fave quote: "..do not follow, i may not lead..just walk beside me & be my friend"...it's on my keychain.. But..i do stand up to Alphas when necessary, they do not scare me or control me. ......in fact..come to think about it..when that happens they seem to be a little afraid of me...because i will not cower to their 'dominant assertions'. After being told recently..for the 5th time, today...that i am also a Sigma...i decided to come out of my cave & take a look around.....ehhh....maybe. i came i saw i said har!......Going back into my cave now...over the years i've made it into a pretty Epic Haven. :)
If u are a INFJ you probably understand that's a gift not a curse a capacity to understand others having a positive beliefs how can you deceive by others telling its a curse.😆😆
Sigmas don't stay alone for long. They end up creating their owe packs or have even took on alphas. Plus there are omega. Their job is the protection of the pack. They will support the alpha till the alpha fails the pack. Betas are also the piece makes. There are time alpha and omega disagree and have a little fight. Betas comes in to smooth things out. Just wanted to put some facts out there.
Omg , i have been the alpha and the beta most of my life.for example- I have planned stuff , i moved things , i did my girl make up and made sure we are best dressed for a night out every single night in college. Haven't done the make up part all the time though. Can one be both? And then i have also felt like the Sigma a hell lot of TIMES. So damn. Maybe we could be a little of all, maybe 🤔
wish i could apply this. I’m so clearly a Sigma INFJ it’s comical. I was the swim captain and straight A student, even in college. But… i made a mistake. I fell in love with a girl in preschool that insisted on waiting for marriage for sex. But I’m an INFJ, so i loved her anyway, and put a ring on it. I was patient. When she turned up pregnant 4 months from the wedding…. i found myself stranded a virgin. An INFJ virgin. And incapable of of having sex unless i believe the other person cares for me, and ai find them attractive. and let’s face it… there’s no escape from that stigma. And Boy have i got some stories from my attempts. Women nearly trample each other to date me. I’m attractive, kind, wealthy, and tick all the boxes. But when they hear the “V” word….it would be comical if the reaction hadn’t landed me in the ER more than once. or my home vandalized. or been fired from a job because “he makes the office women uncomfortable cuz he’s a virgin. Karen tried to f*** him in the supply room and he just pushed her off. he’s weird”. Hell, even delivered thanksgiving dinner to a family who didn’t have any, because i was alone and wanted to do something for someone. They took the food and had me wait outside in the driving rain cuz the wife didn’t feel “comfortable with a virgin in her house with her kids”. They loved the food… and forgot I was even out there. And of course… let’s not forget… i’ve got the most infamous name in human history (according to a quora poll) it’s one thing to feel isolated, quite another to literally BE isolated. I’m nearly 2 decades older than the average life expectancy for a male virgin BECAUSE my type made me an idealist. I firmly believed there was a female exception who would value me, and be willing to tolerate a sexual learning curve to have someone like me. But I was wrong. Perseverance, Attitude, and effort will get you far in life. But not if you have a metaphorical scarlet letter. And this letter, is by far the most emotionally devestating. Cursed to go through life completely and utterly alone and made a joke of while Living without affection, no love, no intimacy, no conversation, no children, no family, and no friends….. BECAUSE you made the decision at 13 to be a good person. sometimes, you have no decision. you can only accept. In this case, I had only the option of taking and using l the nastiest women nobody else wanted to gain sexual experience, hire women to teach me and through that gain confidence, or rape women. But do you think I could do those things? An INFJ? ha! and so… maybe next time someone won’t walk in and cut me down. Being and INFJ won’t help building the courage to end it though. Maybe I’ll get lucky and walk in on a bank robbery, then i can jump in front of a bullet or somthing.
Sounds good and all, and i get your points, but in reality infjs are more often than not the weirdos. Doesnt mean to sound harsh but i hate this culture where "everyone gets to be a winner"
I have been that weirdo and I decided to not let that define me. Now I am the special one who gets to live an extraordinary life that others wouldn’t dare to take on because it would make them different...I honestly believe that goes for everyone...being weird/different/special can be a burden when let that define you or you go out and make something for yourself and attract the kind of people who like exactly that about you...so yes, I still believe, everyone can a winner in life but it‘s on us to make it happen and not wait for some ‚popular‘ people to like us
True, Wenzes. But most people follow those with the silver tongue. These who have developed their focus on supporting their followers in their Idiocracy through positive reinforcement and affirmation. Afterall who likes to be shown the error of their stupidity - instant dislike. As for those who have quiet observations and critical analysis that rejects the paths of others, no leader there without that silver tongue. Wenzes, you face an uphill battle selling to the infj alphas. Although you're well equipped! 😘 .. and blessed with having (developed ?) a vocally expressive manner, that is a weakness that infjs need working on. I have no doubt you would inspire those that would enlist your service. ✔️
@@TheParez Wrong No Condescending or genuine care? I have control over my oral expression, and no need or desire for more. My comment has multi purposes. However I don't care to cater to all, Wenzes can pick up those who would like to develop those skills, AS STATED earlier. She has the talent and consideration for those interested.
Have you ever felt you have to "just accept" you are going to be the sidekick instead of being the HERO of your story and "winning at life"?
Yeah the struggle that u faced I have also faced something like this and I totally follow what you do. It's so fulfilling.
In the past I found myself in that situation and believed it was my lot in life,but once I found out I'm an INFJ,and learned more about who I really am,I no longer put up with being the sidekick or the 3rd wheel.Im now working to be the hero in my story and if others cant understand that,its their issue,not mine.It's disappointing to witmess all of the twisted conceptions of what it truly means to be an Alpha,Beta or Sigma.Wolves have it down pat,hopefully one day more People will finally get it.Thank you Wenzes for sharing such helpful advice!
I'm an INFJ woman and my question to you is, do you think infj's can be happy with and compatible with alpha males? I speak for myself and maybe other infj's when i say this and it's that it's hard for me to relinquish control and let anyone else make decisions in my household but I'm also attracted to alpha male's that could possibly take the traditional role and be come the provider.
@@sarasalah3985 see I am an infjt type and for me I know that I am mature when it comes to relationship yes I am controlling but at the same time I am also very flexible and agreeable to others so for me the thing that would work out would be with someone comfortable with whom I am eased out you know I have tried alpha woman but again with them I did not find that comfort I am looking for. I tried to behave alpha but then I realised it was easy but it was not what I was naturally. So now my first priority in my partner would be that she makes me feel like home so that I can share everything with her cos being vulnerable is my biggest fear and someone taking advantage is another one. So I hope this might help you in some sort. Bdw this aplha and all is just bullshit everybody has his alpha ie masculine as well is beta is feminine side it's just that the real alpha males are the crimanls only other than that it's impossible to be alpha for eg Pablo Escobar was real alpha male.
Realy deep and honest video,you got me deep !
I feel it, i hear it and i wanna help change it for everybody.
It was an INFJ that once said, "I am the alpha and the omega".
Originally author and finisher perfect Christopher. Thanks.
Which sounds like a Sigma to me
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Wow very insightful
Hallelujah! King Yeshua be glorified!
Im a INFJ and definitely a sigma Im not comfortable being the Alpha. Im an outsider and a lone wolf.
i know the feeling. For me, alphas have the constant and irritating need to demonstrate their alphaness, to have it acknowledged, or else their tender feelings get hurt. It’s pathetic, and holds them back. sigmas, i think, aren’t even trying to BE a “lone wolf”, or actively be “outside”. we just don’t give a shit about protecting the alphas insecurities, and the most efficient way to get the most work done in life is to ignore them and that social structure. other can come if they want, or go play to the alphas feelings.
if that’s a lone wolf… okay🤷🏼
Woooooooooooooooo!
I'm a fixed sigma, but for those who know about those moments of the so called "calling" I'm adapt myself to the alpha role usually in times of need or where all is loss emotionally or mentally for those around us
@@vincentmangal6169 if you are a infj are you then automaticly sigma
@@djrbdbdndjwjk5039 based on my own personal experience and behavior I would say yes but infj do display a strong independent stance on most aspects of there life
@@vincentmangal6169 ok
Your first video about INFJs being alphas resonated with me, so I deep dived on the topic.
Extroverts = alphas (more concerned about public image)
Introverts = sigma (self sustaining).
I feel I can be a force to be reckon with but I really enjoy my alone time, and rarely ask for help from others, I rather learn and do it myself.
Sigma is like 007 James Bond, who is an introvert (alpha)... mysterious, confident, skilled in survival, refined, and when push comes to shove, he's a one man wrecking ball.. oh, and to get what he wants, he uses his wits and charm, rarely loses his cool, he gets the best girls and after their encounter with him, they change their character to good...that sigma alpha is what I gravitated towards after relating to an alpha by your first video.
It's like I'm an army of one, special forces when it comes to decoding human psychology in real time, doing good in the world, and a natural disdain towards bullies.
I prefer the company of nature over most people.
😊👍😊 love the character
I haven't seen an INFJ as intelligent as Alpha , Sigma's are super smart in real life, if you're lucky try to talk to them they are more like INTJ smart as hell while INFJ are so judgemental and so much on feeling sometimes not even thinking.
@@vidalskyociosen3326 I can agree with on this, INTJ is Sigma, while INFJ is Alpha. However, I believe the INTJ actually falls short in comparison to the INFJ due to the feeling & judgement possessed by the INFJ. The feeling & judgement is an advantage in my biased INFJ opinion...LoL
In my experience INTJ is "smart as hell", but has a very cold heart...lacking in empathy as well. The INFJ will only display the INTJ cold heart attribute after the famous "INFJ Door Slam".
@@dually81 It's always has been a misconception that INTJ's are very cold or even don't feel a thing , lack of empathy, etc.
INTJ's has its own Feelings and Judgement , and Intuition too but combined that with a very sharp intellect , you got yourself an Alpha or a Sigma.
But both personality type are great.
@@vidalskyociosen3326 I agree, but man my ex girlfriend, INTJ is still probably my best friend in the world...but boy is she ruthless & cold-hearted. LoL
In my experience INTJ does best with INFJ because we won't be easily offended by their direct spoken logical approach to life.
For the most part, INFJ does well with INTJ for similar reasons...plus we both enjoy our space.
Liked and subscribed, because being also an INFJ you sound exactly like me and I am helping others. I have always wanted to meet other INFJs so I can receive the same support I give and through this short video, I was able to have a taste of how freaking awesome that felt. No wonder most people just dump their baggage at our feet for our analytical minds to decipher. Will be looking forward to new videos from you soon! Keep up the good work!!!
You are doing such a great job in recent videos of changing the INFJ story. This, combined with your Ni-Ti loop and stress videos, have really helped me rethink the degree to which I over-rely on being an 'introvert'.
So glad the videos are helpful 👍😊
Hi Wenzes! Thank you. Your videos have helped me so much. I am in my eighties and have been doing inner work at least since I was four with intuition & classes & workshops & experiences & etc. Yet you have shed so much light on my self understanding that was not there before. I am forever grateful as I admire your courage and attitude. In one sense I see you as doing more of simply "what works better" & in another sense I see you doing miracles in the midst of life challenges. Keep up the good work!
I love to imagine you going about your days amongst all of us and being your own awesome self as various situations arrive.
You are, indeed, making a difference for all of us while being true to yourself! Peace&Joy, Wenzes!
YOU'RE THE BEST FOR READING COMMENTS :) I RESPECT AND LOVE YOUR PERSPECTIVE, KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK!!!!!!
Yeaaay ☺️ happy I can share my truth
So the way I went about doing this was to spend a lot of time determining and deciding what I think about a wide variety of topics and questions.
After a while, I began to transition into a mindset of figuring things out for and about myself.
I think asking yourselves what you think about anything is another good way to put what wenzes is saying.
And to Wenzes, thanks for being such a inspiring badass over the past years. You’ve taught me a lot. I feel sure of myself very recently. I think I’m becoming the person who can stay that way.
So happy to read that!! You got this Brandon 👍👍👍
Thanks for having a POSITIVE video on INFJs vs. some others
I understand what you are saying completely because for all of my high school life, I tried to hide or blend in with the crowd and I saw my "weirdness" or "uniqueness" as a disadvantage AND I thought that there was someone better than me and I was the lowest of them all. BUT, through many ups and downs of fighting for myself, against myself (fears and old habits), against how others treated me, and how I treated myself, I saw the biggest realisation. *drum rolls*
Everyone has their own part to play in the way the world works, and I was given this gifted mind, eagle eyes and observation skills because I can bring all those improvements that seem so scary to face to light. I saw Wenzes videos about accepting that not everyone will like me and at first it was really hard to accept. But when I realised that my 2 values were Authenticity and Future generations, I had no room to feel judged by others. I had to do what was right, even if it meant it scared me. Lean into that discomfort, and grow with it. I let it control me before, but now I WORK WITH IT. We are not different, we are not better than each other, we are equals. And we need to see this about ourselves and how we fit into this world. I had many problems about where did I fit in....where I fit in...where's my home?
Is where is my heart. Its where I can be myself, and so everyday I carry my home with me.
Its a hard journey to find yourself, you'll cry, you'll get angry and get irritated, but if YOU STICK WITH YOUR VALUES, then the world is a less scary place because you made your place in the world. And slowly, you'll see that you made your own place in the world.
Good luck to all of you searching for your souls out there, look inside and out. But build inside out and watch the world react to it. You and I will be different people because of that, whether you want to lead or simply feel more confident with yourself.
Double Ambition
Well said. I just made a quantum leap in looking at my long life. Thank you for helping me to see
Oh for sure!
Just because i would end up alone, never meant i chose to do the work alone.
It was always, if you see a need be the need. Even if you stood alone.
Just because i wasn't out in front ordering & directing the people around, never meant i wasn't their lead.
It was always, I'll be one with you and point out and encourage your strengths alongside you.
E.t.c e.t.c.
Great video and message @Wenzes
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Just finished watching and I agree very much with everything you just said, Wenzes. Thinking on it, I learned about this alpha thing before I even tested as an INFJ (and even now I'm not completely sure on that, but everything I have been learning about INFJs resonates with me and has been helping me deal with my inner demons, so that's fine, right?). I never even knew that there was such a thing as a sigma. But as young as age 15 I already had something that I really wanted to do with my life, a vision, so to speak, and the most fulfilling time of my life was when I was leading my friends toward the fulfillment of this vision - though, sad to say, we failed at doing that because we were all young and inexperienced and had no guidance from anyone.
Anyway, the thing I learned from all the failures and disappointments and heartbreaks is that the reason why many of us might think we are not meant to be the alpha is because we all have our visions (from our Ni hero) and we DO want to make those visions reality, but we are our own worst enemies. Instead of looking inwards to see how the broken pieces of ourselves fit (again, Ni hero), we keep looking outward and see signs of impending doom everywhere (Ne nemesis). We have so much capacity for processing information (Ti child), but we keep relying on others to validate our intellect (Te trickster). And personally, I got lost in the Hell of memories of my past (Si demon) when I should have been living in the moment, making the best of each day as if it were my last, even though I may not be good at it (Se inferior).
We also keep listening to that voice inside us that tells us we're no good, that we're not deserving of any good because we haven't done enough to earn the people around us and the good they do for us (Fi critic). When we ARE supposed to build honest and deep relationships with others and be all the good we could be for them (Fe parent). Because the truth is that our negative experiences are also everyone else's negative experiences. Our trauma is also everyone else's trauma. Yet we are actually the ones with the strength to stand despite all of that (because, again, Ni hero); to make sense of the tragedies and suffering we've endured, and so to help the ones we love make sense of theirs. I've never been more lost when I couldn't do that.
But the hard part is that we INFJs need to be strong in ourselves first; this means making ourselves capable. Sometimes being alpha does mean winning the way everyone else expects us to, even though we may not employ the same means they do in order to win. Why is this? Because we can't just share our visions and expect people to follow. Because deep down it doesn't sit well with us to give orders that we ourselves cannot obey. Because we are meant to lead by example, not just to tell others of our visions but to be the very embodiment of our visions - living proof.
A year ago I was curled up in a ball, lost in constant fits of depression because gaming addiction and other influences around me kept eating away at the resolve and time I needed to fulfill my vision. Ironic that it's during the pandemic where I've never been more motivated and more focused on succeeding. I'm writing and working out almost every day, helping with the chores (got stuck with my parents while visiting them on vacation), and constantly using RUclips to expand my knowledge in writing as well as counseling. I also got in a long-distance relationship, and this is how I know the Fi critic thing is real (I constantly feel like I don't deserve her, even after I've done something that makes her very happy). But I look at her smile through the video feed and my Fe parent tells me that it is real.
I've had my share of bad experiences. I was born and raised in a 3rd world country. We were actually poor and my parents struggled a lot to get us out of poverty; my dad got in an accident and suffered 3rd-degree burns to his hands, arms, and face when I was 8. I myself went through a lot of bullying all the way up to high school. I was a very angry kid, and that anger - along with other issues - led to me making a lot of bad decisions and missing out on a lot of opportunities. Not that I have never tried before, but it's only now that I feel I'm actually succeeding at picking up the broken pieces of my life and making sense of it. That's what we do, INFJs, and that's what I'm sharing here.
TL;DR: Everyone needs help getting out of the same Hell we've been through, and that's why we were born visionaries and alphas. Thank you, Wenzes.
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Thank you. I've been searching for understanding and I see now it's here.
years ago I was an electronics tech and took a Meyers Briggs test and was labeled INTJ; I noted that the score between T and F were very close. Lately I took the test again and it came out INFJ. I think and feel that I am INFJ more than INTJ, though I can play either role.
INFJ's have been tested, and use their right and left brains about equally. One cannot go through life on Ni-Fe alone, because you would otherwise be a people pleasing shell. We tend to use Ni-Ti to navigate many if not most of the problems in every day life. This is a very different function from the Ni-Te of the INTJ, who organize their thoughts externally, bouncing often crazy ideas off people. Ni-Ti usually has a characteristic deadpan delivery, often given as a proclamation.
I've had the exact same experience. I took the test years ago and came out an INTJ, but something about it didn't "click" and I lost interest. Recently I took it again and came out an INFJ. It definitely resonates a lot more, in fact nothing else has managed to satisfactorily explain to me the endless "why"s I've asked about myself my whole life.
So you're an IXTJ. Welcome.
IM COMFORTABLE being a Sigma I isolate when I was younger I would just take off on my horse ..I played sports but when done ..I like my space,I'm not socially awkward infact I'll "perform" and I adapt fast with all types...And when it's time I leave and recharge..OR I choose to not come around.IVE never been a follower and if someone tries to force me,I'll be gracious depending upon the relationship, otherwise NO.🙏
what happens when you want to be included, or have companionship then? You c- … nevermind. I hadn’t noticed you were female. I guess you have that option. I very much hope you appreciate it.
The nature/nuture conversation. Ive been on this self examination journey a couple years and getting healthier because ive found a couple youtubrs like you and feel connected. Kinda wish i started couple decades ago.
Great insight. Having a mindset that focuses on what success means to me, rather than what I am told it looks like has been a journey with many twists and turns along the way.
Being the 'Alpha' was almost natural. The first milestone in finding myself. It is useful, especially when you know how well you can lead, inspire and motivate others through connection and vision. The trouble I found with being the Alpha is I didn't like the limelight. Preferred to be in the background. Felt morne comfortable not having the responsibility. It just wasn't for me.
The next step was being the Beta/Executor. This was tough as it usually meant trusting the vision and ideas of others. Naturally, I would question motives, see potential and real roadblocks where the assumed Alpha either did not or would not. Also, execution was usually me organising the tools/strengths of others to achieve the intended outcome. Strangely found being the Beta less desirable than being the Alpha.
Sigma is where I feel the most comfortable and allows me to be myself, be true to who I am and fits well with my need to withdraw, contemplate, reflect and observe without the restraints of group responsibility or the blind spots that come with carrying out a vision or directive of another.
I like to follow my own path, explore my own interests, create my own story that allows me to use my refined skills only when I choose to rather than because it's expected or able to.
There is an immense satisfaction and underlying strength in knowing I can, and choosing not to. Or facilitating the desired outcome through others, building the motivation/desire to be Alphas and Betas themselves. And all the while this lone Sigma kicks back and enjoys the ride, every now and then jumping in when necessary and yet retaining the freedom that I enjoy.
Your video came right on time. I needed that.
Thank you Wenzes for your work! It really supports me
thank you Wenzes, i'm in love with this video
So happy I can help 😊👍
The original video struck a chord with me, because yes, we've all fallen for the stereotype categories. Having said that I've never followed the rules, finding out I am an INFJ has been the most soul setting feeling, interestingly sigma videos have just recently popped up.....just another interesting concept!
Great follow up video!😊
Thankyou for this new perspective. I love it.
I always used to look up too people who were "alpha," or rather beta. They seemed so fearless and out there with others. But more and more I respect the unique way I see the world and interact with it. It isn't easy, especially when your relationships are built around you being the meek one, to start being yourself because it will throw a wrench in the relationships. Now for the first time they see the real you. But the sooner you rip off that bandage the sooner you can have start living your true life with people that love you being you. I'm currently in that transition and its not easy but I know it will be worth it.
Totally agree! It‘s not easy and a transition but totally worth it!
Another good motivational video. Keep doing them. We eventually get the messages although we are a bit slow on the uptake! 💕😇
Thanks wenz😊 I really enjoyed the video and your message is Powerful!🙏🏽
Yeaay, happy I can inspire! 😊👍
I'm starting to understand myself. God bless all of these people who create these videos. I'm definitely an Infj/ sigma. Right now I'm very isolated. I always thought I was weird. I also felt mesirable. I wanted to understand myself. I even thought to start meditation to find myself.
Always awesome to listen to you speak truth...😀
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Merci, you are doing a master piece, believe me. Luc 👏
Alpha is extrovert and Sigma introvert as INFJ. INFJ stands the best balance between Idealism and Reality, focusing practical efficiency. Being visionary seems too high to an alpha, so tight to rules, created and imposed by himself.
Congratulations Wenzes 💚
😃 I can’t stop this visioning, and I have visions of lots of little things.., creative stuff😊
That‘s all amazing...make sure to put them into action as well. Do the real world action that will make them a reality 👍 you got this.
Wenzes YESSS! Wenz! Your the best😊🤞🏽
great, proud of u!
Your the best Wenzes! 🥳🥳🥳🥳
Thanks to all explaination. 🥳🥳🥳
Yeah what you're saying is true.i think infj is 'just' like other types of personality, having difficulties but still the same that it just need to be handled wisely. To be a winner in life means one must be able to understand how this world works n then knowing themselves better (conquering the weakness n improve a lot the strength).i think mindset is useful for any type of personality
I'm INFJ-A Sigma. I've been to Europe, Greece, the Middle East and had some eye opening experiences. Have you ever had a clairvoyant "flash?"
Im infj too and i cannot get out of my home:)
I thank you for everything I’ve been alone and struggling with my life for 10+years I knew I was different but now I know I’m special and I have used the weapons without knowing until now that I heard about you
One thing infj’s are good at as you demonstrate is being able to put the puzzle together with a single seemingly disconnected (to other people) puzzle piece.
Great explanation
Wezzes , your make up is great btw 💓
Well put. I'm learning a lot from your channel. Personally, I reserve my judgement most of the time; because there ARE so many perspectives. For instance, I spent an obsessional amount of time, is that even a word? - viewing and listening to these Pick a Card Tarot Readings. I didn't care if other people thought it was nuts. I didn't care if I was 1 out of maybe 10 males in a whole sea of females; when I felt called to say something, I did. If I wanted to bare my soul, I did. If I didn't agree with something I said it. If I didn't feel like commenting for months at a time, I wouldn't.
Yes, I resonate strongly with the Sigma personality type; and I don't know, yet, enough about the INFJ to say the same thing; but I won't be hemmed in by a bunch of opinions. And there are so many. Sigma has taken off. It's the newest thing since sliced bread, as they say. And after probably watching HUNDREDS of videos on the Sigma; I've come to a conclusion... there's a lot of confusion going on. People WANT to be Sigma; because it seems the new, cool thing. I AM at least partly Sigma; because I truly go my own way. I see the utility of adopting the Sigma mindset, I love researching everything under the sun, I'm romantic by nature; and I love trying on different personalities, because I'm both the director and the star actor of my own life. But I don't resonate with EVERYTHING said about the Sigma. In time I might; or I might not; but I still find it useful to watch everything about the Sigma; because it is so progressive and inspires me to keep pushing through adversity to reach for my dreams.
I practice Telekinesis; you might say that this is my main claim to fame; but I'm not the person who would normally volunteer or work hard to lead others. That's because I respect that everyone is living their own life from their own perspective. I lead now; or seek to be a leader; because I see how the actions of others will eventually, en-mass, is that a word? - affect me and those I love. It is BECAUSE I see the great connectivity of things and I see that the so-called leaders in our society haven't stepped up to the plate, that peoples' individual NON-CRITICAL THINKING DECISIONS as a collective have us headed possibly even toward extinction; and that scares me. I'm pretty courageous; but I can't just stand by and watch the world go to hell.
I'm aware that this is my opinion; but I feel I have a strong connection to Deity. And it's urging me to step up. Now's the time. Now that I've matured, handled my ish, as they say. I've got the tea. I'm in the know. And I'm creative and resilient enough to weather the storms of life; and there is a lot of value in that.
Yes, I want people to find their own way; but many aren't even looking. Many don't know HOW to go within. I want to mentor people in how to do that. Once they can do that... they won't need me. They'll become aligned to a greater design that will benefit us all.
So, for the moment, I'm acting like an Alpha from a position of a Sigma, who feels and thinks much like an INFJ and an INTJ and an INFP, and an ENFP. It's so confusing to label me one way or the other. I'm fluid. Divine timing and my own upbringing and how I've chosen to shape myself over the decades will determine largely what, if any, impact I have on this world.
Peace
DM.
I can't speak for anyone else I am definitely infj/assertive type and I am definitely Alpha with strong leadership skills where people get confused is because I am not competitive with other people and have no desire to control other people,nor do I desire to be the center of attention. Challenging myself to learn something from everyone I interact with to know them better so as to serve them better in the future.
Great perfect overall big picture thanks
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@@Wenzes your alright Wenzee.🌈⭐♥️
Love it.
I'm learning about this after discovering this is my personality type. Now everything makes sense.(sadly) it's a lonely road but at least I can trust my own thoughts and judgments. Thanks for your great informative videos.
It can be less lonely. I'm an introvert, but that doesn't mean i'm not loud. It doesn't mean i don't have a lot of friends, but it means that i see being alone as rest, not a thing that beats me up to death. You can be talkative, communicative leader, but still be an introvert
Doubt it is a coincidence, but I am an INFJ-A and SIGMA male.
I don't think it's anything negative at all. More a gift 🎁. We are lone wolves! We are alone most of the time! As Wendez says, all we want is real authentic connections with people. If anything is not inlne with our inner core and values. We simply chose to remove them from our life. We would rather die alone, than except and settle for less than we deserve and that is not "real" ♥
Thanks!
Need to stay in touch
Agree 〜 as an IFNJ, I’m not ant Alfa, or a beta, I’m an individual!
THANK YOU
Thank you 🌚
Thank you
Really like ESTPs are not that highly represented but it is not one of the first things that is mentioned or at all in most ESTPs videos.
I do not know if ESTPs are Alphas Betas or Sigma ( not sure it really matters) but we are not in high school anymore. We are social beings and everyone has something to add to help.
Good video.
👍👍 totally agree
It takes all the wolves to make a pact. Love your talks
I'm not sure if I'm an Infj or not. I'm wavering between Entp (I know, very different), and Infj. I don't consider myself an introvert. I think that having conversations with people can be one of the best ways to learn about the world. I also love conflict and debate. That being said, so much of what's said about the Infj relates to me. The incessant planning, the communication. Having someone plop down next to you and after a few minutes they're telling you their life's story. So, I'm really conflicted here.
Hard to tell indead but in the end...livelessons are universal in many ways. Folling your own beatdrum and creating a life on your terms is always the right choice, independent of one‘s personality type 👍
Go to key2cognition to learn about your MBTI and then try RHETI (the free one) to know your true Enneagram. This way you won’t be able to doubt who you are anymore.
As a lone wolf I love mindfullness
At first when I saw this in the recommended did not want to watch it I thought I'll just get mad a you because there are so many stupid videos about us online and I did not want to cause myself stuff like that. But now I decided to watch it I'm at 1:38 but you make perfect sense so far.
Lovely empowering words for some one like me .......
Wenzes you're so inspiring. I can relate to the archetype of the wolf. Actually, I would like to recommend to you and to your followers the excellent book by Clarissa Pinkola Estes " Women running with the wolves" -. Based upon the author's research on wolves and how they interact within their communities she writes about how the archetype of the divine feminine -(which exists in every woman -definitely INFJs-), is really important nowadays and why it needs to be acknowledged and honored again. Thank you again for the valuable insights ❤
I live my light and truth and principles and integrity and absolute love of being. It organically places me in leadership. Even if that isn't my conscious goal. 🤷
This is a unique approach to the subject of the "Alpha" type. I have some alpha qualities or I wouldn't have stayed in teaching for long. However, I've done some beta jobs well. By myself though, I'm definitely sygma. I'm kicking around the idea that when I gave private piano lessons, it was both. Maybe the lines aren't as sharply drawn as we've thought.
Well said!
@@Wenzes Thank you
Solid 👊💪❤️😎✌️
You gave the answer at 10.20 why most of the time we want to be alone. They force you to limiting beliefs whchis called in pschology 'referance point'. And theyre hard to change. Dont try to change them.
I am the Alpha and Omega!
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I get frustrated if I have to lead people who cannot think for themselves! I expect people to get in there and figure it out for themselves and Alphas are coaches in life.
Can you view your World beyond the easily tangible? Can you see yourself helping the Team achieve the Goal without drama? Can you think your way into a positive mindframe to achieve success in a situation?
You may be a Sygma
Being Alpha is leading which means you have people looking to you all the time for guidance. Sigma prefer not to be tied down to people all the time. My preferred role is self directed and independent as a Sigma!
Also, a dictator can be the Alpha, the Sigma a Robin Hood. Sigmas don't want to rule the world, they want to spread mischief. They don't what the hassles of formalities, and the cheap disingenuous etiquette of polite society and their cheesy corporate grins.They're the Han Solos, the Shanes, the High Plains Drifters of the world, the lone antihero archtypes. I personally, prefer the freedom from Alpha leadership and Beta commitments. If you are saying we are the Alphas of our OWN WORLD, then yes, indeed, I agree with that. But, although some betas might end up following me from time to time, I have absolutely no interest in leading them; and some Alphas may challenge me from time to time, I often just say, "Hey buddy, if you can do a better job, by all means, go for it. I really don't care."
I love you 😘 with all my heart ♥️ you’re amazing
I hate being me.,' I hate being INFJ because I feel like an alien,.' and some people try to understand me but they didn't understand I don't know why.,' they always say "wow how did you know?.,' wow,.' bla bla bla.,'
I used to feel alone, but I got comfortable with my own company. On a sigma RUclips video, the narrator said, "The Alpha make the rules, the betas follow the rules, but the Sigmas say (ef) the rules." I resonate with that sentiment more than what you said on this video. I like you, don't get me wrong, and I hear what you're saying, but in this case, I think what you described is the Sigma spirit. We're "Alphas" in our own worlds, and that's definitely SIGMA! :)
Yoh! Gold standard!
Oh The Real Alpha
I'm an INFJ woman and my question to you is, do you think infj's can be happy with and compatible with alpha males? I speak for myself and maybe other infj's when i say this and it's that it's hard for me to relinquish control and let anyone else make decisions in my household but I'm also attracted to alpha male's that could possibly take the traditional role and be come the provider.
Mostly Alpha's/Sigmas are INTJ type due to their intellect and assertiveness hence " The Mastermind/Architect " Personality.
So , Yea INFJ and INTJ can be bonded it's possible but rare.
Death, evolution, rebirth, regeneration, shamanism, and transformation=Sigma
True lone wolves
i can't image someone would care if he was a sigma or w/e, all i know people with backbones are extreme rare.
Naw, we can't be boxed in. My Aries Ascendant and exalted Mars in Capricorn are action oriented, whether it's thru kindness or straight up hard fucking work.
Would You say that sigmas are always Infj? I read they are also intj. But I am supposed to be infp, but I feel more like a sigma, as I do have the confidence to take the lead, if neccessairy.
Whats does INFJ stand for?
Sigmas are exempted, but they don’t care about the hierarchy of society. Sigmas are in tune with themselves and go their way, this does not have to be alone or that they don’t lead, it just means they don’t need that validation from outside, they don’t feel the need to stand in the forefront. I think its all the choice we make and what we value.
interesting.....i tested as INFJ decades ago....& i am Not an Alpha...not even close. Fave quote: "..do not follow, i may not lead..just walk beside me & be my friend"...it's on my keychain..
But..i do stand up to Alphas when necessary, they do not scare me or control me.
......in fact..come to think about it..when that happens they seem to be a little afraid of me...because i will not cower to their 'dominant assertions'.
After being told recently..for the 5th time, today...that i am also a Sigma...i decided to come out of my cave & take a look around.....ehhh....maybe.
i came i saw i said har!......Going back into my cave now...over the years i've made it into a pretty Epic Haven. :)
Being a centered individual we become both, right?
Sigma = The True Alpha
I am a sigma INFJ
If u are a INFJ you probably understand that's a gift not a curse a capacity to understand others having a positive beliefs how can you deceive by others telling its a curse.😆😆
I like Styx song; Grand Illusion
Sigma, as we don't require others for validation.
I just realized and found out with some trouble that I'm having that I am infj I am just going through a infidelity I'm going to need some guidance
Alpha = ESTJ , EN TJ , ESTP
Beta = ESFJ , ENFJ , ENTP, ESFP
Delta = ISTJ , ISFJ
Gamma = INFP , ENFP
Omega = ISFP , INFJ
Sigma = INTJ , INTP , ISTP
Definetly the wrong assumption of your sigma alpha or beta is the matter of choice and not relate to personality types
Very true
Sigmas don't stay alone for long. They end up creating their owe packs or have even took on alphas. Plus there are omega. Their job is the protection of the pack. They will support the alpha till the alpha fails the pack. Betas are also the piece makes. There are time alpha and omega disagree and have a little fight. Betas comes in to smooth things out. Just wanted to put some facts out there.
Omg , i have been the alpha and the beta most of my life.for example- I have planned stuff , i moved things , i did my girl make up and made sure we are best dressed for a night out every single night in college. Haven't done the make up part all the time though. Can one be both? And then i have also felt like the Sigma a hell lot of TIMES. So damn. Maybe we could be a little of all, maybe 🤔
Sorry just watched your video now
Alpha and beta or frequency or mind uses everyday. Now what society thinks alpha and beta are
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wish i could apply this. I’m so clearly a Sigma INFJ it’s comical. I was the swim captain and straight A student, even in college. But… i made a mistake. I fell in love with a girl in preschool that insisted on waiting for marriage for sex. But I’m an INFJ, so i loved her anyway, and put a ring on it. I was patient. When she turned up pregnant 4 months from the wedding…. i found myself stranded a virgin. An INFJ virgin. And incapable of of having sex unless i believe the other person cares for me, and ai find them attractive.
and let’s face it… there’s no escape from that stigma. And Boy have i got some stories from my attempts. Women nearly trample each other to date me. I’m attractive, kind, wealthy, and tick all the boxes. But when they hear the “V” word….it would be comical if the reaction hadn’t landed me in the ER more than once. or my home vandalized. or been fired from a job because “he makes the office women uncomfortable cuz he’s a virgin. Karen tried to f*** him in the supply room and he just pushed her off. he’s weird”.
Hell, even delivered thanksgiving dinner to a family who didn’t have any, because i was alone and wanted to do something for someone. They took the food and had me wait outside in the driving rain cuz the wife didn’t feel “comfortable with a virgin in her house with her kids”. They loved the food… and forgot I was even out there. And of course… let’s not forget… i’ve got the most infamous name in human history (according to a quora poll)
it’s one thing to feel isolated, quite another to literally BE isolated. I’m nearly 2 decades older than the average life expectancy for a male virgin BECAUSE my type made me an idealist. I firmly believed there was a female exception who would value me, and be willing to tolerate a sexual learning curve to have someone like me.
But I was wrong. Perseverance, Attitude, and effort will get you far in life. But not if you have a metaphorical scarlet letter. And this letter, is by far the most emotionally devestating. Cursed to go through life completely and utterly alone and made a joke of while Living without affection, no love, no intimacy, no conversation, no children, no family, and no friends….. BECAUSE you made the decision at 13 to be a good person.
sometimes, you have no decision. you can only accept. In this case, I had only the option of taking and using l the nastiest women nobody else wanted to gain sexual experience, hire women to teach me and through that gain confidence, or rape women. But do you think I could do those things? An INFJ? ha!
and so… maybe next time someone won’t walk in and cut me down. Being and INFJ won’t help building the courage to end it though. Maybe I’ll get lucky and walk in on a bank robbery, then i can jump in front of a bullet or somthing.
I can understand. Hope life will take a better turn for you.
Does an INFJ care about status quos or titles like "Alpha" or "Sigma"?
No, we care about being successful in our mission as a whole, all together, no matter the differences.
#AllIsWithin
Sounds good and all, and i get your points, but in reality infjs are more often than not the weirdos. Doesnt mean to sound harsh but i hate this culture where "everyone gets to be a winner"
I have been that weirdo and I decided to not let that define me. Now I am the special one who gets to live an extraordinary life that others wouldn’t dare to take on because it would make them different...I honestly believe that goes for everyone...being weird/different/special can be a burden when let that define you or you go out and make something for yourself and attract the kind of people who like exactly that about you...so yes, I still believe, everyone can a winner in life but it‘s on us to make it happen and not wait for some ‚popular‘ people to like us
I don't understand what you mean by weirdo.
True, Wenzes.
But most people follow those with the silver tongue. These who have developed their focus on supporting their followers in their Idiocracy through positive reinforcement and affirmation. Afterall who likes to be shown the error of their stupidity - instant dislike. As for those who have quiet observations and critical analysis that rejects the paths of others, no leader there without that silver tongue.
Wenzes, you face an uphill battle selling to the infj alphas. Although you're well equipped! 😘 .. and blessed with having (developed ?) a vocally expressive manner, that is a weakness that infjs need working on.
I have no doubt you would inspire those that would enlist your service. ✔️
Did this video somehow attack you personally? Wanna talk about it?
@@TheParez
Wrong
No
Condescending or genuine care?
I have control over my oral expression, and no need or desire for more. My comment has multi purposes. However I don't care to cater to all, Wenzes can pick up those who would like to develop those skills, AS STATED earlier. She has the talent and consideration for those interested.
I totally agree, it is an uphill battle but it‘s a totally fun one...and I am looking forward to trigger even more conversations around this topic 👍
ENJF are Alpha,
Sigma Are the INFJs.😉