@@BradRamanah I agree , I'm 21 and I used to think they live or we fall apart because I'm a bad person but then I realized I'm friendless because I'm outgrowing many people and breaking Generational Curses. Damn that hurts but truth. I'm all alone with God . We're 2🤝🏽☺️
It's even more glaring when you work in the community, and start to partner/collaborate with other organizations. It's like you're on different radio frequencies, especially when you notice people in cliques and herd mentalities/mindsets. You can't relate to them after a while, because you see they've settled for the average, while your mindset is seeing things that the average can't/won't see.
I just watched the clip you were referencing and it's 100% correct. That's the sad truth but you can't save everyone, it's up to them to take responsibility at some point
What if you are aware that you've outgrown them but you are being held back to leave them cause you're worried if it's just you overreacting or not? I'm an overthinker and my biggest fear is always making the wrong decision
If you’re aware you’ve outgrown people then respectfully, leave them. They’re no longer your concern. As someone who’s looking to grow their business and it’s their ONLY goal at the moment, I no longer have the time to try and convince people to do better for themselves. You’ll never know if it’s the wrong decision or not, you just have to make one and go. If it’s wrong, you adapt and move onto the next thing that you can fix
Thanks for the kind words Chase, I’ve been working on that. It just sucks because you think they’re your friends and then you get blindsided but what are you gonna do 🤷♂️
@@BradRamanah you just keep doing what your doing , the right people will flow into your life. Don’t except anyone that doesn’t lift you up and sincerely supports you ! YOU , have inspired me to start my own channel ! We need more positive people like yourself in this world! Keep up the great work ! And your very welcome!
I’ve learned that keeping a smaller circle but having better people in that circle is definitely the better option. Sucks that it took me a while to figure that out but at least I figured it out at 25 and not 65 😅 I wish you the best of luck with your channel, what’s it going to be about? I’m gonna try my best to put out the best work I can and to stay positive. Thanks Chase 🤝😌
@@BradRamanah you know I’m not sure yet , I’m a guy that’s into so many things , but it Will something extremely positive and informative, something that will help people, kind of like what your doing. I wanna do my part to help others ! Paying it forward from real life experience.
I get what you’re saying, sometimes it’s hard to pick one thing. I started these videos because I have a lot of regrets from the past couple years so I want to inform the younger generation so they (hopefully) don’t make the same mistakes I did
Trust me that’s what I thought also but I found out that I was very wrong after she passed away. At the end of the day your mom only wants what’s best for you despite your viewpoint at the time. Have a sit down with her and see how she feels about your choices and actually listen to her, don’t just brush her off. Trust me bro I was in your exact position and I deeply regret it
I kind of want to address the abyss thing from the perspective of someone clawing their way out of it. I studied Game Design. I was employed for Graphic Design as a freelancer in college and after I graduated. But I was in a toxic relationship where my ex took out her jealousy on me with pretty cutting remarks after working a day job where I was constantly berated because medical offices are just generally terrible places to work. This was after moving away from all of our contacts we made for our respective industries and I was already isolated from family who hadn't supported me getting my degree, except for my brother who passed from cancer. Everyday going home, I got with guilt trips when I expressed frustration with the day job, told I wasn't good enough, etc. It ended up breaking me down after enough time passed after the Freelance gig work dried up. Overnight I got served divorce papers and found myself on the street with the awful medical office job being my only source of income. Friends just didn't say anything, didn't take the time. Felt exhausted all the time due to the toxic people around me. And after you hear you aren't anything for a while, you start to believe it. It's taken years to recover from everything. To build something new, and learning a few new skills, while getting in touch with old ones. But if anything, it's made me more outspoken on addressing the issue or being okay with cutting ties, and prioritizing mental health, because everyone has their breaking point. And I make a lot of contacts because that compassion is there.
I agree with every word that you said. It's not fun cutting friends off, but I think at some point it just has to be done. Sorry to hear about your brother and your divorce, those are 2 really shitty situations. What methods did you use to try and recover from all this? I'm glad you're doing better now.
I'm having this issue currently. Let's say you grew up in a small hometown, nothing changes but you did. People become pessimistic towards your new life taking your health serious as you approach 30, fitness/food/not drinking/focussing on building a business etc. I have found that most my old friends kind of have something negative to say on my new life. I will be friends with these people but I always see sometimes you got to distance yourself from people and I think this is the case here. I've already moved to a different town for work so it's easier. And I don't think I'll bring up everything I'm doign when speaking, just shoot the shit on other stuff. But I can't relate to them/family anymore. My family drink all the time too, no one excercises, no ones doing anything new. I am not judging but when they judge me I have to think these things, like it's not me whos the problem surely.
I'm sorry you're having this issue in your life currently. Respectfully, it's time for you to move on from those friends. In my opinion, you just being around them is negatively affecting you and your ability to perform. You have to move away from people that are negative because it WILL NOT do you ANY good at all. I won't tell you to abandon your family, but I'd keep it simple with them. I won't let them bring me down to their level and I say that with all the love in the world. I'd keep to myself, build whatever it is you're trying to build, and live life how you want to live it. Whoever is along for the ride is along for the ride, but if you're with the negativity, you're out the door. Just my 2 cents though. Don't hesitate to contact me further if you need it 🙌
It's a bit arrogant lmao, you could say growing apart but outgrowing makes it seem like you doing all this amazing growth while your friends are stuck at the same place. Makes me think your friends didn't lose much
I honestly didn’t mean it that way at all. Looking back now, I do see your point and I appreciate the comment but it wasn’t meant to come off that way at all
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Outgrowing friends continues over a lifetime. I am an older adult and it still occurs. It's evolution of being.
I agree, I wish it didn't happen but I've learned that people will come and go in your life, I guess that's just how it is 🤷♂️
@@BradRamanah I agree , I'm 21 and I used to think they live or we fall apart because I'm a bad person but then I realized I'm friendless because I'm outgrowing many people and breaking Generational Curses. Damn that hurts but truth. I'm all alone with God . We're 2🤝🏽☺️
@@shakurwonders5216 It does hurt and it's not fun but like you said, at the end of the day it's about growth and living our lives to the fullest.
@@BradRamanah yessir 👊🏿
I don't know about you, but the older I get, the more difficult it's become to find new friends.
It's even more glaring when you work in the community, and start to partner/collaborate with other organizations. It's like you're on different radio frequencies, especially when you notice people in cliques and herd mentalities/mindsets. You can't relate to them after a while, because you see they've settled for the average, while your mindset is seeing things that the average can't/won't see.
Snoop said it best with his 'closing the gap' analogy. My friends know where to find me because I have no time to level down to meet some of them.
I just watched the clip you were referencing and it's 100% correct. That's the sad truth but you can't save everyone, it's up to them to take responsibility at some point
What if you are aware that you've outgrown them but you are being held back to leave them cause you're worried if it's just you overreacting or not? I'm an overthinker and my biggest fear is always making the wrong decision
If you’re aware you’ve outgrown people then respectfully, leave them. They’re no longer your concern.
As someone who’s looking to grow their business and it’s their ONLY goal at the moment, I no longer have the time to try and convince people to do better for themselves.
You’ll never know if it’s the wrong decision or not, you just have to make one and go. If it’s wrong, you adapt and move onto the next thing that you can fix
Great video Brad! Thanks
Glad you enjoyed, thanks for watching 😎
thank you bro
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Glad you enjoyed Vince, thanks for watching 🤝
Yep thats life. We grow up. Some do some don't.
Agreed. Took me a long time to come to this conclusion, but you can't save everyone I guess
Great video ! Don’t delete the videos …. Delete the wrong people ! Keep up the good work ! God Bless !
Thanks for the kind words Chase, I’ve been working on that. It just sucks because you think they’re your friends and then you get blindsided but what are you gonna do 🤷♂️
@@BradRamanah you just keep doing what your doing , the right people will flow into your life. Don’t except anyone that doesn’t lift you up and sincerely supports you ! YOU , have inspired me to start my own channel ! We need more positive people like yourself in this world! Keep up the great work ! And your very welcome!
I’ve learned that keeping a smaller circle but having better people in that circle is definitely the better option. Sucks that it took me a while to figure that out but at least I figured it out at 25 and not 65 😅
I wish you the best of luck with your channel, what’s it going to be about?
I’m gonna try my best to put out the best work I can and to stay positive. Thanks Chase 🤝😌
@@BradRamanah you know I’m not sure yet , I’m a guy that’s into so many things , but it Will something extremely positive and informative, something that will help people, kind of like what your doing. I wanna do my part to help others ! Paying it forward from real life experience.
I get what you’re saying, sometimes it’s hard to pick one thing. I started these videos because I have a lot of regrets from the past couple years so I want to inform the younger generation so they (hopefully) don’t make the same mistakes I did
Amazing editing and content!
Appreciate the love, glad you enjoyed 🫡
Always listen to your mom!! Except when she’s wrong lol
Good advice 😂😂
She's mostly wrong when it comes to what I want for my life 🤣🤣lol
Trust me that’s what I thought also but I found out that I was very wrong after she passed away. At the end of the day your mom only wants what’s best for you despite your viewpoint at the time. Have a sit down with her and see how she feels about your choices and actually listen to her, don’t just brush her off. Trust me bro I was in your exact position and I deeply regret it
@@BradRamanah I will try to listen to her
@@BradRamanah May your mom's soul rest well
great quality, underrated video, keep going!
Thanks for watching Auguste, hope it helped you 🙏
I kind of want to address the abyss thing from the perspective of someone clawing their way out of it.
I studied Game Design. I was employed for Graphic Design as a freelancer in college and after I graduated.
But I was in a toxic relationship where my ex took out her jealousy on me with pretty cutting remarks after working a day job where I was constantly berated because medical offices are just generally terrible places to work. This was after moving away from all of our contacts we made for our respective industries and I was already isolated from family who hadn't supported me getting my degree, except for my brother who passed from cancer.
Everyday going home, I got with guilt trips when I expressed frustration with the day job, told I wasn't good enough, etc. It ended up breaking me down after enough time passed after the Freelance gig work dried up.
Overnight I got served divorce papers and found myself on the street with the awful medical office job being my only source of income. Friends just didn't say anything, didn't take the time. Felt exhausted all the time due to the toxic people around me. And after you hear you aren't anything for a while, you start to believe it.
It's taken years to recover from everything. To build something new, and learning a few new skills, while getting in touch with old ones.
But if anything, it's made me more outspoken on addressing the issue or being okay with cutting ties, and prioritizing mental health, because everyone has their breaking point. And I make a lot of contacts because that compassion is there.
I agree with every word that you said. It's not fun cutting friends off, but I think at some point it just has to be done. Sorry to hear about your brother and your divorce, those are 2 really shitty situations. What methods did you use to try and recover from all this? I'm glad you're doing better now.
Thank you so much
No worries Mike, hope the video helped you in some way 🤝
Great video
Appreciate the love 🙏
realest video ever
glad you enjoyed it
I'm having this issue currently.
Let's say you grew up in a small hometown, nothing changes but you did.
People become pessimistic towards your new life taking your health serious as you approach 30, fitness/food/not drinking/focussing on building a business etc.
I have found that most my old friends kind of have something negative to say on my new life. I will be friends with these people but I always see sometimes you got to distance yourself from people and I think this is the case here. I've already moved to a different town for work so it's easier. And I don't think I'll bring up everything I'm doign when speaking, just shoot the shit on other stuff. But I can't relate to them/family anymore. My family drink all the time too, no one excercises, no ones doing anything new. I am not judging but when they judge me I have to think these things, like it's not me whos the problem surely.
I'm sorry you're having this issue in your life currently.
Respectfully, it's time for you to move on from those friends. In my opinion, you just being around them is negatively affecting you and your ability to perform. You have to move away from people that are negative because it WILL NOT do you ANY good at all.
I won't tell you to abandon your family, but I'd keep it simple with them. I won't let them bring me down to their level and I say that with all the love in the world.
I'd keep to myself, build whatever it is you're trying to build, and live life how you want to live it. Whoever is along for the ride is along for the ride, but if you're with the negativity, you're out the door.
Just my 2 cents though. Don't hesitate to contact me further if you need it 🙌
Haha this is a great video!!
Thanks Samuel, glad you enjoyed it
It's a bit arrogant lmao, you could say growing apart but outgrowing makes it seem like you doing all this amazing growth while your friends are stuck at the same place. Makes me think your friends didn't lose much
I agree Lmao
I honestly didn’t mean it that way at all. Looking back now, I do see your point and I appreciate the comment but it wasn’t meant to come off that way at all
Friends of WHAT?
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