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My one friend always dominates the talk but doesn't get hated....... And the opposite happens whereas when I speak they just tend to ignore that. .......... Please help....
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This is my claim until someone proves otherwise which I would gladly accept a challenge.. I know more about "Respect", what it is, how it works and why it works that way than anyone else on this planet. You want to learn about what Respect truly is, then talk to me and I'll give you the run down... If you want to know why people don't Respect you, it's because they don't know what it means or how to justifiably apply it. Please do not confuse this with me thinking I am the most respectful or respectable person in the world, I said I know more about "Respect".
6 Reasons Why People Don’t Respect You 1. You make everything about you 0:24 2. You dismiss other people's ideas 0:53 3. You try to control others 1:35 4. You don't maintain boundaries 2:11 5. You apologize too often 2:46 6. You break promises 3:26
1. You make everything about you. 2. You dismiss other people's ideas. 3. You try to control others. 4. You don't maintain boundaries. 5. You apologize too often. 6. You break promises.
0:23 You make everything about you 0:54 You dismiss other people's ideas 1:33 You try to control others 2:10 You don't maintain boundaries 2:44 You apologize too often 3:25 You break promises
0:23 you make everything about you 0:53 you dismiss other peoples ideas 1:33 you try to control others 2:10 you don’t maintain boundaries 2:44 you apologize too often 3:24 you break promises
If everyone had low boundaries, I think the world would be a better place. Some people will litterally get upset just for having an opinion. As for apologizing too much, I might do that a little, since I don't wanna disappoint anyone sense I don't see a point if it can or could have been avoided.
TIMESTAMPS 0:22 You make everything about you 0:53 You dismiss other people's ideas 1:33 You try to control others 2:11 You dont put boundaries 2:44 You apologize too often 3:26 You break promises
*6 Reasons Why People Don't Respect You* 1. You make everything about you. (0:22) 2. You dismiss other people's ideas. (0:53) 3. You try to control others. (1:33) 4. You don't maintain boundaries. (2:09) 5. You apologize too often. (2:43) 6. You break promises. (3:24)
6 Reasons Why People Don't Respect You - 1. You make everything about you 0:24 2. You dismiss other people's ideas 0:53 3. You try to control others 1:35 4. You don't maintain boundaries 2:11 5. You apologize too often 2:46 6. You break promises 3:26
@@djdragons69420 Right ❤️ if you truly accept and love yourself then the world also accepts you , it's not like everybody does there are people who still don't but you shouldn't care what others think , y'all know the'res saying that the less you care what others think the more happy you'll be .
6 reason why people don't respect you 1) 0:24 you make everything about you. 2) 0:55 you dismiss other people's ideas 3) 1:34 you try to control others 4) 2:10 you don't maintain boundaries 5) 2:45 you apologise too often 6) 3:25 you break promise
SUMMARY : 00:22 1. You make everything about you 00:52 2. You dismiss other people's ideas 1:33 3. You try to control others 2:09 4. You don't maintain boundaries 2:43 5. You apologize too often 3:23 6. You break promises
Tru, they will gradually thought that u re just that worthless with ur lack of self respect, the only one who won't get into such thought is the same ppl pleaser, which gets harder to meet these days
Yess. The sad truth is that some of the people doesn't like kind people. I'm a student and I always be nice and kind to others but none of them bothered to talk to me. I always have to go first while my other classmate gets a lot of people talking to her and always asking her to come and play with them. I don't have a real friend who talks to me when I get left out. I'm also an shy introvert and isn't good at studies but still I tries to be more talkative but some of them ignored me cause I'm not good at studies like them. I can be pretty sure some of the parents have told these people to not to be friend with people who doesn't studies because my family also says that. That's why they might be like this. They only talks to people who is good at it and I hate that so much. Even teacher don't really care about me since I am not good at studies
6 reasons why people might not respect you: You make everything about you (ask them about them) You dismiss everyone else's idea You try to control others = manipulation You don't maintain boundaries (have self respect and if someone crosses the line tell them) You say sorry too much = low self esteem You brake promises
1. You make everything about you 2. You dismiss other peoples ideas 3. You try to control others 4. You don’t maintain boundaries 5. You apologize too often 6. You break promises
1. People dont respect you if you apologize too much 2. People over-apologize because they have low self-esteem Therefore, people wont respect people with low self-esteem, which makes them even more low self-esteem
to remind myself: 1. talk less, listen more 2. encourage more than dismiss 3. free other to free yourself 4. be clear about your boundery, set rule then be consistent. 5. think twice before saying sorry 6. respect your words
"People treat you the way you treat yourself"- Confucius I have noticed that people who are well-liked and respected (the two are similar but far from being the same, some people are liked by others but not respected, I know because I was like that for a long time, while others are appreciated but not liked by anyone ) have these things in common 1. Politeness, being nice without any particular reason 2. Integrity, not making false promises and not breaking the ones they make. Rember you are only worth as much as your words! 3. Punctuality, being loyal to your own and other people's time. Respect is earned not given. Demanding others damn respect all the time and you'll come across as a narcissist, let others walk all over you and you'll become a doormat! So moderation and knowing the right boundaries are key. Don't worry nobody gets respected by default commanding respect is like a skill that needs to be learned and you'll only get better as you go.
So what I learned: There is no reason for people in the public to still disrespect me even after fixing all my mistakes. We all make mistakes and to disrespect someone who fixed their mistakes and just wants to move on, is immature and time wasting. Kids at my school don't understand this. You don't have to forgive me for past harassment, but just let me be.
Thank you for this!!! I over apologize way too much and lack the ability to set boundaries and I’ve noticed a lot of my friends do not respect me and feel comfortable treating me any how. It’s something I have to work on for sure. Especially going into a career it’s important to be able to do that. I hope anyone who struggles with this knows that you’re not the bad guy for standing up for yourself or saying no. People pleasing and feeling the need to shrink yourself only hurts you. It’s not helpful to anyone and anyone who says otherwise wants u to shrink urself so they can feel good. And you don’t need ppl like that in ur life
We need more things like this. Lately ive been feeling like my friends dont respect me and they act different when we are alone versus when they are together as im just there to be made fun of (but of course "stop overracting were just joking") sometimes and I feel like I had no one to blame but myself for not being taken seriously since I hardly have a life, this really helps.
The reason why people don't respect me is: - my low self-esteem - being scared of people - being a people pleaser who doesn't want to start an argument - believing that people are going to disappear from your life after a fight - don't give a damn about being right or wrong, I was just having a conversation, why do you want to force your opinion on me? - not competitive, so I don't care whether I win an argument or nor
When it comes to me. It's probably 1. being unsure of myself. Because how can you ever be sure of something? I despise confidence in relationships, because confidence shouldn't be needed when you are talking to people (not saying you shouldn't be comfortable, but confident no), confidence makes you less empathetic and whenever I was confident, people would get envious and only hang out with me, because they liked seeing something that they didn't see in themselves. 2. Selflessness, this can come off as people pleasing to others, because I value people more than myself, I mean shouldn't you? If people aren't as important, then what exactly is? Ofcourse I don't go out of my way meeting random people trying to get them to like me, however when someone does initiate contact with me, sometimes I do wanna be liked, because I've litterally had instances where people hanged out and talked to me, but found me annoying, and didn't actually like me. So then I'd just well try to do nice things (and it really doesn't work most of the time) 3. My avoidance to conflict, not saying I do not value conflict, however a lot of times, unnecessary conflict could have been avoided and that's just what I tend to do when it's the smart thing to do. Conflict should only be used at a last resort. 4. Right and wrong, I never think I'm ever really right, I always have doubts, but I do voice my opinions on what I think is right, even though I may be wrong. Some people just think I'm condescending or "I'm right and your wrong" when it's usually the other person who can't have a discussion. 5. My conflicting habits, sometimes I'd say one thing and do another, I don't purposely do it and I do realize that but, I always have a good reason to back up why I did so in the first place, I explain it, but it just isn't enough. And finally 6. Perception, how they see me . I can't control how anyone sees me, it sucks how the very values or things they like and dislike could honestly make them disliking me for thinking they see those things without fully knowing the whole picture of why I am the way I am. They assume things and that's the problem, they don't decide to to deeper or maybe they just can't. I don't really see a point in considering anyone my enemy (unless they really just hate me and want to kill me), I just don't see a point to fight if it can be avoided. It just sort of happens. So I secluded myself and well that's it.
@@Yusa_Beach man. this so me. i felt it all my own. it's amazing u worded this up so clearly because i can't verbalize this on my own but i can feel so much like this. i wish everyone i meet know about this about me. nailed it
So people don’t respect you because you are mentally weak. If you want to get respect, stop caring what people think and stop being irrationally fearful.
It's alright, if they are a real friend then it can be worked out. All relationships of every type go through rough patches. It'll be okay even if it can't be, it just means they weren't meant to be around long-term
Because no one bothered to teach me basic social skills and i spent 80% of my life locked up due to stupid "parenting" , so I have no idea how to deal with anyone
The problem with constantly apologizing is that I've been doing it for so long I can't distinguish in which situations the apology is necessary or not, so it's a difficult behavior to correct. It'd be nice if you made a video about things like this, or self-esteem issues in general, maybe with some tips.
I think a good rule of thumb is to only apologize if say, you actually did something wrong. But if you do something like, setting a boundary, you shouldn’t follow it with a ‘sorry’ because well, that’s not wrong. Or maybe you accidentally bump into at the supermarket. Instead of saying sorry, try saying, ‘Excuse me!’ instead. It’s polite, while also making your language sounds stronger. And just hold yourself up high! Chin up! I come from a family of apologizing women and it’s a habit that you can break. Not everyone will like you, and that’s not your fault. Don’t second guess yourself because someone doesn’t like something you like. If someone constantly puts you down, then you’ll find that spending less time around them is really a mood-lifter
I’ve been working on saying sorry quite a bit lately! I also try to be very conscious of how much I’m dominating a conversation because it annoys me so much when others do it. lol. The big one I’m working on learning is how to set boundaries. I’ve learned in therapy that my parents never allowed me to be my own person or question things. Every time I did I was labeled a “bad kid.” They still say it to this day. I’m having to learn that they were just bad parents and that it’s ok to speak up and have opinions/boundaries. It’s really hard!
Maybe I can have a higher self-esteem than I have now, but I feel like I should talk less about my personal experiences. I don't know why am I so used to doing it. At least before starting talking and talking and talking I hear the others out. That has a little downside though. I strongly prefer being among more talkative people or people, who trust me as the leader. Still, I know there are people who respect me and understand me fully. I'm glad I reciprocate that. It's their words, not mine.
Awesome video. I must add though, that since respect earned tends to be more about being in a “warm” between a “hot and cold”, this is definitely on the hot end. It vibes with arrogance. I’d love to see another video for the cold end, since the majority of the audience I notice in the comments under any video seems to struggle with sorts of anxiety, and I (personally) believe it’d be better for their end. Some stuff would probably be things like “too soft spoken” (gives off unconfident energy), doesn’t set and/or uphold your own personal boundaries, tries too hard to maintain one-sided relationships, too forgiving even when the person who hurt you didn’t put energy into adapting instead of just apologizing, maybe tries to guilt others instead of just letting things be as they are, etc, would probably be more fitting for what I see when reading over the comments. This is advice for a Barney Stinson given to a Marshall Erickson audience if ya catch my drift. But nonetheless, honestly, awesome video.
I used to over apologize. But nowadays, if I’m just being blunt, I say that I’m not sorry, and sometimes if I feel a certain way about myself that I feel like I need to change, I say that I’m not sorry for saying what I said. Now if I do say something that isn’t good, of course I apologize for it. Other times I say that I’m not sorry if I need to be real with someone or even myself.
All of these red flag behaviors can be traits of autism - and it’s usually not meant to be manipulative or cruel - and there are studies to show there’s an inherent dislike of us by neurotypicals. So I believe it. We are stuck with masking, and people wonder why we experience burn out. The chronic “sorry” reaction is indicative of trauma in social situations, it’s hard to break.
Yes I did. I used to apologise a lot such as sorry I couldn’t help because I had a sick leave, sorry I’m too dumb etc because I was insecure and had low self esteem but then I learnt to be more confident and slowly changed . Now I feel more respected by ppl around Good job Phys2go!! Your videos are always entertaining and helpful ：）
The key to respect is respect others. The least respect with which you should treat someone is the respect you would give a total stranger. Same with love, though love and respect are not interchangeable, they are intertwined.
My one friend always dominates the talk but doesn't get hated....... And the opposite happens whereas when I speak they just tend to ignore that. ......
Please, don't overthink it, your friend needs to let you speak, and if they ignore you, they aren't your friend. Maybe if you put your words out there(like explaining to them that them ignoring you and talking over you is a problem) maybe they will listen. It's another thing to be assertive. (Of course, since it's your life, your decisions.) Best of luck, hope this helped.
I am 99.99% sure that none of these apply to me, yet I still often feel like people don’t respect me. However I haven’t seen any real signs that they don’t. It’s always been a feeling I have that everyone hates me, even if they don’t show it. It just feels that way, and idk why. I try to be rational and tell myself that isn’t true, but it just doesn’t work and I end up still believing that everyone hates me as much as I hate myself.
Jesus Christ they’re not blaming anyone. Some people genuinely lack the ability to do introspection and realize that they actually are the problem. Not everyone is a victim. Not everyone is jealous of you or toxic. Sometimes u do actually need to look within before stating that the problem is everyone else. Ofc that doesn’t apply to everyone but it doesn’t hurt to look within sometimes.
Excellent points as always. But what about: racial, economic and gender prejudice? You can be the most virtuous person in the world, but people only see status.
People like that aren't worth respecting in the first place... ...AND if I don't respect them, why would I bother seeking their respect??? They can f*** right off. ;o)
It's natural to be disrespected by someone...and of course the point you showed make this more real. But i'd like to point the fact that in today's society, the more aggressive you are going to be, the more you'll get respect, at least from the vast majority of people, and probably only on facade. Those who are not prone to overwhelm weaker ones are seen often as weak themselves, especially by the youngsters ( i think parents today lack that genuine "belt slap" of past days) and bullied, made fun of and so on. The problem is not that YOU are disrespected, the real thing in my opinion is those people with an exaggerated self esteem (or total lack of self insight)..and you can't change them. So, walk away...for hardcore loners there is the "kick their arse" option but i strongly do not reccomend it!
Thanks you, but can you do a Video next on "How to Recover from a Broken Friendship Please, that is something So Hard to Tackle, especially when it was your Best Friend?!?"
That’s a good topic for sure! May I offer a suggestion? Write down everything you miss about the friendship. For example: I miss that we liked the same movies and restaurants, we shared memories since childhood, I could tell them anything, etc. Attaching a specific reason for your grief let’s you express and recover from the sadness. Next, write down what you are thankful for from that person, almost as if it’s going away speech. For example, thank you for all the laughter we shared, thank you for listening for hours when I got divorced, etc. Next, send them ‘off’ with a prayer or wish, for example: I hope you reach the success you’ve been wanting, I pray your relationship with your son gets better, I will always remember you, thank you for the love and care you’ve given me, etc. these suggestions are to help you bring some closure to this cherished, but ended relationship. I hope this helps in some way. Take care.
I over apologise to people for circumstances or things even though it wasn't my fault. I do not want to hurt them by saying harsh words or pointing to their mistakes even when I know they are doing wrong. I know how one gets hurt and feels the pain and so do not intent to inflict them. In this act of being good I realise that people misjudge me.They take me as one who is the defaulter and instead pour hot words on me. Though I can retaliate,but I don't.I do not want to hurt their emotions and feelings. Am I over thoughtful?
I am not expert in this but I think you should show that it's your opinion and you didn't really want to hurt them, example: "honestly if I were you I would do this [insert idea] but it's all on you." Don't push them to use your idea but show that it's just suggestion that they can ignore and you are not mad for it Edit: I think I misunderstood your comment but I won't delete it, it's good advice after all
as someone from the other perspective (i hate overapologizing), this is what we do not like. if you say sorry even if you think or know it's not your fault then there is insincerity about saying the word "sorry". apologize when you have to and don't be afraid to point out your criticisms. you can still criticize respectfully if you choose your words well
@@francinev3971 Actually it may be my parent's upbringing or may be I am from old school student. Lastly what I feel is I don't want to bleed other's heart.
I stopped the apologizing all the time a long time ago, and i’ve never done any of the other things. I am always kind and respectful to everyone i’m around and i’m still not respected by most people, can someone tell me why please. I don’t know what i’m doing wrong😭
I think it as to do with being assertive it means that we must have self esteem in order to set boundaries. I had the same issue but I learned recently how to command respect even with manipulative people, this is possible. You can make it if you work on yourself 🙏🏽
@@iroyiseshen6702 ah that makes sense my self esteem is little to none cause i was heavily bullied for a long time which i mean is why i’m nice and respectful to everyone but yea i definitely gotta start working on that
I’m definitely number 5, I say sorry too much because exactly because of what they said in the video. At this point it’s a habit to say sorry a lot lol
That's an important distinction: Worried about being *Liked* vs. worrying about being *Respected* . It's important to balance both, but I'm personally curious as to which is more important. (My money is on *respect* , because it gives people a reason to like you in the first place.)
4 and 5 for me. I'm so glad that Psych2Go is an actual channel because my mom tried teaching me and my brothers things about mental health maybe a year or 2 ago. She would show us videos but the videos just weren't entertaining. I needed something that I could sit, watch, and actually pay attention or be interested in. Psych2Go has achieved that as soon as I started watching(which was maybe 2 months ago ngl). Tysm for just straight up making this channel! I honestly don't understand how you can just make multiple videos in one day and do so much research! This is also the only place I feel comfortable talking about my problems. Some how, just watching these animations and listening to the video just makes me feel better. So, again, thank you.
I have both of my best friends and lost so many great friends because I was going through a hard time and dug them into it.. Also some of those people led me on, didn't know what I wanted with my cycle of problems and I've also lost 2 great therapists this year A. I make everything about me B. I break promises or show up late to everything C. I dismiss ideas And it sucks but currently I am working on bettering myself, finding other therapists, improving my relationship with my boyfriend / parents, and finding a carrier for myself
I have a friend that has a huge crush on me, he makes it all about himself and talks SO much. I hate to be mean so I haven’t said anything. I want to end our friendship because he is getting on mine and my best friends nerves. I almost lost my best friend for goodness sake’s just because of him! I need advice on how to end the friendship without making him sad or depressed.
Like the comment above said, the kindest thing to do is to be direct, and you have to understand this; it's not about him, it's about you, if he gets sad/depressed because of your assertive "no" and because you want to cut contact with him - that's his own thing, he has to understand and reflect upon his feelings as to why he feels the way he would if he does indeed get depressed If you sugarcoat everything to others in life they'll just end up being more miserable when someone way more dissapointing hits them in life, and understand that you do not deserve to worry or stress about some guy that was the reason who almost made you lose your best friend, be direct with him, and if he understands, good, if he doesn't, good, worrying won't get you anywhere in this kind of situation.
I actually like the act of saying the words, "Im sorry." For some reason, those words just feel good to say. I'm learning to switch to, "I apologize," which is better, though those words also feel good in my mouth. Such an odd thing--at least I'm aware of it. As for making everything about me, I'm also aware of that. Other people seem not to be, and say they don't mind when I bring it up (of course); it's mostly strangers (as in people I've never met) who express annoyance. Perhaps people who know me can see that I try to process everything in terms that I can understand? It feels self-centered, and only strangers tell me that it is. These are very good tips though, as ever!
This message is for someone who needs to hear this and will fully understand it... You are not define by your circumstance or your past. It’s not what happened to you that determines your success in life; it is how you deal with those circumstances that determines your success in life. You are strong, you are capable and practice forgiveness (Forgiveness is for you; forgive your parents or anyone whom we have chosen to hurt us, to begin the process of healing and freedom. Remember: Forgiveness is for you to be freed, healed and happy. It’s a RESET BUTTON) and practice gratitude everyday. This will change the course of your life forever. Love you always and I believe in you wholeheartedly no matter what ✨❤️ - Nat
So true! Forgiveness isnt saying, ‘What you did to me was okay’ It’s acknowledging that what happened wasn’t okay, and you pay the debt of letting it go, whatever emotional, financial, whatever. And you let it go. Forgiveness is healing ❤️🩹
I have friend that’s very nice. Like she puts other people before herself. Yet no one does the same for her. She’s trapped in a toxic household, no support, and she’s been nothing but nice. Oh and people won’t hesitate to make her their personal therapist. So this list is absolute bullshit. Typically the ones with this sort of demand aren’t good people to be around. I’m talking on a long-term level. Real friends don’t try to completely change you to their liking.
Maybe when they "make her their personal therapist" they're trying to make friends with her! I don't think the list is completely bs. What kind of demand do you mean?
I am nice to ppl no matter if they hurt me or caused my pain. I gave my bf a second chance even though he treated me like shit. I can’t help it. I already used to being like this, I know I deserve better but I love him.
your friend lets others make her their therapist, which is disrespectful of them. she sets poor boundaries, which is her disrespecting herself. mistreated people from toxic families often do this. they put themselves below others by acting excessively nice, apologetic, and helpful. it's a form of non-malicious manipulation done out of fear and self-preservation. the fact that she's so nice may be why you're quick to defend her. but there isn't a need to worry. this list is not meant to insult her. it's just a set of possible reasons why someone may not get the respect they deserve. she genuinely sounds like a great person that you care about and want to keep safe, and i hope her situation gets better
Two things I recommend attempting to observe before even pondering these things are, does the individual you are concerned with respect themselves and do they demonstrate respect for anyone else or at least most everyone else. If the answers are yes proceed to the self evaluation portion. If no then don't worry about it.
Can you make a video about how "respect" and "fear" can be confused with one another? like seeing a buffed unit type of guy commands "respect" by his looks alone but the truth is, it's just the fear of his potential to crush you. many people wouldn't get the same amount of "respect" if their physical appearance wasn't fear-inducing. I think many people get that wrong. a primal reflex for self-defense being thrown together with a genuinely human and humanistic trait of admiration, awe and...yes...respect.
@@Ghost-kx1ku ah, I find it odd how people could immediately lose respect for someone because they're a guy and loves kpop, yet respect all your other friends who are kpop fans too? Well, I hope you're alright, good on you for ignoring mean people!
@@Ghost-kx1ku if I find a guy who loves k-pop I would really be happy to be their friend since we both have same interest. Idk what's wrong with people these day🤔
People don't respect me because i have so unique(not in a good way necessarily) opinions about everything. They don't like people who they can't relate with. I've been called a Liberal and a Nazi and a Republican and a Democrat etc... Bruh
Yes maybe it's these things.... or in a lot of cases it isn't your fault and people are simply being mean. My point being that not everyone, or even close to everyone in fact, will respect you, and that is normal and a good thing because there are people in this world who you do not want to respect you.
@@sandrapatriciaoriguarios4589 I think you missed my point maybe, I am not sure. I was simply saying that I don't think anyone wants any bad people to respect them, for example would you want someone evil such as Hitler to respect you? I personally wouldn't because that'd be like an insult.
@@Ana_LMAO I've done it myself just tell her you don't want to be friends anymore and ignore her it'll be difficult in the beginning but as time goes by you'll find it more and more easy keep your head up you can do it
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My one friend always dominates the talk but doesn't get hated....... And the opposite happens whereas when I speak they just tend to ignore that. .......... Please help....
BTW love your vids... 😌😌😌
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This is my claim until someone proves otherwise which I would gladly accept a challenge..
I know more about "Respect", what it is, how it works and why it works that way than anyone else on this planet.
You want to learn about what Respect truly is, then talk to me and I'll give you the run down...
If you want to know why people don't Respect you, it's because they don't know what it means or how to justifiably apply it.
Please do not confuse this with me thinking I am the most respectful or respectable person in the world, I said I know more about "Respect".
6 Reasons Why People Don’t Respect You
1. You make everything about you 0:24
2. You dismiss other people's ideas 0:53
3. You try to control others 1:35
4. You don't maintain boundaries 2:11
5. You apologize too often 2:46
6. You break promises 3:26
1. You make everything about you.
2. You dismiss other people's ideas.
3. You try to control others.
4. You don't maintain boundaries.
5. You apologize too often.
6. You break promises.
0:23 You make everything about you
0:54 You dismiss other people's ideas
1:33 You try to control others
2:10 You don't maintain boundaries
2:44 You apologize too often
3:25 You break promises
no questions
Time traveller!
Was this pre made?!
McFly?
I never do any of these things. Yet people don't respect me 😒
I got the notification for this while reading fanfiction 💀
Well we have found a reason people may not respect you.
mood 😂
Same😭
Sb was looking at you in disgust & thought you should hear dis💀💀💀
Same
0:23 you make everything about you
0:53 you dismiss other peoples ideas
1:33 you try to control others
2:10 you don’t maintain boundaries
2:44 you apologize too often
3:24 you break promises
If everyone had low boundaries, I think the world would be a better place.
Some people will litterally get upset just for having an opinion.
As for apologizing too much, I might do that a little, since I don't wanna disappoint anyone sense I don't see a point if it can or could have been avoided.
oh, so that's why I was a poor leader, I knew I was too controlling but I didn't know that was also for respect
TIMESTAMPS
0:22 You make everything about you
0:53 You dismiss other people's ideas
1:33 You try to control others
2:11 You dont put boundaries
2:44 You apologize too often
3:26 You break promises
I appreciate it when people make things less time-consuming 💫 thx
thx!
@@Psych2go omygah hello:)! Thank you and the team for your work!! ^^
@@stea351 Was a pleasure:)
*6 Reasons Why People Don't Respect You*
1. You make everything about you. (0:22)
2. You dismiss other people's ideas. (0:53)
3. You try to control others. (1:33)
4. You don't maintain boundaries. (2:09)
5. You apologize too often. (2:43)
6. You break promises. (3:24)
Thank you
@@kazandibi. No problem! (:
6 Reasons Why People Don't Respect You -
1. You make everything about you 0:24
2. You dismiss other people's ideas 0:53
3. You try to control others 1:35
4. You don't maintain boundaries 2:11
5. You apologize too often 2:46
6. You break promises 3:26
I relate to 4 the most and 6 just a little bit
I relate to 5 the most
Imma don't know whats wrong with me
@@loveyourself6048 same here. I guess we should do what's written in your name. *LOVE YOURSELF* , if we won't respect ourselves then nobody would.
@@djdragons69420 Right ❤️ if you truly accept and love yourself then the world also accepts you , it's not like everybody does there are people who still don't but you shouldn't care what others think , y'all know the'res saying that the less you care what others think the more happy you'll be .
6 reason why people don't respect you
1) 0:24 you make everything about you.
2) 0:55 you dismiss other people's ideas
3) 1:34 you try to control others
4) 2:10 you don't maintain boundaries
5) 2:45 you apologise too often
6) 3:25 you break promise
SUMMARY :
00:22 1. You make everything about you
00:52 2. You dismiss other people's ideas
1:33 3. You try to control others
2:09 4. You don't maintain boundaries
2:43 5. You apologize too often
3:23 6. You break promises
Thanks :)
@@animeroza6188 anytime ^-^
I feel like im never taken seriously unless they really need my help
7. Don't be too nice to others
Tru, they will gradually thought that u re just that worthless with ur lack of self respect, the only one who won't get into such thought is the same ppl pleaser, which gets harder to meet these days
Yess. The sad truth is that some of the people doesn't like kind people. I'm a student and I always be nice and kind to others but none of them bothered to talk to me. I always have to go first while my other classmate gets a lot of people talking to her and always asking her to come and play with them. I don't have a real friend who talks to me when I get left out. I'm also an shy introvert and isn't good at studies but still I tries to be more talkative but some of them ignored me cause I'm not good at studies like them. I can be pretty sure some of the parents have told these people to not to be friend with people who doesn't studies because my family also says that. That's why they might be like this. They only talks to people who is good at it and I hate that so much. Even teacher don't really care about me since I am not good at studies
6 reasons why people might not respect you:
You make everything about you (ask them about them)
You dismiss everyone else's idea
You try to control others = manipulation
You don't maintain boundaries (have self respect and if someone crosses the line tell them)
You say sorry too much = low self esteem
You brake promises
1. You make everything about you
2. You dismiss other peoples ideas
3. You try to control others
4. You don’t maintain boundaries
5. You apologize too often
6. You break promises
1. People dont respect you if you apologize too much
2. People over-apologize because they have low self-esteem
Therefore, people wont respect people with low self-esteem, which makes them even more low self-esteem
i uhh im that i always apologize...
@@nicoleafton9551 You should know what to apologize for. Practice by not apologizing at all unless you did something horrible.
@@nicoleafton9551 most of the time people don't care if you apologize
Weird I love people that apologize, I relate with them
@Alvin Cwk This is incorrect. Self-esteem is not provided by others. Self-esteem is a self-evaluation.
to remind myself:
1. talk less, listen more
2. encourage more than dismiss
3. free other to free yourself
4. be clear about your boundery, set rule then be consistent.
5. think twice before saying sorry
6. respect your words
Food For Thought: Respect for ourselves guides our morals, respect for others guides our manners.
Most people don't respect others as they are more interested in what they can get from others.
true!
You shouldn’t have to do anything extra to be respected. Everyone should be respected by default and if they don’t then the hell with them
There should be a standard respect for all people but your meter for each respective person can either raise or lower with time
Exactly! Respect comes naturally
"People treat you the way you treat yourself"- Confucius
I have noticed that people who are well-liked and respected (the two are similar but far from being the same, some people are liked by others but not respected, I know because I was like that for a long time, while others are appreciated but not liked by anyone ) have these things in common
1. Politeness, being nice without any particular reason
2. Integrity, not making false promises and not breaking the ones they make. Rember you are only worth as much as your words!
3. Punctuality, being loyal to your own and other people's time.
Respect is earned not given. Demanding others damn respect all the time and you'll come across as a narcissist, let others walk all over you and you'll become a doormat! So moderation and knowing the right boundaries are key. Don't worry nobody gets respected by default commanding respect is like a skill that needs to be learned and you'll only get better as you go.
true!
Be confident
Be polite
Be brave
and
always have a smile in your face
I'll respect you❤️
Respect to you!
Constant rejection can also prevent someone from pursuing love interests and friends making it difficult to accept any positive feedback.
So what I learned: There is no reason for people in the public to still disrespect me even after fixing all my mistakes. We all make mistakes and to disrespect someone who fixed their mistakes and just wants to move on, is immature and time wasting. Kids at my school don't understand this. You don't have to forgive me for past harassment, but just let me be.
Thank you for this!!! I over apologize way too much and lack the ability to set boundaries and I’ve noticed a lot of my friends do not respect me and feel comfortable treating me any how. It’s something I have to work on for sure. Especially going into a career it’s important to be able to do that. I hope anyone who struggles with this knows that you’re not the bad guy for standing up for yourself or saying no. People pleasing and feeling the need to shrink yourself only hurts you. It’s not helpful to anyone and anyone who says otherwise wants u to shrink urself so they can feel good. And you don’t need ppl like that in ur life
We need more things like this. Lately ive been feeling like my friends dont respect me and they act different when we are alone versus when they are together as im just there to be made fun of (but of course "stop overracting were just joking") sometimes and I feel like I had no one to blame but myself for not being taken seriously since I hardly have a life, this really helps.
Same thing happens here
The reason why people don't respect me is:
- my low self-esteem
- being scared of people
- being a people pleaser who doesn't want to start an argument
- believing that people are going to disappear from your life after a fight
- don't give a damn about being right or wrong, I was just having a conversation, why do you want to force your opinion on me?
- not competitive, so I don't care whether I win an argument or nor
When it comes to me.
It's probably
1. being unsure of myself. Because how can you ever be sure of something? I despise confidence in relationships, because confidence shouldn't be needed when you are talking to people (not saying you shouldn't be comfortable, but confident no), confidence makes you less empathetic and whenever I was confident, people would get envious and only hang out with me, because they liked seeing something that they didn't see in themselves.
2. Selflessness, this can come off as people pleasing to others, because I value people more than myself, I mean shouldn't you? If people aren't as important, then what exactly is? Ofcourse I don't go out of my way meeting random people trying to get them to like me, however when someone does initiate contact with me, sometimes I do wanna be liked, because I've litterally had instances where people hanged out and talked to me, but found me annoying, and didn't actually like me. So then I'd just well try to do nice things (and it really doesn't work most of the time)
3. My avoidance to conflict, not saying I do not value conflict, however a lot of times, unnecessary conflict could have been avoided and that's just what I tend to do when it's the smart thing to do. Conflict should only be used at a last resort.
4. Right and wrong, I never think I'm ever really right, I always have doubts, but I do voice my opinions on what I think is right, even though I may be wrong. Some people just think I'm condescending or "I'm right and your wrong" when it's usually the other person who can't have a discussion.
5. My conflicting habits, sometimes I'd say one thing and do another, I don't purposely do it and I do realize that but, I always have a good reason to back up why I did so in the first place, I explain it, but it just isn't enough.
And finally 6. Perception, how they see me .
I can't control how anyone sees me, it sucks how the very values or things they like and dislike could honestly make them disliking me for thinking they see those things without fully knowing the whole picture of why I am the way I am.
They assume things and that's the problem, they don't decide to to deeper or maybe they just can't. I don't really see a point in considering anyone my enemy (unless they really just hate me and want to kill me), I just don't see a point to fight if it can be avoided. It just sort of happens. So I secluded myself and well that's it.
@@Yusa_Beach man. this so me. i felt it all my own. it's amazing u worded this up so clearly because i can't verbalize this on my own but i can feel so much like this. i wish everyone i meet know about this about me. nailed it
So people don’t respect you because you are mentally weak. If you want to get respect, stop caring what people think and stop being irrationally fearful.
It's good that you've identified all this! Now you are on your way to improving!
@@Psych2go I will 😊
respect others and others will respect you back
But I also realize that even if you do everything right, people will still not like you - or they’ll just use you as a doormat.
"Try to be careful with the language you choose " Agree! 🙋♀🙋♂
I lost my own respect from a friend. Not only am I disappointed in myself, now the relationship’s also very broken. I hate myself for it.
It's alright, if they are a real friend then it can be worked out. All relationships of every type go through rough patches. It'll be okay even if it can't be, it just means they weren't meant to be around long-term
Food For Thought: Respect is not imposed nor begged, it is earned and offered.
I don't dominate in conversations and try to be a people pleaser,but still get disrespected lol
Because no one bothered to teach me basic social skills and i spent 80% of my life locked up due to stupid "parenting" , so I have no idea how to deal with anyone
Same.
Same, hope you improve your well being everyone is ass 1 out of ten are only sociable the rest is asshole
The problem with constantly apologizing is that I've been doing it for so long I can't distinguish in which situations the apology is necessary or not, so it's a difficult behavior to correct. It'd be nice if you made a video about things like this, or self-esteem issues in general, maybe with some tips.
I think a good rule of thumb is to only apologize if say, you actually did something wrong. But if you do something like, setting a boundary, you shouldn’t follow it with a ‘sorry’ because well, that’s not wrong.
Or maybe you accidentally bump into at the supermarket. Instead of saying sorry, try saying, ‘Excuse me!’ instead. It’s polite, while also making your language sounds stronger.
And just hold yourself up high! Chin up! I come from a family of apologizing women and it’s a habit that you can break. Not everyone will like you, and that’s not your fault. Don’t second guess yourself because someone doesn’t like something you like. If someone constantly puts you down, then you’ll find that spending less time around them is really a mood-lifter
Sounds good!
Having to stop apologizing for everything is hard for me because I grew up in a strict house and I just assume I'm doing everything wrong
Ikr had a similar experience.
Exposing yourself to the greater society, beyond your house, is the first step to fixing this habit! You got this.
I’ve been working on saying sorry quite a bit lately! I also try to be very conscious of how much I’m dominating a conversation because it annoys me so much when others do it. lol. The big one I’m working on learning is how to set boundaries. I’ve learned in therapy that my parents never allowed me to be my own person or question things. Every time I did I was labeled a “bad kid.” They still say it to this day. I’m having to learn that they were just bad parents and that it’s ok to speak up and have opinions/boundaries. It’s really hard!
I appreciate what this Channel does, I really needed to hear this
I love this channel because it helps the people who need it
Just want to take a moment of appreciation for how they represented "dismissing ideas" by someone slapping the lightbulb off the screen lol 0:55
Maybe I can have a higher self-esteem than I have now, but I feel like I should talk less about my personal experiences. I don't know why am I so used to doing it. At least before starting talking and talking and talking I hear the others out. That has a little downside though. I strongly prefer being among more talkative people or people, who trust me as the leader.
Still, I know there are people who respect me and understand me fully. I'm glad I reciprocate that. It's their words, not mine.
interesting!
I have done at least 3-4 of these which contributed to my last break up.
Awesome video. I must add though, that since respect earned tends to be more about being in a “warm” between a “hot and cold”, this is definitely on the hot end. It vibes with arrogance. I’d love to see another video for the cold end, since the majority of the audience I notice in the comments under any video seems to struggle with sorts of anxiety, and I (personally) believe it’d be better for their end.
Some stuff would probably be things like “too soft spoken” (gives off unconfident energy), doesn’t set and/or uphold your own personal boundaries, tries too hard to maintain one-sided relationships, too forgiving even when the person who hurt you didn’t put energy into adapting instead of just apologizing, maybe tries to guilt others instead of just letting things be as they are, etc, would probably be more fitting for what I see when reading over the comments. This is advice for a Barney Stinson given to a Marshall Erickson audience if ya catch my drift.
But nonetheless, honestly, awesome video.
good addition!
I used to over apologize. But nowadays, if I’m just being blunt, I say that I’m not sorry, and sometimes if I feel a certain way about myself that I feel like I need to change, I say that I’m not sorry for saying what I said. Now if I do say something that isn’t good, of course I apologize for it. Other times I say that I’m not sorry if I need to be real with someone or even myself.
All of these red flag behaviors can be traits of autism - and it’s usually not meant to be manipulative or cruel - and there are studies to show there’s an inherent dislike of us by neurotypicals. So I believe it. We are stuck with masking, and people wonder why we experience burn out. The chronic “sorry” reaction is indicative of trauma in social situations, it’s hard to break.
Thank you I was just thinking king this! It’s so hard to get social stuff
Man learning how to behave properly among other people is a whole complicated study in and of itself, kinda sad.
I've been told that I "look" disrespectful... what does that even mean?
~Tucker
I would love to hear Amanda narrate children's books. Perfect voice....
Yes I did. I used to apologise a lot such as sorry I couldn’t help because I had a sick leave, sorry I’m too dumb etc because I was insecure and had low self esteem but then I learnt to be more confident and slowly changed . Now I feel more respected by ppl around
Good job Phys2go!! Your videos are always entertaining and helpful ：）
I find this very relatable:)
youre not dumb and your feelings are valid. but im glad youre better now!
Setting boundaries. Thanks!
I require nobody's respect. I only require being ignored.
Selfish people normally do not respect others unless they want them to do something for themselves.
On point.
Try to convince a selfish person to do something for you. Then go back to the past how many times you have done something for them.
thank you for this information
These are the typical type of videos I didn't knew I ever needed but I internally did
The key to respect is respect others. The least respect with which you should treat someone is the respect you would give a total stranger. Same with love, though love and respect are not interchangeable, they are intertwined.
My one friend always dominates the talk but doesn't get hated....... And the opposite happens whereas when I speak they just tend to ignore that. ......
Maybe because that friend is the alpha of the group.
They're just toxic at that point, I'd seek other friends if possible, I know that can be hard though
Please, don't overthink it, your friend needs to let you speak, and if they ignore you, they aren't your friend. Maybe if you put your words out there(like explaining to them that them ignoring you and talking over you is a problem) maybe they will listen. It's another thing to be assertive. (Of course, since it's your life, your decisions.) Best of luck, hope this helped.
I am 99.99% sure that none of these apply to me, yet I still often feel like people don’t respect me. However I haven’t seen any real signs that they don’t. It’s always been a feeling I have that everyone hates me, even if they don’t show it. It just feels that way, and idk why. I try to be rational and tell myself that isn’t true, but it just doesn’t work and I end up still believing that everyone hates me as much as I hate myself.
Might be depression or anxiety, maybe go to a therapist?
thats exactly what i feel!
7. They are jealous and they dont like you. 8. They are toxic. STOP BLAMING US.
Fr
For fake friends 😓
Jesus Christ they’re not blaming anyone. Some people genuinely lack the ability to do introspection and realize that they actually are the problem. Not everyone is a victim. Not everyone is jealous of you or toxic. Sometimes u do actually need to look within before stating that the problem is everyone else. Ofc that doesn’t apply to everyone but it doesn’t hurt to look within sometimes.
@@rebecca1331 :) i blamed myself because your toxic mindset. Now i'm free and more happy.
Lol here you are blaming others. Maybe take a look at that.
7: hate against morbius
I do two of. i say sorry. Way to much. And i don't set boundaries. So now i know why. Im not respected.
Same here due to this I cry too often
@@vivio6 I don't really cry. I just reflect on life. But sometimes i do cry.
I've not done a lot of these mistakes, maybe I haven't set properly my boundaries and say sorry too much, but I've been feeling not respected
reasons why i have no friends j
Oof
I always feel like a baby like noone can look up to me like I could never be a leader
You do all that and they ignore you completely.
I dont make promises, cuz I KNOW i wont follow trough, not cuz i dont want to, but i forget
Excellent points as always. But what about: racial, economic and gender prejudice? You can be the most virtuous person in the world, but people only see status.
People like that aren't worth respecting in the first place...
...AND if I don't respect them, why would I bother seeking their respect???
They can f*** right off. ;o)
True!
It is about standing on the truth.
Bcos the truth should be the only opinion.
& if you're someone like this for sure,
many will not like you. Fact !
Well said
It's natural to be disrespected by someone...and of course the point you showed make this more real. But i'd like to point the fact that in today's society, the more aggressive you are going to be, the more you'll get respect, at least from the vast majority of people, and probably only on facade. Those who are not prone to overwhelm weaker ones are seen often as weak themselves, especially by the youngsters ( i think parents today lack that genuine "belt slap" of past days) and bullied, made fun of and so on. The problem is not that YOU are disrespected, the real thing in my opinion is those people with an exaggerated self esteem (or total lack of self insight)..and you can't change them. So, walk away...for hardcore loners there is the "kick their arse" option but i strongly do not reccomend it!
People don't respect you because one, you don't respect them, and/or they're not good people. Find new friends
And family
I AM SO READY TO FIGURE IT OUT WHY
[Edit]
Ahh I think it's because of my boundaries-
Thanks you, but can you do a Video next on "How to Recover from a Broken Friendship Please, that is something So Hard to Tackle, especially when it was your Best Friend?!?"
That’s a good topic for sure! May I offer a suggestion? Write down everything you miss about the friendship. For example: I miss that we liked the same movies and restaurants, we shared memories since childhood, I could tell them anything, etc. Attaching a specific reason for your grief let’s you express and recover from the sadness. Next, write down what you are thankful for from that person, almost as if it’s going away speech. For example, thank you for all the laughter we shared, thank you for listening for hours when I got divorced, etc. Next, send them ‘off’ with a prayer or wish, for example: I hope you reach the success you’ve been wanting, I pray your relationship with your son gets better, I will always remember you, thank you for the love and care you’ve given me, etc. these suggestions are to help you bring some closure to this cherished, but ended relationship. I hope this helps in some way. Take care.
I over apologise to people for circumstances or things even though it wasn't my fault.
I do not want to hurt them by saying harsh words or pointing to their mistakes even when I know they are doing wrong.
I know how one gets hurt and feels the pain and so do not intent to inflict them.
In this act of being good I realise that people misjudge me.They take me as one who is the defaulter and instead pour hot words on me.
Though I can retaliate,but I don't.I do not want to hurt their emotions and feelings.
Am I over thoughtful?
I am not expert in this but I think you should show that it's your opinion and you didn't really want to hurt them, example: "honestly if I were you I would do this [insert idea] but it's all on you." Don't push them to use your idea but show that it's just suggestion that they can ignore and you are not mad for it
Edit: I think I misunderstood your comment but I won't delete it, it's good advice after all
as someone from the other perspective (i hate overapologizing), this is what we do not like. if you say sorry even if you think or know it's not your fault then there is insincerity about saying the word "sorry". apologize when you have to and don't be afraid to point out your criticisms. you can still criticize respectfully if you choose your words well
@@Brightsonp I heartily appreciate your advice and would try to follow it.
Thank You.
BTW your suggestion is upto the point.
@@francinev3971 Actually it may be my parent's upbringing or may be I am from old school student.
Lastly what I feel is I don't want to bleed other's heart.
I stopped the apologizing all the time a long time ago, and i’ve never done any of the other things. I am always kind and respectful to everyone i’m around and i’m still not respected by most people, can someone tell me why please. I don’t know what i’m doing wrong😭
I think it as to do with being assertive it means that we must have self esteem in order to set boundaries. I had the same issue but I learned recently how to command respect even with manipulative people, this is possible. You can make it if you work on yourself 🙏🏽
@@iroyiseshen6702 ah that makes sense my self esteem is little to none cause i was heavily bullied for a long time which i mean is why i’m nice and respectful to everyone but yea i definitely gotta start working on that
Follow your guts!
I got this video when I was having an internet argument 💀
I’m definitely number 5, I say sorry too much because exactly because of what they said in the video. At this point it’s a habit to say sorry a lot lol
That's an important distinction: Worried about being *Liked* vs. worrying about being *Respected* . It's important to balance both, but I'm personally curious as to which is more important. (My money is on *respect* , because it gives people a reason to like you in the first place.)
That's bull my sister and brother are just like that and everyone loves them, but I dont do any of these things and no one respects me.
I was just gonna say I started this video to see why my family didn't respect me, and ended up realizing I dont respect them, LOL
some people get away with this stuff better than others
I got disrespect a lot because of the first one, so I try to have less talking. And end up, I was alone because I talk too less.
You got this!
Yeah that first one hit me right upside my head lol I will definitely work on it..
i have none of these (pretty sure) and they still disrespect me:(((
either you’re not self aware or you need new friends
4 and 5 for me. I'm so glad that Psych2Go is an actual channel because my mom tried teaching me and my brothers things about mental health maybe a year or 2 ago. She would show us videos but the videos just weren't entertaining. I needed something that I could sit, watch, and actually pay attention or be interested in. Psych2Go has achieved that as soon as I started watching(which was maybe 2 months ago ngl). Tysm for just straight up making this channel! I honestly don't understand how you can just make multiple videos in one day and do so much research! This is also the only place I feel comfortable talking about my problems. Some how, just watching these animations and listening to the video just makes me feel better. So, again, thank you.
Wow your comment is very relatable.
I have both of my best friends and lost so many great friends because I was going through a hard time and dug them into it..
Also some of those people led me on, didn't know what I wanted with my cycle of problems and I've also lost 2 great therapists this year
A. I make everything about me
B. I break promises or show up late to everything
C. I dismiss ideas
And it sucks but currently I am working on bettering myself, finding other therapists, improving my relationship with my boyfriend / parents, and finding a carrier for myself
My mom always invades my boundaries and she doesn't care.
I love your voice 🤩
I have a friend that has a huge crush on me, he makes it all about himself and talks SO much. I hate to be mean so I haven’t said anything. I want to end our friendship because he is getting on mine and my best friends nerves. I almost lost my best friend for goodness sake’s just because of him! I need advice on how to end the friendship without making him sad or depressed.
You can never go wrong with direct honesty and clarity. Not with the intention to hurt, but with the intention to be understood
@@StargazerYo I dono, I hate to be mean. I’ll definitely talk to my best friend about this too.
@@wibbydoo2525 usually the kindest thing we can do is be direct with someone, even if it's hard to say/hear
Like the comment above said, the kindest thing to do is to be direct, and you have to understand this; it's not about him, it's about you, if he gets sad/depressed because of your assertive "no" and because you want to cut contact with him - that's his own thing, he has to understand and reflect upon his feelings as to why he feels the way he would if he does indeed get depressed
If you sugarcoat everything to others in life they'll just end up being more miserable when someone way more dissapointing hits them in life, and understand that you do not deserve to worry or stress about some guy that was the reason who almost made you lose your best friend, be direct with him, and if he understands, good, if he doesn't, good, worrying won't get you anywhere in this kind of situation.
@@alexlindviel8075 thank you so much guys. I’ll tell him.
I actually like the act of saying the words, "Im sorry." For some reason, those words just feel good to say. I'm learning to switch to, "I apologize," which is better, though those words also feel good in my mouth. Such an odd thing--at least I'm aware of it. As for making everything about me, I'm also aware of that. Other people seem not to be, and say they don't mind when I bring it up (of course); it's mostly strangers (as in people I've never met) who express annoyance. Perhaps people who know me can see that I try to process everything in terms that I can understand? It feels self-centered, and only strangers tell me that it is. These are very good tips though, as ever!
This message is for someone who needs to hear this and will fully understand it... You are not define by your circumstance or your past. It’s not what happened to you that determines your success in life; it is how you deal with those circumstances that determines your success in life. You are strong, you are capable and practice forgiveness (Forgiveness is for you; forgive your parents or anyone whom we have chosen to hurt us, to begin the process of healing and freedom. Remember: Forgiveness is for you to be freed, healed and happy. It’s a RESET BUTTON) and practice gratitude everyday. This will change the course of your life forever. Love you always and I believe in you wholeheartedly no matter what ✨❤️ - Nat
So true! Forgiveness isnt saying, ‘What you did to me was okay’
It’s acknowledging that what happened wasn’t okay, and you pay the debt of letting it go, whatever emotional, financial, whatever. And you let it go. Forgiveness is healing ❤️🩹
I have friend that’s very nice. Like she puts other people before herself. Yet no one does the same for her. She’s trapped in a toxic household, no support, and she’s been nothing but nice. Oh and people won’t hesitate to make her their personal therapist. So this list is absolute bullshit. Typically the ones with this sort of demand aren’t good people to be around. I’m talking on a long-term level. Real friends don’t try to completely change you to their liking.
Maybe when they "make her their personal therapist" they're trying to make friends with her! I don't think the list is completely bs. What kind of demand do you mean?
this is literally me is that a good thing or a bad thing
@@iamadamselindistress4969 if it's good that you're nice to ppl 😭😭😭
I am nice to ppl no matter if they hurt me or caused my pain. I gave my bf a second chance even though he treated me like shit. I can’t help it. I already used to being like this, I know I deserve better but I love him.
your friend lets others make her their therapist, which is disrespectful of them. she sets poor boundaries, which is her disrespecting herself. mistreated people from toxic families often do this. they put themselves below others by acting excessively nice, apologetic, and helpful. it's a form of non-malicious manipulation done out of fear and self-preservation. the fact that she's so nice may be why you're quick to defend her. but there isn't a need to worry. this list is not meant to insult her. it's just a set of possible reasons why someone may not get the respect they deserve. she genuinely sounds like a great person that you care about and want to keep safe, and i hope her situation gets better
It’s definitely my low self esteem and my tardiness😓
Two things I recommend attempting to observe before even pondering these things are, does the individual you are concerned with respect themselves and do they demonstrate respect for anyone else or at least most everyone else. If the answers are yes proceed to the self evaluation portion. If no then don't worry about it.
if they respect you, they can betray you, if they fear you, they wont have a choice
Can you make a video about how "respect" and "fear" can be confused with one another? like seeing a buffed unit type of guy commands "respect" by his looks alone but the truth is, it's just the fear of his potential to crush you. many people wouldn't get the same amount of "respect" if their physical appearance wasn't fear-inducing. I think many people get that wrong. a primal reflex for self-defense being thrown together with a genuinely human and humanistic trait of admiration, awe and...yes...respect.
We gotchu!
@@Psych2go Ohh cool! 🥰 Also cool, that you see a month old comment, hehe!
Nobody respects me because i stan kpop…. I DONT EVEN SHOVE IT IN PEOPLES FACE EITHER
Another part to it is that im a guy and people find that weird. I have kpop stan friends and they are respected. Does not bother me much tho
nobody should because stans are annoying
@@Ghost-kx1ku ah, I find it odd how people could immediately lose respect for someone because they're a guy and loves kpop, yet respect all your other friends who are kpop fans too? Well, I hope you're alright, good on you for ignoring mean people!
@@Ghost-kx1ku if I find a guy who loves k-pop I would really be happy to be their friend since we both have same interest. Idk what's wrong with people these day🤔
People don't respect me because i have so unique(not in a good way necessarily) opinions about everything. They don't like people who they can't relate with. I've been called a Liberal and a Nazi and a Republican and a Democrat etc... Bruh
Are you Joe Rogan?
@@PandaOnSkis Who tf is Joe Rogan?
@@unikeko96 😭😭
Thanks for the tutorial
Why would I give a crap what other people do disrespect me and your no longer a part of my life. Sweet and simple. Not my problem.
Yes maybe it's these things.... or in a lot of cases it isn't your fault and people are simply being mean.
My point being that not everyone, or even close to everyone in fact, will respect you, and that is normal and a good thing because there are people in this world who you do not want to respect you.
What I realized is that all of this are done to me by people I dont respect, lol
@@nicolaimarquez2211 Yeah same lol
you are right. its not your fault.
It's not that people don't want to respect, some people have no idea what respect is and treat other people with contempt...
@@sandrapatriciaoriguarios4589 I think you missed my point maybe, I am not sure. I was simply saying that I don't think anyone wants any bad people to respect them, for example would you want someone evil such as Hitler to respect you? I personally wouldn't because that'd be like an insult.
7. You’re neurodivergent in an ableist neurotypical society
this
A girl uses me at school, because im weak mentally and idk what to do, i dont think she knows i know that tho-
you should stop hanging out with her
@@mannshaft im trying but she just keeps on coming to me. Also is tryna seperate me from my real friends
@@Ana_LMAO I've done it myself just tell her you don't want to be friends anymore and ignore her it'll be difficult in the beginning but as time goes by you'll find it more and more easy keep your head up you can do it
@@mannshaft Ty For The Advice! Ill inform if it will work!
@@Ana_LMAO hope it will 💪🏼
Love the animation as always Nijix
Hi! Could you do a video about how to set boundaries in different situations? I have been struggling with this a lot!
yeah, a boundary setting video would be very helpful
Absolutely!