Narcissistic people do think that whatever is ours should be theirs, including life, dignity, and soul. What big entitled egos they have! That sick smirking grin they try to hide as they feed on us like a vampire after tricking us into their lair. Can never unsee, that grin of nightmares! They also think that they own the "truth" and our reality doesn't matter. Gives them something to punish and torture us with. It really helps to hear Andrew now, especially when he talks about taking time, slowing down. Like I need permission, ha. Guess I do, but learning to do that for myself as I become "first second and third" 👀. I wish everyone had lots of space and time right now, to process all this finally. It's painful and will make you want to cry and scream (especially for those of us who grew up with these monsters), but remember that's personal progress, what we have to do to see under their "masks" and finally learn to love and protect ourselves. Be brave and fortified like cereal 🙂 Got hoovered yesterday and rather than the usual wasted days of tail spinning, my reaction instead was "what a stupid creep" as I pictured him going down a long list of his victims as if he's looking at a lunch menu, seeing if any one of us would reply. Also learned how to set up auto-delete in Outlook email. Progress! Freedom!!! So grateful for you Andrew and for those of you who contribute to this channel 💞❤🩹💜
That puzzled me way before learning about Narcissism. I guessed there were only so many moves, any human chess piece could make, according to their ranking on the board. So, the Rook makes a similar move to another Rook you meet years later. Nice to "Not play games," then it's wide open for bettering yourself.
Hi Andrew, was with a narc for 39 years finally free going on 4 months now. You have help me so much to understand what I was in, and on the road to heal. Thank you
What is a relationship without Love, Honesty, Stability, Support, Respect, Responsibility, Intimacy, Loyalty, Peace, ...IT'S NOTHING!! Thank you Andrew, its important to see things clearly!💞🍃🥀
They don't have any love to give, ever. And, when they do say they love you, it's so phony. You can actually hear it in their voice. Narcsib has always been that way. As well as other family members. Narcsib did all of this and more. The triangulation never ends, still going on. The lies are too many to count. Millions of lies. I could write a book and it would be a best seller. I know I'm not alone. Thank you, Andrew and everyone who, unfortunately, lived through this trauma. God bless 🇺🇲
Once I realized he didn't care and he was abusing me on every level I no longer cared. I also realized he had to go and I formulated my plan to discard him. I had to act like I still cared just like he was faking it.
One has to do what one has to do. Your ancestors would be angry if you decided to wear the "Kick Me" T-shirt permanently. Good going and I'm glad you got out of there!👍
I know many of you discovered Narcissism from a lover, but I was born into it. It can truly destroy most of your life. I am trying as hard as I can to break the generational curse of it in my family. I am the scapegoat & was very sick for 8 years or so. My beautiful sons have kept my grandchildren that I was bonded to for ten years now. The pain is so great that if I didn’t have Andrew & A few others, I wouldn’t be on earth. My parents & husband are Narcissists. Zero love from these people. Hang in there everyone. You are so much more valuable than you realize! ❤
My heart goes out to you fellow FORMER scapegoat. Sure do hope both of us see improvements in our health as we heal our lives, minds, and souls. Big hugs this morning to yourself and to Andrew 🤗
Yes My family are all narcissists too. I got away from them 30 years ago to Australia from England. Still I was devoted to helping them and loving them and went back several times to get kicked in the guts. One time I was visiting I got so sick I almost died. They are brutal. So I have been no contact for six years. Never again. My parents are ageing. I’ve had to work on my guilt about not being there for them but the truth is they do not love me at all , they hate me if I don’t do exactly what they want. I’m ok with it now. No guilt. I wish you lots of love. I love this channel and Andrews daily wisdom is very supportive. 🙏🌺💜🌸🌼🌈🐝💕🐈⬛🐈⬛
“Love you” was a habit for him..if I didn’t say it back quick enough, he’d let me have an earful.. towards the end, I didn’t want to say it but did to keep the peace.. this is something I will definitely have to work on along this healing journey.. Thank you for more valuable information!
I believe it was your survival instinct kicking in why you said it back. A learned response to prevent additional injury/trauma from happening to you. Avoiding the "weapons" they use on us : rage fits, gaslighting, etc. Glad it has ended for you.
I went back and watched your first few videos from Costa Rica. I could tell you were really still hurting but you have healed so much! I can see it in your knowledge, confidence, appearance etc. Thank you for caring enough to want to help us❤
My x husband told multiple lies about his life as a child. Built a huge story of being something he was not. His sister later confirmed she knew nothing about him doing the things he claimed he’d done! But it got him lots of positive feedback from many others. But he was a total fraud in many areas. Amazing the lies they tell, so believable but totally false!
The narc can NEVER provide lasting emotional security. Unstable mood swings when things are not going their way are obnoxious! Never knowing when or what may provoke them, you anticipate the plastic smile of how nice they perform for others...to turn quickly into ugliness of who THEY ARE! Be Well, Be Wise 🌈🎀😘
A narcissist cant provide security of any kind, especially emotional. They always keep you between a rock and a hard place, living in a world of ultimatums. Now that you are free you actually get to keep all of the things you provided the narcissist with. Feels pretty good doesnt it Marie...... 😊❤😊
Gem of an insight!💎👍 And that "never knowing" ties in to "walking on eggshells." No way to create a stable environment and it will never bring out the best in anyone.
Hi Jennifer 😊 Worked all weekend but on a beautiful job right on the beach. Guess you could say I'm finally getting some beach time in. Haha. The rebuilding your finances stage ..... takes some heart but we've got plenty of that. Hope you had a fun and relaxing weekend. ❤❤
I relate to the movie thing. The narcissist would consistently fall asleep & say "Don't worry about it. I'll finish watching later". I am also familiar with the slamming of cabinet doors. They may do this when staying at other people's houses as well. All things considered, what the narcissist can give is.. trouble. I am very sorry that you went through this & were treated that way. It's shameful to say the least. And that goes for all of us.. our goodness was used against us. Manipulation, games & deceit. But I can vouch for what Andrew says. You will rise.. You will heal. You will go back to who you were before you met the narcissist, only better. You will be wiser, more thankful, more joyful & more at peace. Just take it day by day & keep going. Take everything on your heart to God in prayer. You'll do it. Excellent video Andrew 🙌. Truth. Love your green background 🌳 God bless you☀️🙂
All of what you say is so spot on in my experience: thank you.. these people are medically sick.. I don’t even blame it necessarily on them they’re simply sick
You will blame them after you encounter them a few decades. They are demonic spirits. I've seen these entities my whole life. It's good to see the truth on many channels as to the truth.
Thank you for opening up my eyes today. I left my 2nd marriage of only 7 months (my first marriage was 15 years) 11 months ago, after experiencing narcissists in both cases. After the first marriage, I went into victim advocacy for domestic violence and I was fooled again in my second marriage. I’ve been hurting immensely over the past 11 months and have been living in a fantasy world where maybe, the narc didn’t mean all of the harm he caused. Maybe he didn’t know better. I felt the guilt because I did report him to authorities. I’m very much an empath and I do feel for others on a major level. Today, you abruptly caused me to open up my eyes and realize that I was never the issue and that I did all of the right things. I prevented his history of hurting women from being able to repeat itself. It’s so hard to understand the pain unless you’ve experienced it but it is real. Thank you for aiding in my healing process. Everything you spoke of here today is the absolute truth! ❤
Your strength and resilience are showing through in your comment. 👋👋👋 You didn't stay as long in your 2nd marriage, so you started saying "YES" to yourself. 👋👋👋 Keep that positive forward momentum going. 🎉🎉🎉
I did the same thing. Long term first marriage….the original narc. Then came number 2, but I got out after 2 years. Then the boyfriend, same thing. Bye bye. I finally can recognize it early on or even before the first date. Bye bye. Finally, paying attention to gut reaction and not ignoring it. Putting me 1st, 2nd and 3rd! Walking in peace is a beautiful thing.
I am educating myself now about narcissists & going no contact & healing me & my broken foot I am definitely taking life in the slow lane & healing myself 🎉 i am grateful for the education on yt 🎉
You were targeted not because you are weak, but because you have something they didn’t. You may feel weak after the curtain drops and the show is over, so to speak, but realize deeply that you were intentionally deceived! Say it to yourself, “I was once a fool, but no more!” This is not meant to take you down but to give you a starting place. Aim low when you are recovering, accomplish small steps and see them through. The beginning of wisdom is in realizing how much we just don’t know, which is a great place to start. You will heal. I have been where you are if you are still in the fog, it’s terribly hurtful and debilitating but you will make it out. Remember, you were targeted because you have something special and that is what they wanted, it’s like when a child takes a toy because someone else is playing with it and enjoying themselves, children will grow out of that behavior eventually, but the NRC is an adult who still didn’t learn the lesson. They think that if they can take your bright light at least they won’t have to watch you being at peace because THEY WILL NEVER KNOW WHAT PEACE IS!!! It’s sad but the truth. It’s totally pathological. Keep your head up everyone 💯🕊️🛜
Precisely, don't you know it!!! Only those who have experienced could truly relate. Appreciate your most forthright concern to pass it forward! 👍💥❤ 🌈🎀😘
I hope you are well Marie! Classes begin tomorrow for me and I’m excited to be taking a class 😂 the “super moon” will show itself tomorrow, I hope you get to see it. 🌕☕️
@JUMPforyourLIFE Oh, I think starting classes sounds great for you! You may meet some NICE people & you are carrying on. Good deal! Yes, I've been reading about tomorrow's moon....can't wait to check it out. You be well now & ENJOY! 🌈🎀😘
the narcissist won't offer any closure but you can find it on your own. and for me the stronger I got, the more I didn't need it from them anymore. And YES Andrew I understand the chuckles......it's so true. Love to all❤❤❤💌💌💌
Great video Andrew! I always wish everyone in this community two of the many things a narcissist cant give you....clarity and peace. Keep moving forward. 🙏
Thank you Andrew. I went through a devastating break up with a narcissistic person that i wanted children with. You woke me up to the cycle of new and old supply from past narcissistic relationship. You keep me going everyday. I became isolated with little to no money and alone. I didn't wake up until my late 20s. Im just imagining how life would have been if i didn't wake up to the sad reality of life of narcissistic people. After the brake up i felt emotional less and empty it became very painful.
That' sooooo true! I can't forget those random arguments only to find out it was an excuse to meet new supply or whoever that is. He also told me he likes football and plans to join a club but really he never did, it was all lie!
It's incredible the lies they construct....I received something very similar...I was catching on but I think he thought I was functioning at his low level and didn't have a clue!!
His response when I told him I loved him was, “aww”. He only ever said it back once when we’d been drinking in the middle of the night. It’s over now and I blocked him on everything. Never again.
Interestingly 'aww bless' was a regular response from the guy I was with. Painful reality was he felt nothing for me at all.... that's been difficult to come to terms with but I have ☺️🌟
Tonight I see a a bright supermoon with an electric blue Corona that goes all the way around. The blue is also absorbed in the middle. I've needed to take it in tonight. Wish it could last forever. Magnitizing. I'm so fortunate.
Have to say again that this full moon is so bright tonight that when I look up it seems just as bright as the sum. There's something like a kind of an energy shift that's happening. It's a good thing. Gotta go
Thank you, Andrew. Yes, my husband could not/ cannot give love, attention, affection, unless it.was in his timing, if at all. When we finally had children, it was the same way for them...The list goes on.
The most I can impart tonight is that this super moon is extremely auspicious. If it's clear just look up and take it all in. I'm already out here. Set your intention. With meditation and see what happens. 😮😂❤
One time, we had been broken up for quite some time, but he called me and begged me. I said okay, you're going to make all the effort, since you don't have a car then you will have to take an Uber over here, and we will Uber to the restaurant for fish fry and we can talk there. He said he could hardly wait to see me and thanked me incessantly for taking him back. He never showed up. Half an hour later he called and said, babe, where are you? I have been waiting all this while for you! Don't you want to make up why did you stiff me I love you so much, why you do these things to me
3-4 months in she started saying it is a God thing , her mother was saying the same thing ! What a dork I have been ... I love her still to my demise , I am so disappointed in myself ... help me Jesus Christ !!! And thank you Lord God for keeping me safe thus far.
Love love ! Love one another. I don't hate the narcissist. I just feel sorry for them. They're missing such good life ! ✌️ Andrew thanks for the video 📸😊
Honesty, kindness, to love, gentle communication are essential characteristics of our empath existence... and to be with a narcissist is to be with a predator. Therefore, I THANK YOU, once again Andrew, for your insightful thoughts and video.
It’s just so confusing,, HOW HOW HOW, does a person become so awful. How is it possible?? And now to know, this is what my Dad was, and why my beautiful Mom had a lifetime of misery ,,, and none of us growing up, could understand how he could do what he did. Of course,,, I followed I. Her footsteps,,, I slowed narc after narc into my life and believed the lies. Another life of misery, but,,, now free.
I can tell you that my sister (who's a mirrored personality of our mother) and I had an incredibly abusive upbringing a mam (and dad) who was abusive also + quick tempered and overbearing (mam would be overly aggressive and sometimes leave for long periods, ignore us for days for little things) then our dad would orbit her demanding we do everything we could to stop her leaving again (he was her enabler) we had a grandmother who wasn't violent but thought she was above everyone (and was quite manipulative and controlling in certain ways) so my sister became a narcissist (I'm not) but I guess she chose pretend land instead of genuine (I'm no contact got sick of her behaviour and found out about the smear campaigns) I do genuinely believe there could be a genetic component too
Hi, All! 10:13 i am among those who FIRST thought it would he best to allow 1way communication from the Narc, BUT eventually switched to blocking them over email. & while this has been good, it seems now he's taken to snail mailing kiddo more. Just wanted to share. Narcs seem to want to make sure there's some type of consequence for any decision you autonomously make on behalf of yourself. Can't tell if i'm on the $ or paranoid 😅
You are on the dollar alright! Narcs must feel they have the control. It's one of their traits. Take note should you see this in someone else. They cross over boundaries & do always want to have the last say so over anything. They are known to figure out how to cause punishment of some kind later ...because like elephants.... they don't forget!!! Close All doors if you can! Blessings👍🙏 🌈🎀😘
Sorry, but I need to laugh you were mimicking my life. One you forgot, vacuuming hitting the bedroom door at 630 while you sleep. My kids called their aunt at 630 on Saturday morning telling her to stop her sister. The aunt got on the phone and told her to let her family sleep they worked hard all week and she was acting like their Mother. Hahaha Guess im healing!
20 Things That Narcissist Can't Give You: 1. Love 2. Time 3. Their Undivided Attention 4. Fidelity 5. Loyalty 6. Finances 7. Integrity 8. Appreciation 9. Honesty 10. Kindness 11. Joy 12. Peace 13. An Apology/Apologies 14. Introspection 15. Goodness 16. Faith 17. Gratitude 18. Honor 19. Patience 20. Self-Control Are you STILL wondering why you should go no contact with the narcissist and delete them enablers, all flying monkeys, and people associated with them? If not now, WHEN???? 🤨
Great List.👍 No.20 is the most dangerous loss, along with your identity. Sooner or later, all that bottled up stress will rise up or devastate your health.
Thanks, Andrew. I appreciate your detailed teaching videos. You are 100-percent accurate. The narcissist didn't make an effort in the relationship. One thing I noticed is that the odd archaic vocabulary in the narcissist's family Christian prayers sounded peculiar. Then, I saw and heard that it was a recital akin to the 1950s to 1960s black and white western TV show scripts.
That is a strange one and kinda funny. "TV cowboys back then used to say' Yonder' a lot." These days, no one talks like that "'round these parts, I reckon."
@@karenzilverberg4699 Oh! Correction-- " M'Lord, I forgot to fetcheth a 6 pack of ale at which hour I traveled to the village merchant ...but I didst remember the proper peanut butter!"
I woke up vibrating today. It's called hyperstimulation. It's cased by anxiety. He keeps calling me with problems. When he called I told him I dreamt of running. But I didn't say from what. I do remember. A giant Rat. So I asked AI to interpret the dream and it said: " It is common to dream about a giant rat chasing you. This means that you are feeling baffled and outmanoeuvred by a person or thing in your life",).
As always, thank you Andrew for an enlightening video. 🙂 Hope you were able to safely and effectively remove the sunblock from your eye. P S Please can the pups make a guest appearance soon ? 🙂
I had researched almost a year ago most of the time they can’t change…. On the other side there’s a chance fraction single digit chance of change.? That’s if they’re able to even communicate or try however haven’t seen this. So best to move forward and heal! Thank you for this and all videos. Just wondering what your thoughts are as far as the research? God bless you. Nameste and good evening! ❤😊
My narc 'friend' told me his estranged (of 20yrs) brother had contacted him three days prior to start a relationship again (after narc had fallen out with another sibling). When i went around the brother was there and made a remark about when he was at narcs house a month prior, i said oh i thought you had only been speaking a few days as i dont keep quiet for liars anymore, we both looked at narc and he looked really uncomftable and the brother asked why he would say that. Why lie about something so needless?
Sounds like you were dealing with a real psychopath man. I’ve been talking to this Chinese girl who luckily I had didn’t marry, but still same type of shit. Just you try to say hello for the most peaceful things or whatever they always turn it into some psycho pathic drama battle.
Andrew I love your advice. However I think you are full of pc crap when you say the narcissist has been married more than once. The three narcissists I am dealing with have been married for two to three decades. CAREFUL WHAT YOU THINK IS TRUTH!!!!
Went back and reviewed the video , Andrew says many times. As in that may not be everyone's experience. It hasn't resonated with your personal experiences but perhaps others did find resonance. Hope that helps to clarify things for you. 🙂
Sounds like you were dealing with a real psychopath man. I’ve been talking to this Chinese girl who luckily I had didn’t marry, but still same type of shit. Just you try to say hello for the most peaceful things or whatever they always turn it into some psycho pathic drama battle.
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Narcissistic people do think that whatever is ours should be theirs, including life, dignity, and soul. What big entitled egos they have! That sick smirking grin they try to hide as they feed on us like a vampire after tricking us into their lair. Can never unsee, that grin of nightmares! They also think that they own the "truth" and our reality doesn't matter. Gives them something to punish and torture us with.
It really helps to hear Andrew now, especially when he talks about taking time, slowing down. Like I need permission, ha. Guess I do, but learning to do that for myself as I become "first second and third" 👀.
I wish everyone had lots of space and time right now, to process all this finally. It's painful and will make you want to cry and scream (especially for those of us who grew up with these monsters), but remember that's personal progress, what we have to do to see under their "masks" and finally learn to love and protect ourselves. Be brave and fortified like cereal 🙂
Got hoovered yesterday and rather than the usual wasted days of tail spinning, my reaction instead was "what a stupid creep" as I pictured him going down a long list of his victims as if he's looking at a lunch menu, seeing if any one of us would reply. Also learned how to set up auto-delete in Outlook email. Progress! Freedom!!!
So grateful for you Andrew and for those of you who contribute to this channel 💞❤🩹💜
Thank you for sharing..🙏💜😌⛰️💯
You can only give what you have… This is why they give genuine emptiness.
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They can't love you. I know that much.
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It’s so creepy how all narcissists are text book. They all do and say the same things. How is that even possible??
Water finds its own Leval !!! 🤠
Ide like to know too. If it is demonic??
@@stephaniepiazzese2602 seems demonic they come to STEAL AND DESTROY 😈
they're evil !
That puzzled me way before learning about Narcissism. I guessed there were
only so many moves, any human chess piece could make, according to their
ranking on the board. So, the Rook makes a similar move to another Rook
you meet years later. Nice to "Not play games," then it's wide open for bettering
yourself.
They never give follow through. Talk is cheap. ❣️
Hi Andrew, was with a narc for 39 years finally free going on 4 months now. You have help me so much to understand what I was in, and on the road to heal. Thank you
Well done!
Welcome..😌😌🙏💜
So happy for you 💓
Peace to you.
I'm so happy you are free. It gets even better, free of the narcissist. Life is good. God bless you and stay strong. 🇺🇲
It felt so good when I blocked my whole family 👏👏👏.
Yeah!
Me too !!
Six years ago
Never again !!🙏🌺🌸🌼
What is a relationship without
Love, Honesty, Stability, Support, Respect, Responsibility, Intimacy, Loyalty, Peace,
...IT'S NOTHING!!
Thank you Andrew, its important to see things clearly!💞🍃🥀
Welcome..🙌🙏💜😌
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They don't have any love to give, ever. And, when they do say they love you, it's so phony. You can actually hear it in their voice. Narcsib has always been that way. As well as other family members. Narcsib did all of this and more. The triangulation never ends, still going on. The lies are too many to count. Millions of lies. I could write a book and it would be a best seller. I know I'm not alone. Thank you, Andrew and everyone who, unfortunately, lived through this trauma. God bless 🇺🇲
All liars in lake of 🔥
Welcome..😌💜💯🙏
Once I realized he didn't care and he was abusing me on every level I no longer cared. I also realized he had to go and I formulated my plan to discard him. I had to act like I still cared just like he was faking it.
One has to do what one has to do. Your ancestors would be angry if you decided
to wear the "Kick Me" T-shirt permanently. Good going and I'm glad you got out of there!👍
you can't give what you don't have from love to a peaceful life
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I know many of you discovered Narcissism from a lover, but I was born into it. It can truly destroy most of your life. I am trying as hard as I can to break the generational curse of it in my family. I am the scapegoat & was very sick for 8 years or so. My beautiful sons have kept my grandchildren that I was bonded to for ten years now. The pain is so great that if I didn’t have Andrew & A few others, I wouldn’t be on earth. My parents & husband are Narcissists. Zero love from these people. Hang in there everyone. You are so much more valuable than you realize! ❤
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My heart goes out to you fellow FORMER scapegoat. Sure do hope both of us see improvements in our health as we heal our lives, minds, and souls. Big hugs this morning to yourself and to Andrew 🤗
Yes
My family are all narcissists too.
I got away from them 30 years ago to Australia from England. Still I was devoted to helping them and loving them and went back several times to get kicked in the guts. One time I was visiting I got so sick I almost died. They are brutal. So I have been no contact for six years. Never again. My parents are ageing. I’ve had to work on my guilt about not being there for them but the truth is they do not love me at all , they hate me if I don’t do exactly what they want. I’m ok with it now. No guilt.
I wish you lots of love.
I love this channel and Andrews daily wisdom is very supportive.
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@@Amber-b3g It breaks my heart to hear this storrys. Narcissists are like cancer.
“Love you” was a habit for him..if I didn’t say it back quick enough, he’d let me have an earful.. towards the end, I didn’t want to say it but did to keep the peace.. this is something I will definitely have to work on along this healing journey.. Thank you for more valuable information!
Welcome..😌😌💜🙏
A 35 yo punk kid said this to me. He was working on my truck. He is 24 years my senior and was looking for a free ride. 😂
I believe it was your survival instinct kicking in why you said it back.
A learned response to prevent additional injury/trauma from happening to you.
Avoiding the "weapons" they use on us : rage fits, gaslighting, etc.
Glad it has ended for you.
@@suesanders1169 agree!
Omg. Mine was exactly the same.
I went back and watched your first few videos from Costa Rica. I could tell you were really still hurting but you have healed so much! I can see it in your knowledge, confidence, appearance etc. Thank you for caring enough to want to help us❤
This is such an accurate description of their behavior
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My x husband told multiple lies about his life as a child. Built a huge story of being something he was not. His sister later confirmed she knew nothing about him doing the things he claimed he’d done! But it got him lots of positive feedback from many others. But he was a total fraud in many areas. Amazing the lies they tell, so believable but totally false!
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@@diannepomon5688 Thank you for sharing your story. It means a lot to many of us to share. Helps with the healing. We are not alone. God bless 🇺🇲
The narc can NEVER provide lasting emotional security. Unstable mood swings when things are not going their way are obnoxious! Never knowing when or what may provoke them, you anticipate the plastic smile of how nice they perform for others...to turn quickly into ugliness of who THEY ARE!
Be Well, Be Wise 🌈🎀😘
The plastic smile is usually while out in public.
Once home, anything is admissable, much as you stated.
A narcissist cant provide security of any kind, especially emotional. They always keep you between a rock and a hard place, living in a world of ultimatums. Now that you are free you actually get to keep all of the things you provided the narcissist with. Feels pretty good doesnt it Marie......
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@chazbickel4518
Peaceful sooo peaceful! 🤗❤💥
Gem of an insight!💎👍 And that "never knowing" ties in to "walking on eggshells."
No way to create a stable environment and it will never bring out the best in anyone.
@JHavaJoe2-m1z
I'm into cozy...not crazy.
You have yourself a pleasant evening! 🤗☕
Hello my friends!!! Hope you all had a WONDERFUL weekend!!! 🙌👋😁☀️🫶☮️🌻🌼🌸🌺🫂🫂🪻💫✨❤️💜❤️💜
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Hey Jennifer! The cool ( here), sunny weekend is still "all systems 'Go""! Hope you're enjoying yours!
Thanks and I hope you had a wonderful weekend also!!! ❤
Hello my dear Jennifer ❤🎉
Hi Jennifer 😊
Worked all weekend but on a beautiful job right on the beach. Guess you could say I'm finally getting some beach time in. Haha. The rebuilding your finances stage ..... takes some heart but we've got plenty of that. Hope you had a fun and relaxing weekend.
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You are SO spot on and accurate with your description of them.
I relate to the movie thing. The narcissist would consistently fall asleep & say "Don't worry about it. I'll finish watching later". I am also familiar with the slamming of cabinet doors. They may do this when staying at other people's houses as well.
All things considered, what the narcissist can give is.. trouble.
I am very sorry that you went through this & were treated that way. It's shameful to say the least. And that goes for all of us.. our goodness was used against us. Manipulation, games & deceit.
But I can vouch for what Andrew says. You will rise.. You will heal. You will go back to who you were before you met the narcissist, only better. You will be wiser, more thankful, more joyful & more at peace. Just take it day by day & keep going. Take everything on your heart to God in prayer. You'll do it.
Excellent video Andrew 🙌. Truth. Love your green background 🌳 God bless you☀️🙂
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Excellent Positive message!👍
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Thanks for your excellent way of describing The game🙏
Hugs to everybody suffering narcicism🙏♥️
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All of what you say is so spot on in my experience: thank you.. these people are medically sick.. I don’t even blame it necessarily on them they’re simply sick
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You will blame them after you encounter them a few decades. They are demonic spirits. I've seen these entities my whole life. It's good to see the truth on many channels as to the truth.
I’ve listened to you about a month now and I’m blown away how much you strike chords about my brother. Thanks so much from OK!
Yes he's great
Another excellent video Andrew!. Keep them coming.
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Thank you for opening up my eyes today. I left my 2nd marriage of only 7 months (my first marriage was 15 years) 11 months ago, after experiencing narcissists in both cases. After the first marriage, I went into victim advocacy for domestic violence and I was fooled again in my second marriage. I’ve been hurting immensely over the past 11 months and have been living in a fantasy world where maybe, the narc didn’t mean all of the harm he caused. Maybe he didn’t know better. I felt the guilt because I did report him to authorities. I’m very much an empath and I do feel for others on a major level. Today, you abruptly caused me to open up my eyes and realize that I was never the issue and that I did all of the right things. I prevented his history of hurting women from being able to repeat itself. It’s so hard to understand the pain unless you’ve experienced it but it is real. Thank you for aiding in my healing process. Everything you spoke of here today is the absolute truth! ❤
Hugs & Blessings... hang in there, many here understand.👍🙏
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Your strength and resilience are showing through in your comment. 👋👋👋
You didn't stay as long in your 2nd marriage, so you started saying "YES" to yourself. 👋👋👋
Keep that positive forward momentum going. 🎉🎉🎉
I did the same thing. Long term first marriage….the original narc. Then came number 2, but I got out after 2 years. Then the boyfriend, same thing. Bye bye. I finally can recognize it early on or even before the first date. Bye bye. Finally, paying attention to gut reaction and not ignoring it. Putting me 1st, 2nd and 3rd! Walking in peace is a beautiful thing.
I am educating myself now about narcissists & going no contact & healing me & my broken foot
I am definitely taking life in the slow lane & healing myself 🎉 i am grateful for the education on yt 🎉
Congratulations ! I've been on board for almost a couple years now and it takes some time but absorb all valuable knowledge you can 😊
You were targeted not because you are weak, but because you have something they didn’t. You may feel weak after the curtain drops and the show is over, so to speak, but realize deeply that you were intentionally deceived! Say it to yourself, “I was once a fool, but no more!” This is not meant to take you down but to give you a starting place. Aim low when you are recovering, accomplish small steps and see them through. The beginning of wisdom is in realizing how much we just don’t know, which is a great place to start. You will heal. I have been where you are if you are still in the fog, it’s terribly hurtful and debilitating but you will make it out. Remember, you were targeted because you have something special and that is what they wanted, it’s like when a child takes a toy because someone else is playing with it and enjoying themselves, children will grow out of that behavior eventually, but the NRC is an adult who still didn’t learn the lesson. They think that if they can take your bright light at least they won’t have to watch you being at peace because THEY WILL NEVER KNOW WHAT PEACE IS!!! It’s sad but the truth. It’s totally pathological. Keep your head up everyone 💯🕊️🛜
Precisely, don't you know it!!!
Only those who have experienced could truly relate.
Appreciate your most forthright concern to pass it forward! 👍💥❤
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I hope you are well Marie! Classes begin tomorrow for me and I’m excited to be taking a class 😂 the “super moon” will show itself tomorrow, I hope you get to see it. 🌕☕️
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Oh, I think starting classes sounds great for you! You may meet some NICE people & you are carrying on. Good deal!
Yes, I've been reading about tomorrow's moon....can't wait to check it out.
You be well now & ENJOY!
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Thank you, Andrew.
So true, they are not able to empathize and will set you up to scold to criticize. You are so right as always Andrew. Thank you as always. 👏
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the narcissist won't offer any closure but you can find it on your own. and for me the stronger I got, the more I didn't need it from them anymore. And YES Andrew I understand the chuckles......it's so true. Love to all❤❤❤💌💌💌
Thank you Andrew ..have a lovely weekend everyone 🙏
Soul-less creatures. There’s nothing there is what I now know… 🌷
Thanks Andrew; this one really resonated ❤️
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Dude, that part about them sitting in the car texting people for gas money is so hilarious, you had me busting up laughing
Spot on. To be sure this could be the most comprehensive video on the subject yet. Well done. ✨️
Yes, I got the thud,crash bang, he through a fake trip to hospital for 8 days as well.
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A life of togetherness as one..... symbiotic in the sense of reciprocity. 💜🌟
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You’re right Andrew.
I agree 👍🏻
Thanks Andrew.get sunblock out of your eyes.❤
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God bless you Andrew & everybody on this channel. 🙏🙏🙏
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Great video Andrew!
I always wish everyone in this community two of the many things a narcissist cant give you....clarity and peace.
Keep moving forward.
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Thank you Andrew. I went through a devastating break up with a narcissistic person that i wanted children with. You woke me up to the cycle of new and old supply from past narcissistic relationship. You keep me going everyday. I became isolated with little to no money and alone. I didn't wake up until my late 20s. Im just imagining how life would have been if i didn't wake up to the sad reality of life of narcissistic people. After the brake up i felt emotional less and empty it became very painful.
yes I loved my ex partner and believed she how wrong was I
That' sooooo true! I can't forget those random arguments only to find out it was an excuse to meet new supply or whoever that is. He also told me he likes football and plans to join a club but really he never did, it was all lie!
It's incredible the lies they construct....I received something very similar...I was catching on but I think he thought I was functioning at his low level and didn't have a clue!!
@@JulieShah-in7zz ikr?? Thinkin we some kind of a fool 😒
@@herlifenextdoor Well we're not....we're just good people with good hearts...they will never know that 👿
Thank you, as always ❤
Im a very empathic person, i have to be strong everyday to battle against all narcisist people.💪
Thank you for your videos Andrew. I really appreciate them and your posts 🌸
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His response when I told him I loved him was, “aww”. He only ever said it back once when we’d been drinking in the middle of the night. It’s over now and I blocked him on everything. Never again.
Interestingly 'aww bless' was a regular response from the guy I was with. Painful reality was he felt nothing for me at all.... that's been difficult to come to terms with but I have ☺️🌟
Tonight I see a a bright supermoon with an electric blue Corona that goes all the way around. The blue is also absorbed in the middle. I've needed to take it in tonight. Wish it could last forever. Magnitizing. I'm so fortunate.
Andrew I'm trying to visualise in my minds eye a narcissist bungie jumping 😂
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Thank you for another week of beautiful flowers, words of wisdom and videos. You’ve reached 203K, CONGRATS! Enjoy the rest of your evening. ❤️🤗
Have to say again that this full moon is so bright tonight that when I look up it seems just as bright as the sum. There's something like a kind of an energy shift that's happening. It's a good thing. Gotta go
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Everything Andrew spoke is absolutely TRUE .. my ex did all this to me !!!
they can't love at all hey andrew i was out in the pool glad to be watching your video love you sweet man
Thank you brother ❤ My step daughter is what you describe but the Dad refuses to see
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No smartphones - just drugs....
Preach it andrew ❤
The triangulation is the worst for me.
It,s horrible to experience , 😢
Thank you, Andrew. Yes, my husband could not/ cannot give love, attention, affection, unless it.was in his timing, if at all. When we finally had children, it was the same way for them...The list goes on.
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The most I can impart tonight is that this super moon is extremely auspicious. If it's clear just look up and take it all in. I'm already out here. Set your intention. With meditation and see what happens. 😮😂❤
Thanks Andrew 🙂
One time, we had been broken up for quite some time, but he called me and begged me. I said okay, you're going to make all the effort, since you don't have a car then you will have to take an Uber over here, and we will Uber to the restaurant for fish fry and we can talk there. He said he could hardly wait to see me and thanked me incessantly for taking him back. He never showed up. Half an hour later he called and said, babe, where are you? I have been waiting all this while for you! Don't you want to make up why did you stiff me I love you so much, why you do these things to me
That story answered any questions on why you broke up with him.
3-4 months in she started saying it is a God thing , her mother was saying the same thing ! What a dork I have been ... I love her still to my demise , I am so disappointed in myself ... help me Jesus Christ !!! And thank you Lord God for keeping me safe thus far.
I met my spouse in church...RUN! 👍
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Love love ! Love one another. I don't hate the narcissist. I just feel sorry for them. They're missing such good life ! ✌️ Andrew thanks for the video 📸😊
Honesty, kindness, to love, gentle communication are essential characteristics of our empath existence... and to be with a narcissist is to be with a predator. Therefore, I THANK YOU, once again Andrew, for your insightful thoughts and video.
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All the narcissists ever do is wash, rinse repeat. Smh 😒
It’s just so confusing,, HOW HOW HOW, does a person become so awful.
How is it possible?? And now to know, this is what my Dad was, and why my beautiful Mom had a lifetime of misery ,,, and none of us growing up, could understand how he could do what he did. Of course,,, I followed I. Her footsteps,,, I slowed narc after narc into my life and believed the lies. Another life of misery, but,,, now free.
Look up narcissistic personality disorder if you want to try to understand why and how. It's an actual mental health condition.
I can tell you that my sister (who's a mirrored personality of our mother) and I had an incredibly abusive upbringing a mam (and dad) who was abusive also + quick tempered and overbearing (mam would be overly aggressive and sometimes leave for long periods, ignore us for days for little things) then our dad would orbit her demanding we do everything we could to stop her leaving again (he was her enabler) we had a grandmother who wasn't violent but thought she was above everyone (and was quite manipulative and controlling in certain ways) so my sister became a narcissist (I'm not) but I guess she chose pretend land instead of genuine (I'm no contact got sick of her behaviour and found out about the smear campaigns) I do genuinely believe there could be a genetic component too
Include sociopaths and psychopaths.
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Hi, All! 10:13 i am among those who FIRST thought it would he best to allow 1way communication from the Narc, BUT eventually switched to blocking them over email. & while this has been good, it seems now he's taken to snail mailing kiddo more. Just wanted to share. Narcs seem to want to make sure there's some type of consequence for any decision you autonomously make on behalf of yourself. Can't tell if i'm on the $ or paranoid 😅
You are on the dollar alright! Narcs must feel they have the control. It's one of their traits. Take note should you see this in someone else. They cross over boundaries & do always want to have the last say so over anything. They are known to figure out how to cause punishment of some kind later ...because like elephants.... they don't forget!!!
Close All doors if you can!
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Thank you for your inspirational videos.
Thank you andrew
I recognise the beauty in your channel Andrew 🙏
Wonderful insight, great channel !
Empaths love purely and unconditionally, we also hurt deeply 💔 I love Andrew's wording... They just slitter away to the new supply, so accuate
Sorry, but I need to laugh you were mimicking my life. One you forgot, vacuuming hitting the bedroom door at 630 while you sleep. My kids called their aunt at 630 on Saturday morning telling her to stop her sister. The aunt got on the phone and told her to let her family sleep they worked hard all week and she was acting like their Mother. Hahaha Guess im healing!
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20 Things That Narcissist Can't Give You:
1. Love
2. Time
3. Their Undivided Attention
4. Fidelity
5. Loyalty
6. Finances
7. Integrity
8. Appreciation
9. Honesty
10. Kindness
11. Joy
12. Peace
13. An Apology/Apologies
14. Introspection
15. Goodness
16. Faith
17. Gratitude
18. Honor
19. Patience
20. Self-Control
Are you STILL wondering why you should go no contact with the narcissist and delete them enablers, all flying monkeys, and people associated with them? If not now, WHEN???? 🤨
Great List.👍 No.20 is the most dangerous loss, along with your identity. Sooner or later,
all that bottled up stress will rise up or devastate your health.
The narcisist can’t give you love and that’s everything we need to know to walk away from those abusive, deceitful and manipulative people.
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Thanks, Andrew. I appreciate your detailed teaching videos. You are 100-percent accurate. The narcissist didn't make an effort in the relationship.
One thing I noticed is that the odd archaic vocabulary in the narcissist's family Christian prayers sounded peculiar. Then, I saw and heard that it was a recital akin to the 1950s to 1960s black and white western TV show scripts.
That is a strange one and kinda funny. "TV cowboys back then used to say' Yonder' a lot." These days, no one talks like that "'round these parts, I reckon."
@@JHavaJoe2-m1z It sounded alot like a twist on the old King's English.
@@karenzilverberg4699 Oh! Correction-- " M'Lord, I forgot to fetcheth a 6 pack of ale at which hour I traveled to the village merchant ...but I didst remember the proper peanut butter!"
@@JHavaJoe2-m1z 👍 You hear stuff like bestow upon and so forth.
I know this now. They are empty souls that wander this world. They are vampires that will go to hell when they leave this world.
“No skin in the game.”
Yeah , it,s disgusting , they never capable to really love
I woke up vibrating today. It's called hyperstimulation. It's cased by anxiety. He keeps calling me with problems. When he called I told him I dreamt of running. But I didn't say from what. I do remember. A giant Rat. So I asked AI to interpret the dream and it said: " It is common to dream about a giant rat chasing you. This means that you are feeling baffled and outmanoeuvred by a person or thing in your life",).
As always, thank you Andrew for an enlightening video. 🙂
Hope you were able to safely and effectively remove the sunblock from your eye.
P S Please can the pups make a guest appearance soon ? 🙂
I always waiting for Andrew makes thoughtful fase after he declared subject of video. 🤨 I love it 😀❤
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Thought bout it rhe list is too long. To write respect is number one on my list
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I had researched almost a year ago most of the time they can’t change…. On the other side there’s a chance fraction single digit chance of change.? That’s if they’re able to even communicate or try however haven’t seen this. So best to move forward and heal! Thank you for this and all videos. Just wondering what your thoughts are as far as the research? God bless you. Nameste and good evening! ❤😊
My narc 'friend' told me his estranged (of 20yrs) brother had contacted him three days prior to start a relationship again (after narc had fallen out with another sibling). When i went around the brother was there and made a remark about when he was at narcs house a month prior, i said oh i thought you had only been speaking a few days as i dont keep quiet for liars anymore, we both looked at narc and he looked really uncomftable and the brother asked why he would say that. Why lie about something so needless?
Bonus: musical version of Andrew’s lessons: ruclips.net/video/x6Mx5xKOMAk/видео.html
Oh yes they lie soo much! You cant tell what's a lie and what's true
Sounds like you were dealing with a real psychopath man. I’ve been talking to this Chinese girl who luckily I had didn’t marry, but still same type of shit. Just you try to say hello for the most peaceful things or whatever they always turn it into some psycho pathic drama battle.
Andrew I love your advice. However I think you are full of pc crap when you say the narcissist has been married more than once. The three narcissists I am dealing with have been married for two to three decades. CAREFUL WHAT YOU THINK IS TRUTH!!!!
I think you need a hug.
I rarely take things literally 100% Sometimes, things are stated for impact and one has to
read between the lines.
Lol "pc crap" Andrew is simply stating the truth. Many narcissists have been married many times and have been in a lot of relationships
Went back and reviewed the video , Andrew says many times. As in that may not be everyone's experience. It hasn't resonated with your personal experiences but perhaps others did find resonance.
Hope that helps to clarify things for you. 🙂
In MOST cases this is truth.
Be Well
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Thank you Andrew ✝️🙏
Sounds like you were dealing with a real psychopath man. I’ve been talking to this Chinese girl who luckily I had didn’t marry, but still same type of shit. Just you try to say hello for the most peaceful things or whatever they always turn it into some psycho pathic drama battle.