My top 3: striving for perfection / compulsively checking for mistakes, rumination, and avoiding challenges / change. I am going to: Send a short audio message or text to someone without double checking it, and remind myself often of the following affirmations: “I deserve to be loved with room for error.” And “What if it turns out great?” ❤
Counterattacking was a big one for me, mainly in the forms of achievements and quiet judging others, but I've definitely done some escape and surrender things. This is neat to see it put into context.
@@DrMaikaSteinborn My divorce really destroyed me, but at the same time, It forced to look deeply inside myself, not run away, analyse it, and discover the real myself. The good and worst one, and than working on it.
Im an escape artist. I call it social camouflage. I make myself as small as possible. Ruminating all along the way. Sharing brings another chance of rejection.
Thank for this video, and all of the other ones. I have been struggling with low self esteem since early childhood, and find it hard to deal with even today as an adult who achieved many of my dreams. Your videos about self esteem give me a lot of clarity about past experiences.
This video resonated with me and I experience many of the symptoms of low self esteem. However, beyond little things I'm wondering what else can be done to improve it. What are long term strategies? Where does this intersect with treatment for depression, anxiety and attachment issues? (which arguably all have low self esteem at their root) Thanks so much for making this content!!
I'm glad the video resonated with you! And yes, I've heard mental health professionals describe self-esteem issues as the root of all mental illness or at least a major contributing factor. There's a lot that can be said about longterm strategies. You can also browse through my self-esteem playlist to hear more about it. In short, treating mental health issues and self esteem issues usually always combines treatment on three levels: body (including behavior), mind and relationships.
I have surrendered completely. After my first and most likely last ''relationship'' I have found myself thinking and feeling like I am probably just meant to be alone forever, to never become a father, to never find love. I'm already 30 years old, it feels like a truth I need to accept rather than a future I could potentially change. This belief often has me contemplating life as a whole. Nothing I do feels like it has any meaning or value. I seem to exist for no reason. It's sad.
I’m a man that has these feelings at 36 almost 37 yo. Barely surviving survival mode the only thing that helps me is reading the Old Testament ONLY and believing in the love of God. I would have been unalive if not for that so maybe try it and stay strong 💪🏾
Dont give up on yourself. You're worthy of a great love! You'll regret this at a later age. I'm 40 and at 30, i really thought it was over, but at 37, 38 I met more men. Better partners
My top 3: striving for perfection / compulsively checking for mistakes, rumination, and avoiding challenges / change.
I am going to:
Send a short audio message or text to someone without double checking it, and remind myself often of the following affirmations: “I deserve to be loved with room for error.” And “What if it turns out great?” ❤
🥳 Thanks for sharing ☀️
This lady rules. This is the channel I needed to find. Thank you
Thank you for pointing out the unhealthy side of over compensation. I have worked through this and finally feal great in my own skin! ❤
Thank you. Easily understandable and consequential.
I just want to comment and thank you for making this content, it not only has the potential to save somebody's life but I bet it already has.
Incredible, you really speak to a person's heart ❤️
Counterattacking was a big one for me, mainly in the forms of achievements and quiet judging others, but I've definitely done some escape and surrender things. This is neat to see it put into context.
I could listen to these very deep blue eyes forever 😌
Perfect!
I definitely was in the escape situation. But I am working on it!
Very good 👏🏻
@@DrMaikaSteinborn My divorce really destroyed me, but at the same time, It forced to look deeply inside myself, not run away, analyse it, and discover the real myself. The good and worst one, and than working on it.
Im an escape artist. I call it social camouflage. I make myself as small as possible. Ruminating all along the way. Sharing brings another chance of rejection.
Thank you so much for this video, Maika
Thank for this video, and all of the other ones.
I have been struggling with low self esteem since early childhood, and find it hard to deal with even today as an adult who achieved many of my dreams.
Your videos about self esteem give me a lot of clarity about past experiences.
This video resonated with me and I experience many of the symptoms of low self esteem. However, beyond little things I'm wondering what else can be done to improve it. What are long term strategies? Where does this intersect with treatment for depression, anxiety and attachment issues? (which arguably all have low self esteem at their root)
Thanks so much for making this content!!
I'm glad the video resonated with you! And yes, I've heard mental health professionals describe self-esteem issues as the root of all mental illness or at least a major contributing factor. There's a lot that can be said about longterm strategies. You can also browse through my self-esteem playlist to hear more about it. In short, treating mental health issues and self esteem issues usually always combines treatment on three levels: body (including behavior), mind and relationships.
Thank you ma'am ❣️
I have surrendered completely. After my first and most likely last ''relationship'' I have found myself thinking and feeling like I am probably just meant to be alone forever, to never become a father, to never find love. I'm already 30 years old, it feels like a truth I need to accept rather than a future I could potentially change.
This belief often has me contemplating life as a whole. Nothing I do feels like it has any meaning or value. I seem to exist for no reason. It's sad.
Its only a truth if you make it one. You decide. I know that feeling all to well. Dont give up!
I’m a man that has these feelings at 36 almost 37 yo. Barely surviving survival mode the only thing that helps me is reading the Old Testament ONLY and believing in the love of God. I would have been unalive if not for that so maybe try it and stay strong 💪🏾
Dont give up on yourself. You're worthy of a great love! You'll regret this at a later age. I'm 40 and at 30, i really thought it was over, but at 37, 38 I met more men. Better partners
I know youtube put thid video oj top of my home because my phone has listened to me during therapy, but damn, this was useful
I’m just lying in bed staring at the ceiling. I was just broken up with because I didn’t want more than my job and my hobbies in life.
So every single bully
thx c':