Where ya goin’, where ya been, baby boy?

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  • Опубликовано: 18 ноя 2024

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  • @AdventuresofZachandB
    @AdventuresofZachandB  3 года назад +123

    Best outrageously ridiculous baby name wins

    • @derekwebster8442
      @derekwebster8442 3 года назад +8

      Buffy!😂

    • @calebstrickland7888
      @calebstrickland7888 3 года назад +3

      Maya Malika or tatyana ileen are two of my real choices if I ever meet someone and we have a kid. For a boy I'm thinking a Cartiér Reign or Darren Reign idk tho 🤷🏼‍♂️I know they aren't ridiculous but those are my options♥️ love you guys and Alistair you'd be an amazing parent the way you care for Zach shows your paternal instincts you're such a loving and caring person and that's all a child needs is a parents love and care and affection y'all are gonna do amazing things together love you guys💚💚💚

    • @danielwells1734
      @danielwells1734 3 года назад +9

      Illyria! Now there's an outrageous name. It's from Angel.
      Alastair mate, age isn't everything. You still look handsome, and so do you Zach. As long as yous see that in each other, the rest of the world is irrelevant. :)

    • @paulsheedy4650
      @paulsheedy4650 3 года назад +7

      Anastasia Bunny Patton-Garcia.
      Theodore Lincoln Patton-Garcia.

    • @Craiger62
      @Craiger62 3 года назад +3

      Honoured...! How about Alizachoby, for a boy; and Lizalicia for a girl? I better become a godfather...

  • @thomassears1432
    @thomassears1432 3 года назад +127

    I’m 63 years old, and I would say that you will not have “arrived” at anywhere by the time you’re 32. “Arrived” implies you’re done. You’re not done until you’re dead. Just enjoy the journey, and look for the blessings along the way. ❤️

    • @kymllagas2792
      @kymllagas2792 3 года назад +1

      This is really eye-opening. Thank you✨💗

    • @george17
      @george17 3 года назад +3

      Perfectly said, Thomas!

    • @lettagogo5669
      @lettagogo5669 3 года назад +1

      Thomas i love you💞💞💞

    • @steverdms
      @steverdms 3 года назад

      I'm 52 and I was thinking the same thing.

    • @johncollinge619
      @johncollinge619 3 года назад

      They make me anxious sometimes!

  • @michaelbiggs4313
    @michaelbiggs4313 3 года назад +124

    The fact that Alistair understands it is hard being a parent and takes it seriously is just a sign he would be a good parent. It is those people that say they want 10 kids and have no plan on how to take care of them that you have to watch out for.

    • @xxkarlosxxxxxx7233
      @xxkarlosxxxxxx7233 3 года назад +6

      Exactly... And maybe he says this because all the stuff he went through and feels broken... We are all broken though in some way or another but it's how u pick yourself up piece by piece and learn to forgive yourself for the mistakes a younger self made is what matters because we are always ever changing and evolving ... Hopefully for the better

    • @joycesegopa7413
      @joycesegopa7413 3 года назад

      I believe so too

    • @victordepaul1061
      @victordepaul1061 3 года назад +1

      @@xxkarlosxxxxxx7233 Let me return the compliment, that’s a beautiful thought as well.

    • @victordepaul1061
      @victordepaul1061 3 года назад +1

      Alastair is selling himself short. I agree with you that he has it in him to be a good parent. I think that they both do.

    • @lestupidunicorn
      @lestupidunicorn 3 года назад +1

      exactly, my parents had me at 22 and 25 with no prospects saying "you can get through anything with one child only" and because of that attitude we did get through anything, i dont wish my childhood on anyone because it made me mentally and socially deformed and due to the constant uncertainty in every aspect of our lives i grew up in a marriage that went sour halfway through, then they divorced after 25 years together and let me tell you that divorce was a blessing.

  • @michaellance5700
    @michaellance5700 3 года назад +29

    The one thing that always jumps out at me in every video in which y’all are together is how much Alastair obviously loves you. It is written in his face and every move he makes. It’s not a “smothering” pushy or frantic kind of love, but a subtle, sincere devotion that runs DEEP. If I had everything in this world a man could want--money, position, education, intelligence, looks, etc--the thing I would most cherish and treasure would be the kind of love Alastair has for Zach. If I had THAT, I wouldn’t need anything else.

    • @TFCinWDC
      @TFCinWDC 3 года назад +2

      I hope Zach can read your comment and let it sink in. Zach already has 80 percent of what he will LATER find out, is all he ever wanted: Alistair!

  • @mikejordan6183
    @mikejordan6183 3 года назад +69

    My Grandaddy always told me to just be happy and happy what ever you do. He said if digging ditches make you happy, then dig all the ditches you can. Each of us have different levels that make us content.

    • @italianboy2005
      @italianboy2005 3 года назад +8

      Your grandaddy was a smart man, because my grandaddy pretty much said the same thing to me.

    • @wht4latinluv
      @wht4latinluv 3 года назад +2

      @@italianboy2005 mine too

    • @xxkarlosxxxxxx7233
      @xxkarlosxxxxxx7233 3 года назад +4

      Wow I wish I remember my grandparents but I was too young... Sadly they are in a better place now maybe one day in a far far far distant future I will see them again 🥺

  • @saanvithakur222
    @saanvithakur222 3 года назад +47

    I love how thought-provoking your videos are, even if they are simple and vlog styled!

  • @wickedgame241
    @wickedgame241 3 года назад +39

    We are two moms raising two kids. Our boys are turning 16 soon. I’m going to say that parenting is nothing like what’s in the brochures. We didn’t expect to have twins. So that meant twice the cost of raising a child than we had anticipated. Kids are very, very expensive. We spent several thousand dollars just to get pregnant. One son is in sports and takes AP classes. So beyond his enormous appetite, I’m paying for cleats, a good helmet, the PSAT, the SAT, his AP finals so that he gets college credit, a student driving course, shoes he grows out of, clothes, haircuts, etc...and that’s just this year. My other son is severely autistic. This is something else we never considered might happen. He’ll require care his entire life. His therapies are expensive. The special toys or books we get him in the hopes he’ll like them are expensive. We have to hire a lawyer to create a trust for him once we’re no longer here. We have to hire a lawyer to gain guardianship once he turns 18 because that doesn’t automatically happen. And we haven’t spent a night away from him in about 10 years. Anything related to having a child that’s outside of your expectations takes a toll on your relationship. If you aren’t rock solid as a couple and in your own mental/emotional health, you won’t be the best you can be for a child and as a partner.
    We love our kids. They have good lives. And we have battle scars that come with parenting. Make sure you’re on the same page and that you’re ready to accept whichever parenting life the universe gives you.

    • @johncollinge619
      @johncollinge619 3 года назад +2

      Your kind of unexpected is rough - I wish you all the love in the world, and to have enough to hand that you don't have to struggle.

    • @adonis5844
      @adonis5844 3 года назад +2

      First off, congratulations to you and your wife for raising what I assume is a beautiful family. I understand it isn't easy and the sacrifices you and your wife have made I'm sure will be recognized in time by your children. I just wanted to offer some advice as a student who recently graduated college, and it may save some money for you all in the long run. It is better for your son to take dual credit courses or courses he will get the direct credit for rather than testing and possibly receiving the credit. Most colleges do give credit for those AP courses but you would be better off just taking a college course class at a community college vs the AP course. Again, this is just advice from my experience as a student who took AP courses and had some issues with certain credits being counted for by my AP credits. And for reference Zach and I graduated from the same university. Hopefully this helps!

  • @t4ddg965
    @t4ddg965 3 года назад +53

    No one knows if they will be an amazing parent. Its putting in the effort, the desire, the love, attention and caring that make parents amazing. Kids are a lot of work, be on the same page for the right reasons and whichever way it goes; will be the way it was meant to go.

  • @sparkers70
    @sparkers70 3 года назад +23

    Beautiful inside and out. I especially love that y'all are always so unafraid to express your adoration for one another. 💕

  • @skatefan78
    @skatefan78 3 года назад +23

    Your communication still blows me away after all this time -- the way you really listen to each other, don't knock down the other for their opinion or views, but then counterpoint each other to help each other see another side of things and help each other grow together. Whether you two end up deciding to have children or not (FYI I think you both would make AMAZING parents, because you're a true TEAM), I hope that you'll continue supporting each other and being a credit to one another and going through life's inevitable ups and downs TOGETHER.

  • @frankiechoi2846
    @frankiechoi2846 3 года назад +29

    You two never fail to warm my heart with your wholesomeness and genuineness. I watched your boy friend tag like 10 times at least coz you guys were both so cute and adorable 😍. I am glad things are still going strong between you two and I wish nothing but happiness and love for my favourite couple online.

    • @llernoss7816
      @llernoss7816 3 года назад +3

      I love everything about these guys!

  • @scottgrimmwise8511
    @scottgrimmwise8511 3 года назад +36

    If my 22 year old self got a glimpse of my 48 year old life - I’d have been horrified. But that younger self had no concept of the kinds of challenges that were to come - and what it meant to be able to make it through. I *am* proud of what I’ve managed to achieve. I’m thankful to my younger self for many things - but I don’t hold myself to his aspirations and dreams - they are ever-evolving - and they’re mine now.

    • @xxkarlosxxxxxx7233
      @xxkarlosxxxxxx7233 3 года назад +2

      Wow that's awsum... I wish I could say the same but clearly it didn't go as planned or unplanned and the journey I'm going through rn has been rough and rougher each year and I feel like yes it's made me stronger and tougher inside out but I have felt it's gonna get even worst but I try not to think negatively because thinking like that only brings out negative things and u wanna attract bigger and better not just thinking them, working hard in life is what makes it happen and make sacrifices for it... This decade hasn't been the easiest but I met wonderful people and I'm thankful for it and I have many blessings to be thankful for and thank God he gives me the strength and not go into the dark places I been when I was younger and went through many things ... It takes time to heal all wounds and u gotta take time to for yourself and do the stuff u enjoy and love... The world is dark rn but u gotta keep your head up and keep fighting the battles life throws at u... What matters is to learn from mistakes, be kind to everyone, give back to the people that need it and enjoy life because sometimes we forget to be happy... Live, laugh and love

    • @JustRaiHere_2023
      @JustRaiHere_2023 3 года назад

      Truth!

    • @scottgrimmwise8511
      @scottgrimmwise8511 3 года назад +1

      @@xxkarlosxxxxxx7233 My life experience hasn't made me feel stronger or tougher - I haven't had a "good year" in a LONG time - but most days I find something - even if it's just a thought - that gets me through. I just try my best and forgive myself a LOT.

  • @joe7528
    @joe7528 3 года назад +91

    Life's journey is so full of mysterious ups and downs and twist and turns but we can't experience them unless we take risks

    • @AdventuresofZachandB
      @AdventuresofZachandB  3 года назад +18

      Yeah, just gotta keep trucking along

    • @joe7528
      @joe7528 3 года назад +2

      @@AdventuresofZachandB absolutely

    • @alexes84
      @alexes84 3 года назад

      HERE HERE!!!! LIFE IS LIKE DICE...ROLL AND SEE WHAT HAPPENS😁😁😁😁😁

    • @kriscastillo2585
      @kriscastillo2585 3 года назад +1

      wow i love that

    • @Jwdude123
      @Jwdude123 3 года назад

      @@AdventuresofZachandB yes, God will punish you.

  • @kennethkauzlaric8948
    @kennethkauzlaric8948 3 года назад +17

    Wow, just another beautiful video. It brought tears to my eyes when you two talked about being broken. We all feel that way during certain times in our lives. What I've found out in life is, you're not broken you are just restaging the next phase of your life. Life is not a one act play. Love you guys.

    • @AdventuresofZachandB
      @AdventuresofZachandB  3 года назад +11

      I love it put that way. "Restaging." I'm going to remember that. Thank you

    • @manda.watching.YouTube
      @manda.watching.YouTube 3 года назад +3

      Completely agree with and love this comment ❤️

    • @fb668
      @fb668 3 года назад +1

      Take into concideration how covid has unexpectedly changed everyone's life which affects how you see the future. Alastair, some of those things you want to do might make good memories for your kids too.

  • @jborg5806
    @jborg5806 3 года назад +30

    A quote from John Ortberg's book "All the Places to Go" which I thought was appropriate, "Don't wait for passion to lead you somewhere you're not. Start by bringing passion to the place where you are."

    • @AdventuresofZachandB
      @AdventuresofZachandB  3 года назад +7

      I wonder how true that is though. How does one bring passion into a place they feel none? Idk if forcing passion is the way to go

    • @DragonLightz
      @DragonLightz 3 года назад +3

      @@AdventuresofZachandB Oh, you silly man, here's the $1,000,000.00 answer: when you're living in the moment and being happy at that moment, passion will follow without force. And then, presto! You realise that you've arrived at that station in your life. ;-)

    • @edju9968
      @edju9968 3 года назад +2

      @@AdventuresofZachandB Bringing and forcing are two different meanings. I read it as "bringing passion" meaning it is something within you, perhaps being passionate but also a lot more including at peace with one's inner struggles or at least being aware of them and working on it. Said differently instead of throwing the party, you ARE the party, you made the party what it is simply by being you and being present. This is a figurative "you" , its each person's journey. be well, sir.

  • @Spainog
    @Spainog 3 года назад +10

    Broken But together guys... Is beautiful to have that... I'm 32 right now and I'm not even close. So be grateful and keep on going

  • @tonyanderson6235
    @tonyanderson6235 3 года назад +25

    Love is a lifetime journey for yourself and your partner. Amen

  • @Mark-pm9nh
    @Mark-pm9nh 3 года назад +7

    Hi Zach & Alastair . You should both be proud of the life you have made together . Life can be sweet (even through the tough times) when you have someone to share it with . Tell each other how much you love them everyday . Work hard to achieve your goals realizing they will change over time . Remember to be thankful (even when life doesn't go the way we plan) . You are both in my prayers everyday . God bless. Mark (Toronto) 💙💙💙

  • @krisbrent9540
    @krisbrent9540 3 года назад +18

    I just watched your video & it touched me deeply. It hit me real hard because I just lost a friend at age 47 & I knew him & loved him since he was 16. We had planned to remain together as brothers & friends but God had other plans. He died in his sleep less then 10 hours before his birthday. So I say to you 2 to hold each moment dearly.

    • @AdventuresofZachandB
      @AdventuresofZachandB  3 года назад +12

      Deeply sorry for your loss. Hope time has healed some

    • @krisbrent9540
      @krisbrent9540 3 года назад +5

      @@AdventuresofZachandB Thank you for you kind words guys. He passed on April 11th of this year 2021.

  • @finley12323
    @finley12323 3 года назад +15

    Having kids is really a decision only you can make. Some have them early and some wait as they want to see the world while younger. Some may decide to wait until they are much older and some decide to just spoil those children around them. Whatever the reason and time, I believe you will make the decision that is right for both of you. No one else can do it although I'm sure many will want to convince you one way or the other. I see so much love, honesty, compassion between both of you and when that time comes, you will make the decision that's right for you. Thank you for sharing your life and love.

    • @AdventuresofZachandB
      @AdventuresofZachandB  3 года назад +8

      Appreciate the thoughts

    • @johniii8147
      @johniii8147 3 года назад +1

      The good thing about gay parents is it has to be a well thought out and planned decision. No getting drunk screwing and oh shit I’m pregnant. It’s fun trying though

    • @finley12323
      @finley12323 3 года назад +2

      @@johniii8147 True. However, with all parents it should be well thought out and planned. For parents who adopt, (parents are parents regardless of sexuality, etc. ) there are also additional details one must also plan for, i.e., unknown health issues that could affect the child sometime in their future, the desire to search out their birth parent and the impact to adopted parents, the child - especially if rejected by birth parents in their search and the possible letdown should they meet their birth parent, etc. These are not insurmountable issues, just challenges and opportunities.

  • @davidolien2828
    @davidolien2828 3 года назад +18

    Life goes by faster than you now realize. It passes in the blink of an eye. Live your dreams without regret so you never have to look back and say, “I wish I had .........

  • @janrobnettwordweaver2227
    @janrobnettwordweaver2227 3 года назад +2

    I love how you two discuss your lives, your dreams, and that you always do it together. You talk, you learn from each other, about each other. Your channel is beautiful. Keep these video journals going. There's no telling who you will help with what you both are sharing. (And the doggos, too. ;) )

  • @chrisgriffin942
    @chrisgriffin942 3 года назад +4

    Boys, you give me so much optimism for the future. Your thoughtfulness, sensitivity and mutual respect for one another is a wonder to behold. "It's always a love letter." So beautiful. I'm old enough to be your grandfather -- and would be proud to be.

  • @carterroper5135
    @carterroper5135 3 года назад +19

    y'all are perfect as ever

  • @reedsehon4881
    @reedsehon4881 3 года назад +8

    Its great to discuss your 5 year goals but dont forget to enjoy the journey getting there.

  • @thestormtrooper7292
    @thestormtrooper7292 3 года назад +4

    Hey Boys !
    As Alastair has said your 30s are your best years. You grow, you change & life is enjoyable as an adult.
    Don’t be too hard on yourselves your goals will change as your life changes. Just love each other & enjoy the ride !
    Thx for sharing your life with us all !
    Stay safe, Greetings from Spain x

  • @michaelthompson3157
    @michaelthompson3157 3 года назад +4

    You both are still so young and have so much more time in life to face together and do it with love and trust and compassion and forgiveness and just focus on making all things possible together and being happy together and don't get discourage with the minor setbacks and work through them together and you will both have an amazing life full of happiness and joy! Love you guys and your videos!

  • @phumlangubane1180
    @phumlangubane1180 3 года назад +5

    OMG Zach looked so adorable when he said he wants a baby. I hope they agree on a baby. I think they will make amazing parents. Loves lives in their house.

  • @mhollick63
    @mhollick63 3 года назад +76

    If you're feeling being beaten by life at 27, you really need to pace yourselves. Life is very long with lots of ups and downs.

    • @AdventuresofZachandB
      @AdventuresofZachandB  3 года назад +18

      Agreed

    • @JefferriAndrews
      @JefferriAndrews 3 года назад +4

      @@AdventuresofZachandB Love your videos Zach!!!

    • @pacificodelnorte6628
      @pacificodelnorte6628 3 года назад +3

      @@AdventuresofZachandB Late twenties is about the time most of us start having these types of conversations like "where do you want to be?", "what career do you want to have and/or what are you truly passionate about?", "do you really want to have any children?", "where do you want to settle down/live?", "how much money do you need to feel comfortable?", "do you want to be in a serious relationship/married?", etc. I think most of us want our thirties to be fun yet more secure than our twenties. The two of you seem to be on the right track. Best.😘

    • @mrbear1302
      @mrbear1302 3 года назад +1

      True; however, you will 27 one minute and then blink and get a notification for you 30th high school reunion like I just did. Pacing yourself might surprise you.

  • @richardmedina8515
    @richardmedina8515 3 года назад +17

    It must be so awesome to be able to go back and rewatch your vids and relive the memories.... you both looked so young in the boyfriend tag!!! Hope your doing well 🌈❤️

  • @johncunningham1098
    @johncunningham1098 3 года назад +2

    It’s important to be hungry...to be driven and have goal”s. But you have a great foundation laid that is formed from your shared values.. You’ve done so much right and are so well prepared for the future. Many would give a lot for all that have achieved now. Hold on to each other and never let go. You’ve got this covered. Together you are blessed. ❤️

  • @anthonydalton9383
    @anthonydalton9383 3 года назад +3

    A moving, more serious, and just perfect video of you too. Inspires what love can be once you (I) find it. Just love you guys, you're precious.

  • @DeVill3007
    @DeVill3007 3 года назад +71

    I hope to feel love before I naturally die.
    ❤🧡💛💚💙💜

    • @jamesvragel4690
      @jamesvragel4690 3 года назад +6

      Ditto! 🌈😁❤️🧡💛💚💙💜💖💕💘🏳️‍🌈

    • @shawnbflannigan
      @shawnbflannigan 3 года назад +9

      What if you don’t die naturally?

    • @lothanyfountain9443
      @lothanyfountain9443 3 года назад +6

      @@shawnbflannigan This took me super off guard and I started laughing😭

    • @pinstripecool34
      @pinstripecool34 3 года назад

      Same.🥲

  • @docfmb1
    @docfmb1 3 года назад +1

    Both should be extremely proud of yourselves. Wonderful young men. Life is a journey thats constantly changing so enjoy the ride. I'm 61 and its still changes and I'm still enjoying the growth.

  • @jimmurray7826
    @jimmurray7826 3 года назад +4

    What a wonderful retrospective, I felt drawn into your amazing conversation, almost an intruder! It was very touching!

  • @royetteyyy4013
    @royetteyyy4013 3 года назад +7

    Alastair’s dump truck!

    • @Skoalcwby77
      @Skoalcwby77 3 года назад

      right?!?! I was like damn, he got donk!

  • @markfrye9178
    @markfrye9178 Год назад

    You guys are incredible! So real, so honest. You are an inspiration! Thank you.

  •  3 года назад +3

    Goooood video. I identify with you Zach, in what you said. But I already went forward to 32. Actually, I'm 33 now. At 23 I was full of life, everything shines as you said, I can do anything. Then at 27-29 I was broken and happy, such a complex time. I was having and getting everything. But also loosing a lot and realizing that I was going to be 30 without being where I wanted to be at. However, I became 30 and I started feeling as a new man. It wasn't immediate, but little by little it happened. And now at this age, 33, I'm not there yet, but I found the courage to identify the way and I'm there now. Priorities changed also, and not like I gave up on my goals and got new and easier ones. Not at all. I grew and saw other things and learned new things, and I was able to let go things that mean nothing really. I love myself more and I'm more brave to accept and understand what is good to me and what is not. I feel mature, finally mature to DO instead of only dreaming. Now I understand that at 22, 25... I wasn't ready. And I went to hell and down, but I got out of it, with much more experience. And the fact that I was able to fight and find the way... Makes me proud. Even if I'm not at the finish line yet.
    And then... Do I wanna be there? It is not about a goal. I learned to enjoy the journey and maybe it sounds corny, but I found myself in those words.
    I'm kinda scare that at 39 I will feel broken again. But anyways, it's a journey with ups and downs.
    Also. My motto in life now is "Enjoy Reinvention". Like Madonna, I guess. Every day I am a new man (with the same goals and personality, but new), and I understand that only now.

  • @GuyPaddock
    @GuyPaddock 11 месяцев назад

    This was easily the best video of this entire season. So candid and raw.

  • @HillCountryWine
    @HillCountryWine 3 года назад +1

    My husband and I have been together for 21 years and married 6 of the 21 years. My husband moved to Texas for a job in the DFW AREA IN 98. I moved to DFW in 1991. We have raised two incredible boys. We never dreamed life would take us on so many journeys. We have traveled throughout the world. Yet we have so much we see and do. We look forward to the future. Thanks for sharing guys.

  • @todd755
    @todd755 3 года назад +1

    Such a great voice! And always with something well-conceived to say. I greatly enjoy your channel.

  • @inkreo65
    @inkreo65 3 года назад +3

    No regrets. Life becomes more finite as I age and it feels as if time is going faster and faster. Taking a moment to look and where you are and where you want to go is a great idea. You two will be great parents. If you didn't have doubts about it then I'd be a little concerned.

  • @collinsje5
    @collinsje5 3 года назад +4

    I will be 73 in June. I have loved greatly and been greatly loved. For me, that is the measure of a life well lived. 10 Years out? I might be in an urn on the mantel, but even my current age is a good long run, so I don't think about it much.

  • @michaelbrown-tf1so
    @michaelbrown-tf1so 3 года назад

    Your comment by the creek .... "It's always about Love." So excellent. The way you and Alistair always search and try makes me think both of you are "old souls." We all get, what were your words, 'roughed up."
    But there is strength in the blessing, that you have each other. And about kids, look at Tom Daley and Dustin Lance Black. Robbie Ray has brought them new wonder. May your honesty, and love and dreams continue to grow.
    Always, thank you, Mike

  • @robhurt9170
    @robhurt9170 3 года назад

    I think you have hit the nail on the head, and these look back videos are great for showing out. We can come out of our teens/twenties with a ballsy take-on-the-world attitude and sometimes the sad realities of the world we live in bruise us a bit. Thing is not to bow down to the blows; have your hopes, dreams and aspirations as a torch to lead you though and carve out a bit of the world you want. You will both do good things, individually and together (and probably be great dads!), your explorations of life are great to watch and authentic.

  • @trichmond2637
    @trichmond2637 3 года назад

    Some day you will both look back at all these videos with a smile. Together almost 21 years here and still going and enjoying each and every day together :) We enjoy watching your videos! Thank you for sharing. Roll Tide!

  • @Js2Jo
    @Js2Jo 3 года назад +3

    Zach, I wanna say I love all your videos so much, thanks to your husband, Alastair and I'm proud of you, so I love your Southern accent!!

    • @AdventuresofZachandB
      @AdventuresofZachandB  3 года назад +1

      Appreciate ya Jonathan!

    • @janetkinzett7895
      @janetkinzett7895 3 года назад

      You two have wonderful mother’s who love you unconditionally and that is such a good thing. You were really strong to come out , find each other and marry young. You have all the right attributes to be wonderful parents. My greatest achievement was having my two beautiful daughters. Your children would be so lucky to have parents like you. Given your beauty I would favour surrogacy but I know it is none of my damn business Zach so please don’t ‘come for me’ Ha Ha! Love you!

  • @stephaniewenzlick1044
    @stephaniewenzlick1044 3 года назад

    After watching all of your videos from the onset of your relationship, I feel that you both would be amazing parents. You’re both seem to be kind, and generous and have amazing communication with each other. What you need to realize is that children can be along for the journey and help you to continue to grow as people and set goals for yourself and your child that will enrich your life and give you greater joy

  • @jamesbjames9555
    @jamesbjames9555 3 года назад

    I love the depth of your conversations together. There are many couples who have never had this kind of talk and have missed out on soooo much.

  • @matthewmichaelmoschella9548
    @matthewmichaelmoschella9548 3 года назад

    Im 37 and still wrestle with these questions. I don't think these questions ever go away. The older you get the more you're "give a fuck" tends to take a back seat. You're not worried about the people pleasing that taunt you in your 20's. I have found that the secret to life is that there is no secret. Ive never been to stuck on "life goals". The more we are married to OUR idea of what we think our life should look like the more we miss out on the treasures that the universe is trying to offer us right now in the present moment. We all have a unique path in life and there are no "wrong turns" where you are right now is exactly where you are supposed to be. Everything, always, is teaching us, guiding us, moving us, and inspiring us. In alot of ways i can look back and say "thank God my life didn't turn out the way i planed it in my 20's. I think happiness is more of what i strive for now. IN whatever shape and form that looks like. Exploration is my co-pilot these days. One of the best things i could tell myself in my 20s is "give up the need to know what happens tomorrow." Yesterday is gone and tomorrow has yet to be written. All we have is this present moment. Make THIS moment all that it can be, and commit to make the next moment just as important as the last.

  • @charlesrace436
    @charlesrace436 3 года назад +1

    Life is tough. Don't stress it. One day at a time. You guys are great.

  • @markvanderhorst2473
    @markvanderhorst2473 3 года назад +1

    I have to agree with the posts I see below Zach/Alastair, life is going to have ups and downs but it's the journey and the people or HUSBANDS that you spend it with. You two are beautiful. If there is something you want, do it.. don't wait. @ 51, I've waited too often. Get after it and thanks for being so loveable to watch. You made my night.

  • @tallactordude
    @tallactordude 3 года назад

    I love these conversations between the two of you because they are so real and honest and unrehearsed, unlike much of what you hear online. And I agree with the others here that the two of you would make terrific parents, even if you’re not ready at this point in your lives.

  • @js2clevr
    @js2clevr 3 года назад +2

    Loving the doggie snoring through this.

  • @deandreburton910
    @deandreburton910 3 года назад +1

    Really dope introspection here. I always love to hear you two talk about your lives.

  • @bobseeger342
    @bobseeger342 3 года назад +1

    Zach and Alistair 💙 well done video l love your topic 👍 and the discussion about the two of you and your future endeavors was very interesting. Thanks for sharing this with us 💙 till next time be safe and healthy ♥️🤠

  • @williamstringer6519
    @williamstringer6519 3 года назад +1

    The shot of Alistair and Zach at 132 to 134 Is Beautiful. There is no other word for it. They are both lovely young men and I wish them all the best in the world together.

  • @Monom02
    @Monom02 3 года назад

    That's nice and amazing to have a soul mate who understands you like that.It's soo cool

  • @donaldstorm4959
    @donaldstorm4959 3 года назад +6

    Hi guys!!!look like an awesome place in the summer!!!!❤❤❤

  • @theuniverse2228
    @theuniverse2228 3 года назад +42

    Here's the irony: you may not realize the point at which you've "made it" until you're past that point and looking in the rear view mirror. Carpe diem.

  • @terrysmith5574
    @terrysmith5574 3 года назад +6

    Alistair, you say that you think you might not be a good parent well I think you both will. Once you look into the child ‘s eyes all the doubt will be over and love come into places just take one day at a time and make memories ❤️

    • @ednalucilly1448
      @ednalucilly1448 3 года назад

      Yes I think you both will be great parents ❤

  • @victordepaul1061
    @victordepaul1061 3 года назад +18

    Life can really throw you some curveballs as this past year has taught all of us. Although you used the word “broken” in response to Alastair’s question, I’d like to think of you as works in progress both as individuals and as part of a couple. Nobody has all the answers, life would be too boring if they did. You have each other and the love you share to try and figure out what works for you both. Whether or not that includes children, that has to be a decision that you are both comfortable with. Wherever your life together takes you over the next 5 years and beyond, I wish you and Alastair all the best( and Winnie and Brando too!). Take care!😊🤔🌈

  • @stanwhittington1921
    @stanwhittington1921 3 года назад

    Zach: U R scaring me! Every year it got better for me ... some setbacks ... but generally better ... my relationship with Rob and our finances have gotten so much better .... we are set now ... our trust and comfort with each other ... 35 years. Hang in there ... U got a wonderful man ... that’s key, babe. ❤️❤️

  • @italiapax
    @italiapax 3 года назад +14

    I believe that the two of you would be great parents. There is no "perfect template" for parenting. We have all woken up as kids one day and thought to ourselves " When I grow up I am going to do things differently". Even if you had terrific parents and a wonderful childhood there is the urge to put our own unique spin on things. And we should. The combination of your two temperaments, education, outlooks on life and life experiences will make you unlike any other couple, and yet you will share many of the same child development hurdles! I think that you two see the truth of it but I will say this to be clear: It is not only okay to be uncomfortable where you are but it is absolutely necessary! No one wakes up and thinks to themselves " Boy, what can I do to be "just good enough" ". Life's struggles are coming whether we like it or not. What makes the difference is in how we rise to the occasion . As Buzz Lightyear says: " This isn't flying, It's falling with style!!". Grace.

  • @michaelbrown-tf1so
    @michaelbrown-tf1so 3 года назад

    I know you are stepping back for a well deserved moment, so I have been watching others tell their story. But today because of writers block and two other "things," I was really down. Then, by accident I happened upon this video. As It began, tears came to my eyes. The beauty and depth of your love warmed my heart. See, even in your absence, you touch people. Every bit of the very best to you guys.....and thank you.

  • @peteford2434
    @peteford2434 Год назад

    Time moves quickly. Every year will go faster and faster than the previous. Enjoy your RIGHT NOW as much as possible. When you hit 50 you'll say... 'How the fuck did this happen"... but your mind will still be young. You two have a good life together, remind yourselves often how grateful you are. I wish you both very long happy lives together. The world needs more people like you in it. Good thoughts sent to you from Toronto, Canada.

  • @djgovan4422
    @djgovan4422 3 года назад

    I remember that video because I don't remember being that sure of life at that age. My life did a whole 180 five years ago and I had to start again from scratch at 49. Everyone gets a little broken by life it's how you repair the cracks that counts, what you decide to throw away , what you keep , what you decide to mend. Whether you guild the repairs and make them stronger and more beautiful and embrace them as part of your journey however painful. If we knew what was ahead of us we wouldn't be see a way through because time changes us all. Where did five years go, so much has changed including us. Beautiful video as always Zach thank you. The difference between you and Alistair then and now is then you were young men now you are grown men ; a little bruised by life but thriving and moving forward together.
    (As a side note Winifreds' snoring is so funny and I would miss it if it wasn't in a video.) Kind regards to you and Alistair. So glad Winifred is happy and recovering .

  • @darkhumour741
    @darkhumour741 3 года назад +2

    "I love you too. And that's something that'll never change baby."
    Idk why that ending made me tear up

  • @TheRedart99
    @TheRedart99 3 года назад +7

    This is just so damn sweet!

  • @mdrivera8481
    @mdrivera8481 3 года назад +3

    I swear Alastair's eye color changes with every damn change in angle lol.

  • @Jhandsbur
    @Jhandsbur 3 года назад

    Zach your first thing has to be about you! children are great. I have three I had them with when I was in my early 20's. I would not change anything but I wish very much that I finished school first. Enjoy and get everything you have to do done now so you can prepare for your time in life When children are to come. But don't rush Your going be a wonderful Father.

  • @pixie99
    @pixie99 Год назад

    I really like the way you guys share your thoughts and emotions.
    From the point of a 73 year old though I've found it useful to keep in mind the following "The journey is more important than the destination ".
    For sure think ahead but make the most of where you're at all the time.
    xxxx

  • @hansjonathanbosman7958
    @hansjonathanbosman7958 3 года назад

    As a 74 year old, life is a Journey! Make your journey as interesting and fun as possible...the potholes and detours arrive all by themselves and how well you are prepared totally depends on your mental sate. Have a safe & healthy journey. Stay close and engaged to the ones you love.

  • @tikettle
    @tikettle 3 года назад +2

    I'm approaching 45 and I believe that success, personal development, is all relative. It's not a point of destination because that point is death. The journey, is life. Our perception changes so much through the decades - I did SO much evolving in my 30s, and now in my 40s, I am not so worried about success or having experiences, so to speak. The experiences are inside of me now, not what the world can offer.

  • @drwcfields
    @drwcfields 3 года назад

    Such a sweet couple. Much love to you guys! Your story is not over, keep creating new chapters with each adventure.

  • @darrenzinck7686
    @darrenzinck7686 3 года назад

    I really love the intro to this video along with most of them. I loved watching 90's low-budget indie film type movies, usually based in a dry western desert town and that is the feeling I get when I saw the intro. Along with that, the sounds of you voice narrating the intro is just so perfect. Most of the videos you post are not perfectly focused, stable etc and I love that too, the videos feel more like home-movies and I feel like that makes them so much better than so many others out there. I've been watching for years and will continue to do so.

  • @davidward805
    @davidward805 3 года назад

    Beautiful video! I love waterfalls.

  • @michaelhedge4111
    @michaelhedge4111 3 года назад

    Alastair always has things to say, and id like to admire that. And also universe is vast but no one knows that its the only one we have

  • @josepsanroma7881
    @josepsanroma7881 3 года назад

    Thinking that you may not be an amazing parent is the answer: ypu can / wold be an amazing parent because being an amazing parent is important foru you even before that situation is really on the table. With the love and respect taht you have for both of you, you obviously can be good parents, because being a good parent, as my mum says, starts with love and respect for oneself, your partner and the little and growing life from who you are responible as a parent. Great video! Hugs from Barcelona!

  • @charlescoffey695
    @charlescoffey695 3 года назад +1

    Both of you guys would be great dads.

  • @steverdms
    @steverdms 3 года назад

    What a powerful conversation. Thank you so much for inviting us in and allowing us to witness that.

  • @firstsmoofy
    @firstsmoofy 3 года назад

    Congrats on five years.
    Love each other.

  • @annmoniz5721
    @annmoniz5721 3 года назад +1

    You are both amazing men. Look how great your life is now. Strive for each other now. Plans are ok, but don’t let life pass you by in the planning. Big hugs. I love you both like my sons and sons of God. Blessings .

    • @AdventuresofZachandB
      @AdventuresofZachandB  3 года назад +2

      Daily reminder not to let life pass us by. It happens so fast.

  • @jordanbelknap9168
    @jordanbelknap9168 3 года назад +1

    Ah, this made me really emotional. It was so honest. Thank you for sharing your thoughts with us.
    30 year old lady here. I struggle with feeling proud of myself. When I look back, I do see how far I’ve come, but I always have this sense of, yeah, but you could be so much farther. It’s not fair to me and all the effort I’ve put in for my accomplishments (personal and otherwise). I worry that I will always feel this way regardless of how much I accomplish. Not sure the best way to cope with it yet, but I’m trying to figure it out. :)

  • @brucethomas7420
    @brucethomas7420 3 года назад +7

    It's nice to see Sage at the beginning of this video. Is she having the same questions about her future at this midpoint of her Army career?

  • @davidward805
    @davidward805 3 года назад

    You both would be amazing dads when the time comes. Go for it!

  • @rjsummitt9925
    @rjsummitt9925 3 года назад +1

    Thanks for serving. My family had been in the Air Force, Navy and Coast Guard....

  • @richardlong4706
    @richardlong4706 3 года назад

    If only more couples would talk about the decision to become parents. This is a conversation you will want to keep having for some time. So important!!

  • @JustRaiHere_2023
    @JustRaiHere_2023 3 года назад +1

    While my younger self would never have anticipated the journey I have traveled; My current self still dreams of the journies to be had.

  • @kevincoss6470
    @kevincoss6470 2 года назад

    Absolutely love these guys,the are so focused and know what they want

  • @bradharper768
    @bradharper768 3 года назад

    Your so dam lucky to have this video history, even for us who follow you guys it’s neat to see you in 2016 and 2021. I probably changed in those years and didn’t notice but with you guys we can see it all. There are times in life we feel blocked or stumped but that old adage when one door closes others open seems true. Your lucky you found each other so you doubled your chances of future success, both economically and because risk is easier I think when your loved one is there holding a safety net.

  • @sjmaguire1
    @sjmaguire1 3 года назад

    I just love the openness and honesty here.

  • @rodtaylor5476
    @rodtaylor5476 3 года назад +1

    Your videos are so beautiful and inspiring. Keep up the great work.

  • @cathrynharrison4734
    @cathrynharrison4734 3 года назад

    Hey guys you two are already winners...i n this life the rest is just gravy I stumble don your channel only this week and its s positive .. something really refreshing in these times xxx

  • @TheGrmany69
    @TheGrmany69 3 года назад

    Being mindful is what allows you to enact and see possibilities in motion, not hesitation or ambivalence... that's flow in a nutshell.

  • @270poundJane
    @270poundJane 3 года назад +3

    Josh Kemner's comment is a blessing for both of you; both will make the correct decision.

  • @jaredfancher4463
    @jaredfancher4463 3 года назад

    i truly believe you would both be amazing parents, dont be so hard on yourselves. love your channel. thank you for sharing your lives with us all.

  • @sherrytaylor9886
    @sherrytaylor9886 3 года назад

    Looking back is funny ! You both have done a lot and come along way. Dreams !!! Keep shooting for the stars. 💘-Sherry

  • @georgefurr6726
    @georgefurr6726 3 года назад

    Both of you are such an inspiration

  • @davidcl31
    @davidcl31 3 года назад +1

    Beautiful place, you are an amazing couple. All the best for you, guys, big hugs from Venezuela