Overcoming Fear After Being Stalked | Robin Brockelsby | TEDxUniversityofNevada

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  • Опубликовано: 12 фев 2018
  • Wife, Mother and Business Owner Robin Brockelsby was a confident force in her community until her life was drastically altered by a stalker who turned his focus to her and her family. Robin tells us how 11 little words - "Life as you know it will never be the same again", changed her life. This raw, vulnerable and inspirational narrative chronicles Robin's journey to reclaim her emotional strength, bravery and power after her victimization. Robin Brockelsby is an Entrepreneur, Speaker, Leadership Consultant and President of the Board for the Crisis Call Center of Nevada. In addition to running her household which includes her husband and 3 teenagers, Robin owns and operates multiple businesses in Northern Nevada, including Creative Coverings - a corporation that is recognized as one of the nations’ leading Special Event Linen Rental & Sales Companies. Robin believes passionately in her community and her strong desire to empower others to succeed emotionally and fiscally is what drives her soul. Her newest project, Embrace the PATH, stems from her personal journey to seek her true self. Embrace the PATH is a website that includes blogs and motivational speaking topics dedicated to helping people gain confidence by conquering their fears and discovering their Passion, Authenticity, and Truth…all of which are necessary to find complete Happiness. True Happiness equals Success This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

Комментарии • 192

  •  2 года назад +57

    I’m currently a victim of stalking and harassment, and I thank you for sharing this.
    I’ve been extremely scared to leave my home. My leasing property refused to allow me to transfer. I’ve been having an extremely difficult time coping and pulling my life back together.

    • @dm5129
      @dm5129 Год назад +5

      It is extremely distressing when you are being stalked. Many people can never imagine what it is really like. You see insanity, you see outright aggression, you see attacks on your character and the most difficult is to see the insanity, that insanity will haunt you.

    • @juliah83488
      @juliah83488 Год назад +2

      Same here! Stay strong!

    • @Machercide
      @Machercide Год назад

      same here. please stay safe and take care of yourself.

    • @sinem90473
      @sinem90473 Год назад +1

      I also gained anxiety later it feels good to know we all can overcome at one point and we aren't alone

    • @payelghosh12345-_.
      @payelghosh12345-_. 8 месяцев назад

      Same here.

  • @dymphnatherese2595
    @dymphnatherese2595 5 лет назад +147

    I've never heard someone else talk about being hunted. I'm finally able to cry because she understands. It's been months and I wish I could thank her

    • @three7734
      @three7734 5 лет назад +7

      That's exactly how I describe it also. I couldn't believe she said that. Nobody I know understands this. There were a few other things she said, and also that list shown at the beginning, that made me sit up and say, someone understands?

    • @dm5129
      @dm5129 4 года назад +12

      Yes, hunted, that is the exact description....

    • @lizbetcruz172
      @lizbetcruz172 2 года назад +8

      I'm currently getting stalked. I'm really scared for my family. I've resisted the urge to call him to stop. I'm glad this video came across so I know better. Pray for me y'all. My biggest fear is becoming a statistics right now.

    • @dymphnatherese2595
      @dymphnatherese2595 2 года назад +2

      @@lizbetcruz172 Many prayers for all of you. Years later, Jesus has found me. I didn't know Him at all when I wrote this. He's changed everything for me. He can for you, too. I'm not afraid anymore. Keep hanging in there and believe me. God loves you. May He bless you all forever and ever.

    • @dymphnatherese2595
      @dymphnatherese2595 2 года назад +3

      @Piper LT years later I've converted. I was an athiest agnostic when I wrote this. I'm so thankful to God. May God bless you forever.

  • @victoriacampbell912
    @victoriacampbell912 3 года назад +65

    100% agree. Stalking is never the fault of the victim.

  • @Beautyjoy98
    @Beautyjoy98 3 года назад +54

    Ive had 3 bad stalkers in my life 2 if which were ex boyfriends. I'm 36 yrs old and I stopped dating 10 yrs ago because of it. I never ever want to be abused and haunted ever again. I'd rather be safe, happy and alone then take another chance again. My heart breaks for anyone who experiences this. It is so isolating. I never went to the police. I was too afraid. In fact I've never involved the police ever in my life. I am a coward. Don't be like me. Speak up. I'd do it differently now. Love be with anyone reading this.

    • @TheMaryberry6061
      @TheMaryberry6061 2 года назад +11

      I was stalked in college and like you since then I haven't dated anyone. I am scared I would pick another guy like him. So I just be happy I am single and safe.

    • @dm5129
      @dm5129 Год назад +4

      My case is similar, was stalked by a young male and then stalked by many many bystanders who knew him. The insanity of these people is breathtaking. I suffered PTSD from it and my marriage was shattered during that time too. I have been living completely by myself for 13 years. A victim will automatically guard herself/ himself to not ever let that happen again. In my case I am not interested in fleeting relationships anyways, only in something realistic.
      I am being hunted down and attacked by women who will laugh and talk all day and pretend to somehow be a victim too, but they attack me.
      The people who attacked me and still do after the stalking are vicious, their aggression is physical and mental and I enjoy the peace at home where I can live my life.
      Not a single private connection with anyone since I was stalked: but they will call me the nastiest names they can think of. It took me a long time to get over being stalked, PTSD, and suffering a divorce all at the same time.
      I am surprised that I survived the PTSD, I did not think I would.

  • @jerryjamify
    @jerryjamify 4 года назад +62

    Gang stalkers have this same affect, only no one believes your going through it. Narcissism 101 stalkers want to drive you crazy

    • @stalkingvictimsadvocate3987
      @stalkingvictimsadvocate3987 3 года назад

      What did you do?

    • @valeriewalkerwhite9525
      @valeriewalkerwhite9525 3 года назад +7

      which is why I gave up my apartment. This guy apparently knew everyone in the complex and many in the neighborhood and I knew absolutely no one. He sent one of his flying monkeys to my apartment one morning at 12:30 am. I was shaken..like wtf is going on here. I literally was shaking...

    • @shelbiemaerose4380
      @shelbiemaerose4380 3 месяца назад

      That's what's happening to me now

  • @erikalapointe6007
    @erikalapointe6007 Год назад +19

    I am a victim of stalking and harrassment, and even though it has been a year since I've seen my offender, I still feel that I see and sense him everywhere. I am still having a hard time leaving my home, or being home alone even after a year since I've caught him. I've moved out of the country to get away from him, and somehow, he still gets to me. Stalking is one of the most difficult things to deal with, and it has truly impacted my sense of agency, and has completely changed me as a person. Some days, I hear noises in my home, and I have to mentally reassure myself that it is NOT him, even though logically it simply cannot be him. It is hard to come to terms with reality after such a massive invasion of privacy & threat to your livelihood. I feel so heard and understood by this video. thank you so much.

    • @promitamondal8099
      @promitamondal8099 Год назад +1

      I understand you. I come from the same problem,

    • @xxXmiokXxx
      @xxXmiokXxx 10 месяцев назад +1

      I resonate a lot with this.

    • @ChrisWeatherall-gu8vg
      @ChrisWeatherall-gu8vg 7 месяцев назад

      thanks to, I am overwhelmed with the job of *anthony_support0* they're too good and helpful, they helped me end the program. i dont feel it anymore. im so happy

    • @ChrisWeatherall-gu8vg
      @ChrisWeatherall-gu8vg 7 месяцев назад

      @@xxXmiokXxx
      thanks to, I am overwhelmed with the job of *anthony_support0* they're too good and helpful, they helped me end the program. i dont feel it anymore. im so happy

  • @gabriellamashiah979
    @gabriellamashiah979 5 лет назад +62

    I Got blamed for it all...& i didnt do anything but kept to myself....

    • @dm5129
      @dm5129 4 года назад +6

      That is exactly what I said ten years ago and that is exactly what I am still doing today. But that does not stop gang stalkers from harassing me viciously every single day for 10 years now.

    • @onelove750
      @onelove750 3 года назад +1

      @@dm5129 are you ok sorry to hear if you need to talk I'm am here I have been through similar

    • @getthalootent6530
      @getthalootent6530 3 года назад +3

      @@dm5129 same bro I got them stalking me and I been feeling ima be killed or kidnapped anytime now...

    • @valeriewalkerwhite9525
      @valeriewalkerwhite9525 3 года назад +1

      I had just moved into my apartment and did not know a freaking soul in this complex or neighborhood. Like wtf.

  • @StorytellingSuccess
    @StorytellingSuccess 6 лет назад +53

    This is an incredibly courageous TEDx talk by Robin. Facing her fear, even by being this public, will help thousands, perhaps millions of peopel who have been stalked - to let them know they're not alone and to give them strategies to deal with it. Thank you, Robin, for modeling heart, authenticity, vulnerability...

  • @SpiritualOneness
    @SpiritualOneness 3 года назад +27

    What’s sad is that the police doesn’t really have proper procedures to deal with these stalkers. I got a message from fake google number threatening me but they couldn’t do anything. ☹️ there needs to be proper training for the police to help protect stalking victims. 4 years now I’m still traumatized and still looking over my shoulder. 😢

    • @daisymaygames
      @daisymaygames 10 месяцев назад +2

      The cops told me to get a ring camera after my hacking stalker got my IP address. Yeah, a device he can just hack into? Absolutely not 😅

    • @SpiritualOneness
      @SpiritualOneness 10 месяцев назад

      @@daisymaygames I definitely have all of that now. But I still get anxiety leaving the house =(

    • @xxXmiokXxx
      @xxXmiokXxx 10 месяцев назад +1

      THIS. it's so messed up. The cops didn't believe me the court says I needed more proof. Going through the legal system to receive no help was so exhausting and so traumatizing in itself.

    • @xxXmiokXxx
      @xxXmiokXxx 10 месяцев назад +2

      The us Justice system is a freaking joke, there needs to be more conversations about this and more support for victims.

    • @CS..8
      @CS..8 5 месяцев назад

      @@xxXmiokXxxI feel like I wrote this myself! Seriously though!!! I can’t second this enough!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  • @ashleyjones9775
    @ashleyjones9775 2 года назад +9

    I been stalk by neighbor for 22 years. I lived in fear for years. No one could help me. He still lives in Long Beach,Ca. I was afraid to leave the house. He did everything to hurt me. He ruined my life. He got the other neighbors across the street to help him harass me and stalk me. I was living a nightmare. It's 2 years now. I'm finally away from him. But I still have that feeling he can find me at any moment.

  • @MaggieNgButterLatte
    @MaggieNgButterLatte 3 года назад +21

    Another reason not to speak to them is that they can use your words against you too.

  • @Overtonl1234
    @Overtonl1234 Год назад +10

    Yep some people deal with things like this for decades with no justice. It’s like some cute “joke” to people but it’s far from it.

    • @CS..8
      @CS..8 5 месяцев назад

      Literally me. 12 years and counting STILL, after 18 years of the worst abuse you could go through as a child.

  • @CamdenE
    @CamdenE 4 года назад +31

    This was powerful. I've never been stalked but I want to stand up for those that have.

  • @tedbus7708
    @tedbus7708 2 года назад +10

    Stalker will take credit for her living a better life..stalks don't care if they're robbing your time or energy..they're a seriously underrated health hazard to the one/s being stalked.
    Keep records, lock them up at every peep they make.. And make your restraining order "police enforceable" Not a peace bond..it means police can detain stalker in custody at the drop of a pin. Tell your friends and family and community..coming from 20 years of hassle harass experience.

  • @dm5129
    @dm5129 4 года назад +25

    Yep, she got that right. After a stalking ones life will never ever be the same.
    My only fighting back consisted of turning the guilty one in.
    That was enough for a whole crowd to gang stalk me to this day.
    Physical life challenges, physical health are very important to me and I enjoy medicine so much, more and more every day am I fascinated by medicine and holistic care.
    Mental PTSD challenges are quite different.
    My nervous system is so rowled up I can only usually concentrate on one mental challenge, then after completing that challenge I need a good amount of time before I tackle the next mental challenge, otherwise my nervous system goes completely haywire.

    • @2muchwit
      @2muchwit 2 года назад +2

      Wow thats how im feeling. noone helps until they have to.

  • @patriciaegan8149
    @patriciaegan8149 5 лет назад +26

    What if the stalker removes documentation from not only mobile devices, but also out of a person's place of living? It's a sickness that is worse than a horror movie, horror movies can be turned off, stalkers can't unless caught and then they're still there.

  • @jamieeva
    @jamieeva 4 года назад +19

    I'm being stalked by my neighbors and I was followed today and I had to call the police to make a report now I feel extremely drained. Unfortunately my stalker lives right next door to me.

    • @dm5129
      @dm5129 4 года назад +3

      Thats a tough one, same situation here. But to one stalker that you see there are hundreds of helpers, so even moving would not bring relief, unless of course that person starts to attack physically, then you have to save yourself physically.
      Restraining orders in my humble opinion often can not prevent extreme violence either. It is a piece of paper.
      A stalker does not care or give a hoot about a piece of paper.

    • @jamieeva
      @jamieeva 4 года назад +2

      @@dm5129 today I caught the bus by myself to do some shopping and my neighbors (the group of people that's harassing me in my building) and as soon as I left out of the building this guy was yelling across the street from me telling these two girls that I was leaving so they no my schedule and was waiting outside for me and they followed me to the bus stop but they didn't get on the bus so half way across town into my trip 3 guys got on the bus and they were looking at me like really staring me down then I caught one of them pointing at me then all of a sudden one of the guys threatened to hit me over the head with a bottle.

    • @dm5129
      @dm5129 4 года назад +4

      @@jamieeva Wow, that is bad.
      I have had to use the back entrance at my apartment complex in an attempt to avoid trouble.
      At my apartment complex I turned to the Mayor to check on illegal prostitution and illegal drug use.
      As you can imagine: I am not popular at my apartment complex.

    • @jamieeva
      @jamieeva 4 года назад +4

      I know right lol it's getting worse I went to see a psychiatrist last week and he said I have panic disorder and depression with a touch of PTSD lol and it's because of this situation with my neighbors I wish I could sue them lol

    • @valeriewalkerwhite9525
      @valeriewalkerwhite9525 3 года назад +2

      that was my situation too. After filing the temporary restraining order, I moved out the day before the hearing to make it permanent, which the court did.

  • @kalenna6785
    @kalenna6785 5 лет назад +24

    I felt there is someone follows me, they showed up at my home and work. I did told my colleague and reported it to police but no one took it seriously. Some of the people I know even change their name on their profiles. It has something to do with the attitude of the community where you live in, whether they are willing to help or just blame it on you so that they don't get involve in the trouble.

    • @gabriellamashiah979
      @gabriellamashiah979 5 лет назад +4

      This HAPPENED TO ME..U RIGHT IT DO..& U FEEL EVEN WORST OR TERRIBLE CAUSE NO ONE CARED

    • @Machelle3200
      @Machelle3200 2 года назад +3

      "The Community" is the one spearheaded this bullshyt. This woman was Targeted. period.

    • @rhodesgrec1648
      @rhodesgrec1648 2 года назад

      @@Machelle3200 i've been stalked for almost 4years and still... I understand i am targeted now

  • @octoberfire13
    @octoberfire13 2 года назад +10

    I am literally going through this right now and truly feel so triggered at all times because it is literally my next door neighbor ... and it has been going on for awhile now and I am at a loss with how I can make this all stop

    • @crazychristmas100
      @crazychristmas100 2 года назад +1

      I'm so sorry you are going through this.

    • @dm5129
      @dm5129 Год назад

      Many people can get involved and you will not know it until they bother you. It can go from friendly story telling to outright lying right into your face. Just know that you have to be much more careful after you have been stalked. The worst injuries can often happen after the stalking, because a lot of people can be jealous too.

  • @ABirdOnTheMoon
    @ABirdOnTheMoon 5 лет назад +13

    I wasn’t stalked but I was physically assaulted and I have similar feeling. I am afraid because I feel unsafe. It’s just the idea that safety is a net with unnoticed holes, holes I could fell in and being violated.

  • @alaubzzz
    @alaubzzz 5 лет назад +66

    Thank you SO much for this. It is very helpful to hear stories of others going through this.

    • @pantheraleo2952
      @pantheraleo2952 5 лет назад +5

      Ashley Lauber I’ve been going through it for over seven years. It’s ruined my life.

    • @CS..8
      @CS..8 5 месяцев назад

      @@pantheraleo2952same. 12 years and counting for just the stalking alone. 18 years of abuse before that on top of it. It’s been the majority of my life (minus 5 years of the beginning of my life) and I would NEVER wish this on ANYONE… not even the worst people in this world! That’s how bad this all has been!!!

  • @goddessvibes08
    @goddessvibes08 3 года назад +8

    These people are deeply disturbed and entitled

  • @yesvember11
    @yesvember11 5 лет назад +38

    Thank you so much for this. I am currently going through this and really need help addressing the after effects.

  • @sab_1055
    @sab_1055 5 лет назад +36

    I can relate, and I applaud your courage. I was fearless. Now, nothing is left of me my hopes or dreams. I made all the calls but received no advocacy, only more injury. Had I not educated myself I may well have ended my own life. My revenge stalking was dangerous such that my support system fell apart fast. Any attempt to take appropriate action was cause for escalating the insidious violence that was so hard to prove. Coating a few steps with oil on a rainy day, on the stairs that I alone used to come and go from a place to which I fled. It was colorless odorless but very slippery oil. The fall caused permanent shoulder injury. Several years later it dawned on me. This was likely how, after years of safely easily stowing a heavy glass tabletop when it stormed, the glass seemed to slide right out of my strong grip. I dropped it and broken glass nearly took my foot off. Buying a weapon would have been like pouring gas on a fire. I wish we could connect. I believe raising awareness and making change could help me regain my life.

    • @pantheraleo2952
      @pantheraleo2952 5 лет назад +5

      sab_10 what you described is what I’ve been going through for seven years. I have been through things no one would even believe. This man actually had his friends move in next door to me. He’s shown up at group counseling sessions that I went to because of him. He’s a sick, sick individual. He’s still terrorizing me. I totally relate.

    • @sab_1055
      @sab_1055 3 года назад +1

      @@pantheraleo2952 he had his friends move near me too & they followed me when I left town to escape. I'm so sorry you're going through this.

    • @kristinmeyer489
      @kristinmeyer489 2 года назад

      @@sab_1055 Me too.

    • @sab_1055
      @sab_1055 2 года назад

      @Piper LT Yes, it does. However my beloved, this naive response can further damage to someone who is in prayer and yet in ongoing mortal danger. I've talked to God about all of this. I have endured many trails in my life that were unusually damaging, but I still don't understand this particular trial, which ended 8 years ago. It was a Job like experience - presently sans restoration. I now know one can not understand the impact of feeling forsaken like this unless
      (God forbid) one has endured something so severe. I know this so deeply, that I am almost certain you doubt and question what I've written here.

    • @sab_1055
      @sab_1055 2 года назад

      @Piper LT In your defense, I am still alive. I'm breathing but the rest of me is long gone. What is left is not a good witness, and that's a pretty big loss to deal with.

  • @kimberlydahl6897
    @kimberlydahl6897 3 года назад +12

    I know how she feels

  • @gabriellamashiah979
    @gabriellamashiah979 5 лет назад +14

    I was treated so poorly i hope to make a change & help others soon..someday once im out of here...CAUSE I WILL NEVER TAKE THIS LIGHTLY LIKE EVERYONE ELSE HAS WHEN I TOLD THEM MY SITUATION

    • @dm5129
      @dm5129 4 года назад +3

      Yep, and be prepared for the most vicious attack of all. When complete strangers appear in your vicinity, when you are at work, shopping, out in public and you are listening of their versions of completely re framing a crime and completely re framing their stalking and harassment attempts.
      And then be prepared for their vicious attempt to slander you so badly you will be amazed how they get to those lies.
      And then be prepared for their additional harassment that consists of calling you, the victim, crazy.
      All of that is happening to me.......

    • @waltergeorge9617
      @waltergeorge9617 3 года назад +1

      Very Well Written and Accurate

    • @dm5129
      @dm5129 Год назад

      Yes, exactly, I have been hunted down by people after I was stalked, their stories about me are vile. They threaten me physically and openly and the only thing I can do is to retreat. Since I do not ever speak to any stranger they hunt me down at my workplace to harass me there.

  • @daisymaygames
    @daisymaygames 10 месяцев назад +2

    I’ve never felt fear like this before. I thought he let up, but discovered he was behind hacking my livestreams for the past year. I just filed a report because he got past my internet security, got my new address and showed up. Been 10 years. Ty for this, I’m fighting being paralyzed.

    • @ChrisWeatherall-gu8vg
      @ChrisWeatherall-gu8vg 7 месяцев назад +1

      *anthony_support0* revolutionary approach transcended the mere suppression of auditory stimuli and delved into the intricacies of liberating targeted individuals from their psychological confines. By fostering resilience and promoting self-empowerment, *ANthony_SUpport0* empowered individuals to reclaim their identities and forge ahead on a path of personal growth and development.

    • @BrandiHale-nv7om
      @BrandiHale-nv7om 6 месяцев назад

      *anthony_support0* revolutionary approach transcended the mere suppression of auditory stimuli and delved into the intricacies of liberating targeted individuals from their psychological confines. By fostering resilience and promoting self-empowerment, *ANthony_SUpport0* empowered individuals to reclaim their identities and forge ahead on a path of personal growth and development.

  • @brittanyscaggs5038
    @brittanyscaggs5038 Год назад +6

    I seriously felt like this was me telling my story, i cried! Yes stalking is illegal but i did go through all the legal channels and unfortunately there is nothing you can do if they use a fake name or you can prove its them behind that fake social media account.

    • @xxXmiokXxx
      @xxXmiokXxx 10 месяцев назад +1

      I'm so sorry I experienced the same thing and honestly fighting against the legal systems gaslighting was so traumatizing ON TOP of being stalked.

    • @ChrisWeatherall-gu8vg
      @ChrisWeatherall-gu8vg 7 месяцев назад

      I am overwhelmed with the job of *anthony_support0* they're too good and helpful, they helped me end the program.

    • @CS..8
      @CS..8 5 месяцев назад

      @@xxXmiokXxxTHIS THIS THISSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSESSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  • @shvetavatsa2664
    @shvetavatsa2664 5 лет назад +17

    I’m going through this stage.

  • @kimwill3420
    @kimwill3420 3 года назад +8

    I am being stalked

  • @erinterrell2328
    @erinterrell2328 4 месяца назад +2

    I've been going through this for 2 Years and it has changed me

  • @soarhightodayworkshop
    @soarhightodayworkshop 3 года назад +6

    I can relate to this, 6 years now , I dont go anywhere anymore, due to his stalking online and offline

    • @dm5129
      @dm5129 Год назад +1

      Yes, I feel your pain, no one who has never gone through that can understand to what extend people like that go to.

    • @soarhightodayworkshop
      @soarhightodayworkshop Год назад

      @@dm5129 I am free now, I have changed my name legally and moved overseas, all my old online accounts except this one is gone. Yes he did go to all sorts of lengths and to even try and ruin me. He went out of his way to make sure i never got a job, he made sure he rang all artists when i developed and emerging art creations auction party, 2 weeks out he rang all artists and they pulled plug, I lost 10k due to this, which was deposits for venues comedian auctioneer , caterers and marketing. That is one example of events he has ruined. He had many profiles under different names, try and sell stuff to a person who is not who they claim and turns out to be my stalker. I removed my account from trademe New Zealand auction site, he had many profiles on there and Facebook, just everywhere, He is a real obsessed mental health case.. I am free now because he dose not know where i am , I need to know he is locked up in a mental ward in a padded cell in a straight jacket which is what he deserves. I have been asked to write a story on this and it will be published for all to see, i hope it helps many people who have lived with a stalker. I have implemented it into my workshops when I find the money to pay for marketing.

  • @taylorbrockelsby7594
    @taylorbrockelsby7594 4 года назад +13

    so proud to call you my mom!

    • @CamdenE
      @CamdenE 4 года назад +1

      awwww, your mom is an amazing inspiration to many :)

  • @laurab.9609
    @laurab.9609 4 года назад +12

    I’m working on getting a protection order and I wish I saw this sooner. So helpful. So many things she talked about I could relate to. Very brave. I wish I got the protection order sooner but I also wouldn’t have as many facts. I have screenshots of messages and accounts and different numbers he used. It’s so helpful the part about writing things down.

  • @bigmac1719
    @bigmac1719 4 года назад +9

    Very brave and strong woman

  • @letterl1840
    @letterl1840 6 лет назад +11

    I'm so glad I got to recently meet her. Her story is so inspiring to take control of one's life.

  • @faithworks4633
    @faithworks4633 Год назад +4

    H.O.P.E. Hold On Pain Ends 🤞😢

    • @ChrisWeatherall-gu8vg
      @ChrisWeatherall-gu8vg 7 месяцев назад

      I am overwhelmed with the job of *anthony_support0* they're too good and helpful, they helped me end the program.

  • @regalsnow9707
    @regalsnow9707 4 года назад +11

    The One thing I know and notice is no one thinks it will ever happen to them. I use to watch movies and see people being stalked untill it happened to me 247, I'm being stalked seriously lowselfsteem creep hacking my phone computer .i have a daughter whom her whole life growing up I told her to watch out cos their is creep that stalks me cyber I'm thinking of puting him behind bars...

    • @CamdenE
      @CamdenE 4 года назад +2

      You should call the police on him.

    • @waltergeorge9617
      @waltergeorge9617 3 года назад +3

      Cops won't do Jack Schitt

  • @oscarcano5932
    @oscarcano5932 5 лет назад +10

    I'm having a serious issue with a female stalker I have been dealing with this for years. She filed a false order of protection against me. And still today she harrases me stalks me and confronts me even she threatens me. I need help because she lives right next door to me. And I have caught her following me when I go out.

    • @dm5129
      @dm5129 4 года назад +2

      Oscar, so sorry to hear about that. A stalker like that used to be in my workplace, she literally forced herself onto people at the workplace, told them lies and had a voracious appetite for taking advantage of guys.
      It ended very very badly. She got fired for threatening to bring a gun to the workplace.
      The best thing you can do is to get videos with audio of that behavior and start your own evidence files............That is your right................

  • @kristinmeyer489
    @kristinmeyer489 2 года назад +6

    Just my opinion but I honestly don't believe that being paralyzed with fear is the same thing as the choice of not being brave. I believe there is a distinction. I believe a lot of this is currently being studied and proved with neurobiology and neuroscience. The nervous system is wiring. Hunting people changes their brains.

  • @kausamsalam8543
    @kausamsalam8543 11 месяцев назад +2

    Very courageous woman.❤️”When the first fake Facebook was created…..”
    And police do nothing in these cases until the person is killed. May Allah protect all people who have had this happen with lies about them, and May Allah protect those who think it could never happen to them.
    Thank you for your excellent speech and beguine knowledge-even some family will not believe this has been happening. It can happen to any ordinary person.
    (But fears do disappear when we choose regular prayers).
    “7 and a half million are victims of stalking” --(even if you’re not the type to have done those “intimate” things with people-). Please try not to walk in far places alone, or in far out places alone-a few friends can relatives can be told about this). Some of us have stopped going to the gyms-such predators are common). Misogyny is common among psychopaths.
    Never think this can’t happen to me. We were all stronger at some point.
    “I am a thrived.” Beautiful words.❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

  • @razileeligaray7207
    @razileeligaray7207 4 года назад +12

    Feeling hunted... 😭

  • @FreeMeLife
    @FreeMeLife 5 лет назад +15

    SO relatable!!!! Thanks!!!!

  • @justgrace6984
    @justgrace6984 Год назад +2

    I am going through the same victimization by stalkers

    • @BrandiHale-nv7om
      @BrandiHale-nv7om 6 месяцев назад

      *anthony_support0* revolutionary approach transcended the mere suppression of auditory stimuli and delved into the intricacies of liberating targeted individuals from their psychological confines. By fostering resilience and promoting self-empowerment, *ANthony_SUpport0* empowered individuals to reclaim their identities and forge ahead on a path of personal growth and development.

  • @FocusBeDrifting
    @FocusBeDrifting 2 года назад +4

    Thank you for sharing your story, it is no fun but, I feel humbled that you survived and found a way to thrive. All the best.

  • @andrewchamos9418
    @andrewchamos9418 2 года назад +2

    I felt her fear, her pain her guilt, that some how she deserved this, no one deserves to be stalked and fear life, fear for your family look over your shoulder, A healthy society is one where it safe to be unpopular or to have made a mistake. I know this feeling the guilt the fear I live it every day every minute. The feeling of loss of life, an inability to be yourself and enjoy every day to make your family happy it’s sad. The loss the hurt, not to be your true self not to be able to be able to overcome fear, not to be able to be happy and make your kids laugh it hurts it’s sad

  • @faelicialego1102
    @faelicialego1102 2 года назад +2

    Local authorities and family services say there is nothing I can do. All I have is prayer and I believe God wants me to know that He wants me to rely solely on Him go get through it while He works it out for my good.

  • @davidvisoky7918
    @davidvisoky7918 6 лет назад +2

    So articulate!

  • @Polecat-qz5om
    @Polecat-qz5om 6 лет назад +4

    Thank you

  • @danashannon8234
    @danashannon8234 4 года назад +5

    You helped me. I'm crying.

  • @TheKhat88
    @TheKhat88 5 лет назад +13

    This has helped me so much. Thank you.
    Experienced so many of the things you talked about.

    • @regalsnow9707
      @regalsnow9707 4 года назад

      I'm so sorry i know the feeling ignore them or go to the authority their are laws talk to your family freinds too be vigilant i am being stalked too over 10 years cyber my phone also change adress move

  • @adamlawrence7416
    @adamlawrence7416 2 года назад +1

    Thank you for this message

  • @Greeny_isthegoat
    @Greeny_isthegoat 2 года назад +5

    I relate

  • @TheCEOSensei
    @TheCEOSensei 6 лет назад +4

    Powerful and inspiring. Your message and idea are worth spreading far and wide.

  • @luvmj4ever904
    @luvmj4ever904 2 года назад +5

    Thank you so much for sharing your story….I know my stalker and I still get triggered from time to time….

    • @tamaraallred5264
      @tamaraallred5264 2 года назад

      I have been stalked for 36 years by a doctor who worked for the government. I had a brief affair with him and I walked away. He can't get over it. He knows everything I do.

  • @jilljohnson8509
    @jilljohnson8509 2 года назад +3

    Thank you for this and the courage to post it all. I am a thriver too! I had this happen to me and I am finally feeling somewhat safe!

  • @trk1070
    @trk1070 4 года назад +4

    Wow! What an amazing and strong person you are!! Thanks so much for sharing - I'm showing your talk to my high school students this week. Thanks! God bless

  • @hellokittytoast
    @hellokittytoast Год назад

    you are so brave. thank you so much for sharing your story. your words have truely touched my heart

  • @ioanapopa2157
    @ioanapopa2157 Год назад +1

    Thank you for sharing. God bless your family and I wish God protect you and your family.

  • @MaggieNgButterLatte
    @MaggieNgButterLatte 3 года назад

    Thank you so much for this video, it helped me a lot.

  • @stregalilith
    @stregalilith 2 года назад +5

    Intimate relationship stalking is the most dangerous to women. Former partners are the most dangerous. Only you can determine what your risk is. Let everyone in your life know you are being stalked and by whom. Do not engage with the stalker even in anger. He will interpret any contact as a desire for more contact from him. When going to the police, take a friend, an advocate or a witness. Do not let them dismiss you. Sometimes a restraining order works, sometimes not. Stay off social media. 855 4-VICTIMS. Please protect yourself and stay safe.

  • @LeAnne-uw3wp
    @LeAnne-uw3wp 7 месяцев назад

    Thanks for the video this helped me a lot ❤

  • @Countcho
    @Countcho Год назад +1

    Safety above money.. always

  • @Poppycock84
    @Poppycock84 Год назад +1

    Looking forward to thriving! It seems a long way off x
    Thanks for the video x

  • @constancemiller4279
    @constancemiller4279 2 года назад +2

    Life does seem to get better after we’ve been stalked. It’s been 4 yrs and James continue to stalk me. I’m so better and more alert and aware. Lesson learned and living my best life. He’s still out there watching👀but God doesn’t allow me to be afraid. He removed him from ever partaking in my happiness and knowing that his life is about watching mine gives me great solace knowing he’s somewhere out here living a miserable existence . Keep watching the clock is ticking and as you age you will learn your lesson . Time waits for no one. Tick tick, tick,tock, and then the click stops and times up. James, how did you live your life? “IN THE SHADOW OF OTHERS” Wow what a waste……..

    • @dm5129
      @dm5129 Год назад +1

      There is always a connection between the stalker and the victim mentally. I often know still to this day what the stalker meant when doing or saying things. And every day I am attacked still after 13 years. The victim does not get protected by these people, the stalker does because many are friends that I have to steer clear from.

  • @lianasadoyan5626
    @lianasadoyan5626 3 года назад +6

    ADVICE NEEDED: victims can't convince their relatives or friends that they are being stalked. Any apparent actions carried out by stalkers will lead to police investigation. So these creeps are careful enough not to let that happen. For example my stalker wouldn't contact me directly. The bunch of idiots working for the main perpetraitor invite me to like pages that contain illegally obtained details of my daily life, they send friend reqests to people who have posted picture or piece of information that resembles my personal/work/family life. They manipulate my google, fb, insta feed so that it brings results on my page that i have no interest in but contains illegally obtained information. What am I supposed to to in this case? Has anyone had similiar issues? btw in addtition to calls being intercepted, full access to my computer and phone, I am also stalked physically. They also installed device nearby our residental building to monitor my home activities remotely. So I had to change curtains. well, that was the easiest part, I even enjoyed buying new curtains. This has been going on since october 1, 2018 and doesn't show any signs of stopping.

    • @ytb8361
      @ytb8361 2 года назад

      Oh no. I hope things are better for you. Please check Veronika Janeckova and Adriana Bucci. They have a lot of programs and content to heal trauma, and thrive in life. I'm sending you beautiful energy of best wishes. I'm sending you prayers and trust that things will get better, that you will be fine and that things will go smoothly for you.

    • @ytb8361
      @ytb8361 2 года назад

      You can find cheap rates or installments if you discuss pricing with them. They also have a lot of very good free content. You can get through this. You are an amazing peace warrior, hero and you are full of love, peace, happiness, encouragement, achievement, calm, flow beautiful energy.

  • @ADORABEL25
    @ADORABEL25 9 месяцев назад +2

    He is in jail now due to the stalking ( 3 years!) but I still no have peace inside.

  • @Greeny_isthegoat
    @Greeny_isthegoat 2 года назад +1

    Same thing. I wasnt sure if I should speak to their teachers as I'm ashamed

  • @liberatetheinternetempireo4137
    @liberatetheinternetempireo4137 Год назад +1

    The defendent in my stalking case was just arrested . She was arraigned and is out out on bond. Iv moved out of my house then out of my mother's house after being assaulted.... I found out after filing the report with the state police that we had an AirTag tracking us. This is all still under investigation. I feel terrorized

  • @denstalkadeavnizarbensurei8503
    @denstalkadeavnizarbensurei8503 5 лет назад +8

    I have been stalked in 5 years soon, The guy wants both money and my life

    • @waltergeorge9617
      @waltergeorge9617 3 года назад

      Yes they want you dead and it's Community Oriented Policing 🚔
      Who's stalking you, supported by the Military, hence cops not worried ..Military has their back

  • @lynnwashington7355
    @lynnwashington7355 Год назад +2

    I feel like I'm just surviving, it's surreal I feel paralyzed and law enforcement basically is BS unless it's their family. I just want to move to another state to get away from him. He doesn't get it the women he wants or desires can have him because there's no vacancy in my heart for him basically the only ones who mean anything to me anymore is his family not him. I want him to be okay just not with me

    • @ChrisWeatherall-gu8vg
      @ChrisWeatherall-gu8vg 7 месяцев назад

      I am overwhelmed with the job of *anthony_support0* they're too good and helpful, they helped me end the program.

  • @Lilbbpickle
    @Lilbbpickle 5 месяцев назад

    I just started trying to live my life so that the gangstalkers don’t think they’ve got that power over me but still am fearful as they’ve sent in drivers to make my life on the road hard too and strange things like receiving anon roses then seeing medical gloves across the street from me - depicting OJ simpson level of creepy

    • @Lilbbpickle
      @Lilbbpickle 5 месяцев назад +1

      As a woman i am just trying to exist but these people have made it very hard

  • @scottpelkey4067
    @scottpelkey4067 2 года назад +1

    Everybody is/has always been stalked- we just didn’t know it.

  • @MRE-lw2dx
    @MRE-lw2dx 3 года назад +2

    How do i get help if i am getting stalked? My family and I are being subjected to this sort of treatment and I have a very valid reason why.

  • @shawannaanderson3226
    @shawannaanderson3226 3 года назад +4

    Oh my sounds familiar to what’s happening to me

  • @geraldineharris7298
    @geraldineharris7298 3 года назад +2

    Hi my name is Letha and I am been stalked for 12 years and my family doesn't believe me but I know two of the people and think the guy is the main person and his sister is keeping it going with the community also. I don't really go anywhere but they have some kind of spyware because when I go anywhere in our home they can see in our home then they are driving from the alley which is the back of our home and if I go to the front side of our home where we have our living room, kitchen then they drive really fast on that side so they can make me feel intimidated. I have called the police before and my mom told me not to called the cops again but I just keep it to myself.

    • @valeriewalkerwhite9525
      @valeriewalkerwhite9525 3 года назад +1

      I thought mine had a sensor on my car which I have yet to check for because I plan on taking my car into servicing which is when I will ask for a thorough check.

    • @constancemiller4279
      @constancemiller4279 2 года назад +1

      They may have spyware in you phone or I. Your house. Buy your self a cheap signal jammer your keep them from snooping into your life. I listen to my phone with headphones they don’t get to hear my voice much nor can they hear what I’m listening to and or looking at on my phone. It’s a game don’t let terminate put that kind of stress on your mind. Take b complex for the nerves and Ashwaganda supplement to keep your cortisol low.

  • @margarita5755
    @margarita5755 2 года назад +2

    12:00 what to do to overcome

  • @HappilyIndian
    @HappilyIndian 3 года назад +2

    THHHAAAAANNNNNKKKKK YOOOOOOUUUUU ❤👍❤👍❤👍❤

  • @gvpw8382
    @gvpw8382 4 года назад +1

    💔💌💌

  • @desmondwulf1601
    @desmondwulf1601 3 года назад +1

    Need help I'm being stocked

  • @playboysmooth8550
    @playboysmooth8550 2 года назад +2

    By strangers worshipping devil's unaware. Mines still relevant still today and now while I am typing. Threatening me too. My mother. I know Aronald Payne Tonya Garrett Paige Mayfield. From Marion apartment in Leavenworth Kansas.

  • @fted4734
    @fted4734 Год назад

    The stock as I got our the family friends and coworkers what do I do with that

  • @WingDing-ew8qz
    @WingDing-ew8qz 8 месяцев назад

    Victim Connect has NOTHING ABOUT STALKING, HOWEVER I TRULY WISH I HAD THE TEMP RESTRAINING ORDER AGAINST MINE

  • @gabriellamashiah979
    @gabriellamashiah979 5 лет назад +1

    Well IM A GARY STUDENT AND I HOPE SOMEOME READ MY COMMENT..CAUSE THIS WOMAN ( WHICH IS ME DIDNT SEEK ANY JUSTICE)...AT ALL..I LIKE MENTIONED A GARY STUDENT I WAS STALKED & TREATED VERY POORLY...IM ON CENTER NOW..BUT I REPORTED MY INCIDENT 4 TIMES...AND GOT SENT HOME..INSTEAD OF THE GUY WHO WAS STALKING ME GET PUNISHED I GOT GOT PUNISHED...I WAS SO HURT ..WORST I EVEN GOT BULLIED & RUMORS SAID BOUT ME CAUSE HE WAS MAD...I GOT BULLIED AFTER THT EVERYONE WHO KNEW WHT HAPPEN HATED ME THEY DIDNT EVEN WANT TO TALK TO ME...IT WAS BAD..I PRAY STLAKERS GET THE WORST PUNISHMENT FROM GOD CAUSE THIS CAN REALLY PUT A TOLE & CHANGE SOMEBODY LIFE FOREVER...( BTW I STILL ON CAMPUS & THE GUY NEVER WENT HOME OR GOT PUNISHED FOR WHT HE DID...I TRUELY HATE HIM & CANT WAIT TO GRADUATE SOON

    • @dm5129
      @dm5129 Год назад +1

      Gabriella, your painful story really resonates with me because it is the exact thing that happened to me. The stalker gets to live his life. The victim is harassed for the rest of her life.

  • @exhusbnarc
    @exhusbnarc 7 дней назад

    What about stalking by proxy

  • @diptipman
    @diptipman Год назад

    cross generational concern. Please stop harassing Parish's

  • @tbone8839
    @tbone8839 4 года назад +4

    But you see...sometimes it IS your fault. A lot of people being stalked screwed someone over so bad that they should be thankful they're just being stalked and nothing worse.

    • @katydidwhat6120
      @katydidwhat6120 4 года назад +24

      1. What could someone possibly do to deserve stalking?
      2. If a stalker is willing to stalk, then they are likely capable of violence.

    • @valeriewalkerwhite9525
      @valeriewalkerwhite9525 3 года назад +17

      so that is grounds for stalking. You do know that the vast majority of stalkers are mentally unwell right? Hurt and dissappointment is a part of life. But to stalk someone is a sickness and in many cases can cost the stalker his/her life. You sound ridiculous.

  • @RikodiusRex
    @RikodiusRex 4 года назад +4

    Thank you