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Think that’s a bad thing, you’re a horrible human. Might not be your fault , it must be hard being raised by people lying to you every day. Then you grow up meet a closeted homosexual whit whom you now are gonna let the nanny raise the child (while Jakob and ben look at each other longingly every family get together) to be horrible person ass well. Vicious cycle.
@@sadienailedit7467 not really. She said it in context of that women don’t peruse and men do/don’t flirt with people who don’t seem interested already. It can kinda be extrapolated to be about not being able to control who likes you, but she said it in an ambiguous way.
Women have more options than ever especially on online dating when it's more about looks. 1 woman gets dozens of messages in her inbox but 1 man gets a few messages a day. Were both humans it shouldn't matter which gender does what 1st. If a woman is interested in the man 1st she can ask him on a date, she can initiate kissing, touching, sex or proposing. All those things shouldn't be on 1 gender to do each gender can decide or take turns on who goes 1st.
I do agree that being forward is not often what is desirable by most, but if that is truly your personality don't reign it in! I'm kind of a pushy person... and that's how I started talking to my husband! I will concede once we started talking I tried to give him more opportunities to let him chase me but I am happy I didn't wait for him because he's the most important person in my life! Anyway, good luck! I hope everyone finds love!! 😍 💕💕
I came to a revelation! I never realized I was chasing after the guy since I was in school, it was cute once in 8th grade but as I got a bit older I noticed guys didn’t seem to respond to my quest or would let me down gently, I was always chasing guys that were not interested (probably because I wasn’t cute 😂) anyways my mom was quite the 2nd wave feminist but she would always tell me to let men approach me, it looks desperate and needy the other way around. I would get “angsty” and say girls can choose now mom! Grrr you’re so old fashioned! I ignored a lot of her good advice and behold I was heartbroken a lot! 🥴 I was in a rush to have romantic experiences because I wanted to know what it was like to have a guy love me and to love back. It was always portrayed as perfect on tv but that’s whole different dilemma. Anyways I was always going after the man up into my 20th year. When I met my husband he was always coming to me I don’t recall ever going to him…I was still very immature but I was starting to grasp on some things. I’m 27 now been married over 5 years and Abby is right. Sometimes it’s the old fashioned way of approaching things that work most often. Girls don’t chase him if you’re not getting him to at least come up and say hi after you initiated interest then move on…trust me you aren’t losing anything.
The part about realizing when a guy is just not interested and moving on is SO important! I think a lot of us women have a tendency to try to "turn" a man, and we often have this annoying tendency to be attracted to the emotionally distant guys and the guys that aren't interested over the guys that ARE interested. I think based on my own experiences, it's an ego problem- like it's flattering when all the other guys seem to like you but you get obsessed with the one guy who doesn't seem interested. He's more mysterious. And it's like some kind of subconscious urge to need to get his attention and interest in order to still feel desirable. I have been so guilty of this, and I'm glad you're warning other women of it cuz it's a nasty and painful trap to fall into.
Best comment here. Thanks for giving an honest response and thoughtful insight. It can also be uncomfortable for us guys who's just are not interested, and yet she continues to pursue in an effort to "convince." We probably need to be more clear/firm, but we don't want to come across as a jerk.
That isn't a mystery... You are essentially saying that you want this person that isn't thinking about you... Why would a guy not be thinking about you? Because he has other Women to think about - he is a high value guy - and you just can't cope with that. So its not an ego thing - you are literally saying that you want this 1 guy that all the other Women want... Duh... That's why I say to Men - have sex with hookers, and escorts so that you can then be able to get sex out of their minds (since they satisfied that need), and Women will want to get to seduce them, because they will not be thinking about sex anymore when they are talking to them. That's the only way that I know how to help a guy out.
One of the frustrations this video hits on is "why isn't the guy I like, responding?" The fact is, not every woman who flirts has good intentions. If your a guy who gets flirted with often you have to be able to tell the difference between a woman flirting for an ego stroke, or to male her friend jealous, or her friend likes you and she's just feeling you out, because she doesn't know how else to interact with men, so on and so on. Addtionally, there is always the fear that if you give in too early, she will think you just chase anything that comes your way. So part of that is to add a little resistance, not to respond right away just because someone gave you eyes. Also, the way I have seen things is there is the initial "invite" where the girl gives you the signal "come talk to me" then after you approach, good flirting is about testing to see where the boundaries are. Sparing is to boxing what flirting is to sex. Its more about ebb and flow, than anything.
A good follow up for this would be a video of flirty but subtle/modest outfits, perfume recommendations, flirty jewelry recommendations, maybe even hair style recommendations! ?
That's all well and good, but kind of meaningless if a Woman is not willing to give a CONCRETE hint to the guy that she likes. If you are unable to just give a hint thats plainly obvious, then none of the above will help you attract that guy that you like and instead you will attract all the other guys that you don't like. Good luck!
Thank you for making this video! It would be incredibly embarrassing to ask my mom or another woman in my life about this. I am naturally outgoing, especially when I’m around fellow Catholics. So thank you for reminding me about the man wanting to pursue the woman, that’ll remind me to reign in my take charge personality a bit. I also agree about the makeup thing. A lot of woman look beautiful without any eyeliner.
I’m a man, so I’ve watched this video just for fun and for knowing what’s going on the other side, so to say, and am impressed by the way the topic is handled. Great advice on not being obsessed with flirting (the way I‘ve interpreted it) and paying attention to the right fit 👍 Thank you!
As a dude I highly disagree. It's extremely attractive when the girl makes the first move, and I think if he would reject you when you took the initiative, there's no way he'd ask you out on his own accord. At least that's true with 80% or so of males. There's a small minority who would feel emasculated and turned off.
@@Dennis-nc3vw I'm talking about if the woman wants a long term relationship, not a fling. I wouldn't want to try to initiate something with a man who didn't express interest in me first. Because what if he only takes the opportunity because I gave it to him? It would be very rare for a man to fall in love with a woman who flirted with him first. I want the man to show interest so that I feel confident that he's actually attracted to me on his own accord, and not just because I presented him with an opportunity.
@@bebop504 ok so let’s do a little role reversal. if a guy goes up to a girl and she says yes, should that guy now feel like she’s not interested bc he had to make the first move?
Can we also get a male version of this. Women are pretty good at telling us men how to flirt as well or bring Jacob in to talk to us. Then where is an ideal place to meet someone?
Or bring Jakob in to talk to us.... lol that men isn’t a man not evenclose. I always feel sorry for gay man like Jacob stuck in a relationship with a woman because of religeus believes while they are verry verry feminine .
I can see you put in effort to making this video. As a boy, I agree with your tips. One of the big things I want is a person to be themselves. If I was dating a woman, I would want her to be herself. Please do not pretend to be a person you are not, because you will always be you. And yes, tip 5 is 100% agreeable. Everyone looks good naturally, but what matters is your character. Makeup is just a money grab for beauty campaigns. I can guarantee that using Abby’s tips will help. Keep up the good work, Abby :)
Hey there♥️ so thankful for your content! There aren’t many feminine, solid influencers out there and am glad you are sticking to your convictions. Keep doing what you are doing! I recently started watching your videos and love what you put out. You have a beautiful heart and am thankful for you!!
Hi Abby! Not to do with this particular video, but would you do a video where you show pregnancy friendly workouts? Congrats to you, and Jacob, so happy for you both!
I come from an age in England when things were done very differently. I find myself watching Abby's videos and wondering how such a young woman has learned so much wisdom, especially in the current dating climate. The only thing I will add is it is vital not to encourage an involvement with a man who has values diametrically opposed to yours. Shared values are vital to a successful relationship.
@@Aviao100 But simply finding out a girl has an interest in us is a turn on. If a guy would turn you down if you made the first move, there's no way he'd ask you out on his own accord. That's what I believe, anyway.
Agree on the perfume point, certain scents can make or break attraction in my opinion😆 And if you have a signature scent that you wear every day, he'll associate that smell with you from that point on ;)
Envy. Most of the women who criticize her call themselves defenders of women's freedom. They cannot respect the girl. She made a very ironic video that many take seriously, but she is well settled, happily married, and now pregnant. The envy of these women goes far!
One of the best lines a woman has ever used on me. After we had been talking for a few weeks. I was telling her about my day, she gets coy and looks away with a smile as if day dreaming, and when I ask "what?" She donesnt even look at me, just says, almost wondering: "Sometimes you say or do these little random things and I think; if I was a boy, this is how I would be....." then she bounced away to eat nuts or something. I had been trying my hardest to play it cool, but that line, yup. Def melted. It was all I could do not to follow her to go eat nuts, or whatever. I had to take a cold shower and talk with friends to get her out of my head after that. Even knowing, she was completely full of shit it's still one of the best lines I've ever heard. ( she was just being competitive with a friend of hers who liked me)
Today if you are not so hot, but instead you are traditional, not a feminist, not crazy, not woke, etc etc etc... You can get a LOT of Men that can't deal with these crazy Women anymore... If you can be a Man's friend, then he will see you differently one day - and I am a Man and I know.
As a man, I thought I'd sort of review this list so yall can get another perspective on this. 1) In her first point, I don't think Abby says anything completely untrue, but I felt like it was easy to get the wrong impression. If a guy isn't interested in you right now, that doesn't mean you don't have a chance with him. I've known plenty of girls who I didn't pursue, but who could've gotten a date with me if they tried. Most of the time, I don't Make a move because I don't feel like the girl is interested in me, and actually, similar to what Abby was saying, I don't want to waste my time on someone who just isn't interested in me. The message I believe Abby was trying to get across is, show him you want to get to know him better, and if he doesn't reciprocate, then move on. Now, some guys are gonna be unsure about things, even if you think you've made it very clear you're into him. Sometimes you'll literally have to look him in the eye and say "I like you" for him to understand. If after that, he's still not pursuing you, then move on. Either he's lazy, he's still too nervous (which is his problem, not yours), or he's completely uninterested. 2) Eye contact is super important. She's totally correct, it can be extremely sexy without being sexual. Just looking at a guy the right way can spark that interest we talked about in the first section. That said, it doesn't necessarily communicate that you want a conversation. Yes, he may want to be the pursuer, but again, he might need a little more encouragement than a meaningful glance in his direction. I don't like to make a lot of assumptions when it comes to romance. There have been a few girls who I could've sworn were into me, who completely did not think of me that way. Likewise, I'm sure there have been several girls who had fantasies about me, but I never paid much attention to them because their signals were just too ambiguous. And again, don't be too afraid of taking the helm and being the pursuer for a while. I don't ever want to feel like I'm putting no effort into a relationship, but it can be sexy for the woman to show that she's not just along for the ride either. 3) I can't agree more on this point. If you're talking too much, it can be overwhelming or make me feel like I'm not working for this, which detracts somewhat from the fun of having a woman's attention. I personally don't think you should laugh at jokes you don't think are funny, but it does feel good when you acknowledge the effort. Better than that though, is if you can add to it somehow to make it funny. Not everyone is quick enough to pull this off, but the serendipity when it does work will probably get him more interested in you than if you just laughed at his unfunny joke. To learn how to do this effectively, I recommend a RUclips channel called "Charisma on Command". The format of those videos (in my opinion) makes it easy to learn to apply the concepts he explains. Once again, I completely agree that men love it when it seems like women enjoy being around us. 4) This is another point I cannot agree more about. Makeup is wonderful, but really, keep it as minimal as possible. If I don't instantly know you're wearing makeup, then you probably did a great job. Use it to draw attention to the beauty you already have, especially your eyes. For fancier occasions, don't be afraid to crack out the Crimson lipstick (bright red lips are indescribably sexy) and a bit of glitter, but your natural features should be the main focus. That's not to say that there isn't a time to go all out, but for flirting, you should present a mostly natural look. As she was saying with wearing the right clothing, a lot of girls get this wrong. (Not the girls I'd expect to click on this video, but still.) If you're blessed with "a good figure," that's a great tool you have for getting a guy's attention, but you don't want to use it for much more than just getting his attention. In this context, you're trying to get to know if this guy's gonna be a good partner for you. That has everything to do with how your personalities mesh, and nothing to do with how hot he thinks you are. So wear something that compliments your body, not puts it on display. I like seeing a woman's chest just as much through a t shirt as a tight tank top, and honestly, the t shirt does a better job highlighting your waist as well. I like looking at a girl's legs just as much through jeans as when they're bare. (Better yet, a loose skirt. Jeans do a great job highlighting your hips, but something about a skirt is just better.) You can be just as sexy while being modest, and dressing modestly tells me something about your personality that makes me more likely to develop an interest in you. I can't say a lot about how, strategically, to do your perfume, but I agree with Abby here too. When you smell good, that's powerful. 5) Abby put this better than I could've, but again, I'll plug the channel "Charisma on Command". He has one or two videos about romance, and he touches on this even better than I think Abby did.
I always appreciate hearing a guys point of view on these things because it gives me a better look inside their heads. Thanks for sharing your perspective on all of her tips. I'm disappointed this has so few likes.
@@hannahware3751 My pleasure. I believe strongly that people are people; we all want the same things. And sharing knowledge and opinions helps us all realize how similar we are. That said, keep in mind that I'm just one dude. Not all of us are attracted to the same stuff. However, I'm sure this "peek inside my head" will be in some way useful to you, and I hope you'll feel inclined to let others peek inside your head from time to time.
"I like seeing a woman's chest just as much through a t shirt as a tight tank top" I appreciate your honesty here, I always say that men will like seeing women's chest (and legs) regardless of what a woman is wearing, something modest or immodest.
@@jessicarose2286 That's true. Well, some clothes (like hoodies, sweatpants, really any baggy pants) are generally not flattering, so if you're trying to get a guy's attention, not just anything will work. There's also different body types and all that, which lend themselves better to different clothes, so there's not always a clear answer of what will make you look your best. That said, always maintain some standard of modesty and from there you can work out the rest.
Thank you so much for telling the HONEST TRUTH! These days most women don't understand that WE DO NOT CHASE. If you have to chase him, he doesn't really want you. He will entertain you just because you give him access. It's kind of like when someone offers you a free sample in the grocery store. You take it because it's offered freely, not because you genuinely want it.
This is peak double standards. Abby saying “it might be hard for women to understand , women don’t chase” is her justifying her and women insecurities to not being rejected. It’s almost 2022, women can do the chasing too, most don’t because they’re scared. That’s fine, it’s scary getting rejected. But dont pat yourself in the back when you do nothing and expect guys to be chasing you then complain, “men aint shit”. Everyone can see
@@mattslater2603 your anecdotal story does not hold up to what the majority of people find attractive and what studies on dating and attraction have shown. most women will have terrible experiences if they attempt to chase a man.
"It's a hard thing to accept as women that we don't get to choose who we date" This is like some ultra boomer time rant when women were something more of possession, are we monkeys or what? don't listen to this woman. Relationships are formed on mutual companionship, NOT YOU TRYING TO LURE A MAN lol
Curious what you think is an appropriate age to begin dating or having serious conversations with special guy friends about the future. If you are 12 it’s obviously a bit early to even know what you think about the world but when do you cross that line where you can seriously consider a man for your future? Thanks!
I knew people in high school who were dating for marriage and knew their values. If you are dating for the right reasons and know what you are looking for, I think you can date at a younger age! It's all about dating with purpose, so if you can do that from a younger age (and not act on those high school hormones!), go for it!
2:05 Men don’t really choose either. It means nothing if the other person isn’t interested, and gaining women’s interest is a lot harder than gaining men’s interest imo
It's pretty easy to get a womans interest, you just have to show them your value and they will chase you. That's why women randomly find interest in married men because they wonder about what it is about you that made you marriage material
@@conservativetruck8428 Everyone’s standards are different. Women, especially today, set a much higher bar than men do. For men, just being single is enough half the time.
I have to disagree with the first point. There are a lot of great guys who are more shy and they need you to make a move first so they know they wont get rejected by you
"You're not going to be the pursuer, he is. It's hard things to accept as women, that we don't get to chose who we date." You've got them completely backwards. Nothing is stopping women from being the pursuer. She can chose to be that whenever she wants. But I can't force women to pursue me. Also 80% of guys find it extremely attractive when you make the first move. The other 20% don't like it because they feel emasculated. Make of that what you will.
actually women ALWAYS choose who we mate with. In the animal kingdom, it's men who have to impress us. WE have to choose. There is nothing more backwards than being the one that has to impress the man now. He needs to be the one able to provide me with all of my needs.
Lol ALL of your needs? No bro, youre delusional. Technically we are animals but that comparison just doesn’t apply for how much have deviated from whats nature, so the benefits of saying “but nature!” doesn’t apply. Let me guess, it would it offend you that i think women can only be housewives/ give birth? Women shouldn’t have ambitions, goals, or hobbies? But it’s what animals do though? Get your head out of the sand and see theres much more than what’s financial beneficial for you. Dont hide it under the guise of nature.
@@Goat.Cheese But because you don't have to make the first move, you don't have to worry about being "creep-shamed" or getting charged with sexual harassment or getting fired for flirting with someone whom you "have power" over.
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@UCv4xCVc9tYmw6tVbctIdn3A I think according to you, "strong" men will be those causing a fit when they don't get dinner made for them or see something they don't agree with. Doesn't sound strong to me at all...
Not every conservative is a 'bigot' lol. Edit: Come to think of it, by definition, it's kind of bigoted for you to jump to that conclusion and be so intolerant. 🤔
Flirting isn't modest and it's not appropriate to do it with a man who's not your husband, it can lead to other things. Don't lead men on, control yourself, pride comes before the fall. Have normal conversations with men and see how you get along. Charm is deceitful and beauty is passing.
You can also flirt and have self control. I became friends with my husband first and that did not omit flirting. If you have good chemistry it will come naturally.
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Think that’s a bad thing, you’re a horrible human. Might not be your fault , it must be hard being raised by people lying to you every day. Then you grow up meet a closeted homosexual whit whom you now are gonna let the nanny raise the child (while Jakob and ben look at each other longingly every family get together) to be horrible person ass well. Vicious cycle.
@@esch4920 lol my friend literally wrote this comment on a whim, I am sorry for offending you, and any trouble i may have caused. :)
@@zlve in don’t believe God excist either, and as when he does exist i’m puzzled that the ones that believe in him are horrible and immoral people.
"It's a hard thing to accept as women that we don't get to choose who we date"... girl what?!
But I mean, this applies to guys too. If she doesn’t like you, you’ve got not chance lol
Lmao
@@sadienailedit7467 not really. She said it in context of that women don’t peruse and men do/don’t flirt with people who don’t seem interested already.
It can kinda be extrapolated to be about not being able to control who likes you, but she said it in an ambiguous way.
Women have more options than ever especially on online dating when it's more about looks.
1 woman gets dozens of messages in her inbox but 1 man gets a few messages a day.
Were both humans it shouldn't matter which gender does what 1st.
If a woman is interested in the man 1st she can ask him on a date, she can initiate kissing, touching, sex or proposing.
All those things shouldn't be on 1 gender to do each gender can decide or take turns on who goes 1st.
@@Comeback180 Where this happens? I'm a girl and the only people who likes my selfies are girls.
I do agree that being forward is not often what is desirable by most, but if that is truly your personality don't reign it in! I'm kind of a pushy person... and that's how I started talking to my husband!
I will concede once we started talking I tried to give him more opportunities to let him chase me but I am happy I didn't wait for him because he's the most important person in my life!
Anyway, good luck! I hope everyone finds love!! 😍 💕💕
I came to a revelation! I never realized I was chasing after the guy since I was in school, it was cute once in 8th grade but as I got a bit older I noticed guys didn’t seem to respond to my quest or would let me down gently, I was always chasing guys that were not interested (probably because I wasn’t cute 😂) anyways my mom was quite the 2nd wave feminist but she would always tell me to let men approach me, it looks desperate and needy the other way around. I would get “angsty” and say girls can choose now mom! Grrr you’re so old fashioned! I ignored a lot of her good advice and behold I was heartbroken a lot! 🥴 I was in a rush to have romantic experiences because I wanted to know what it was like to have a guy love me and to love back. It was always portrayed as perfect on tv but that’s whole different dilemma. Anyways I was always going after the man up into my 20th year. When I met my husband he was always coming to me I don’t recall ever going to him…I was still very immature but I was starting to grasp on some things. I’m 27 now been married over 5 years and Abby is right. Sometimes it’s the old fashioned way of approaching things that work most often. Girls don’t chase him if you’re not getting him to at least come up and say hi after you initiated interest then move on…trust me you aren’t losing anything.
This video and your comment were just what I needed to hear! Thank you!
The part about realizing when a guy is just not interested and moving on is SO important! I think a lot of us women have a tendency to try to "turn" a man, and we often have this annoying tendency to be attracted to the emotionally distant guys and the guys that aren't interested over the guys that ARE interested. I think based on my own experiences, it's an ego problem- like it's flattering when all the other guys seem to like you but you get obsessed with the one guy who doesn't seem interested. He's more mysterious. And it's like some kind of subconscious urge to need to get his attention and interest in order to still feel desirable. I have been so guilty of this, and I'm glad you're warning other women of it cuz it's a nasty and painful trap to fall into.
Best comment here. Thanks for giving an honest response and thoughtful insight. It can also be uncomfortable for us guys who's just are not interested, and yet she continues to pursue in an effort to "convince." We probably need to be more clear/firm, but we don't want to come across as a jerk.
That isn't a mystery... You are essentially saying that you want this person that isn't thinking about you... Why would a guy not be thinking about you? Because he has other Women to think about - he is a high value guy - and you just can't cope with that. So its not an ego thing - you are literally saying that you want this 1 guy that all the other Women want... Duh...
That's why I say to Men - have sex with hookers, and escorts so that you can then be able to get sex out of their minds (since they satisfied that need), and Women will want to get to seduce them, because they will not be thinking about sex anymore when they are talking to them. That's the only way that I know how to help a guy out.
One of the frustrations this video hits on is "why isn't the guy I like, responding?"
The fact is, not every woman who flirts has good intentions. If your a guy who gets flirted with often you have to be able to tell the difference between a woman flirting for an ego stroke, or to male her friend jealous, or her friend likes you and she's just feeling you out, because she doesn't know how else to interact with men, so on and so on. Addtionally, there is always the fear that if you give in too early, she will think you just chase anything that comes your way.
So part of that is to add a little resistance, not to respond right away just because someone gave you eyes.
Also, the way I have seen things is there is the initial "invite" where the girl gives you the signal "come talk to me" then after you approach, good flirting is about testing to see where the boundaries are. Sparing is to boxing what flirting is to sex. Its more about ebb and flow, than anything.
I’m with you on the making eye contact and smiling.
A good follow up for this would be a video of flirty but subtle/modest outfits, perfume recommendations, flirty jewelry recommendations, maybe even hair style recommendations! ?
That's all well and good, but kind of meaningless if a Woman is not willing to give a CONCRETE hint to the guy that she likes. If you are unable to just give a hint thats plainly obvious, then none of the above will help you attract that guy that you like and instead you will attract all the other guys that you don't like.
Good luck!
Thank you for making this video! It would be incredibly embarrassing to ask my mom or another woman in my life about this.
I am naturally outgoing, especially when I’m around fellow Catholics. So thank you for reminding me about the man wanting to pursue the woman, that’ll remind me to reign in my take charge personality a bit.
I also agree about the makeup thing. A lot of woman look beautiful without any eyeliner.
I’m a man, so I’ve watched this video just for fun and for knowing what’s going on the other side, so to say, and am impressed by the way the topic is handled. Great advice on not being obsessed with flirting (the way I‘ve interpreted it) and paying attention to the right fit 👍 Thank you!
Thank you so much! I kinda struggle with the letting the guy pursue part. This was very helpful thanks!
I totally agree, it's never a good idea to pursue a man! You want him to at least show interest in you first.
Why? What difference does it make?
@@AngelineProductions thank u
As a dude I highly disagree. It's extremely attractive when the girl makes the first move, and I think if he would reject you when you took the initiative, there's no way he'd ask you out on his own accord. At least that's true with 80% or so of males. There's a small minority who would feel emasculated and turned off.
@@Dennis-nc3vw I'm talking about if the woman wants a long term relationship, not a fling. I wouldn't want to try to initiate something with a man who didn't express interest in me first. Because what if he only takes the opportunity because I gave it to him? It would be very rare for a man to fall in love with a woman who flirted with him first. I want the man to show interest so that I feel confident that he's actually attracted to me on his own accord, and not just because I presented him with an opportunity.
@@bebop504 ok so let’s do a little role reversal. if a guy goes up to a girl and she says yes, should that guy now feel like she’s not interested bc he had to make the first move?
Can we also get a male version of this. Women are pretty good at telling us men how to flirt as well or bring Jacob in to talk to us. Then where is an ideal place to meet someone?
roommates is a p good ch 4 dat kinda content
Get Ben Shapiro to do the male version.
@@weirdkid9202 YES-
Or bring Jakob in to talk to us.... lol that men isn’t a man not evenclose. I always feel sorry for gay man like Jacob stuck in a relationship with a woman because of religeus believes while they are verry verry feminine .
@@weirdkid9202 Wouldn't a woman be better equipped to tell us what women want than a dude?
I can see you put in effort to making this video. As a boy, I agree with your tips. One of the big things I want is a person to be themselves. If I was dating a woman, I would want her to be herself. Please do not pretend to be a person you are not, because you will always be you. And yes, tip 5 is 100% agreeable. Everyone looks good naturally, but what matters is your character. Makeup is just a money grab for beauty campaigns. I can guarantee that using Abby’s tips will help. Keep up the good work, Abby :)
Hey there♥️ so thankful for your content! There aren’t many feminine, solid influencers out there and am glad you are sticking to your convictions. Keep doing what you are doing! I recently started watching your videos and love what you put out. You have a beautiful heart and am thankful for you!!
I'm 18 and my generation is very inappropriate in terms of flirting. Thank for these tips from an aspirant classic teen!!
"don't dress for men" but then "how to get a mans validation"
"dress for men"
There - simple.
Yes l love these! I love how even though you’re married and pregnant you haven’t forgotten about your single followers! 😂
Of course! My channel is for women in all stages of life! :)
Hi Abby! Not to do with this particular video, but would you do a video where you show pregnancy friendly workouts? Congrats to you, and Jacob, so happy for you both!
Go check out Jessica Valant's pilates channel, she does a ton of prenatal stuff
I come from an age in England when things were done very differently. I find myself watching Abby's videos and wondering how such a young woman has learned so much wisdom, especially in the current dating climate. The only thing I will add is it is vital not to encourage an involvement with a man who has values diametrically opposed to yours. Shared values are vital to a successful relationship.
Torah.
R u a nun?
Not all men like to pursue tho 🤷♂️
Exactlyyy
Is this your justification of wanting to pursue them instead? If they don’t Pursue it’s because they are not interested in you
@@Aviao100 engrish?
@@kilian7332 Maybe it’s because they’re already married
@@Aviao100 But simply finding out a girl has an interest in us is a turn on. If a guy would turn you down if you made the first move, there's no way he'd ask you out on his own accord. That's what I believe, anyway.
Definitely true, men do like to be in control/pursue
Your style lately has been such a pretty, classic mom look.
Classy Abby, you nailed it!
Absolutely love this. Thank you for sharing ❤️
lady, I'm a man, and I don't want to be the pursuer, I don't know where you got this idea
Agree on the perfume point, certain scents can make or break attraction in my opinion😆 And if you have a signature scent that you wear every day, he'll associate that smell with you from that point on ;)
Why do people not like you? I always see a disproportionate amount of dislikes to likes for what would otherwise normally be a better ratio.
She’s conservative and takes Judaism more seriously, which goes back to how conservative the Jewish religion is!
It's definitely because she's traditional, religious and conservative, but I think some of it is thay she's Ben Shapiros sibling 🥴
@@wildflower6949 is she really? I don’t think so
@@James.1_2-3 she is I mean her maiden name is Shapiro…
Envy. Most of the women who criticize her call themselves defenders of women's freedom. They cannot respect the girl. She made a very ironic video that many take seriously, but she is well settled, happily married, and now pregnant. The envy of these women goes far!
My husband likes both natural looking make-up and heavy makeup too.
Great ideas keep coming!! Love your channel.
What if I drop something under the toilet stall and slowwlyyyy pick it up?
One of the best lines a woman has ever used on me. After we had been talking for a few weeks.
I was telling her about my day, she gets coy and looks away with a smile as if day dreaming, and when I ask "what?" She donesnt even look at me, just says, almost wondering:
"Sometimes you say or do these little random things and I think; if I was a boy, this is how I would be....."
then she bounced away to eat nuts or something.
I had been trying my hardest to play it cool, but that line, yup. Def melted. It was all I could do not to follow her to go eat nuts, or whatever. I had to take a cold shower and talk with friends to get her out of my head after that. Even knowing, she was completely full of shit it's still one of the best lines I've ever heard. ( she was just being competitive with a friend of hers who liked me)
Whay is your question?
i had to learn this the hard way at 16. great tips! love to see that you’re glowing in your pregnancy, abby!💖
why where you even looking at a man at 16 jesus would be decarded
@@Iamnotjakc In Jesus' time you were considered a woman at 12 and a man at 13.
Please watch ANY Season of Beauty and The Geek USA / Australia and let us know your thoughts on that whole matchup!? =]
Ben Shapiro is so cute with long hair. 🥰
Dang. I wish this video existed 20 years ago.
I’m a lesbian why am I watching this?
You want you some hott church girl action.
Just point them in the direction of Nancy Reagan’s biography. She knew how to “flirt” with men on the MGM lot.
Thanks for the tips Abby!
Could you do a similar video with tips for when you are set up and don't know the person yet?
omg, you look gourgeous!!!!!!!!!
Hi Abby! ❤️
Tip #1: Be pretty.
But be yourself.
Just a man passing by wondering if these would work.
Maybe the woman can just ask out the man
step 1: be hot.
that's it.
Pretty much LMAO
these pick up artists man
Dating a man whose entire criteria is "you're hot" lasts exactly as long as until he sees someone hotter. Run.
Today if you are not so hot, but instead you are traditional, not a feminist, not crazy, not woke, etc etc etc... You can get a LOT of Men that can't deal with these crazy Women anymore...
If you can be a Man's friend, then he will see you differently one day - and I am a Man and I know.
Pregnancy glow ! Yay ! Mazal Tov ❤️
HAHAHAHKWLADBGAVAGAAVHA DID U JUST SEAY SSXY OH MY HOD YAHT CHILF ABISE IR GKNNA AA HELL OH MY GOD ABBU PLS DONF SIE
As a man, I thought I'd sort of review this list so yall can get another perspective on this.
1) In her first point, I don't think Abby says anything completely untrue, but I felt like it was easy to get the wrong impression. If a guy isn't interested in you right now, that doesn't mean you don't have a chance with him. I've known plenty of girls who I didn't pursue, but who could've gotten a date with me if they tried. Most of the time, I don't Make a move because I don't feel like the girl is interested in me, and actually, similar to what Abby was saying, I don't want to waste my time on someone who just isn't interested in me.
The message I believe Abby was trying to get across is, show him you want to get to know him better, and if he doesn't reciprocate, then move on. Now, some guys are gonna be unsure about things, even if you think you've made it very clear you're into him. Sometimes you'll literally have to look him in the eye and say "I like you" for him to understand. If after that, he's still not pursuing you, then move on. Either he's lazy, he's still too nervous (which is his problem, not yours), or he's completely uninterested.
2) Eye contact is super important. She's totally correct, it can be extremely sexy without being sexual. Just looking at a guy the right way can spark that interest we talked about in the first section. That said, it doesn't necessarily communicate that you want a conversation. Yes, he may want to be the pursuer, but again, he might need a little more encouragement than a meaningful glance in his direction. I don't like to make a lot of assumptions when it comes to romance. There have been a few girls who I could've sworn were into me, who completely did not think of me that way. Likewise, I'm sure there have been several girls who had fantasies about me, but I never paid much attention to them because their signals were just too ambiguous.
And again, don't be too afraid of taking the helm and being the pursuer for a while. I don't ever want to feel like I'm putting no effort into a relationship, but it can be sexy for the woman to show that she's not just along for the ride either.
3) I can't agree more on this point. If you're talking too much, it can be overwhelming or make me feel like I'm not working for this, which detracts somewhat from the fun of having a woman's attention.
I personally don't think you should laugh at jokes you don't think are funny, but it does feel good when you acknowledge the effort. Better than that though, is if you can add to it somehow to make it funny. Not everyone is quick enough to pull this off, but the serendipity when it does work will probably get him more interested in you than if you just laughed at his unfunny joke. To learn how to do this effectively, I recommend a RUclips channel called "Charisma on Command". The format of those videos (in my opinion) makes it easy to learn to apply the concepts he explains.
Once again, I completely agree that men love it when it seems like women enjoy being around us.
4) This is another point I cannot agree more about. Makeup is wonderful, but really, keep it as minimal as possible. If I don't instantly know you're wearing makeup, then you probably did a great job. Use it to draw attention to the beauty you already have, especially your eyes. For fancier occasions, don't be afraid to crack out the Crimson lipstick (bright red lips are indescribably sexy) and a bit of glitter, but your natural features should be the main focus.
That's not to say that there isn't a time to go all out, but for flirting, you should present a mostly natural look.
As she was saying with wearing the right clothing, a lot of girls get this wrong. (Not the girls I'd expect to click on this video, but still.) If you're blessed with "a good figure," that's a great tool you have for getting a guy's attention, but you don't want to use it for much more than just getting his attention. In this context, you're trying to get to know if this guy's gonna be a good partner for you. That has everything to do with how your personalities mesh, and nothing to do with how hot he thinks you are. So wear something that compliments your body, not puts it on display. I like seeing a woman's chest just as much through a t shirt as a tight tank top, and honestly, the t shirt does a better job highlighting your waist as well. I like looking at a girl's legs just as much through jeans as when they're bare. (Better yet, a loose skirt. Jeans do a great job highlighting your hips, but something about a skirt is just better.) You can be just as sexy while being modest, and dressing modestly tells me something about your personality that makes me more likely to develop an interest in you.
I can't say a lot about how, strategically, to do your perfume, but I agree with Abby here too. When you smell good, that's powerful.
5) Abby put this better than I could've, but again, I'll plug the channel "Charisma on Command". He has one or two videos about romance, and he touches on this even better than I think Abby did.
I always appreciate hearing a guys point of view on these things because it gives me a better look inside their heads. Thanks for sharing your perspective on all of her tips. I'm disappointed this has so few likes.
@@hannahware3751 My pleasure. I believe strongly that people are people; we all want the same things. And sharing knowledge and opinions helps us all realize how similar we are. That said, keep in mind that I'm just one dude. Not all of us are attracted to the same stuff. However, I'm sure this "peek inside my head" will be in some way useful to you, and I hope you'll feel inclined to let others peek inside your head from time to time.
"I like seeing a woman's chest just as much through a t shirt as a tight tank top"
I appreciate your honesty here, I always say that men will like seeing women's chest (and legs) regardless of what a woman is wearing, something modest or immodest.
@@jessicarose2286 That's true. Well, some clothes (like hoodies, sweatpants, really any baggy pants) are generally not flattering, so if you're trying to get a guy's attention, not just anything will work. There's also different body types and all that, which lend themselves better to different clothes, so there's not always a clear answer of what will make you look your best. That said, always maintain some standard of modesty and from there you can work out the rest.
Oh boy the feminists aren’t gonna like this one 😅
Those comments are going to be funny.
🤣🤣
Well, no one forced them to watch this video.
@@madamemystery4256 You are a true feminist, not the libtard trolls you see now-a-days.
i'm not bothered....
Good advice
Thank you so much for telling the HONEST TRUTH! These days most women don't understand that WE DO NOT CHASE. If you have to chase him, he doesn't really want you. He will entertain you just because you give him access. It's kind of like when someone offers you a free sample in the grocery store. You take it because it's offered freely, not because you genuinely want it.
Lot of excuses to not be the one taking a risk, eh?
This is peak double standards. Abby saying “it might be hard for women to understand , women don’t chase” is her justifying her and women insecurities to not being rejected. It’s almost 2022, women can do the chasing too, most don’t because they’re scared. That’s fine, it’s scary getting rejected. But dont pat yourself in the back when you do nothing and expect guys to be chasing you then complain, “men aint shit”. Everyone can see
@@mattslater2603 your anecdotal story does not hold up to what the majority of people find attractive and what studies on dating and attraction have shown. most women will have terrible experiences if they attempt to chase a man.
what if the free sample is pussy
@@evan5854 Yet women claim to be equal to men
How should a girl flirt with and get the attention of another girl? Do you have tips for that?
"It's a hard thing to accept as women that we don't get to choose who we date"
This is like some ultra boomer time rant when women were something more of possession, are we monkeys or what? don't listen to this woman. Relationships are formed on mutual companionship, NOT YOU TRYING TO LURE A MAN lol
Curious what you think is an appropriate age to begin dating or having serious conversations with special guy friends about the future. If you are 12 it’s obviously a bit early to even know what you think about the world but when do you cross that line where you can seriously consider a man for your future? Thanks!
I knew people in high school who were dating for marriage and knew their values. If you are dating for the right reasons and know what you are looking for, I think you can date at a younger age! It's all about dating with purpose, so if you can do that from a younger age (and not act on those high school hormones!), go for it!
2:05 Men don’t really choose either. It means nothing if the other person isn’t interested, and gaining women’s interest is a lot harder than gaining men’s interest imo
It's pretty easy to get a womans interest, you just have to show them your value and they will chase you. That's why women randomly find interest in married men because they wonder about what it is about you that made you marriage material
@@conservativetruck8428 Everyone’s standards are different. Women, especially today, set a much higher bar than men do. For men, just being single is enough half the time.
❝wOmEn CaNt ChOoSe WhO tHeY dAtE❞
what? no… ಠ_ಠ
I have to disagree with the first point. There are a lot of great guys who are more shy and they need you to make a move first so they know they wont get rejected by you
does this also work if i am gay and want girls to notice me 🥺💞
"You're not going to be the pursuer, he is. It's hard things to accept as women, that we don't get to chose who we date."
You've got them completely backwards. Nothing is stopping women from being the pursuer. She can chose to be that whenever she wants. But I can't force women to pursue me.
Also 80% of guys find it extremely attractive when you make the first move. The other 20% don't like it because they feel emasculated. Make of that what you will.
Don't get to choose what? Are we living in the stone age women have choices too
Good tips 👍
you guys just genuinely can click off of these videos if they're bothering you. no one asked for your opinion
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nice
You are standing this whole video just like mrs mid west 🤦♀️
I never clicked on a video so fast
i’m gay soo👩❤️💋👩👩❤️💋👩
puke
actually women ALWAYS choose who we mate with. In the animal kingdom, it's men who have to impress us. WE have to choose. There is nothing more backwards than being the one that has to impress the man now. He needs to be the one able to provide me with all of my needs.
“he needs to ve the one able to provide me with all of my needs” what tf😃
Lol ALL of your needs? No bro, youre delusional. Technically we are animals but that comparison just doesn’t apply for how much have deviated from whats nature, so the benefits of saying “but nature!” doesn’t apply. Let me guess, it would it offend you that i think women can only be housewives/ give birth? Women shouldn’t have ambitions, goals, or hobbies? But it’s what animals do though? Get your head out of the sand and see theres much more than what’s financial beneficial for you. Dont hide it under the guise of nature.
this video is so repetitive lol. what a waste of my time.
The dating game for women is life on easy mode.
Yup, and men live on veteran
I mean not really. I've been rejected plenty of times. I just don't let it bother me.
Lol only if you're a woman who meets a very specific beauty standard. Women are rejected all the time, we just done whine about it
@@Goat.Cheese But because you don't have to make the first move, you don't have to worry about being "creep-shamed" or getting charged with sexual harassment or getting fired for flirting with someone whom you "have power" over.
oh my god abby i love you so much my lesbian icon oh my jesus christ pop off queen slay uwu nya, i love you u r my fav conservative jk just kidding i will never leave my wittle ben shapiro uwu my sweet sweet kitten aaaaaa my transgender icon libshart uwu piss
lmao, this is the kind of advice unattractive women give
😂😂😂😂😂😂
I wouldn’t say “unattractive” but it sounds like the kind of stuff you’d find on the average RUclipsr channel that has a religious slant
Not being a massive conservative bigot usually gets my attention and interest.
@UCv4xCVc9tYmw6tVbctIdn3A I think according to you, "strong" men will be those causing a fit when they don't get dinner made for them or see something they don't agree with. Doesn't sound strong to me at all...
@@piperwright7358 ??? bro what are you on? i don’t know why everyone seeks to tear down other people because they don’t agree with them.
I’m a woman but I can’t even imagine being a guy dating or being married to a feminist in 2021…couldn’t be me. Thank you God for making me a woman.
@@גקדןרק you’re so sweet! Thank you! You are too! I can already tell!☺️
Not every conservative is a 'bigot' lol.
Edit: Come to think of it, by definition, it's kind of bigoted for you to jump to that conclusion and be so intolerant.
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Flirting isn't modest and it's not appropriate to do it with a man who's not your husband, it can lead to other things. Don't lead men on, control yourself, pride comes before the fall. Have normal conversations with men and see how you get along. Charm is deceitful and beauty is passing.
You can also flirt and have self control. I became friends with my husband first and that did not omit flirting. If you have good chemistry it will come naturally.
@@birdinacan Charm is deceitful.
You should be pleasant and feminine
@@sofiabravo1994 Not flirtatious. I'm a guy by the way.
@@nordscan9043 Um ok
Pro life?! No thank you
why were you flirting to men jesus said thats bad